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Hi Friends, this was a difficult story to share because it brought back a lot of old trauma. In fact it took me several weeks to get myself back to a good place. But I hope that sharing my experience will help someone else going through something similar to not feel so alone.
Hugs, Adelina
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@codysmom6071 3 месяца назад

I have known many Franklins in my life both male and female in my family and workplaces. I am about to turn 70 and spent the last few years in therapy. I spent years waiting for the other shoe to drop because it was always inevitable. I’m now retired and have banished those people from my life. I can’t begin to tell you how lovely it is to wake up everyday without a huge rock on my chest.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

It really is lovely. I simply don't allow anyone like that in my personal world now. And professionally I set hard boundaries.

@doramedley1877 3 месяца назад

I'm sure what you've experienced is PTSD. More power to you girl for getting yourself out of this horrendous situation.

@LiveFree123 3 месяца назад

I was married for 36yrs to this type of person and finally escaped. I was sick all the time and literally felt like I was going to die young if I continued to stay. I’ve been free for 6yrs now and living my best life at the young age of 69. (I’ll be 70 in September ☺️) I definitely experienced PTSD. My best years are ahead of me! Thank you for sharing your story. No wonder I’ve felt like you’re a kindred spirit and love your videos. Much love❤️🇨🇦

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I'm so glad you're thriving now. We are much stronger for sure ❤️🤗.

@dianaw248 3 месяца назад

Those people are toxic vampires….and their negative energy can debilitate us…..I am so glad you were strong enough to escape……thank you so very much for sharing..Adelina

@donnamullins2089 3 месяца назад

Programed! You were programed by Franklin... Glad you planned your escape and are now living you best life. Near the ocean, content and in your beautiful tiny house.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Yes! Thank you!☺️

@annesmith5192 3 месяца назад

He programmed her like an abusive husband programs his wife. I used to teach a course about abusive relationships, and Franklin really has the characteristics of an abusive husband.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

@annesmith5192 he was and I always felt bad for his wife and sons.

@littlehermiebanana 3 месяца назад

OMG! I worked for a lawyer like this. The gaslighting, bullying and control was horrible! Thanks for sharing.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

That sucks. I'm sorry you had a boss like that too. 😩

@candicecassel1110 3 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing this nightmare experience. I too have either married, worked or know someone like “Franklin”! Thank you and very glad you came through!

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Sorry to hear that. Glad you free as well.

@GrandmaD2024 3 месяца назад

I kept thinking... thank God you got away from him, and his poor wife and family! 😮

@12Gaile 3 месяца назад

Sound was fine for me. 😊 In the corporate world there are too many people in authority with the personality you described. My last boss who sent me into retirement before I was ready was one of them. So sorry for the pain you endured....On another note I hope you are enjoying Memorial Day. Take care of yourself. ♥️🐈💐

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thanks for sharing ❤️.

@ERNIE555 3 месяца назад

Unfortunately there are so many psychonarcs in this world, And yes they do get a charge out of torturing people, especially the kind ones. Thanks for sharing your story

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

You're welcome ☺️

@mavahuth5044 3 месяца назад

You are definitely right.

@CuzmicTarot 3 месяца назад

Thisss It Is absolutely abhorrent

@ginnyshayne2702 3 месяца назад

I needed to hear this today. I have been divorced 19+ years but my ex was this type of person and we were married almost 15 years. I did some counseling afterwards which helped but I still had triggers for years and financial worries still make some of those old self-doubts creep in. But I have come so far and have blessings of good health, a good employer, and live in a beautiful location. Thanks for your video.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Good for you! ❤️❤️🤗

@GrannyGiggles1 3 месяца назад

Thanks for making space to share your truth and for gifting us with the wisdom and insights to manage our Franklin’s. Hugs 🤗 ❤

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

You are so welcome 🤗.

@kariwick-InnerPeaceCoaching 3 месяца назад

Thank for sharing❣️ The abuse and programming you went through is called “coercive control’. Having worked with abused women and girls/teens around the world, I am all to aware of how deadly and soul-crushing it can be. I am very glad you got out before another cancer/health scare❣️❣️❣️ And am grateful you discovered how WORTHY you/we all are❣️

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you ☺️ 🙏🏼

@sj6728 3 месяца назад

My Daughter. 😢 I am super happy for you in your knew phase of life!!!! I am so proud of you!!!! I enjoy your videos. This was an amazing one. Not an easy one to do. You have the courage of a Lion.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much!!☺️

@pamelavance648 3 месяца назад

I worked for Franklin for 12 of my 15 yrs at a company... ptsd is real.. it's been almost 5 yrs and watching this video brings it all back and at the same time reminds me how strong i have become. Definitely learned to walk away from such treatment now and what im okay with and not OK with . So spot on with the story and information she is sharing. Today i acknowledge your strength and all of those who have been through this or going thru this. You are not crazy... part of this is the reason people call it crazy making. Repeat after me... Im a valuable individual I'm important and I matter, it's OK to take care of myself...😊 Stay kind but stay strong. Don't let others make your heart hard and closed off Edit... Wanted to add the first time I learned of what a narcissist was from searching and learning while trying to protect myself and my job. I cried really hard and that's when the strength and healing began.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I live that: Stay kind but stay strong 💪🏼 😊.

