Toxic relationships se deal karne se better hai wo dimag and energy apne career build karne mein lagaye make your own empire and secure the future of ur kids
@@krutikah1468eh gud family or bad family ka difference hota hai. But atlast new generation ki siblings ki relation kharab krna is biggest crime . Jha family kaam ati hai wha career dharae reh jatae hai. West mai career hai logo k pass but 4 5 step father or 3 4 step mothers ko jhelna bhi padta hai. It is adviced to not break families to make career. Bacha bolta hua acha ni lagega ki yeh mera 4 th father ya mother hai. Or uskae brain pai jo effect padega vo alag. Aaj family break hogi alga number divorce ka ata hai phir. Family hi divorces sae bacha sakti hai.
@@ssunita9253 taali dono haath bajti hai if the relation doesn’t work out between the daughter in law and the in laws property ke lalach mein relation kyun rakhna ….. any relations based on greed will not be good for anyone according to me wo hamein paise aur property mein hissa de isliye hum dua salaam kare this is the message of this video and I think koi bhi itna bewakoof hai nahi ki wo samajh na sake ki ye hamein matlab se poochh rahi hai
When my mother or us children were sick in my father's side home, his relatives ignored us and my mother's side relatives travelled from other city and took care of us and our treatment. Whenever my mother was pregnant, no one from father's side helped her and she was sent to mayka till babies were borne and raised upto 4-5 months age. How was it my mother's fault that we became more attached to her side of relatives, not father's side?
Yes father side don't want to take responsibility of expenses and other involvement if 2 3 uncle separated they concentrated only for themselves than 1 who is weak in finance, education, inteligent etc all this matter s.
Ye exactly ...I saw my chachi who was alone when she was pregnant dadi said maine akele kia tha maine ye kia tha vo kia tum log nai kar sakte bade najuk ho...gyan gyan n gyan...sabke hote chachi ko akele dono daughter ko palte dekha ...dadi was forching to have 3rd kid kuki ladka nai hai na....chachi refused ....bachhe nani side se jude kuki unki maa ki help kqrte sirf nana ,nani aur mama ko dekha ....obvious hai na....hoga hi...aab aye mere bari mere 2 babies hi under 5 2nd one is just turned 2 last 6.5 years were toughest for me ...i asked help just to keep eye on kids when i am in kitchen or taking bath ....sas refused...i broke my leg twice ...still i made food , bachhe ko school bhejna homework karana ...little one ko dekhna ...husband here and there help karte jab ghar hote....but saas sasur kept their eyes and ear shut...i went to my mother for 7 months 1st time after the age of 18 i was with my parents for this long....yaha kisi ne parwah nai kia ...na mere ..chalo mere to mai umeed nai karti...kids ki bhi...mere dada dadi to hame kuch ho jaye sote nai the...ye to aram se sote rote bachhe ki awaj tak nai ati....last 3 days se chhota baby 2 year ka mera 102-103 fever me hai...kisi ne sar pe hath tak nai rakha ....nana nani mama bechain ki kaisa hai kaisa hai...kaise jid jaye aise in laws n aise dada dadi se ...mai eo joint family me pali hu...mujhe lagta tha life aise hoti...sasural aake pata chala ki life aise nai jitna pyar dada dadi hamse karte the...har dada dadi nai karte....uper jo chachi ki baat boli vo mere papa ki cousin ki wife hai...mere dada dadi bahot achhe the aur mere maa ko apna bachha samjhte the...air ye mai itne purane jamane ki baat kah rai....mere mother ko mental disorder hai schizophrenia....itna pyar jitna unke parents ne nai kia ...jhad fuk karwate rahe .....jabki dada n papa ne unko doc ko dikhaya n she is on medication since then n leading a happy life....pyar karna papa se sikha ...dada se sikha ...yaha pyar karu ki kya samajh hi nai ata
The root cause of why women are so vulnerable and dependent on the good-will of their "peehar" and "sasural", is that the vast majority of Indian women are not financially independent. The blame lies squarely on the parents of daughters who don't invest in the education of their female children and treat them as a burden, both financial and social.
