Hey girl, finally washing my hair after 4 weeks as well. No baby, just feeling down, depressed (winter does that to me). I try to take it one day a time. We got this🦋✨️
I can relate I deal with depression and more so since it’s winter and the rain just makes it worst, but I’m taking it one day at a time I haven’t washed my hair for about 3 weeks so you are not alone but we will get through it the best we can sometimes though we just have to push ourselves.
5 weeks without washing it .... Girl, being a new mommy really puts another perspective on your priorities . Your hair looks amazing and so do you . Give yourself some slack and be more gentle and patient with yourself. Congrats 🎉🎉 on your newborn baby 🐥🍼 Btw, quick tip for new mommy : put some aloe Vera gel into your hair and let it sit all day while you do your chores before the baby wakes up or needs food and in the evening you just wash with with hot /warm water . It cleans your hair good, nourish it and prevents tangle . A quick washing / condition hair you can do once a weak until you have time for a full pamper routine 😉😉😉 New mommies need to take care of themselves too 😘🤗
Aloe is very awesome for dandruff relief, but I highly recommend scratching scalp before washing it out if possible. Then, if you are like me, and cannot grease, oil, serum, or cream due to eczema ( mine is keratosis pilaris), the aloe is moisturizing enough. Well, for me it is, where I do not miss any post-wash products, including leave-in conditioner. Put anything in my hair after wash, I will tear off my scalp and cannot last a week without wash. I had to stop taking Benadryl for scalp itching due to I was going through bad memory loss in my early 40s ( I am now pushing 47 ). I regained some memory after stopping the Benadryl, but there is still some long-term and short-term memory damage. I went to my paternal uncle's funeral Thanksgiving weekend '17, and there were relatives I know really well, but I forgot their names. I even mistaken a couple ladies for their late moms. I found out about aloe, I think Blossom channel, the one that is similar to 5 Minute Crafts. At first, I did not take it seriously, but tried it anyway. Glad I did. It was good enough on its own, but a couple months later broke down and got Head & Shoulder 2-in-1 in addition to using aloe.
Those first couple of months postpartum are a weird blur. Being a mom to young kids really will have you focused on SURVIVAL lol. So happy you took time for yourself when YOU were ready ❤️
As a nurse working in mental healthcare.. mommy ur doing an amazing job! Life gets rough sometimes. It’s so important to also show the other side of motherhood, this is so real! Thankyou for that! I pray better times are coming for u. ❤
6-8 weeks is some of the hardest time after having a baby, especially with a toddler. Make sure you take care of yourself! You can’t help others if you’re not taking care of yourself. Congrats on baby Nia!
@@lavishlovergirl Ive been asking myself for a long time now 😬 but I think it comes down to a lot of mothers not havijg enough help around (maybe the father could be around more? Idk but I'm curious about this
Nope i fully understand cuz as a guy who co raised 2 kids i am saying i never want kids in my life. Its too stressful and time consuming for me personally.
Girl, I'm caring for a parent with renal disease, and I hadn't combed my hair since Mayr. I gave myself grace and sat in a tub for 3 hours and slowly detangled my hair. You helped me because you introduced the pre-poo to me. It helped me so much. Took the fear away. Took the pain away. And I didn't become upset with the shed hair because it's normal.
Just had my 2nd baby 8 months ago and lost my mom during pregnancy. My hair has been so neglected, I needed to do another Big Chop. We are with you momma, you got this 🤎
God is always good to you and he loves you. I pray you feel a ton times better today and I am truly sorry for the loss of your mother. You are in victory. If a big chop was needed then so be it. Just make sure to stay on top of it when you can so it can thrive. I wish you the best in your life ❤ love you
Girl can we just acknowledge the fact that you detangled your hair while holding your baby.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 you are doing a great job and please give yourself grace. I pray God gives you the strength and peace of mind that you need daily.
Ladies, try keeping your hair in plaits! It will save you time from detangling when you can't give much care to your hair, through pregnancy, during labour or even after baby is here. ✨💖
Thank you for posting this video. Being a new mom is hard and people often don’t want to show what it’s like. Seeing you be so open and honest with your struggles helps me realize that I am not the only one struggling and that the struggle is expected.
I hope you’re recovering well sis! I know it can be difficult but don’t bash yourself for how you’ve been feeling. remember to show yourself compassion and remember that this is okay and its part of life. We’re proud of every step you’re taking. You’re a queen!
