Wow, he ain't lying' when he says marrying without spiritual unity you will be living in a shallow level. I've experienced this... It's a waste of time!!! WAIT ON GOD
Yes because it's so easy to have physical 'unity' (sexual penetration) nowadays, where men are so easy interested in another women, include 'prostitutes' (women who never have skill to loyal).
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@@joelbolduc3354 that's all true but it's very vague. God will speak on what that means on a personal level. The will of God has to be executed on a personal level.
@@joelbolduc3354 i think they mean more like if one person is called to live as a missionary in another country and the other person is a workaholic and wants to start a business and just donate to the church to fund mission trips, not exactly compatible there..
But he answered, “It is written, ‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” ~ Matthew 4:4 Jesus said to them, “My food is to do the will of him who sent me and to accomplish his work.” ~ John 4:34 Food for the stomach and the stomach for food,” but God will destroy them both. The body is not intended for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. ~ 1 Corinthians 6:13 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh ~ Genesis 2:24 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” ~ Genesis 2:18 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs-how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world-how he can please his wife- and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world-how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord ~ 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 What I mean, brothers and sisters, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they do not ~ 1 Corinthians 7:29
I totally agree... but a lot of believers are spiritual babies, wolves in sheep’s clothing or worse than non- believers (in my experience). There are also very few Christian men compared to women. And don’t want to say, but most of the available ones are very young and the older ones several times divorced with serious issues. Sites like ChristianMingle, etc and churches yield worse mates than even Bumble or Tinder!!! Short of God bringing Adam to us, being in the Christian community seems a waste of time... I do hope to be proven wrong 😂
When he says God doesn't choose your partner, I believe he is saying that he gives us insight into who the right and wrong people could be, but he leaves it up to our free will to choose the right person.
God can lead you to the right mate only if you allow His holy spirit and His word help you discern what His will is regarding that mate in prospect. Blessings!! 🙏😇💞🌻
Sometimes I am wondering though, if He only led me to this particular individual so we can both heal, but not necessarily to be with each other. Then again, who knows.
You should read the book "God is a Matchmaker," by Derek Prince. It opened my eyes to how involved God is in leading us to marriage, assuming that is his will for us. There is no such thing as the "one," but God definitely has spouses in mind for every one of his children, but as you stated, that requires we listen patiently for the Holy Spirits leadership.
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways submit to Him and He shall make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6)
"Must Haves" 1. We must have spiritual unity in our marriage - Romans 1:12 2. We must have life purpose compatibility - ephesians 2:10 / 1 Peter 4:10 / Hebrews 3:10 the purpose of marriage is to help you fulfill life purpose. 3. We must both be emotionally healthy Whomever I marry must have - No uncontrolled anger - prov 22:24 - No addictions - No bitterness Heb 13:15 - How are they treating their parents - No greediness prov 23:6 /15:26 - Generosity and kindness proverbs 11:25 / Proverbs 11:17 - Tells the truth prov 20:7 - Prov 28:33
Everything he is saying is so on point! Too bad I didn’t listen to it before I get married. He’s exactly right when he says marrying the wrong person is 1000 times worse than being single
Wow i have a LOT to work on! No lie 😂😂 i came here seeing how to know if hes the right guy for me and realised i need to work on myself FIRST! And keep God first and all else will follow, my attitudes for sure need to change no doubt about that! Really challenged but thats the kind of preaching I need, something challenging
"A bad marriage is 1,000 times worse than being single." Oh how my heart wants to cry at those words...because they are so true. To be married and lonely, to be married and starving is just so gutting.
I don't think I've ever remembered a time in my life when I have known of so many Christians who are desiring a Godly spouse. It's very surprising to see how many men are looking for spouses, too.
As a Christian, I had a problem in this area of my life years ago and I had no counsel, no church support, no family guidance, and lack of information. I even went to pre-marital counseling at my church, which was one session and ineffective. I was totally lost. I was a wreck bumping on the side rails of the road. I wasn't a newborn babe in Christ but I wasn't a super mature Christian either. I'm not complaining. I'm happy to see you all seeking knowledge and reaching out for support on this topic. I had the Word of God and I THOUGHT I had faith but I still struggled. However, I can honestly say that God has given me so much wisdom in this area now. I made many mistakes but I'm at peace with God now and God and I are closer than we've ever been. I see now 12 years later, there are some many more resources out their on this topic and the Holy Spirit is moving in this area. It's so refreshing to know that!
I like Pastor Warren, but completely disagree on that "you choose your wife" thing. God plays a major part in pairing people up. Besides, I would much rather have God pick my spouse than myself. He knows me better than I know me.
