This is probably one of the most valuable and informative videos out there. Thank you. I've realized that I've had this problem for years and it looks like a frozen Michael Myers mask on my face. Very creepy. It's very hard to be cognisant of while in an interaction too. You're right, it must be from various traumas and shut down emotional expressions. Whatever it is it totally ruins any possibility of attracting people and kills the good vibe of interactions. So this is a game changer for a lot of people.
This isn’t talked about enough. This is everything I’ve been struggling with for the past 4 years. I always thought it was social anxiety which it is but about a year ago I realized I had the anxious trauma response with the wide darting eyes. Trembling tight lip. I was so hyper aware in social situations I can read everyone’s face so well and clearly see that they were uncomfortable with my facial expressions. And being in customer service where I see a hundred people a day, hundreds of reactions a week put such a deep pain that makes me even more hyper aware of what my face is doing. It was a terrible snow ball effect of trying to over compensate and get people to like me cause I didn’t know what was going on but I was just becoming more awkwardly expressive and anxious looking. When I found this out I did everything in my power to limit the expression which actually put me all the way on the other side which is the deadpan face. My lips would still move weird because there was no motion of smile. This turned out to be better because I wasn’t getting that traumatizing reaction of people being uncomfortable weirded out looking at me. But obviously I still have trouble connecting with people. I’m more accepted cause of this and life is good but I want to be able to connect and enjoy conversations with anyone. I want to connect with people so bad but this hindered my ability beyond I could’ve imagined and I’ve been looking to get better for a while. I knew it was with my facial expressions but NO ONE ever has explained it like you. I feel like I’ve been heard for the first time. Jeffy if you read all of this do you still offer a program that relates to this topic?
Hello my friend. I found this video because you and I have similar stories. I find it inspiring that people like you are trying to persevere against these habits we reinforce our entire lives. It’s been some time since you commented this, how are you doing now?
@@jamesrottler6936 hey! Doing a lot better. I realized that the main issues root comes from being unconfident and then peoples reactions to me being unconfident makes me hyper aware of what my face is doing during conversation. I found the best solution was to obviously raise my confidence. My biggest boost was from working out and staying busy on top of work stuff and goals. 2 was to understand eye contact rules. Genuinely be engaged in the conversation and not focused on what your face is doing. If I do bring awareness to my face I just make sure my eyes are relaxed and not crazy eye piercing and then also the opposite I make sure I’m not stone faced like i don’t want to talk to the person. It’s also important to realize other people can have anxiety and their reactions might not be personal towards how you’re communicating
These RSD dudes always find the coolest settings to shoot their videos. I can honestly say that Jeff has been the one I have had the most takeaways from. I read his book of field reports and journal entries years ago I can't believe he or his team checked in on me after adding him on Instagram last month.
There are many reasons, mostly resulting from negative social counter conditioning that teaches us to be careful with our uses of energy out of fear of judgement.
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🇺🇸👺💬💬🏳🌈 1. deadpan 2. serious 3. not squared up 4. weird tics 5. no indication of whats going on inside --- it limits your expressive range and makes you turn out weak interactions when it matters. need to loose up and than things tend to work themselves out
