Waiting on God is the greatest thing you can do because God will bring the right person in your wait. To value your self and to know your worth is a blessing that God also value.
You handled this topic so tastefully. Thank you. I also am on the same journey. I have also had to avoid any movies that rouse feelings that cannot be satisfied. I am four years from my marriage and initially it was hard and there were moments of just calling out to Christ to help me. I am now at the place where I love Christ more than rousing feelings that cannot be satisfied. The Lord has filled my life with so many other things too. I am learning to love the woman the Lord created. In God's mercy, the urge for intimacy, has subsided over the years and when it arises, I know that I am either ovulating or have entertained something I should not have watched. God help us all in this journey of healing, restoration, discovery, and waiting. Again, thank you for this video. So nicely done.
If your 1st spouse is still alive if you marry another that's adultery. Please read the Bible and get understanding about this topic because your soul is at stake. Read 1st Corinthians 7:1-3
Well said 🌹 sex isn't just a physical connection it's a soul to soul connection. Yes I am happy to hear you say disconnect from your husband on every level.. 🙏
Thank you Myesha for sharing this precious and sensitive topic with us ladies. I am 2.5 years separated from my now ex husband of 23 years. I was going crazy for awhile and begun to pray incessantly for God to come in and strengthen me. I am a 59 year seasoned woman who've prior to marriage had many experiences with trying colors, sizes etc. But I remember not landing a committed partner and I remember not liking myself when the noise stopped. So something told me that after God has blessed me with the amazing experience of belonging and feeling whole, just because my husband was a cheater I didn't have to throw away allll the work that I had done!! So I decided to rock myself to sleep 💤 at night, take long walks with myself and Not use the Rose at alll. Because I didn't want to lie to me and say this is a good substitute when I know I want a real body..
I know you’re speaking to your audience but while I was listening, I felt like God had you talking to ME!!! Omg… I’ve gotten so much advice but I have YET to hear deep and personal issues from someone actually divorced and in the Faith. I’m a church girl to the core and divorce was never an option. I left the abusive relationship in April and filed for divorce. At 41 I am just now struggling with the “itch” and it caught me by surprise. I was married for seven years. When the itch came I felt so shameful but had to remind myself that I was married with a sex life for seven years. The way I was raised you not even suppose to acknowledge the fact that you even”itch”! I will wait until marriage but there’s comfort in knowing that it may be ok to “love on yourself” for a season. Thank you so so so much. You went through this for us! 🙏🏾❤🙌🏾
I am here to listen to your perspectives on women’s issues, challenges, and victories. I’ve never been married, but I appreciate your transparency. I have abstained from sex for many years because I haven’t met anyone I’ve wanted to share my body with. Great topic!
The statement on self mastery; "Whenever we deny what we have a right to for the sake of what we value most we build our muscle" was the pick up line for me. Thanks for sharing.
I totally agree with your decision. I refrained from sex for 3 yrs after my divorce. I was married for 27 years. My life after divorce has been the greatest gift outside of my children and family.
God’s way is always right and best. As commanded in 1st Corinthians 7, I’m remaining celibate. Anything other even masturbation is not of God. We cannot be lukewarm. We must be careful in what we communicate. Not all should be teachers as someone had to tell me. Sex is not great than God’s blessings, nor enough to risk awakening in hell.
I am a Mom Of 7 Anointed Brilliant and Beautiful Royals, I have been widowed since May 19, 2023 and unapologetically abstinent 💎. The short version of My Testimony for sake of space, GOD Is Faithful. I have desires, HOWEVER, I literally witnessed my husband watching his life story in his dying days, and he shared with me that GOD was showing him all of the bad things that he had done, He had a chance to repent 🙏🏽HOWEVER, I know that I’m not perfect, but I tell you what…these legs will stay tAgethA until my NEXT husband comes.❤ Myesha, I’m SO glad that The Holy Spirit led me to your channel via Willie Moore Jr❤, I have subscribed and now I’ve been up since 4:17 AM binge watching! Keep Going Sis. I Hope to meet you soon girl.❤
I’m so so glad you are talking about this. I lead a group call Women On A Journey. This group meets once a month. We encourage, talk about women issues, and pray for one another. I lost my husband, Military related death. We were married for 20 years. After 20 years, I had to get used to a new norm as a Christian woman without a man. I went through everything. Dating, trying to fill the void, but God. He allowed me to walk through this process and I made it out sane and saved. Keep doing what you are doing. Women need this. I came to one of your conferences in Chesapeake Virginia a long, long time ago. It was so good. It was about lipstick.