@lorirugato6463 3 месяца назад

I am living it now and trying to get out. This has really opened my eyes because I thought I was going crazy and feeling sick inside all the time.

@Jojoshmoo1 3 месяца назад

I worked with someone that could be described as a Narcissist. They had a way of undermining people, telling you something then denying it, stripping people of confidence. They took delight in emailing in great detail how wrong you were. (Even if they were wrong) I left the team and work with a lovely team now and have regained my confidence. People like this should never manage people. The hard thing is though they always get promoted.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Unfortunately they seem to be the type that does end up managing staff 😩

@janner3349 3 месяца назад

Excellent video-thank you for sharing your story.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Glad you enjoyed it!

@dinabertrand9113 3 месяца назад

The reason I started looking into tiny houses is because of a narcissistic "situation" and it seemed the only viable option for me. I'm glad you were able to get out of it!

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

You as well!

@SAN563-bq2tj 3 месяца назад

No sound issue for me. Your story was so interesting and the amount of courage you displayed quite remarkable. It would be so nice if these awful bosses didn't exist, but I'm afraid that just isn't the case. The fact you are in a good situation now is quite remarkable. Kudos to you 👏 stay strong! Be inspirational! Kindness matters. That is a super power! 👌

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Yes, kindness matters a whole lot 🤗

@MohuaNag-mm7es 3 месяца назад

Such a lovely story session from your pretty home.. Look forward to more such stories.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much!

@californiaglo9666 3 месяца назад

The Secret helped me tremendously. I am 63 years old and still do vision boards which assist me in meeting my goals and desires. Occasionally I have a down day (today). Thank you for reminding me to focus on the what, not the how. ❤🙏

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I hope you're feeling better now ❤️🤗

@debbiefockler9890 3 месяца назад

I started having a panic attack watching your video. It wasn’t until I realized that I had the same situation happen to me in the home. I eventually got out of it but the emotions still come up when I hear stories like yours. I’m glad you ere finally able to get out of the situation. God always provides when things get tough. Take care.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I'm so sorry it triggered you 🥺❤️

@bonniedurie3050 3 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing. I'm sure that you've helped many people with your honesty. Continued blessings!

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you! You too!

@janewills3379 3 месяца назад

Oh Adelina, this is a brave video. I applaud you. I had someone in my life that was a bully with narcissistic tendencies. I can tell you the PTSD is real and stress-related cancer is also real. Congratulations on getting out of this situation once you recognized that you were being groomed. ❤🤗

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you ☺️

@janewills3379 3 месяца назад

@@myBIGtinyhouselife 😊

@3dchick Месяц назад

Thank you for sharing this. It had to be hard. Hopefully, someone who's in that situation wull recognize it and this wull inspire them to do the steps and hsve the hope to get out! 😊

@rimonagale1625 3 месяца назад

WoW! It is wonderful that you put your emotional energy into sharing this story. And hopefully it will help at the very least, one person. I also have PTSD. Sending warm greetings to you.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

🙏🏼❤️

@craftycat6859 3 месяца назад

So sorry you had to go through that, especially with everything else you were dealing with at that time. Glad you were able to get finally get away from that horrendous situation! I can certainly understand you having triggers still & some PTSD after that experience. Thank you for sharing, agree there are others who needed to hear this. I know someone I will be sharing this with.🙏💕

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thanks ☺️

@BadZootcom 3 месяца назад

You are not alone ❤ Thank you for sharing and sharing how far you’ve come!

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

You are so welcome!

@lauramens4099 3 месяца назад

I ❤-ed watching you tell your story. That must have been such a difficult time for you. And look where you are now!! You can be so proud of yourself!!

