That bit about coming out really got to me, because I was so sure I wouldn't be accepted that I didn't come out until I 1) graduated and moved away, and 2) I'd washed my hands of almost every single friend I knew online. Deleted/stopped using profiles, purged journals, changed usernames everywhere or made new accounts if I used the site too much. During various intervals after coming out, people I'd cut myself off from slowly seeped back into my life [some of them even went looking for me which I did not expect] but every single one of them had been perfectly happy with me being trans. Makes me wonder about the people I cut off that I never got back in touch with.
I’ve always felt that way too! Like No I’m not a lesbian and I don it relate to that. Actually as soon as someone sees me that way I’m no longer attracted to that girl. I want to be her boyfriend. Bc I’m a boy and I like girls. The body is limited. Chive on trans kin love u all.
I totally heard everything u said.......idk if it's cuz i just finished an episode of Once Upon A Time.........but is it me or does your voice and the way u pause, chuckle, your hand motion and etc that you u remind me of Rumplestiltskin?!
Have you or anyone you know experienced side effects of T on their partner? I'm 3 months on T by way of shots and my gf feels that it's effecting her having more acne and facial hair. I think she is paranoid. Thoughts on this anyone?
ThatGuyBransen hey man, i used to use T in gel and cream form, and they always warn you that it can rub off on your partner and cause facial hair growth, etc. My first partner and I did notice she was having more hair growth, so I had to change my routine with the cream. If you're injecting it, I don't see why it would affect her, but I could be totally wrong.
Wow, interesting insights on privilege. I'm currently a PhD student, and early in my MTF transition. Already noticing how people relate to me completely differently as I present more and more feminine as a scholar. This is something that's not really palpable until it begins happening.
My counselor is MTF and she’s incredible. She’s super human. MTF’s are amazing. I’m FTM and not familiar with the life of MTF as much but damn she’s opening my eyes to the beauty. She was an air craft mechanic in the army and now supporting and helping through WPATH and counseling trans folk like a boss. I love it. Magical. You’ll do wonders woman :)
@@charlesasher how do you get random boners? you do not have a penis, and you are just a woman on testosterone? an enlarged clit, or phalloplasty is not even remotely close to having an actual penis . Being an actual man or a woman, one can only experience or know what it is truly like if one is born that way, born that sex,. it is like describing the color red to a person born blind, nothing one can do , one can take, one can try and mimic etc.. can give one that experience. Female bodybuilders are on more testosterone than FTM people and generally have more Testosterone coursing through their veins than born males, YET they can not know what it is like to be a real male , and are NOT a man , and they can not identify as male simply because of testosterone levels, or how they mentally feel /desire/self-identify as.. So sorry but you truly have no idea what you are talking about, that is the reality of the situation, some things one has to be born as to experience or be defined as. transition is not possible.
this is still my favourite transition video. your personality is so beautiful and you seem so confident in yourself and it's wonderful to watch. i hope i can have that some day.
Dude going through puberty as a guy is fucking insane. The sex drive is over the charts. After puberty, it isn't that bad, but until you get kids and stuff, the sex drove takes over a lot 😂
I've been researching a bunch of FTM videos on here. There's a lot of great channels but they're all sooo much younger than me. I'm so glad I came across this video. It's great to see a different perspective. Thanks!
I was in this relationship with a guy for about five years starting in my late teens, and he used to get so distracted by his sex drive that often he'd tell me he had to jerk off or have me get him off before he could focus on his homework or doing something with me. And I used to get so angry and resentful about it, because for me it was so easy to turn that switch on and off and direct my mind where I needed it. I figured since he couldn't it must mean the most important thing to him was sex above everything else. I saw him a few days ago and apologized about it because now I totally get it. You're right that it's really amazing to have had these two different perspectives and to be able to bridge this gap between the experiences of men and women.
I'm so glad you mentioned male privelege. I'm ftm and have been passing as male for over a year and it's astounding how you're suddenly in this boy's club where dudes say "what's up man" and like you said women are much nicer to men than to other women... when people ask about transition they want to know about physical changes when privelege is what I really want to talk about. I've found it's a difficult subject for cis people because they have no idea how prevalent male privelege is. When I give examples like yours, much of the time they want to dismiss it.
+Logan McGuire I hear you, man. Transition is a relatively similar physical process for us all, but the social stuff is what is most difficult. I find cis people often dismissing it, too.
You know especially with you being on T for so long and your attitude to everything, you've made me feel so much less anxious about testosterone therapy. I honestly truly hope I can be a chill dude like you are one day. You're awesome
I feel very guilty and ashamed and embarrassed of being transgender, not to myself, but to other people because I live in a place where people don't seem to be very open minded. It's a very very small town and everyone knows everyone else and I've just turned into a complete recluse because of it. I usually only leave the house to go to work 10 hours a week
+Kaid Thief i'm sorry to hear you are having such a rough time. i grew up in a small town so i know how difficult that can be. some small towns can be surprisingly accepting, even if religious. do you feel like your safety would be compromised if you were to get out more? if so, don't risk it. if not, maybe try to get out for an hour or two each week, even if it is only to take a little walk around your neighborhood. or could you drive somewhere and go for a hike? that way you could get out of the house but still be alone/not have to deal with ignorant people.