So, they are: 1) spiritual compatibility 2) purpose of life 3) emotionally healthy (no uncontrollable anger, no addictions, no bitterness) 4) selfishness and greedy *** Do not continue a relationship that's going nowhere! ***
Where has the SEX gone ? 1 Corinthians 7:4 NOTHING biblical about their modern teachings on marriage. Ravening wolves emasculating husbands and screwing the marriage bed.
This video is extremely sad to me. I know from experience that God DOES indeed have a specific person for you to marry. Marriage is not about selfish pursuits or choosing for the sake of our own happiness. It's about our purpose. God has a certain person in mind for ius before we ever came here and it's to assist us in our purpose. The problem is most people won't ask God to bring that person. Most people won't trust God with that area of their life. We are talking about the creator of the universe! The beginning and the end! The one who gave us all life! He can do anything he wants to!! To say that God created this beautiful world and each of us but yet he dosent care who we marry is absurd! And no if someone marrys the wrong person, it dosent throw everything off. God has ways that are beyond our understanding. If you are meant to be with someone and they've married someone else, it will be worked out. ( I'm not speaking of people that have crazy obsessions for someone. I'm talking about Gods true ordained person for you.) If God has ordained it, nothing can stop it. God is ultimately in control of everything despite our free will and his sovereign will prevails. He does have a specific purpose for each of us and also a mate he has designed just for us. I know if you ask God to guide you and lead you to that person he will. If you are reading this, please don't buy into the idea that you just pick someone. God cares about every aspect of your life. He wants you to seek him on every area of your life. Ask him to make it clear to you and stay in prayer about it. God will give you his answer and show you who it is.
And even IF there are a few possible choices, I do think God has an opinion and will lead and guide! He’s off on this one. No one is saying that we sit and do nothing but if God walks with us and guides us daily in tiny little things, I must take big objection to him belittling this truth when it comes to marriage and that it’s 100% our choice.
I married two cheaters. 🙏🏻Dear God, help me to move in a direction, guide my steps... There ARE men that are monogamous- Guide me to a holy man - a man devoted to You, Father!
There are men who are monogamous, to the point of staying alone if their partner dies. It's not true that all men are cheaters, it's the devil trying to normalize this behavior. Let is stay close to the Lord, Ladies, and he will direct your path...
@@TyShep06 It's the most obvious sign that someone is just settling. I never want to change anything about my husband and he feels the same about me. I once dated a guy who wanted me to dress a certain way and paint my toe nails. I told him he needed to date someone who likes to dress that way and paint her toe nails. If someone wants to change you, they aren't really interested in the real you.
Ayesha S I didn't listen to God when he said the words you posted. I had to learn the hard way. It's not pleasant or easy at all. When you rebel against God, it breaks you and it also hurts others in your path. But thanks be to God for His grace and His mercy. Obedience to God is a true testament of really loving God. This is what I learned through all of this; obedience to God. I choose obedience to God over doing it my way. God has my best interest at heart. The difference now is that I don't just say He does; I KNOW HE DOES! There is a difference.
People it's not that complicated if you would only read and study your Bible. And let the Holy Spirit lead and guide you. Matthew 24:4. Lazy Christians who don't read their Bibles and depend on the pastor for guidance will most assuredly be decevied.
God gave Eve to Adam. Adam did not chosed Eve nor requested Eve to be his wife. Proverbs 19:14 Houses and wealth are inherited from parents but a prudent wife is from the Lord.
Adam could not have chosen Eve because there were no other human around. God HAD to give Adam his Eve. And even then, it was either Eve or a goat. I think Adam got lucky.
I agree with you !! And disagree with the below comment about Eva or goat !!! If you like God can make a few Eva for you to choose right then and then !!! But he made only one!!! Why?? God has a purpose for that! Not like human, sin of our eyes and flesh we think we like many people and this person handsome, the other is very attractive so then we choose the spouse according to our desire flesh!! Where is God in this scenario?? God gives human being free will! But Eva sin and Adam watched Eva ate the fruit! God gives us free will for good things but human being failed him :((!!! We should thank God for forgiving our sins and praise Him more. My friend
What God said when He knew Adam needed Eve; "It is not good for man to be alone. I shall make a helpmeet fit for him!" Not; "It is not good for man to be alone. I shall make numerous possible helpmeets for him, some good, a few very good, and some not so good, and leave it up to him as to which one will be his helpmeet!"
He is so WRONG - If you pray for God to be your matchmaker he will lead you to the RIGHT PERSON. Yes, you have a choice but God wants to be involved if you want him to. AND GOD WILL CHOOSE YOUR MATE IF YOU ASK HIM.