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much!☺️

@sherylclements2846 2 месяца назад

Oh I am so very sure thousands more than 1 person needed to hear this. You should write a book on this!! You have blessed so many by telling your own story here. Just in knowing one isn't alone, walked your similar journey in one way or the other, and gotten to the other side and not only "seen the light", but are now walking, living, breathing in the light. For me? It's by the Grace of God I had courage rise up within me and shut it down. I had to. My former sister in law would have used me throughout this life until my last breath. And once I did get to the other side of it? It does indeed take time to see where you've been, walking slowly out of PTSD. You can hardly believe you were in such a place. I no longer wear ANYONE's dog collar, nor do I "sit, stay, and fetch" on command.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 2 месяца назад

That was very beautifully written. Thank you for sharing and good for you! 🙏🏼🤗❤️

@jacqcoldwell7225 3 месяца назад

Thank you for explaining this so eloquently. My father is outwardly charming & at home was as you describe (and an aggressive alcoholic to just add to the mix). I am nearly 60, I have had no contact for over 10 years. The exhaustion of always waiting for the other shoe to fall is diminishing. I was given ill health retirement (not something I would have wished for) 7 years ago following an ongoing terrible work situation which triggered similar responses. I finally had therapy and was diagnosed with complex PTSD. I actually found that diagnosis hard to accept, I associated it so much with military personnel & the terrible things they see & experience. I did not see my circumstances as nearly so serious. My Clinical Psychologist was brilliant, I am grateful for her every day. The damage these people do is immense - I can spot them a mile off now & it concerns me how often these beahviours are seen in people with power when they are clearly unfit. Thank you ❤️

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Hi there. I'm sorry you went through that. I agree, it feels weird to admit to it being PTSD for the reasons you said. But it changes who you are and how you react for ever. I'm glad you got the help you needed. ❤️

@jeffg305 2 месяца назад

I lived that! Well said. Thank you, that was an important story and perspective!!!

@myBIGtinyhouselife 2 месяца назад

🙏🏼❤️

@sharibuckler8529 3 месяца назад

Imagine growing up with the narcissist mother and asperberger/narcissist father..you are 50 before you realize you're really ok.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

🥺❤️

@darbybell8684 3 месяца назад

So many women in our age group were conditioned by the patriarchy to do as we’re told! I’m so glad the women now can see it and call it out!!!

@banker1313 Месяц назад

there are women that are just as bad!

@amypettipas1270 3 месяца назад

Hello from Nova Scotia😁……So glad that I found your channel as I found it educational about human behaviour.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Hello there! Thanks 😁.

@Mindful-Kim 2 месяца назад

I've lived with a narcissist most of my life.. my parents, my ex-husband, ex-employers... I'm finally self-employed and free. I'm glad you're free as well. ❤

@myBIGtinyhouselife 2 месяца назад

I'm glad for you as well 🙏🏼❤️.

@pattyann7803 3 месяца назад

I am listening to this story and reliving a similar scenario. The personality and characteristics are so spot on as I experienced them. It was a very difficult time in my life and it took me so much time to heal. Narcissists are skilled manipulators. So fortunate to be free of them.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you're doing well now ❤️

@claervue7098 3 месяца назад

Thank you for the courage and the wisdom of perspective to share this. A beloved family member needs to hear this in your words.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

You are so welcome 🙏🏼

@_gypsysoul 3 месяца назад

Me too. Ex boss. Totally PTSD. Once I had a panic attack so bad I was certain I was having a heart attack. Thank you for sharing your story.

@carrolhenderson1555 3 месяца назад

Perfect to the End. ❤

@MetcalfMamaInAlberta 3 месяца назад

I needed to hear this today! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I don't publicly talk about my experiences with a person like you describe, but I very much needed to hear this to remind myself how far I've come and how hard I worked to heal from it. Thank you wholeheartedly for sharing this today and for helping me stay steadfast in where I'm at now. Truly...thank you❤

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

You are so welcome!🤗

@mycraftynook5266 14 дней назад

You are literally describing my X- devil boss. 😔. Over ten years I still have flashbacks/ptsd to her horrible treatment of me. Thank you for sharing. And I'm so sorry you had to work with such a horific person. I'm a new subscriber and fellow canuck. Love your channel. ❤

@myBIGtinyhouselife 14 дней назад

Thank you. I'm sorry you went through that as well. And welcome! ☺️🇨🇦

@granjan252 3 месяца назад

You ARE strong. You are a warrior. So happy that you had the courage to walk away, and that you were strong and determined enough to survive the year it took to make it happen. Thanks for sharing.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you 😊 ❤️

@flufftronable 3 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing. I have had a few Franklins in my life, alas.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I'm sorry to hear that 😕❤️

@Travelling_with_my_dog 3 месяца назад

Oh my goodness, I totally believe your stories, because I worked for a similar person. They were hired the same week that I was, and something about them made the hair on the back of my neck stand on end. They were very charming IF you were on their good side. The rest of us, not so much. They worked their way up to a supervisory position, even though the hiring committee for that job was sent 20+ pages of why they should NOT be hired. I had SO many coworkers come into my office, shut the door, and burst into tears over the years. Yikes. This person finally crossed a line that even our higher ups couldn't ignore, and they were escorted off the premises. Double yikes. I've never met anybody so MEAN before.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

That's scary and unfortunately too common 😕

@jeanefraserCEO 3 месяца назад

❤ Thank you for sharing 🙏.

