(Fe)Male Gazing | Drew Afualo ft. Brittany Broski | THE COMMENT SECTION EP 5 

I just cackled

This made me LOL

LMFAO

Facts

LMAOO 😭😭

Omg ikr, I saw a TikTok abt a girl talking abt stocks and the comments were filled with men saying stuff like “I’d be heartbroken if my girl knew this much abt stocks” insinuating that the only way a woman can know anything abt the stock market is through a past ex, but then they put women down for “being dumb” and apparently not knowing anything abt such topics, it’s so stupid.

THIS!!!!! Suddenly it’s not cool to be interested in football or some other guy had to show you ect. Like hello i am a human with interests ?!

PREACHHHHH

@@Letnaturelive sUdDEnlY I KnOw mOre thAN You bECaUsE IM mAn gO Do mAkeUp!!!

@@user-np8yf8fj2w like do they expects girls to be born knowing everything about stocks?? Lmao it’s hilarious how unaware they are of their stupidity

that's from the Man Enough podcast by Justin Baldoni

@@sailoraries8086 do you know which episode or maybe a timestamp? would love to watch that conversation

@@sailoraries8086 thank you!!

Whoever said that is 100% correct and it's so unfortunate other oppressed groups can't just support each other.

damn

The domestic violence abuse split is about 65-35. And lesbian couples have the highest rates of domestic violence.

@@pinkkfloydd guess that makes it ok then!! 🖕

@@pinkkfloydd thats from one study and its very inaccurate and no actual professional would take it serious

@@pinkkfloydd thank you sir

@@jujumama he's not saying it makes it ok, he's saying men aren't the only ones to blame

aww dis cute

Pretty sure I'm older than both of them, but SAME

Ahhh sameeeeee!

I know I’m a month late, but I had to reply to you. Your comment was so sweet! I feel the same way, but I feel more like they’re my peers, they’re my friends. But I’m a little bit older than that, so that makes sense! Keeping your sweet Self!

Reminds me of hanging out/being babysat by my older cousins on her bed while she talked to her friends. She always involved me and i really appreciated that

from one internet stranger to another, i’m so proud of you for doing that self-reflection!! hope you have a good week and that you love continuing to find yourself♥️

@@kir-is-here from one internet stranger to another. Thank you, and I hope you have a great week

Yes bestie, welcome to the journey! It's gonna be a wild ride, and there's gonna be a lot to unlearn, but damn you're gonna be free.

@@XTheBeautyGuruX :) damn I want to be free so bad. And I’ll work for it

go off queen

Or, again, it could be so she would be desirable to men. She used a scent to feel attractive. The male gaze.

@@julianamaia939 Not really. If she did it to be desirable, she did it to profit off of the male gaze. She was a smart woman and used mens attraction to her to secure political power.

@@a.j.1819 how exactly is displaying your attractiveness/womanly characteristics to secure your political power not misoginistic? She wasnt respected because she was a “smart woman”, she was respected bc she was beautiful. That IS the male gaze.

@@julianamaia939 well she had really fin large army. And the world doesn't revolve around men, if I finna feel like looking good that's for ME and not for you.

@@yupyup1435 slay.

SPILL? 😳

Could you tell us a bit more about that?

Lol no !!!!😆

I'm curious 🤔

Please give us more reasons to despise cis straight men

That part scratched my brain in ways I couldn’t even imagine were possible. I love them so much

this is so damn true. I've had quite a few guys want every benefit in a relationship but they don't even have to be loyal to me cause they don't want to commit and be responsible. and then paint me as the crazy one cause I want to see it going somewhere

For sure. Men dont take accountability like women do. Women also communicate better and more direct and are always the first to apologize. And men are so emotional too like they cant control it. If only men were more like women the world would be a better place for sure

Men are monogamous out of necessity, not choice. No men want to be sexually exclusive. If every men had the choice to attract multiple women, they would never settle

@@emmanemz5824 it has nothing to do with responsibility. You just don't have anything to offer except your body. If you want a men to commit to you, you have to make him desire to want to commit. This is where most women fail.

Agree, my TV volume is at 100 and Drew is kind of hard to hear.

