FENTANYL KILLS: Heidi Kettles' Story 

Girl bye. Don't judge. And don't be RUDE! How insensitive. Every person is different with different circumstances so u can't compare ... I pray for you. God bless 🙏🏾✝️

I shared the same sentiment - marijuana seems to be a recurring theme in these tragic stories

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And now even weed is being laced with fentanyl. So people think they're safe by staying away from pills. Not anymore.

Definitely a gateway drug

So true...glad you relate.

This is absolutely true. And it doesn't stay the same it evolves. But the love is always there and unconditional.

I was thinking the same watching this mother’s flat affect as she told the story of her daughter in a matter of fact way. Yet, I know the layers and complexities involved, other factors playing into it, etc. 😢

@@DJ-nk4dq flat..on the facts indeed

Money means nothing the laughter and closeness Is what is the best.

AMEN PRAISE JESUS THANK YOU LORD

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It runs in my family, too. My beloved uncle committed suicide at a fairly young age. His own father was a raging alcoholic. I choose to remember my uncle's GOOD days...before he was addicted. I believe that God has mercy on these people. God is good.

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Amen!

PRAYING FOR YOUR SON IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME AMEN

I am sorry, your have been, and are going through this tremendous pain. I cannot even imagine. To not only lose your stepson and now to be fighting this battle through and with your son must be, what you said, absolute torture. I am so very terribly sorry for you. God bless and help you. 🇦🇺💔xoxox

❤ May the Lord be with you, strengthen you and give you wisdom concerning your son...so sorry you are going through this. Pray for him and get others praying, too, is my suggestion.

The fervent prayer of the righteous availeth much❤

How sad😢😢. Addictions are Satan's work

I had to think about that one for a second too.

I think your Right with most young people! There is is a number of people who smoke weed dabble in drugs than actually outgrow it, living a sober life,but a majority of people definitely end up doing harder drugs

Based on scriptures, yes, it’s REBELLIOUSNESS! There are severe consequences for REBELLION by Almighty God! 🙏🙏🙏

That was my first thought as well. She has chosen this. I feel so sorry for her children. Rebellion is a disaster. Peace to her family 🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🙏🙏🙏🙏

Good job no one is asking for your opinion then! Think before you post so critically about people you don't even know!

Thank you for your comment and I'm glad you're encouraged

No more drugs is the message,too much trouble including drunk driving,loosing ones life,destroyed families 😮😢😢😢

A lot if times that's exactly why I did drink and used drugs.

Yes. And in listening to this mother, it seems she practiced not showing her emotions/feelings. Perhaps this was passed on to her daughter who could not cope in that way. It's important to express one's emotions and to allow oneself to feel. This is how we learn to cope; it's like building emotional muscle.

There's usually underlying trauma that starts the need to numb ourselves. From a recovering addict who was molested as a child and SA'ed by a "friend" at 20 years old. Then at 33 I was attacked again and stabbed over 40 times, beaten in the head with a pistol, and left for dead. The trauma is what causes us to want to numb ourselves, if Even for a little bit.

You know, I’ve never thought about it like that before but it’s so true. It’s incredibly hard to reach a person who has been turning feelings and/or emotions off.

But what about ayahuasca?

It is sad when that happens. Respectfully, the great physician who ran therapeutic housing for people with addictions, Gabor Mate, says Substance Use Disorder is always more complex than partying. It is usually (Mate say always) rooted in deep trauma. Addiction, in itself, is rooted in the brain’s ancient survival system and it is unbelievably hard to argue with, as it shuts down nerve pathways to the prefrontal cortex. It’s a terrible disease that happens to good people. They are suffering and need love and professional help. I can tell that this mother loved her daughter, deeply and I believe that this young woman was a good person, who cared for about someone who was struggling with addiction and had hurt her, badly, in his illness. Tragically, she was poisoned, while she was trying to overcome a terrible disease. I wish to God her mother had been allowed to adopt her children. 💔

I hear you... it's so important for all of those who are struggling with mental health issues to get help in a healthy way instead of turning to substances.

​@@sciencenotsrigma GABOR IS AWESOME

Exactly

PRAYING FOR YOU IN JESUS NAME AMEN

Thank you so much and so sorry for your loss. May you receive God's comfort and Grace and healing.