@joylovehope 2 месяца назад

Your kitty really knows your emotions and tried to comfort you and make you feel better. She knows you were upset. Reward her, she's amazing.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 2 месяца назад

She gets spoiled, don't worry 🤗. Yes, she's very perceptive.

@PhilipFord-kk1fm 3 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing your great story. It made great sense and I am sure a lot of people have experienced similar situations.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

You are so welcome!

@Tonyas186 3 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing your story with us Adelina. I too went through a lot of the same things. I believe that everyone is put in our lives for a reason. You are now a stronger person and the lessons learned can help throughout your life and experiences with others. When I parted ways with my narcissistic boss I told them I was great full for “finding my voice”. Before working for them I never spoke up if I didn’t agree or didn’t like something that was said to me. That has changed. I’m happy you had the strength and courage to move on and do what was the best for you and your kids. Have a wonderful day.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Good for you! 💪🏼❤️

@MS-gy7bk 3 месяца назад

I had the same kind of boss only worse … I was his assistant . I’m still working for same company but with a diff boss for the past couple years . I believe I too have PTSD . It was such a horrifying experience , the man actually scares me . I don’t know why I never reported his behaviour or why I didn’t leave earlier . It’s almost as though I felt paralyzed .. like a deer in headlights ? It really messed me up and I’m still feeling the effects . I believe my ex husband was a narcissist as well , was pretty well at g the end of my marriage when started working at that job . The end of your video brought some tears , thank you for your words of encouragement and for telling your story .

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I understand that feeling of being paralyzed. I'm so sorry and hope you are ok ❤️🥺.

@belieftransformation 3 месяца назад

Thanks for sharing; I believe it will help someone out there! I had a relationship like that & it was damn scary! Thank God & supportive friends that gave me the strength to carry on. Blessings to all 🤗🇨🇦

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I'm glad 🤗.

@SuperRiverQueen 3 месяца назад

Thank you Adelina for sharing….❤️

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

You are welcome 🤗

@ireneliasides5441 2 месяца назад

Wow this is gripping! I am only now realising that I have actually known some Franklins. I’m 65!!!! Very disturbing

@myBIGtinyhouselife 2 месяца назад

😊

@animalrescuegeek 3 месяца назад

I worked for 3 Franklins in my my life. The movie one of them reminded me of was a woman like Sigourney Weaver in Working Girl. I had one guy I had to bail out of jail for driving drunk in his Mercedes. One time I had emergency calls and texts because he lost his credit card and he couldn't fill up his yacht and pay for his slip. PTST for sure when I left, I was always in panic mode trying to "predict" the next issue.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

OMG! That's wild! I'm glad you're out of that mess.

@LauraRodriguez-Peace 3 месяца назад

Absolutely excellent video, Adelina. I know that sharing your difficult experience will be so very helpful for so many folks here. (I feel so fortunate to have had a great lifelong career experience, and sincerely have always felt valued), but I do have an older family member who went through exactly what you have described. She is brilliant, hardworking and so kind. It just made me so angry, to learn all that she had endured, when she ultimately opened up about it. Thankfully, she finally made a mental plan of action, put it into place, escaped the situation and was able to move forward! She has thrived and blossomed! She feels invincible and empowered, due to her following through with the difficult decision to get out of that lucrative (but thankless) career, but she did it! Now, she has a top executive position in a career she loves, where she is appreciated and receives the respect and salary she deserves. Next year she finally retires and I couldn’t be happier for her. I know what you have shared today will inspire folks to recognize the signs you mentioned (whether it’s in a job, or personal relationship), and hopefully get them to thinking about manifesting the future they truly deserve! Thanks, Adelina! Abrazos! 💜

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you. It does make you feel so empowered one you get out of a situation like that. ☺️

@judihulslander298 3 месяца назад

Been there, done that. Not to that extent, thank God. Your video brought up similarities that I thought I had dealt with.... I know now that when such memories recur, it is often because I am in a place where I can now deal with them in a deeper way, healing another level. I pray blessings upon you for sharing. I am sure people will be helped by your courage to share.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you. 🙏🏼

@janh8847 3 месяца назад

Thank you for your honesty. I had a very bad boss at one time, not quite as bad as yours, but traumatizing all the same. Best to get away from them at all costs and glad it worked out for you. Nice to hear stories like this to make us feel not so alone.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you 🤗

@cristinagarcia5544 3 месяца назад

So useful video Adelina. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, very generous. Definetely something to be alert.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

You're so welcome!

