Not impossible you just gotta have confidence, I thought it was impossible too until I did it, just see it as if you can’t make eye contact she won’t fall for you and it’ll make you want to do it so she does fall for you, it’s actually easy in person but I recommend looking away for a second then eye contact again just to regain confidence, staring for too long may be awkward
Dear author of this video, Thank you. I’ve been cursed with strabismus (crossed eye or lazy eye) for my whole life, for 17 years I struggled to look into people’s eyes and broke eye contact as soon as someone looked at me. Watching videos like “how to be more charismatic” “how to seem confident during job interviews” “how to make your crush fall in love with you” and hearing all of them say that eye contact is the key broke my heart. Last week I finally got my eye surgery. This is the first video I’m watching to practice and make up for years of not being able to keep eye contact. When I tell you I couldn’t keep myself from blushing, giggling and smiling… It feels heavenly. Thank you for this amazing experience! Now I can’t wait to go outside and not stop looking into people’s eyes!
This is so wholesome and sympathetic until that very last sentence but it's obviously not intended to come off as creepy as it does, lol. Congrats, my friend
Let's be real, we aren't here to practice our eye contact are we? We're here...to feel. To imagine a connection with a girl, to put ourselves in a place we doubt we'll ever truly be in life. We're here because we are a little lonely in this respect.
I can't help but smile while watching these simply because I see other people smiling back. It's weird. The eye contact is no problem, it's just I keep uncontrollably smiling. Not sure if that's a normal thing or bad thing.
That's exactly the whole biological point of smiling. To connect with other people. Yes, you didn't hear a joke, you didn't find the situation amusing in any way, you just saw someone smiling and uncontrollably smiled in response. It works as intended.
"The Kubrick Stare" is one of director Stanley Kubrick's most recognizable directorial techniques. A method of shot composition where a character stares at the camera with a forward tilt, to convey to the audience that they are at the peak of their derangement
I'm here like.. "Woman I can't look you in the eye. I've been shaped by pain and violence. I'm not attuned to compassion, care or love. I'm the perfect warrior, cold and ruthless. I live by my strength alone, uninhibited by foolish emotion!"
@@ford5982 wish I had a room.. I live in an attic. But yesterday I went to the beach with my friend. HOWEVER. I did spend most of my life in a dark room yes.
This video made me realise 2 things: 1. There is an insane amount of beautiful people. Like i knew this, but this video made me really think about how beautiful us humans are. And that looking at their eyes you see more of the person than actually looking up and down their whole body. 2. I really don't think i am beautiful, inside and outside, and i need to work on that. And i would love to meet someone that loves me too when i have more confidence in myself.
You are beautiful. Everyone is beautiful. You should learn to love yourself first and then others, please do not think that way. I'm sure you're a good person
@@gaqueglowl Thanks for the wise and kind words! It's easy for me to think about and take in what others say, but the real journey is internal self love. Need to learn to love myself without thinking about others, we all do.
My ex girlfriend cheated on me about 4 years ago. I forgave her. The day she broke up with me we went to the park and she just started shouting at me for no reason. I didn't know what was going on. I got all those judgemental looks and I just went home, i didn't even take the bus, I just walked home. I proceeded to not leave my flat for a straight 2 years except for my lectures. About one year ago i found those training- videos and I am planning on going out tomorrow for the first time in two years and 4 months. I don't know what it will be like and to be honest, I am scared. If anyone wants to know how it was like and how it felt for me, please respond to my comment. I will gladly share my experience with you.
Your ex had some negative impact on you, in a way she changed the way you see other people and the world for a while. I hope you find the beautiful people who see you.＼＼\\٩( 'ω' )و //／／
Cuando una persona está hablando siempre me miran a los ojos y eso me causa nervios, trato de mirar hacia otro lado para no hacer contacto visual con el o ella, siento que es extraño...
I have received more visual affection from Women in just two minutes of this video, then I have ever received in all my nineteen years roaming this earth. I truly am quite pathetic. :(
Just so you know in order to make this video I have got lots of judging looks when I approached different people. You just saw the good part. In real life it's the good mixing with the bad. It's normal.
Please don’t tell me I’m not the only one while watching in the middle of this video, it made me cried in a joyful way. When you think about it as you view them, this is like the true happiness we wish to seek and this world deserve more people like them
While watching the first clip i really imagined how’d would feel to be with a girl…I’ve never been into serious contact with women since i’m a practing muslim living in the middle east.