As apothi/asexual I have no sex drive and I am also disgusted by the very thought of me having sex with someone, so when I get around to starting testosterone I really hope that won't change D: (Also, do you grow taller with testosterone? I'm 5'3 (doing exercises to help my height) and I would definitely like to be at least 5'7)
+YouJustGotAnimated If you've already gone through female puberty, your height won't change :( Bones don't change that much on T; they're pretty much set.
+YouJustGotAnimated if you are asexual, that probably won't change, but i really have no idea. my sexuality has changed quite a bit, so who knows? there is a chance you could grow on T, but it depends on your age and if your bones have fused yet. i've never heard of anyone growing more than an inch or so, so i doubt you'd get anywhere close to 4 inches. i hear of feet growing more often than i do height.
I dont think the sex drive thing will be a problem for me personally because I'm completely asexual (and just have no sex drive in general) but I'm not completely certain. Btw, you're awesome :D
When would you say is the cut off point for when can you expect new changes (if that makes sense)? I've been on T for 1.5 years now, and I feel like my confidence has just been plummeting because it feels like things have just stopped, y'know?
Yeah, I feel you on the confidence plummeting due to (what we perceive) as lack of changes. I remember feeling like I plateau'd around 7-8 months on T, and that was really frustrating. I'm sorry you're going through that right now, man. As far as a cut off point that is hard to say, but I'd say the majority of the changes happen in the first 3-5 years. The first two years are the most physically dramatic because you are obviously changing your entire appearance, but I noticed more subtle changes in the years beyond that. After all, people assigned male at birth don't go through puberty in only a year, it takes them several years to fully masculinize.
How long do you have to be on Testosterone?! I'm FTM in High school, end of Junior year beginning Senior, and I'm planning to really try starting my life the way I want too when I go to college, and so far Tue longest I've heard of a FTM staying on T has been 5 or 6 years? So, do you have to stay on it for the rest of your life in order to permanently become a man (physically), or was doing it for so long just your preference?
+Bam Moo I'll be on it for the rest of my life, as will most FTMs. Everyone is different though, and some people choose to go off T for all kinds of reasons, but one does not usually stop after 5 or 6 years.
So. You've been on T for a very long time. I am about to possibly start, but I am terrified of cancer, and I am not fond of surgery. Do I need to get a hysto? Is cancer a very real thing to be worried about or no?
+skateonsnow21 hey man, like timothy said, you can get cancer for all sorts of reasons, but the organs do atrophy (mine were already atrophied in 2008, just 3 years on T) and the organs carry a more cancerous risk. i ended up getting my hysto in February because my endometrial lining was pre-cancerous. the surgery really wasn't that bad, but i totally understand not being fond of medical procedures.
10 yrs is not much.try 50 yrs then talk about life! this is me at 75 yrs.old. I have had the same partner for 45 yrs. we have 2 sons,1 daughter,2 grand kids. life as a man has been a great life!! I have been on depo t cyponate 1cc per mo.100ml for yrs and then another dr changed it to 200ml now I talk like a bass singer. I have lost some hair in the front. ill be 79yrs YOUNG next month and my body is getting old age pains LOL.WELL JUST SAYING LIFE IS GOOD !!!PS getting my t is starting to get a little harder to get as I am out living my DRS.
Sex Drive = Testosterone !!! That's it bro !! I'm born men and yes all my fucking life i'm in sex drive, sex, sex, sex lolll and sex !!! Ha Ha This is T. You know what ?? Sex lolll xD
+HartTHROB yep. it was so weird for me at first, because i had only been sexually attracted to women since a young age. it's very common for sexuality to change after starting HRT; hormones are a powerful thing! however, i never completely lost my attraction to women, and this video was made before i had my hysterectomy, and since i had my hysto in february, i have def "straightened out" quite a bit. it's very interesting how much hormones affect the brain.
Thanks for the information and insight. I'm about to start T, actually in 2 days. My personal rollercoaster should be interesting, hopefully not derailing.
I'm pansexual and i think that fits you as well pansexual is basicly being genderblind you like the person for the person. I am an FtM from Houston tx and I'm so scared
Great video. Like I said before I am not trans but, I have 3 people that I know that are. I love them enough to want to try and understand even though I know I can't. Learning terms, new names etc helps. They I love no matter what. I enjoy the information. Just so you know you never look at your brother's or father for blading. You look at your mother's, brother's. I know doesn't help you much but it might help other FtM trans.
wow the sex drive thing is really interesting. though I'm a very sex obsessed girl so being 5 times more sexual than I am seems so ludicrous and inconvenient I wouldn't know what to do.
"it can take over your life" phew. for about a week or two I legit wasted so much time addressing libido changes. it was embarrassing lol. but yes, balance!!
About the lady behind the counter, I think we simply tend to be kinder to the other sex, and unkind to the same sex. Random female strangers would snap at me for no good reason .. post-transition (mtf), mirroring what you observed, but men are definitely friendlier now :)
I would tend to agree with that on some levels, but certainly not all. There is definitely an aspect of privilege to it. It does not surprise me men are more friendly to you now - you are a woman. ;o) MTF and FTM transitions aren't simply mirrored experiences - especially socially.
I know why you are asking, and I'm still not sure. My initial inclination was to say no, it won't, but at the same time, I've seen many lesbians become gay men once they start T, so there are shifts in sexuality.
