As a trans boy, I cannot possibly explain the amount of joy I get from being called by my name or called 'he'. Even now, I still get all excited when it happens
Using “Hearing your voice when it’s recorded back on a phone” was such an amazing analogy for dysphoria. While I am not trans myself, I can most certainly relate to that feeling of realizing that something you were always comfortable with isn’t what you thought it was like to other people in that way. I understand dysphoria very much more clearly now.
Idk. Being trans myself, that doesn't ring true at all. Hearing my phone voice does evoke this weird feeling because I sound different, but it's nothing like how I felt about my then-male body. I was just apathetic and unhappy. It didn't feel like it was "not mine" (even though my expression was and is so feminine, many people thought I was gay growing up, which hilariously enough, is correct, just... Not a gay man)
I am cis, but this is the analogy I use - let me know if I got it right! Put your hands together and interlace your fingers. Now interlace them the other way (so the other thumb ends up on top). There is no logical reason, but it just feels all wrong and you will immediately want to switch back so your preferred thumb is on top.
Seriously.... Esp bc mine is so freaking deep compared to how I hear it normally.... Like wat. Makes me sympathize so hard.... It freaks me out. And almost as much as the stuff I still struggle with with asd and adhd *takes a long drink*
As a trans man, I would like to say that I now worship the stingray. Transfemmes have blåhajs, and I personally will be buying a stingray plushie at the next available moment. Thank you for coming to my TedTalk
Highly recommend getting a little stingray that has suction cups on the fins so you can hang it on your window or mirror. (Or magnets to put it on the fridge.) I really like stingrays :3
As a cis male Norwegian... my viking beard definitely helps in the winter months. Had to shave it for surgery once... it felt like I'd suddenly removed a scarf keeping me snug and warm.
I’m 15, figured out I was trans at 12. My parents think I’m “choosing” to be trans because it’s trendy and always speak w me about how evil and bad trans ppl are, ignoring the fact that I am. My friends are extremely supportive and I have had some amazing adults in my life. I just wish my parents would learn to love me, not for being their sweet little girl, but for being their son. My father has hinted to a possibility of him being so uncomfortable about me transitioning that I wouldn’t be involved in anything family related once I move out. Including seeing my little brother (turning 6 in march) who he’s already pushing his ideals onto.
Hang out with your brother as much as you can, I hope even when you can't see him anymore, he'll have a positive image of you despite your parents influence. Really hope you two can be like Barney and his little brother from Dead End.
Wtf are you my clone? This is on point of what’s happening in my life, I have an older brother though who has in a sense been through less so he is like a younger brother to me, very good dude though. I agree with the other person, enjoy the time you can around your brother and if he knows you are a good person he might ask to visit in the future or stuff like that! I wish you luck!
Honestly, I can understand them. I wouldn't want my kids to transition until they aren't underage anymore, when I look back and think about the things I considered reasonable a few years ago I can just shake my head in disbelief. Detransitions do happen, but by that point the damage is already done and it's not possible to restore everything fully as far as I know.
@@lucad9667 Not letting them see their brother again seems out of character if the parents' concern was their older son's health in the future though. Plus we have professionals who make sure it is dysphoria and is unrelated to trauma, depression etc.
One thing I saw on tumblr recently that put transitioning and being trans into perspective for me is, That instead of going "am I really a man? Do I really belong to this gender?" To go "Would I be happier living as a man right now?" And like... I think I am random internet user. I think I would. So, keep that in mind for when the impostor syndrome hits. If it makes you happier then it's worth it. If it makes your life better you deserve to go for it. Let yourself.
This previous thanksgiving, one of my cousins came out as trans at the family dinner (female to male) His dad looked at him and said "You are no longer my daughter." We all froze, thinking it would get ugly but just a few seconds later he followed up that statement with a calm and collected "You are now my son." Feels good man
I'm a transmasc and i was at a resturant with my mom and the waitress looked at her and said "what a handsome son you have" the waitress apeered to be around 60. But that was the best moment of my life.