Mother in laws consider it their birth right to claim the earnings of their daughter in law. The working daughter in law is expected to contribute all the money to her sasural for proving her loyalty. Then also she is verbally abused. The only advantage working women have is that they can file for divorce and live independently
Hats off to you sir .jis topic par koi charcha nahi karta..aap us par clarity dete hain.. Ek video aise patio par bhi banaye jo patni ka mayka chhurwa dete hai...the other side of the story is also happening in society..
Most of cases pati aisa nahi karta. Kyonki jab tak uske khud k ghar main shanti hai usko farak nahi padata kyonki usko patani k pihar main nahi rahana. But patani ko uske sasural rahana hai. Jab uske ghar main ashanti hoti hai or uski maa kahati hai ki ye sab tumhari wife k pihar(mayaka) k vajah say ho raha hai to pati rare cases main aisa karta hai. Most of cases jab bacche bade hona suru hote hai and wife k hath main pura ghar power aa jaati hai to khud hi mayake main jaana kam ho jaata hai. Kyonki mayake main bhi power ladki k maa baap k paas say nikal kar bhabi k hath main ja chuki hoti hai
That's true...I am dealing with same issue my husband and mil including sil made to stay away from my mum.first mil said this to my husband and eventually it turns on me
Correct bola sir.. Am also trying to make cordial relationship with relatives...esp on husband side. It gives kids better way to handle people n akward relationships
I don't agree my maternal side doesn't do anything when my mother was pregnant first time My father side first quarreled with my mother but later they came for help Even my chachaji come when we were 6 yr old he used to teach us But still my mother didn't value chacha and always say good about mamaji.. I have functional relation with both side but prefer to be on father side more my maternal relatives are futile on most ocasion.
I come 4rm a family of 2 parents. My paternal granparents' family fucked my parents over. My maternal granparents' side famly ALSO fucked us over. But my dad never stood up for my mom. NEVER. My mom always stood up for my dad. My mom has suffered SEVERE abuse that is hard to even comment here. But she can't leave because she was never given the opportunity to study to get employment. All the abuse has led her to become heart patient, irritational and moody. She just works in the kitchen and then cries all day. Her life is basically destroyed. My bua wanted to break her side of the family and she succeeded. My mom wanted to re-unite the family but she couldnt.
My father would say, sab ka ek paap ka pitara hota hai! kisi kisika time se pehle bharta hai! karma is energy, good or bad...wapas milega..and yehi lifetime main milega.
Sir bring a video on '' Rishthe nibhana in modern days'' i.e b'day status rakhna , whatsapp invitations, kab call kare kab msg karein logic behind old people daily good morning messages etc etc
Aur tab kya jab in- laws bahu ke parents ko mis -treat karte hain ? Aur uske parents ke waha jana tak allowed nhi karte? Aur agar bache ko le jaye apne parents ke waha toh , bacha jo bhi galati karega uske liye kahenga bahu ke mayake se sikh ke aaya hain?
In laws are toxic .. ye toxicity jhelne se acha aram se alag rehna better he sir. Stress dete he tane mrte he. Stress se hajaro diseases hote he agr chal k usk bate me kya.. adhi se bahuo ko depressiom anxiety hojata he..vo sari umar apna gussa nikalti he apne pura parivar ka mahol ganda krti he.. us ka kay?
@@ssunita9253 me khud apne ghar me dekh chuki hu.. to agar apko koi benefits chaiye sasural end se..to khud ko dil marke inko ijjat do..Taki.khud jinda lash ban jae.? Ye kaha ki niti he? Jab sasural vale ache se treat krenge to bahu b value degi..jab sasural vale dhang se treat nahi krenge to ku kre koi ijjat unko?
@@Yespk-bo2xe I hv left them already.. I myself have earned more than what they have earned all their life. Bat property k nahi he bat self respect k hoti he.
What you said is correct .....but there are many instances when boys parent itself act toxic and make brothers fight ( fivide and rule strategy) in which case the family gets disintegrated even if the boy's wife wants to maintain relationship with the family of he in-laws.