Yess I listen in the shower and can't hear 😩 lol

deadass omg

Lmaoooo I was looking for this comment. Had to throw my headphones in questioning if I gotta go see the ENT 😅

YESSS I was hoping someone else would say something omg

Also his biggest movie call me by your name was directed by a gay male, so that probably contributes as well

This was an interesting comment, good point.

so glad y’all noticed this too haha

As someone who is attracted to both men and women I find men attractive sure But women are like SO aesthetically pleasing to look at Literally Greek goddesses, all of em

@@cez_is_typing i agree 100% women are so beautiful to look at but thats about it

@@seds94 that is not what I said lmao, women are beautiful inside and out, men usually have like, 2 hobbies and don't wash themselves correctly lmao

@@cez_is_typing how you gonna be beautiful on the inside and not look up to men. Idk if that's possible but i agree with the 2 hobbies thing. Better to master one thing in my opinion

@@seds94 What? There’s plenty of ways to be a good and beautiful person without looking up to men?

I would HAPPILY sacrifice my Netflix subscription for tickets to that show 😍😍😍

YESSSSSSS i came here to comment this!!!

Did u know that all the podcast shows brittany have been to, all the comment section ask her to be a permanent host. The girl is just popping.

OH MY GOOOOOOD!!! A podcast with the 2 of them would be perfect!

Brittany already has a podcast with her roomie Sarah schauer! Dreaming of an episode where they talk about misogyny online and drew is a guest🥰

So very true.

Not to be on my radfem moment but... Men uphold a patriarchal standard that sexualizes young women and then shame women for abiding by that standard BECAUSE shame and humiliation is part of control. The same men who shame women and girls when they dress provocatively secretly love it when women drsss that way. The average person's concept of their own sexuality is SO unhealthy and full of this shame and contradiction, whether inflicted on others or inflicted on themselves.

@@TheReMorseCode i know this is a year later, but pls continue being on ur radfem moment because i literally never thought abt this. i distinctly remember wondering why i couldnt wear shorts at like 8 yrs old even though thats literally majority of the pants section at the store for girls

yup. Also being so hung up on sizes most of my clothes didn’t fit well. Yikes what a journey we’ve come

@@123leenaaa honestly same

Same. Growing up I was dressing to hide. Especially after being objectified at family gatherings once my breasts started to grow. I literally just wanted to feel safe at home. I hated my hourglass/spoon shapes, because I knew I would be drooled at by nasty older men. As an adult I love my shapes and I play with clothes, but still keeping it mostly safe and baggy and flowy to have air going easly through the fabric.

Me too, my 90lbs self thought I was fat, and knew if I dressed feminine I’d be a HUGE target. I then embraced it. Even at also 30, I look 16 and predatory men are obsessive.

I was thinking the exact same thing while watching that bit. I remember trying to bind my chest as much as possible to avoid harassment at 14 and 15 yrs old.

DAMN. DAMN. I gotta go reflect now as a bi woman

I’m so painfully straight 😞

I really wish there was a non straight bone in my body.

@@daniellew.7928 I'm bi and I really understand what you mean because I hate men so so much. But if you think about it, it's so isolating. When I came out I felt so unaccepted and alone. I would be so much more comfortable holding my man's hand in public or taking him home to my parents than i would with a woman. Still so many judgmental and hateful people in the world and it's a terrible feeling. Girls are so much nicer (most of the time) and better emotionally and they're so beautiful and funny and thoughtful but it's so hard to be open

@@emmanemz5824 very much how i'm feeling. I love that I'm not straight, but it has NOT been as easy as the straights think it is lmao

Totally agree. I was a size 10 to 12 most of my adult life, and I’ve recently started actually eating and enjoying my life, and now I’m an 18 and I’m trying to get comfortable with myself! This podcast is so healing. Love you, thicc sister!

