Father Let his Son Get Bullied?! 

Kids absolutely do remember bullying! I'm a grown adult and i still have terrible memories of being bullied in school. It affects your future relationships, friendships, and sense of self worth. It's not something I would ever want any other kid to experience.

as someone who suffers from anxiety that started in school, someone who vomits from stress, that teacher made me physically nauseous.

My son was bullied in kindergarten last year. My son went from a smart, outgoing, happy little boy to a stressed out, depressed, sad little boy who now is completely disconnected from everything and doesn’t care about school. That was WITH me fighting the teacher, school and eventually going to the district and threatening filing neglect charges and going nuclear. I begged him to go to bully proof classes. I taught him to throw a punch to defend himself. I tried to get him to change classes and schools. I can’t imagine not doing anything and I still don’t think I did enough because my son is clearly still affected by it. I did make sure he wouldn’t be in a class with them this year and the school isn’t supposed to allow them anywhere near him or I’ll file charges without attempting to resolve with the school going forward.

As someone who was accused of faking very real physical ailments that required hospitalization the last story *pisses* me off to absolutely no end. Dad and that teacher are bad apples, and the fact that teacher got away with what they said in a conference of all places is really concerning. As always a great video and I can't wait for the next one! ❤

As someone who got bullied my entire life in school for being the “weird one out” (gay), I can assure you, you NEVER forget the bullying, you NEVER forget the ignored cries for help, and you NEVER forget the teachers who say “just tough it out”. You only work and learn to live with it, but the stab wounds never truly heal.

Oh goodness story 1. You don't forget about it at all. Nope. Nuhuh. Bullying often screws you up for life. I remember my 1st grade bully and the torment he put me through very clearly. Oddly enough he's a teacher now and anti-bullying. I haven't seen him and have no desire to despite my stepmother being friends with his mother. Because I'd tell him how he damaged my self esteem and it took years to build back, and even then that is still a weak spot.

"Let's go apple picking" That's such an awesome addition to the intro, it makes it more unique to your channel. I personally hope you keep it.

4th story: As someone who has serious medical issues and needed an IEP in school, the teacher’s behavior disgusts me. And what the heck is the dad’s problem with her dropping the class??

That last story really pissed me off. Anxiety is no joking matter. That “teacher” is a disgrace to the title, and that father should really look himself hard in the mirror for his behavior.

You can't be expected to invite every child in your child's class to a birthday party. When I was at school there was often 30 to 35 children in my class. No family can afford to host a party for so many children. Children need to be taught that they will mot be invited to every party.

I got bullied when I was younger by boys in my class and even sometimes by my "friends" if I hadn't told my mom and she told my teacher I would have been bullied for the rest of the year. One of the boys bulling me, the teacher was his mom. My mom still told her, and he apologized to me and stopped for the rest of the year. Please please tell people, don't let kids suffer alone

The teacher in the last story is violating ADA law. What she did to “Camila” is illegal. The mother needs to leave her husband because he is willfully abusing his daughter with his language. Mother is 100% not the bad apple

the last story actually made my jaw drop, how that teacher was talking about her daughter and treating her is disgusting, and the way the dad was treating the situation was equally as disgusting

I’m 61 years old and remember all the bullying I’ve received as a young child . It’s never something that should be ignored .

the last one is insane, the dad clearly does not understand how terrifying a panic attack etc can be, it’s literally your brain malfunctioning and saying you’re going to die (speaking from experience). i’m so glad her mom treated her and she got a fun elective, hope she’s doin alright now

#4: something tells me this dad is either a control freak or outright abusive because he's hammering home "You went against me" and similar stuff. If the girl lives in that kind of environment, no wonder she has such severe anxiety.

Man, story 1 really hit home. I was bullied by a girl and 2 of her friends for WAY too long. it was at a summer camp that I went to all summer. The worst part is, the director of the camp knew what was going on. But she downplayed it as “kids being kids” or “why can’t you just be friends?” Yeah. The bullying never stopped. You should never downplay these kinds of things. It can hurt the victim AND the bully in the future.