What about the families where bahus are only treated as servants..no emotional relationships...even they don't let the bahus to make such relationships...and in my family only my husband maintains the relations with my in laws since first day...bahus are fully bypassed... however i always gave 💯 to my inlaws ....but help to door ki baad pyaar ke do shabd bhi nahi.....what to do...
Once u realise parents will divide the property equally among daughters and sons, we would better walk out if possible and build our own empire at an early age instead of wasting our time and energy. We did so and r very happy now. Also relationship with my in laws also survived.
I wonder how my datherin law made a share of mu sisterin law in ancestral property ,but not for his sisters wjo are still alive ,five years we stayed together but buajis never visited once ,when I invited them on first bday of my daughter ,my saas questioned me with what right I invited them .
Very true my husband and his sister doesn't have any good relationship with the relatives of their father family and even from their own father also credit goes to my late sasu maaji
Sir , sorry if this sounds offensive , but the reality is that the in-laws families do not think of u , as anything but an added expense to handle + even the male uncles and buas from the father's side all want to be a part of the father's success , minus the effort and often mistreat the wife and their children , in such a scenario , how can u show warmth towards them ?? And inspite of making efforts if they do not respond I think it's wasted effort after sometime , anyways sir yr talk is welcome wz good intentions .....
I really enjoy opening up my mindset and I can say this is 100% right guru gi Seen this personally in my house and even outside. I am from upper middle class family. Reading comment may really seems to you that ohh no! our family is really good not that bad but guess what? all Indian family are perfect on surface. My family is also really grate really enjoy all the love and relations but I am wise enough to understand the deep rooted problems that definitely merge up after 10, 20 years above
What happens is previous generation females (mostly ) never stood for themselves .saas ki frustration club karke bachho ko bataya not to husbands as they never listen especially about his parents ,apne liye khud stand lia nahi ..wo frustration bachhe mei club hua and jab ussi bachhe ki shaadi ho toh uski biwi ke sath wahi sab karo jo unki saas ne unke sath kia saying humare sath bhi ye hua and wo ladka agar sach bol de toh bass biwi ne bhadkaya aree ye ladke kamm dimag ke hote h jo inki biwi bhadka deti h.. jo unhone apni mummy k sath galat hote dekha ya suna and app bhi wahi repeat karr rahe ho and then u expect ki he should favour u in all ds shit..fir unka mental peace cheen lo.. bahu nahi kathputli chahiye .. i am sorry then i wont make my children the same (frustrating) as u made dm .we the women of today generation can deal with all this alone.. bachhe ka sahara leke goli nahi chalani😂
Please also make a video for father's side of family, to behave properly with bahu of the family and not treat them like a slave/non-person. I generally agree with the content you post here, but this video is not only biased, but the advises are most absurd and indeed sexist. Jab father's side mein hi shuru se accha mahaul nahi rehta , then how do you expect the mother to not retaliate ??? Most families treat their daughter-in-laws like shit, and then later expect them to be kind and caring ?? Ye kaha ka nyay hai. You yourself say - ki aisa nahi hai ki daughter-in-laws ke liye buri conditions nahi exist karti ; but agar baad mein chutiye relatives bolte hai ki Supreme Court se le aa hak, toh thike they will use their rights and bring in the lawyers. I don't see any issue. And vo chacha/tau kaun hote hai bolne wale ? Decision toh Father-in-law/Mother-in-Law ko lena hai na apni property ka ? Dads toh unke hi bacche hai na , rishte toh papa log banake rakh hi rahe hai na? Isme mahila/daughter-in-law kaha se aagayi ? If the men's family side hadn't been bad to daughter-in-law , toh rishte toh first place mein bigadte nahi na ? Mahila nahi bigad rahi , chutiye rishtedar bigad rahe. Jab dadi/dada pyar karne layak hi nahi hai, and only care's for her son(father); it's not the daughter-in-law's fault na ? Nor her kids ? Only dadi's son should care about her, it's unfair to the victims. Simple funda, men care about their parents and affairs related to them and women should do the same for her own parents. No one should be responsible, nor suffer mental anguish because of the other side. Besides, you totally forget that man himself will be interested in his share too, his parent's. Don't worry people today are very strong, court jana padega toh jayenge - faltu ka anyay nahi sahenge. And please don't resort to absurd fear mongering - ki baccho ki shadi nahi hogi falana dhimkana. Aisi soch wale logo ke karan hi, abhi tak 'India aisa hai'. When you get over such stupid thoughts, you are free of samaj ka faltu pressure. Most Indian daughter-in-laws suffer from mental issues because of this same men's side family. Men are capable of taking care of and dealing with their parents too. It's not the women's job.
