Fathers Day Message | Hopewell Church 

To you too my guy enjoy your day

I am not a biological father, but care (with my wife) for a mum and an "adopted" family. School runs, meals, holidays, play and so much more. I have a strong paternal instinct and in the absence of their own father, am a positive influence and receive so many blessings interacting with them. I do not doubt the Mother's part in the family, but it is fundamentally wrong to assume all men (or women) are not valuable in the family context.

@@JohnSmith-dd1sf The father is not fifty percent responsible for the birth of the baby. He only contributes a little DNA (since the Y chromosome is shorter than the X) and nothing else to the development or birth of the baby. The mother contributes a lot more DNA than the father does. The pregnant woman supplies the container, growth medium, blood, oxygen, nutrients, proteins, calcium, waste disposal and everything else required to build the baby, molecule by molecule, cell by cell, organ by organ. I don’t see the father having to give up alcohol, endure 3 months of nausea, vomiting and exhaustion, watch what he eats, attend multiple medical appointments where he is poked, prodded, weighed, examined and scanned, watch as his body stretches and changes unrecognizably and in some ways permanently, grow to be extremely uncomfortable and unwieldy, labor agonizingly for 12-48 hours, or be cut open, or experience the excruciating tearing of tissue in order for the baby to be born. And that is just a normal pregnancy, let alone facing all the considerable potential health risks involved, many life-threatening.

@@JohnSmith-dd1sf Many people are raised by single moms, and they turn out perfectly ok. The bond between mothers and children are a lot stronger than the bond between fathers and children are. I heard that children who are raised by lesbian couples tend to turn out a lot better than children who are raised by heterosexual couples do. I heard that lesbian relationships are healthier because they understand each other. If both partners understand each other, they won’t want to break up with each other. I also heard that women have higher rates of depression when married (in straight relationships). Women have maternal instinct, while men don't have anything like that. Being fatherless doesn't affect children that badly. Men are not wired to be parents since a single man can father over 1000 of children, while a single woman can only mother about 10 children. Men make millions of sperm each day, while women make 1 egg per month.

@@JohnSmith-dd1sf You get more DNA from your mother than your father. Also, your mom not only gave you more DNA (you’ve got her mitochondrial DNA too), but also provided you with every molecule that made up your body until birth. A man only contributes one cell to a baby. All the materials to make a baby are supplied by the woman. Men only contribute a few chromosomes when it comes to creating a baby. Women pretty much do all of the work when it comes to creating a baby, and the child gets nearly all of its DNA from the mother. The child barely gets any of the father's DNA. It seems that women are a lot more important than men are when it comes to parenting. Women seem to be a lot better at childcare than men are. It seems that women usually do most of the work when it comes to raising children.

Just reading the comments on this video because it really touched me as a father. My dad was and is crucial to my life and upbringing even though I love my mother more than I can say. Just curious if you have a father in your life and what that relationship is like? Sadly, many men today are sperm doners and not true fathers. A father isn’t a man who just gets a women pregnant but a man who leads his family by example, raises his children to be great people of integrity, always admits his failures and humbles himself to ask for forgiveness. When you talk about many people being raised by mothers and turning out okay, I wonder who you’re talking about and what you mean by “ok.” I heard countless men talk about having a father wound due to a father who was abusive or abandoned them altogether. A father gives identity to his children and they take on his last name, not their mothers. I’m not at all trying to be rude or arrogant in my comments but seeing your comment, I truly felt to respond and shed some light on the subject. A simple internet search of the epidemic of fatherlessness in just USA alone may also enlighten you to how crucial it is for every child to experience the Love of a Father.