I am so glad I found your video... I'm in the process of dealing with my recent divorce of 2 years and as a" church girl" I was ashamed of feeling those urges but listening to your video gives me hope that I too can overcome... thank you for your openness and honesty on this subject.
I just watched your divorce story, and now watching this…. Sounds like you needed a break from ministry and all that comes with it and became burnt out. You look refreshed and more healed…. I pray God restores that which was lost and stolen 🙏🏽❤️.
Queen, your vulnerability and strength shine through in this empowering conversation. Your journey echoes with the resilience we all aspire to have. Rediscovering your sexual identity after divorce is a transformative odyssey, and your words resonate deeply. The emotional rollercoaster and the battles with self-worth mirror the struggles many of us face. Your mastery in controlling desires is not just a personal triumph but a beacon of inspiration. Your wisdom illuminates the path for others navigating similar waters. This episode isn't just a conversation; it's a revelation, a testament to the power of self-discovery. Your story paints a colorful mural of empowerment, reminding us that amidst the challenges, there's a surprising twist of resilience and grace. Thank you for sharing your truth and giving us a fresh perspective on navigating the intricate landscape of post-relationship sexuality. Your candor is a gift, and it's transforming lives. You've not just spoken; you've stirred a revolution within us.
This conversation was so necessary and powerful. We need to love ourselves before we open the love to door again. I’m learning who I am and I’m loving the woman I’m becoming. Adrienne is all that she needs. Period.
Thanks dear Myesha I love this video! It’s so great to hear from other women it’s really inspiring. I divorced 4yrs ago and I’m still going through healing process of which I don’t know if it has ending especially after being with someone for almost 3decades, 28yrs together married for 22yrs. I keep talking to my adult children about how I have been betrayed. But what I like now I’m no longer crying about it, they were and still my pillars of support when my tears were overflowing every day for 12 months after divorce but now it’s just a story. It’s so true when they say you don’t know your husband until you divorce him! Being disgusted by the lies, only to find that cheating and unfaithfulness is the main reason behind all the abuses: emotional, physical, financial and sexual because if your partner can sleep with you and still go and do the same thing with another person it’s nothing else by sexual abuse! Trusting, praying, loving and doing everything a wife would do to respect and protect her husband in everything everywhere. Then the worst part is when you refuse to look at the red flags and all the negativity and coldness you exposed to and keep telling yourself no no no not him not at church, oh no not at his work place he won’t do that after all he said? No ways? He’s always saying cheating is like trying poison and he will never try it he said what if it kills him, oh boy, I trusted him and I felt for it , I lived that statement and I felt sorted. Little did I know. And me fearing God above all else, I was submissive throughout all the storms. Still the lies escalated. Well, 4 years later no rose and no man I mean no touch not even on my hand! I don’t think S£x is good! This thing separates lovers and families. They forget themselves while stealing that thing and don’t even care about what they would lose no matter how far you come from, building up everything from the scratch together, planning for the future, starting family and all the commitments. When you are about to enjoy the fruits of your sweat… Bang! They’re just okay to break down everything. At 54 that’s me, Can you still try again, is it possible to get a lifetime partner with senses? But again for what big reason? Sharing your body is something else, trust is another but I know I love love and I’m so afraid to fall into that trap again! That’s why other people think marriage is just a scam? What about love? Love/marriage/stable-relationship/sex/money, who’s a scam here?
I love your transparency. I relate to you on so many levels. I am divorced after 23 years. In the beginning I engaged in sex with my Ex because I needed to feel wanted. In my head I felt if I had sex with him he would want to reconcile. All I did was start the pain over and over again. I would cry every time because I knew it meant nothing to my ex. He was just having fun. I then decided that I needed to stop this reckless behavior. I have decided to heal from within and not have sex. I had to let him and the past go. I learned that I would always use sex to feel worthy and loved. When it wasn’t love at all. It was lust. I feel so much happier from the inside out now. Thank you for sharing such a personal part of your story. Knowing I’m not alone gives me the confidence and courage that I’m on the right path.