19:13 the little story there really get me... I (cis woment) was the first one to take my (trans)girlfriend shopping for more female outfits. I was NOT LIKE THAT AT ALL, because I would hate that my fear block her from doing stuff, but I was really worried that we'll have bad reaction around us... In the end, it was quite nice ^^ We had a waistress (?) measuring her to help her find bra her size that did absolutly no comment. One that went "how the dress lady and gents?" to which I answer "Perfect, it really fit the other LADY ^^ !" and she just went "oh sorry, I should have pay more attention!" But yeah... Hate the transphobia cause I just want her to be safe (and not feeling afraid for us when we're ouuuuut)
I just asked my boyfriend (laughing) "Would you love me if I was a worm" and he said dead serious "No. But I would put you outside in some good soil and feed you with food leftovers" and I feel like that is the ultimate answer 😂😂
Fun fact. Worms mainly consume dirt and shit it out to fertilize it. They can eat rotting dead things too sometimes but their diets are usually 90% or more just dirt.
I (a trans girl) looked up "wholesome trans memes" to stop myself from spiraling, I was on the verge of a full breakdown do to dysphoria and this video really really helped, I don't know what that 22 minutes would have looked like but I know it would have been much darker, thank you.
Confused person (?) sending you love and support from afar ! Hope you're doing better ! Personally these trans memes are making me spiral in a rabbit hole of "oohhhhh maybe that's me" all over again (last time being back when I discovered asexuality a few years ago)
3:03 As a trans enby, I must say I do not summon demons on the bathroom. I only summon demons at the beach, where there's more space to them to arise. Edit: Turns out I'm a trans boy, BUT THE POINT STANDS.
THIS COMMENT I can’t believe the amount of people who don’t understand our logic! Who cares if we want to colonize the whole New England coast?! Pansexuals get Poland, Asexuals get Denmark, why can’t we get New England’s coast!?
Me at 16: *Wears girly clothing but constantly says I'm cis guy* Me at 26: *Frantically runs to my husband* I HAVE TITTIES!!!! My husband: *Blank stare cause this is the billionth time I've said it*
The pickles thing does make so much sense now. Before I transitioned (FTM), I used to get horrible, horrible cramps and I used to easily go through 3 or more jars of pickles a week. (I never did get an actual diagnosis but we think that it was PCOS.) It was literally a running gag in my family because when we'd go to the store, I'd literally put an absurd number of jars in the cart. There were so many "well, if we ever forget to buy you a present, we can always get a Costco sized jar of pickles" jokes. A few months after I started T, my, uh, monthly visitor stopped visiting and, literally that same month, I stopped craving pickles all the time. Now I have one family member (who is accepting) who is trying to get a new running joke started that too many pickles will make you grow a, well, "pickle" and I have another family member (transphobe) who thinks, for some reason, that if I just start eating pickles again, I'll "grow out of this phase" even though I'm almost 30... Those two family members are siblings too so that's fun lmao. Totally gonna share that fact with my family just to see how it changes the pickle dynamic because I enjoy the chaos.
Make sure you still check in with a doctor about your "visitor" since there can be complications. I know that cis women shouldn't go more than 3 months unless there's hormonal therapy (like birth control) but it's still worth checking that you're healthy. Not sure how T affects it. Just be careful and healthy!
@ppleeatpple That's not usually a concern in the case of T, but I appreciate the concern! If you're interested in learning about it, one of the very expected (and usually anticipated) changed with T is actually that the cycle stops completely. Usually, within a couple of months to a year, but the time range can vary from person to person. It's very similar to the effect of birth control because T is also hormonal therapy, just with a different goal, lol. There definitely can be complications or problems, but that's more case-by-case and not general rule, though. It's still recommended to get the appropriate exams (like PAPs, etc), at least unless a doctor recommends otherwise or you've had surgery that means not needing them. A lot of times (depending on where you get it,) the same place that prescribes the T will also do those exams so watching the health of those body parts is kind of baked into the whole treatment plan. How often the exams are needed can also change after T, but I can't speak for everyone's cases, obviously. I know that for me, they initially did the exams yearly, but after my last exam, they said 5 years until I needed another. I'm planning on having surgery before then, though, in which case, they've said no more exams will be needed (obviously lol. It'd be like asking to get the oil changed in an electric vehicle) There are myths/assumptions that say that HRT or any gender affirming care is just "here's some meds/surgery/letters (for legal documents). Have fun," but it's far more in-depth than that. I get bl**dwork done every 3-6 months (3 for the first year every time I have to change docs, 6 months after that, until I change docs again) and they keep track of a lot of different things. The doctors and nurses are keeping a good eye on us, so don't worry about us! Like I said, though, I appreciate the reminder/concern!
