@@adebolaakinwale3510 True, usually it goes on and on because of the low self esteem, the person tends to marry wrong etc. In fact it’s the major victory. The grandfather’s protective function cannot be overemphasised it mitigated the effect of the trauma to an extent. Some pple had no one at all…..
My Dad was super protective,won't even let my brothers friends talk to me,bought my first pad and pants 😂. Daddy I love you. Keep resting in God's bossom.
Pastor Kayode Elebiyo is my father and my Pastor when he act as a father to you, forget it, he will do his fatherly duty with all his heart and that includes scolding. He doesn't let go of anyone he takes as his own.
Childhood trauma is real. When it comes from your beloved, it lives scars that takes only God’s mercy and grace to be healed. This season is our season of Therapy, I can’t wait to soak in all that God has in store for me. Thank you Apostle for the STORIES, they have been a blessing to me.
I have had similar experiences with her when it comes to her experiences with her father. My father left when I was two years old, and it took 18 years before I saw him again. At that time, I was already married. My father was never present when I was at his house. Many people will not understand the loss of a father in a girl's life, but we thank God for his grace. God, my Father, filled that void and gave me a husband after his own heart. God is always faithful.
God this woman just narrate the story of my life in one video 😭😭😭😭 God bless my grandmother. So many things to say but not even one person that will understand how I feel
Are you me? I've really suffered similar version. Don't know how to maintain friends, don't know how to deal with people, a whole lot of shameful secretes and no one to talk to.....😭. God be my helper🤲
As a girl who lost her dad at 7😢 he used to love me so much that I wanted that love so much from the one I could shear that love with😭and when they decide to leave it’s as if my life has come to an end💔 Apostle I bless the day I came across your page, your teachings have been doing so much in my life
You are not alone sis 😢 The way I cried while watching this is ah I related to almost everything she said May God bless A.Femi lazarus for allowing God to use his platform to heal us ❤
Daddy (Pst. J.K. Elebiyo) is not just a pastor; he is truly a father in every sense! With great glory often come battles, but when you have a father who, with God’s instructions, stands by you, never giving up, even when humanly speaking one might be tempted to rest-he pushes on because God promises He will do it or He has done it! Hmm! Daddy, God’s servant will be there until you are 100% victorious and free! We thank God that he answered the call! All glory to God🙌
This is similar to my story 😭😭😭. Till today my life has been greatly affected by my childhood experience. I wish all pastors will understand the topic of love and compassion as Jesus showed us. And stop being overly judgemental when they hear the mistakes you have made.
24:51 literally crying ,this is more than an interview , it's her pouring it all out and us just giving a listening ear and understanding❤may God heal you completely Thank you PS femi
When u think you have gone through alot, and boom, u hear what another person has been through, then you will thank God, that u didn't really go through alot😢 because what are my hearing!!! someone went through all of this and still standing, God is Good.
Thank you for telling your story. People will never believe you and will never understand it. If you don’t go through it you will never understand, I don’t care what people or your therapist says your trauma would never goes away.
She even know her papa, you de lucky wella, if not my mother’s family I don't know where I would have been today. I thank God for God’s grace and the salvation of my soul.
God bless you ma for sharing. Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty. Apostle, I'm grateful to God for this emotional intelligence you have and your empathy in this regard, honestly its rare. Apostle please invite someone to talk about Stockholm syndrome in relation to SA whether as a child or an adult, please talk about the mental struggles and effects of SA and how the trauma leads to medical conditions like high blood pressure, binge eating disorder leading to obesity, non epileptic seizures, suicidal thoughts etc and how to truly heal. Hope you see this sir.
You can actually be in a dysfunctional nuclear family unit where father and mother are present. There is so much to unpack in this tell all interview. Childhood and family traumas are real and it is more likely to find unhealthy, dysfunctional families than healthy families in this world. When she talked about her relationship with her dad, it hit home hard for me and mine even worse was living in the same house with my dad with zero love, communication and connection. May God heal our brokenness
Mummy! Thank you soooo much and May the Lord bless the works of hands and your household! The Lord Jesus will be your strength and refugee, in Jesus Name!