Thank you Deborah- that’s what I am holding on for- God brings everyone to us but I want to know HE and not I am choosing my mate-before I decide to choose myself!
I think his point is that there is no "the one". God does want to be involved in your choosing. He scolded the Jews before they were exiled to Babylon that they didn't ask Him before marrying. Yet in Babylon, He encouraged them to marry and give in marriage.
Pray, yes, but you have to do your part too. Boaz didn't finally go ask Ruth- she had to be brave and approach him, bc as she was working in the hot sun and Boaz said nothing more to her later (I wonder why.. Maybe bc he was high in status, he erred on the side of not wanting to appear to take advantage, so he protected Ruth's heart. Maybe that's what was going on in his mind, who knows really), the mother in law finally said "will I not find rest for you?" to Ruth, then she advised her to get washed up and look her best to go ask him and make her request plain. Isaac would not have gotten a wife if he just prayed: they had to send someone to go look for a girl, and in the process, they asked God for to show them who would be a good for Isaac by doing a "fleece test", if you will; but they were already out looking, going to a different town. There's many love stories in the Bible. Many examples. We're all different, and each love story is unique and full and as beautiful as the next for the people who center themselves around God's principles.
Why should I make the choice who to marry? God is much better in doing that, and He has done that at least 19 times, I know at least 19 cases where God chose the future partner. I don’t want to choose because God is better in making the choice
Yeah I think he meant that GOD typically won't force anybody to believe in HIM. But I do agree he, the pastor should've been more careful with his words.
Not every Christian has the gift of prophecy. This is for when you think love is enough to marry someone, but not all emotions you feel is always correct
I know this is late but I'm just watching this today. He wasn't talking about Kanye, he was talking about the 1 to 2 husbands she had before him that did not last.
Why would Kanye West be exempt from the Kingdom of God? Salvation is offered to everyone and everyone has the opportunity to receive it by FAITH [not by being good or doing good deeds]. To receive salvation one just has to sincerely repent of [turn away from] their sins [wrongdoings], confess with their mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in their heart that God raised Jesus Christ from the dead. This is the Good News, that God gave us 1) forgiveness of our sins [past, present & future], 2) eternal life, 3) a right relationship with Him as a result of our acceptance of Jesus Christ into our heart.
I see a lot of comments here saying that we should just wait for God to come and magically place “the one” right at our doorsteps. The preacher is right to say that that a not a great the way for us meet the one(s) God has for us. The Bible says “Faith without works is dead” I see a lot of people here with the faith that God can help romantically but they aren’t putting in the work. It’s like asking God to have you pass a test but you haven’t studied. God Could do it, but you didn’t put in the work yourself. It’s a bit naive to think that you’ll just sit back and God will do all of the work, when all of your faith is truly meaningless! Think about it.
@@brycedavis1433 l agree! We so often say things to ourselves or God that aren't thoroughly true! Like "I will follow You God, with all my heart!" or "Whatever You would have me do, I will do!" but very so often, we fail in our promises. We confess with our mouths yet are broken in actions. I wish things were different - I believe it will be different - but it seems like we cannot let go of sin in this world. It seems like if we ever get rid of one addiction, we just replace it with another... I believe, however, that all who desperately long to be rid their sinful nature, will find comfort in heaven. It will be a good day! God is graceful!
So am I suppose to go start looking for a guy as a way of putting my into works? I am trusting God for a husband, I am to start manipulating the outcome?
@@emerald7126 Pray to God, work on yourself as a woman, go out and look for a good man, and try not to fall for someone who isn't good for you. God sends not always what we want our way but sometimes what we need. You have to discern whether the man in front of you is good enough for you as a partner or if you are just to help him grow spiritually or not interact at all, with the help of God of course. God allows us to make our own mistakes so that we may learn...
Do what Pastor Rick said. Follow Christ and u wont regret. Me I disobeyed. Im suffering coz he is unbeliever. If ur husband follows Christ, he is a good decision maker plus he dont want to hurt u. But if he is not a follower of Christ, he follows the values of the world and if u dont follow him, he will get dissapointed,get easily anger and u suffer coz he influences u to disobey God. Learn from my experience dear. Get a man who loves Christ, afraid to disobey, not bitter, respect ur parents and his parents, he prays with u,, go for him.❤️
Galatians 3:2 Let me ask you this one question: Did you receive the Holy Spirit by obeying the law of Moses? Of course not! You received the Spirit because you believed the message you heard about Christ. (NLT) You receive the Holy Spirit by FAITH in Jesus. Also, don’t worry about how weak and strong your faith is because according to Hebrews 12:2 Jesus is author and pefecter of our Faith. So here’s the key which I’ve gathered from the spiritual leaders I follow - Study the word (don’t just read), meditate (very important), pray with specific requests and then SPEAK the word into your situations. Keep on doing this until you see the results.
