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We are one ummah. A Muslim is next of kin to another Muslim. Al-Nu’man ibn Bashir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The parable of the believers in their affection, mercy, and compassion for each other is that of a body. When any limb aches, the whole body reacts with sleeplessness and fever.” We have each others' back, no matter what.
very true. I know a brother who used to attend jumuah and then one day I found out his Christian with a Christian name and I thought he bacame murtad but when I asked him about it he said his mom is Christian and his father is Muslim but that he was always Christian and attended church on sundays. our young brothers don't think long term consequences unfortunately.
Why do people forget the same is true about Muslim women? It's literally in the same verse. "And permissible for you in marriage are chaste believing women as well as chaste women of those given the Scripture before you" [5:5]
@@uz327 because Muslim women are chaste by default and marriage to them is permissible by default, non Muslim women are an exception and chastity is a condition to marry them, while in the Muslim women case it is not a condition in the sense than the man does not ask about it , because chastity is presupposed . If he found out that she was not chaste then there would be different courses to choose from according to the case.
I think you might be misunderstanding what she meant. I think she was saying, if a woman cheated on her husband, she will be blamed and written off (which is to be expected), but on the other hand, if a man cheated, he can just cover it up by marrying the woman she cheated with on the wife, and nobody will say a word (which is hypocritical). I might be completely wrong, but this is what I understood from the short clip you posted of her.
No, she clearly is equating halal marriage to a second wife to a woman actually cheating. She said nothing about a married man having relations with a woman without marriage. Let’s stop making excuses for this sister. She was obviously hurt and was probably involved in a polygynous marriage.
A man cheats he cannot cover it up by marrying he's adultery woman that doesn't make sense at all he is cheating on his wife if she doesn't forgive him he is getting sentence on earth and the afterlife
Wouldn’t the children from both marriages have to know of each other? Otherwise, keeping a second marriage a secret obviously causes the risk of incest. The argument for the permissibility's of a secret marriage makes no sense.
With respect, the sisters were talking about ‘secret second wives’ and no, the Prophet (sas), nor the Sahabah did that…. I think you’re losing the plot on this one Bro Hijab and you’re failing to acknowledging the great problem and devastation caused by secret second wives ….. polygyny is not the problem…..”secret/hidden marriages” involving deceit, lies and betrayal is the problem …. Come on Muhammad Hijab , be fair 😞
No marriage can be hidden while all polygamous marriages must be fair. If this cannot be maintained or you're not sincere you are taking a risk with your deen. Allah knows best. In my experience too many bros haven't even paid off their haram mortgage and they're lining up a secret second wife in some impoverished village in their immigrant homeland whom they cannot declare or grant the same lifestyle in their new adopted Western home or chosen legal jurisdiction. Can't cherry pick your laws and claim the moral high ground and this goes for bros and sisters
Just because something is halal, doesn't mean that it's the right thing to do. Money alone is not a good enough reason to do whatever you want. FOR EXAMPLE, just because you are a millionaire, doesn't mean that it's morally OK to have 20+ children that you won't even have the time to raise and take care of. THATS why Allah created a conscious, empathy, and our use of discretion in these situations. WHICH is why we are the smartest beings on earth. Islam is not a one size fits all. OTHERWISE, there would be no Dunia and everything would be perfect. There's a Grey area in some cases. For example, if a husband have 4 wives, but all of them have very high sex drive. How can he possibly fulfill that? What part of equate does these men don't understand?? Marriage initself is a huge responsibility. Let alone trying to equate financially, emotionally, and sexually between the 4 wives. Some women have PCOS or a hormonal imbalance which triggers that high sex drive. RISKS of STDs and STIs and how it affects fertility for men and women. Is no one gonna talk about that? Some risks like HIV, HPV, Hepatitis B, herpes are permanent and you'll need medications for life. Let alone you can transmit the disease sexually to you wives and affect their fertility/reproductive health because of having more than one sexual partner. If a wife is going through a postpartum depression and can't have sex with her husband because it's painful. HOW is it morally right to marry someone else at that time ?? Postpartum depression is a real mental illness that have a VERY high rates of suicide. I'm not against Allah's words. But it should not be a common practice if the husband is fulfilled and happy with his wife. I'm a psychology student and can assure you that polygamous relationships doesn't last one bit. And the most successful long lasting marriages are monogamous. PLEASE EDUCATE yourself about basic biology and human anatomy, and psychology before claiming that it's OK for everyone without ADDRESSING all the risks and then make a conscious decision that you can face Allah with. Thank you for listening to my Ted talk :). I hope you all stay healthy and safe.
Exceptions make the rule, not disprove it. If 99.999% is one way-you don’t point to the remaining 0.001% to say that they both have equal weight/impact, do ya?? I agree, kids shouldn’t be used like that period, but let’s not be disingenuous. If men even *could* do that, fem*inists would immediately lobby to put a federal law in place to make it illegal for men to do so. Besides how could men “use” something they don’t have ANY access to and can only see once for 2 every two weeks for 2 hours while “under officer supervision” 🤦♂
@@moe3235 I never said exceptions disprove the rule but exceptions matter when you have personal experience with the exception like I have. I don't think the exception on this is only 1% of the time either.
@@moe3235 btw...the case I am thinking of the mother is a Muslim (convert) and the father isn't. There could be some Islamophobia involved with the court favoring the father and him alienating the children.
SCENARIO: you hide your second wife from your first wife. Then you have children from both. Is there not a danger in these children growing up, not knowing about each and possibly becoming attracted to one another. How is it possible to hide the second wife in this scenario? It is important the children grow up together as to not create this risk, no? In that case if the children know about each other the first wife is bound to know about the second. This whole argument makes no sense. Sorry.
@@Ahmed-DB it’s not grasping at straws, it’s more common than you think! And it’s a risk nonetheless. Siblings have to know one another, the argument that you don’t have to tell your wife is a silly and desperate attempt to justify cheating/deception
@@spff-gg7tq its not. You do know that no man makes both thsoe wives live near each other. Usually even in a different country. So no. The children dont know eachother and wont be attracted to each other since they wont meet. So no. Ur argument fails
@@Badui-wg6ms you do know it’s compulsory upon every Muslim to keep ties with family, and know one another. So yes my argument still remains. And it’s not sustainable long term for a man to live in between two countries.