Crab apple for story #2. There are legal things required to be shared with college students at orientation for state and federal laws. Yeah he could have been more understanding but it's fairly common for students gave to repeat die only missing and hour or 2. She should have skipped and rescheduled if she was really that sick. You're right that they're both adults now but she could have left whenever she wanted. Also if this is something she could makeup ... It's mostly likely summer orientation that is common at most schools

I have watched every single one of these episodes at least twice and it is my favourite series. I hope it never ends

Number 4. That father is reinforcing his daughter to stick out an abusive relationship. Mental health is always a priority! You can't fake anxiety that is so bad it is causing stress endured alopecia. That mom was absolutely right to celebrate that freedom from such a toxic environment!

“He’ll forget in 20 years” no he won’t. If the bulling is as frequent as it sounds then he probably won’t forget. Some people say sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt. I say the words hurt more. Bruises fade, words never do.

I'm devastated for the fourth student. I went to a school that didn't protect students from teachers bullying them and I have at least half a dozen that actively went after me and that's a small list compared to a lot of people I went to school with. It's awful

I might be misinterpreting, but for the second one, it doesn't seem like he forced her to stay, he just strongly encouraged it, which I probably would have done too, because in his mind, she just had a bad sore throat, and he didn't want her to retake a nine-hour orientation

I’m so excited! This is my favourite series EVER! I love you so much Mrs Rogers!!!! Always keep being the lovely, kind, bubbly ray of sunshine you are x

Story 2: Not the bad apple. He didn't force her to stay; he reminded her that the course was mandatory, and pointed out that she was 7 hours into a 9 hour course. She was an adult and chose to stay. Welcome to real life - we've all struggled through mandatory meetings, and we've all missed them when ill - it's your responsibility to choose. You just have to accept the consequences.

1: I don't agree with this father's choices, he could have done a lot to hint to the teachers about the bullying like simply telling his teacher to keep a closer eye on his son just to make sure things are alright. But as someone who has been bullied teachers don't really take it seriously until either something serious happens or the victim stands up for themselves and then they're in trouble (that's just my experience not the rule but I'm not the only one who's had the experience) 2: Just doing your job doesn't mean you're right. Better safe than sorry. 3: Why should one have to invite people they don't hang out with or even like to a party? Like sure my first grade glass had the rule that if you were gonna bring cupcakes to school for your birthday you had to bring enough for your class because that's a class event at that point not something private. Also props for that birthday on a budget. 4: Get that teacher out of that school! I freaking hated my US history teacher who singled me out and tried failing me for no reason, teachers that do crap like this need to get out of teaching especially if this is a private school! Those parents aren't paying the school for their children to get bullied by teachers. 2 bad apples, 2 good apples

Story 1: Hearing you get choked up about the first story really warmed my heart... I was bulled all through grade school, sometimes even neglected by my own teachers, on top of neglected and even verbally/mentally/emotionally abused by my parents... I'm emotionally and mentally scarred/traumatized because of it all, and while I've forgiven most of the people who treated me so poorly and ignored my cries and need for help, I'm still carrying it with me to this day. I have flashbacks randomly to things my peers did and said, and how the adults in my life did nothing to truly help 95% of the time, and sometimes even made it worse...on purpose! The Dad is 1000% a Bad Apple! At first I was thinking maybe just Crab Apple, because his son DID ask him to not say anything and the school year was almost over, but he got to full blown Bad Apple once he said the bullies stole his stuff and he didn't think it was a big deal or warranted a "blow up". I do think, at the very least, he should have informed his wife about the bullying and the request that their son made to leave it alone for the rest of that year...But honestly everything beyond that is just disgusting. Personally I'd give him a whole new category of ROTTEN Apple! Story 2: Yeah, nah, if someone doesn't feel well, especially after taking medicine, and asks to leave...just let them friggin leave! Making it up is their concern, not yours. Putting the person and anyone around them at risk for health trouble is irresponsible and disgusting. Definitely a Bad Apple. Story 3: I DESPISE the "you have to invite the entire class" rules/mentality. The only time I ever had a big party, months before/after [can't remember exactly] my actual birthday, since mine is the day after Christmas, was totally RUINED because I had to invite my entire class, rather than just a couple kids who were actually nice to me and my friends...With the above story, I'm sure you can guess what happened...bullies got invited to my party. I was bullied pretty much through out my party, and the only time I wasn't was after we had cake and such. All the kids ran off and played with each other and...pretty much ignored me after that. Luckily we were at Chucky Cheese, so I was able to entertain myself for the most part, but I still look back on it with great sadness and disappointment overall... The idea of having to force kids to invite others they don't like or get along with to ANY party, ESPECIALLY BIRTHDAY PARTIES, is INSANE. OP Mom is a Good Apple. Story 4: DIVORCE THAT MAN. That Mom has to be a saint, because I would NEVER let someone belittle a child and their health and experiences in my care and then continue to let them stay in the same house as me and my child. No. Absolutely not. Good Apple Mom, Bad Apple Dad, and Rotten Apple Teacher!

