Extrovert Highly Sensitive People 

I’m definitely an Extrovert HSP. I like going out and hanging out with friends, but plans to hang out have to be made in advance so that i can get my excitement up enough to actually enjoy socializing. If plans are made as a surprise or change abruptly I tend to not handle the new situation right and go through a emotional dilemma until i decide whether or not I should hang out.

Guys, it's so hard being an HSP. I find myself particularly prone to depressive feelings when I'm not surrounded by great people or with friends, and because I'm an extrovert, it's hard not being around people if I'm really busy. Dating is hard because the thought of being hurt by someone kills me. My trust issues had dominated the majority of my life. I'd love to hear from you if you feel this way, so that I know I'm not alone. Nothing is more painful than the thought of being disrespected, abused, defiled and not appreciated. Being used. It's the plague that I live with after Narcissitic abuse (one family member and one friend). Even if you heal, it's still haunting you. Not to mention, this description is bang-on! I always need energy to share with people (as I have lots myself), I LOVE large parties because so many people! And coffee is a big, big big no no!!!

It is so crazy how accurate this is for me even the comments were completely true to me as well. Feels good to know i am not the only one.

highly extrovert. highly sensitive. very tough for me. i just found out about HSP a few weeks ago...it helps to understand myself a lot. before that i just felt so drained after meeting many people, everthough i would continue talking to them for hours, almost manic, without feeling that i got tired or exhausted, and the minute i was alone i almost fell apart from being so overwhelmed with all the things i took in. thank you for you r work!

1000% me. I also learned (through therapy) that extroverted HSP’s can often be approval seekers while socializing. That can be very very exhausting.

It was explained to me that true extrovert gather their energy FROM others/being OUT. Elaine Aron says extrovert H.S.P.‘S draw their energy from within/ going IN, but THEN need to get out in the world .. YES!! This IS me ❣️ I began my personal growth journey almost 30 yrs. ago b.c I found I would feel SO deeply about things & get overwhelmed or cry at the silliest - I thought - things .. all these years later I have done SO much personal growth & childhood/adult trauma healing .. I’m grateful to FINALLY find Elaine, Alane or others .. to realize my differences are unique but not a flaw - actually my super power 💝

Yes, this describes me but I am picky about where and who I socialize with. I enjoy my alone time. I like concerts. I don't like going to movie theaters. I have no problem going to protest march about things I care about. I call myself an introverted extrovert.

So I'm definitely a highly sensitive extrovert. I've known this for a while. Here's one downside I've noticed. So feeling things more deeply and in general being more sensitive ... and then being extroverted ... sometimes leads to uncomfortable situations. Like basically I'll say something out of emotion or have a bad reaction to something. And then of course feel bad about it later. Does anyone else struggle with this? I think I am also learning that this might happen from not enough alone time or time to just process things. I can't just go go go like other extroverts.

It's a challenge to balance the two sometimes complete opposites of each other. If you give one side all the time and the focus it will drain you, if you give the other side all the time and focus it will bore you. So it's getting to know yourself, dive deep, and deeper. To find what you can handle and what you can not. When it clicks its beautiful when it's not it feels like an uphill battle in a snowstorm and your in your bathing suit. Luckily HSPs know them self well. That helps, oh and also Meditation. Thank you for a good Podcast!

Honestly extrovert HSP are some of the best balanced folks out there. Our challenge is in understanding the spectrum for HSP (for instance I have a high pain tolerance but very low for caffeine) and I need my alone time but only if I have not had it in a long while, and rarely get tired after being in public. Extrovert HSP need to figure out which personality aspect is needing what and how to fit to our lives.

when you said- "HSP extroverts Rock!" It made me feel so good! I felt that there is someone who understands me - to be honest I shed out a few tears! Thanks for making me feel comfortable ! :-) -Ravi

This is so intensely true of me! The Highly Sensitive ENFJ I may be an extrovert but I am more exhausted after socializing than my INFP partner. For a long time, I was so confused by this. But as a highly sensitive person, I absorb my surroundings with intensity - the noise, the light, the smells, the emotions, the stress of other people. I can’t not feel it all. It is only when I am home, alone, and in the quiet, that I can reset from these experiences. With a toddler at home, I hardly ever get to be alone and quiet, and I find myself anxious and overwhelmed a lot.

All my friends call me their rock and talk about how confident and grounded i always am but I probably cry more than any of them lol. It’s tough to balance the extroversion and high sensitivity, but I actually enjoy challenge and gratification of being able to tiptoe between the two sides. Thank you for the information!

Hello! I'm an extroverted HSP. It only took 36 years to find some research and descriptions of what I've known/felt/experienced for my entire life!

