Hey Everyone! I did not expect this video to get picked up like this, but so grateful for every view, every comment. (I've read every single one). It's wild that many of us are seemingly disconnected, yet we share so many similar sentiments. Not that our stories are the same, but the emotions are familiar. Hopefully you can find encouragement but also encourage someone else in the comments! Thank you for joining with me on this journey!
As a child my mom taught me to read using a poem called Desiderata. It was a poem from the 20's on how to be happy. She made me reference it multiple times, even when I didn't expect her to. A part of the poem says: "Do not compare yourself to others, as you may become vain and bitter." My nephew is younger than me, just bought a magnificent house and started a family. I'm a few years older. Living in the basement of my family home. I keep trying to pave the road to a better life for me and my significant other to be free and do the same. So thank you for this video, because it's not an easy path to walk in these particular shoes. Thanks again.❤
"Blooming" is someting sold to us by people with something to gain: influencers, success coaches, enterpreneurship gurus, companies that sell us stuff to "make it big" in this or that thing that would otherwise be just a hobby, and so on. If someone has some special purpose or talent, like an athelete, or musician, or whatever, sure, they can try to be the best and have success on that. For 99% of people on Earth, success is having a good life, paying your bills on time, and normal stuff like having friends and family. But we're taught to want to have the "blooming" of the 1% (or the 0.1%) instead of a fine private life.
@@foljs5858 yeah and even those talented struggle to get there too. Some of them are too ahead for their time, others deal mental issues like depression, anxiety, or a mental condition that’s stuck in the blind spot until they’re diagnosed, others are intentionally held down by jealous vultures who might even traumatise enough to knock them off their track, there’s just so many issues with an expected age deadline in a world where things are out of your control.
Yeah I mean objectively speaking, I am late and 'behind in life' significantly as Im in my late 20s with no career no relationship nothing.. To many people my life probably looks like a death sentence because age/doing something at certain stage in life matters no matter how much we want to deny it. Its also uncertain that I'll ever reach anywhere even as a late bloomer because my mental health is still the same since years ago which played a big part in what caused all this chaos.. idk I feel hopeless but what else can I do. Its either I accept and do whatever I can with what I have and got or death.
I'm 28, still live with my parents and have been dealing with severe depression and anxiety for 11 years, and because of that I missed out on a lot of things and I've never had a job in my entire life. I don't just feel behind in life I know I AM and I'm scared because it seems like I'll never find a way out of this.
I read myself in your comment. I have the same age and I'm struggling with severe generalized anxiety which has made me depressed because I don't know if I'll ever recover from this. But even if I feel like this, I know we'll bloom one day, slowly but surely, we'll get there. Art has been helping me a lot, I hope you find something that makes you feel happy to be alive and helps you to bloom 🧡
Exactly the same situation as me, just 5 years of nothing since college. But took a cybersec class recently and just returning to a structure to plan the day around felt great. Actually had me seriously considering military life
Feeling like a disappointment while realizing I’m being too hard on myself while realizing I need to get my shit together while not wanting to fix anything while seeing all my friends excel by me really makes me think I am a late bloomer
What's helping me through this, even if your friends are excelling by you, as long as you consistently go at YOUR own pace. You will eventually catch up to them. because the reality is, most people are only consistent for parts of their lives. Otherwise everyoner would be millionaires and billionaires. For me, I learn slow. I need extra time to understand something. But when it speeds up, holy shit it's a force to be reckoned with. The brain and body need time to recover from whatever your doing. The Hare vs the Tortoise. In a world of speed, ironically going slow means going fast later. So keep that your head up. Go after the things you want to do in life. Just be consistent!
@@jkASMRs It means taking your time to learn something, don't rush it. If your playing an instrument, want to get faster? Play at a slow speed that your comfortable with, then gradually increase the bpm and only move on when your comfortable with that new tempo. Speed is a direct result of Control. If you have a hard time reading, slow it down a bit until you get into a "flow state" and then you'll naturally start speeding up because you understand what your reading. Slow and steady wins the race everytime.
I'm 34 going to college, working as a cashier at Walmart full-time, and trying to find an affordable behind-the-wheel driving instructor. I'm extremely behind in life after having a very traumatizing life in my childhood, teenage, and young adult years. It took me a long time to move past it and strategize my way out. But I'm finally taking those steps. Sometimes I get jealous when I see kids whose parents love them, but I know the adversity made me stronger and wiser. Sometimes my old self comes back. Like I get very anxious around people sometimes or when I make a mistake I start shaking because I expect to be yelled at even though logically I know I won't. Or I'll think back to the thoughts I had as a kid that my mom instilled in me like I'm worthless and people would be better off without me. But most of the time, I'm an overall stronger person who can accomplish my goals.
I have the deepest respect for people who get a degree later in life, outside the traditional pathway, because I know how hard it was to work and go to college during my university time and shit doesn't get easier when you get older. So not sure if it means anything to you but more often than not people will probably think you're pretty badass, even if they don't say it out loud.
30 and a Walmart employee too full time I quit college for a few months and going back in fall while saving for my own place I have really bad anxiety and get anxious and be distancing people because of growing up with narcissist mother and a father that never cared to help. I’m trying to change myself little by little to learn to love and feel more confident and stronger.