I was perplexed as well. You are so on par! I felt like you were telling my story. I had my moral compass that I always held close to my heart regarding intimacy but then I also had this yearning to be a free spirit and take off the ropes & chains of trying to be someone perfect…. I pretended I was for so long.
There is no greater gesture a woman of God can give to her future husband. The beauty of him waiting and her waiting, then The Father allows then to meet n marry, is the essence of true love. I say this because it blesses me as man to hear that even a beautiful woman like yourself who can have who she wants chooses to wait. I Applaud you. May our Lord doubly Bless you greater than your previous sacrifice of those 18 years. You're a True Prudent & Virtuous Woman.
I absolutely agree with you Myesha, after my divorce I definitely got into another relationship too quickly and it ended you horribly. I realized that I didn't give myself enough time to heal, my self esteem was beyond shattered, but now I'm taking the time to heal, and after telling myself that I am worthy, it is helping me tremendously while I am waiting, because I believe in marriage & love again.
Such great points! It's so important and healthy for us to allow ourselves to feel those temporary emotional discomforts while we heal, and as we get a brand-new opportunity to discover/ rediscover who we truly are and ultimately, we will develop a stronger self-esteem & better self-control.
Thank you so much I really needed this. I’ve been divorced a while and it was so hard for me. I thought I would die! I hollered and cried . Now I’m in a better place. I too stopped listening to and watching anything sec related. I would love to be married again one day and waiting on God
I was in a abusive marriage and sex was chore like at times. I divorced after 9 years and initially struggled with what to do with the itch but with prayer I am able to remain celibate. I noticed the triggers and quickly take captive the thoughts. It’s a process.
Thank you so much….I felt like that after my divorce. And I also decided to live a celibate lifestyle, and it was very challenging, but I wanted to satisfy the Lord and wait for what’s best for me. I truly thank you for your truth. The pain of my divorce was so great that I didn’t know if I was ever going to get over it but I am now healing.
Lord I'm here for it ALL‼️ I IGNORED RED VISIBLE FLAGS, ALLOWED WAYY TOO MUCH‼️ I'm paying for it now! But, GOD 🙏🏿🙏🏿 Im still Starting, still Able to Love Me More! Most importantly BE STILL‼️ I'm glad HE Chose Him‼️
I’m soo proud of you… and THANK YOU!!! 24 years married then divorced ughhhh!!!! I went on a hot gurrlllll summerssssssss!!And girlfriends “oh girl God know what you need” when I should have rannnnn!!! That 🌹 no joke!!! I cleaned out my drawer🙌🏽 and just started focusing on what was and was not pleasing to GOD!!!! And sexual immorality is not PLEASING to the one who CREATED IT!!!! Twisted world!!!!! So healing, self control and priorities!!!
I thought we was about to have a hot girl summer 😂. Abstinence is a beautiful thing.... I tell God EVERYTHING how I would like my future husband to be like! Thank you for this....
If you say you are a Believer, Christian, Kingdom Citizen, Sex outside of Marriage is a SIN....... The Bible makes that very clear...... It doesn't matter what emotions you are going through. Obedience is better than sacrifice. Jesus states clearly, if you Love Me, you will Obey Me. People need to stop asking other people their opinion about things. If you are a Christian the only source you need to be getting information from is the BIBLE. The Word of God is the ONLY ABSOLUTE TRUTH. Let God BE TRUE and every man is a LIAR, if they are not lining up with the Word of GOD!!!!
Straight up. It isn't anything but deception. People think they're going to find better and NOT. The Bible tells you valid reasons for divorce and if the reasons aren't valid, then you're wrong for divorcing, especially in the church..supposed to be an example to the world..and children. Either reconcile or remain unmarried just as the Bible says in 1 Corinthians 7:
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 starts as saying Flee from sexual immorality. And in verse 13 of same chapter says the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord.
God's word is truth, yes! But, in this age we must meet people where they are. We must be honest about what we contend with and how we can overcome, or have fallen short and back into grace. This is how to reach others!!!