How do you know which friend or family member it is who calls your name? Because you have spent the most time with them. So it is with the voice of God, which is the Holy Spirit.
Genesis 24:14 This is my request. I will ask one of them, ‘Please give me a drink from your jug.’ If she says, ‘Yes, have a drink, and I will water your camels, too!’-let her be the one you have selected as Isaac’s wife. This is how I will know that you have shown unfailing love to my master.”
I disagree. God definitely chose my husband. He showed me so many ways, even 2 years before I met him. When I tried to walk away before marrying him, God said no. That was the only reason I finally married him. I chose to live him. And there are specific real people that will be created because of your marriage. Those people are predestined.
Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God minister to me a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding on to them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay be in your life, with an evil mirror, and a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford to these motherless foundation (OSOMOIGHO MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact where ever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Deliver them to the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2349058384543) tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you...
@@pastorrickwarrenteachings1491 Interesting. But what does my life have to do with Nigeria? And I'm not in an orphanage. Thank you anyway. God bless you.
@@patriciarose2342 That message was robotic but your response was equally so. Your life has everything to do with Nigeria, or China, or India or Jamaica or Costa Rica. We are all connected in every way possible. Just keep in mind the story of the mouse and the mouse trap. Be blessed inJesus name.
What God said when He knew Adam needed Eve; "It is not good for man to be alone. I shall make a helpmeet fit for him!" Not; "It is not good for man to be alone. I shall make numerous possible helpmeets for him, some good, a few very good, and some not so good, and leave it up to him as to which one will be his helpmeet!"
You spoke the words I was searching for. It’s not wise to make so many inferences from the Bible... and you would KNOW if you came out of another person... without a DOUBT... Not many ribs-- all his,,, but ONE!!!
@4Tifier if what you mean is that God only has one person for you then you're wrong. If that is so then why would God allow remarrying after a person's spouse dies? Won't that be like marrying someone else's future spouse coz you got only one and the one you got is dead? So if that's the truth then God wouldn't have accepted remarriage after your spouse is no more. God will never contradict himself. So He won't allow something and let some other principles contradict with it. It'll always be in line.
I love Pastor Warren and his book Purpose Driven Life. I also found tremendous value in this sermon. However, I find it hard to believe God knows every hair on my head and the plan for my life even before I was born but didn't create a partner for me?? Is Eve from the rib of Adam? I mean that example was right out of a brain from a human if orange doesn't marry orange it's a domino effect. It doesn't work that way. God can create many loves in your life but best believe they are all planned. Amen. Every person you meet is planned. This is just my opinion but I'm open to a different view. Another point I don't agree with is sometimes you meet your partner and then you both find your purpose together. Pastor Warren said if you haven't found your purpose don't even think about getting married. I don't agree with that either. God brings you together so you can find, develop, and or cultivate your purpose sometimes your mate might have the very thing you're missing because it was PLANNED! * updated 2020: I do agree if a man doesn’t have his purpose or income already, don’t marry him. A man who is lost will not be marriage material! That’s facts.
Exactly. Eve was made for Adam. They were specifically destined by God's own hands. Also Pastor Warren said it's not in the Bible, even if we don't count Adam and Eve - what about Rebekah being chosen as Isaac's wife? That was a direct answer to a prayer for the wife who was meant-to-be. Even Jacob and Rachel to an extent. I''m sure there are some others, but these are all that came to mind right now. Also my brother had an experience when he first met his wife that basically told him he was going to marry her. So I know it happens. It probably just doesn't happen for everyone, like most things in God's ways. We don't understand why it happens for some and not others. I also believe every person you meet and interact with is planned by God. Even to the smallest detail, and like you said the hairs on your head. There are no coincidences. Many things in my life and other people's lives have taught me that. God is amazing and plans our lives more than we could ever know. And yes we make the choices, but there is a fine line between God destining us for something and us choosing to do it. Just like Jesus told Peter, Peter was going to deny him 3 times and Peter said he would never do such a thing - yet he did it, even with the foreknowledge. And Jesus forgave him and planned for it. We make the choice but God knows what we're going to choose and plans accordingly. It's a thing I've been struggling to wrap my brain around after a very strange, seemingly-predestined trial I've been going through this year. Like in Peter's case, I've been trying to decide if I chose it and God planned accordingly, or if I did it because God destined it to be so. But really it's almost like they're one in the same in most, if not all, cases. It just depends on which way you look at it. God's ways are unfathomable; we are on the mere fringe of understanding. Overall good message and points though. I just disagreed with that point - like a friend of mine that insisted there was no such thing as prophetic dreams just because he's never had any (but I have, many times, and he didn't believe me). Nope. Not the way to put God in a box. He treats us as individuals and speaks to us in the ways that best fulfill His purpose and His glory for each of us, and in ways that we as a finite human being can comprehend.
