I struggle with depression for a long time. My faith in God is what kept me living. Now I feel blessed like God has answered my prayers. I found someone who loves me and 3 wonderful children. I found a reason to live for.
As you, If I didn’t know God I would have, should have, could have been her. It took me 20 years to admit I suffer from anxiety and depression. I was finally exhausted from fighting with my mind. Now give me my meds like I need air to breathe. Now I enjoy everyday life. N I’m still here to live the life God intended for me to have.
This explains my life, in a way. I was so disappointed and almost ashamed that I struggled with every day life. When I finally reached out it was like I could breathe again.
Man…these are really trying times and people are not ok out here. I’ve begun to assume on some level everyone needs extra love, kindness and support. My prayers are with her family.🙏🏽🙏🏽💔
💚😰💚I appreciate your thoughtful and very caring words during this very sad and indeed devastating time for me too. I loss my adopted mom right before Christmas and have been having a severely difficult time with this loss and life.💔😥💔 The despair and deep sorrow is real it’s like a huge part of me is dead, hard horrible dark times indeed. So very sorry Cheslie...😔
Mental illness is a real medical issue. If you can't enjoy anything anymore, tell a doctor or someone who can help! Depression can damage your brain's dopamine receptors, and it's an actual illness from which most people can recover.
In the essay, written for Allure in March last year, Cheslie said that she “cringed” at the thought of turning 30. “Society has never been kind to those growing old, especially women,” she wrote. “…Turning 30 feels like a cold reminder that I’m running out of time to matter in society’s eyes - and it’s infuriating.”
I wonder what was infuriating?? Maybe that she didn't have a man and family. I read she had a lot of pressure from her family about her profession b she talked about racism in her attorney job. So sad. I feel this sadness myself!!
Yes, it's a mystery why such an accomplished person would care so much how she looks in "society's eyes." It appears that far from being strong, she has a serious inferiority complex. I have a sister who is the same way. Very successful university professor, having written about 10 books, yet extraordinarily sensitive about her accomplishments and what others think of her. So sad.
@@truthseeker5941 Sooo sad!@!!! I could be wrong, but seeing photos of her mother next to her, I feel like her mother could be a bit jealous of her!! Her mother is no where near as classically attractive as Jasmine and dark skinned. I think she was living or trying to live through Jasmine. So sad she couldn't have just been accepted for who she was and what she wanted to do in life!
i attempt to commit suicide last 2021 by over dosing on medications and i went to the hospital to seek help from a counselor and it help me get through in life
Glad you are okay and made it through. Stay strong and it will continue to be okay on the inside of you, even if the outside still looks bleak. It is all about a mindset and the stories we tell ourselves. Be blessed.
It's devastating that this smart, successful woman felt she couldn't reach out for help. It's deeply tragic. Why did she feel suicide was the only way to end her pain? I've been there, I've been extremely suicidal, had lost everything and the people around me hadn't been great to me but they came through when it really mattered. I'm at a loss as to what we need to do to encourage people to reach out. Please, please reach out. Lean on somebody. Call a hotline. Talk to your doctor. The pain feels unbearable and never-ending but it gets better, a lot better.
Ms Ms I understand..and again, it doesn't have to be depression..you jump out of the blue??!! If that is depression,..she was a mad person wearing pretty clothes...this is so sad and frightening well, I don't want to understand it..that a different evil under the sun..wow
@@nigenlewin-brown849 yeah for sure, it's very sad. She was in a really dark place and couldn't get out. Life had lost all meaning. The signs were probably there, but she was trying to hide it and people are often bad at picking up those signs.
I think he meant it in the sense that stunning can mean "astonish or shock (someone) so that they are temporarily unable to react" as a verb rather than an adjective (So he used the meaning of the verb as an adjective) "The community was stunned by tne tragedy." (when it's used as a verb) Maybe shocking would have been the better word to use? I don't think he meant it in the usual sense of stunning = "extremely impressive or attractive" But I agree, I think there could have been a better word..but the intention though to convey that this was very unexpected was there 🤍 *all definitions from Oxford Languages
The second your employer knows you've asked for help, you've just given them ammo to dismiss you or start discounting your career. The "stigma" will exist until healthcare is a right.
Depression - it is not about what you have. It is not about the attention you may have. It is not about anyone else than the person who is suffering. And the stigma is while we have expectations on people - or think ' you have it good - what's your problem' ... it is silent to others but it shouts at you from the inside. There is so much dialogue but people DO shy away from asking and supporting. I am one of those people who have had to navigate somehow with a mask on during the day and total despair and exhaustion when my front door closes. I have a few times told a friend or family member and to be honest, they just in my case have sidestepped it. I love animals because they will just love you - but they also give me a reason to live. I have to say animals and music are my only reasons to live.