@@noodlepoodlegirlsize 18????😳

Do you know what Sarah she’s talking about

Soggy Cookie sarah schauer (her roommate) :)

@@norg6090 okay ty

@@norg6090 and cousin 😍 /j lol

I partly agree with your analysis. But I think this phenomenon is far more convoluted. First off, what is femininity? How much of it is nature and how much is social conditioning. Characteristics such as "pretty, soft, fragile" are often times associated with femininity, and yet when you actually consider the intrinsically and biologically female characteristics such as the ability to create and birth humans, menstruation, the physiology of the female brain and its functions, nothing about it really is exclusively fragile, soft, pretty. Childbearing is not defined by frailty. It’s transformative, aggressive and spiritual. Having to go trough the symptoms of having your uterus lining breaking down, bleeding and being in pain every month does not require softness, it requires strength and resilience. Raising a human also requires cognitive complexity, mental strength, discipline and a deep sensitivity to subtle cues, the ability to understand human experience and psychology, and heightened emotional intelligence. Nature works by refining itself to reach efficiency, and such rigorous and complex tasks given to females also require granting women the ability to fulfill them. Otherwise we wouldn’t’ve survived. So those beforementioned required characteristics must be present in women. This is not to say that women show their worth by being mothers, but to try and find femininity through objective and scientific means, as opposed to ideological. Because as it stands, the narrative we hear doesn’t seem to fit reality. Prettiness is not intrinsically feminine either, nor is it required exclusively of women, since physical attraction benefits both men and women. It is, however, mostly expected of women. I would argue that the definition of femininity currently propagated is a mockery, to put it briefly. Looking at how men react to free and independent women, I’d say it’s imperative for them that femininity is curated and presented as a set of behavioral traits which keep women “non-threatening”. So, I find it necessary that we examine who’s norms are we following when we decide to go against the pick-me phenomenon, in order to limit the risk of placing ourselves in another trap.

@@aabracadavra I loved this. I don’t often comment on videos but I felt a nagging feeling and wanted to share my frustration. I wasn’t as nuanced as you in sharing those feelings but I can say that your comment here was truly relatable! All the things running around in my head that I couldn’t properly articulate, you did so clearly. I hope my comment didn’t rub anyone the wrong way, I just didn’t have the words, or maybe a bit too clumsy with my words.

@@canonrazi You were perfectly clear in your argumentation, and also correct since women truly are vilified and belittled no matter what they do. Your frustration is justified as well. I just find it hypocritical of them to criticize so called "feminine" behavior when it's pretty clear to me that this behavior was to some extent forced on women, by men, so they could feel comfortable in their equally fabricated portrayal of masculinity. I also saw it as an opportunity to raise awareness and potentially help other women escape those traps. I know it helped me. Since I was both a pick me and a "feminine" girl in my life. I'm currently in the process of becoming myself, and redefining femininity. I also know how hard it is to find yourself in media or the system as a woman, since it's heavily patriarchal and oppressive. Seeing that you found my commentary relatable makes my day. It's the least I can do.

@@aabracadavra There's too much words that I'm not reading but you both slayed 😍😍

The thing with 'pick me girls' is more about putting other women down to appease men. Like wearing makeup is fine. Not wearing makeup is also fine. It's when girls who don't wear makeup say 'oh well I don't wear makeup because I'm all natural and don't want to deceive men with makeup.' Another example: girls who play sports vs girlier girls. Both are fine but if the other puts down the other for what they prefer to appease men, then it's 'pick me' behaviour.

I was literally just thinking this. Every podcast I’ve seen her on it’s like she’s best friends with the host. I love it!!

I was just thinking this. One of the best things about her. Brittany is just amazing and vibes with anyyoonnee!!!

Is there a word for that?

@@aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa333 I think chemistry?

Same 💀

Men watch porn, women read porn (wattpad)

The stuff I wrote and read at 13-15 was wild lmao but honestly wattpad had a great community

@@sayeeed1303 the way u just gave male vs female gaze example 😭

YESSSS

YES

I love Chris but he would DESTROY the mellow, funny vibe here 😂 Chris is chaos

I think they filmed one with him!

Sooo true cause he's the other person that just clicked with Brittany.

for real I was where have you been all my life.

@@mickeysandoval9244 right!! Imagine a whole series with them! A dream 🙌🏻

THIS! I most definitely want a video about it

If they were the only two personalities on the internet sadly there are way more intelligent people than these two people 😂

Be your own Drew girlie but carry mace bc guys are crazy

@@hannahbarbarian6786 ya wanna hear something crazy? Mace and any kind of self defense weapons that you imagine the gals, gays and theys could benefit from are illegal in the UK. Its considered carrying a weapon. TRULY.

@@RealElongatedMuskrat what do you have to protect yourself? just your fists?