@@wolfoftheages The effects of T on menstrual cycles are so weird. My friend had a period for like 4 weeks straight when he was 1-2 months on T and he's good now but damn. I also have PCOS and what he went through was what I was like before I went on birth control for it. I've met so many transmasc people who have PCOS, though! Like the "masculinising" effects of PCOS actually affirm our body image, even before we realise we're trans. I'm kinda wanting to get off of the pill because I like my hairy self, but that would involve explaining my transmasc intentions behind that want. It would also sound like I'm "choosing to be infertile" or something to my older relatives so that's a no. I love your pickle story, too. Stay awesome and good luck with your future transition goals! :)
Wait…I love pickles. I’ve eaten them a lot since I was a kid. And after running out for years I started feeling gender dysphoria and having worse and worse cramps. Huh. I didn’t know that.
Haha, 7:50 I’m trans nonbinary, and I realized theres no nonbinary word for aunt/uncle, so I told my cousins (lived with them as a foster kid for years) to just tell there kids to call me gruncle like from gravity falls. Love it.
I've been asking myself the same question about how to call myself in french now that my bestie has a baby ! Between Tata & Tonton I chose ....... Tonti :D
My uncle (who is gay) after I told him I was gender fluid he realised there were no niece and nephew equivalents so he came up with nieve for nieve/nephew and aunk for uncle/aunt
Devin is an awesome name. I remember before I realised I was enby and I thought I was transmasc, I went by Devin for a while! Epic name, and I hope you're able to start transitioning at your first opportunity
Hi everyone! It was a math joke, and I can’t see anyone else explaining it so: The number 2.71828 is an irrational number similar to pi. This number is denoted with the letter e, hence it’s presence on the trans subreddit. The use of the variable e is created from the guy who discovered it, Euler, which is why it is also referred to as Euler’s number. E is often used in solving logarithms/logarithmic equations. Thanks for letting me babble about math!
I don't think cis people understand just how hard it is to hear your deadname constantly. no one irl calls me by the name I chose, despite knowing it. but when I started using Joey online, it was such a mood lifter to see people start calling me joey, to the point that I was crying from how good it felt. I've always liked J names so I don't understand why it took me this long to realize that one was perfect for me. also, you know it's bad when someone on a game, a complete stranger, stands up for me and tells the lobby to use the correct pronouns for me. and when I tell her that I'm used to not being referred to with the right pronouns, she (once again a STRANGER) had to remind me that I shouldn't be used to it. even though I'll probably never talk to her again, I'm really glad that she reminded me that
that is really cool! i am a cis girl but changed my name because of family trauma reasons. still getting "deadnamed" by my family and most of the students in my year. i can understand how hard it must be to deal with always being called by a name you don't feel comfortable with, and it really sucks to hear that you are getting deadnamed by others despite them knowing it. my name change is not connected to gender dysphoria but i guess i can understand a part of the insecurity connected to it. i guess i was able to see how hard it already was for me even though i only changed my name. with dysphoria on top of that, it must be really painful. whatever you are going through, you are not alone and i hope it will become better concerning whatever you will become. from a random stranger on the internet.