man can take a second wife if he is providing for his first wife and is man enough to provide for his second wife like he is providing for his first wife not his wife has to provide for him and his second wife That is the consent of the first wife and she can divorce her husband even though he is providing for both of them she may not get along with the second wife and doesn't want to be a part of her husband and his second wife
Bro please read what you wrote and make it more simples jazak Allah Basically Muslim man can have up to 4 wives if he can be just. He doesn't need first wife permission it would be kind to inform her I'm marrying 2nd wife but thats up to him and Allah knows best If Muslim women wants to divorce because she doesn't want her husband to do polygamy then you have to encourage her to be patient as Qur'an encourages Muslims to be patient You need to watch first part of this reaction video called reaction to honest tea talks about polygamy. Divorce is most hated thing to Allah in permissible things Do you most single women families are broken most kids from single mother families are criminals etc. And Allah knows best
@@nobodyisborngayislam polygamy creates partially single-mother since the husband goes from a full-time husband and father to a part-time husband and father assuming he's following polygamy the right way and equally dividing time between all families. some women are okay with this set up but it's just not the same dynamics as a two-parent monogamist household
@@mohamedmo8128 if she has full resposibility of the children while he's abroad then she is completely different to the woman who has her husband living with her 24/7. so while she's not completely a single mother since she may be recieving support that single mothers may not have access to, which is why i said they are "PARTIAL" single mothers
@@blumachine in Islam we don't follow people's opinions like yours we follow the quran and sunna. What you are suggesting is a perfect world which doesn't exist. Islam is all about balance and polygamy is part of that
Speak for yourself bro. My wife could have used her God given right to demand an impossible Mahr from me which would have caused me a lot of difficulty, but she understood my situation, and without me coercing her in any way, she decided to make it easy on me and make our marriage easy all by herself. Now everyday I try to be the best man to her. It's not about reason versus emotion and one being better than the other, but how much you care about your spouse at the end of the day and how easy you want to make their life. My brothers always refer to the Sunnah of our Prophet (PBUH) marrying multiple wives, I look at his Sunnah of the first woman he married, stayed loyal to her for 25 years and she was the love of his life and he stayed monogamous with her till she passed away and even then he was stricken with grief. That's the kind of marriage I desire and I want. Both are sunnahs, so don't tell me that one is more sunnah than the other. It's all about your perspective and the kind of relationship you want with your wife. You gotta decide if it's worth it to you making your wife non-exclusive, and using shariah to defend her being in that position.
I would really love to know what man is capable of more than one wife. Treating all equally and taking financial care of them. It causes so much pain to the woman.
@L C helper* may I remind you that The permission of a man taking 4 wives was set to (protect women), not for them to become your helper, nor for them to satisfy your wild fantasy
Seeing it from a Males perspective not a Females perspective. Regardless whether it is permissible in the religion it shouldnt be encouraged in this day or age . For once completely disagree with your opinion , disappointing.
You mean what Allah permits should be discouraged because you and some people don't feel good about it? What is the worth of your disappointment? You are either a Muslim or not. You can feel bad about halal, but you will be commiting a sin by calling against it. Check your Iman.
It seriously scares me how many thinks keeping your second wife a secret from your first wife is okay, and then continuing to live a double life🥴, this is the practice of the devil
It's not the practice of the devil. Please don't post ignorant statements. It's not a 'double life' because the man is just acting upon his rights in Islam. The man does not have to tell the first wife about the second wife anyway, so it doesn't have to be called a secret. The man is not sinful in this circumstance.
@@999legend8 the wife needs to know stop saying fake stuff, you don’t need her approval but she needs to know and yes this is the practice of the devil, may Allah put men who thinks like this far away from innocent women Ameen, La hawla wa la quwwata illa Billah 😦🫢💀
Asc brother, you may misunderstood what she was talking about it. Please seek clarification with her or them before you make a video about it this subject. Women should not be open to everything to men they married!
The wording is what raised the issue as he did not address this in his first reaction. There must have been alot of commentary with confusion regarding which is why he is addressing it publicly to quell the confusion. Stepping out on your marriage as far as I am aware has always been used in regards to cheating/adultery. And he did preface by giving her the benefit of the doubt.
@@PluPerfective you may need to watch a video yourself again, and pay attention to what I said! A believer should always ask for clarification of any concerns that he or she wants to address, with original sources. Also, a lot of Muslim men need to learn how to regulate their emotions regarding Muslim women who are not speaking in their favour concerning domestic issues between many Muslim families are encountering it.
@@munaduale4763 let’s be honest the ones being emotional by far are the women regarding this matter. The issue with us men is clear, stop treating polygyny like an extramarital affair. If you don’t want it, don’t do it, majority of muslimahs are in monogamous marriages so clearly it’s not that prevalent of an issue.
@@PluPerfective Not gonna lie, when it comes to polygamy talk, it's mainly the women who become emotional and let it override their way of accepting the truth they don't like. It's like some women want their Islamic rights, but have a problem when they hear men having theirs.
That makes sense that it is a woman vs woman issue so long as the subsequent wife knows the man is already married. In the case she doesn't know then it's 100% a man vs woman situation and I think he is wronging all his wives. I don't see this as sustainable long term so it would most likely be stupid to attempt. However I have heard of it happening on occasion especially when the wives are located in different countries. If a man doesn't have to tell the first wife he is getting a 2nd wife does he have to tell the 2nd wife he is already married?
The 2nd wife is bound to know he is married (you can't give the impression you are single) unless she just wants to hurriedly finish the marriage (like someone who doesn't know other person's face or where s/he lives but still married).
@@Ei_Kei what evidence do you need lying is haraam in Islam 2nd wife should not be deceived that you are single otherwise nikah is invalid 2nd nikah is a contract with 2nd wife she should be aware.
Brilliantly argued by Brother Hijab. He is becoming a giant in Dawah Masha Allah argues Islamic text with really sharpened philosophical tools. May Allah SWT give him good health and long life and allow him to keep contributing.
Wish there was any overlap between what the sisters were saying and what you just described. Makes me sad because you could have addressed it in a beautiful way helping brothers, who want polygamy for themselves, with how to do it and how to be emotionally mature about it so that the already threatened nuclear family system because of feminism and weak men could have been saved a bit. You just took words out of context and tried to rip apart what they were trying to say. You just made a random counter argument on bits and pieces alone with selective bias use of ahadees. I can write a whole article or make a video that is similar counter argument to your each and every point but then that still won’t address the real issue or solve any problem just like this reaction video.
A lot of women have commented over here justifying the comparison saying that she was comparing the treatment of a women who committed adultery to man who does the same try and legitimize it by doing a marriage after, and seems to think this is not a problematic statement. The severity of adultery in Islam is clear cut, so can one of you explain why it was necessary to bring the treatment of women cheating into the picture (because her statement indicates she has a problem with this), rather than just mention that the man is not being subject to Islamic principles for his behaviour prior to Nikkah. In making this statement in the way it was done, she seems to be taking issue in the inequality of polygamy, rather than be seeking for Allah's ruling to be implemented equally, and a lot of the women here seem to follow similar thinking unfortunately.
Why aren't u guys talking about the domestic violence in the Muslim community and what's happening to Muslim women , why u don't take it seriously like when u talk all the time about the obligations on Muslim women but never on Muslim men , the rights of Muslim men but never the rights of Muslim women , the abusive Muslim men like sania khan situation recently no one opened his mouth from any of u
Polygamy Is a hard topic, especially this day and age. But I read a comment of someone saying the sister meant secret wives. This i disagree with, be a man and tell your wife you got another wife.
Respect to my fellow Islam Brothers, as a Christian this is one thing I’m confused about Islam. For me it doesn’t make sense, this is the same confusion I have with the trinity. I wanted to know more and understand it.
brother u found one sister to apply the verse in surah al baqarah on, I never heard you talk about who the rest of the verse applies to, those who fought with each other and those who returned the refugees, while muslims are fighting each other on behalf of the kfr, and countries like saudi pak n turkey r expelling the uighurs who seek sanctuary
It’s not just man’s right, these feminists are taking away, also they are trying to take away other women’s right to marry a married man who they find to be suitable for their needs. Polygyny benefits women way more than it benefits men. May Allah ﷻ give us understanding of his deen. Ameen
Nobody took away anything from these lustful beasts. Just find women that are compatible with your mindset and mention polygamy before marriage. Simple.