And you will accomplish your goals, don't forget to celebrate small victories to stay motivated. I'm 33 and on the same path too. Keep going, I'm extremely proud of us.
Cried myself yesterday to sleep because my heart aches so much with sorrow. I cant take this anymore. I work so hard, i love so hard...and i feel so lost and behind.
I feel this soo deeply. Its like I've been left in a hole and can never get out. My life is nothing that i wanted. Im still trying to change it into something that can bring me peace.
@@amarissantiago4309 Same. And when i see that my friends got engage, having the time of there lifes and getting Kids i feel so envy...just like a monster
I hope things get better for you. What has helped me is talking to a therapist and most importantly, building on my faith. Getting to know Jesus changed my life. While I still feel behind, things have gotten much better with his help. Don't give up. I'm rooting for you!
I got some great advice from my brother in law when I was a teenager who was very much at risk of developing failure-to-launch syndrome. He said, don't worry about keeping it all together. Don't worry about getting everything figured out. Adults don't have it together and they don't have it figured out. They just learned how to fake it. We all have insecurities and we all have anxiety sometimes. Accept it as the norm and don't compare yourself to others. Live life at your own pace.
I'm 47, I started a RU-vid channel a few months ago. I also started a business a few months ago which also has a blog. I have zero skills in writing and video. I started Muay Thai Kickboxing, BJJ, and MMA at 42. I got a personal training certification at 45. Don't give up. Better to be late than never.
Yes some of us are Roses but others are Night Blooming Jasmine, fruit blossoms, cactus blooms, Snapdragons, Chrysanthemums etc. All individual and lovely in their own way.
My childhood was full "you can't" and "this is dangerous" ... so that I was a very shy kid. And when I was loud I got told to be quiet right away. Of course it is not an environment that promotes early bloomers. And it took me a long time to realise that it wasn't something wrong with me. Now I read and changed the environment and I really feel the change.... You don't know how long each flower will bloom.... the spring flowers are early but usually don't bloom for a very long time.
Right, I had a mom that catastrophized everything and did not believe in me. My parents didn't encourage me to learn and grow. I felt powerless and was told to be quiet too! I often wondered why they had kids. I'm learning life lessons and healing though, I'm dedicated to being my own role model since my parents weren't one.
This has been my childhood too! Our environments have so much influence on us and I realise that some of us need to unlearn a lot of things before we can bloom and that's why we are a bit "late" to the party. There's nothing wrong with that ❤
Unfortunately, I know my mum love me but I think she sheltered me too much. My dad tried giving me chances like swimming lessons, piano lessons but I kept dropping them, feeling like I couldn’t do them. Now I got to push my way through to learn how to live
This almost feels like one of those internet checkpoints. A safe haven where people just take a moment to reflect and share on all their experiences, worries, dreams, hopes and fears. We need more spaces like this. It's beautiful. Being a late bloomer can definitely feel very lonely. Putting it like the feeling of having been left behind is truly fitting. But I suppose there's always more time to bloom. You just gotta let the blooming take its time
As an Asian woman, I resonated with that Mulan scene when I first saw it. I am in my mid/late 30s, and life absolutely did not go as planned. I'm living in my own apartment for the first time (genuinely loving it), learning Tagalog, cooking new recipes almost every day, healing traumas in therapy, traveling, making friends, and truly enjoying my own company. I have not dated in years but am waiting for the right man, if that’s supposed to be in my path. I truly believe everyone has their own journey (to learn spiritual lessons). Life is not about what we want but what we need to learn. Anyway, do not be so hard on yourself! If you have certain dreams, it's never too late to try. Thank you for posting this, Jason. Wishing you all the best 💛✨
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became really strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which, to summarize, I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive a lot of things he did in his life, and we lost touch for about 10 years. So many details I cannot fit here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after death. I’ve gotten certain spiritual signs (related to dad and others). I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, affecting others, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or address issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! My comment keeps getting deleted. Basically, I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive many things he did in his life, as we lost touch for about 10 years. We had an amazing last conversation that helped me start to heal. So many details I’d love to put here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after we pass. I’ve gotten spiritual signs (related to dad and others) that I don’t think are coincidences. I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or address issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! My comment keeps getting deleted. Basically, I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive many things he did in his life, as we lost touch for about 10 years. We had an amazing last conversation that helped me start to heal. So many details I’d love to put here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after we pass. I’ve gotten spiritual signs (related to dad and others) that I don’t think are coincidences. I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! My comment keeps getting deleted. Basically, I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive many things he did in his life, as we lost touch for about 10 years. We had an amazing last conversation that helped me start to heal. So many details I’d love to put here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after we pass. I’ve gotten spiritual signs (related to dad and others) that I don’t think are coincidences. I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or past issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
29, I still feel so lost. struggling in my long term relationship, unhappy in any job I am in, endlessly tired, watching my friends create lives in jealousy. It sucks. Feel so lost sometimes.