Yeah a hundred percent. I relate so hard to this. Just hearing the right name and pronouns is such a difference. Like your body slowly realising that it doesn't have to expect a punch every time. That it does get some rest. I was so numb to how much pain I was constantly in because of this. Like, hearing my correct name over and over again allowed me to notice that pronouns do cause pain too and then having people refer to me with my chosen pronouns helped me realise how much that was hurting me in my everyday life. It's... It's a gutpunch. And the body and brain are slowly learning that they can relax. So even if misgenders hurt more now, it also means I'm in so much less pain ususally. Hold on to these positive experiences. And hold your ground with your family and friends (if that's a possibility for you, as always safety comes first). Especially my dad had problems with getting my name and pronouns right until I literally told him I had enough. I feel the pain of correcting people but it's so much better than not standing up for yourself. The people around you take direction from you, they'll let it slide if you let it slide. (I say, mostly to myself because I too have problems with this. Nothing hurts more than having to correct someone and draw attention to it)
Hi! Trans man here! I am 15 and not on hormones or anything at all because my guardian is transphobic. But I remember when I was sick and my voice went REALLY deep. I recorded it on my phone and I remember the euphoria of when I heard that I sounded like a cis boy my age. Being sick is the best thing ever. And I ruined my voice by singing in a Kermit voice for 3 hours. So now it it permanently deeper. Makes me really happy :)
You sound like someone my mom knows. My mom is always half joking about adopting them, because there guardian will literally kill them if they find out their under the rainbow. I hope you can find someone like that to help you out of the situation your in.
Be careful with your voice work, it's entirely possible to damage your vocal cords if you do it wrong... Try looking up some voice training guides for trans mascs, they'll guide you through it safely...
I just came out as trans male and my friend who was just ok with int yesterday got mad at me and said "why can't you just be a girl? Why can't you just be normal? God made you a girl so that's how it's supposed to be." I've told him before about how I'm confused about my gender and how I'm scared of people telling me that. I broke out in tears and my friend Alex comforted me. These videos help me alot on days like today❤
Jan, dude... I'm sorry that your "friend" was a transphobic piece of shit. I hope that you're doing okay now and that you and Alex are having a good day today 🫂
@@eboone No, no. Fuck people who use god making you as an excuse to be transphobic, or homophobic, or use it for any kind of discrimination. If god made him, god made him to be trans.
even though i haven’t even started transitioning, some people call me sir, (i dress in only boy clothes lmao). and when those sweet elderly ladies call me “young man”, my heart just melts!!
When I (trans ftm) was at a gas station with my (cis male) friend, we went to check out and the clerk said “will that be all for you boys?” And that literally made my day..
15:12 - I case anyone was confused like @One Topic, the number 2.71728 is an approximation for the irrational number "Euler's Number" represented in formulas as a lowercase e. It is not quite as famous as the number π, but it shows up in nature a lot, especially when dealing with logarithmic expressions.
@@John_Weiss - ikr? That has to be the most incredible relationship between "special" numbers that show up all over nature that I have ever seen. I've read through the proof that demonstrates the truth of the equation too, and it is amazing that someone discovered this relationship. I'm decent at maths, but this was some serious big brain thinking to even consider this relationship true.
As a Swede, it always amuses me that people pronounce Blåhaj as "blah-hah" because Google Translator doesn't realize there's a space missing between the words. They sound nothing alike and yet it fills me with such joyous glee much like hearing a toddler say "shawk-vets" instead of chocolate.
J is just a replacement for Y most of the time if you're talking about English vs Swedish pronunciations. Also Click is Swedish and pronounces it almost the same as OneTopic so like... I think you might wanna reconsider your comment.
Wait, why would the J make the sound of like 'gem' or 'jeans' when that's normally a Y sound in Swedish (like German), like the Y in yellow. As far as I can tell Swedish 'haj' is pronounced basically like what it looks like, which'd sound similar to 'high' in English. Is it a dialectal pronunciation you're meaning?
@@wilhelmseleorningcniht9410not sure what you mean. I speak Swedish and the letter J and the letter Y sound nothing alike. We don’t use Y as a replacement for J, we do however some times use G, gj, hj, dj, lj depending on which letter comes after (vowel or consonant). Like for example: gift (married/poison), gjort (done), hjärta (heart), djur (animal), ljus (light/candle) - all starts with a J - sound.
DUDE! The voice thing is SUCH A GOOD EXAMPLE! I'm not trans, but I know EXACTLY what it feels like to hear my voice and get embarrassed because it doesn't sound like how I hear it.