Ahhh, then why do Syrian and other female refugees are still suffering? Man, why don't you take 4 of those women refugees as wives? Why go after virgins as for 4 wives all the time, haaa? If you want to help these much to women species, then please marry 4 refugees women with their children and set an beautiful example... And then come and talk about how healthy & helpful is polygamy for women more then men, yaaaahh....
if people really believe pain is oppressive then they would've strove to end the pain of the less fortunate around the world and waged 'wars' against the source of those pains, be it corruption, lack of industry and so on.
The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) married for noble cause. Yes it is allowed in Islam and it has very good reasons to why its applicable, but those reasons are not what are used today. And lets not forget that the Prophet (pbuh) did not let Ali (ra) remarry because it would hurt Fatima and Ali didnt want to as well. So the hurt of the wife is valid too. Both points are valid which is why discussions and transparency is important. Additionally in the Quran 42:38, it says 'those who respond to their Lord and establish the prayer, and manage their affairs by mutual consultation' which is an ayah that includes the consultation between husband and wife in domestic matters where the Prophet (pbuh) would consult with his wives even though he had no reason to consult as his guidance came from Allah. The act of consulting someone also demonstrates a value of them, their opinion, input and creates a sense of partnership and understanding.
@@yourfamilydoctor172 Yes. Concubinage and female slavery existed way before Islam. It wasnt introduced by Islam. But when Islam came along it was ensured that they got the same treatment as though they were similar to, but not equivelent to wives in that they got the right treatment and protection from abuse. But this was put in place as boundaries by the Prophet pbuh that worked to gradually phase out practices like slavery and concubinage from society! Islam has always encouraged the freeing of slaves and concubines (as numerous stories show). But what people dont seem to understand is that the Prophet pbuh always did things so it wasnt of immediate shock and worked at the level and pace of humans. Hence why he always still valued emotions and logic!
@@imaan4151 right, so it was only for protection? Why would Allah SWT allow a man to marry a slave woman? What extra benefit were they providing men? A man can marry 2,3,4 wives, so why then a slave woman? Part of the Tafseer from Tahfim Al Quraan of the verse in surah nisa discussing polygyny and captive women: Those women": slave girls captured in war and distributed among the people by the government. It may either mean: "If you cannot bear the expenses of a free woman, you may marry a slave girl as permitted in.v. 25," or it may mean: "If you need more wives than one but are afraid that you might not be able to do justice to your wives from among the free people, you may turn to slave girls because in that case you will be burdened with less responsibilities. So why would a man need more wives or concubines?
@@yourfamilydoctor172 I think you and I are discussing two different things here. I have never denied the benefits or reasons for polygyny for men. I am saying that there are other considerations that need to be taken on board, including the art of emotional intelligence which the Prophet (pbuh) had lots of. Not just being entitled and just focussing on yourself and your needs as men and approaching your wife and women in a way that also considers her as a human being that has the potential to be affected.
"And of everything We have created pairs. Heaven and earth. Night and day. Sun and moon. Shore and sea. Light and darkness. Her for him. And We created you in pairs.” - Holy Qur'an 78:8.
Sisters this is why you speak up about polygany BEFORE marriage. If you don't want a co-wife later on in the marriage TELL HIM so he can move on and you don't waste eachother's time. I have no idea why muslim women don't stipulate that they don't want the husband to marry a second wife in the marriage contract.
Totally agree with all the points you mentioned. Maa shaa Allah. Allahumma baarik. Firstly, I’d like to say that there are many polygynous marriage stories that I know and heard of that are successful. But people always prefer to dig out polygynous marriages that are failing or are in a big mess. Secondly, let’s be honest, all marriage - whether people are in monogamous or polygynous marriages - have problems. Have you ever heard of a perfect marriage? No. With this in mind, these ladies might as well consider marriage as a whole a taboo. Nevertheless, it is Allah who legislated both types of marriages and they both have positive impact on society from an Islamic, social, psychological, financial and moral perspective. And therefore, whether or not they agree with Allah and His messenger, it doesn’t take anything away or belittle His perfect legislations. And like you said, brother Mohammad, it only proves that they have a more deeper problem.
how many u know that are successful.. i mean if u lie about it, hide it from ur wiffe / family than get caught than it is like cheating cuz ur hiding and lying .. our prophets and there companions and there family never hid marriages from family and there wives
Sir I have a question If the man marries a second wife and they r living in a country where two marriages are forbidden like UK or Germany, then the second wife won't be registered as wife of that person and I think it's a bit problematic. What do you think about this sir? Thanks for making things clear for us.
We can’t compare todays men to the prophet and his companions. You are living in a completely different time. Men marry for pleasure not to help a cause. I mean really this is laughable. I as a woman will not accept that a husband marrying over me is a struggle or a test. god tests us with our health, children and finances, not thirsty men 😂
Nowhere it's mentioned that men can't marry because of pleasure. Pleasure is part and parcel of marriage whether monogamy or polygamy. You can't deny something to a man that is absolutely halaal, which includes pleasure through halaal ways.
Chapter 47 8. But as for those who disbelieve, for them is perdition, and He will waste their deeds. 9. That is because they hated what God revealed, so He nullified their deeds. 25. Those who reverted after the guidance became clear to them-Satan has enticed them, and has given them latitude. 26. That is because they said to those who hated what God has revealed, “We will obey you in certain matters.” But God knows their secret thoughts. Chapter 16 30. And it will be said to those who maintained piety, “What has your Lord revealed?” They will say, “GOOD.” Repent, jzkAllahu khair
Seriously??? So you are basically saying the only thing a woman is allowed to do when her husband chooses polygyny is to feel the pain. She is not allowed to try to stop him, neither is she allowed to free herself from it. In other words polygyny is obligatory on a woman once her husband wants it. Not only that, you are even saying that it is okay for a man to keep it a secret from his wife (wondering how he will explain his absence while spending time with the other wife without telling a lie. Except if you want to say Lieing is now halal in islam) This seems to me like the only situation islam refuses a person any say in a matter that affects their lives in such a serious way. But i am happy about the fact that you agree that pain is a powerful thing, but you don’t seem to understand fully what pain and frustration can make pple do. Cause i live in a country where waking up to the news of women and their kids being harmed or killed by their co wives is a daily occurrence (in some cases co wives they didn’t even know about). Other times, the wife ends up killing her husband because its the only way she believes she can be free from the situation. Yes polygyny is not haram Yes polygyny is not cheating But polygyny is not obligatory on either the man or his wife.
OMG! I live in a western country where polygamy is illegal so....wow...what you're saying happens where your from in a country it is legal is very shocking to me. Illegal polygamy in the USA is known to be practiced by Fundamentalist Mormons, and it's obligatory for them so...that kind of thing almost never happens between cowives for them. So sad to hear that is a thing where you're from. :-(
what husn aldhan whe she says after reporting the social reaction as authu billah, a women trying to seek khul'a wouldn't had this reaction she is saying it very clearly, cheating is equal to male polygyny and should be faced with her saying. cheating has one punishment death in Islam and it's the the most just punishment.