@robinfisher8024 3 месяца назад

Good video. Thank you for sharing. It happens more than people realize.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Yes it does!

@ManWander 3 месяца назад

thanks for sharing that experience... it is quite inspirational the way you survived it! 🙂

@carmentorres2083 3 месяца назад

Wow!!! I am glad for you that you decided to take "care of you" and changed what you can: the course of your "train". Thanks for sharing your experience, and that now you realize the posivite. For example, learning to establish limits and developing certain skills that now serve you well. But, boy, oh boy, what way of learning!🤪 Strong woman!🎉 greetings 🇵🇷

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you very much!

@janinafisher101 8 дней назад

Adelina, as I was listening to this I thought that there are so many people who need to watch this video. Many years ago I was working for a woman and had a similar situation where I was staying at the office late in order to try to complete an important project, when she called and wanted to me to change a flight for her - something that she could very easily have done herself. I had had a previous totally ridiculous situation with her, at which point I marched straight into HR and said "I quit" and why. Now I grew up as Miss Goody Two Shoes who was programmed to do what she was told, so that was a BIG DEAL. The HR Manager asked me to just take a couple of days off, and actually the VP of the company had a meeting with me and said "Yeah, we know what she's like, but just hang in there and we have your back." Well, when this new situation occurred (and there were many others smaller infractions in between) I just told her no, and I left the project I was staying late to work on, and I just walked off the job and never went back. I felt REALLY proud of myself for standing up to her. I know how difficult it is, and how easy it is to second guess yourself, and I can totally get the PTSD. They are master manipulators. So glad you escaped! Thank you for sharing. And I think you should now do a video about what Jack Canfield said about manifesting what you really want! Because that truly is phase 2 of this kind of situation. We rarely understand just how powerful we are, or how to engage that power!

@smuggafree 3 месяца назад

Good that you shared this situation with your followers. I am sure it was beneficial for you but may help may help others who are currently struggling with some similar situation. You explained the narcissist well. I am a therapist and have also had a similar relationship but it was personal. Many things can trigger those past feelings and it definitely takes time to heal. Glad that you did, despite those feelings returning occasionally .

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you 🤗❤️

@Esther-jp2mg 3 месяца назад

Oh my gosh Adelina today's video explained the previous video that gave you the technological problems. The expressions on your face were troubling; this was not our Adelina. I was hesitant to comment, fearing that I might ❤say the wrong thing and make you feel worse. I'm so relieved to see the real you back with us. PTSD is exactly what I saw on your face; watching you describe how you worked yourself out of it was very instructive. Thank you so much for sharing that with us.❤

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you ❤️🤗

@TikiTackPrincess Месяц назад

Thank you for sharing your story. I always learn something new from your videos. You are such a help to me. I've known some naraccists as well. There's nothing easy about dealing with them. I could relate to your experiences. Honestly, you've become my favorite you tube channel influencer. Happy Canada Day!! 🍁 ❤ 😊 Sue

@myBIGtinyhouselife Месяц назад

Thanks Sue. That means a lot to me ☺️❤️

@reconstructingleslie4597 3 месяца назад

Oh my goodness! I'm so glad you got out of that situation ❤

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Me too 😊

@laurawinger4339 3 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing this! I can't even imagine what that must've been like for you and I'm so glad you got out and made such an amazing life for yourself. I am curious, since you said you didn't go to therapy, what kind of work you did on yourself to help get past this? I know I should see a therapist but I'm an Adult Child of Alcoholics and not asking for help is one of our things. I know WHY I do the things I do but can't get past that. And I'd love to hear some techniques that might help me work through my own trauma. But! I totally understand if you'd rather keep something like close to the vest. You've already share so much with us. ❤

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I eventually did go to therapy but not till years later. I wish I had gone sooner. I'm sorry to hear your background. It's amazing how much burden parents can pass on to their children when they don't heal themselves. ❤️🥺

@GailFeltman 3 месяца назад

Thank you for doing this vlog as I have never really been able to understand what each one was? Thankfully never have in my many years working and living ever come across any of these types! Thank goodness! But now you have really explained this topic so well! I finally get it! Sorry you had to be in that position of having to work for this of person and couldn’t escape! Oh … your Sugar Honey Ice Tea and go Blind has a second part … So I will just close one eye and fart! My husband’s family had so many saying’s and the first one I heard all the time but didn’t realize there was a second part … but my sister in law said it and I have never laughed so hard in all my life! Thank you for sharing! Blessings! 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️🇺🇸🇺🇸

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Oh I love that! I'll have to do the whole saying next time to the kids and watch their faces 😂

@agnieszkagniado9 3 месяца назад

Adelina, thank you for this story. I think it is especially useful for young people, who are less experienced than you and me to hear that. (I'm not a young person, but probably your age). It is good to hear that escape from that kind of situation is possible.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you. I think so too 😊.