A friendly reminder to everyone that you are valid, you are valued, you are loved, your opinion is valid and valued, and you are appreciated. Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise, and I hope you have an amazing rest of your day because you deserve it 💜
I'm cis, but I was asked the question 'What would you do if you were a man for a day?' (which... you know what they mean) and I think that's the closest to dysphoria I'll ever get. It made me really uncomfortable. When I said as much, I got the response 'wow, you must really hate men', like, no, I just would be very uncomfortable in a different body. People really weird me out when they relate being trans to being sexist, it's like saying I hate plus sized people because I want to lose some weight. Or like, 'gosh i hate being poor' 'Oh, so you hate poor people?!' Doesn't make any sense :l
Personally as someone who was morbidly obese for 5 years until losing 70+ pounds in a few months after I cut out a toxic family member, I don't hate fat people, but I do hate when people try to normalize obesity by calling "plus size". It's actively harmful because being fat by choice is retarded. I know because *_I was_* fat by choice. I corrected my mistake after watching my step dad (who was the only father figure I ever had) spiral into obesity, which turned into diabetes, which then caused neuropathy, which caused him to become paraplegic and blind. All the while he'd blame others for his problems, and then say things "I'll put a whole cake away! You know I'm a fat kid at heart!" He literally ended up going from being my jolly step dad who would've taken a bullet for anyone in my family to abandoning me and my brother, not telling us when he was put in a nursing home until it after he'd taken himself off the lease of the house we were renting together. Meanwhile, my mother, light of my life as she is, and always has been, has _always_ been fat. Yet she always seeks to keep it under control. She's tried many times to lose her excess weight entirely, but for biochemical reasons that just isn't an option for her. Regardless she always makes it her priority not to gain any more weight so as to minimize her health risks. I don't hate fat people. I hate Obesity, and anyone who would see to normalize it, because that's what turned my dad into a sad sack of shit, and what will always threaten to do the same with my mother.
Closeted Gebderfluid/Enby here. Re-realized my gender this past year (after realizing and then repressing it as a teen cause my mental health was too abysmal to deal with it) and it’s been rough being closeted again. Thank you for this sustenance in this trying time OT. Much love and hugs (if you want hugs) to all my LGBTQ+ peeps who are struggling this time of year. We’ll get thought this!! ❤️💚❤️💚❤️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️💛🤍💜🖤🥰
I am also genderfluid and have this same mentality. I'm glad you were able to realize more of yourself and are able to accept yourself more. You got this and keep going ❤💪 I am semi closeted. Out to some and shut off to others, as I am just tired of having the same conversations about my identities of genderfluid and pan over and over. Let alone the silent workplace discrimination. That said, I am so happy to be at peace with myself even if I have to be cautious around others. To all others in a similar situation, just learn to love yourself. You are truly the only person that will 100% always be there for you. Friends and family come and go. They have their own lives and realities to deal with. But you are there. Always. You're there when you feel alone. You're there when you don't know what to do. Embellish yourself in self love, take a deep breath, and keep on keeping on. You got this. The world can be a beautiful place sometimes, you just got to stick around to see it ❤
I had an argument with someone about trans stuff, and they made a metaphor about how its like being shorter than you want to be, that just because you want to be 7 feet tall instead of 5, doesn't mean you're going to get surgery to fix that. I was, so confused, do they even know about platform boots???? Plus its just a dumb argument to make, like idk man, we live in the modern era, make ur body how you want it. If you've ever heard the lemon demon song "modify", thats the vibe. Do you want to rip all your skin off to replace it with metal? Hell yeah, go wild. Trans? Yes, yes, yes! Boobinator beam 5000! Want to be specifically 7.3 inches taller? Doable and fun!
I came out as nonbinary to my dad this week, and he outright said that if I change my name he will always deadname me on purpose. I went home and cried in bed for 2 days without even getting up to eat...
That is so tough. You are so awesome and brave to come out and your dad is absolutely powerless to change who you are inside. I hope you are eating now. 🍎
I'm so sorry about your dad, but for what it's worth, there are many people out there who will accept you. I hope you can find some and surround yourself with them if you haven't already.