Bark at them

@@mariac1984 pretty much! The UK Gov be like: oh you're worried about SA and trying to protect yourself? Cry about it 😘✨

I find it ironic that the most attractive women are usually the taken ones. I mean it that once you're in a relationship and you build that emotional intimacy and trust and safety, suddenly all the guys can see your glow and get attracted like a magnet.

Press X to doubt.

You got rejected by the men that *you* wanted, you mean? There's nothing wrong w rejection tbf. We aren't gonna be attractive to everyone, and that's ok. If that's you in your profile pic, you seem like a very regular-looking person (as are most people) so I doubt there were ZERO men interested in you. They just probably weren't on your radar. I have some girl friends like this lol. They constantly bemoan being single and no guys being into them etc, meanwhile they have all these different guys in their messages and who they go for brunch with and stuff who clearly wanna date her but she'll just ignore it 😂😂

@@harrypike731bro what

@@cherrycokee my comment was in clear English. Sorry your reading comprehension skills are lacking

Me too! I would love to have a couple episodes that were several hours long. We literally can’t get enough of a good thing.

Read this comment as Brittany said: “do it be jiggling from the back?” 😂

My lizzie Maguire 90s/00s fantasy 😍

It reminds me of what was popular when I was when in middle school but attractive.

hope ur doing ok🤞❤️ sending love to u

@@angel127_ awe appreciate that a lot, thank you!✨💞

blessings bestie, you deserve all the healing and laughter 🥰

me too friend, I've just started therapy after chickening out for years because I didn't wanna relive it but I'm reliving it every day by not dealing with the fall out so hey. Hit me wit it. Sending you love and healing energy ❤️

@@georgiakuchinsky thank youuu I needed this today!🥰

They really don’t though

I think Brittany should be a guest Andrea show routinely, like once a month or something! I love Brittany with Sarah, but Brittany with Drew was so, so good too!

I had the same thing. Great episode though.

was looking for this comment lol it's so hard to hear

Same, no matter how high I turned it up it's SO QUIET

Dude I was looking for this comment!

when she said that i was like "oop. who's gonna tell her ??"

@Hayley Bagels Girl are you okay? You're all over this comment section defending misogyny, objectification and hypermasculintiy.

@@lilscenechick1995 girl she not ok, we lost one, just gotta chop it up to the game

@@wutangclandamn she is being realistic. Most women who complain about misogynistic men, fucbois or masculine men always end up sleeping with them.

@Hayley Bagels is that like ur kink or something… being objectified?

@Hayley Bagels that is genuinely embarrassing please never admit that to anyone

Please do!!!

Misogyny ✨

@@XTheBeautyGuruX I mean no one had a problem with the cheerleaders

@@ppapas6457 you're saying you were developed, and that's why they dress coded you. But you were a minor. That makes them kinda sketchy pedo no?

cause the adult men who run the school think youre attractive and they wanna shame you for it

@@ppapas6457 that’s the misogyny

Lmao no fr

Scrolled for this comment

Super insightful and a bit of a love story!

what's wrong with defending one's masculinity or straightness?

@@christopherbrown5409 it means it's insecure, if you're confident in your masculinity or sexuality you wouldn't feel the need to defend it, specially in this case where its such a silly thing you would be reacting too. If you have a problem with someone saying you have boyfriends and that affects your sexuality or masculinity, maybe you should reflex why it bothers you.

@@bluester7177 who are you, someone who's privileged enough to not be affected by it, to call it silly, though? Why are you fine with people's boundaries being disrespected? You wouldn't want others disrespecting yours, now would you, hypocrite? Also, no one who knows you don't have boyfriends jokes like that unless they're explicitly being disrespectful. And how does one "reflex" anything?

​@@christopherbrown5409chill my guy. You're sounding fragile

@@christopherbrown5409the whole point is that you should reflect on why the implication of being gay is disrespectful. Why is that? Why is that a bad thing to you?

I always get so confused when I read about the server grating cheese over your food lol. It's not a thing in europe, usually they bring out already grated parmesan in a little dish to your table so you can serve yourself all through the meal. But glad you got out of there lol, sounds awful especially for a tip like that 😬

@@TheKiri1998 it is specific to one chain of restaurants lol. And Olive Garden just sells mediocre American-Italian food. But yeah it’s obviously not a great company to work for and their customer-base was just not great people

@@RyanBartlitt you literally couldn’t have worded this better 😵‍💫 I’m a server at OG

I wish they would just have Parmesan on the table like every other place so I don’t have to sit through the awkward “say when “ cheese thing lol

I experienced the same thing. Love these girls but was def a little hard to hear 🥲

girl same my car volume was on max and almost crashed when the ads screamed at me

I was wondering if I was the only one.