Polygyny is not the Center of our religion and just a few amount of Muslim men could pay for it ! Of course having wives it’s not like having whores ! Because you should pay and protect every one of them ! In our time its not necessary to have more than one wife ( for children or whatever) Allah for sure is not gonna give us order to our pleasure! The one time when allah talk about polygamy, he spoke about fatherless children, so it spouses to marry more than one wife to look after the children and that make sense because god would want a secure society who look after each other. In practice the most men who do polygamy are not willing to have a women with children but always a young girl is preferred ! Although the Prophet did polygamy just right that or for political reasons as for aisha or hafsa. Polygamy isn’t the solution for any problem because you have a lot of Muslim men who work hard just to get one girl to marry but how he will make it if a rich man come and offer easily much more than you ! Polygamy isn’t right but sometimes was necessary for good society but not any more You have in every European country social help for every one who need it specially womens with children! If a man want to have fun with other women in halal he will have consequences for his doing !
All this debate should started with why would the brother take 2nd wife behind her back in the first place? Maybe bc he's between the hammer and the nail, 1=where he has love to he's wife nd doesn't want to hurt her feelings or he's afraid that her reaction could cause damage/break the marriage institution 2=he's afraid fallain into zina (Especially in this hypersexualized society) that's why he is seeking halal outlet to he's natural desires ( which is the reason Allah legalized polygyny in the first place, admitting the natural desires a man has). Women these days were convinced that they can't be in a polygamous marriage ( which greater women were in), that they can't handle the feelings of gheerah although they never even experience it (which greater women did), that polygamy is some kind of cheating (authubillah). I'm not going to talk about the obvious reason that led modern women to think this way but i may offer a solution that will guarantee most of them a happy peaceful life= just live with it nd accept, try to think about the wisdom of Allah in this legislation if you don't submit to it nd claim the great reward. I know that this two words ain't going to change your mind but know that most men you'll meet in life will be polygamous either in halal or haram so u choose yours nd if you want to get deeper into this topic check on RU-vid haitham talat polygamy.
Well said, honestly, can’t blame the men doing it secretly. Although it’s not ideal, but what is a man supposed to do when the first wife starts threatening him with divorce, taking kids away and doesn’t realise that her chances of getting remarried after divorce also decrease! For a man it’s like a double edged sword.
@@yourfamilydoctor172 exactly bro, nd let's not talk about if they have kids, kids that come out from a single parent household are another story a whole studies made about them suicidals, criminals, rapists, school drop outs most of them come out of that house especially if it's a single mom
@@Wabbelpaddelfirstly, because allah forbade Think of it logically, if the woman is impregnated, how is the father identified without modern technology? Also, the prophet instructed the ummah to increase in population. If there were multiple men to a single woman, then that would be counterproductive to producing children. Currently, there are more women than men in terms of population. The obvious solution to each woman getting married is islamic polygamy
@@BlackJack-lg3vx Why does that even matter? Do you not see that you are being a prototype evolutionary animal like that, enslaved by the selfish gene? Who cares, not like a next John Von Neumann will ever be fished out of your wives birth canal.
People like you crack me up. You wouldn't even look at someone like Hijab in the eye on the street, you'd put your little weakling head down and walk past. Your bravery is reserved for anonymous online comments. 100% guarantee you're some pencil necked white guy from some remote town up north filled with inbreds.
Every man he most have minimum 2 wife’s for many important reason the good Muslim ladies will accept it alhamdu lillah normally because it’s totally Halal If feminists Muslim ladies can’t accept it she can leave We don’t need someone make the Halal things look and sound like Haram Simple
@@decoraqueena6413 Who said she is bad ? She is not bad She just simple Fem@enist not good for my deen not good for my dunya not good for our next generation So i most be careful who i want to marry and if i found out later she is not agree with sharia She can leave 🚪 That’s it
she is human so is okay for her to hate polygamy and there is nothing wrong with it. even the wives of the prophet (S.A.W)had alot of problems accepting polygamy. if she feels that polygamy is bad and unfair then she's wrong but other than that there is nothing wrong disliking it.
Yes there is. Chapter 47 8. But as for those who disbelieve, for them is perdition, and He will waste their deeds. 9. That is because they hated what God revealed, so He nullified their deeds. 25. Those who reverted after the guidance became clear to them-Satan has enticed them, and has given them latitude. 26. That is because they said to those who hated what God has revealed, “We will obey you in certain matters.” But God knows their secret thoughts. Chapter 16 30. And it will be said to those who maintained piety, “What has your Lord revealed?” They will say, “GOOD.” Repent, jzkAllahu khair
@@Quran-ij1mg you need to search for what the scholars said about women hating polyphony because I think you're conflating between two different things. This is a quote from the "Islam question and answer" website regarding this specific issue: ( If a person dislikes something even though it is prescribed in sharee’ah, that does not adversely affect him, so long as he does not hate the fact that it is prescribed. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Jihaad (holy fighting in Allaah’s Cause) is ordained for you (Muslims) though you dislike it, and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you…” [al-Baqarah 2:216] The woman who feels jealous does not hate the fact that Allaah has allowed her husband to marry more than one woman, but she hates to have a co-wife. There is an obvious difference between the two matters.)
@@Mym794 The issue is not jealousy. As you wrote: If a person dislikes something even though it is prescribed in sharee’ah, *that does not adversely affect him, so long as he does not hate the fact that it is prescribed* Repent, jzkAllahu khair
@@Quran-ij1mg the main comment stated that " if she feels that polygyny is bad and unfair then she is wrong" so he clearly differentiated between hating polygyny as a rule from Allah and hating to be in a polygyny marriage. It is like hating to participate in jihad but not hating jihad on itself.
Maybe your so passionate because you had a secret wife and your father in law found out and you divorced your second wife to keep your first wife happy. Why didn’t you keep both if it was so easy? Maybe because you no deep down it’s not easy and it’s very difficult and even you could not do it.
Btw to all the sisters using the Fatimah ra and Ali ra situation as an evidence they should study usuul al fiqh 101. That was an exception to the rule by the consensus of scholars. You will never hear brothers complaining about the fact that the prophet saw married more than 4 at once while we can't. Also according to many thaahari scholars like Dauud al thaahiri him self, polygamy SUNNAH. This is a valid opinion.
@@Wabbelpaddel Frankly it doesn't matter what you think about the Prophet PBUH, until you believe in God, all else is secondary, so you're wasting your time arguing here.
@@Wabbelpaddel shariah consequentialist jurisprudence is islam 101. The concept of an objective ruling doesn't exist in islam. Rulings differ depending on time, place and circumstance. Plus if your issue is that the prophet allowed for himself ALONE to have sexual gratification via way of many wifes why did he allow the companions to have an unlimited number of concubines, you absolute donut.
If there was an agreement that there wasn't going to be a second wife and you go back on the agreement you should definitely let the lady know about it.
Shes so right about it and your arguments are so irrelevant cause shes not talking about polygyny but about the fact that some men does it without even informing their wife about it.. The aim of getting married in the first place is that your relation has to be KNOWN from everybody that this person is with this person, this is the original reason why we make weddings party, it has to be official and not a secret for it to be halal, we're not in romeo and juliet relationship... so when you do it without informating your own wife, behind her back what it is like? Is it not what we call a treason, he's not even fulfilling the aim of a halal mariage so shes not wrong to tell it out loud What a disturbing mind you have to hide such a big thing from your partner, like shes not even meaning the pain to inform her of it? This is the bare minimum that she knows this such thing like minimal respect for your closed ones... Plus keep it secret and maybe one day you could found out that your siblings are dating without knowing it Allahi sterr, thats why it should never be a secret in a halal union.