As an extrovert HSP I put myself out there. My opinions and my feelings. But I'm way to sensitive to be questioned and I feel misunderstood a lot. Just because I see the world from so many perspectives and have so many ideas It doesn't mean I actually think everything I say is right. I see things others don't and this is amazing. I just recently realised this. It's hurts when people don't take time to actually listen to and understand how my brain works. My intentions are always good, I want to help people. And this stays with me.

Wow, wow, wow. This is SO me. Amazing. Thank you for covering this very important topic. I just gave myself the "self-test" found on your blog, and I passed with flying colors. The only questions that didn't resonate with me were the ones that seemed to be asking in so many words if I was an introvert.

Can anyone speak about ambiverts?

i'm just now learning about being an hsp, i just thought i was too sensitive for my own good. but i didn't think being an hsp would work for me because i'm extroverted, and this finally made the puzzle pieces fit. it's really hard being like this, i feel almost empty if i'm not socializing and i worry a lot that my friends don't even like me if they don't want to hang out. but i'm really good at feeling what others feel and i always want to help, but i feel bad when someone wants to talk about my feelings, because they're always so intense so i don't want to burden them, even if i'd do the same for them. it's really complicated, but i hope i can learn to live better now

I love this series, thank you so much for taking the time to make it. I'm an extroverted HSP, and since finding out, everything makes so much more sense! I've always been sociable, and usually the last one up, but as you say I need breaks and alone time to stop being overwhelmed. I'm also picky about where I go now (always have been, but I thought I was just being awkward/snob-ish). I can't stand large, generic noisy venues with no soul. I find it hard to block out loud people talking stupidly, and no matter how many times I hear "just ignore them" I just can't do it; it's like they're shouting in my ear. I always take a long time to get ready before going out too; it annoys my wife and friends, but they're sort of used to it now! But for me it's an essential part of the night, getting my headspace right and taking my time to get centred, and getting enough 'me time' so I can focus my energy outward when I'm socialising. I even went off for a 5 minute lie down in the middle of my own wedding reception! It's a very intense day, and a few minutes to reset helped reduce the overwhelm.

So true. In my case I love socializing and having my alone time. Often when I really want to socialize and enjoy it a lot I get tired quite quickly. But I still want to socialize and it is still a lot of fun so I try to ignore my tiredness. Like as If there is your favourite movie and you want to see it but you ate reaaaally tired.

Sounds like a great personality for being a social media manager. Lots of control on which social events you participate in and you still set your own hours.

Thank you for speaking to extroverted HSP's! I can definitely relate to this even more than any episode (although they are all great)!! 💜

That's me exactly! I feed off other people's influence & inspiration. Good people can keep laughter in my life as well. And like you, if I'm alone too long, I also procrastinate. But people can get on my nerves or the constant loud jibber-jabber (especially if it's not intelligent) makes me nauseous & then I seek SOLITUDE! I do love to be surrounded & interact with people from time to time but I have to have my personal moments for stretches at a time too. Alot of alone time causes me to feel depressed. I'm seen as confident & strong but I actually become insecure if the situation is uncomfortable for me. This is when I need peace & regeneration!

I learnt to be extroverted, i love being by myself, i could live alone for long time. But once in awhile I love connecting with different people! People are lovely, even if they could have bad intensions, it is funny to play, ask and interact. But it can also be very dangerous when I starts doubting myself. Also it has been very difficult to cut energy boundaries, but that's something to learn ;)

I could completely relate with the quote from Alan. I am the life of the office, but I never go out socially. I am very friendly and outgoing, so people find it strange that I shy away for most social events. I am considered an extrovert by my family and co-workers..... and probably even strangers that I meet. I jokingly say I could strike up a conversation with a tree. :-) I'm in my element when conversing with others, but I can only be "on" for so long. I treasure quiet time.... reading, nature hikes, looking for rocks, sitting by the creek, interacting with animals, stargazing, etc. It recharges my batteries. On a scale of 1 to 10, I'd say I'm a 7 on the extroverted side. Perhaps there are many of us who fall somewhere in between. As all HSP's know, It's difficult being so sensitive. I refer to it as a double edged sword. The positive side is there are so many wonderful qualities that we possess. When I feel overwhelmed by the "negative" traits, I remind myself to be thankful for the positive. Thank you for posting these videos. It's nice to know that I am not alone.

I would love it if you did some additional podcasts on extroverted HSPs. I found this video to be so helpful! While I'm able to pull a lot of information from your podcast, many times things don't apply to me because I'm not an introvert. Thanks for your work!

I am an EHSP, and "walking a tightrope" is a perfect description.

OMGGGGGGG - no wonder narcs hunt me down with military precision to steal my light all the time ._.

beautiful description on an extrovert hsp! I can totally relate!