I’m so sorry for your loss and pain. Prayers to you 😢

You're very discerning

I think it is mom's way of coping.

Sometimes we have to use words to make ourselves feel better about what happened

when you become a teen and a youth in your 20's you want to know more about yourself, what are you are capable of w/o the influence or help of your parents...you will make a lot of mistakes and get into trouble and you most figure out to get out of that learning something...BUT when you get related with the wrong people and you are somewhat weak and immature, you can cross a HUBE LINE...the one that gets you to dangerous paths...Some of us as adults can talk about being miracously saved by circumstances..by someone who happened to be there and helped us..or by LUCK...& we got REALLY scared by this or these experiences and we tried to not be with this people, or this places or this situations anymore..We learnt from this scary or dangerous situation and we got more experience and got more mature..BUT not all people are capable of that. I'm deeply sorry for all of this kids,teens, youth or adults that are getting trapped in this leathal drugs by people that sell them and dont care.

You know, as a woman who lost my baby daughter, I know what grief is. How about not talking about the disobedience of a girl that died and the judgmental remarks. Why? Bc it is just the right thing to do. Let this mom tell her own story, and if you don't like it, then just shut up! There was NO compassion to be found in your comment. I'm sure Jesus would agree.

I get it, mine were off the map with disobedience. It may be that there is an unspoken cultural thing that you don't speak evil of the dead, or that her kids might see this some day. Who knows?

GOD BLESS YOU IAM PRAYING THAT YOUR ARE THE GENERATIONAL BREAKER IN YOUR FAMILY IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME AMEN TRUST JESUS NOTHING IS TOO BIG FOR OUR LORD GOD

I hope you're doing ok ❤️

Man, the things we did in the seventies! And most of us lived to tell the tale. If you overdosed, it was a true overdose, not poisoning.

@@stacyjaye6350 exactly.

​@@stacyjaye6350 so true, I grew up in the 80s and wonder if I'd have survived my teens if I was growing up now.

🙏🙏RIH CARRIE LYNN🙏🙏

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I’m so sorry for your loss of Carrie. Blessings to you.

I'm so so sorry for your loss... I just encourage you to accept and embrace what you're going through and have a support system. Be kind to yourself and patient.

Very Sorry For Your Loss, it is devastating to lose a family member. My condolences

There’s probably more to the story in that regard.

Same. I cannot fathom seeing my baby granddaughter adopted by strangers. Totally incomprehensible. My heart is broken for all of them, the children and the grandparents.

I was just about to say this. She needs to petition the courts. But depending on how long the children have been with the adopted family, the judge may not want to disturb their placement without probable cause.

I am in that situation. I'm trying to get my grandchild back from the person his dad gave him to. Seems like a no-brainer but it's not unfortunately. As dad has custody even tho he doesn't have him the courts still go for dad over grandma.

How can you tell when some is on fentanyl

Me too. Can't understand.

I rarely see eye to eye with the religious principles of no premarital sex. I've seen too many marriages fail or turn bad because they began for the wrong reasons. But with the ignorance of young people these days concerning sex and conception (total responsibility of parents and school curriculums) these days I've become a strong voice for don't do it if you can't face the consequences.

We always appreciate your comments 🤗

That part broke me. Initially, I thought, “Well, at least they can adopt the 4 grandkids, so they’ll always have small bits of Heidi surrounding them.” Once she said that they weren’t able to adopt them, let alone see them, my heart shattered.

❤ yes I did and it has been heart-wrenching. I'm very glad for God's peace and healing power in my heart that is helping me to heal.

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I wonder why so odd not to go to the grandparents of parents are no longer here unfortunately RIH prayers for the mom and family no mom no parent at any should hav to bury their own child. I lost a son and the pain is unimaginable and a pain like no other

Humm... I have definitely worked through a lot of it, but, There's still a lot more to process. It's even harder processing living losses...

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Same, I am binging & just noticed it was just posted 25mins ago 🥺🥺🥺

I can't say I still understand all of it. they definitely prepare the body before they give the organs away. The young lady that got my daughter's kidney is doing very well.