Hmmmm, thank you for sharing your story. I have an almost similar experience, suffered seriously from low self-esteem, like Apostle said, you feel people loving you are doing you a favour... hmmmmm, I am grateful for growth I am grateful for the house God planted me. Sphere of Light Church Global
She is basically telling my life story especially the secondary school part. Infact, she is luckier. I live with adopted parents who dont know how to connect at all. I just came out of chronic addiction and isolation syndrome. She is right that women like this tend to be loose. If not for trauma, I would have been also.
People have been and are going through things 😢😢😢 I didn't see normal families till I got to secondary school outside ..it's strange how dysfunctional families are but look normal outside
This is why I don't allow male family members from my side and husband side to stay in my house, especially because of my daughter. Whoever want to assault my daughter must first kpai my enemy because, as a mother, I made sure it didn't happen and by God's grace will never happen. May God have mercy on all evil cousins, uncles, brothers and even fathers who have assaulted a female family member.
Listening to this story made me cried literally, bcos I am also going through some hurt...I get angry easily, I have zero emotions, mean I know something is wrong with me emotionally but I'm yet to understand why, I still don't know the cause.
Whaooo . Just want to be happy. One man to love me. Not every one understands this part. We all come from a different background with painful experiences. Most times we try explaining but no one get it.
Unfortunately, this is a very common occurrence, and children don't know what's going on until they are much older. Or even if they know, they don't know how to speak about it, or even if they do, they are shut down and not believed. Parents please listen to your children, a child doesnt make such things up.
Pastor lazuras I understand what this woman is talking about. People may not understand but I do. Is a psychological issues. Even if you wanted to share your pain to someone that thing within will held you back , because when you remember the hurt of the past, you will always feel hurt
I THINK IT IS WRONG TO SAY GIRL'S WHO DO NOT HAVE A FATHER FIGURE INTEND TO BE LOSS. GROWING UP, I HAD NO FATHER FIGURE AND I WAS NEVER LOSS. I WAS RAISED BY A SINGLE MOTHER WHO THAUGHT, "I AND MY SIBLINGS SEX EDUCATION AND TO STAY AWAY FROM BOYS OR MEN. THAT WITH AT THE RIGHT TIME,& AGE THE RIGHT MAN WILL COME FOR US. MY MOTHER THAUGHT US TO LOVE GOD, LIMIT HAVING TOO MANY FRIENDS AND FACE OUR STUDIES. I KNOW COUPLE GIRL'S WITHOUT A FATHER FIGURED THAT ARE WELL BEHAVE AND NOT LOSE. EVERYBODY STORIES COMES WITH DIFFERENT EXPERIENCES. THANK. YOU SIR AND THE BEAUTIFUL WOMAN WHO SHARED HER STORY. 🎉
Your Mom put your foot on the path of God... He said it takes the Grace of God, don't you think you enjoyed that Grace that he talked about? Imagine, your Mom didn't put you in the right path?
I think you should read that phrase or sentence again .... They tend to be loose . doesn't mean there can't be an exception , you are the exception and note the point of 'it takes grace not to be loose'.... The statement is reasonable... Thanks
@@GiftofGod5 Typing in caps locks means you're shouting. Calm down sis. Ladies raised by single mothers tend to be loose. The statistics are there. You can Google it. And why do ladies raised by single moms get triggered anytime anyone mentions this?
Thank God for you, but don't be tempted to generalise this your thought... Don't give formula for what mercy did for you. A lot of young girls would do better should there be a good model of who a man should be like a Father figure. Single parenting is never advised. Say it any how, but two are better than one. There is a level of reverence children show to the mom, but on another level to the Father. When Mom and Dad speak on a matter, it has more weight. Saying more would make me begin to cry. Just maybe, I'd do better if my so-called father had not rejected me at birth. I hope to share my story someday, if Jesus tarries, I just hope I can bring myself to do so because, ha!!!!😢😢😢😢
When Apst Femi Lazarus said he yearned to teach what people would relate to, due to his experience. I always rush to Apst Femi’s page whenever I'm looking for a solution. Thank you, Sir!
I cried seriously watching this. Thank you Again Ma, for sharing your story. I am grateful because a lot of my sisters, mothers and teenagers currently in this that we cant reach personally, will be reached through this video.. God blesssssss you immensely I love you very much ❤