Last to let go: God brings you together so you can find, develop, and or cultivate your purpose sometimes your mate might have the very thing you're missing because it was PLANNED! - that is beautiful and makes sense to me.
Yes God knows your hair, he created you. Do you do crochet, if yes, you know exacle how or how many stitches you did to crochet that baby socks. I bake, I know my famous short bread recipe. The brain we have and knowledge is nothing compared to God. His amazing.
"All things work together for those who love the Lord and are called according to His purposes." Follow God's precepts, don't date non-believers and He promises to bless the choices you make.
I see one thing that I haven't heard anybody comment on in this forum. I may just have overlooked it. I've read most of the comments. One key thing is that we are prepared and our partner must also be prepared. Sometimes there are things that God has to do within us as we submit to HIM and seek HIS will and sometimes there are things that we have to do to be prepared for our spouse.
Absolutely! I, personally, didn't really agree with this sermon. I felt it put God in a box. You honestly have to have your own relationship with Him, make sure your decisions don't contradict the Word and see where God takes you.
I walked away from a 6 year relationship to honor what the Bible expects of me. Toughest decision of my life thus far but I have faith that I will get through this and it will be for the best in the long term.
But if God knows the future, he also knows the one that will not choose you and the one that will so he can still plan "the one" that you should choose and even if you dont choose that person that dont means that person lost their one , cause god already would know that you wouldnt choose her and could plan another one to that person ;) (This logic or something like that :D)
Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God minister to me a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding on to them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay be in your life, with an evil mirror, and a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford to these motherless foundation (OSOMOIGHO MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact where ever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Deliver them to the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2349058384543) tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you.
Disagree because The word says, House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the LORD. - Proverbs 19:14 it says from the Lord. Matthew 6:33 Seek 1st the kingdom of God and all these things will be added. We better make sure what we say lines up with the scriptures. If we get caught up doing the fathers will we will be put in line with someone God has for us. Seeking a mate instead of God has been a problem for many. Make sure your hearing Gods voice and direction is key
im sure this is what rick is saying. hes assuming you know the lord first...seek first and all these things shall be added to you is right...but if a person doesnt accept what God gave ...then what rick is talking about is correct.
Landmark Credit Repair I agree with you.God works for the best of all of His people and guides us all the way,gives us and tells us all we need to know so that in the end we will be the ones to make the final call and pick a partner we best want,who is qualified for us by God’s will
so God would help us in every details in our life to find a job, and a place to live, guiding us to a church, fellowship etc , but would leave us alone for finding a spouse and have children ? witch is the most important part of His creation ??? I absolutely can't believe it ... Jesus said, about being married or single : " this depends on God's decision only " ... so, I believe the Lord is in control in this very fundamental area of life .
Isabelle S. U didn't listen to the sermon properly and misinterpreting. He said God will guide you, give u advice but at the end it's ones choice to marry who...so choose wisely. God never forced someone or make them do what He wants like Humans.
Exactly... I feel a lot of pastors whose faith may fall a bit short in this area says this- this opinion is not very different from a lot of the world’s and leaves much room for confusion. Not to say we don’t look at prospective people- but why not in friendship, vs “serial dating.” And why not trust God fully- with no allowances for the world’s way.
yeah but to get a job you are still going to do the leg work, is it the right job for me? Do I have the qualifications it requires, I still have to prep for the interview, I still have to aquire certain skills, etc. The point is that God gave us a brain and the enjoyment of choosing while seeking Him every step of the way, free will baby! So glad we are not robots! If you dont like a message dont listen to it. Stop putting your opinions on a platform where your opinion was not asked!
Its funny how a lot of people commenting in this video don’t really understand the preaching.. some are taking the preaching literally, taking it out of context and they tend to miss the whole point of the teaching. This is why, without the Holy Spirit, all of us will perish and will not understand God’s words.. we need the Holy Spirit. I know i do! because only the ones who has the Holy Spirit will understand the truth about this message... ✌️Godbless us all❤️
God is sovereign but He also gave us free will. So He won’t force us into anything - He can but He doesn’t- and so at some point we will have to choose what or in this case who we live with!