I believe as a part of a woman's marriage contract she can state and make her contract say and have the husband to be to sign saying he will not marry a second wife. Yes it is allowable for the man to have a second wife but if I as the woman make it clear as a part of my marriage contract and he agrees that he will not take on any other wives and signs this then he is not allowed by signing this contract of marriage to have or marry any other wives. This is what sisters should do who do not want a husband to marry additional wives. Thisshould be binding on the man to not take on additional wives during this marriage.
I'm worried for the people of PAKISTAN because that monsoon on steroids could happen next year again, I hope their getting advice when they can build homes with the help ALLAH SWT, so there not as exposed to the floods and they don't lose their homes again. I was and am equally concerned when floods hit Bangladesh and anywhere to the Ummah and non Ummah especially the poor.
Polygamy is generally avoidance behavior. Instead of fixing marital issues ..the solution some men seek is getting a second wife. The woman has to change her behavior to stay in the marriage but the bar is typically very low for men
Well bro, did you truly mean "lying" or not telling (keeping the secret)? Cuz, i dont think you can use the term "lying" for not telling (those two are different things). But you know that already, right? Wassalamualaikum.
eating your wifes pet - fish, because it is halal, but hurting her feelings is not so much good. At times of Prophet sav having many wives was ok, and islam made limit to have only 4, but one is better if you think, you may be unjust. Am i thinking wrong? feel grategul for my din., dont get me wrong
in bible ......Solomon had 400 wives 300 sex slaves. David had 99 wives yet raped neighbor wife killed her hubby. ...moses 'took 36000 child virgins as a war booty after killing all medianites ' these guys make Muhammad look like a saint
Giving her the benefit of the doubt in that statement maybe good for you, I however have debated too many Muslim women who’ve held that opinion and it holds that polygany IS cheating!
Sisters would rather live like a chosen queen whilst their husbands cheat. Rather than honourably keep another wife. The embarrassment of everyone knowing my husband is playing away with 403s is too big. I really think it's time we addressed the epidemic of cheating Muslim men.
@Adam says you. In the city I'm in. The circles I'm around. It's apparent. Back in the day one crackhead in my area. Now many and of Muslim ones too. Coke, was the rich persons drug, now people in their 20s on it. Weed, is a completely different breed from decades ago. I see balloon cannisters everywhere. And so many accidents in my area because of they're driving whilst do it. So take your head out of the sand I *know* of practicing people who commit zinna. It's just an acceptable norm.
If we can't build a firm relationship with Allah, Our Creator, our Sustainer, Our Provider, then how on earth do you expect anyone to have a good relationship with a human being? That is why Allah tells us, lovingly, do not look for wealth, beauty or status in your spouse, but look for Imaan (faith, righteousness, prayer). And who would know better what is best for us than the All-Knowing, The Kind? If you don't teach our children to value Allah more than anything, then when the time comes to fear Allah and be good to your wife, they won't be. Allah wanted us to have peace in our hearts with our spouses, told us that we are clothing for one another and must be kind to one another. Allah loves the kind. Allah loves those who are good to their spouses and protect their feelings and cherish one another, especially when they do it for the sake of Allah. If you think there's an epidemic in the tree of marriage losing its color, with its leaves and flowers dying, it's not in the leaves or branches, it's the rotten core, where Allah isn't remembered by anyone.
We also need to address the epidemic of women who go against Islam without even knowing it, and acting like polygamy is cheating. When an advice video is made about the men, it's all quiet. When it's made about the women, it's a rampage, and supposedly controversial. Unfortunately some sisters want their Islamic rights, but don't even want to hear it, when it comes to giving rights to their husbands. They act like it doesn't exist.
a cheating man cheats because he lacks taqwa and wants the milk for free and doesnt want to buy the cow. marrying a 2nd wife doesn't mean he won't still cheat. those justifications are so offensive. it's enough to say that Allah and his Rasool approved of it. khalas
Stop taking parts of their video and branding it as kufr and blowing it out of context. After making a whole video conveying that they were ‘verging on kufr’ for expressing how hard it is, you’re coming back to say it’s not haram for women to hate it. Leave them and all of us alone please. Those of you who want multiple wives marry the women who want to be in a polygamous marriage.
I just cannot believe I am reading this. How can a person make such blunders in a single comment? Hijab categorically stated that he is not saying that she has committed kufr or left Islam. Give me timestamp as to where he DID say that she has left Islam. If you cannot then this is slander and you must fear Allah for doing so.
@@SJ-yd6zi he said it in another video before this one and painted a very terrible picture of the sisters. Such claims are not as light as backing away from them a couple days later, and one should not make them at all. He never said they left Islam, I said he acted like it, indicating that him and ali dawah made a very big deal out of just the first part of their video. He did however use the words ‘verging on kufr’.
@@flowlikewater6576 Describe what does "acted like they left Islam" actually entails. You cannot be leaving behind vague statements which have the potential to mislead people of what is actually being said. In the last video, they reiterated the fact that these women are their sisters in Islam. How come someone "act like they left Islam" and say that they are their sisters in Islam at the same time? Fear Allah and do not play with words. I can understand that you are all emotional right now, but that doesn't give you the right to mislead people by twisting your words to give an illusion of something which isn't true. I would suggest you to come back and reply once you believe that you have calmed down and aren't high on emotions. This is not rhetoric so please don't take it as such, this is genuine advice.
@@SJ-yd6zi using phrases like sister in Islam or whatever doesn’t take away from the claims of kufr that were made. That is true my comment wasn’t as concise and articulate and I did leave space for misinterpretation, so I will be taking your advice on this part. But the same logic should be applied to these brothers, especially when speaking on a platform with thousands of subscribers and followers who can believe you and thus ruin others’ reputations. Even if my statement was ‘vague’ and theirs was clear and undeniably false. Or are men exempt from error and accountability and logic doesn’t apply to them?
I understand. But can a man really treat everyone equal. A man who can't provide for IST wife marry another. In this world man has more privilege. Their upbringing likes this that some of them I have in relatives thinks woman choice doesn't matter at all or neither they are loyal to their wives. You can't deny this that our society is biased. In the era people are dying from natural disasters or poverty. We should look at some serious problems.
You really should look at more translations of the quran. Nobody has the full understanding we must work together to find it. Some things one may find that others wont and vice versa. Then the quran truly is error free and full of miracles
No your wrong we understand every ayat in the quran.. What you should do in not rely on translations and 1. Learn Arabic 2. Learn the science of quran and hadith 3. Learn from someone who already knows and is a trustworthy source .... 4. Learn and learn Quran was taught from the prophet peace and blessing.. Please learn your Deen and tafsir Start your journey now... just like being a doctor learning islam in depth is a science.. the basics are wasy to learn but Please take time and then you won't say comments that we don't know.. just because you don't know doesn't mean it's not know Seek ilm
@@mohammedyusuf3888 what I meant is there are errors in some translations of the quran scientific and contradictions. If you look at different translations these cpntradictions and errors disappear. Wich leads you to believe those translations are more correct. Even If I learned arabic i would have to interpret it. I dont believe in the hadith since the quran tells us that.