@lorirugato6463 3 месяца назад

Thank you i really needed to hear this 😢 🙏 ❤️.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

You are so welcome Lori 😊.

@allieh2686 3 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing that difficult challenging experience in your past. You didn’t give up. You are amazing. And an inspiration with your wonderful. enlightening. videos.❤. are today. Glasses, where are they?

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thanks ☺️

@nancysantamaria3924 3 месяца назад

I worked for such a person for almost 5 years and surprised I didn’t lose my mind. I felt so relieved after but realized I along with my other coworkers had been traumatized. Took us all quite a while to get over it once we all left. So toxic, glad you got out of this situation. 🥰🙏😻

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Im happy for both of us 🤗

@Proteeny 3 месяца назад

This is a great video. Really helpful to those stuck in this kind of situation. Also, personally I enjoy listening to people’s stories and experiences 👍

@jeansoliz4819 3 месяца назад

Good for you, Adelina. Well described. You guide your life well, as you analyze and act.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you 😊

@lizlorraine463 3 месяца назад

As a retired family therapist, I appreciate you doing this video and following your calling. It will help someone in some way to wake up and maybe get help. Being married to a narcissist can be very hard to leave especially with children. A good older book, The Sociopath Next Door” I remember as being helpful. Reading or watching videos to learn about what is a sociopath or narcissist can help one understand what they are dealing with. However, therapy can help you not pick another one for a partner again or stay too long in a job with one.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you for your suggestions. 😊❤️

@michellefitzgerald4708 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much for sharing your story! I can relate to this on so many levels. Hugs to you for finding the strength and courage to do what so many feel they cannot.👍🏻❤️

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much!

@libbylong9059 3 месяца назад

Very good advice; I have been there; it took me 4 years to get away from an ex-fiance, it's been 6 years since I got him out of my house, and I'm still living with PTSD because of it. I'm strong too but like you said, there are reasons it takes time to get out of situations. I'm free and I'm so happy you got out of your situation.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I'm glad you got out of your situation as well! You are so strong. 💪🏼 ❤️🤗

@deborahwhitt4363 3 месяца назад

Oh wow! You are spot on with everything you’ve said. My health is greatly affected, stress can ruin you. I could never afford to leave. I’m almost 70. I’ve dreamt of making a change and what I’d do. I know exactly what id do, but….. I’m so glad you freed yourself from the horror of living this way. Yours was a boss, mine is my husband. Love watching your videos!

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I'm sorry you're in that situation. 🥺❤️❤️

@karenjohnson6667 3 месяца назад

I’m kind of sorry you had to re-live such a traumatic experience, but it’s good to see that it resonated with many viewers. Never having been a single mom with young kids to support, I probably wouldn’t have lasted a week working for such a grown-ass man/child. Your life is a testament to perseverance and focus and lots of hard work and dedication to your kids and your dreams ❤️❤️

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

❤️

@vboersma19 3 месяца назад

Oh, I could relate to your story, and I'm so sorry it happened to you and that you have to continue to deal with the aftermath. "Franklin" was my father. He died last September and for the first time in my life I was free of the fear of him hurting me any more. I have spent all of my life and will spend the rest of my life processing the trauma that I suffered and still suffer. But it's helped me hearing your story, and I hope I can help others by sharing mine. We are not alone. And we are getting stronger every day. Hugs.

@codysmom6071 3 месяца назад

I had a Franklin for a father also. When he died and his ashes were ready for pickup it was all I could do not to flush them down the toilet but in the end I proved I was the better person. It has taken a lot of therapy but there can be light at the end of the tunnel. I hope you are able to find peace.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I'm so sorry 😢. It's so much worse when it someone who's supposed to protect and love us. 🥺❤️

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

That made me smile. I'm not sure I could have resisted that urge 🤔. But seriously, I'm sorry that you had to live that. I'm glad that you have the space to heal now. ❤️

@connielouhoo 3 месяца назад

thank you for sharing that. My x husband was one of those people.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Sorry to hear that

@SparklingMyLife 3 месяца назад

Thank you, this helped me realize some things.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Glad it helped!