Sir, ek bahu ka sasural uska ghar kabhi nhn ban sakta. Uska sasural Uska ghar, saas ke uppr jaane ke baad Banta hai. Pehle bahu ko apna bnaao fir unse umeed rakho
Bilkul correct Fight se kuch solve nahi hota .. Opcharikta banaye rakhna chahiye ! Jat society ..No Old man will give property to the daughter Land ..old man does not want to divide ...So before old Jat dies he makes a will ...
this is very golden advice .... relations ka extreme mein nahi rakhna chaiye.... itna b zyada khaas nahi bano at the same time itna b dushman mat bano... balance baby balance
I am not agree this time with this statement that....rishte ladies hi bna sakti hain.Obviously bna skti hai but sirf uski hi responsibility nhi hai phle uske husband ko interest lena chahie uski khud ki family me tb ek naye ghr se ayi ldki ko interest ayega. Just imagine shadi ke baad ek ldki new ghr me ayi.ek chhoti family ka example de rahi jaha ek ladki apne husband aur inlaws ke sath rah rahi...aisa bhi ho skta ki job ki vjh se alag hi rah rahe ho inlaws se. Sasural ki family badi hai but mostly sab alag cities me ya alag ghr me hi rahte hain.ab hota kya hai mostly...shadi ke baad koi bhi festival ho ,kisi ka birthday ho anniversary ho saas ka instruction hota hai bahu ke lie ki phone kr lena. birthday anniversary to tab bhi sahi....festival me sbko phone kr lena.agar Mai chhoti hu ghr me aur father inlaw 4-5 bhai hain to mtlb sari saaso ko aur family me sari jethaniyo ko 😂😂just bcz mother-in-law ko ye prove krna hai ki hmari bahu kitni Sanskari hai. Bahu ye bhi kr legi no problem...but ladke ka means uske husband ka bhi koi interest dikhe na uske relatives me.ldke ko kbhi koi instructions nhi Har bar bas bahu ko. Bhai jab tumhe khud ki family me intrst nhi jaha tumne apni life spend ki 30 yrs tak to hmare andar Kaun si feeling hogi un logo ke lie. Aise cases me bahue starting me saas ki baate maanti hain fr voh bhi bnd kr dengi aur unke pas ek logical jawab bhi hai is cheej k lie. So it's very simple ki Agar aap khud ki family me interest loge to apki wife bhi legi odrws aajkl mostly ladies working hain unke pas itna faltu time nahi hai.voh shadi krke kisi ghr me islie nhi gyi hain ki sare rishtedaro ko khush krti rahi. Ladkiyo se expect kia jata hai ki pura sasural lekr sath chale ladke se puchh lijie ek bar kitne din me apni marji se apni wife ke maa baap ka haal chal lene ke lie ek phone bhi krte hain. Physically ya financially to kuchh krna bahot door ki baat hai.
Ye same chize jo ladkio ko sikhaya jara h wahi same chiz ladko ko karne bolo, 2mhina reh k dikhao wo sari chize krne bolo jo ek ldki ko krna padhta h sasural m jake adjustment and all. Bolna bohot asan h jispe bit ti h wahi samjh skta h. Pehle ki aurto ne saha h sb kuch wo to domestic voilence or dus 12 bache hona bhi aam mana jata tha. Ldki ko koi decision lene ka huk n tha. Wahi same chiz ladko se karao tb pta chalega kaisa feel hota h. Apna ghar chord k khud k ma bap ko chord de dusro ki seva krna even seva krne p bhi juta hi padhta h sir pe.