This kind of content is super helpful for new moms! It will be nice to know they're not alone in the struggle. Your hair looks great, and you did a wonderful job filming despite the obstacles. You're doing just fine, Mama ❤! I love your vids, and looking forward to more. Kiss those babies and enjoy every moment.
Just said the same thing. Braid the hair 2x atleast. Get someone to do it hopefully. Then by the time you take them out the 2nd time you'll be more prepared. My girl is now 16 months so enjoy the tiny baby stages. I miss her so small lol xxx
Aww, momma! I definitely understand the struggle😥. That’s one of the reasons I decided to get locs during my 4th pregnancy cause I just couldn’t deal with my long hair. And that delivery turned into an unexpected csection for me also and I really struggled with that. But now he’ll be one in a few weeks and I’m just grateful we survived this first year🤗! Hang in there, you’re doing awesome and a great mom❤️! Thanks for sharing 🙏🏿!
Moms are amazing! I had a c-section as well, with a husband and mom for support. The amount of support doesn’t change what you go through! Of course more support is always helpful but it doesn’t minimize your pain, trauma or experience. ❤
Hang in there... I know how it is. You're doing great. Do not hesitate to ask for help, and spread those asks around. We live far away from our family and friends, and the little bit of time my family came to visit was a huge relief. That village makes a huge difference.
Girl this is why I literally shaved my whole head about 1 year in having my kid. I grew it back. But it got that real, I was like I don’t even have it to give and cut off 7 years of longggg hair lol you’re beautiful and a SUPER woman! Thank you for sharing this
First, I want to say your hair is *so* amazingly lush and beautiful! As someone who suffers from depression and has for years, PROPS girl.. I can't imagine doing this while caring for a child AND a newborn, all the while recovering from surgery! I'm glad you are feeling better 💜
That bun is shiny and looks great. Watched until the end. Good to know the baby blues is over and you give yourself lots of praise for doing your best. I am a mom of a 3 year old and 1 year old and I praise myself all the time too
I completely understand how you feel and where you are in this video. I have a 3 year old and a 7 month old now. I have dealt with the depression and anxiety in the post partum period. I get it! You’re doing well, momma!
Being a new mom is hard. I did the same thing. My son just turn one and I finally feel like I'm getting back into the groove of things. Hang in there mama!!
1. Nia is as beautiful as I imagined she would be!😍 2. You are strong, courageous, and a wonderful mom from what you show us 3. Thank you so much for sharing! I had a difficult pregnancy at the end, as well as 2 miscarriages. People that have not experienced carrying and birthing a child don't understand how much risk we endure to bring a child into the world.💕
Love it‼️ Real "A day in the life of a Mommy of 2" vlog PLUS a hair tutorial!!... you're killing it...and at your pace. No guilt, just doing the best you can. Nothing short of amazing 👏🏽👏🏽. You and your family are beautiful BTW 🥰 Congratulations on #2
C-sections are life saving major abdominal surgery and we seem to forget that in the haze of busyness and hormones after giving birth. I’m so glad you had support as you went through it. You’re amazing and beautiful and I’m so proud of you!
@@ccgerrity I guess I meant the general “we” that are around when others come out of birth through c-section. But thanks for the food for thought on writing choices.
Girrrrl....I feel ya...adjusting to a new baby is challenging, and motherhood with all of the changes and expectations can definitely bring on depression or feelings of every day being the same monotonous series of chores. No time for ourselves. My natural hair got to bra strap length, after I had my twins via c-section I would go for days without or weeks without detangling, got matted, took forever to detangle, I just didn't have time to take care of myself or my hair anymore with having to be the major caretaker for the twins all on my own. I caved and decided to relax my hair, which I regret, did the big chop 4 months ago. My twins are 9 now, so I do have more time for myself even though I have a 4 year old too. I love that you are still natural. You are doing a wonderful job as a momma Amber!
You look amazing! Post partum depression is really tough. Trust in the lord he will see you through. You're stronger than you know. Talking about my struggles helped me. I'm praying for you and your mental health. Take things one day at a time. Set goals and accomplish them. Reward yourself! I used to neglect myself then fall deeper into depression because I let myself go. Take care of yourself because your baby needs you! Plus you deserve to look and feel good too! You'll get through this!!!