@chasingthemoonrv 3 месяца назад

Wow, did that ever bring back some unpleasant memories for me, but looking back always reminds me of how far I’ve come! I’ve encountered a few of those ‘variations’, including a sadistic psychopath, so thanks for sharing Adelina, because there will definitely be at least one viewer out there who needs to hear your story and will benefit from it. ❤

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thanks Zia. I'm sorry it brought back bad memories. But you're right, we can be proud of how strong we are now 😊

@chasingthemoonrv 3 месяца назад

@@myBIGtinyhouselife ❤️

@brigittecrawley1872 3 месяца назад

You have come a long way since then. I believe the power of manifestation and also watched the secret. I too was in a job with that type of boss and put up with it because I needed the job. I finally found a job I loved and left. It is hard when you feel you need to work to be able to support your family. So glad you shared your story and I am sure a lot of people will relate to it. You are truly an amazing person and I hope someday I will meet you in person. Enjoy the rest of your week.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you. You're amazing for what you did. 💪🏼😊

@eileenhaughton3558 3 месяца назад

I watch H.G. Tudor and everything you explain was spot on, He talk about the narcissist

@danandlesliebulger2775 3 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing this situation you found yourself in. Four years ago I found myself in a similar case. I got to a point that before I started every shift at my place of work I would throw up because I felt so intimidated. The plant manager and second in command were the spitting image of Franklin. Better yet you had to be careful what you say to certain people because they would always run to them and tell half-truths about what you said( I used to say it was the gossip line) It wasn't until one day I came home early and told my wife what I was accused of cried for an hour straight to her that I knew I had to exit stage left sort of speak. I went through therapy which I was doing anyway because I was suffering from depression and anxiety issues which they both knew. It was a very cruel game to them!!! To make someone like me suffer. My name is Dan Bulger and I am proud to say that leaving that toxic workplace was the best thing for my physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Like you, I still have those feelings and thoughts in the back of my head about anyone I meet on a day-to-day basis(who wouldn't). However, I know I'm in a better place of healing.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Good for you Dan. It's hard to describe how a situation like that can make you feel. And how the effects linger a long time. You did it! They have no control over you now unless you let them take up residence in your mind. I picture flicking Franklin off my shoulder like a big whenever he makes an appearance. It's silly but somehow it works. ❤️❤️

@dianevitale1214 2 месяца назад

I completely understand you, and relate. Glad you told your story which in turn will help others. Right now, I'm in midst of divorcing one who has destroyed me including financially for his kicks and giggles, but for I'm still alive and breathing. Do have diagnosed PTSD. Dealing with lawyers and Judges often narcs feels like they are aiding Defendant husband to reach his ultimate goal of seeing my fini.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 2 месяца назад

I'm so sorry you're going through that. I hope you can see the light at the end of the tunnel and peace ahead. ❤️❤️❤️

@dianevitale1214 2 месяца назад

TYVM. Trying in every way to find that tiny ray of sunlight, and is how I came upon your channel to do with your Van camping video. Will find out in Court in a few days if millionaire evil husband will get away with leaving me stranded without a dime after 10yrs of marriage at my age of 77. It's predicted he will. Am trying to find an old cheap running Van for myself and my kitties. A friend thinks I'm nuts to think so LOL, but she's not in my pickle.

@marshaharwood8883 3 месяца назад

This information is so important to get out there…. I also worked for a manipulative, narcissistic, Self absorbed physician. Everything you said is so true and I’m sorry you had to go through that but this is something good for people to hear if they’re caught in a situation like that because it’s not good.☹️

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you. I'm sorry you had that experience as well ❤️

@gailcraig4495 3 месяца назад

Oh, sweetie! Im sooooo glad he wasn't your spouse or parent, where vulnerability of love was also involved.😮😢 Thank you for sharing with such grace & strength. ❤

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

❤️

@summersday1455 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much for sharing. I unfortunately have experience of this in both personal and professional areas. 7 year abusive relationship with a psychopath and 15 years working for a narcissist has ended in me off sick for 3 years now and still counting. PTSD, agoraphobia, panic disorder and burnout. Its such an eye opener that their behaviour was so destructive but I just didn't know and am an empath so they manipulated me to their advantage. I am repairing both emotionally and physically and trying to learn how to trust other people again. Also have been gaslit an unbelievable amount of times which now I am aware of gaslighting I am hoping I can challenge it in the future. Thank you for bringing this to the fore ans spreading the knowledge. ❤

@summersday1455 3 месяца назад

The managers name became a verb for basically absolutely ripping someone apart. She also used to pick on people in turns so we would never know who was next. She made so many people cry but apparently it was never personal... it was all about the data apparently. Sadly this person is still in a top management position for a very successful large global company and is mentoring other managers to follow her methods. I can only hope others do not become sick like I did and they get out in time. I feel a strong sense to spread the word to raise peoples awareness of what's not right to hopefully help others but have to recover myself first. So once again thank you ❤

@summersday1455 3 месяца назад

Sorry last comment from me :-) honest. But you really have resonated with me so much and the health element is such an unspoken thing. Unfortunately 4 of my colleagues have passed away in the last 15 months. This can't be a coincidence but given its a large company this is just seen as unfortunate and could never ever be related to the stress they were put under. I hope one day corporations have to be made accountable because this can't go on.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing your story. It is sad how many people have shared similar experiences. Mostly women which days a lot about how we are taught to accept bad treatment by society. ❤️🥺

