Yeah I go to one of the most competitive schools in my state and alot of kids have the stereotypical "asian" parents and so many of them are scared to go home if they've failed a test and are afraid they'll dissapoint their parents this would probably make so many of them feel better me too
Awww I like that they even try to cheer the kid up instead of just yelling at them this shows they actually care about their child’s mental health and not just how they appear to the public 😭✨
@@fyreexe4121 I would rather my child be ok than successful. Life sucks and having strict parents doesn’t make it any better. I know my mom used to be the sweetest mom ever until me and my siblings reached the age of 7. Then she started to get toxic and became a Karen.I haven’t gone a day since when I was seven where I didn’t get yelled at. I am constantly getting A’s but I’m never good enough. I don’t hang out with my friends, I get my chores done,I help out around the house,and even cook dinner most of the time.but I’ll alway slip up and get yelled at. To the public ever since I was young I was always an angel child everyone was jealous and wanted a child like me, but they don’t know I actually developed anxiety.I pick my nail beds till they bleed I cry A LOT I sometimes start shaking when we’re in public and I can’t wait to get out of here. However I do agree you have a point I believe mental health is WAY more important because of my experience (Sry about the bad punctuation I hate using my phone to type)
@@fyreexe4121 My parents are strick and my mom says in her own words "I was always getting A's in class" she says this to "motivate me" which makes no fucking sense i still love them but I hate it when my mom tells me this and in my mind im like (yeah but im not you women )
@@fyreexe4121 everything needs balance. If they were genuinely trying to pass the test by studying, that's different then them not studying, not caring about their grade, and slacking off and that requires discipline. But if they genuinely tried and cared about the grade, then caring about them and cheering them up like so is way better.
My parents: Oh You WORTHLESS PIECE OF SHIT WE REMIND YOU WE HAD TO PAY THE WHOLE TUITION FEE FOR 1000$ AND THIS IS WHAT WE GET!?!?! GET OUT NOW Its Painful
"Nobody is perfect" Students nowadays need to hear this and parents too. Cheating rates have skyrocketed because of the immense pressure of getting into good universities or just a simple test.
thank you for making me cry. seriously, i started crying happy tears. my parents get furious if i have c’s, because c’s are “average” and i can do “better than average.” i can’t, though, life is so fvcking stressful right now, and i can’t do better than average, even getting just average is hard.
@@okipullup927 wow my parents are the opposite, if I get a 98 and below they’ll scream at me and tell me to go study more. and they’ll sign me up for more extra curriculum classes so I can get a 98 and above
i love this. there’s a huge difference between studying hard for a test and failing and procrastinating the rocks out of your work and failing. you can tell which one gets punished
My mom when I get a grade that’s a C or lower than a C: “ You’re grounded and your going to read books every day and your going to explain why you got this grade...... Ok?” ( edit: if it’s a 85 or lower my parents talk to me about it but since it’s a B they accept it but it just can’t be a C)
Something to make this even better is that instead of watching a movie mom and dad will study with you while eating ice cream to tell us that it's okay to fail as failure is just a part of learning but to also try your best in everything and not ignore your responsibilities. Then maybe afterwards we can have movie night lol.
No the movie is way better. Think about it the last thing you would want to do is think about school after failing a test. The parents before the movie should reinforce or let their kids know that in WHATEVER they need help with studying cone to them. Does not matter if it's a simple question or hard question. NEVER TELL YOUR KIDS THEY ARE STUPID. NEVER TELL YOUR KIDS THAT IT WAS OBVIOUS AND HOW THEY DIDNT GET IT. The movie is an escape and a way for you to enjoy spending time with your parents. Thank you for coming to my TEDTalk
I feel that the movie before is better. Because when you Gail you aren't feeling too happy about it and would be scared to tell your parents and things. So the movie with them helps in bonding and builds trust and makes you feel ok about not doing well that time. Ofc you should look over it the very next day make sure it doesn't happen again.