@@tabiakhan9870 look how disrespectful these Muslim men are and then have the audacity to critique Muslim women? Anytime Muslim women speaks nowadays it’s feminism.if that’s how they want to play well just accuse everything they say as redpill Andrew Tate wannabes
A man doesn't need permission from the first wife, to get a second wife. It's a shame, how some women want the rights from the husband, but don't want to give the rights back TO the husband :)
permission and information are 2 different things. the marriage is supposed to be announced, as that is the sunnah. provide evidence that the Prophet sallalahu alahi wassalam was hiding a wife away deliberately and lying about it to his other wives.
@@oulangkous718 You instantly assumed that I said a man can lie to his other wives. I never said that. A man doesn't need to lie to his other wives. No need to. Can just marry another wife. Btw, a misunderstanding you have, is you think just because a man married another wife without his other wives knowing, means that he 'hid his wife away'. It doesn't mean that. The man can just marry another wife without his other wives knowing. It seems that you have it twisted. And try to make men look 'toxic' when they are simply practising their rights in Islam. A man can marry another wife without any of his wives knowing. Doesn't mean he is 'hiding' anyone away, haha. Edit: I take back where i said 'You instantly assumed that I said a man can lie to his other wives'. Please forgive me if you never assumed that of me.
@@oulangkous718 It still doesn’t take away the fact that re marrying for a man doesn’t require any form of consent whatsoever from anybody. He can therefore re marry and announce it when the time is right, of course.
@@xAmiin Yes, Masha'Allah. The man shouldn't even speak to his first wife about it to be honest, because most likely she will be against it, and stop him from practising a right which he has in Islam.
@@999legend8 Yes, it may be counter productive and create drama. But some women are emotionally stable so they may accept it if their faith is high enough.
I enjoy how you critically dismantle theories on various topics. BUT I don’t think there is anything on this earth that would make me want more wife in my life. I have never met a lady anywhere in any circumstance that is so inspiring that their husband would think… ‘having a wife was so amazing, I think I need another’ LOL Surely when a man signs up to this, women will be championing the sacrifice he is making to sign up to such a bad deal for their benefit.
i am an Arabe but Polygyny is strictly forbidden in the Qoran for normal people .Polygyny in the Qoran was allowed in two cases only the first its for the Prophet only for certain reasons the second which is for people who want to solve the orphans problem so a men is allowed to take until of 4 widows women who had orphans children to take care of them then God will reward him even in this case God said but have only wife is better . but for men who want to take second normal wife which is not a widow with orphans and preserve the first women that is Strictly forbidden by the verse 20 from Al Nisa Sourat وَإِنْ أَرَدتُّمُ اسْتِبْدَالَ زَوْجٍ مَّكَانَ زَوْجٍ وَآتَيْتُمْ إِحْدَاهُنَّ قِنطَارًا فَلَا تَأْخُذُوا مِنْهُ شَيْئًا ۚ أَتَأْخُذُونَهُ بُهْتَانًا وَإِثْمًا مُّبِينًا """""If you desire to replace a wife with another and you have given the former ˹even˺ a stack of gold ˹as a dowry˺, do not take any of it back. Would you ˹still˺ take it unjustly and very sinfully?"""" Surat Nisa verse 20 and if he wants that he should divorce the first and he will return to it the complete Mahr . but the Scholars of Satan to cancel the Word of God and satisfy their dirty desire they rely upon the fake hadiths invented 300 years after the prophet deaths . Polygyny is a destruction of homes not a sunnah and Woe to who fabricated lies against God. and their is no text above the Qoran and anyone reject the Qoran and go to another sources so he is a truly a kafir and their is no sunnah contradict the qoran .and if the hadith contradict the Qoran so its fake .
One of the best acts of ibadah that Muslim performs and many overlook is Thinking positively of Allah is meant Allah will respond when offering supplication (du‘aa’); thinking positively that He will accept one’s repentance when repenting; thinking positively that He will forgive when seeking His forgiveness; thinking positively that He will accept good deeds when doing them according to the prescribed conditions, believing strongly that His promise is true and His grace is abundant. "One day your actions will visit you, so don't be surprised when you see them." Your soul is a completed novel, yet you spend your time reading other people & wonder why you still haven’t found yourself. Happiness was asked: where do you live? It replied: in the hearts of those content with Allaah’s decree
I have been commanded to fight against people till they testify that there is no god but Allah, and that Muhammad is the messenger of Allah" (Muslim 1 :33) Permitted stealing from unbelievers. (Bukhari 44:668, Ibn Ishaq 764) Permitted lying. (Sahih Muslim 6303, Bukhari 49:857) Owned and traded slaves. (Sahih Muslim 3901) Beheaded 800 Jewish men and boys. (Abu Dawud 4390) Murdered those who insulted him (Bukhari 56:369, 4:241) "If then anyone transgresses the prohibition against you, Transgress ye likewise against him" (Quran 2:194) Jihad in the way of Allah elevates one's position in Paradise by a hundred fold. (Muslim 4645) Married 13 wives and kept sex slaves. (Bukhari 5:268, Quran 33:50) Slept with a 9-year-old child. (Sahih Muslim 3309, Bukhari 58:236) Permitted stealing from unbelievers.(Bukhari 44:668, Ibn Ishaq 764) Murdered those who insulted him.(Bukhari 56:369, 4:241) "If then anyone transgresses the prohibition against you, Transgress ye likewise against him"(Quran 2:194) Ordered the murder of women.(Ibn Ishaq 819, 995) "O you who believe! Fight those of the unbelievers who are near to you and let them find in you hardness."(Quran 9:123) Ordered 65 military campaigns and raids in his last 10 years. (Ibn Ishaq ) Killed captives taken in battle.(Ibn Ishaq 451) Encouraged his men to rape enslaved women.(Abu Dawood 2150, Quran 4:24) "And fight them until there is no more persecution and religion is only for Allah"(Quran 8:39) Blessed the brutal murder of a half-blind man(al-Tabari 1440) Ordered a slave to build the very pulpit from which he preached Islam.(Bukhari 47:743) What are the Greatest Commandments? "Belief in Allah and Jihad in His cause" (Muslim 1:149) Demanded the protection of armed bodyguards, even in a house of worship(Quran 4:102) Muhammed Advocated crucifying others.(Quran 5:33, Muslim 16:4131)
I don’t need to discredit that which I don’t believe in. If what I’m arguing against, I truly believe is bad for you and for your soul, instead of trying to stop you, I’d rather let you make the mistake and learn from it and welcome you back with open arms whenever you do finally awaken to the truth. I don’t have to discredit you, people learning by experience is doing it all for me.. I don’t need to say a single word
Man have you lost the plot on this one. You have not given one valid reason for hiding a relationship in 33 minutes of babbling on. Here are some of the points I would like to discuss with you brother Mohammed: - Nobody is denying the Quran, a man can have 4 wives and that is completely understandable and not arguable, a point which either was not discussed or you have not shown in the video - You are equating vegans shaming meat eaters to people who don't shame a man having 4 wives, but shame a man for having a secret wife, a matter you have failed to justify in your 33 minutes of talking. - The hadith you mentioned does not in any way encourage the fact that hiding a secret wife is completely normal and allowed, in fact I would very much argue it goes very much against one of the main principles of the same hadith which is islah between two people. I would argue that hiding a wife would do almost the exact opposite of islah. - Telling your wife that you are getting a second wife all of a sudden and getting a paper from the mosque yada yada is in fact is some shape or form adulterous. It means you have been seeing a certain woman and thinking of having a sexual marital relationship with for God knows how long in spite of your first wife. - You have focused your discussion heavily on attacking women on "not accepting the word of Allah" and doubting their Iman but you failed to discuss the other side of the coin which is the side of the men not being able to stick with the words of Allah. And that is the point of not being able to