OMG!!! Thank you for this! Please ignore those posters who don't find value in this! This is life changing, I can FEEL it! Looking in the eyes of others has always terrified me, and I believe this is why: I was raised by mentally ill sexually abusive parents (and their effed up friends) . Growing up, making eye contact meant being seen, so I avoided it whenever possible, I was always avoiding attention by looking down and wanting to get away and hide. Avoiding eye contact became a SURVIVAL mechanism for me. As an adult, I've missed out on so many opportunities (both personal and professional) to connect with humanity because of this one thing! I can't even maintain eye contact with my boyfriend or best friends without a lot of anxiety and fear. Watching this video I was in tears the whole time and could only make it through about ten minutes of this...I'm still crying as I type. I feel in my heart this will help me!!! I can already feel long held threats fading. I cannot tell you how grateful i am. Immersion/exposure therapy!! Cant wait to see your other videos. Thank you! Love it! Going to your patreon now.
I’ve always struggled with eye contact, I feel like I’m looking at them for too long in a creepy way if I don’t look away most of the time and it sucks
I don't know why the second girl's gaze just hypnotized me I know it's a RU-vid video and it's just on a screen but For some reason I still couldn't help but smile back
In reality if you just look at someone you know and show some curiosity that person will feel better being or talking to you. We all want to be look at and want someone to show interest in us. We want people to be curious about us.
@@TheLibraryOfEmotions Hi, first of all thanks for your video. I was wondering the name of the first song of this video, could you help me with that ? Thank you !
Thank you for posting this. I don't have a wife yet and feel lonely often; I long to be in love, to share a relationship with someone. This video eases that pain just a bit, makes me imagine what true love is like. When Christ sends me the right woman, the fires of my heart will flow through my eyes and warm her own heart.
Look in others eyes, and your eyes can have a conversation without words. It takes practice, it's worth it and gets easier as you gain more confidence.
You know before the phrase simp was even a thing there was a trend called social interaction where ppl looked at each other and spoke... 🤔 I think it's called communication and interaction! I know it sounds prehistoric but it was a thing and still is a thing you should try it sometime. It may help with your vocabulary. Call it simping all you want to but it's normal to look at someone who is attractive and make eye contact it was a way to call upon a mate in 10,000 B.C. back when we had spears and ooga booga 😂
I have ADHD and I really hope that this eye contact practice helps me with my chronic condition. I feel that when I look in their eyes, I can feel my attention span improve a bit.
I will post some more sophisticated videos like " Pretending to be nice", "I honestly don't care about you" ,"Are they looking at me?" and "I wish you could get to know the real me", so you can see more deep emotions people have in their eyes, and you might eventually be curious about people and forget about your anxiety.
60 seconds in and this is alredy more female attention and affection than I've ever received in my life (mom don't count). Women must consider me less than human.
I had to cry cause I just saw the beauty in all human beings with all their flaws and weaknesses but united in the purity that is in each one's heart. The music also fits perfectly into this. Thank you for creating this beautiful video 🙏🏽❤️
I've never had a problem with eye contact during conversations. I have extreme social anxiety but eye contact isn't a trigger, thankfully. But this video made me cry, too. Mostly because I don't think anyone has ever looked at me the way these people are looking at this camera. Must be a hell of a camera. Certainly a hell of a group of actors and actresses.
I came her after watching a meme and the girl in it was so fine..after an hour of search i finally found it.. she's here..the effort was worth it...NEW CRUSH UNLOCKED
I never felt so genuine, just by looking at someone's eyes. I never felt the urge of wanting to cry tears, more than ever before. I never felt so... happy yet with a lingering sorrow, of how harsh but kind, life has been to me. I am grateful to be able to lower my guard, and be a bit vulnerable, it's refreshing really. It made me realize how distant I am with everyone, including my family, I am grateful for having good friends that I can call, a family, but I don't even deserve any, with the amount of hatred I have accumulated, in order to be so... cold and distant. It brought tears knowing that, I can bring my humanity back, but it is extremely scary! and I don't know if I ever want to be true to myself, as I used to be as a kid, The kind and jolly, the kid who spreads positivity regardless of circumstances, the hope I was to others, that needed the most... I just don't know, it is so conflicting and I have never been this much pain before, I never even open up properly to friends, and I have never told any of my major problems to my family either, they have the right to know, but I am just... lost. I might not change, I might not recover, I might not do anything of great impact, but... if you are reading this, don't stop pursuing the simplest or hardest of goals, I had felt more accomplishment doing mundane task like cleaning, than I did when I graduated from highschool. spare a minute or two, of your time, to appreciate; to compliment, and show how much you love your parents and siblings (friends too if needed be), even if they don't take it seriously. Do not stop being kind, but put boundaries, save yourself, and your reputation. Do not stop giving, do it once every now and then, be it food or money, it is preferable you give it to a reliable charity, or you do it yourself, and others who might want to help a cause. Smile, towards everyone, care less of how people think, care more of how people act, when they see you full of joy, every single time. Laziness had been a big part of me, it affected me greatly during my school days, I changed once I have entered university, I reflected back, looking at the one who's responsible, me, myself and I only, I have caused this, no shame in admitting to it, the moment I realized, is the moment I get myself to act together. I am currently 18, and I have never felt like myself, even after all of this, is it just pure emptiness? did I condition myself to be this way after years of isolation and self-loathe? Will I ever be successful? Will I ever be this or that? Perhaps not, but one thing for sure, is that I am content, not with living, but with knowing that, there's something for me later in the afterlife, I won't murder myself intentionally, that is what it means to commit suicide, but I'll just live a normal life, although I had so many desires of going on an adventure, to become a youtuber, for the fun of it, to do genuine things, for once, I might have told half-truth to my friends and family, but I'll eventually come clean, and I hope that I am not too late.