@summersday1455 2 месяца назад

@@myBIGtinyhouselife so so true. When you realise that what's going on isn't right its both a relief and utterly devastating that you've gone 40 years with society just nodding along smiling as if nothings wrong (and feel utterly pathetic for believing it). It took a mental health practitioner to tell me that what was happening to me in work was not ok and was actually bullying. The only way forward I can see is people speaking about it and spreading the word. ❤

@bettymarketello4301 3 месяца назад

Best video 🎉

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thanks 🤗❤️

@dianegoss7181 3 месяца назад

I KNEW WE ARE SISTERS FROM ANOTHER MOTHER! WAS MARRIED TWICE TO TWO DIFFERENT Narcissistic men. I hear ya and I just KNOW that there are a lot of people suffering under similar situations. I thank God I no longer live with a Narcissistic person. If we ever meet, we have such similar stories to share. But, only to help others understand what Narcissistic behavior is. The Gaslighting, etc. Much love to you. So happy we are both finally FREE! ❤

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I'm so glad for you. We are both living free and happy 😊

@liZBBM 3 месяца назад

Stunning cat❤

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you! 😊🐈

@mohuanag3494 3 месяца назад

Devil like Prada ...we all have such a boss at some point of time in our life ...I had a woman boss like Streep ....narcissists are attention seekers and life's hard moments teach us many realities of life..loved this ...looking forward to more story sessions.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you ☺️

@tiblanes 3 месяца назад

Thank you for this reminder. What hit me the most was how Franklin was really nice for a couple days after one of his narc performances. Trying to compensate, not because he felt remorse for hurting you, but in order to keep you where he wanted you so he could keep using you. It would only be a question of time before Mr. Hyde re-appeared. I’d forgotten about that and needed the reminder to protect myself. I understand about the PTSD - I’m much better now but it’s an ongoing process.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

🥺❤️

@sandralnwebster3204 3 месяца назад

Adelina, I'm happy you got of that miserable situation and changed your life by positive imaging! Years ago I read the book about positive imaging by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. I believe that we all have the ability to change our situations through seeing it,believing it and achieving it! So glad you are achieving your goals and living a great life!😊 Cheers,Sandy&Andy

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thanks guys! 🤗

@rachelrenteria1504 3 месяца назад

This very powerful ..I was married to one, Praise GOD I'm not any more ,,the stories I can tell but anyway , I feel wat u were talking about..I'm alot better now but wen u hear someone talk about it catch it ur attention . I notice Sophie was a little anxious she was concerned about u🐈🐱Thank you sharing Adelina

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I think she was being extra sweet too 😊

@ewamarta2398 3 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing this terrible experience with us, Adelina. It takes a lot of stamina to get out of these relationships and a lot of courage to talk about them afterwards... many people find it hard to understand that the impact of a narcissist can be so devastating. I know from experience.... Dr Ramani's publications (books, on RU-vid) have helped me a lot in my healing journey. Enjoy your beautiful life 😻

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

Thank you ☺️

@ruthanneflear3122 3 месяца назад

This sounds very similar to what I went thru. I got out with ptsd.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

❤️

@ginnyandersen8527 3 месяца назад

PTSD is the perfect way to describe your experience. I can relate to the discussion today. It has definitely affected all my interactions with people since my own experiences. So glad that you grew and gained strength and self worth and left that person behind. We are better for it, aren't we?

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

We definitely are! ❤️

@annesmith5192 3 месяца назад

I had a terrible boss once. It was a union job, and I had 10 years already invested in it. So the job was very important to me. Our new boss said that he knew our contract better than we did, and i believe he was right. He was always suspending staff or firing them, and all they could do was grieve it, and the grievance process takes a long time. Everyone was nervous. Everyone kept their heads down. He also cut a lot of corners to save money, so at first, he looked good to his boss. But then so many people quit because he was so awful, so he left for a "better" job. I didn't quit. My husband has health issues, and i was our main breadwinner. But after five years this horrible boss left. I worked there for another 15 years and then retired with a good pension. I hadn't thought about him in years. Your story reminded me of him in a way. He wasn't exactly like your boss, but he was completely awful.

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I'm glad you out lasted him. ❤️

@birdiebee2594 3 месяца назад

Don't you wish your wiser older self could go back today and tell him what you thought of him ??? I think most people have had to deal with a terrible boss, not to your level, but someone who made life difficult. You tell a great story, thanks for sharing!!

@myBIGtinyhouselife 3 месяца назад

I totally agree!