"And the stigma is while we have expectations on people - or think ' you have it good - what's your problem' ...". This is so right. Even when reporting Cheslie's suicide, they keep mentioning her beauty, law, and TV career, bubbliness, pageant win.....So most likely if she opened to friends/colleagues or even family members, they would just ignore her depression/emotional/mental struggles. Because they already had this notion that she had everything and she couldn't possibly have any problems
They are certain it is. She left a note for her mom, leaving her belongings to her. She also posted a final Instagram post two days ago, and it said "May this day bring you love and peace".
@@Maya-vs7mv God Bless her soul. May God give her loved ones the strength and healing to get through this very sad time. I don't know what caused her so much pain but I hope and pray that she can RIP in Heaven. She will be a beautiful Angel. Love and prayers to her mother and other loved ones. I have to say it surprised me that she would choose that particular way in which to take her life.
It is now December 2022 and as far as I know, still no final report, toxicology, etc. I still feel that something is amiss and hope the case still open...
When something like this happens, the pressure is real and you have a lot of expectations. They can’t do everything people ask for, they don’t do this for life, they have a life of their own. They can’t be Superman and do everything, they’re only human. Let them be and let them live their life. May Cheslie Rest In Peace. The stigma continues. Do something, for god sake, before it’s too late and you lose them! It’ll be a burden on you forever.
It just shows it doesn’t matter how much money you have or how good you look… mental illness can affect anyone. Since the pandemic started it has gotten worse for most people.
I got help ..once we lost my older brother ..though. I went to therapy and so did my only son who knew my brother ..like a kid. (He was such a great caring uncle. ) But ..Dave was ill physically. Lung cancer is scary. He smoked too much and drank too many beers. We always knew ..that he was loaded with too many ..chemicals. (Today, we are struggling with a pandemic. Times are not easy for anyone.) ❤️🇺🇸Reach out. Don’t forget. I tried for several years ..and I couldn’t reach my own brother ..mentally. He was so gifted. Yup!
Many times people will ask "How are you?" but it's often a throw-away question, meaning they don't actually want the whole, truthful answer. For a time I could only answer "I'm getting through it" because I couldn't answer that I was fine &/or I knew they didn't want to hear the real answer. Then you sink even deeper into that dark place where you feel all alone. At least that's what it was like for me. Eventually I did in fact "get through it" because (to me) that's all you can really do. You will get through it! Just don't give up. Peace & wellness.
Hello, good morning, good bye, and thank you and polite colocialisms and common courtesy doesnt mean people arent interested in your state etc, its just a first step to connect and bridge a gap.
Seeing Cheslie's story gives me less hope. My life in many aspects is extremely worse off in comparison (in terms of success). I'm 30, not married, no kids, no car, no college degree, no insurance, no career, feel hopless, black sheep of my family, ect. With that said, somehow I haven't made the same decision as Cheslie and so many other burdened souls (not yet at least, why? IDK). BTW sidenote: I'm just a normal guy, writing this down seems to be a form a therapy for me. If you actually new me, or met me even once I highly doubt you would suspect I have such morbid thoughts. Everything is about perspective, its really hard to put yoirself into others shoes yet we must. I suppose money/fame/success don't ultimately bring hapiness. I FEEL that if i were to earn/gain a large or even moderate amount of money (lets say $250,000) my life would IMMEDIATELY be better and that I woukd no longer feel as I do: Sunken, depressed, alone, hopless, left out, lost, forgotten, embarrased, ashame,...however, I suspect Id have the same problems, even with the things I think I'm missing.
This is beyond devastating. Someone who had accomplished so much in life at the young age of 30. And very beautiful and seemed very happy. You never know what Someone is personally going through. RIP Cheslie 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🕊🕊🕊
Very well said. Outwardly, she seemed to have it all, but we don’t know the internal struggles she had the caused her to take her own life. I think suicide is far more complex than just a result of depression.
What I find odd is the way in which she allegedly killed herself- Jumping from a building...That's not a top choice for women, ESPECIALLY black women...So...I hope there is a clear investigation
I don't think it's got a thing to do with race,if you are going to take your life you don't exactly think well because of my race I can't do it this way
There's alot of pain behind half the smiles you see everyday. One simple compliment, saying hi, or just letting a person "vent" can make the difference!💕
Sadly we also lost the voice of Charlie Brown last week to suicide. So what the news casters are saying is true.Be mindful of the ones around you.Keep in mind also that another major sign that a person has made a decision to hurt themselves is that they suddenly have a sense of peace and composure that is sudden and unexpected.It seems like they have overcome the worst but this is only because they have decided on a course of action they think will solve thier problems and they feel relieved like the weight of the world has been removed from thier shoulders.
