this content is pushed onto girls as soon as they get social media. i remember LOVING this type of content when i was 13-14 years old. that’s why i’m now spending my time re-learning what relationships really should be like. that’s fine if this is part of your kink or something but it should not be pushed as what every relationship should be like
Even now as a woman in my mid twenties 1st thing after downloading tik tok...I was on straight tik tok WAYYY too long, I'm glad I can cringe at it amd not find that attractive anymore
It got pushed on me when I was around that age too, especially ddlg. Lucky for me, I was far too lesbian to enjoy it so I mostly scrolled through a page, laughed/cringed at it, and moved on with my day. I can't imagine what actually getting caught up in that community at such a young age could do to your mental wellness, its horrible.
so as someone who was exposed to kink way too young and has reclaimed it as an adult and is involved in a healthy way now: ur 100% correct. knowingly exposing minors to that stuff is super weird, adults have the authority to decide what they are and aren't into with their partner(s) and kids are ... kids. it's very odd that the influencer promoted the acc knowing what age their fanbase usually is, if they're into that it's whatever but like make a finsta or smth lmfao
For sure. I was molested by my father when I was a toddler so my idea of love was sex. Any time I slept with somebody I instantly felt like we were together. My love language is still sex. I feel the most wanted when I'm being sexual and I blame it all on my father. It's made relationships really hard. Luckily I am with somebody who's wonderful. But I'm 30 now so it's taken many many many years. I hate that minors are exposed to this. They should be able to explore their sexuality in a natural way. Not have it shoved in their faces
@@babyturkey8342 I’m so sorry you had to experience that, I know it’s not my apology to give however. I’m glad you’re with someone who makes you comfortable now though and I hope you continue to heal because often even when you feel fully healed, you typically aren’t. Wishing you all the best and all the love ❤
I really wish these accounts talked about and romanticized CONSENT even half as much as they romanticize violence. bc the things they talk abt are fine to enjoy- as long as both people involved are consenting adults- but they never talk about or specify those things which is insane especially considering the fact they have no idea how young the people seeing their posts are.
seriously. like this content easily veers into serious bdsm territory, so when it’s romanticized to such a point that consent isn’t even rly talked about, that’s super dangerous to kids/teens who are like still developing and figuring themselves/their relationships out.
I learned fairly late into my adulthood that I'm actually really into consent and content that focuses on it and I wish it had been presented as something other than vanilla or boring to me. Deadass took experimenting with it in writing to realize, _oh, this is really hot._
same, it lead me down some very bad paths. i haven’t watched the video yet but i’m glad it was healing i hope it is for everyone who had this experience
As funny and as cringe as it is, it was this kind of content on tumblr that romanticized unhealthy behavior and really tainted the way I saw sexuality/desire. I grew up thinking that aggression = passion. And funny that they never mention consent.
Fr! They claim to be bdsm accounts or whatever but they never mention the extremely important staples of kink: safe, sane, and consensual. It always has to be these three things or it’s just not accepted because it’s fuckin dangerous.
the weird violent undertones in this account reminds me of the phenomenon where violence against women in prn was disproportionately higher than on men, causing women to experience things like hitting and choking during sex without even consenting to it. accounts like these are definitely changing what we expect as the norm
Went home with a guy I had been on a few dates with, we’ve barely been kissing 5 minutes and he shoves me back and CHOKES ME. I’ve been sa’d in the past and choking is one of my ptsd triggers from it. He genuinely didn’t understand why I was furious after I finally calmed down. After he realized I was panicking I had to claw at him because he kept trying to pull me against him to “comfort” me. He proceeds to tell me I’m overreacting and too vanilla for him and that it was my fault for not telling him from the beginning that I’m not into shit like choking. Like last time I checked most people assume “vanilla” as a default for people until you talk about what they’re into but apparently I’m wrong.
@@Astridologist same thing happened to my friend, only her trauma was from a childhood accident not SA. The guy turned out to be a huge creep and repeat sexual offender who kept going after freshmen year after year as he went through high school. Still hate his guts for hurting my friend and so many more girls.
normalizing abusive relationships are pushed hardcore to teens and its not just via social media. just look at any popular teen movie series or book or show that depicts relationships.
I just wanted to say that I love all y'all and I hope you are in loving, healthy relationships and that you are cherished because you deserve that!! 💗💓💗
I remember this being pushed on me when I was a young teen and honestly just cringing at it, even though as an adult I'm not averse to bdsm and stuff. The thing is, most of this stuff is exclusively about hetero relationships, and even as a baby lesbian, I knew that wasn't for me. I wonder if straight/bi/opposite gender attracted people were disproportionately effected by kink pages like this.