fulfill their rights fairly. In fact, men are and should be discouraged to get multiple wives. You failed to discuss the inevitable shortcomings of a man in fulfilling his wives' needs, especially the wife he was first committed to. There will almost definitely be a big change of lifestyle (typically a downgrade) for the first wife and there will almost definitely be some sort of bias towards one of the wives. A man's ability to juggle between 4 wives is nigh impossible. Not every man is as fair and just as the prophet peace be upon him. - The point of women committing polygyny upon each other through the man getting a second, third or fourth wife is a point that frustrated me beyond belief. The man is the one who married four women and is committing sexual relations with each of them. The women are only married to the man, they are not married to each other nor do they perform sexual relations with one another. - The point of "it is haram for her to smell the fragrance of jannah" is completely invalid. She isn't filing for a divorce for absolutely no reason, there is a huge valid reason which you fail to see which is hiding a whole human being which is your husband hiding a whole human being who is in a marital relationship with your husband unbeknownst to yourself! - Where is the side of shiwar or istishara that a man has to have with his wife on significant decisions that affect the both of them. The prophet peace be upon him consulted his wives on many matters, so why is it that a man when it comes to getting a second wife shouldn't find it of any importance to consult his wife on this matter and hiding her becomes a completely conceivable option without fault? - Lastly, any matter that causes a detriment to the healthy relationship of the couple should be avoided or else it would be "kharab lbeit". If a woman is not prepared to sacrifice her rights to the man especially on such a significant matter then the man is the one that should avoid it or else it wouldn't be the woman committing the "kharab lbeit" but indeed the man. Hopefully by some miracle this reaches you after two months of making the video and you would respond to it. I really want to see how you would respond to my point and see if I can change your mind or you can change mine.
Women like this really confuse me. If you don't believe in Islam, just jog on.. but if you believe it's true, just shut up and accept Allah knows better than you and stop posioning the minds of the ummah just because you don't like something.
Sufyan Ibn ‘Ayyinah said: “Having numerous wives is not (indicative of love)of the world because ‘Ali Ibn Abi Talib was the most ascetic of the companions of the Prophet and yet he had four wives and seventeen concubines.”
@@Wabbelpaddel at least better that killing litteraly all of the captives like America. They would probably kill the whole population of countries if they could just for oil. Your phrasing tells a lot about your personality.
@@petboy5839 and incase you want to divorce her you risk loosing your relationship with your releatives. Your uncle or aunt most likely won't see you the same as before cause you divorced their daughter
@@johncharles4146 Even if your grandma call you and you both yes it's not a big deal lol. Anyway, I know a lot of Muslims are influence either from their non Muslim background or influence by non Muslims. They're judging right or wrong by the standards of non Muslims. But, if you look at the royal family they're completely different from what regular non Muslim society is preaching. They're marrying their cousins all the time.
The opening itself was based off a misunderstanding. The sister meant that if a woman cheats then she's shamed (as she should in my opinion) and that if a man cheats then he gets married to the mistress "as a cover up" which taints the polygyny.
If man cheats then he is also wrong. This is simple to understand. I think Mohammed hijab does not claim this notion that if a man cheats he is not equally wrongly compared to women. Both have done sin. But if man marry 2nd time he is doing a sunnah!
My father married a second wife when I was like 7 (didn't last long) I have to say the house was in shambles and my mother (his first wife) was very distraught and was in tears for the first few days. (parents were only like 29 or 30 at the time) There are a few reasons why my mother was in such a state. First, my father was not giving her, her rights, second he was not providing enough for his first family, and lastly (just to name a few) he brought her (his second wife) into our already cramped, tiny house and converted the one extra room we had on the farthest part of the house (which was used as the "men section" when we had visitors) into her room. I would imagine that a woman would be very proud of her home and not be happy to have another woman intrude. To make that worse, there was a couple we knew who divorced, and the mother abandoned her daughters and left islam (happened a few times with people we knew) and the father went off to another country to marry a new wife to be a "new mommy" for his girls, he left his daughters with us meanwhile. This lasted for about a month until my father and his second wife found a separate apartment for them and it was only fit for the other two girls to go live over there. Tiny, cramped house that went from an already large 7 head family, to 10 in a matter of days, lol. A man with a big family and no money should not be marrying a second wife and should definitely have planned a bit better before marrying his first. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, but a weakness everyone can experience at some point is definitely one of falling in love, so I do not blame my parents for marrying. My point; in todays time, in this westernized culture that we live in, very few men can actually manage to practice polygamy and even fewer can treat his wives equitably. As far as I know, my father divorced her about 6 or 7 years into that marriage (or she died, because my dad would never really tell us much and was very vague) My parents also divorced after about 25 years of marriage. My mother worked full time and part time to make ends meet, because my father thought it fit to go to Thailand. Wa Allah hu'alam. May all forgive us our sins and protect us from the whispers of the shaitaan. Ameen. Edit: removed the part about Thailand.
I am sorry for what your father did to you, your siblings and your mother. This actually happens a lot in Arab/Desi culture, and almost always they blame it on Islam and call it “Sunnah” or that it’s perfectly halal. Mohamed PBUH said to be good to the wives and daughters, so that doesn’t mean going to break their heart by marrying a 1-3 women for your own views and desires. Basically abusing the privilege. Marriage is a commitment, and HUGE responsibility. if you know you aren’t ready for this commitment, do not waste anyones time. MashAllah Allahummabarik to your mother for staying strong through it all and being there for you guys. I wish you all well and justice be served. Women these days are seeing the wrong through what men call right. And Allah knows best.
This is why God of the bible says a man and a woman leave their parents and become one!!!!! Yes, just one, to love and honour each other above all others.
@@bygrace24 I mean the Bible also says that its the woman's fault that Adam ate from the tree. With all due respect, Muslims have the Quran and do not value the words of the Bible as we believe that the true words of Jesus (pbuh) have been misunderstood and corrupted.
@@tunakpreston8240 please show me how they were corrupted? I'm sure you will find no evidence. This is something Muslim scholars like to say but there is no evidence of it having been corrupted at all throughout the ages.
@@tunakpreston8240 Muslims are told to value the Torah and the gospels. Mohamed even used the Torah to judge once, he put the Torah on the judgement seat and said there was light in there.
imo talking directly with the sisters would be a better way of addressing them rather than in their absence and uploading publicly. I think these videos just fan flames or raise tensions whereas a better opportunity for naseeha or correction has been skipped.
When responding to something in the public domain, its is necessary to address it in the public domain. He is no airing anything that was said behind closed doors, but giving a balanced and counter to their PUBLIC stance. People with no islamic knowledge should refrain from publicly speaking especially when it comes from emotion and has not islamic backing. If you wish to talk publicly about something and cause fitnah then be prepared to be publicly refuted.