I myself have tried to commit suicide and have been suicidal and only once did I tell someone and it was after I took a bunch of pills. Once after a psychiatrist visit, I didn't even tell my therapist and went home and made another attempt but was found by my husband and taken to the hospital on time. We seldom say we feel this way, we usually say everything is fine when it isn't. If you think someone you know or love is a bit off and they say they are not, please stay by their side for as long as you can and get them to do something different and have an activity together so they can distract their brain from those thoughts. because those thoughts do go away if you can distract yourself from them at the moment.
Sometimes, a person has a tendency to pretend and to hide what he or she truly feels inside, while showing the entire world the other side and make them think that you're truly strong and amazing. But the truth is, you're tearing apart and breaking down until the truth will push you to the limit and, even take your own life. You have to really validate what you truly feels and what you're going through. So sad.😩
I don't think this is a story of stigma surrounding mental health. She was breaking all the stigmas, that's what she was about, and spoke much about importance of mental health. I think this should be a good time to start talking about overachieving as a possible symptom of deeper issues. It is so celebrated in our culture, and is without the doubt fascinating, but it can be a covert sign of compensating - trying to fix some things missing internally and low self-worth with outward achievements and admiration from others. And unfortunately no success is ever enough to make you see your own life through the eyes of others. The worst thing is that in such case you never even question a successful person's mental health, because how can they have any issues when they're doing so well. People who have it all can't be suicidal. And as we saw, it's not the case, that's what makes it so shocking. RIP.
Petra, you said that so well and hit the nail on the head. And when they achieve all of this (which I believe the pressure to succeed is implanted in childhood) they realize they are not fixed and still unhappy. She even said the accolades and success didn't make her happy. People think being rich, beautiful, smart, and successful is what life is all about they don't look at THE SPIRIT of life and a person. Also, it is reported she was very religious (again from childhood, no doubt) but struggling with her sexuality. That is the truth of the matter. She had spiritual and self-esteem issues and she was sensitive and depressed.
How do we know she did this? Why isn’t more information being provided ? What if it was a homicide? Were there any eyewitnesses, any camera evidence showing she was the only one on the terrace, any forensic evidence at all to prove suicide and not homicide or accident?
It is now December 2022 and I'm begging to have my doubts based on a very thorough analysis... Almost a year now, and as far as I know, no final report, toxicology, etc. So, I'm hoping the case still open. Plus, we have a lazy, stupid corporate media that fails to do follow-ups, etc.
I find it appalling that they did not see any ethical problem whatsoever in promoting Ashton's book in a segment supposedly about the death of that poor young woman. Simply unconscionable.
Denise Washington, I was thinking the same thing. This should be fully investigated to find out if it was really suicide. Not to say that it wasn't, because mental illness is a disease that plaguing the nation at this time.
According to insider, Cheslie was having a career crisis. Many of her childhood friends and family wanted her to pursue a career in law, instead of her career as a "correspondent" for Extra - which didn't pay well. And according to our insider, the struggle with what to do with her career, "weighed heavily on her." Also, the insider claims that Cheslie was allegedly a member of the LGBTQ+ crew - and possibly a closeted lesbian. The insider claimed that Chelsea - who was deeply religious - was struggling with being open about her sexuality.
I'm not sure if that's all true there. If those things are true why didn't she get help when she needed it? Cheslie seemed happy she had accomplished so much, sometimes people hide their true emotions and we don't really know what motivated her to take her life.
When people ask how are you they're just looking for the normal response of I'm good. Let's be real. It's just common courtesy that people Greer each other that way. But they're not looking for a 3 hour response on how dark and depressed their feeling. Sometimes when people ask how are you doing they're still in motion and just another way of saying hello.
I saw a video of her, where she said these days she always tired, but that must be normal when you get to 30. Like 30 was the final opponent or something..
Everyone ALWAYS says there is help but, without universal healthcare that just is not true. People who don't have insurance or who are under insured cannot get the on going help they need.
I don't care what anybody says but MOST times when things get real, is when people are the absolute most cruelest! I've had people, if anything, use my darkest times to crush me when they had never disrespected me before BUT only once they knew about my grave situation...The hotlines usually don't even answer when you reach that point that you really need them, if on the rare occasion that they do, they give a vague response or none at all cutting the convo short, leaving a person far worse and feeling weaker than ever before. It's no wonder that people lose it. Most recently while dealing with death and other painful experiences I was shocked at the reactions I received, complete indifference and I couldn't believe that they thought I just wanted attention! Again,,,, just says so much.