As someone who was severely bullied from starting school until graduating high school I am angry. I don't remember exactly all the stuff I was teased about but i'm 34 and I still remember. because of those comments I contemplated hurting myself many times back them (i'm in a much better mental space now) but It still hurt so what that father said pissed me off. He should have said something anyways because they may just be 6 but as they get older they get worst.

The fact that the first story seemed to make her want to cry makes me want to cry because I went through bullying and like she said kids remember it and can cause them to hurt themselves.

Apple time!!!!!!

Love the series Mrs Rogers! The way you do your storytelling is just so fun to listen to, and your opinions afterwards are really accurate. Sometimes you manage to say things I didn't even know I was thinking haha. Keep it up!! 💖

Story 1: Bad apple. Just do something rather than nothing. Tell the teacher and voice your concerns that you saying something may make it worse. And also not all kids get picked on or bullied. I am lucky that I seem to have a personality people like and that I am able to connect and be friendly with everyone. So when this thing happens, take it seriously Story 2: carb apple. They didn’t seem to have Bad intentions. They should have asked someone if they can go home, but they were doing their job to an extent while skipping on the parts of the job that would explain what to do when someone is sick. However they were trying to save the student from wasting their time with another orientation. So I think they were trying to be helpful, but missed the mark. Story 3: Good apple. A family shouldn’t have to pay for an entire of class of 20-30 kids, unless the other parents are chipping in as well. Hey Mary, next time it’s your child’s birthday you can pay the money it would take for all the food, drinks, rental space and time, for the party for the entire class and see how much it costs. Then if you can afford it and others can too, then you can complain to me about me not inviting everyone. You do it first before complaining and then see if it’s worth complaining about. Story 4: Good apple. Along with the counseler and vice principal. That teacher is a horrible person and should definitely be looked into by the school, also the other students in that class get crab apples for not saying something. (But I only say crab apple because students don’t always know whether they should speak up or not). I say the husband could be either a crab or bad apple. It depends whether he knows exactly what the teacher was doing and saying. If he doesn’t know all of it then only crab, he could just think that the teacher was being hard on Kamila or that they were a bit strict. However if they knew that the teacher said that they thought Kamila was faking it and the way she was being treated, and agreed. Then definitely a bad apple, and it shows what he may truly think about Kamila

“Applepicking!” I love it!!

I agree with you on all of them. And that last father made me angry. His daughter was loosing her hair and unable to keep her food down and he didn't care, not a very caring father. I was never bullied in school and neither were my two daughters, in fact they stuck up for friends that were.

Those two moms at the end there are great moms. These dads need to be put in their place.

that last one makes me so angry tbh. as someone with similar health difficulties to that young women who is also currently a senior in high school, that actually reminds me of other teachers i have had and continue to have. the only difference is that i’m at a public school with a 504 plan so we will push the school on it when teachers start to get that way. i’m actually experiencing a similar situation rn with my band teacher (i’ve been in band since i was in 8th grade even tho high school here starts in 9th, i love band). the director is not rly willing to accommodate me and my dad is acting like the mom in that story like “i’m never taking u to band again, it causes u so much pain that u can’t walk and only the assistant director seemed to even care!” which is an accurate assessment, the director has called me into his office to tell me i have to stick it out longer or i clearly can’t do this and i’m not trying hard enough. but my mom, who did band in high school and has always been the more pushy one of the two of them in terms of expectations, is saying that i have to keep going because i’ve made this commitment and it’s not as big of a deal as my dad is saying. i love to play my instrument a lot, and there’s not another place that i can play in my area for ppl my age. i rly want to be able to stay in band but between the band requiring that i take off my headscarf (worn for religious reasons but still fairly recent development for me) and the way that i literally need assistance seeing and walking after band, i don’t know that i’m gonna be able to continue. so yea, that last story hit kinda close to home

"May your keys be exactly where you thought you left them" is my new blessing for anyone I love! I agree 100% with all of your apple evaluations.