This is beautiful to hear. To decide not to have sex, after the divorce. God does want sex within marriage. After prayer and repenting for past sexual immorality. I wanted God's forgiveness. Healing is what I need. Good advice for those who know what God wants for our relationships. 🙏🏿❤️
This is the truth, It's important to heal jumping in the bed with the next,simply opens you up for new issues. Healing first knowing yourself ,and then when you meet someone worth of you moving forward.
I’ve been wondering about this very topic for awhile. You are right no one is talking about it. I am going through an divorce after 24 years. My husband was my first and only partner. We were very sexually compatible. So not having sex is really a challenge. But, I agree with you saying no to sex is best.
You're very brave for sharing this important insight. It's definitely very empowering and liberating to abstain even though it seems painful and hard, it actually is a beautiful gift that purifies the soul. People should try it
I think you have to know yourself and understand your needs and be comfortable in whatever space you’re in. I’ve had a hot girl summer with no sex it’s possible. It’s all in your perspective and as you said how you value yourself❣️💪🏾
@@warkeys9147 I’ve chosen to get cute hang out with the girls flirt with the guys and not end up in anybody’s bed‼️ Hot girl summer no sex‼️ We can be sexy know that we’re sexy them tell us we’re sexy and yet not allow that to end in sex. So I go out I have fun (lunch dinner brunch breakfast movies other events in the city along with church and church events). I’m outside‼️
I’m not waiting until marriage the second time around…I’m not sure I want to get married again tbh. I’ve never got to know myself intimately prior to marriage or during marriage. Just recently I’ve discovered how to take care of myself in that way thanks to my sister giving me a special gift similar to what a friend gifted you with. I love it here. 😊
Oh how I wish this conversation was available to me 3 years ago. I’ve made choices that were 🥴😬🧐 but I’m getting back on track. Thank you for your transparency❤
Myesha, I just love you, you are the sister/friend, I just haven't met yet...lol! I just love your transparency and authenticity regarding all matters post divorce. Your platform is needed! I'm a 2x divorcee and this struggle of singleness is real real. Especially after having continued (team no break, lol) companionship for the past 20 years. There is so much I would love to type here but well you know...lol! 🤣I appreciate your platform and respect your journal...Thank you you for sharing!
Thanks for sharing! I relate very much to your decision to heal and abstain. I’m on a similar journey as I heal from divorce (almost 2yrs). God is a keeper and lover of my soul. I’m so thankful I’m learning to fall more in love with Jesus and myself! Blessings to you in your new beginning too!
So true and way to show up for the women. I myself is a single lady and loving it. Never been married cause by neglecting intimacy☺. Nonetheless, upscaling my differences in love/lust has been a challenge. My abstinence have truly been an fun adventuress ongoing journey....Just wanted to touchdown on the subject.
Thank you so much Myesha for this today. Powerful Powerful Powerful. I am also waiting post my Divorce. I v had a full filling sex life whilst married. 3 yrs post divorce I realise I still had another area I had to heal and forgive in order to move forward. If I was busy having sex, this wud have been in the way for my healing journey to be complete. So, thank you❤
@myesha chaney I am 63 years of age. have been married for 43 years. separated 3 years. Sexually yielded to Holy Spirit for about 8-10 years. I did realize I was in what I call is heat sexually. I spoke to one man that approached outside of the church world. It was emotionally driven. The conversation lasted about 2-3,days social media. I then stopped going out and stop going to church. I stayed home and was Holy Spirit comforted, guided, and encourage to maintain my spiritual integrity before God and human. I knew Christ Jesus testimony to save and resurrect was true. For His Cross and Glory, elizabeth 🌸🛐☮️✝️🙌🏾
I think for me, one big mistake after divorce was to allow my ex-husband to visit me when the children were away. We were in the process of having intercourse but the chemistry was absent and immediately, I knew that it was wrong, so it never happened again.
Temptation is gonna be real for you. You gorgeous, your divorce from a pastor, you gonna have some top of the line men coming your way. I’m praying for your strength.
I’m grateful this is not on my radar! 😂. I will continue to heal and abstain until I meet the man that honors me, values me and and makes me feel safe! Period! 😊