@jazmine flowerz 💐 u told the absolute truth. I could say more but i certainly would not want to vent on this issue because it wouldn't do any good seeing that most if not many people could care less about me or how I feel about this topic of conversation. but people are committing suicide because people don't care enough. the world is a damn stage.
Just made my first withdrawal last week and I wasn't happy with myself because I was skeptical which made me invest so law meanwhile I'm on my second trade with her and this time I invested in a big way.
When I saw testimonies all over the place I thought it was all made up stories till I was convinced and gave it a try and honestly I don't regret the move I made because I invested in a big wav
you are depressed, PLEASE REACH OUT TO SOMEONE.. IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE WEIRD OR ANYTHING. SOMETIMES IN LIFE THINGS GET TO BE TOO MUCH.IF YOU NEED A HUG , I WILL GIVE YOU ONE . YOU ARE IMPORTANT ‼️ DON'T MAKE A PERMANENT DECISION FOR A TEMPORARY SITUATION.... please reach out ❤️💕❣️
Suicide is a common situation. You never know ..what exactly a family member is thinking. Then ..you get a call. (My late father called me then. ) We had just lost my older brother from his own gun shot. Yup. He had terminal lung cancer. Yup!
This is devastating, I pray her soul heals with God 🙁 I wish I knew she existed, I would have loved to be there for her. Please, always be thankful, kind, considerate, and loving to each other through God. ✝️
She had so much going for her and maybe she thought she has to give more of herself and just tired .She was a beautiful woman accomplished alot .I get depressed at times try to talk to my sister to be shut down she doesn't want to hear it but she has time for her friends.I can't even visit her home because of the corona virus but others can and she goes to Resturants with her family and be among people who she doesn't know.We need people in our lives but it seems as though the Virus has changed everything and maybe she felt what she once had no longer existed .May she rest in peace .
I am in retail and have issues when it comes to the ? "How are you" For 1 it's the most annoying reponse for a person to say. I'm in South Carolina it's over-said in public. Also want to note "How are you" is an incomplete sentence. Now people will comment why, are you not kind or care for others? That's not my point and I assure you that's nothing going down that road. I'm even beside a register and hear the cashier: How are you- Customer reponse: How are you and then the Cashier says it again How are you- it's like come on- say something else.
People bullied this woman telling her she wasnt pretty enough to be miss usa and that she had a man body. THIS WORLD IS CRUEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope she is at peace now 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
This is crazy she is beautiful, smart , a great career she seems had it all, you never know what s going on behind the scene hmmm so sad 😭 my condolences to her family🙏🏽
I am so sorry for the loss of such a beautiful soul. I send love and prayers to her family and friends and to anyone out there that is struggling. Please know you are not alone. I pray for anyone suffering from any pain. ❤️🩹
Sorry but I disagree with this doctor. Forcing someone to get mental help can be incredibly detrimental and may actually make them want to self harm more
I agree. All you can do when friends or loved ones are having mental health challenges is let them know you love them and are there for them. They have to make the decision to seek help on their own. Trying to force them to seek help just adds to their issues.
Amen, and I hope she is in Heaven, I know suicide is bad and a sin, and I hate when people say that if one commits suicide, that they would go to hell. Jesus deed for all of us, so I believe she is in Heaven.
These conversations seem so pointless to me because in my experience all the sudden it’s really cool to pay attention to somebody else’s mental health but as a whole people just don’t you have somebody close to you that is having a huge mental health struggles nine times out of 10 all your friends leave and all your family leaves. Too much for others to handle. If it’s not easy for them or no one is there to give them “props” for caring. Very selfish world we live in. Nobody has that kind of time. This is MY experience and observation. You know when you’re a burden.
What a complete and utter waste! This could NOT have been a “Surprise”. Someone close to her must have known. I am not blaming them, just saying that pat statement that there were no signs is said every time this happens.
I felt that when she said “we literally could not win” i felt this emotion today before seeing this and i feel emotional but i will never give up on myself. Fuck this life and fuck these decepticons.
I pray that her soul, her families hearts recover from grief and loss in Jesus name, may their hearts be at peace, and may God help them through these tough times 🙁 I pray peace, protection, love, good health, and the gift of the Holy Spirit to each of these family members.
I was there so depressed I couldn't sleep. I wanted to go I felt hopeless 😩. The only way I came out of it was I had people praying and fasting for me. I was so ill I couldn't eat or dress myself or even get outer bed my whole body ache. I pray God show her mercy please Lord give her mercy. 🙏