Pehli baat to ye ki aajkal koi ladki seva nhi karti, wo alag rehti hai aur ayyashi uski pehli pasand hai. Ghar ke kaam ke liye maid rakhi jati hai. Pehle aurate isliye karti thi kyoki dusra rasta nhi tha, jaise reservation and law. Aur sabse badi baat admi aurat same nhi hai, dono nature se hi opposite hai, ye janardasti ka equal banane ki koshish ho rahi hai wo bekar hai isiliye bahut problem aane lagi hai. Thanx.
@@gauravsinghrajawat9939 aiyashi to ladkio se jada ladke karte h uske bare me apke kya vichar h, ek ladka kmskm 18 sal ka hone tak to mast maula jindagi jita h bina kisi tension ke jaha ladkio ko dus sal ki umar se ghar ka kam karna padhta h sath hi padhai bhi karo khelna khudhna bahar ana jana laghbhag sb pe control lga dia jata h ye to band karwa dia jata h wahi ek ladka aram s sirf pdhai or apni life enjoy karta h kmskm 18 sal to is hisab se wo padhai me bhi jada concentrate kr pata h ladkio k mukable qk ek time p wo sirf pdhai kr raha hota h jha ladkio do 3 kam manage krti h sath padhai bhi. Ghar k bahr dur city me bhi ladko ko jada bheja jata h pdhai k liye jaha jake uski ayashi or do guna badh jati h wahi almost ladkio ko gaw k college m hi pdhaya jata h bahar dur bheja hi n jata bohot hi km ladkia hoti h jinke ma bap bhete h, ya to shadi kara di jati h age ki padhai krwai hi n jati kaiyo ki to. Or seva akele ldki q kare ladke ky thusne k liye h jo khud k ma bap ki seva n kr sakte kisi or ko leke ate h seva k liye.
@@gauravsinghrajawat9939 jb khud kisi or k ghar me reh k unki seva karoge tb jake bat krna. Or India ki adhi abadi lghbhag garib ya to middle class h jaha husband wife dono hi job karte h usme bhi ghar ka kam aurat hi karti h apne job se aake thak har k jaha admi ghar pe aake aram krta h, Jin aurato ki bat aap kar rahe ho naukar afford kr pate h wo rich ya upper class me ate h jo log bohot km h bharat me. Or ladka or ladki k sharir me do part chord do to baki sb kuch same h dono ko dimag hath pair sb dia h prakruti ne jiska use karke aaj k time p ladkia hr wo kam kr skti h jo ladke bhi kr sakte h. Or sbse pehli bat ladkia bhi insan h koi janwar n jise jb chahe tb daba ke rkhoge. Khud soch ke dkho agar ye sb tumhe karna padhe same wahi kam jo ladkia karti h tb kaisa feel hota h. Insan ho to insan jaise bano. Kisi ko daba k uspe raj karna kayarta h. Yaha tak ki bhgwan shiv bhi devi parvati ko apna hissa mante h ek brabr mante h. Pr insan itna gir chuka h jaha use kamzor ko dabane ke siva kuch ata hi n. Hazaro salo se mardo ne raaj kia h aurato pe. Ab aurat apni adhikar k liye apne khushi k liye jine lagi h to unse dekha n jara. Maza to tb ayega jb ye role reverse kr dia jaye do mahine bhi same to same life jine dia jaye jaise ek aam ghar ki ladki jiti h tb akkal thikane aa jayegi.
Although apki baat sahi hai par nai bahu bahut karti hai jab sasural se negative response milta rehta hai salo sal then she gives up ke ye to positive ko bhi negative hi laite hai
Jo ladikan in laws ke saath nahi hain wo hi thodi bahut sukhi reh Pati hain apni life mein......reason hai in laws being totally selfish and having completely bad behavior towards bahus.
