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Read some history. This movie was made in 1993, and released in 1994. This is just 14 years into the AIDS Epidemic. I am gay. I am 56. It was, despite your woke PC BS, common parlance to refer to a gay man's lover as a "friend" or "lifetime companion". Rather than use this video as an opportunity for activism, you could comment on the fact that this man has just lost his soulmate. I have lost people I have loved. It destroys every part of your faith in living and loving. I think your comment is repugnant virtue signaling.
I had the pastor read this poem at my husbands funeral. This was one of our favorite movies and we had agreed to read this at whoever's funeral, never thought I would be keeping that promise so soon.
I too had to organise my husbands funeral last year. We both requested the same music in a conversation years ago. He then said I'm going first I'm claiming it. Thinking of you and hope you are getting through this totally shit time as best you can. Xx
Is it strange that this is my favourite scene in the whole film? For, despite the solemnity, it shows love in the most sincere and heartfelt, not to mention heartbreaking, way. Exceptional writing by the screenwriters, great direction, and such a brilliant performance by John Hannah. For all the jokes about love that are well displayed throughout the comedy, this shows love in a real and simple way, if sad. I absolutely love the chosen poem. The line "...My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song" is beautiful.
Alana - not at all strange! As mentioned in the scene afterwards, they were for all intents and purposes the married couple, “traitors in our midst”. 💕
'Tis mine as well. Auden, read with any deftness, seizes moments of your life and makes them memorable - infinitely memorable, and in this film this couple's love was pure and fine. "Replete,"as he says. It broke my heart then and has never left me. ♥️
Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone, Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone, Silence the pianos and with muffled drum Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come. Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead Scribbling on the sky the message ‘He is Dead’. Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves, Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves. He was my North, my South, my East and West, My working week and my Sunday rest, My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song; I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong. The stars are not wanted now; put out every one, Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun, Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood; For nothing now can ever come to any good.
And why is it that I've felt the need to memorize only a few poems in my life, but this is one of them? This poem cuts to the heart of life itself. And demonstrates both the beauty and the sadness of our existence.
There’s a lot of details about this scene that I love - the slightly bare almost spartan church makes you feel the chill of the day. Then the very prosaic industrial landscape outside when they’re loading the coffin into the hearse. It’s as though all the extravagance and colour of Gareths life has died with him and all that’s left is gritty reality.
Me too, every single bloody time. Such a raw and emotional speech. I went to my great aunts funeral the other day and I noticed on the order of service it was the same poem and we had a little laugh about it because we said "It's the one from four weddings and a funeral!" which I said was great because it is a beautiful poem. But my dad was saying yes it is, but hopefully they won't talk about her being remembered as fat and rude haha, one of those silly moments that makes you want to laugh and cry at the same time 😢 😬 stay safe everyone
We bury my Father tomorrow. This poem brings me some comfort. When someone you love dies, you can't understand why the rest of the world keeps going. You want everything, everyone to just stop & acknowledge your loved one's life. I'm no longer afraid to die. I wish for my soul, my spirit, to find his as soon as I pass. My heart is forever broken. I'm just so completely devastated & numb.
Lindsey, I hope the funeral for your father was an apt celebration of his life. The pain of a loved one's death is devastating, and the reality is, those unaffected go back to "real" life very quickly whilst you are left there wondering how life can go on at all. Give yourself time to grieve. The pain will become less overwhelming with time, but the grief will come and go in waves and will help you appreciate those around you all the more.
I'm so sorry about your father, I'm glad this brings you some comfort. I know, loss is like that no matter who the person was or how important they were to you. Stay safe ❤
@@sunburycelebrantcatherinem6451 the most intelligent and true comment I’ve ever read on RU-vid. My mam died suddenly and young. I was angry at her,angry at myself and angry at the world. I felt my whole heart and life had been ripped away from me (I was 14) the pain was unbearable but in time (years) the pain lessened and now I smile at thoughts of me mam. Thank you for your caring but sensible advice ❤️🏳️🌈🇮🇪
Take care yourself God bless you,it’s a powerful piece or poetry poignant as it was in 1935 ,life that go on but way can’t you see the pain I am in?..I know its an old Cliche..”time is a a great healer ..some day ….take care yourself always..I am sorry for your loss.
Hannah's performance is exquisite. It must have been a surreal experience shooting that scene with so many actors assembled and channelling the same emotions. I wonder what it was like on set afterwards.