Me too, man. What do you like to do that isn’t a relationship or career orientated? Take the first step in your personal life to treat everyone like you are feeling now. Say hello, be honest with someone you don’t know and hear them out. Chances are, they are too, and you’ll find the place you’ll need to be. It took me 27 years to get that ball rolling, and I still sink down, but many of us online are feeling the same. Chances are, we can be found out there. :)
I think part of the problem is the concept of “blooming” in general. Your value as a person isn’t found in a spouse or video views. Your worth comes from the experiences you’ve collected. The hurts, and the beautiful moments. We all have those. We are all just learning how to live in the present. That’s the only real goal. Edit: Just to be clear based on responses, I don’t mean the ‘instagram experiences’ that you’ve collected, I simply mean the fact that you exist, and continue to.
Our worth comes from what love, care, and value we give. Neither from experiences (a narcisisstic jerk can have all kinds of cool experiences) nor from doing something special, like becoming famous, or rich, or whatever.
As I get older now in my 40’s, I realized all the things that I wanted in life are still on their way. I wasn’t ready for those next steps, and I probably would not have appreciated them if I didn’t struggle along the way towards them. The best is yet to come, is my new motto.
I personally don't like the concept of "blooming." It insinuates that there is one goal in life (to bloom), and if you don't achieve that, you're a failure. Late or early, our goal is to bloom. But what if you are not a bloomer in the way people think you should. I'm 52, and I have been a teacher, an artist, a writer, and a philanthropist. And now I have an office job as a translator. For some people, they think I haven't bloomed yet because I never reached the peak of a chosen career or had a family. But I've been part of exhibitions, see my students graduate, and I have helped a lot of street cats. Am I not a bloomer? Thanks for making me reflect on my life and for making me appreciate it. 😊❤
I agree with you. Seeing life through failure and success lenghs is the problem itself bcuz it doesnt match with reality. It has nothing to do with your case but where do the lives of those dying at the two current wars fit in this scenario? Did they fail or bloom?
This is the truth! Life is just there to be lived in whatever way you see fit and whatever way it comes to you. Just be a good person, help others, don't be a dick... that's enough "blooming" for anyone ;) (and no, I don't always live by that and I sometimes share similar feelings to this video).
I resonate really hard with this video. As someone who was born in ‘97, it’s weird and hard to see everyone I went to elementary, middle, high school and college with are getting married, getting engaged, having their first baby or their second baby and then there’s me. I’m 26 and I still don’t have my drivers license yet or a job, so it’s really weird to see everyone else crossing those major milestones in life and I’m sitting here thinking, “when is it going to be my turn to cross those milestones?” But I always remind myself that even though I haven’t experienced those milestones at the same time as everyone else, I know that my turn will come. I just have to be still and remain patient.
But just remember there’s time to be still and time to take action. It’s the harsh truth I learnt early on… no one is going to save you. Everything is ultimately up to you.
Some flowers can’t bloom in certain conditions. The older I get and the more I learn about myself, the more I realize that I was never going to bloom in the conditions I was in. I’ve had generalized anxiety disorder possibly my entire life, I’m afraid of pretty much everything (even writing this comment is a little scary tbh…) There was just no way I could understand and overcome that as a kid or even in my 20s. I’m 32 now, I’ve educated myself on GAD and every day I’m working on overcoming my fears. I *will* get there, someday. Even if it’s a little late, I will bloom eventually. I hope you get to bloom soon as well. Maybe this video is the start of that, who knows? Thanks for making it, it’s such a comfort knowing you’re not alone in this ❤
@@fightthisfreeze So sorry 💔 I hope things get better for you. My advice is to just learn as much about yourself as possible, and as much about the psychology behind your issues as possible, whatever they are. We all have issues, whether that’s GAD for you or something else. It just helps to understand why you function the way you do, cause then you can start to confront those things. It’s BRUTAL work, and obviously you won’t always have success, but it’s the only way you’ll be able to get off the path you’re stuck on. Edit: I REALLY recommend watching HealthyGamerGG’s videos btw! They’re really helpful and super interesting 👍
@@shaniseburris9839 That’s so kind, thank you so much 🥹❤️ and whether you’re in a similar situation or not, I wish the absolute best for you in life ❤️
@@Liece45 Wow, it’s so nice to hear from someone who’s made the same journey but is farther along in it, and I so agree with you - there’s no cure for anxiety that I know of, unfortunately. It’s all just about learning to manage it. Learning what triggers it, learning to face those things and learning that you can actually handle it. I think of it like a backpain you’re never going to be cured of, but instead of never moving to avoid aggrevating it and unintentionally letting all your muscles atrophy and making the situation worse, it’s working out to strengthen those muscles instead and finding different directions to bend over that don’t hurt as much. I’m so happy to hear you’re doing well ❤️ It’s very inspiring to know it can be done, that your anxiety doesn’t have to dictate your whole life
I'm 22 years old and have just realised this year how much time I've wasted on past traumas and how everyone else my age completed college (university as we call it in europe) and get a job where they make big bucks. Meanwhile I started with age 21 and will graduate at 25 or 26. I sometimes cry myself to sleep because of it, but at least I am not alone after reading these comments and this video. Thank you ❤️ I sometimes wish I was somebody else, through, or in an better position in life. I'm just happy that I am still alive and well in the end
I also started college at 22 and I'm graduating next year. A lot of my classmates are much younger than me but some are older than me too. I also used to be really scared of falling behind. For some reason, I had to choose IT course while I had no interest in IT, wasted 3years of college not acquiring skills but now it's my last year and I have started. I am trying to change my old beliefs these days and stay positive as there are so many successful people who started really late. The most important thing is to start taking steps. It's normal to see other people and be discouraged. I see younger kids being beasts at programming while I am a beginner but then I think that there will always be someone who started earlier than and someone who started programming in their late 30s. From now on, I will always allow myself to be a beginner because that's how you grow even though I am still scared. Concept of blooming is weird because there's no end point in life until we are alive. A person never stops growing, they might just have a different pace. Sorry for the rant. I just felt like your situation was very similar to mine.