I just saw this 4 months old video and for the first time i don't agree with u sir. Aap sabhi ladies ko keh rahe hai k aapki galti h specially in the last one min of video. Aap kehte hai k video 90% k liye banaye jaate hai ,isper m kehna chahti hu k keval 10% females hi hai jo shaadi k baad sasural walon se judna pasand nahi karti aur unka jhukaav mayeke walon k taraf hi hota h. But remaining 90% ko majboor kita jata h. Jab in- laws misbehave karte hai bahu aur uske bachchon k saath tab husband apne parents ko samjhane k koshish nahi karte hai aur kabhi majboori aur kabhi khud apni marzi Se maa baap k saath milker wife k insult karte hai aur unko apni maa se compare karke neecha dikhate hai ,taunt karte hai. Kabhi bhi wife ko zaroorat padti h specially physical help k tab usko mayeke bhej dete hai Ab aap batao k lagbhag 15-20 saal tak aisa ravaiyya rakhne k baad aap wife se expect karo k in- laws k saath achchhe relation banao tab ye kaise possible ho sakta h
Aap galat ho video saas pe banao, maine shaadi mein saas ki gold diya, kapde diye, sab dita, saas ne kuchh nahi diya, politics ki, nand ne bhi bhar bhar k politics ki, jeena haram kar rakha hai, husband ko barkati, sab baat manti hun un ki phir bhi, job chhod di, kabhi kuchh nahi maanta, khud kiraye pe reh rahe, saas k paas 3 ghar hai, phir bhi hum se paise maangte. Hum ne de bhi dite lakhon loan le k , phirbhi tang karte, gali k kute ki tarah treat karte muje or mere husband ko, ab batao kaise banaun rishta unke sath????????????????????
Mere pati ka kehna hai ki pati patni ka rishta sabseb nicha hota hai (in case, even if both r good n loyal to each other, not cheating wives). Pati ki priority pehle uske maa baap, bhai behen, bhanje, bhatije aur apne bachche hote hai aur phir patni aati hai. Feudal bollywood films me maine aisa dekha hai par reality me maine apne aas paas pati patni ka rishta sabse uncha dekha hai. Bure waqt me maa baap se leke bhai behen aur bachcho tak ek admi ka sab sath chhod dete hai par patni har baar sath deti hai. Atleast, maine toh aise hi examples dekhe hai. Aaj kal ke ladke maa baap aur blood relations ki toh bohot izzat karte hai par apni biwi pe cheat karte hai. Bahar muh marte hai. Aur biwi se expect karte hai ki woh apne parents ko secondary rakhe, unse paisa nikalwaye aur uske maa baap ki seva kare, adjustments aur sacrifices kare, ghar ka kaam bhi kare aur paise bhi kamaye. Aaj se har male bhagwan ki tisvir aur unka naam unke maa maa baap sath hona chahiye, patni ke sath nahi. Aare har pooja me pati patni sath baithte hai, maa baap nahi. Value your wives. Par aaj kal kuch aurte bhi whores ban gayi hai, woh bhi ghar ke bahar job karne ke bahane muh marti hai. Bohot gandi ho gayi hai aaj kal ki society. 90s ke couples best the. Ek toh nuclear families hoti thi. Dusra unke parents financially ladke pe dependent nahi hote the kyunki unki pension aati thi. Tirsa biwi ghar sambhalti thi aur pati paise kamate the. Ek dusre pe cheat karna almost nahi ke barabar tha kyunki biwiya ghar me rehti thi. 90s couples lived the best life. Par unke bachche bakwas ho gaye hai, ladke aur ladkiya dono.
Sir mai to 20 saal se sasural k liye devoted rahi lekin mere husband ko badi bimari ho gai hai tab bhi ek terah se hume cut off kr diya hai taki unhe humare liye kuch krna nhi pade jisko meet at sahi hai hoti achcha relations hone se bhi kuch nhi hota aur maa baap tak badal gae hai samay kharab hota hai to apne saya bhi saath chod deta hai
Aur agar property mein ladki ka share ho ya woh sole heir ho to in-laws se bana ke nahi rakhni chahiye?? In the end does everything boil down to money? Is it the right approach?