I’m bi and definitely was affected by it, and tbh if you’re shown all of this content too much then you eventually get recommended lesbian versions of it. It was still just as gross to be showing to kids though, obviously.
almost everyone who follows/shares these accounts are either teenagers who have no experience to know what relationships/intimacy is like or middle aged people whose partners don’t care about them, it’s such a weird facet of social media
Love your Never Stop project. I have really bad chronic pain since I was 8 and will be having a surgery soon to further diagnosis and treatment. I am kinda scared but really relieved to possibly finally diagnose what I have. Fortunately, I am financially stable, so I cannot fully imagine the stress and pain of being chronically ill without financial stability. I just know you are helping so many people, and I think that’s absolutely beautiful. Also your content has helped distract me when I have really bad days with my chronic pain, so thank you so much for that
i agree with the whole “not using the s-word when we’re trying to stop slut shaming” to some extent but it’s also important to realize that us using the word in a positive light towards ourselves is also a part of that process
Do I have a thing for tying people up? Yeah maybe possibly. Did I need to learn that as a 16yo high schooler who had never even kissed someone yet? No. Am I glad I can express it safely & consensually with my partner now? Yes. Should I have been sent the bdsm test by all my theater kid friends? Nah, probably not necessary.
In middle school someone sent that test to me and I was like "Dude were 13" and they all got confused and that was the first step in realizing I was ace.
if i ran into any erotic stuff on my instagram i think i would just delete the app and also maybe throw my phone into the ocean. sincerely, someone who is aroace
My opinions on what you said are mitigated, since I definitely can get behind the kinky stuff, but I hate that men are normalized as dominating. Sure some girls are into that but yk 🤨 can we not make it something that doesn’t require consent? Ive seen some similar accounts on insta that aren’t nearly as sexist/heteronormative and I think it’s FAR better
@Alkalez if you don't like these comments, then you can just..ignore them?? That's a thing y'know...🧍♂️everyone is gonna say stuff like this, so it's better to just get used to it and ignore it than get riled up every time you see comments like these. Also, the reason WHY I'm guessing is to just be able to talk and relate to others who are the same as you.
I was exposed to kink-related content when I was 11. It led me down a dark rabbit hole. It's something that completely ruined the way I now view sex. I wish it never happened. It has genuinely caused me a lot of trauma and self-hate.
im so glad i found your youtube account, youre by far one of the funniest people on here. also, thanks to you me and my bf bought the desert storm card packs. I pulled a colin powell so you could say it was a good time
When i was 11-13 I had friends very into kink sides of the internet including a crush and and bc of him I followed some of those accs that he was following and ended up seeing some weird things like this that made me rethink what my expectations were for relationships. As a guy it may be even worse to be pushed to me and other guys caus these accs are telling us being literally abusive to our partners is good and when I did date that guy because im not literally fucking abusive it made me feel like i wasnt enough knowing that he followed those things- go bavk to the begging and read the age 11 12 13 THAT HOW YOUNG I WAS FEELING THIS WAY
gotta love how this entire account is just a collection of red flags doing literally ANYTHING that'd make either of my boyfriends cry (gay polycule moment) is my worst fucking nightmare??? I do everything I can to in fact avoid upsetting or triggering them, I wanna take care my men
Thank you so much for talking about this. It's really concerning what kids and teens are being exposed to on the internet, and it makes me so sad to think about that.
nobody tell jake about tumblr. im not saying this in a "oh-ho lil guy cant handle our superior platform uwu" way I just would hate to see the backlash he'd get for roasting it's content to a crisp.
You're right, Make this stuff private! That's kind of the only issue I have with this account besides the lack of kink tags. Make it private, tag it as kink stuff and be done with it. I don't agree with every post, but as an adult, every post should be specified with the kink it corresponds to! Having this available to EVERYONE (kids specifically who will hear about it from their friends and head there immediately) is gross.
There's nothing wrong with being kinky with your consenting partner, but no one on social media has to know about it. In fact, just keep it to your relationship, or within the bedroom, or in designated kink-friendly spaces to discuss these things.
IKR watching this vid i was physically recoiling bc of those posts, like- how do you post that type of stuff and go on with your day?? do they consider the repercussions of posting stuff like that??
Most of this insta account's posts aren't that wild imo. But it's weird that they're just out there. Plenty of people have insta or twitter or tumblr accounts where they say this kind of stuff, but will be explicitly 18+ and have ways of making their content as inaccessible as possible for minors, and will usually state "fantasy" or "implied consent" or whatever. It's weird that this account just presents this stuff as normal or commonplace.