I am so proud of you lady!!! Yes you are correct, recovering from a c-section is rough in addition to taking care of a newborn & toddler. My hat’s off to you. Try to remember how important you are in this picture and be kind and gentle with yourself. You are beautiful, a great mom and so very worthy.
Amber! Girl! I felt you. You are literally like me 5 years ago. Thanks for being so real. After a year of migrating around the world I've really neglected my hair. I am contemplating a big chop because the hair products I'm used to buying and using in bulk cuz the hair is BIG are pricey. I'm also really worried because my hair has always been long. This video is a motivation.
Yes my C-section was the same way with my son and it took about a year for me to stop feeling the sharp pain I am so proud of you being honest with yourself and sharing with us just want to send love and light from a genuine place and congratulations on the second babygirl
I literally can’t wait to be a mom one day! And seeing how much you love and cherish your child even though you struggle just shows me how being a mother might not be easy and it can be hard to focus on yourself but I can just imagine how the reward will be so much greater. Keep going mamma and know that you are incredible and beautiful and that you will continue to be the best mother to your baby!! ❤️
I quit my job and moved to TX and was so stressed about paying off a loan and keeping up with bills that I hadn't brushed or washed my hair for a year but just last Friday and Saturday spent majority of my day gently trying to comb it out with TOOOOOOOOOOOOOONS of water and separating it. I had so many knots and it looked a mess and was so dry and flaky. So happy you got through it and the babies are sooooooo cute!
This video was so satisfying I can’t wait to have me a lil spa day to get myself back on track.. Life can be so hard at times.. Yes you are a great mom.. and you were focus on them.. I’m glad you had a time to focus on yourself you deserved it
My current situation. 😢 My daughter will be 2 in April and I’m still trying to feel like myself again. Thank you for this video. Ima get off my ass and do my hair!
You have such a pretty hair. And you’re naturally pretty as well. I went through postpartum depression for a year and the first six months was so hard just to get a shower in was work.
Way to go mom! The best part of this was you choosing to honor your true feelings by putting your hair in a bun. Good on you! Your baby is beautiful, you are beautiful! And thanks for sharing!
I am so glad to see you post an update. I very much enjoy watching your journey in hair and life. I have been watching since before you had children.. You are REAL and that's what I enjoy the most. Thank you!! Congratulations on a beautiful family
I commend you for being able to make this video with everything you’ve been through and are persevering through! You are amazing and so so strong!! Also congrats on your precious new baby girl!!! 🎉
I felt this. I see you. I’ve been there. I just want to say if you read this that you’re not alone and I’m so happy you’re bringing this to light for others. If anyone else is reading this, you’re not alone. If you can afford it, you can go to a salon and have them do it for you. They see it all the time. You don’t even have to be a new mom to get depressed like this. It happens to a lot of us.
What you're saying is so true. You never know what is going on in someone's life. Depression is real, and your appearance does show it. Im speaking from experience.
First of all congratulations on your new addition. Second, whenever i tune into your videos i have NEVER seen your hair look bad bc it is soooo beautiful, thick and luxurious-just absolutely gorgeous. Even with the matting. Girrrrrrl🤩 it was still beautiful. I lost a lot of my density after a lot of stress some years ago. My hair had ALWAYS been thick so i get that detangling was a monster. I understand a teensy bit how it felt being at an emotional low point. But the fact that you are taking time with yourself is a good sign. A step/a day at a time🙏🏽
I really admire you for sharing this. It's actually really helpful to model this for other people dealing with mental health issues. Normalizing talking about this is so important. Your kids are lucky to have you in their corner. 💜
Yaassss! Don't be too hard on yourself. Allow yourself to have those moments. But don't stay there. Self care is so gratifying during those 1st couple of months. You are amazing!!
That tangled hair reminded me of mine after having my twins. I had to get help combing out the tangles. I couldn't manage the length at that time, nor did I have the time to do it myself. I love seeing your beautiful hair, I watched you washing and moisturizing it about 5 times. It looks like all that was cut had grown back. It's nice to know that your circle of support is still in place for when you need them. That's a blessing. Enjoy your beautiful girls.❤❤ Thanks for sharing.