"I guess the thing about late bloomers is that they still bloom". Man... I don't know how to thank you for this video. I'm 37, broke, still living with my parents. It feels like the bottom of the pit. BUT I feel deeply that all I've been through in my life is converging into this moment. There is so much energy building up and it feels like it's about to explode like a volcano. I just hope it's a really beautiful and rare flower.
@@user-jp5xi4ue6g I do understand what you’re saying, but I respectfully disagree. Each person lives in a unique universe and we can’t really compare our struggles and difficulties. Only I know what I’ve been and are going through, just like only you know what you had to go through in your life. We're all unique, just like our paths. Regardless, I wish you all the best. Just like I wish love, success and happiness to anyone who is reading this comment now!
@@lxz8021 Brother! I don't know how to thank you. I really really wish that all your dreams come true! From the bottom of my soul! Thank you! Have an amazing day!
@@StevenSantaCruz-ix9is Well, I hope you find your path to freedom soon! I wish you all the best! Healing, happiness and peace! Thank you for being here!
Love the honesty and self reflection. Love him or hate him, Ray Kroc started with McDonalds at 52. Harlan Sanders created KFC when he was 62! Success is the continuous culminations of our life journey, and everyone's got their own path. Keep up the videos young man!
no why did you have to choose these particular two examples pls there are so many better examples than mr Kroc and the Colonel 😭 theyre perfectly fine just not the most inspiring lol /hj just look toward figures like Mark Twain, Toni Morrison, Morgan Freeman - there are a multitude of writers, actors, and other artists/creatives that bloomed in their middle-age or golden years! it's crazy how I'm just turned 28 and I struggle with these thoughts-even ever since I was just 18 I was already beginning to feel the pressure.
But at what cost? Their success turned into millions, if not maybe a billion people becoming obese and dying because of how we normalize fast food. And untold suffering of factory farm animals. It’s almost like… outward success if it exploits other people in some way is truly worthless.
I feel like it’s been instilled in our brains from a young age-where to be in life, what we want to be when we grow up, what college to go to, when to get married and have kids, what we should and shouldn’t do..to follow this blueprint. I’m at that age where I felt the pressure to mark off these checklists .. and I found out that I shouldn’t be following what others say or do. Do what makes you happy ❤
You have no idea how much I needed this right now... so thank you for this message. I'm 38 years old, searching for yet another basic job, no college degree, no boyfriend or spouse (because I've never been asked out on a date), and I have so many skills & interests that I really can't figure out what I truly want to do with my life. I'm a Jack-of-all-trades... or I guess a Jill. My mother constantly compares me to others who are younger than me that she taught at students or knows around that are much more successful... you know, like being college grads, earning doctorates & masters degrees, getting married or having children, getting all this praise from others and living their 30s the way she wishes I could have been... and I hate it. It's like, I'm not good enough in her eyes... or that I'm not like her (who also found her purpose in her 20s, had a successful teaching career for 41 years & is now able to live the rest of her days without any financial worry), and every time I explain that I'm not like them or like her, she just shakes her head in disappointment. Dealing with this often makes me feel so depressed... because I just feel like no matter what I do, it'll never ever be enough for her. I know I am a late bloomer. I've known this since probably... middle or high school. I've made so many mistakes in my life that I wish I could take back, just to give it another try... but I can't. I do want to return to college & eventually earn a degree (once I figure out what to go after; if older folks can earn them in their 60-90s, so can I! I'll just... earn it BEFORE that age range.). I want to find love & get married one day, but it has to be the right person (and I have to get over my fear of actually "dating"). I want to find my life's purpose & prove my mother wrong... but she just needs to realize that it will take some time first, and maybe then she'll realize that & be sincerely proud of me once her late-blooming flower of a daughter finally blossoms. 🌸
I appreciate how this is not a video that tells us to own up to the trauma and get better but one where the person just shares their feelings without any filters. I think there’s a lot of strength in being able to be so transparent on the Internet and talk about how loneliness really feels. I think you’re a very brave person to not hide how you really feel. Thank you for sharing your feelings with us.
Bro I’m 23 and broke can’t get a job and living off nothing and seeing all these kids making money like it’s nothing I literally just don’t understand 😭
Dont be fooled,buddy. Most of these social media "influencers" are in debt. If you have 100k subs, you aint rich. Most are liars. Even if you have 1 mil subs, you make more stable money at McD or cleaning toilets. Those who are rich on RU-vid are rich due to their sponsors. Sponsors are the ones thats paying them a lot. Not the number of subs/views. Example, sponsor pays you 10k to put an ad of their item on your video. Thats where the money comes in.