My dude, I finally started in on T on Monday and the next day I felt so boyish and energetic and EUPHORIC, and I’m just so glad that you’ve been a part of my journey so far. Thank you for being such a stalwart ally, OT!
i've found a helpful way to describe dysphoria as something like "It's like how you need glasses to be able to see, or a hearing aid to be able to hear, but in this case you need treatment to be able to not feel like a stranger to yourself."
I love the voice recording example. I'm a performer and also trans, and I promise you all that you *will* hate the sound of your own voice at least the first time, even if you aren't trans. It comes from the fact that we hear our voices differently from everyone else because we're the source of the noise. It's also why it's important for anyone doing voice training to hear themselves in recordings.
thanks for that advice, I will start voice training because my vocal cords are effected from my muscle tone weakness and my voice sound a bit strange from it.
Somewhere, I forget where, I came across an explanation that most people will think their own voices are deeper than others think they are. And it's all because your voice causes extra vibration in your skull that distorts how the bones in your inner ear perceive your own voice. When you hear a recording of yourself, you don't get the extra vibration, so you hear yourself as other do.
The "Tall people don't realize the benefits of being short" ExcUUUUUUUSE ME, Short people don't realize how bad it is to be tall sometimes! I've hit my head against a low doorframe two times today! That is two times more than I have bargained for.
Grass really is always greener. I just want to reach the top shelf of my kitchen cabinets without tempting fate. And I could do without being infantilized by strangers and coworkers, though I think that part is more about misogyny or maybe a combination of the two. But sorry about your head. Hope you didn't hit it in the exact same spot.
I love that Bowsette isn't even (currently) cannon. It's just the fans running wild with the concept of Toadette turning into a copy of Peach because of a crown. I truly hope that it does become cannon in the future, though.
8:33 Same for being a trans man. If you're okay with expressing "feminine" interests, people just accuse you of faking your identity, but if you try to be more masculine, people will say you're "trying too hard" or something similarly stupid.
yea you either get blamed for failing to pass or if you pass then you are a tryhard and a fake trying to fit in too much where you shouldnt. but you should fit in there cuz you aint a fake, and that goes for any kinda situation where you have to prove yourself "worthy" of having a _self assigned title_
omg the meme with freya to fred at 17:00 AHHHHHHHHHH i’ve told people my name is Elliot and they go “cool! good to meet you Ellie!” and i wish they’d just call me a slur
15:21 that’s Euler’s number or e btw. (Euler is highly underrated and I completely understand anyone who doesn’t know him) (also he basically created the basis of all of modern mathematics)
Dear Mr. OneTopic I don't know if you will ever see this, but if you do I hope this letter finds you well. I just want to say thank you. I started watching your videos a few years ago, with a few of the older bi_irl videos. As I explored your videos, you gave me the courage to try on more feminine clothing. Skirt does indeed go spinny. You helped me explore my gender and sexuality. I cannot thank you enough. Thank you for helping me, thank you for raising so much money for the Trevor project, and thank you for sharing laughs across the internet. Thank you for granting me the joy of being a roommate of the channel. May the road rise to meet you, May the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face, The rains fall soft upon your fields. Happy trails and thank yous as big as the sky. Your weirdo and beardo, Wolf
Hi friends! I have something I want to share with everyone because it gives me gender euphoria! I came out to my grandma as nonbinary (they/he) a while ago and now, when she accidentally calls me a girl, stops a moment before saying "I mean, my little boy." I may not fully identify with being a boy but it makes me so happy that she's making an effort.
I installed shinigami eyes, and it's nice seeing who's trans friendly or not. The way the rating works seems to be that once a certain number of people have voted and there's some level of agreement (like if it was 50/50, too inconclusive for a rating), then the rating voted for is applied. It's weird seeing who on youtube the extension marks as trans-friendly, because apparently almost no one has either enough votes or enough agreement to be marked either, so like I scrolled through my home page and only saw three channels marked by it (all trans-friendly): Tom Scott ("There are folks who don't fit into, or don't want to declare as, either of those categories, and if that surprises you, you need to get out more. -source: the outside world"), Hbomberguy ("Gaming" channel, really only does video essays, raised over $370,000 for the transgender charity Mermaids), and Technology Connections (Nice person, don't think I've ever heard them say anything about gender)
Might I recommend Philosophy Tube? Very good channel tries to do a similar thing like here, make a safe environment to talk about stuff, very inclusive.