Okay, I’ve been watching the series for about a couple of months, and what is up with these parents condoning bullying?!?! And that teacher?! Oh my goodness… it makes me so angry.

I was always bullied when I was younger and instead of telling anyone I stayed home pretending I was sick. I at first regretted not telling them but then I realized how horrible the staff was at that school. One of my teachers saw me being bullied: basically this kid wanted a book I got first and we got into an argument, he ended up biting himself and saying I was the one who did it and I tried to deny it cause I didn't do anything but she chose to not listen and got really mad at me! It was dumb. I was also once punched in the face by some kid because my "job" for the class was to be the back of the line and the kid wanted to be in the back, I'm very much a rule follower and didn't want to break that one for this one kid I didn't know. He gave me a bloody nose and only got suspended for one day and then he did something similar again by chucking ice at my head and he didn't even get in trouble! Telling a teacher would have definitely made it worse for me.

I’m so excited for this episode. Ahhhhh I look forward to this every week. School is hard for me and you just make it better. I love you so much!!!💖

She seemed so so upset about the first one. That dad is the worst. Screw him seriously!

Your intro made me laugh, I love it, and OMG that dad is the worst bad apple, worms and all.

I've been bullied so much in my life that now I'm used to it. I've been thought that it doesn't really matter, now I don't say it or make any notice to it. I just sit through it and stay quiet.😥 *Never* let bullying become normalized. *Never* let it go unnoticed.

I am wounded by that last story. I just recently have experienced a similar situation. A sudden closer of my school 10 days before school started put a large amount of stress on me (like anyone else in that situation). It was also finals week for my summer dual enrollment classes and the classes by themself were the most stressful classes I have taken. I had finally got enrolled at a school. Unfourataently by that time my body was physically reacting to all the stress. First was the loss of appetite but soon enough I was vomiting every morning. I did not go to school the next few days. When I did go to school again (after getting mental health help) I was enrolled in 1 AP class. Right away she was assigning us hours of homework. After sticking it out a week, I went to my parents and told them I wanted to drop it. Fortunelty they were very understanding (both of them) and gave the okay. Looking back now, that first week of school was the worst week of school I have ever had. I am so glad I got the support I needed and I have had time to slowly heal now.

As someone who was bullied all through school, you do remember… in fact, often, that is all you remember. I don’t remember much of anything other then being treated like dirt by students and teachers alike because I was the quiet, shy kid who wouldn’t stick up for herself. I have literally zero good memories of grades 1-5 but many bad memories.

5:25 I agree that the Orientation Guide is the bad apple, mainly because of his attitude. If his stance was what he mentioned at the pinned point, you'll have to do it all over again, and not a power trip, it would be fine. However, when he gave the ultimatum of needing to redo the orientation and she stayed, she's becomes liable as well. She's an adult and if she's feeling bad enough to leave, she needs to leave. Not stay to save herself time in the future.

As a teenager, I haven’t been bullied since 5th grade and I still get ptsd-type moments. That father was so wrong😒

This is my favourite series. I always look forwards to coming home after school on Tuesdays so that I can watch your Am I the bad apple series.

I was fully with the first dad until the last paragraph. If it's just a couple weeks/months and the son asks him to not intervene, but just to listen and be there, that seems like what the son needed. At least at this point. And then it escalated. Stealing his stuff in summer camp and bullying him for atleast another year? Pull the emergency break. Now. That is no longer a phase, this will feel permanent to the kid. Coping mechanisms are fine and dandy, for a while. Until you get out of the situation, you learn to cope. But how can a six year old get out? Not without help. No matter how much you want to defend yourself, it is time to defend your son.

I just started school so it’s fun to hear stories about school and even better to hear a teachers perspective of what’s wrong and right

Rebecca, you are so right. We remember every hurtful word that is said by a bully. It has to be dealt with asap and hopefully the bullied child can get the help before it's too late. Thank you for being such a positive advocate. You tell em!

Story 2: I disagree, it's not a power trip to inform someone of the consequences of their actions. At no point did they demand she stay, they just strongly encouraged it, as you pointed out, she was an adult and capable of making adult choices. She CHOSE to stay, she wasn't forced.

As a kid who has hurt myself from being bullied. Yea if you can do something you need to. The kids aren't going to just stop.