I am a poet. The first time I heard this poem recited was in college. It was in an English literature class. The teacher requested each student to bring in a poem that helped them, or inspired them. One woman, not more than 20, brought in this poem, and said it helped her after her father's death. Everyone in the class was crying by the end of it. I thought: Wow. If I can write even one poem that will comfort someone in their time of grief, I will be successful.
Norma - share your loss & totally agree ...when I lost my mother in 2001 I read it at eulogy & when my sweetheart passed in 2020 I again read it at her Service. This will be read in eulogies 100 plus years from now !🧡💚🧡
I did so as well. Lost my Mum in April 2022 after a brief battle with Cancer. I was there in her Hospital room with my Dad, both of us holding her hands. I never thought I could feel such grief. Nothing now can ever come to any good.
@@victoriahenley6284 o yes, Victoria. This is the most powerful bereavement poem for me. It was the moment I always dreaded and when it happened and I couldn't put it into words, this poem did.
It's a breathtaking moment because suddenly, by reciting this magnificiant poem in his eulogy Matthew exposed his true feelings and the true nature of his relationship to Gareth whom everybody thought of as an eternal cynical bachelor. It's done in a subtle, moving and such elegant manner... It gives me chills every time i see it. Definitely my favourite scene of the movie.
This poem perfectly captures the hole that's left in our hearts after someone dies and no one has ever recited it better than John Hannah. Every time I lose someone close to me, I watch this scene. 😭
The look of the mother at 1:15 is exactly the look a mother would give when hearing such stories. Great acting just in that one shot. One, if not the, best scenes in the movie.
I felt loved like this once...Have watched this scene a dozen times in the 23 years since she died. My heart cries every time when I think that we couldn't watch our grandchildren together.
Love is universal.. this tells everything about a loss not matter who you are and who you love... How can anyone shame love after this speech, even if you don't undertand it ?
This is definitely the best eulogy in the history of film and in my life experience. Kudos to the writers. This film is definitely one of my favorites.
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Gareth was my favorite character. This scene devastated me. Still does. WHAuden...splendid bugger indeed
I keep thinking of this actor, John Hannah, who has undoubtedly moved on from the movie from nearly 3 decades ago (1994!), but who I can imagine has total strangers burst into tears upon even seeing him in a restaurant. I might be one of those people myself, that scene has moved me so deeply.
Mixing happiness and sadness, joy and pain, jokes and serious matters, all trivial things which make our life ordinary, fantastic, priceless; that's what this movie - and especially this part of its - reminds me: DO NOT WASTE ANY SINGLE MINUTE OF YOUR LIFE.
One of my favorite films during my tenure as a cinema manager. Reminds me of a friend with whom I used to work who passed away suddenly a few years back. Back then, he resembled Hugh a bit. Odd the things that stick with you. Phenomenal performance here by John Hannah.
Love this. Always have always will. I love how when the vicar says he would speak a child is heard saying No. To me that is Gareth from the great beyond saying don't make such a fuss over me.
It's so sad that he referred to Matthew as Gareth's "friend"... so glad we've at least come far enough that Gareth and Matthew could have been married, or if they chose not to marry, them acknowledged as they should be
And....so it goes. Although we'd have celebrated our 36th year as a couple...and just 6 weeks after we were finally married, my one true love, best friend, lover & husband died peacefully in his sleep four weeks ago. "He was my noon, my midnight, my talk, my song. I thought love would last forever....I was wrong...." but here is where I draw the distinction between the words of W.H. Auden & myself, I believe that love never dies.
My cousin / godmother passed away last month from a heart attack. It was only after she died that I found out she was gay. Her family is still reluctant to acknowledge it publicly. I died inside every time the priest referred to her girlfriend as her "good friend".
The stars are not wanted now, put out every one. Pack up the moon and dismantle the Sun. Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood, for nothing there can ever come to any good.
The only thing who brings me any comfort, is that there is not purpose of such a loss. Thus no injustice because life is not injust it just is.. I could not bear if such as thing as fate or a God was involved, because that would simply be devasting.. who deserves this... NO ONE.
Weddings are fun, but funerals matter more to me nowadays because marriage can be undone (obviously by divorce) while memories of a late person you cared about should never get erased from your mind!
What makes this the best romcom is the script. You can tell the writers had a blast and the studio didn't interfere. "Notting Hill" is commercial fare compared to this masterpiece.
When I first watched the film in 1994, it didn't occur to me that Matthew and Gareth were a couple. Guess back then gay relationships had to be portrayed more implicitly and discreetly.
I just watched this all the way through for the first time. Was I just oblivious? Were we supposed to know that they were more than just friends before this scene?
