Father and son talk on a tricky subject-from “Call Me By Your Name” 

The father opened his heart and talked to his son in a gentle and respectful. Not condescending, non-critical kind of way. In a million years, I would never see my father doing the same to me.

Michael Stuhlbarg should have been Oscar nominated for Best Supporting Actor and won for this scene alone.

Ohh this whole movie, but especially this scene, touched my heart. Made me cry and left me thinking: I want to be thát kind of parent. Thanks for sharing.

This is my comfort watch when I am sad because it's all things I wish my father could say to me

He reminds me so much of Robin Williams in good will hunting in this sence.

Right now you may not want to feel anything. Maybe you never wanted to feel anything. And maybe it's not to me that you want to speak about these things . But feel something you obviously did. Look you had a beautiful friendship . Maybe more than a friendship. And I envy you. In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, pray their sons land on their feet. But I am not such a parent. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything- what a waste! Have I spoken out of turn? And I'll say one more thing. It'll clear the air. I may have come close, but I never had what you two have. Something always held me back or stood in the way. How you live your life is your business. Just remember: Our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. And before you know it, your heart is worn out , and, as for your body , there comes a point when no one looks at it , much less wants to come near it. Right now, there's sorrow, pain. Don't kill it, and with it the joy you've felt. Such a emotional scene ever ever ever!

this speech tore me apart. The entire movie made me feel empty for months after watching it.

I remember thinking after seeing this wonderful film that this tender scene between a distraught son and an incredibly understanding father was, for me, the single most emotionally charged and heartwarming moment of the entire film. It brought me tears then and even does now. Having not seen the film since it’s release, I’m eager to see it again as soon as I can.

I will be this kind of parent one day.

My dad spoke to me harshly and without much compassion until I was in my 30’s and then he changed. He was so kind and compassionate as he got older. Wisdom and reflection often come late.

I think this must have been a very difficult scene for the actors to get right. Too far one way and you start laughing; too far the other, and you start weeping-as they both indeed started to. A miraculously beautiful duo that moves me every time I watch it.

Imagine that what Oliver and Elio had was beyond what Elio's parents have when we all believe Elio's parents are the definition of love itself.

When he asks his father "does mom know," I wonder if he is asking whether she knows about Elio and Oliver or that his father came close to having the same feelings for another man...

You can see the restlessness in his body , how he's avoiding eye contact at first represents how he's trying to ignore the hurt .

I’ll never forget this scene. One of three scenes that made me cry at the cinema (the other two are when Elio and Oliver farewelled at the train station without saying a word and the credits). My father would always tell me to “man up” and “only girls cry.” But, sometime in my 20s, he became kind, understanding and empathic unlike ever before. This morning I told him I’m very glad to have a father like you. He then told me that without me and my brothers, he wouldn’t be where he is now. Happy Father’s Day, everyone.

I wish my father had spoken to me like that when I told him I was gay and had a boyfriend. Instead, he selfishly simulated a heart attack to make me feel guilty of his fake illness while my mother cried hysterically for days, literally wailing around the house. To this day, after 8 years, we are still worlds apart although we’re now on speaking terms. We’ve adopted the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy, which secures the background to a civil conversation but also destroys any attempt to talk about anything personal.

Despite his heartbreak, Elio’s very lucky to have a compassionate and understanding dad.

I could not handle this scene. When Elio held back his tears, mine started forming.

Everyone should have a dad like Elio. This is the most beautiful conversation I've ever heard. The movie tugged @ my heart but this conversation brought tears like never before. I watch this scene often with my worn out heart in my mouth.

This scene was one of my favorites. Everything the father said is so true. I'm going to be 50 this year and I'm single so everything he said really touched home.

He is so grounded in his monologue #masterclass ❤️

"Our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once."

When my father almost diying by covid, i was feeling empty because if he dies he would never know about me and my sexual orientation. He made it. But a few weeks later, i told him. His reaction was horrible to me. We didnt talk for months until now, but with my family i cant never ask support about this. And watching this its like a healing thing to me and to us because im not the only one. I heard many times that gay people live their sexuality alone and that is fucking true. I really hope that your parents dont react like many parents do to us. But if they do, it takes time to heal it but just look someone who can support u like friends. We didnt choice our parents but we can choice who will be our support on this. I also want to have parents like him, but we have to do the same to ourselves even if our family dont support us.

One of the best movies ever. Pure art from the first scene to the last.

Literally in floods of tears right now

(05:26) "Does mom know?" I never understand if he is asking if mom knows about himself or the father.

I want to be a writer, but man, I can never write a speech this good.