Is that her natural voice too? Its very raspy and hard to hear sometimes too where as Brittany was so loud haha

I am “one of the boys” not in the pick me sense but in the sense I am so burley/wide and unbothered I am often mistaken for the other guys working around me

This! And Mark Wahlberg

OMFG FR

@Hayley Bagels look who got defensive for no reason. he’s a middle aged average looking man. And I’m 💅 so I disagree but regardless it’s not about me liking him it’s about even straight men saying they think he’s hot when he’s taken and almost fifty. I just find it strange that even straight men apparently like an average looking man I think they’re just trying to be one of The Boys or are in the closet. I never said men had to be straight it’s that straight men apparently like this dude because everyone else does.

@Hayley Bagels why are we arguing over this

@@ryangray8075 exactly

She said she was sick at the beginning so I think that’s why :)

Probably because it's still intrinsically tied into patriarchy, which upholds white as the conventional beauty standard. When cinema started moving away from the typical popular white jock ideal and toward the fragile geek turned knight/superhero ideal, it really just transferred a lot of the same standards onto a different body/personality type while leading girls and women to the same conclusion about men = white is right.

@@T_Cup I was about to say that the halyu wave, which is the korean culture boom we're having, portrays it slightly different. But then I remembered the korean beauty standards where most singers and actors till this day bleach their skin in a way just to be as close to white as possible... They've been brainwashed by hollywood as well, althought some stars are starting to rock their natural skin tone with more confidence.

True but I think in terms of weight it is different for men who are fat. They are still seen as more desirable then fat women. For example dad bods Homer Simpson and marge. Like I know many fat men who have a skinny girlfriend and everyone roots for them. Versus when it’s a fat women with a skinny man ppl feel bad for the guy and tell him to get out of the relationship. Also aging is different men can age and women shouldn’t. Ppl are calling Selena Gomez old looking

True but I think in terms of weight it is different for men who are fat. They are still seen as more desirable then fat women. For example dad bods Homer Simpson and marge. Like I know many fat men who have a skinny girlfriend and everyone roots for them. Versus when it’s a fat women with a skinny man ppl feel bad for the guy and tell him to get out of the relationship. Also aging is different men can age and women shouldn’t. Ppl are calling Selena Gomez old looking

@@Musiyca The halyu trend might be a trickle-down affect of the male gaze, which exotifies Asian beauty. This is rooted in racism and classism because there's this old, lingering belief that Asians (typically women) live to serve their western "superiors" (typically men), particularly in maintaining their beauty. And when you look at the way Kpop artists interact with their fans, this idea is prevalent = the live-to-serve attitude and the heavy focus on maintaining looks, weight and overall appearance, even among the male artists, is thriving.

Very well put.

Repeal the 19th asap. Yesterday

Thank yoooouuuuuuu!! So many guys respond in that way and it's frustrating.

it's only the shitty men who get all defensive about it, but the actual decent guys can tell that women aren't meaning ALL men and they'll sympathize and move on. but these shitty guys ong... anal about anything slightly negative towards masculinity lmao

Thanks. Ik a lot if comments are attacking all men tho and its kinda annoying

like fr if youre 18+ and similar to these two or seriously relate to them pls i need friends LMAO

ooo that would be so good! I don't know if that would happen any time soon with Bruce just being born, though. Hopefully some day!

Yes!!

Yessssss leave Ethan out of it fr love him tho

@@mellowmead yes! Hila doesn’t get to talk nearly enough! (Ethan is the main but i just need more Hila content)

omg yes I love Hila!!!

Agreed! Let’s make it a regular thing! I loved it, and I’ve only read enthusiastically adoring comments.

Why can't grown women get that they're not supposed to hit men who don't hit them?

@@christopherbrown5409 we’re not defending women who hit me here so….if the patriarchy goes down so does a lot of abuse and fear

That sounds amazing, and like you enjoyed it!