You're welcome and it was not easy to tell this much of my story in the first time I've done so.

Even birth control? For instance, my son knows that a condom also needs spermicide to be effective. For women, there are like 27 different kinds of birth control. Unplanned pregnancies have ruined many lives.

You have to ❤

@@stacyjaye6350Yes, and you can get a free IUD at Planned Parenthood that lasts for 5-7 years!!

@@stacyjaye6350what are you talking about right now dude?

@@stacyjaye6350 Ok and? It's simple. There's different ways to take birth control. Orally, topically, implants.. they all last different time periods. Per day, per week, per month, per year.. Literally just talk about what their preferences are. If your girl can't reliably take it daily, try a patch. If they're okay getting an implant, try the arm one that lasts 3 years. This isn't complicated.

I agree. Mental health, including grief, often helps drive those like that to substances.

They have the propensity but often the person doesn’t find out until they start using. Then the war begins.

Addiction runs in my family. But there absolutely is tons you can do about it. Don't try drugs or alcohol period and you won't become addicted.

That's no excuse. You fight it. Just like every other addict. You fight the addiction, not the root cause. Most people don't get that deep.

That’s my story! Sober date 12/31/92

I am guardian of my 2 grandkids (9&10). Mother and my son getting themselves together. Son 2 years in residential recovery program doing amazing. Trosco

I agree, something does seem very wrong.

This is a part of the story that was left out. Often CPS will consider placing the children with a family member if that person is able to adequately parent them. I'm curious about why these grandparents didn't get the kids. I think there's a lot of stuff underlying the situation here that we don't know - I guess that's true with everyone.

Thank you, I was thinking the exact same thing! Why oh why would you put kids in foster, when they have a grandparent willing and able to care for them. I swear, our system...😢

Because the court systems are a mess. What's right doesn't always win

Really appreciate your condolences and encouragement. That was the most positive thing that came out of it that she elected to be a donor as I encouraged her to be and we got to put the seal on that.

But can't CPS laws differ in each state? Maybe in TN the next of kin don't automatically get custody once a child(ren) becomes a ward of the state.

yeah,i was wondering that too

It seems like the kids were in foster care for quite a some time, then later, adopted. It's hurtful for the grandparents to have lost their daughter AND grandchildren; but it's also important for the children to have stability, security and a sense of grounding. Maybe they are well established & thriving in their adoptive home(s), and being uprooted/readjusting to life in another state, with "new" and grieving adults (even their own blood relatives) just wouldn't be in their best interests. I do hope that these grandparents can maintain contact, though, because as the children get older they will want to know about their parents and their family history. It's still possible they can develop a close relationship, and reconcile when the time is right! I am so sorry for their loss and pain, but hope they will one day see this come full circle.

There is much more to the story I am sure.

@@ilovegoodsaxthey do differ from state to state , so it's not uncommon , if that person worked for CPS you would think they would've known that 😏

Last year I had my best friend die at 28 years old from alcohol... She was Chinese and also tiny but before she met me, she drank way too much alcohol everyday for almost 4 years apparently. Horrible to see her go like that also, her previous "friends" apparently saw her drinking too much face to face for all this time but didn't do anything to stop her because they thought that it was fine... Liver transplant couldn't save her, it sucks since she was a sweet person and regained control of her life but the damage was already done

Damn I'm small I love to drink and this hitzz

​@@nicolemariee7940me too

I was literally just thinking that in my head as i was listening to the story and scrolling the comments & i stopped at hours and read it and was like damn, took the words right out of my head LOL -- this has to be on or the saddest ones i have heard for a lot of reasons ( doesn't mean i don't think the rest of them aren't as sad or mean as much ) , i was just touched by this one different than the rest of them is all -- it's very clear to see this mother/daughter never had that relationship from the start ; now they never will & i think she is really torn apart by that... i feel it from her when she speaks , im even tearing up now just typing it to you... i could never even begin to imagine how any of them much feel.. Imagine not having any kind of relationship or good memories to hold onto after they're gone, i mean.... fuck-- i can only imagine those memories & relationships is what gets those parents by , remembering.... she doesn't even have that... that's fucking brutal... i think they have other children as well this couple , i'm glad they do because it they didn't idk if either one of them would be here, respectfully. All any of us can really do is just listen & pray for them all, the ones lost & the ones who get left behind ❤

@@ssourrgummiez Yes! You can see the Mom and Dad wanted the best for her, and saw so much potential in her. It's just unfortunate that once the drugs get them, they're basically gone.