I was almost on the dad's side (mild comments, son asked him not to tell, only one week left- yeah, okay, whatever) until he found out that the kids stole his kid's stuff and didn't really care. It was downhill from there. The way he talked about it made it sound like it was middle schoolers being jerks. Like they were moving or something and that it was definitely not going to happen again. When they're this young, if it's not nipped in the bud, it's likely to start a precedent. As the years go by, his reputation will only be 'the target'. That sounds dramatic, but I have experience. I started getting bullied when I was really young. Sure, he's right, I don't remember every single detail of what was said, because my brain found it so traumatic that I don't remember almost anything about my childhood except bits and pieces here and there. If I'm honest with myself, I don't really remember anything about my life. Y'all know how embarrassing it is to be shown photos of supposedly fun trips and people you were apparently close with and remember none of it? This isn't even touching on the issues I have with my self esteem and my confidence, even today. I'm almost 19 now, and I still struggle with how I feel about myself. To be completely fair, that isn't all because of the bullying at school, but it certainly didn't help. The one thing I can reliably remember is how year after year, nobody did anything. My parents thought it was my fault, my teachers thought I just needed thicker skin, for fucks sake one time a girl tripped near me and I got suspended for a few days and grounded for weeks because she said I pushed her down and said some nasty things. Nobody believed me. It literally only stopped when I closed myself off so bad that people forgot I existed. I didn't speak, I didn't eat lunch because I'd sneak off to either a bath room or the library, I didn't even look at anyone. I won't get into anymore detail than that, but it was fucking rough. I don't know what I would've done if they didn't leave me alone for the most part after that. That shit messes you up.

I've been bullied my whole life. I've been called a monster, a demon, and almost everything in the book. People threatened me and physically hurt me, and others told me that i should hurt myself. This caused me to grow up with severe depression and anxiety that I'm still working through to this day. Kids ABSOLUTELY remember the bullying. And the really sad thing is, back when I was younger, even the teachers told me to toughen up and stop being so sensitive. It was a toxic environment. I'm currently trying to get hired as a substitute teacher aid. If I see bullying happen, I will stop it.

#2, sounds more like a sour apple, versus a bad apple, as he felt remorseful after they met back up, and she confirmed the sore throat reference was strep. 🤔

As a parent of a 7 year old, if she came home complaining that she didn't get invited to a party of one of her classmates, I would explain to her exactly what you said. Not everyone can or even wants to invite the whole class to a party and she will never get invited to every party. She is not owed an invitation just because they are in the same class. Especially if the only time she sees or spends time with this kid is only at school. Story number 3 is absolutely the good apple.

In elementary school, I was amongst the kids whom others called "Fat Albert" or "weirdo." There was one recess in 3rd grade (if I recall correctly) that I came up to a couple of kids and they ran away shouting, "Weirdo Alert!" I would go up to the teachers, but nothing came of it. In high school, I was able to drop IB Spanish 4. The teacher was the most effective Spanish teacher at my school, but she would pick on certain students. She tried to fail my sister because she's the daughter of a Baptist preacher and the teacher was a wiccan. At the parent teacher conference, she tried to make my father sit in a student desk and talk down to him. It was one of the few time my father brought up he has a doctorate (D. Min.) Now the same teacher was giving me a hard time, so I became a TA in one of the offices. I was the kid sent to bring other kids to the assistant principals.

That last story is so upsetting! When I was a sophomore in high school my Geometry teacher told my mom in a parent-teacher conference that I was "not smart enough to go to college." It was only the first quarter of the year. I was a shy, anxious kid in high school and I still suffer from anxiety but I always tried my best and really wanted to make sure my teachers liked me. I never wanted to be a problem child or a burden to anyone so I didn't understand why she seemed to go out of her way to sneer at me. I've always struggled with math and I failed the class even though the grade I got was a low passing but still passing grade. The next year I had to take Geometry again with a different teacher and it turns out, I'm not terrible at math when I feel comfortable! The math teacher I had after that was also really nice! I honestly don't regret failing Geometry because the next year I made some good friends in that class, but my sophomore teacher's criticisms of me (calling me dumb, saying "of course, she doesn't have the answer" to the rest of the room, etc..." drove me to self-harm. Every time I struggled with homework I'd call myself stupid and beat my head on the bathroom doorknob. No one should have to deal with a teacher like that. I'm also smart enough to go to college. Got my associates last year and now I'm working on my bachelors! Take that!