Yup! influencers are in debt! (you'll understand when you grow up). Keep learning everyday. Build strong relationships. Work hard (10 hours a day). Focus on your health. You ll do just fine! :)
@@dreamcuts6811 Nobody needs to work 10 hours a day. Work efficiently instead so you do a reasonable number of hours but can still enjoy your life otherwise you'll just burn out.
Thank you for posting this. I am 27 and i feel so lost. I had my path etched out for me. Go to college, get a job, meet someone, live well, etc. I did all those things but i started realizing that i never really grew in the ways i wanted following this path. It was very hard for me to make the decision to end my engagement to an amazing person but it was essential to my personal growth. I feel like i set myself back in a lot of ways but i know in the long run, a wiser and much more mature me will look back and be proud that I did this for myself. I'm bummed it took me a few years to realize it/make the decision but i know i still have time. Better late than never.
It is lonely. Even being around others I feel so lonely. Yet, I find a little bit of solace knowing that in this feeling, I am not truly alone. I hope one day I can find where “home” is. ❤
Feel this 100%. Sometimes it feels like the years flew by and we just never “started” living. I’m trying to “start” this year, but the first step is aways the hardest
@@Jesu-l5i everyone's versions of "living life" is different. you're doing great even if you're single living alone or with parents, in debt, or overcoming an addiction, etc. its okay. you're young.
I used to think this philosophy was just a way of masking one’s regrets and disappointments in life. I refused it for so long bc it felt like the type of stuff you say when you accept defeat or whatever. This “all or nothing” mentality is what ended up getting me sick, and sending me to a state where I lost all the status I always prioritized. And thats when I realized that indeed nothing besides that is required. Focus on doing what you like rather the results you will get out of it. Status, money and fame is great but they should never be the goal. I haf to learn it the hard way
I’m 32 and still trying to figure it out. Nothing I’ve tried has gone right. I very much feel these feelings, the loneliness especially. Thank you for sharing
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
@@BestOffer-ii9nyhow the fuck are you expecting someone across the damn pond or even across the world to know where your local dealers are? I think instead of asking people for drugs stop feening for a high and actually find yourself mate. You don't need drugs to delve within your own soul and find who you truly are and if you think you do then you're just not mentally ready for life.
Watching this at 38 yrs of age, I can definitely relate. I knew from childhood that I was a late bloomer, but really didn’t think much of it. But now as I am getting older not married, no children, no stable career, no friends, etc. It’s like what do I have to do to bloom, to shine, to allow my creativity to shine through. I know my worth, I know that I am abundant in whatever I want to do. What more can I do? Im just ready for some kind of change in my life😔. But this what an amazing video that was way to short😊. I had to watch it twice.
There are many people who appear to have bloomed but aren't necessarily happy. And sometimes society has these ideas that we should always be moving from one milestone to the next. I choose to find contentment and make the most of where I am at a particular point in life.
Thank you jason, this video helped. Im 37 nearing midlife going through the toughest part of my life since i was a teenager and im back to feeling lost again.
It use to be said turning 40 was going to be the best times in your life.....I am turning 46 this year and these have been the worse 6 years of my life.....I have not found a way to bloom.....thanks for making me think.....and try to see how I am growing.....sending love tina from MN
remember that you will succeed in your own ways. not by anyone else's way. also you don't need to explain to anyone your life plans or what you'll do in your future because things change constantly. you're right where you need to be. you're alive and that enough is an accomplishment.
Hi Tina. How are you doing? Has the past month brought anything pleasantly unexpected for you? Do you have any hobbies or passions that can help you bloom mentally or emotionally? I really enjoy writing, and sometimes when I feel bummed about my situation ( serious medical issues) , writing a short story makes me feel so much better, because it’s something I’m passionate about and not to pat myself too much on the back, but I feel like I’m a good writer lol. Anyways I hope you are doing better and and that the next 6 years are better than the last 6. Just take it a day at a time. Remember to be kind to yourself as well, even during the times of disappoint or regret. ❤
I’m 40, single, unemployed own nothing, no car, no house. I know where my status is in life, I simply exist left behind with nothing but emptiness Update: Thank you all for the support. Since I last left this message, I am on a new anti depressant medication to treat my anxiety. It seems to have changed my mood as well. There is optimism in the air. I have less triggering experiences of anxiety as well. I have an associates degree and would like to go back to school to earn my bachelor’s degree in software engineering. Despite feeling more optimistic about my future, I’m dealing with a part of myself that is afraid to let go of my pain and hopelessness. I’ve lived with it for so long. At this point it’s my normal. And yet, I’m encouraged to pursuit a new normal. Again thank you all kindly. It’s reassuring to know I’m not alone in my mental health struggles
Come on, you can do, something!!! Don't be so down in life, be the best you can be... no one in this world to help us, care for us, get us up, except us
I can relate. I'm 25, suffering from bipolar 1 and social anxiety, and I'm still in college. Most of the people here are 5 years younger than me while the people my age have already graduated and have jobs. I worry that I won't even be able to hold down a job due to my mental illnesses. But I have faith in God that He will make a way and has a purpose for my pain. My whole family are late bloomers and I believe I am one too. Thank you for your video.