As in many scenes, there always seemed to be a raw natural power, and with the writing, it would pour out but not overwhelm you, almost like holding your breath until the end so as not to miss a single word. Simply spectacular talent and writing, given amazing direction.

Michael Stuhlbarg shouldve received a Best Supporting Oscar nomination for this brilliant scene!

This scene is deeply affecting. Firstly, because of the unconditional love and support that Elio's father shows to him. But there is also the knowledge that his father's words can't shield him from the heartbreak and pain that he will eventually experience with Oliver.

So beautiful, and ultimately the central theme of Andre Aciman’s book series. I just marvel at the point where Sami says “Have I spoken out of turn?” Elio communicates “no” with an almost imperceptible head shake. The more you watch it the more subtle it seems. Just masterful acting by Timothee Chalamet. You can tell he’s *really* listening to his scene partner. This movie is such a gift, for moments like this.

the dad was so perceptive and gentle. the way he delivered this speech with so much LOVE was special and a gift to his son. the tears speak volumes. I know this is a movie but if any dad actually has this kind of heart connection with his son post it here. Being Gay or having a m2m affair is special. To be honored by men all men especially between father and son is a GIFT. I will never know such a connection and neither will my father who has the same name and had m2m connection that shame and fear dominated. I came out many years ago but, he didn't.

This movie had such a raw and sensitive was of portraying love and human connection as well as teaching us to accept our emotions

One of the most beautiful scenes ever made ! touching, respectful, full of real love.

One of the great scenes in one of the greatest films.

I can't help but have tears run down my cheeks when I see this clip, hear the Dad's words and watch the Son's emotions. LOVE NEVER QUITS !

I think the father just admitted he was bi. I'm pretty sure Oliver is too

Elio’s dad reminds me so much of my dad, they have the same sensitivity and deep empathetic capability. I cry every time at this scene cause I wish we lived closer to each other at this point :(

Everyone should have a father such as this. A blessing indeed.

Should have been Oscar nominated. Just for this scene 😢

beautiful words spoken by a loving father...

I wish I had a moment like that with my dad. He knew, I told him, but then we never spoke of it again. He wanted it that way. He's gone now, so there's no chance of having our moment. I'm past middle age now. Loves have come and gone, only now at my advanced age, would I REALLY appreciate a partner. The lil' joke life plays.

A masterpiece of writing and beautiful sensitive acting.Have rarely seen better

I remember seeing this film when it came out and how much I loved it. It has been a while now so a lot of it looks fresh, which is good. This scene really touches me. I Love everything about this movie. Elio's relationship with his parents and the Beautiful location it was filmed in. The whole Movie, in my opinion, is really important. Thank you for this clip, and for bringing back the memories of this great film. I look forward to watching the whole movie again. Happy New Year, to all of you, Jeff

One of the most incredible scenes in film history. It deepens everytime I see it.

What a lovely supportive dad.

I still get tears in my eyes on this 🌹🌞✨

The dialogue is flawless. Michael Stuhlbar deserves recognition for his eloquent and perfect delivery in every way. " We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of 30. And have less to offer, each time we start with someone new"

Speaker 1 (00:22) Missed your dinner. Welcome home. Speaker 1 (00:52) Thanks. Speaker 1 (00:54) Oliver enjoyed the trip? Speaker 2 (00:56) Yeah, I think he did. Speaker 1 (01:00) You two had a nice friendship. Speaker 2 (01:04) Yeah. Speaker 1 (01:11) You're too smart not to know how rare... How special what you two had was. Speaker 2 (01:20) It Oliver was Oliver. Speaker 3 (01:27) Pasca said de Louis. Pasca said de moir. Speaker 2 (01:32) Oliver may be very intelligent, but... Speaker 1 (01:35) No, no, he was more than intelligent. What you two had, had everything and nothing to do with intelligence. He was good. You were both lucky to have found each other, because you, too, are good. Speaker 2 (02:01) I think he was better than me. Speaker 1 (02:10) I'm sure he'd say the same thing about you. Which flatters you both. And when you least expect it, nature has cunning ways of finding our weakest spot. Just remember, I'm here. Right now you may not want to feel anything. Maybe you never wanted to feel anything, and maybe it's not to me you want to speak about these things, but - feel something you obviously did. Look, you had a beautiful friendship. Maybe more than a friendship. And I envy you. My place most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, pray their sons land on their feet. But I am not such a parent. We rip out so much of ourselves to be curative things faster that we go bankrupt by the age of 30. And have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything - what a waste. Have I spoken out of turn? And I'll say one more thing, it'll clear the air. I may have come close, but I never had what you two have. Something always held me back. Or stood in the way. How you live your life is your business. Just remember our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. And before you know it, your heart's worn out. And as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it. Right now there's sorrow, pain. Don't kill it. And with it the joy you felt. Speaker 2 (05:26) Does mom know? Speaker 1 (05:33) I don't think she does.