Life is like a rose, you have no rose without a thorn, but a diligent picker will avoid the pricks and gather the flower. Remember that all isn't bad, when a door closes, another opens. Love yourself, and carry on.
I don't know why I find it hard to keep eye contact with people hopefully this video helps and I love how diverse the eyes are imagine if everyone had the same type of eye shape and colour how boring it would be God has made them all beautiful
From my experience(Introvert with PTSD): If you're struggling with eye contact in "Real-Life" it may be due to conditioning of your brain mapping you have contributed to by self-esteem deficiency or past rejection/abuse. CBT and exposure practice seems to be very effective according to published studies. This virtual practice of allowing yourself to look at someone without fear of judgement can train your brain into being comfortable and actual reverse the need to avoid eye contact in public, especially with attractive people (ie; intimidation). Most CBT exercises seem trivial or mundane at first but with time and repetition can create significant confidence and the possibility to overcome phobias/fears.
Totally agree! For me (formerly abused child) making eye contact meant being seen and I just wanted to hide. I feel what you are saying is important and true! I feel intense fear and shame and sadness just looking virtually into these people's eyes in this video. This is retraining my brain, i feel it! I know CBT means Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, but don't know what it means...more research. Anyway, thanks for that comment. So many posters here don't understand
Only thing missing from this video was babies. They have the most affectionate looks on their faces when they look at their moms. We could learn a lot from that.
I couldn't make eye contact after the pandemic probably due to loneliness. I watched this video and It really helped now I watch it every day thank you.
There was a waterfall near us, such a lovely thin streak of water, like a thread but white and moving. It fell from a great height, but it looked quite low, and it was half a mile away, though it did not seem fifty paces. I loved to listen to it at night, but it was then that I became so restless. Sometimes I went and climbed the mountain and stood there in the midst of the tall pines, all alone in the terrible silence, with our little village in the distance, and the sky so blue, and the sun so bright, and an old ruined castle on the mountain-side, far away. I used to watch the line where earth and sky met, and longed to go and seek there the key of all mysteries, thinking that I might find there a new life, perhaps some great city where life should be grander and richer--and then it struck me that life may be grand enough even while staring at moving pixels on a tv screen.
I'm autistic and have alot of trouble with maintaining eye contact with someone during a conversation, especially with a girl. Hopefully this helps me improve :)
I remember watching this when I was 18 and crying. I was going through a really bad time and trying to fill my life with something good through the internet, trying to get rid of the feeling of loneliness and anxiety. And at every such moment tears flowed. I tried to fill the emptiness in my soul with people and things that I never had in my life...
I really am this far gone. It's not even loneliness anymore, I barely feel bitter. Hollow is too edgy, but. There's nothing left there. Nothing to put into therapy, nothing to drug, just enough to act like someone alive.
Something is different in real life, when you look at eyes its like some kind of energy connects you to the person your speaking to, like your in your own bubble.
За 21 год своей жизни так и не познал что значит быть искренне любимым, не видел такого огонька во взгляде. Бля даже здесь столько искренности от незнакомых мне людей.
Eyes are window into the Soul. I felt a wide range of things through these people. Some look very happy and content. And with some there is a sadness, notifying me that they’re holding onto some sort of trauma. I can see God in all of them. What a cool concept and video. Thanks for sharing.
It's fynny to picture god, the mighty creator and ruler of all creatures, pulling up eye contact practice videos when all the angels asleep or something lmao.
I just started crying, the sadness was there before but something about feeling like someone was looking at me like that just made me feel safe enough to let go. I miss having Women in my life, I'm surrounded by Men and they just don't make sense to me.
I am unstoppable. I don't even see eyes as being parts of other human beings anymore; all I see are targets for me to weaken with my glare. No one dares stand in my way, for a moment of eye contact with me is akin to staring directly into two burning suns. Those who dare oppose me are rewarded with nothing but shriveled resolves and a lacking sense of self. At this point, I don't even blink when watching videos such as these; my eyes are saturated simply by the thought of being absolute. I discourage anyone from watching every eye contact video out there - like me - since this world could not possibly sustain two of us. Pray we never meet and well wishes from the ophthalmic top.