Hey. Im soon 33 and got no education after highschool. Battling with cripling depression, social and general anxiety, adhd and and im like 30k In dept. Dont give up!
I was in the same boat in my 40's!! But life got so much better after that; not because of the degree but I got some of my confidence back. Chin up! Literally; keep your chin up!
24 , will be 25 in june . I Will be attending my 3rd semester of my college in September. All of the students around me are mostly teenagers. Ppl of my age have graduated long time ago some even have or are expecting a baby. While me ...... I literally still don't have any talent/skill. I still don't know what to do with my life. So yeah i don't have much to say except, don't give up you are not alone . Keep having faith in God . Be delusional (in a positive way) to achieve your goals.
“The thing about late bloomers is that they still bloom.” ❤ beautifully said. I need to remind myself of this daily as a 27 year old college graduate who still lives at home with her parents and works part time as a cashier. I often look at my friends and feel jealous that they are seemingly out and free in the real world and I’m stuck in my sheltered reality waiting for my turn to come. But this video reminded me that everyone’s journey is different and my time will come soon enough. Thank you 🙏🏾
This was beautiful. I was an early bloomer. Thrived in my career in my 20s. Now my petals are gone and I’m feeling lost. Having felt like I thrived for so long only to feel so incompetent is such a weird and debilitating territory for me. Alas, here we are. Thanks for the pep talk, inspiration and acknowledgment that we’re not alone in our feelings. Please create more! 🙌🏼
ugh i really needed this reminder, its sometimes almost painful to even think of going back on social media and seeing what my former classmates and friends are doing now. but my time will come eventually. also you really got bonus hit in the heart points for the mulan clips because she was my favorite disney princess growing up 😭
It’s fear to think that maybe i won’t make it at all, I just feel pathetic and seeing others and their accomplishments just make it feel so much more real that it could be in reality, the fear of not archiving the expectation.
I sometimes feel delusional. folks coming up to me and giving me suggestions on how to live life. i 2nd guess myself and then feel bad when i divert from my path. then cycle again. Comparisons don’t do me worst then i do myself. Great video bro! I’m glad to see you blooming !!
This really made me cry. I’m so hard on myself and can’t help but think that I’m a result of my bad actions. I’m happy RU-vid recommended this to me. Thank you.
I feel your pain...I'm neurodivergent and have always felt like everyone was moving forward without me. I never had a passion or focus. I went to school for Graphic Design and all it did was kill my desire to draw for 10 years. I feel like i wasted those 10 years that I could have been improving my art skills and now as I get closer to turning 40 it just feels like I'm floundering amongst all the art babies who have grown up doing digital art or learning their skills at an early age from online resources. It's hard fitting in as an elder millennial amongst all these amazing younger generations.
I found that i prefer traditional art after trying out graphic design/digital art as well. Digital art is so prominent in online art spaces that i used to associate digital art with success, but it's just a tool, just another medium. It helped my confidence to find other traditional artists to follow and to limit the amount of time i spend on social media in general. Exploring different mediums helped me to figure myself out artistically. Five years ago i never would have thought that i'd be teaching myself to make lace right now. Still, we are in a digital age, and the time i spent learning graphic design has helped me to create branding for myself. I'm not a full-time artist and i don't have much of a social media following, but i'm happy with the direction i'm moving in, at least You don't need to fit in, you can find and create your own space. Good luck 💚💙🤍
Such an impactful six minutes, I had to watch it twice. Thank you for sharing without attempting to pose as someone with all the answers, but instead sharing an authentic experience to which I and many others can relate. I particularly appreciated the part where you question yourself as to whether you actually believe what you are saying about how you perceive your own experience. That is so real. The sincerity that struck me to my core: "Sometimes it just feels lonely, like I was left behind. It's just me by myself in this reality. I don't know." I am in my mid 30's. On the one hand, I am trying to embrace what is, and on the other hand, "I don't know". I romanticize about a life where I did things different. I fear that my life won't "bloom" into a version that I can whole heartedly embrace. It's a scary and lonely place to be. I guess it's just nice to know I am not alone. Thanks.
Love love LOVE this video and truly relate, being in my 30's and feeling stuck, left behind and not where I thought I'd be/where I'd like to be at this stage in my life. Sending good thoughts your way!
I bloomed but not fully . Im waiting to fully bloom in my 40's. I keep getting knocked over. Losing friends,family dying over the past 2 years. It sounds like an excuse but 2020 really threw a wrench in my life plans. I don't know how old this youtuber is. But he's cute and seems very young. I'm sure he's got lots of time for everything.
Keep it up, keep ur head up and keep goin. When 2020 started, everything in my life came rockin down. But i cant turn time back, i have to keep goin and things will get better. You are not alone
Dude… I’ve watched this like 50 times. This was better than any 20-30 minute vid of being motivated or determined ego nonsense. I just turned 30, my partner left me after helping her achieve her goals after sacrificing mine for years, seeing all my peers lead more successful lives and just feeling so lonely and left behind in it. You articulated it so well. I feel the exact same. Hopefully us late bloomers bloom into the most beautiful and rare flowers.