Dating is fake and doesn't work. Dating is just pretending to be something we aren't. It is better to be friends and hang out in groups. The statistics prove it. It is better to get to know people in church groups. Rick fails to realize this.
I agree that getting to know people at first is easier and better in groups, but in order to determine who you want to date it’s better to get to know them intimately
Its not about a perfect spouse. Its about destiny. And God is incharge of that. He did it for Isaac, when angels went ahead of the servant to get a wife for Isaac. So I find it hard to accept that choosing a spouse is upto us. It is the reason we mess up in the first place.
Because we have free will, we make our own choices. If Isaac didn't wanna marry his wife then he wouldn't have even if God said so. This is also why people think that God is raining down hardships on them when in reality it's our stupid choices and decisions that put us in situations that are heartbreaking
Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God minister to me a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding on to them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay be in your life, with an evil mirror, and a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford to these motherless foundation (OSOMOIGHO MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact where ever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Deliver them to the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2349058384543) tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you...
I got three minutes in and turned it off. His message is not biblical. I respect this man of God but to say God doesn't choose your mate when there are plenty of scriptures that say otherwise including when God GAVE Eve to ADAM is beyond me. God speaks to us about everything concerning our lives he gives us free will to not do what he says but this is also known as disobedience and comes with consequences. Never limit the God of limitless possibilities.
I think what he means is that you can not sit at home and expect God to look for or choose a spouse for you, you have to do some work. God definitely will guide you into making the right decision when you pray about it. But God won't make the decision for you, it is ultimately your decision to make. I think that is what Pastor Rick is saying or trying to say.
Dnt be so single minded kind of a person Listen and discern what he says. Some people simply use the principles that God has already put to find a wife. Now you can argue these are spiritually mature people. But some pray and they admit they find it hard to connect with the right people, hence pray and ask God to lead them to "that one" person. Just like giving, some people still find it very hard to give offering/tithes, and have to really dig deep and pray to have God release them from money bondage. And some simply apply principles of sowing and reaping because they are already spiritually matured. Both mean well, just a matter of certainty and maturity in your spirit self
Aaliyah Jay This man. ... does NOT deserve any respect. He’s a promoter of Chrislam. Look it up. It’s blended Christianity and Islam. He’s also a major proponent of the New World Order. He changes his tune depending on his audience. Beware.
Aaliyah Jay You probably don't know the bible well then. God put affection for David in Micah's heart, yet Bathsheba was the one the lineage of Jesus will come thru.
This breaks my heart because he is so wrong. The bible is full of stories of people who had to wait on God's timing, purpose, and direction. I liken dating to trying on various shoes. Some fit, some don't but by the time you get finished, you're exhausted, your feet hurt, and you've spent a whole lot of time, money, and effort on something that doesn't fit you the very best. If we believe that God made each and every one of the galaxies, darn skippy we surely can believe He has every detail worked out for us, including, and especially, our mate. First sign he's on the wrong track: making fun of a Christian author who was trying to shift our broken focus from the dating shoe store to Jesus. Yikes! Be careful everyone. This just isn't legit.
I think it has to be a bit of both. Of course we will never meet anyone by just sitting around and never going anywhere and meeting no-one, but at the same time God is the one that brings people together. I think it's a mystery, but it's both, not either or.
When sin comes your way you have free will to choose if you want to act on it or not. God gave us free will and this is what pastor Rick is saying. Yes if we choose somebody that is hard to love then our life will be a little tough at times but God loves us and we surely make it hard. It is your choice.
Right, forget the store or Amazon and just sit at home and pray for shoes to come from the sky. Then you will know that those are the right shoes for you, without a doubt they'll fit perfectly. Come back to earth, guys, we're in real life here. Since when has that happened ever? Maybe someone impoverished and asking for a miracle for shoes without access to get any has that ever happened in the history of mankind, I don't doubt it, but don't spread that as the standard. If you want something, you have to look. For goodness sake guys. C'mon.
It’s breaking my heart that people are missing his points and mainly out of ignorance of what the bible says and lack of biblical community. He’s reading directly from the word. Your issue isn’t with him if you disagree but with God.
Hi brother I hope you do fine your Godly wife soon it is not good for you to be alone but if I may say this things that pastor say it is very true take it slow and wise with the word of God in your hart. I’ll keep you in my prayers so that you soon can get married may God bless you and like wise please pray for me so that I can get married too bye.