So exited to watch Becca! The best part of my day was I left school early The worst part of my day is I’m sick witch is why I left

I love the apple picking line it works with the good/bad/crab apples For story 1: I remember everything my bullies did to me when I was 6 including being locked in a school bathroom, having my money stolen and my school work stolen (I never told my parents any of it) but I am now 27 so yeah they'll remember in 20 years

For the 1st Apple: I was bullied as a kid because I was a big girl and the kids would make fun of me for being fat and kept offering me treats, up to the point where I’m called a whale after swimming class. I’ve always had issues with my weight growing up, and it wasn’t any better when I would tell my family and they wouldn’t even do anything. So, yes, I agree with giving the parent a bad apple. Had he decided to do something, he could prevent a WORLD of problems. Not just for his son, but also for other kids.

I love the “Let’s Go Apple Picking” it just fits with your brand so well!

Story 1: I was on his side until he said "he won't remember it in a couple years" and "He has to learn how to deal with it" Like, I get respecting your sons wishes when you thought it would end soon but once it was carrying on you should have told your wife and reported it.

These stories are a trip. Such a juxtaposition between some genuinely good people and some of the worst excuses for humans I’ve ever heard about who aren’t like literal murderers or something.

She needs to make a seris about how our decision affected the situation they described. It would be the BEST!

In high school, I STILL remember every bad experience from elementary school. It sticks.

Bullying does affect kids long term. I was bullied in elementary and middle school, more than 20 years ago. It DEFINITELY affected my social development because afterwards I wasn't sure how to talk to people until my early 20's. And yes, a bullied child always remembers how they were bullied and how it feels. I am still remember it more than 20 years later.

When I was younger I had a birthday party and we didn't have much money so I was told only to invite 4 of my friends. I gave them each a little card during lunch and later the teacher found out and screamed at me encouraging no one to go because I was so selfish not to invite everyone. No one showed up and I had a really hard time making friends after that. Edit: we also lived in a small apartment that didn't have the room for all 25 kids and their parents

I'm a high schooler who has anxiety and probably ADHD. Several times I have been so stressed out that I start crying or feel physically sick and have to exit the classroom to recollect myself. That last teacher sounds like an absolute nightmare. High schoolers have the most fragile mental health of any other age group, and a teacher reinforcing the insecurities and difficulties that one of their students is struggling through is horribly damaging and I'm sure will stick with Camilla. Thank God for that mother getting her out of that situation, who knows how much worse it could have gotten?

I am a early childhood teacher and can tell you bullying starts young and can have lasting effects. Bullying was not tolerated in my classroom and I can't tell you how many parents had the same attitude as that dad, they are only 4 so it's fine, but it is not fine. I taught my students that words hurt our hearts and you can't put bandaids on our heart so they needed to choose better words. I also taught my kids to stand up when they see others bullying or being bullied because they can make a difference. As someone who was bullied through most of my school years I can tell you that at 48 years old those hurts are still there, my heart still hurts. Which is why I make it a point to let the children in my classrooms know how special and unique they are and that making sure we don't hurt someone's heart is being a good person and a good friend.

For the first story, I was bullied relentlessly through the second and third grade and that was still to this day some of things that have stuck with me almost 20 years later... simple insults or the bullying I was dealing with still stays with you. Even if you just tell the teacher and ask them to keep it private, at least the teacher will be able to hopefully look out for it happening.

For the second one, I don't see that the counselor "forced" her to stay. From what he said, he gave her the choices and told her about what she would have to do if she left. Granted, she's young enough to have never experienced such a choice, but neither was he old enough to recognize that. And asking someone in charge would have required locating such a person (to expect them to be on site is a severe oversight on how college works). To shorten this long story, I would say possibly crab apple to the counselor and bad apple to a system that thinks that on one's eighteenth birthday a person can suddenly reason for themselves in a way that they have never experienced.

I just recently binged the entire playlist of this series, and loved it! I'm home sick today, and this made my day so much better! Love you Mrs. Rogers!

The first one I’m on crab apple. The dad was trying to keep his sons trust when he asked his dad not to say anything but when he shifts to so dismissive on the impact of bullying he lost me. Good intentions at first but no, bullying is not ok

I agree with you for number one words hurt more than actions. I was bullied from 2nd to 3rd grade and it was not fun.Eventually I told my teacher and the boys have now got their act together. Thank you for sticking up for everyone❤️

Let's go Apple picking! Perfect intro! First time I agree with you completely. Ignorant parents on parade. College staff over stepping. And teacher needs to retire!