That was beautiful man. I’m 43 this year and have been working thru all of these issues for a few years now. With lots of work, therapy, reflection, and practise, it finally feels I’m going to get there. And you know what’s best? On many days I’ve stopped caring. Time to LIVE ❤ Don’t berate yourself. We all have our own journey 🎉
This is exactly what i needed right now. I've been in a huge mental slump lately. Ive recently "found myself" so to speak. Found my passions, found who i wanted, found myself but i feel like time is ticking now that im in my 30s. Knowing what i want and knowing i dont have the means to get there right now feels like the slowest most agonizing torture. Like ive finally accomplished something most people dont (finding your passion) but its dangling just our of reach above me. Ive never been great at being patient but this is exactly what i needed to hear to give me peace...
Ive been in school for so much of my life i never anticipated feeling like theres anything but school. Natural late bloomer because school is way harder for me than my peers. But, starting my PhD journey in my 30s has been the most rewarding and horribly stressful things ive ever had to do. But ill be happy with my work pass or fail. Great video and message ❤
I hit rock bottom in my late 20s, alcoholism, completely broke and actually over 15K Eur in debt. But for anyone rading this, don't give up on your dreams. It's one step at a time, you got this! I started my channel, stopped drinking, ghosted everyone and got an editing job at television because of all these changes. Life is great, if you do the neccesary things that are right in front of you ☺
@@munkhtuvshinmt I did a lot of things, to achieve this, non of which were easy. I stuggled with quitting for a long time, and trying to get my life back together, but I managed. It's way too long to explain in the comments. I have done multiple videos on it on my channel ☺
When I was a teenager, I had this image in my head of being married at 21, having children and owning a home by 25, and retiring by 40 because of my resoundingly high income (I was going into computer science, so I expected hefty paychecks. Haha.) It took far too long to get my degree because of terrible counselors at my college, I didn't meet my spouse until I was 18 and didn't get married until we were in our late 20s, we're in our late 30s and just officially got a house and are currently talking about children. The point of all of this: just because it takes longer for you to achieve your goals doesn't mean the goals aren't worth achieving, or that you aren't worthy of achieving them. I hope everyone continues to journey towards their dreams.
my go to that i always tell people to keep in mind is: alan rickman acted in his first film at 42 years old he died a beloved actor 27 years later you've always got time, everything comes down to how you use it if you never let the spark go out, you'll always be able to start a fire when you're meant to great video, man
The fact that this exact scene of Mulan popped in my head I kid you not about 2 days ago when I was feeling quite down about being a late bloomer and then I see this video randomly.. Wow is all I can say. Thank you for putting this together it really spoke to me today. Please keep going this is the content the world needs fr.
Oooh the way I can relate!!! As an unmarried, childless woman in my 30s, who just quit my job to start my own business (and scared shitless), who’s been dreaming about starting my own RU-vid channel for the past 10 years (but never doing it because I’m somehow scared); I can relate down to the very last word! I almost cried at 3:54 when you said it just feels lonely sometimes…. My peers, and even friends younger than me seem so far ahead in their trajectory. Then I was almost brought to my knees when Chadwick Boseman showed up at 5:20 (RIP may his start always shine bright 🌟). Which would have been embarrassing, cause I’m out on a walk 😅. Anyways, thank you for such a relatable video. It gave me comfort, and motivation to keep forward on my own path; til the day I bloom 🌸.
I love everything about this! Thank you for sharing your words and experience. I’m a late bloomer as well, and sometimes as much as I love all I’ve experienced it still feels hard and lonely. Thank you for helping me feel less alone. I resonated with so much of what you shared.
I do feel so lost. I had such a strong head direction before Covid happened during my sophomore year of college and it completely destroyed me and my ambitions and motivation and just derailed me. Same happened for practically everyone I knew in college during that time and with my friends. And since college it’s all been the same, nothings changed and we still feel lost with no sense of direction.
Glad this video made it's way to my algorithm. I'm considering changing my career after feeling unhappy with my current trajectory and it can be especially daunting to restart especially when comparing myself to others my age who have already established their careers and families and even formed successful companies. To quote Gandalf: "A wizard is never late, nor is he early, he arrives precisely when he means to.”
I've always felt left behind in life. Since I was a child I had a small friend group that never lasts, I've never attended a party or a big social situation with people that have my age, also I don't see a futere in my life, school is very hard for me, and I always feel alone and sad. Since I was 11 yo, i've been depressed and anxious, and I don't think I can make it to adulthood. Your video gave me some hope that I'm not alone in this situation, thank you.
Im a late bloomer adult, im still blooming, and even though i feel lost all the time but in away things have gotten so much better than they were when i was a kid. Your 20s is better than your teens, even as a late bloomer. If you're neurodivergent and/or queer, theres also a difference in who you bloom. As an adult now the hardest part is just having access to the things that will help me grow and having the patience to work for them, but compared to where i was as a kid, its much better. Im excited for my 30s.
I understand how you feel. It doesn't help me much to ideate on my own misery for long, so I hope you can forgive me for sharing tips with you instead of just talking about our shared woes. For me, prioritizing my health, trusting my gut, and being authentic and honest with myself have made life feel more meaningful, even if it still doesn't feel like I have a future. It makes days more meaningful and I have more opportunities to fill them with things that inspire and excite me. There is freedom in not worrying about tomorrow, but I know it doesn't make the feelings of loneliness and confusion go away. If we can't find people who encourage and appreciate us, the best we can do is try to be that for ourselves. Don't give up, okay? Even if it hurts, we only have this time on Earth and then it's over forever. If you can't bring yourself to dance, try your best just to enjoy the music while it's playing. I believe there's meaning to find in that. I don't know what it is or what it will be, but I believe there is meaning in it. And someday, before we finish our journey here, we'll find out what that meaning is.