Will always appreciate you teaching about the LCO method years back when everyone else was going on about the LOC. It was an instant game changer for me. Much love
I so appreciate your transparency in this video. I’m 4 1/2 months postpartum and I’ve been dealing with my own struggles with my hair. Postpartum shedding hit me when my daughter turned 3 months. It’s been stressful to see my hair coming out in clumps but I know it’s temporary. Also, you and your baby are beautiful ❤
This is real after baby - defo get liver and thyriod checked this is a hugeeee reason why we get like this ! Lack nutritional needs fully met as baby takes it out of us ! We need more help mothers as well as baby to recover ! U look beautiful mummy
Sis, you’re doing an AMAZING Job! Don’t let the enemy talk you into thinking you’re doing it wrong! It’s the other way around! Your hair is my goals!💯💯
That's a whole lot of hair! My mom feels your pain! It took her forever with my hair growing up. May I suggest plaits for you? They are the only style for me to keep my hair untangled when I just don't have time for my hair. Anyway congratulations to you! I know is exhausting but you are doing a very great job! Your baby is beautiful, healthy and loved!
Sending hugs from the USA. You did it. I would recommend getting your hair deep conditioned and braided so you have some time to get used to being a mom of 2 and heal.
The way your face lit up some when you saw your washed hair was it for me. ❤Absolutely gorgeous momma and congratulations!!! I wish you the best. I haven't had children/can't conceive, and I know I don't have a place to say anything related to motherhood, but I suffer from pretty intense mental illnesses that incapacitate me sometimes and I agree with everyone here saying to be kind to yourself and give yourself grace. You carried a life in you and that's amazing. Take as many little 'me' moments as you can and carry them with you when you feel like you're going down mentally. It will always be a light to guide you back to present. You got this.
Truly appreciate the transparency in this video. I could relate to pretty much everything you shared (aside from doing it with a toddler🥴) My son is a toddler now, so I could only imagine having another newborn in the house with him, but I know there are many moms who do it and I give it up to them, hands down. The Baby Blues is real. The self neglect is real. We're focused on the baby and recalibrating hormones (especially after an unexpected c-section)...it's a lot! But you got this mama! So glad to see you starting to bounce back after 6 weeks. Baby steps! You got this💗💗💗
It also took me about 6 weeks to wash my hair after giving birth. I’m a first time mom. I was extremely depressed then diagnosed with PPD after giving birth. I was loaded with regret and being a single mom before the baby was even born after being in the relationship for 7 years just for a pregnancy to make him treat me horrible and leave me was harsh. I’m 10 months in and doing much better but still have sad moments during the week.
Truly LOVE THIS FOR YOU 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾 you’re doing Amazing considering You’re a new mommie, you’re tired, stressed, and just overwhelmed with the process of delivering a child that you carried! Like you’re doing great! It’s one thing to do your hair after delivering a baby, it’s another to record the entire process and still take care of your babe! 🫶🏾🫶🏾😩🔥 yeah you snapped back ! Keep going! You got this !
Not that this matters but if next time you have strength and time..Lol (I know how it is ) , try to do jumbo 2 strand twist/braids (4-12 twist [4 sections]) so your hair can stay stretched out and prepped for your next wash day! Hope this helps ✨✨✨ Keywords Strength and Time! No rush.
I am so proud of you. I’m not a mom yet but, I’ve seen my mom with my brothers and now my sister in law with my nephew and a mom is just an amazing and beautiful thing. And just doing your hair and trying to find a way it’s just so amazing! And I believe God will give you the strength and He is doing it right now. He will meet you there exactly when you need Him! Much love! 🤍🤍🤍
Love you girl. We all get down and depressed. I have been there. I had terrible ppd with my daughter. She was the same. Crying when I was not holding her. You are doing the best with your current life. Dont ever think you have to do more to make people happy. There were weeks i couldn not properly care for me after I had her.
I'm really proud of you for getting up and doing it, it's never easy to get out of that pit. Keep taking one little step at a time and remember it's okay to take time for yourself.
2 years ago my hair was exactly like yours. Same texture, Thick, super long and red ( I've been using henna for more than 15 years now). It was so thick I hated the arm workout and how heavy it felt so I kept complaining and complaining about my thick, long, luscious hair. Then for absolutely no reason other than washing after another henna coloration , I had so many tangles that I couldn't detangle it. I lost about 40% of my hair that I haven't gotten back. It's still long but I don't have any volume anymore. It was a good lesson for me to never complain again about what God gave me and what people really used to admire about me. They still love and admire my hair but seeing you reminded me how big and long it used to be. Anyway, you're doing amazing. Be kind to yourself and like you said, you're a great mom. I admire your tenacity and how desire of your mini depression you were able to detangle, wash and take care of your hair. I don't have a baby and it still takes me a lot of thinking before having the courage and will to wash my hair in was days. Ps: you should check out African threading method. It will keep your hair moisturized and soft without you having to take care of it for at least 10 to 15 days. It's been a life saving method for me.