I love what you addressed right away in the first story, saying "he won't remember in 20 years" is so wrong, kids remember stuff that hurts maybe even more than stuff that makes them happy

Story 1- The kid *specifically said* DO NOT DO ANYTHING. The only thing they should have done differently is not say, “he’ll forget it in 20 years”

Story 2: she sat through 7 hours before asking to leave, is then stayed 8 hours before asking again missing an hour is not a big deal what was the past hour for probably not much my last hour was register for classes it took 10 min then we could leave

No, the second story I just don’t agree. He was following the rules, and she did not have any doctors not or diagnosed illness at the time. Possibly crab apple, but like he said, it was required and he simply was trying to do what was best for the student.

A friend of mine has recently passed away... We weren't very close but she is important to me... and I wish someone was there for her. I wish a teacher had said somthing to those girl who bullied her. Telling her "she wasn't" or "she wouldn't do it".

Apple 1: Bad apple. I have been bullied before and bullying usually affects u rlly bad I will probs never forget the hurtful words ppl have said Apple 2: Bad apple Apple 3: Good apple. They're not in a financially stable position so they don't have to invite everyone and the kid isn't friends with everyone Apple 4: Good apple the teacher was bullying her

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, BUT WORDS WILL NEVER HURT ME", is what my narcissistic and overbearing father always told me. That was his idea of breaking generational trauma, but it didn't work out for anyone and he's disowned from my life now. Much better without that.

That last story reminded me of a teacher (Mrs.D.) I had in high school back in the 1990's. It was a "career links" class that was required to graduate. One day she was talking about different kinds on jobs, and she said that "sales people don't make any money, and [we] should strive to never be one". Both my dad and my best friend's dad were very successful salesmen in their fields (surgical sales and vet sales). I raised my hand and told her I disagreed and not all sales were in retail, and some pay VERY well. She snapped back at me told me I was wrong and I didn't know what I was talking about. I then went on to explain that everything in a hospital (from meds to beds) was sold to them by a sales person, and so was everything in our school, including the desks were were sitting in. She then yelled saying I was stupid, and to go to the principal. I yelled back, "I have two words for you, Ross Perot!", as I left the room. Later, both my parents were called in and it was gold. Mrs. D. called me an idiot for my remarks in front of parents, to which my dad then asked what exactly I said. She said I was ranting about how sales people make money and then yelled Ross Perot at her. My dad calmly went on to explain that due to that meeting he was losing out on over $1,000 by having to miss a surgery. He then said, "she shouldn't have yelled at you, but what was wrong with her example of Ross Perot?". Mrs. D. had no words, because she had no clue. He went on to say something like, "you do know that Ross Perot was a sales person for IBM and then owned his own sales company, right? He was IBMs top salesman in his first year, fulfilling his annual sales quota in his first couple weeks. He was so good the head of IBM came to him saying he was making twice as much as he was. After IBM heads wouldn't listen to any of the ideas he pitched, he left and started his own data company which became a multi billion dollar company, and changed facility data computing across the globe." Mrs. D. was speechless. Ill never forget my dad turning to the principal and saying, "if this lady doesn't understand the importance of salespeople, why is she teaching this class?" The principal just shrugged. I never got in trouble and Mrs. D. was pressured to "retire early" and left at the end of the school year.

Let's go it's the bad apple serie time!!!

#2: I have to disagree with you on this one. I don’t think he did anything wrong here. He’s there to run the 9 hour orientation program, and if anyone leaves early, he’s required to mark them as a “no show”, and they have to repeat the program from the start. She told him she had a sore throat, not that she was sick. A soar throat is one of the most innocuous symptoms a person can have. The number of times both I and people I’ve known have had sore throats that ultimately amounted to nothing, even after hours of soreness, is uncountable. You just pop a few cough drops and move on. If it ends up as something worse, then you can deal with it. When she brought it up, he told her what would happen if she left, and she made the choice to stay. I would likely have done the same thing, on both sides. I wouldn’t have wanted her to have to redo the program with only a little while left to finish, and I would definitely have stuck around for another hour if it meant I didn’t need to come back again later. Honestly, I don’t think this guy is a bad apple, but he’s not a good or crab apple either. As far as I can tell, he was just a guy following the rules. Enforcing the rules is not a power trip, it is doing what you’re required as part of your job. He wasn’t secretly getting a rush from having power of these freshmen, he was just doing what he was told to do. You guys are comparing apples, and have found an orange.