Growing up with a narcissistic father is what caused for me, I could see it not only in myself but also me siblings all of us are behind in lives compared to our peers in career, marriage and sometime I can also see it in our cognitive and social skills. what hurts me the most is not that Im late behind my peers, it's that people decades younger than me are outdoing me in life. I feel like people who experienced parental abuse spend most of their childhood and teens years in survival mood trying to protect themselves and cope with the abuse, suddenly you're 31 and you have no idea what to do with your life or how even this thing called living can be done! you're just existing.
They tell men to toughen up and figure it out. And just as the butterfly effect one decision or event can totally change the way your future is paved even if it's not desired. I really needed this video of someone saying and feeling what I've been pondering in my head constantly and the way I feel. I just turned 38 yesterday...... I don't look any older but I'm blessed to get older. Went to disney world for the first time at 37, and the inner child teared up of the magic that place brings. Don't get me wrong I had a great childhood and young parents who couldn't get me everything but did their best. But now at this new age of 38 I still feel as if I haven't expanded yet. Everything has just been on repeat with no change in direction. I just hope to bloom someday and finally wake up to a different perspective of my atmosphere and being. Thank you
Thank you for your raw vulnerability Jason. 😢 you had me tearing up a bit. I’m 51 and don’t think I’ve “bloomed” yet. Yet I love this life… even the really hard stuff. ❤
38yr old chef with more the 15years of experience in the kitchen. I don't know anything else then a 12hour shift an when I do have free, starting to hurt myself with isolation and bad thoughts.Have made some massive errors in my life an blaming myself more an more.As an international, all my friends have moved and move on and couldn't cough up a conversation with a girl. Stumbled upon this video an just rly feel I need to express myself as it's near impossible to do nowadays. I hope for all of us that we are late bloomers or at least fine something satisfactory that we can call success because am running on empty, an am scared
This is exactly how I feel! 29 and trying to figure out what I want to do for my career, I’m single while nearly all my friends are married with kids. It’s a very lonely season right now. But I’m trying to pick myself up and appreciate the journey I’m on, even if it’s different that what I thought or how’s others’ turns out. Also, thank you for the reminder to rewatch Mulan.
" ...sometimes it just feels lonely. Like I was left behind , it's just me by myself within this reality'". This was very cathartic to hear. I know logically I'm not the only who feels bummed out about their life status, but it's really hard not to feel this way at times. Thanks for making this video. It was very well made and your crop on Mulan's face, chef's kiss😆😚🤌. Also, for anyone who happens to read this, even though I may not know who you are, you'll be in my prayers to help conquer this struggle❤🙏✝.
thank you, i hope i bloom before i lose energy and give up. i keep trying, and, yes, i'm young and can acknowledge that. but, all my efforts seem to not work, and it's really REALLY hard to not compare myself to people and to remember, like you said, that late bloomers still bloom. i've been feeling discouraged, applying to jobs for over a year and being un/underemployed for all that time. it's very isolating and it's funny, everyone has VERY different life experiences but very similar feelings of feeling behind. i have no idea how to find encouragement, but thank you for this video as it was at least encouraging for 6 minutes.
Thank you, Jason. This means a lot to me right now. ✌🏼😌 Been playing music since I was 16. Been woodworking since I was 17. In just the last year (I'm 31 now) I finally started recording my own record, AND building my own furniture business. Feeling like a late bloomer for sure, but I'm just stoked to be blooming! More love, mang.
I'm 48 and I decided to finish college. I'll be 50 when I start my Masters program. There is definitely grief for lost time and lost potential. But at the same time, I'm happier than I've ever been and the depth of how much this education means to me, is so much deeper than anything I could have had when I was younger. So, I guess it's a trade off of sorts. I work everyday to not let the regrets win.
I just randomly happened upon this video in my recommended... I just want to sincerely thank you for it. I needed it. "Motivational" videos don't often click with me because they don't feel connected to me and my own challenges. I wouldn't call this a simple motivational video, but a... "sympathetic motivational video", for lack of a better term. An assurance that I am not alone in these issues. It really resonated with me. Life can feel so very overwhelming, but this gave me a chance to step back and breathe. Thanks, again. This is an excellent video and I am saving it to a playlist so I can refer back to it in the future when I am struggling.
Hey, I'm a 47 year old film director that still hasn't made a feature film yet. You're not alone, late bloomers have a lot to offer society and experiencing success later in life can be a blessing too. You're more mature and better able to handle difficulties bc you know what it's like to lose, be pushed aside and underestimated- but you're working on something that people will one day know how you are.
I’m learning disabled,& already currently 26,& felt for the time I grown up and was still a teen to,be independent,though I May unfortunately not get everything I’ve wanted,but thank you for saying you still,”Hope”,maybe I should sometimes remember to,hold hope,maybe find good inspiration out there. :)