Bohot badhiya sir. Pranam🙏. Sir, kya aap ek video late 20s aur 30s ke single ladko/ladkiyo ke liye videos banayenge? Mujhe pata nahi apane banaya hai ki nahi. Agar arranged marriage ki baat karu toh Bohot pressure rehta hai aur agar naukari acchi na ho toh sab nakaar jaate hai. Ye sab kaise manage karna etc. Thank you and best wishes sir. 🙏
Modern society ratorat change kaise hogi? Wo to temporary adjustment karati hai kyu ki laws to sirf naam ke liye banate hai aur usaka implementation to dur ki baat hai. Jis speed se society modern jo rahi hai..kya us speed se laww system khud ko badal rahi hai kya? Wo to abhi bhi 17 vi sadi jaisi bani hui hai. Sadiyan bit gayi log yahi discuss karate jaaaa rahe hai..lekin koi bhi system badalane ka naam tak nahi le rahi..na to political system, na educational aur na hi judiciary system..maan gaye bhaiyya aise democracy ko! Sir phir aap hi kehate ho..indian women shouldn't think like what korean women are already thinking. Already indian younger generation is on that path. This is system's failure to cope up with modern indian society.
Mere case me mere sasur ne life me kuch kamaya nahi hai, puri life sharab me waste kardi. Saas sasur dono ne baccho ki parvarish pe jyada dhyan nahi diya. Unke bada beta, dusra beta (mera pati) aur tisri beti govn school me padhe. Unke khane pine ke lale the. Bada beta 20k naukri karta hai toh usse toh koi ummid hi nahi hai. Mera pati by chance bcs karke IT mein achhi job karta hai toh behen ki shaadi, maa baap ko sambhalna aur bade bhai ko business kholke dena (joki usne duba diya) sab responsibility mere pati ki hai. Bade bhai ki biwi maa baap ko ghar par pair nahi rakhne deti aur jo jayaz hai kyunki meri saas kalesh karne mein aur pati patni ke bich zagda lagane me expert hai taki ghar aur bete ke paiso ka control uske hath me rahe. Woh khane ki cheeze tak chhupa ke rakhti hai taki mehengi cheeze bahue na khaye. Woh aisi maa hai ki apne bachho me bhi bhed bhav karti hai. Jo kamayga use achha khana milega. Aur sabse achha khana mujhe milega. Maine aaj tak aisa suna aur dekha tha ki maa khane pine ke mamle me apne baccho me kabhi bhed bhav nhi karti aur khud adhe pet rehti hai par baccho ka pet bharti hai, Meri saas jaisi maa pehli baar dekhi hai jo khane ke picche itni pagal hai ki bhuk me apne bachcho ko bhi kha jaye. So back to the topic ki sasural walo se relation maintain karke kuch milne wala toh hai nahi ulta paise jaenge. Mere bachche mere parents se close rahe toh better hai. Aur aaj tak maine mostly dekha hai ki bhai bhai ek dusre ko dhoka jyada dete hai compared to bhai behen. Mama maa ko dhoka nahi dega par chacha ya taya baap ko dhoka mostly deta hi hai. Aur mere pati kehta hai tere baap ne shaadi me bohot kam kharcha kiya isilye teri value kam rahegi hamare ghar me unless tu bohot kaam kare aur kamaye bhi. Mere parents aur bhai behen bhatija aur bachcha mere liye tujhse jyada imp hai kyunki blood relations pati patni ke relation se bade hote hai. Mere usse ye kehna hai ki mere maa baap tujhpe kharcha karte agar tere pas job ke alawa kuch property hoti. Tere khudke maa baap ne tujhe kuch nahi diya, nahi tera khud ka ghar hai toh tujh jaise ko woh dehej kyu denge. Kal teri job chali gayi toh tu toh kahi ka nahi rahega aur tere so called blood relations pehle bhag jaenge.
Amit Ji is genuinely giving a good advice. I heard everything carefully before making my mind about this seems to be well educated and calculated answer
Sir what you said is correct. With me I have separated from my own family and my husband's family is taking advantage from Shrawan Kumar because in-laws don't like me. I have nothing to loose as his family has nothing to give but here I am loosing my own money as I am a working lady😢. Ye Shrawan Kumar mera paisa bhi de deta hai
My mom did whatever he said but still nothing matters. She didn't even asked for property. But still everything is waste. Dont listen to him. Build your property and value someone who is good to you and your kids regardless of whom side it is. Build your money and status. Every one will salute you when you are rich.