This my new favorite thing to listen to. Thanks so much Rebecca!!

No one ever really forgets bullying. My home life was relatively good, maybe my parents and I fought or I was jealous of my brother, but it was Stable. When I started public school and got bullied, I had my first suicide attempt at 8 years old; just because kids are young doesn't mean they haven't learned to use harmful language towards others.

Hi Ms Rogers, I completely agree with you. Especially on the last story, teachers should never bully students. Back in school, I had an English teacher, who was a female, she refused to let any female use the bathroom during her lessons, I was heavier than the other girls in my class so when it came to, female problems, mine were always more painful, I also suffer with depression and I had a meltdown in the middle of the class, not just because of the female problems but there was a bit of bullying going on because of my weight. The teacher just told me 'sit back down and stop being a baby, you're in year 10 now, you're not a baby' which made me even more upset. A year later, the teacher had left, which I was glad about because another family member started at my school and I didn't want her to go through what I had. Sorry to ramble on but I absolutely LOVE your videos x

This has got to be the worst one yet.. The first one he is following the sons request. He's obviously trying to be supporting of his son. But his son is trying to be the bigger person and handle it. As long as he's observant of the situation and makes sure he's over all safe and has a support system to vent to, that's what's important. #2 yeah he has a job to do. Honestly, let her go and mark her absence and she has to redo it. I think he made her stick around more as a courtesy since she had already spent that much time and if she didn't complete it, she'd have to redo it. Also strep throat isn't a disease it's a bacterial infection.

Dad is definitely a good apple. Teach your kid to have thick skin. Why? Because bosses, coworkers, family, friends as an adult will be bad apples. That's something we can't change. The only thing you can change is how you react.

I was bullied at 6, I remember… I remember the words that where said, the way that I felt, I even remember the voice of the bully and that voice plays in my head every now and then. I remember my bullies faces so well, I avoid people who remind me of them. Bullying is bullying, no matter what age, gender etc. the lasting effects bullying can have on people, the social anxiety, the feeling that everyone secretly hates you, it doesn’t leave. Bullying of kids that young needs to be taken more seriously, I’m lucky enough to have a mama bear who went to bat for me, but many people don’t and the first story is a prime example.

The last mom is teaching her daughter to advocate for herself not only in college but in real life as well. I got in trouble once for "being on my phone" when I had a heart monitor go off, and other students took up for me since I was scared to speak up.

Yes. You can drop classes when you don’t like the professors. There may be some classes where there’s only one professor option, but 9 times out of 10, that’s an elective and you can pick another. Same thing professionally. Also, that celebration was self-care, and that child deserves that

If I was the SPE teacher for #4, I would slip the parent information on how to pursue legal action against that teacher. I don’t know all the rules and procedures for non publics, but the accommodations she has in class should be legally binding. She wasn’t just a terrible person, she broke the law and discriminated against someone with a disability.

Wow! The teacher in the last story sounds INSANE! She basically said she didn't care that the girl was having mental breakdowns and that she would continue treating her like trash! The teacher is the bad apple! The mom is a GREAT apple for getting her daughter out of that ridiculous environment!

I had a very similar situation to the last story. Junior year i had APUSH and despite loving history, the class was way too much work for me to handle. I had trouble eating and was having panic attacks. I told my mom to get me out of that class, and she told the school, but they said class placements were final once the school year started. A few days later I felt extremely sick in homeroom, and went straight to the nurse's office and puked. My guidance counselor (who was already aware of the whole story) came down to see me within minutes and said that he was getting me out of that class no matter what, and that until it was done he would let me skip that class in his office. I was out of that class within the day. That guy was a legend. On a side note, AP classes are a scam unless you're trying to get into a really elite college. If you just want to go to any descent college, don't bother. I got almost a full ride to a school with a 40% acceptance rate without AP classes. Extracurriculars and/or work experience is way more useful (and less stressful) for both college and future employment.

"He won't remember in 20 years"......I'm 25 and I still vividly remember the things kids said to me in kindergarten.

I really wish the parent in the last story would’ve pushed harder at that conference but when you’re in the moment sometimes it’s so shocking you just can’t find the words