This is The best sermon I have ever heard on Marriage and relationships! Biblical and Practical with real Truths. Thanks Pastor Rick and Saddleback Church you are a great blessing.
Excellent. Be careful when dating, and take your time getting to know any potential marriage candidates. People are good at hiding their anger, addictions, etc. if you represent security to them. Get friends and family to meet your love. They may see things you do not. BTW, women abuse men as frequently as men abuse women. Be careful.
"I kissed dating goodbye" is written by Joshua Harris who is a pastor and he is happily married. I've read that book couple of times and the subsequent books he wrote and it has helped me a lot. This is about more than just dating, you'll be surprised. It's a Christian book and it's one of the must-reads of your life. I guarantee that.
True, I was blessed by Josh Harris' books -"I kissed dating goodbye" and "Boy meets girl". I am happily married today and I recommend them for my friends.
I know right, when Ps Rick satirize the book I feel it is not necessary, the book in fact has blessed me a lot. There has truth shared, how we living in such modern-shaped society, how it has become all following the culture instead of the be culture. we need that kind of perspective ( what's inside the book ) is beyond the dating, it is deeper, it is the state of purity, and value. If you the Ps Rick himself read the book Lady in Waiting well, he would know the 2 book shared the same value.. one written by the perspective of the women, thee other perspective of the man. applies both women and men. Ps. Rick I am losing my respect.
Please note, Joshua Harris has been reexamining some of the teachings in the book he wrote when he was in his very early 20s. His Ted talk is here. Hope that helps. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-D2kV4ngi7J4.html
Herzio go back to the 1500s when women were property, and ask her parents for permission for everything and always have escorts on your dates and never touch each other until you marry.
emoclew Barbz Yes, I agree. It helps Christians approach dating God's way. It is BEST. Pastor Joshua Harris is one of the voices God has raised in our generation on purity and godly marriages and HE IS MARRIED! Read the book for yourself
There's a big gap in the logic he is presenting. He says that God doesn't choose our partner but in 39:43 he says that He chose our parents. He goes to argue his point by adding some point that without He needed these exact DNA's to create you (which is true). Well what about our own children. Did He not choose just us to make them? Doesn't seem to make sense. He also says that you don't need to be perfect in order to get married because no one is perfect. Then he goes to list a ton off deal breakers which some of them are pretty natural for us imperfect and broken humans.
In one of his other sermons Rick said that God told him that he’ll marry a specific woman, he said he didn’t like her and had zero interest in her so he just contradicted himself by saying God doesn’t choose and yet it was Gods who CHOSE her for him and he eventually accepted and married the woman God said was for him...
I agree with almost everything in this message! Rick Warren’s points about choosing a spouse are Biblical, wise, and insightful. However, I disagree that physical attraction does not matter, because the fact is it does. It’s really sad that so many people go to the extreme and assume that if physical attraction matters to you then you are superficial, that’s essentially what Rick was saying. The truth is no matter how spiritual and amazing a person is, if you can’t imagine yourself waking up to the person for the rest of your life, then walk away. Looks aren’t everything, but they are a piece of the puzzle!
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It kind of sounds like Pastor Warren is talking out of his own soul and his own "opinion" on some of the things he is saying. I believe in the Scriptures he reads, but I dont agree with all of his personal thoughts in this video.
I had met 3 muslim men in my life that were interested to start a courtship with me. And I turned down their request cause I know it is God's will for christians to marry only in the Lord. I do want to get married and it hasn't been easy for me to find a man that really loves the Lord with his whole being. But I will keep waiting patiently on the Lord for that God-fearing man He has for me.
The God-fearing part is Very important. I am searching for a woman who loves Jesus. She gotta be saved, or I'm jst gonna pass her by. Keep on trusting & believing my sister. Nothing is difficult for God.
honor your father and mother .. thats a commandment assuming parents do their best to raise their kids ..god is not an animal , you cannot honor parents who intentionally mistreat you , its humanly impossible
I respect Pastor Rick and I think there are good points in this message, however, I did not like him making fun of Joshua Harris' book "I kissed dating good-bye." It seemed disrespectful and arrogant from his part. :( He may not agree on things with him but he is a fellow Christian who has been a pastor for years and has a 20-year marriage.
I don't Agree with him on this, My husband I Married years ago was FATE, Jesus guilded him to me. FAITH works and praying 🙏❤️ for the rt one you like Jesus to guild you to them.
There is no way you can find out in two dates! No way Jose! You just need to guard your heart along the way so when you find out the truth you end it and you’re not devestated.