The issue is, the issue is public, so its being refuted in public, because its CAUSING HARM in the public sphere to the muslims and has HUGE ramifications
my ex cheated n married again while i was with him, he had an affair n then did nikkah with her, i was a God conscious woman he abused me physically emotionally n mentally, not only did it break my heart my house but my soul, i went through a spiritual awakening , from becoming hopeless to being happy now i am grateful to my LORD alone for helping me in this test, i see the world differently now, im single mum of 3 i definitely cant trust men again bcz of this deep rooted trust issues now, i do frown on men marrying twice in this day n age because i know taking care of one with her full rights is hard enough without bringing another one,may Allah swt ease any womans pain who was unjustly dealt with ignorance n selfish desires, ameen thuma ameen🙏
women themselves are selfish and cannot come to terms that Allah has made it Legal for a man to marry 4 times, If a man can give 4 wives their full rights then no woman has the right to speak against it, your statement of "taking care of one with her full rights is hard enough" is a judgmental statement you cannot judge all men and say that all men are incapable of marrying 4 times, sometimes women themselves demand more from their man and envy other wives and cannot come to terms that her man is getting shared with another woman.
@@teec. Bro she just told you Believe in Allah IS what got her through the pain she went and is going through.And you're saying to her leave the only thing that's comforting you because I'm an internet seer and see you being happier when you do (Without even addressing the more important truth or falsehood of a religion).
She literally just meant that no one, woman or man, should not cheat. Either way it is wrong, but when a man does it, no one looks at it for what it is. You are over conflating what she said and telling muslim men to not be honest.
@@DARTH-R3VAN but in the video of the woman she said that a man cheats (she meant out of wedlock) and THEN COVERS it up with marriage. She never said polygamy was cheating.
@@tiredgamer242 it's definitely evil but you cannot practice the hudood without the man either admitting it himself, or you bring 4 male truthful witnesses who were with you to watch him commit adultery.
@@DARTH-R3VAN Yeah, and the same goes for a women. Regardless of if you can prove it or not Allah treats us equally and if someone is cheating, male or female, they will answer to Him.
That’s not what she was saying AT ALL. She was clearly trying to say that men can get away with zina while women cannot. It’s based entirely on her feelings, and she’s using it to argue against polygyny and banning it without directly SAYING she is against it.
Mohammed Hijab is either clutching at straws or creating a straw man or both to try and portray sisters as the villains in polygyny and brothers as mere martyrs stuck in the toxic drama created by said “villains”. Yes, some women will not be able to accept being a co-wife even if the man follows Sharia however, it's a situation the man has to deal with with the correct adab and ahlaaq. Polygyny practised in our way of life is a MAN issue and they have to deal with it respectfully which includes being dignified, decent, transparent and honest. It’s a choice they make, not obligatory. Knowing that there may be fallout and planning on how to deal with it without oppressing their women must be considered before entering into a second, third or fourth marriage. The wife must be told of his intentions and be able to make decisions about her life. It’s common decency and not rocket science. In this instance, the reasons to point the finger at sisters are simply thin to none. Women for once cannot be scapegoated on flimsy exceptions mentioned by Mohammed regardless of what the sister in the clip is saying, not saying, implying or not implying. This guy should actually deal with the adab of polygyny directly with men rather than by putting words into the sister’s mouth and refuting sisters’ feelings about it, all the while ignoring or deflecting the role men play in the situations being discussed. FYI: a woman’s mental health and well-being is a perfectly good reason to seek divorce. Shame on you Mohammed for making it seem as if a woman has no choice or preference in her seeking divorce because she personally does not want to be in a polygynous marriage or that it’s haram for her to do so. Seeking and attaining a divorce would afford her the halal right to move on and remarry a like-minded Muslim man. Lastly, what you fail to address are the broader implications of undisclosed polygynous marriages on the family and societal unit. Or perhaps you’re just ignorant there of. But using extreme arguments such as a woman weaponising the child against the husband or her hating polygyny or women to question her iman is simply ludicrous. If a man is deifying his wife’s reaction and his feelings then that’s tantamount to perhaps erring on the side of shirk. Simply put your video and refutation are biased and reminiscent of cultural and philosophical misogyny that is not Islamic or attributed to our Prophet Muhammad PBUH.
Didn't Brother Hijab say that he is assuming the sister said something and is replying to it? In essence Brother Hijab is himself telling that he is strawmaning. Also men are not Portrayed as martyrs, no one will praise a brother for marrying multiple women. What Brother Hijab is addressing about is how men are Portrayed as "villains" for wanting a polygomous marriage. Also polygamy is not just a "man's situation" to deal with it, remember the situation arises because there are 2 or more women involved, although I get what you mean.
Also what is the adab of polygamy? A Muslim man must inform his 1st wife that he is taking a second wife but he does not need permission of the 1st wife. He should honor his wives equally and provide them food, shelter and clothing. Also please understand it is a wife's right to demand protection, clothing, food and shelter from her husband but it is not a wife's right to demand exclusivity of her husband. Also what "flimsy exceptions" are you talking about, these women speak as if polygamy is haram all the while disguising that it is halal if practiced in a proper way. Last video brother's Ali and Hijab challenged these women to tell men how to practice polygamy in a proper way. Also FYI : "A woman's mental health and well being is perfectly good reason to seek divorce". Seek divorce and do what? Raise children in a single mother household and put their lives in jeapordy because you don't feel good or marry another man who should take care of you and your children because you didn't feel good. Do you even understand what you speak about? It's like divorcing because the husband is poor and you don't feel good. My question is simple - If a husband provides for you, feeds you, shelters you and clothes you (all rights ordained by Allah) , why do you want to divorce him? Because he didnt ask your permission for 2nd permission? (even Allah didn't give women this right) This is what feminism has done. It has made women self centered and Narcissistic. Women's well being is the most important thing!!! Go gurl !!! Yass Queen!!! Women nowadays have fallen into this wrong notion of one man one woman. Islam doesn't say this. Women don't have right to exclusivity of her husband. Our prophet(saw) and Sahabas didn't ask permission from their wives not do they have to. Having said all this I would like to stress that it is the Husband's duty to inform his 1st wife that he is taking another wife. She has right to honesty from the husband. If the husband can't even tell the 1st wife about the marriage how can anyone expect him to be fair to her. Also I am not immune to the feelings of the women. I understand it must be very embarrassing to the 1st wife and the husband must be very careful in helping her deal with it. and both should work together in looking after the wellbeing of their marriage and children. But my point still remains - if the 1st wife feels embarrassed (and she has every reason to be) both the husband and wife should work together to help her overcome it, but under no circumstances should she ask for divorce if the husband takes care of all her rights just because her mental wellbeing is affected (which is a fancy way of saying she is bummed out) That's all I wanted to say sister. Sorry if I had been harsh at places but please know that my intention was right. I rarely comment in RU-vid videos but your comment was so thoughtful and clever but was wrong in just in one perspective and I wanted to correct it. ASSALAAMU ALAIKKUM from India.
@@KS-vm5yj the problem is that they believe the divorce will help them in the mental health capacity. What’s worse is that if they have small children and the women decides to remarry those children must go with the husband. Is she ready for that?