so many good comments!!! i agree with what you’re saying and especially the toxic relationship and exposure to minors aspect but yeah like what some of the other commenters said some of this falls into adult kink categories. similarly i also had a very rocky relationship with toxic “kinkiness”/abuse and it really blurred the lines between what i thought love was and how a person should actually be loved (pain in place of love/pleasure mixed with terrible mental health) it took a lot of unlearning but some of these things can be okay. i guess my point is tho don’t kink shame and do research
8:30 i think they meant like they spend all of their money on their wife? idk i didn't interpret it as "i get a good looking wife cause i have money" but since it's twitter i could definitely be wrong 💀
I saw this stuff when I was like 12 on Instagram, it was always like infantilizing women, it was my demisexual and trans awakening, that stuff is fine as a kink but when you don’t specify consent and post it on a platform where that will be pushed to young people, I think that’s disgusting. Stuff like this should stay in group chats and personal situations/ conversations. I was also a SA survivor and seeing this made me feel guilty even though I was 8 when it happened.
yeah i was roped into an abusive relationship at 13 and we loved this kind of shit. i enjoy kink now (informed and safely) but i wish i wasn’t exposed so young.
I remember seeing these types of posts when i was like 14 and thinking this shit was normal! It's crazy how much it's pushed to literal children. i had to re-learn healthy relationships and stuff because of it and it sucks
this is kinda weird... thank you so much for posting this video at the time you did. I often think about this, and how normalized this has become. thank you for letting me remember that I deserve better.
People should make accounts similar to this, but it reminds people of the rules of these kinds of kinks. (Consent, boundaries, safe words, aftercare, communication, etc.) I'm so glad my trauma led me down a path where I also like educating myself on these topics.
I remember having content like this pushed onto me at 12-13 yrs old, and now as a adult I make sure to keep minors out of spaces like that if I’m posting shit like that (typically I’m not) it’s fucking crazy what ppl post knowing they have a minor based fan base
Jake. I want to apologize. I watch your videos for like 6 months now, seen every single one of them. And i just noticed i am not subscribed. LIKE HOW DOES THIS HAPPEN??? I'm sorry once again and happy to say you gained a new subscriber, love from austria❤️
I'm so grateful basically the only entertaining sites for young teens back in my day were albinoblacksheep, homestar runner, chat client games like club penguin, those sites where you pretended to be vampires or fairies, and stuff like gaia online and neopets. Stuff that was actually child friendly (child predators aside). I 100% would have been sucked into this kind of content at 14 or 15.
it makes me so happy that I’ve been seeing you put out videos so often. To be entirely honest I think your videos are part of what’s keeping me afloat so thank you! Make sure to take care of yourself first but it is extremely appreciated how much contact you’ve been putting out
as someone who was sl*t shamed from a very young age onward, i really hate when people throw around that word so lightly. or like when people who haven’t experienced sl*t shaming act like it’s no big deal especially when talking to me like??
I love your videos and you always make me smile, and I’m so happy when you appear on my subscribed feed! I even have notifications turned on- I have adhd and can’t do literally anything without listening to something in the background so you bet I’ve binge watched all your videos, twice.
i love this video but man.. reclaiming the word slut is so fun for me. i love sex and i love saying it lol also this account reminds me of my days on tumblr as a teen lmao (most of it was very consent-centered tho, i was lucky with the content i was exposed to)
Jake , im watching this on nov 7. I found your page through Saji. Since i started to watch you videos (5 nov) you’ve gained like 10k subs and i cannot be happier for you bro. Truly just love your videos and I myself am just so excited to see you grow so quickly( in my eyes its quick)😁
This kind of (mainly) written content is just another version of revenge porn in terms of effect imo. Romanticizing aggression and violent tendencies is pretty common where content for teenagers is concerned and it can lead to being exposed to some really gruesome stuff. Some teenagers aren't prepared to criticize this content and really dissect it in a healthy way so it leads to them trying to be someone they aren't.
I was in fact very young when this type of content got popular (Dw- I’m 19 now) and it did 100% fuck up how me and my friends thought about relationships all through our younger teens. Which, btw, this kind of content has been on Instagram since like, 2015.
ive had exes who had very visceral reactions to being called "good girl." and thats fine. i think the difference though, is like, the post didnt mention how the girl felt about hearing it, just that the guy seemed to get off on saying it. you can generally tell the difference between someone who wants to make their partner feel good and someone who only cares about their own gratification - even if it seems to manifest as gratifying others.
Kids are definitely looking at that account. Now they’ll have to go through a lot of mistakes with these preconceptions in mind before: hopefully learning and adapting to reality, or being murdered.
yeah- these kinds of accs have a specific audience. its kink. its not meant for ppl who arent into it.. this is taken a LITTLE too seriously, but it can be fun to shit on these accs. only problem I have w/these accs is that they're pushed on a super young audience. i was first exposed to this crap at 11. relationships like these can be healthy if they are consensual and both people know what they're doing and communicate with each other.
as someone who was exposed to this kind of thing when i was about 13 it really effected me negatvily. i ended up getting groomed and doing some not very good stuff that i still have marks of today because i was convinsed that it was normal. this kind of content is so harmful for younger people.