You don't know how much this is helping me. My parents get mad at me for having an A-, and I always feel pressured to be perfect. Thank you so, so much for being like this 💗
Thank you, my parents hold me to really high standards, once I got a 97 on a paper and I got yelled at and they won’t listen when I talk about my anxiety and say I’m making it up for attention
@Alvin 1234 you think abusing kids will teach them valueable lessons? A kid can go into depression with that kind of treatment. It's bad parenting- horrible parenting that too. Of course if the kid is all "no one is perfect so I don't have to be." And the kid never studies or works hard, then it's okay. Otherwise if the kid gives their very best and the parents abuse them like that it's NOT okay
@@elysiqnnnn Yeah it is bad, But this is how Asians+Strict Parents are😟But I still love them even they do that, Cause sometimes they are the one who is making me laugh sometimes. And I'm really proud of them even if they are talking behind my back☺
As someone who is a perfectionist and taking high school level classes in eighth grade, this makes me feel really good. My parents think I should have at least a 90 on my tests.
Same here. My parents have wayy too high expectations of me that it is very difficult to meet, especially when i don’t wanna spend every second at home for school.
@@epicmonkey3298 please dont let their expectations get to you and to please let them have a piece of your mind. Because that's THEIRS and not YOURS. Be honest and respectful to your parents when you talk about how it really affects you with these "expectations" over a test that will only affect your mental health.
This literally made me cry because of how strict my parents are when I don’t get anything but perfect. I have almost always done good but lately I have been falling behind and the outcome from my parents has not been good and all I want is for someone to tell me that I did good for once because it seems they never do
I respect the idea and if your kid study’s really hard and still fails then that’s no problem. However I’d make sure that you don’t teach them into believing that they shouldn’t strive to get good grades. Btw I am a high school student
Yes I agree. My parents tell me that they know I work hard and do my best and so they don’t get mad over one bad grade. It doesn’t determine the rest of your life. But if they know you’re not putting in any effort and aren’t trying your best, then the parent should try to do something about that
I'm a teen and I love the way your parenting works but I think I'm going to make with my parents cuz they educate me well and they know what's fair or not. I'm happy with them.
this made me feel better. i’m currently flunking all my classes except for 2 and i’m super stressed about it because i’m failing it and have a crap ton of assignments missing which really isn’t helping and i accidentally left my grades on the table and my mom saw it- she scolded me and said if i didn’t figure out what to do about my grades and have them fixed by monday she’d take away my phone and any electronics until i fix my grades. it’s currently 10:33 pm and im crying doing my 3rd page of math homework in my bed without my mother knowing.
@LEXIISCHARMSXO Uhm.. you're not the only one.. I'm a Filipino but My Parents will get mad at me when i get 87-89 %.. it should be around 90-98% 😅 ( Tbh, I can't get 99-100% since it's kinda Impossible- )
Watching this made me cry 😪 I didn't have the most loving or kind parents and when I was so proud of my first B they were disappointed that it wasn't a better grade. Sorry for the over sharing but I really appreciate your channel it's helping me heal ❤ Keep being Wonderful ❤
My parents stay that as long as I try my hardest they are happy, and they are proud of me when I do good. They don’t want me to have perfect grades and won’t punish me if I won’t, and I don’t have to go to the best college, they just want me to have the opportunity to do whatever I want. Love you guys ❤️ This is how I will parent :)
Why can’t everyone be like this 😭 If I failed a test I would be scolded, but then unless it was a really big test - I would still be allowed to do my average things like art, tv, and other fun things. And if I get an A on a big test - I get ice cream sometimes =]
My parents logic: A- Okay, you can still watch netflix and stuff after you study for 293932992 hours B- You could have done much better but it’s alright C- YOU USED TO GET STRAIGHT A’S A C IS UNACCEPTABLE GO APOLOGIZE TO THE TEACHER Anything lower- You’re dead
@@HumminGBird168 for me its A-bbare minimum B-get scolded and smacked C or 85% - hit by belt D or lower- death by extension cord (hit by extension cord
This just made me feel great since it's our finals today and sadly I got an F Even though you guys are not my real parents, watching your videos is enough to give me the comfort that I need everyday! Thank you for making vids like this !! 💜✨
Awwww I literally almost started to cry 🥲 you guys are literally one of the best people ever you guys are so nice! And I fail a lot of my tests uh so yeah-
Therapist: "so do you have any clue why your so stressed?" Me: "My parents make me study all night for a test and if I don't get an A I get verbally abused and emotionally manipulated."