Every LGBTQIA+ person, who’s parents weren’t “OKAY with them being THEM”. These are the parents we all dreamed of having. Considerate, loving, accepting human beings that see us for WHO WE ARE… And at the end of the day, their children no matter what.

Chalamet is a really fine actor, he has great taste as a performer. The dialogue here by his father in this film for me is not based on any reality, I could never imagine a father speaking this way to his son but only in a movie like this.

Beautiful scene

I can't stop crying for this scene. What a wonderful father 👍❤

Beautiful and moving scene...superbly acted..

@5:26 Mothers almost always know. Whether or not they choose to deny it, is an entirely different conversation. 💛

everyone saying we wish our parents were like this, it sucks i know but don’t forget the feeling, we have the possibility to be this way to our own children in the future

This scene was everything to me. I wanna hear this, feel this, express this. Wonderful movie in every way

This movie is so much better, so much more relevant, and so much more serious (in a wholesome and major way) than people even realize/give it credit for. This is a subject that touches ALL of us in some way, albeit not always romantic. Yet, we look at this iteration shamefully but other levels of debauchery go uncontested. I saw this movie in theaters four times.

BEAUTIFUL!

A perfect way of teaching someone about recovering from heartbreak.

Such wise ,true words.

I love this part, it's almost like poetry about life lessons of love ❤ that many of us needs to hear!

Great,sensitive script and brilliant acting.

Such a great flim. Listened to the book and the last paragraph wrecked me. Only time I can recall instantly crying. Aciman has such a gift for crafting words into beautiful poetry that dresses as prose.

Amazing speech 💫

I love the background music!

Wonderful scene. Wouldn't it be just fabulous if every parent were like this dad.

One of the most beautiful scenes in cinema.

This Father, Son talk is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. Saw this movie twice. First timeI ever saw Timothee. Loved him ever since. I can't really say much more than others have said. I'm grateful more than I can say for this experience.😢❤❤❤❤

Beautiful

4:20 : the music in the background was composed by Maurice Ravel (1875-1937) who became worldwide famous thanks to only one work : the "Boléro". But here, it's another work that we hear.

This movie breaks my heart everytime I watch it. But I continue to rewatch it a million times.

The confusion. The acceptance. The subtle subject of their conversation. All very lovely in one scene.

Luca is one of the best directors there is. The dad makes me so sad, you can feel his heartbreak as well as his sons 😔

Simply beautiful!

If only we could all have fathers like this.

This is my favorite scene.

it’s just one of the most sincere and honest scene.

Stunningly beautiful scene!

Beyond beautiful.

Wish I had a Dad that I could confide in. Eliot was so fortunate. Excellent Movie & Father & Son moment !

Best scene in film that entire year. Amazing scene!

This is the scene that made me love this movie.

Merveilleux film....vu plusieurs fois avec toujours le même plaisir ! ( j'ai vécu la même histoire....j' avais 15 ans) !.... que du bonheur.

Esta escena transformó mi vida. Se ha convertido desde entonces en un "mantra" de mi vida. Gracias.

Beautiful scene.

This scene was so fucking amazing, everything I needed in a time ❤️❤️ I'm in luv with the movie

Best scene I cry each time.

Pure magic.

I hope that parents around the whole world have an opportunity to see this film or this great segment of the film.

I’m lucky my dad is like This dad. He never disapproved of anyone unless he thought they were mean to me ❤

5:07 OMG... I needed to hear this

Truly remarkable father.

Non-violent communication (NVC) + deep emotional respect + honesty about emotions + sense of caring paternal responsibility + not afraid to take time ... 😇 Serenity 🙏🏻

👨‍👦👨‍👦👨‍👦❤❤❤❤❤ Everyone wish their father was this sensitive and supportive. He was so articulate in this scene. Never mentioned the word Gay, Relationship or Love but said so much beyond that.

Yup I couldn’t stop crying ❤️. When I confronted him my dad looked at me and smile ! Then he told me I thought he was your booking agent Then turn around and continuing watches his TV talking to me telling me you’ll find your way ❤️‼️

That was a very beautiful, special and unique movie. I’m glad I finally saw it. Somehow, some way, love finds us all!

best scene ever

Wonderful

James Ivory deserved his Oscar for best Adapted Screenplay.