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Marrying a Christian is absolutely no guarantee. I met him in church, we always went to church, we raised our kids in church. I prayed for years. Being believers doesn’t fix everything. I didn’t realize how damaged he was or how angry he could get until after I married him. Too late! God doesn’t fix everything. That’s the truth. I also disagree with the purpose thing. If you both have a driven purpose, it’s got to be exactly the same. Thats pretty rare and would exempt most of us from marriage. One person has the bigger purpose and the other shares the vision but serves as the support. Rick Warren couldn’t have done half the things he has without the support of his wife.
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God gives us what's best but He won't force it on us. We have been given free will. We can either choose to receive or decline. Also, Pastors are not infallible so even when we listen to them for guidance we need to "test" the words. Great advice in the video, any doubts, consult thine Bible. Simple!
WOW! LOVE LOVE LOVE every word of this message! As the director of or adult singles' ministry... I've got to share this with our singles because you've said it all so perfectly in less than 60 minutes! Thank you!!! Do you have notes you can send me so I don't have to type my own?
Derek Prince, one of the most respected Bible teachers wrote a great book called "God is a matchmaker", and God is. In fact, God chose Rebecca for Isaac (via Abrahams servant). In fact, there are people TODAY who God clearly said "you will marry this person". God still clearly specifically recommends some people's spouses.
God doesn’t choose our mates he leads us and guides us we choose faith Faith is prayer for the soul It takes more than Love to marry 1. Spiritual unity 2.
@ Christina escajeda We get married because of sexual urges according to the BIBLE that this pastor wilfully overlooks. 1 Corinthians 7:4 Marriage is for avoiding sexual immorality
You have to like yourself before you can like the opposite sex. And yes love isn't enough unfortunately. Also, you don't just marry the person, you merge with their whole family! There are so many variables involved. The best advice I received from a fellow brother in the Lord: If it's peaceable, effortless, calm and affirming, it's from the Lord. If there's confusion, chaos, uncertainly and fear involved, it's not of or from him. Ask yourself this: if Jesus isn't the center, then what is?
This is incredible! It’s beyond extremely rare for any podcast / lecture to hold my attention for more than 15-20 mins these days n the fact that you’ve held my attention this whole time and I am growing even more in love with God because u were His vessel tonight....I am truly blessed and may The Most High God bless YOU and all reading this forever more 💖
I don't agree with the assertion that God doesn't choose our spouses for us. Psalm 139:15-16 states that ALL the days appointed for us to live are ALREADY WRITTEN IN THE ANNALS OF HIS BOOKS for us, ie ALL THAT HAS TO DO WITH OUR LIVES ARE ALREADY PRE-PLANNED, PRE-DESTINED, PRE-DETERMINED FOR our lives. WHICH IS WHY 1 CORINTHIANS 2:9 TALKS ABOUT "PREPARATION" FOR US IN GOD! THIS TEACHING IS ERROR OUT OF AND CONTRARY TO SCRIPTURE AND ALSO CONTRADICTS HIS BOOK "PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE'
I genuinely thought I was marrying the right person: 1. I had prayed to God to send me a woman and met her the next day. 2. She was Christian and when dating she said she wanted children. 3. We attended church for much of our marriage. Yet, 11 years later she cheated on me and left me for another man. So...I want to remarry, but wondering if any good Christian girls will mind that I am divorced. I have no kids though.
Focus on God ,marry to God,it's not who you are n was it's God in you to give you courage n love. Even in marriage equip with armour of God .I married to my job n career , it can be equally devastating when no identity except downcasted and self disappointment although due to no fault of my own ,if it's attribute accoubtability it's not fully equip with armour of God. Finally , ironically when challenged by the world,the flesh in course of work ; n in journey of Job ; God as God became real glory and fulfilling awaiting another to enlarge God bigger picture. If we not have gift of celibacy ,it's wise to get married. If have gift of celibacy ,why marry just to be as everyone.
As the pastor pointed out we are all broken and nobody’s perfect so don’t concern yourself much about your past. What is more important is that if you have accepted it, if you make peace with, if you forgive and if you are healed. Because if not and you’re still carrying that emotional baggage then it might affect your future relationship which i hope not. Anyway i pray that you find her and may you have a blissful relationship together.
Summary Must Haves: 1. UNITY IN CHRIST. 2. Must have the same LIFE PURPOSE. 3. Must be EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY. We're all broken, we're all sinners. But some people are more broken than others, figure out the emotional health of the other person. Do not associate someone with unbridled anger. No to people with addictions as well, and no to people with bitterness. You don't marry a person, you marry a family. The person must not be selfish and greedy as well. It's important to marry someone generous and kind, and always tell the truth.