Have been trying to keep cordial relations with husbands side of family but ‘cordial’ is a very alien word for them. If u don’t gossip with them about other relatives personal lives, our own personal lives or don’t let them consistently dominate u they get very rude & don’t want to be nice to u at all. There’s only so much drama u can handle in life. Unka funda hota hai, poori tarah andar ya bahar, ye beech ka civilized tareeka unko nahi samajh aata.
I am suffering from this😑😑. My mother never liked my father's side. My father's side never mistreated her or did something against her but still she always held a grudge against them. It was alright until she started involving me in all this. I was maybe 10 or 11 yrs old, i grew distant from my father's side even from my own father. I always thought my father is some cruel person so i never asked for any help from him. And my mother always treated me as emotional support. Whenever i used to say something against her family, she would always shut me down saying that u r such a delusional kid bla bla grow up... One of her cousin brother tried to s*xually assualt me nd i told her thinking she would do something but in the end i was called as dramatic kid. Now at this moment i had no one to share. I didn't bonded well with my father nor my mother wanted to listen. In these recent years, i started bonding with my father again. Now i m close to him atleast he is treating me like a human. After seeing all this, my mother is jealous nd i was called as disobedient daughter who can't understand the pain of a woman. I have no problem in supporting her , ofcourse i will support her if someone mistreat her but i cant do anything if she victimized herself without any reason. She earns good amount of money, she is financially independent but still threaten my father for dowry case. Yes cases like this exist.
बिल्कुल सही. True hard hitting point . Atleast have functional relations. North India kya? In Maharashtra same story hai. Parents are staying near daughter's home. In such atmosphere , will couple get real taste of life? What is roll of a man? What happens to his confidence?
Being a woman no matter who you are in relationship you are not going to get anything; you will never be treated well ; men are going to claim everything and your status is just a free service provider ,sooner you get this fact ; sooner you will stop taking wrong decision specially when it comes to marriage; Marriage is not compulsory; it's option
This topic Family politics,Inlaws should be in your Sango Life Sutras Channel which deal with family disputes, Not in this channel which should deal with Youth problems like education, Jobs,Career. Offlate You are jumbling up topics in both channels.
To all the hypersensitive women (especially in the comments section) who cannot tolerate any criticism even if it is constructive, shows how much blinded and deaf you have become in the present. Please listen carefully, don't play victim card. Sangwan Sir is discussing about the cases where greed of daughter-in-laws towards properties and relational biases have gone beyond control. This greed and biases has to be stopped or will lead to your suffering ultimately. My point is why the daughter-in-law wants property from all sides? If she is educated, has a job, earns a salary, has savings and investment, then why not work on building your own property? Even such "empowered" woman want property from parents, property from in-laws, and property from husband, still not satisfied? You want in-laws properties but don't want to give them a basic thing like respect. That is GREED and IMMORALITY at the same time. Period. Grow up be an adult and responsible, contributing person.
@usmlequestions Lol, there comes the patreon of leeches. Beg beg thats what you could do. Free ka sab chahiye bas. That is why women like YOU are pushed from one place/position to another. Grow up
Sari baaten sach hain,last jenration ki mahilayen mayke paksh wali ho gai hain adhiktar,magar kam hi sahi abhi bhi kuch Ghar ase hain,Jahan thode bahut compromise karke Bhai ek doosre ka sath nibha rahe hain
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Mai christian hu meri up bringing hostel mr hui hai maine gossiping na kari na suni bas yehi kife ki sab se badi galti fir to ek ke bad ek galti hui ab sochti hu aap ke videos hai na
@clarity for youth: Sir, I tried to be ghanisth in the beginning of my marriage it didn't work, then I tried to become cordial, but still they remained the same, now I have cut all the ties. Sometimes you feel that what is all that for? When you have no peace in life
Ladies apman bardast karke bhi sasuralvalo ke saath rahti he. Patiyoko saal me teen chaar baar sasuralvalose milna pade to bi muh tedha hojata he. Jo pati apni kasaath aur sanmaan nahi karta vo patni kahiki nahi rehti.