I am so glad Brooke’s comics made it into this video. I have absolutely been loving them over the past couple months and am glad they’re getting more spotlight
5:07 Personally, I headcannon her as Bi/Pans/anything that means you’re attracted to multiple genders, since the original comic that inspired Bowsette (that is shown 5 seconds later in the video) has her as Bowser being dumped by Peach, but then after she takes the super crown, she’s with Mario. And possibly to make Peach jealous
Hey OT, the number 2.71828… is the equivalent to the mathematical symbol “e.” Just like pi is 3.14159265, e is 2.71828 Also, very excited about a video every day! Should make the first holiday when I’m coming out to the family a bit easier to bear.
Validation from OT about your sexuality or gender identity is like warm sunshine for the soul. I was having a pretty crappy day Cus I’ve been sick for 3 days now, and this video gave me the motivation to get out of bed. Thank you OT, thank you for your positivity and soothing voice!~
As a 6'3 Trans woman, i do understand the benefits of being short in fact i think its superior cuz you can always wear heels or platforms to get that extra height, when i hit the doorframe if i wear heels
Before I admitted to myself I wasn’t cis some kids in my theater class asked me my pronouns and apparently I seemed unsure because they didn’t gender me for the whole year. It always made me happy and I didn’t even know why
I'm having to spend Christmas with my conservative family and I've been deadnamed and misgendered so many times, thank you for posting this when you did
As a trans boy I can confirm I get very excited inside when I’m texting my besties and I’m the only trans person they’ve met and they just casually go “so Nick and I committed arson today” they don’t make it weird and it’s like passing a vibe check from the gender lords
As a trans (mtf) I find these memes very funny and calming and they kind of help with the fact that I can’t take hormones because of my transphobic family
i dunno who needs to hear this but if there’s anything you’re doing that you’re nervous about (trying a new hairstyle, working on a big project, talking to people you don’t usually talk to, whatever) you totally got this!! A lot of times your brain will be dumb and insist that things are gonna be way harder than they really will. And even if things don’t go so well, you did make the effort to do it, and that means a lot
17:50 as a genderfluid AFAB who prefers being perceived as masc, height dysphoria is really bad, but then there's people like you, OT! You always somehow manage to make me not feel so terrible about things like that. You're an incredible ally to the community and an amazing person. Thank you so much for existing 💖
right? I get down about my height a lot because I'm barely above five feet and even where I live that's pretty short for a guy. but being short is great. I can body-check most people with no worries, squeeze into small places easily (and impress people that way lol), and fit into most beds everywhere. also, I get more coverage when hugged or cuddled.
Sex isn't assigned, it's observed. Unless you born with some mutation. But thanks for admitting that you don't actually believe gender is separated from sex.
As a genderfluid person having people who take the time to notice my pronoun pins and use the current pronouns just gives me such a boost. Also, I love my blåhaj so much but that stingray blanket is Extremely Good
@@Me-zz5zy yo i could get behind a nice pair of gender identifying bracelets. pink/red gems and a little carved fem. symbol for female, and then like a black (maybe volcanic rock beads?) and blue sapphire one for male. I like it! ^-^
I honestly was having such a hard week, with impostor syndrome, dysphoria, and all around wondering if I was just a pretender or whatnot, and these videos made me feel a whole lot better and so much more sure of myself :) TY!!!
@@13ubs40 oh, really? I'm very happy about this! I won’t force you to use the translator anymore and will do everything myself😅 I hope that in the future everything will be even better
I just wanted to say. I started my journey to figuring out I was trans through your videos back in March of this year. I started HRT a few days ago. Thank you for everything you do. You changed my life for the better and probably saved my life.
❤ that must feel shitty. You are valid and I hope you can find a place that is safe for you to be yourself. You deserve better than the world is giving you
obsessing over Wednesday and deciding that Xavier is trans in my headcanon and then coming on youtube to find something to watch while I draw that and seeing OT’s just posted a trans memes video?? the stars have aligned ✨✨
The parents misgendering/gendering correctly memes reminded me that the way I got my mother to consider how she refers to me (especially in private), is by comparing it to if I refered to her by her name rather than "mom".