This is how I am I love talking to people like at a bar at a party or even with my coworkers. But I also love to go home and just sit and not do much socializing unless with my fiancé. I'm also picky about who I hang out with and have a very small circle of friends I also tend to get tired after social events or even just being around people in general

omg, I was usually a bit cynical when people share they completely find themselves in certain videos, until I saw this one. This is crazy, something just really clicked in my mind and body after seeing this. I finally feel that ok, that means this is normal, and there is no shame in the feeling the way I am feeling. Because it usually is that I this contradiction between being overwhelmed by at, one glance, simple thing, and emotions, being overthinking things all the time, having sensations that literally feels like electricity in my body, that it is even difficult to process at times, but at the same time there is still nee to connect and be around people, experience things and explore, even though it's overwhelming. It usually didn't make sense, because whenever I watched videos about HSP, it always felt that it kind of seems right but at the same time it doesn't, and I was doubting, whoever I am imagining, exaggerating or creating my sensitivity in my mind, feeling a bit like an imposter because of the extroverted needs, like socializing and exploring together... But now it makes much much more sense and does feel right. Thank you for this video.

I've always been an extrovert; loud, opinionated, emphatic and fiercely independent. But over the last 5 years, I feel like an unsuccessful extrovert. Needing more alone time, less spotlight, more background. More difficult to communicate with new people or old friends, break new territory in situations, or stand up for myself. Is it possible that as you age, you change from extrovert to introvert. Is it possible that a persons sensitivity gets intensified as you get older? I feel like this is probably why I am an unsuccessful extrovert.

Hello here's my experience. Whenever i'm alone i spiral to negative thoughts, so i hang out with my friends to regulate these thoughts. After hanging out with the people (that I have deep connection with) i feel so happy and energized to do my tasks. While i'm doing my tasks, i prefer working alone so that I can stay focused, because sometimes my friends distracts me. There are also certain people that drains me, these are people who likes to provoke other just to see their reaction and also people who loves argument. I took the mbti test and guess what.... i'm an ENFJ! ahk

Well put. I recently found out about all this. Being an extroverted Empath absolutely emotional sensitive and unaware ... Hell of a rollercoaster ride

I thought I was an enigma but now I’m relieved to know I’m an extroverted HSP 😅

This explains my boyfriend so well, thank you for this helpful video! I am an introverted HSP and I am so happy to have someone like this.

This is so me! 🙋🏽‍♂️ I've always described myself as a "people person" I honestly try not to be alone and I love meeting new people it gives me such a energy boost specially when meeting people who are likeminded and positive. Don't get me wrong I definitely enjoy being alone as well because it gives me time to reflect on myself and what I have going on at the moment. Now being an extrovert has its pros and cons. Pros: would be I can adapt to my surroundings and working with people and communicating comes natural Cons: I'm very gullible when meeting new people and I wear my heart on my sleeve which can be a big mistake when entering a room full of strangers. It's a struggle but with age I have learned to pick up new skills to improve myself as a HSP. I wouldn't have it any other way. Thanks for the videos!

I'm an HSP who enjoys parties/socialising but can only cope with spending time with family/friends once or twice a week as I need a lot of alone time to recover or prepare myself. I avoid phone calls because they are especially exhausting - I think many of my friends think I'm just being rude - but it's mostly to do with self preservation.

Fairly extroverted but very highly sensitive sums me up I think.

So true. People expect me to be joining events Kore often and do not understand why I need alone time. Because I am en extrovert but hsp. Now I embrace myself. Thank you for sharing so that I do not ask myself am I wierd.

This helped me understand myself better! Thank you.

Yep. It's all true.

Love it, thank you so much

I crave socialising with people and having stronger interactions with social people, but I have limited social skills and don't get on as well as I want with most people. I just feel like I can achieve more and be more happy, but I'm just too scared:/

Me...I need the connections but I have to control how much I get...

I used to think i am an introvert... Seriously i actual got i now that i am hsp extrovert... I do like parties, social events, limited friends hangout And many others things like reading books watching movies and gaining knowledge.

I became cry a lot because of simple difficulties

I am one of them. Thank you.😘

I feel I'm kind of both. I do feel I "miss out" as you said, but I also enjoy being alone mostly. (Without internet and the social media, this would probably change though).

that's why i didn't understand myself for a long time, i think people are still getting hurt sometimes cause they don't understand eather..

When we have a pet, we extraverted HSPs can go longer without interaction with people. I love to have a positive interaction with an interesting, exciting person but I often get overexcited and can't think straight because of the over-stimulation. I need to be in control of when I get attention. Any situation where I feel I'm being judged, makes be so nervous I start shaking especially my hands.

Looks like i am both: Introvert and Extrovert but no clue why i am both? but i like It.

U got it.

Can't believe how this is so me

This is me! So me!

This is SOOOOOOOO me.

That's so me. ^.^

This is why I watch horror movies.

Im one

It doesnt even need to be social.

Aren't you describing an ambivert?