I went through that. My son will be 5 soon but i remember struggling to look after it. It got much thicker during pregnancy but i lost the vomume. Went back to protective styles. Be gracious with yourself. Newborns need ALL your attention. Beauty routines need to be SIMPLE. NOW I have time to look after me. It's just for a season and it gives us a break from all the vanity. I had BAD post-natal depression. It happens. I also had a C-section.😬😬😬 It's ALOOOOT.....I can't imagine that with two kids. Honesty, one can just cut your hair when your baby is small and grow it out later when the baby is abit older to not overstretch yourself.
I feel your pain. When you said a 3yr old and newborn, 2nd cesarean I almost cried. My exact situation when I had my children. It's painful and depressing. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. You are doing great.
Hey, I havent seen your content in a while but I can totally relate to this phase. I'm surprised you could even still detangle your hair. Mine got so matted and tangled after months of neglect. I was tired, lazy, and feeling down post partum and hair was the last thing on the list. I recovered from that thankfully. Thanks for sharing the reality though with new moms who may need to see this for reassurance.
Girl you are beautiful and STRONG in ssoooooo many ways..I APPLAUD you for your strength and getting it done. I'm very proud of you..OUTSTANDING JOB WELL DONE. Congratulations on your beautiful new edition to the family
I remember my first few weeks with my newborn I neglected my hair and would go weeks without combing it and having natural hair it already tangles so much so you're def not alone !
I completely understand what you were going through! I have long natural hair as well. And I’m a mom to a 3 year old, soon to be 2 year old, and I’m pregnant with our 3rd. It’s always 4-6 weeks before I wash my hair. I’ve found that if I leave it curly it’s a tangled mess so now I blow dry it out after washing and I have minimal to no tangles at 4-6 weeks. Hang in there mama you got this!
Aww...been there! Hang in there new mom. You're doing great! Keep taking your vitamins so you don't experience postpartum shedding. I was practically balding in the front! Ended up cutting my hair.
Oh Sis, I know exactly what you're going through and been there with 2 babies 13 months apart. Give yourself grace, it will take time to have balance but you will get there. You are doing a wonderful job! Hang in there and I'm glad you found the time for some TLC for yourself ❤
NO WAY that was the most satisfying end result!!! Nothing feels better than a clean fresh moisturized hair! Ur hair is beautiful i wouldn’t hide it with a hair style
Congratulations on the newborn!I’m so scared of needing a c-section, the recovery seems so much more intense. With my other two births I had to get stitches, and recovery was kind of bad, but not terribly so. I hope my locs don’t suffer too much during postpartum recovery, because even on my best days I get lazy about retwists.
You are BLESSED!!! I didn’t wash my hair for 5 weeks and the result was MAJOR HAIR DAMAGE! My hairdresser had to cut it ALL OFF! I kid you not! It is growing back.. but THAT taught me a lesson. I was totally focused on launching my e-commerce website. Never again!
Hi Amber! I am watching your videos all the way from South Africa! You are one of my favourite natural hair youtubers! I love watching your videos. Congrats on your baby! Wow, you look amazing!
Do you think maybe if you box braids your own hair, wash and moisturize it for at least 2 to 3 weeks at a time until you and your beautiful children get into a routine would help? It helped me a lot when my son was born and also had my oldest daughter. All three of us had A Lot of hair and I was the only one taking care of them.
I had a newborn when my toddler was 2 and a half. The struggle is real! I had to take time away from work (also Mompreneur) to rest mentally and emotionally. And yes, any little self-care helps so so much. I'm glad you're being gentle with yourself and giving yourself time to do things. Congrats on new baby! You seem like a good Mom and a great woman!
No children but have waves of depression. Will go through times of not having the energy or desire to even shower or wash my hair for a couple days. It’s like going to the gym- once you do it you feel SO much better so for me it’s about getting there.
Congratulations Amber! Make sure to get outside everyday for fresh air and sunshine even it is just a few minutes. I know it’s hard with children but, it will make a difference in your energy.