Thankfully I don't because I overall aim to die my best in all situations

I pray that your off the drugs now! Marajuana is absolutely a gateway drug!

Weed isn't a gateway drug

Alcohol is far greater of a gateway drug than weed. Weed doesn’t make me wanna do cocaine or stupid shit but alcohol sure does. * recovering addict myself*

Yup alcohol is more of a gateway drug however I think if you do more then you have an addictive personality. We take drugs daily (tablets etc) it doesn’t matter what it is you will go further for the high each time

Sadly it's all over America now. They are poisoning our youth. 😢

Fentanyl is being bought into the USA to purposefully kill off the younger generation. Our younger generation is fading and it’s sad what the world has become. May God help us all. 😢

Love Washington state, Love Spokane. Heartbreaking to see what's happening. Sending you strength, courage, and love, from Tulsa.

I appreciate you're inside and your comment as I believe that's true. We can all say about where we went wrong, and yet we all need to realize it wasn't all our fault and to blame ourselves is not productive.

My mom passed unexpectedly, even though she was 88. I did the best I could, my sister spent eight years buried in grief. My mom used to say, life is for the living. Carry on, soldier.

@@stacyjaye6350my mum said the same thing ❤

Thank you so much for your comment and your heart... I'm so sorry for your losses... I'm so glad that something I said was helpful.

I appreciate your empathy and encouragement.

She has a strong testimony. God will use this tragedy for good.

Thank you for discerning that... That was certainly my heart and aim

100%!!!

Yup in a way yes you are correct.

You are very right .That why people need healthy outlets and people who care to help them through it. My wife and I believe Jesus is a big part of what is helping us.

Pretty inaccurate take on your part.

Addiction is a disease just like cancer. More often it is genetically programmed in the addict.

Same for me with my mother. I still question whether it was just a reaction even though the doctors assured me it was. 😢

I agree 100%!

I really appreciate your comment. It's all messed up and all we can do is to try to turn it to the good and keep moving forward. God bless you.

Yes, she is a bit hectic.

I totally agree

It's probably hard for her to talk about

Well said 👍

Beautifully written👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 also, McBride is my family last name.

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Actually these kids can educate parents…they know

I absolutely agree. I just wish people wouldn't use any kind of drug the first place. I know this is a hard topic with many layers and its probably impossible to eradicate but a lot of people miss the biggest issue. Its drugs. Its always drugs. I only come across it second-hand from work as I'm a nurse but I have no fear of it at home. The only way fentanyl will take me out is if I help a patient with something in their belongings and I get cross contaminated or something like that. It doesn't stalk me as I go home or while I sleep at night. It won't attack my husband and take him away. We don't drink nor do drugs. I've seen so many ruined lives in my profession and a huge uptick in people under 30. I feel for seeing what drugs does to people in mind and body, but to address a bigger picture is that using drugs in and of itself is poison. It will kill you either slowly or quickly. Watching my sister die from alcoholism was hard, but alcohol is poison too and the slowest way to go. I have sympathy for all involved but I feel that the big picture is being missed. If we treated cancer like we treated fentanyl deaths we would be treating the nausea and pain but doing nothing for the cancer itself. This next part is the hardest one too tackle. Our culture celebrates mental issues and degenerate behavior. We turn to numbing pain instead of facing it. We all need to change this or the issue will prevail. We need to love each other to see the real issues and hold each other up during our struggles. We also need to stop tearing each other down and worshipping terrible life choices. We also need to be open to help from people who truely care instead of those who hand out an illicit substance to deal with it. Those people who truely want to help have hard words to swallow sometimes but its better to listen and do than taking a pill, snorting up powder, or shooting something into a vein. I see it here so much and at work from people who tried so hard to save someone else. These tears are so bitter. It just breaks my heart. God bless those people who fight to save others and those who are trying to change.