14:42 Shinigami Eyes is Awesome. If you've ever seen a RU-vid video show a transphobic tweet, and the person's name was red, that's Shinigami Eyes. Or if they are a trans activist, they'll show up green. Sadly it isn't available for mobile last I checked. I'm trying to remember who I've seen use it, JammiDodger or Shaba maybe, I'm 3-9s confident I've seen it used by Cass Eris.
i’m a closeted trans woman, and i don’t know how, but i have so many traits i want when i transition. my thighs are thick, my hands are small, i feel like i’m gonna be short, my face is hairless, i happened to be fat and thus have big breasts. i feel so comfy in my skin, yet it still feels wrong.
The "hearing a recording of your voice as an easy to understand way to explain dysphoria" hits close to home 🥺🥺🥺 I remember cringing really hard in, like, 4th grade because my classmate recorded my voice and played it to me. also, that stingray plushie is so cool! (Also, yes, шприц means syringe in russian)
The comic around 3:45 made me realize just how much of my dysphoria is centered around my voice. I know that my voice makes me uncomfortable, but the thought that cis people feel that their voice is familiar AND comfortable kinda just wrecked me, which in a weird way is validating, because I don't really experience other strong feelings of dysphoria, only minor ones. I makes me constantly worried that I'm mistaking normal insecurities for dysphoria, and therefore not actually genderqueer. Thank you OT
As a fish enthusiast, I am extremely excited to tell you that the little fins on the stingray blanket are called claspers, and are one of the main ways to differentiate male skates, rays, and sharks from female ones. Male skates, rays, and sharks have claspers, which are used to hold on to (or clasp!) females while mating. Have a great day!
Hey ot, i know you probably won’t see this but I just wanted to say that I’ve been watching your videos for a little over 2 years now and I love your videos. Your videos have really helped me discover who I was and they’ve always been a safe space and a little escape from reality for me, and always bring a me lot of happiness. Thanks and happy holidays 💜💜
I've used the analogy of hearing your own voice to describing what it is like to be a semi verbal autistic person. I've practiced a lot of public speaking in order to be able to talk to people and also to help me in my goal to become a teacher. I love your videos and if by any chance could you cover Ace memes again. Have a great holiday!
16:46 I also recently read Coraline the book for the first time, and found out *SPOILER* One of the ghost children is also supposed to be trans! When asked if they're a boy or a girl, he says it was a long time ago, but he remembers being dressed up in girl clothes while he was little, but then they gave him boy clothes and that was it for the rest of his life, so he must have been a boy!
@@cirylkershy yeah someone should ask him! I have hopes, because this was not the oldest of the ghosts, in fact, there was this cute/really sad detail of the "oldest" ghost having died something like 300 years prior, and so not really remembering how to do certain normal human things. This boy was more, like, 1900 or 1800 at max?
I watched this hours ago but came back here to vote for the name Pancake for the stingray blankie. Also to thank OT for giving me so much fun stuff to watch to keep my mind off the fact that my SO is in the hospital. Hope you have a wonderful holiday, OT and crew!
saying "sheeesh" ironically is the same as saying anything ironically. it will slowly take over your being and stop being ironic, and you will know it but you will never be able to stop it because it is who you are now.
I just found myself smiling widely and on the verge of tears as your quiet 'outro is coming' music started coming. Thanks OT, you never fail to make my day, and this one is especially meaningful to me. If you manage to do every day I'll start paying for the Netflix subscription for all the roommates. But also, no pressure. Also watching you slowly lose your innocence on these subs has been absolutely hilarious and I will never fail to mention it when I comment.
I don't know what I am but I do know that I have ascended all gender stereotypes. I was born a female and as I got older my voice naturally got lower, it's to the point where it's deeper than the voice of most guys in my grade. Whenever I join voice calls with people I don't know they think I'm a guy. One time I went to a park and two little kids that were siblings came up me and asked if I was a boy or a girl, the brother argued that I was a girl and the sister argued that I was a boy.
