Very true. At least from what it looks like at the end, the mom is reflecting somewhat. Although a part of me is wondering if that is just for show. And if it is then maybe she'll actually start healing with help of the therapist- if she's actually seeing one.
@eliashuapilla The mom is still an idiot. It's good that she repented. BUT! She can't take back the thousands of words that she said to hurt OP. She's only sorry after she lost everything. That "everything" is her daughter, OP.
If the brother gets in a serious relationship, the sister will come up. The girlfriend will want to meet the mother and the sister will be brought up. The girlfriend will want to meet the sister too. That will be awkward. She will not praise him.
I hope so, too. He should feel his words coming back to bite him Because remember, he didn't like that OP quit her life to help him. So, if you ever ask OP for any kind of assistance, then he is confessing he is a weak man. But that should also mean he shouldn't ask anyone for help. Which he already failed because he has a girlfriend and he graduated from school. All of which results in the brother gaining assistance for.
Also brother was a baby but their parents took them to get icecream when they got good grades? Man dunno where OP's from but if a baby is graded they really take education seriously 🤣
that is true i am actually in a point in my life where i cant find myself useful, i am close to failing most of my classes, i almost got suspened, i feel like i am just here. I dont know what to do with my life. I lie alot and have a bad sense of humor. i would love to hear techniques to help myself to become a better person emotionally.
So what has this family ever done for each other? OP essentially lost out on life taking care of ailing, mother and younger brother. And got no appreciation for it. Sure no one asked her to do it, but she felt it was her duty to do so because they were her family. And this is how she is thanked? A mother, who basically tells her that she’s made nothing of herself and shouldn’t ruin her brothers moment and a brother who basically turned into an entitled jerk because he “will make something of himself” which is an opportunity he would not have without OP having sacrifice a few years of her life for it. OP is better off without them. She’s right that her mom should look into Home health aides because since her daughter “ does nothing” she should be left in the hands of someone who actually is of that profession to take care of her. But since the mom didn’t think that OP would actually leave, now that she’s seeing that she heavily screwed up by saying those words, she’s realizing that her words have consequences. OP is best just going no contact with both her mom and brother because she doesn’t deserve any of this. They can survive without her.
I suspect that Aunt Rachel is doing the "Well, Mom said this, and here's what REALLY happened." I also suspect that Mom started going to therapy as an excuse to say "Come back, I'm fixing myself", and is horribly discovering that she actually DOES have issues! Kinda hope that OP never hears from her brother ever again, though. Nasty piece of ... work.
My dad is just like this! He yelled at me for not obeying my mom. But then when I was helping my mom with an important house chore, he comes in yelling at me on why I wasn't coming to help him with a simple stupid task like putting a box in the garage.
Tom is in for a rude awakening when all the plans he made don’t go accordingly. He’s not going to have ANYONE to fall back on because he chose to be a POS and hurt the only person who truly supported him.
mom and brother are both ungrateful for all OP has done for them 19:34 wait didn't Tom already graduate and wasn't he already already planning on moving for his job three months BEFORE this update?
Don't worry this is ai made, look at other posts pointing it out, her father died when she was 5 but he gave her a watch for her 16th birthday? Did he raise from the grave just for that?
I'm actually surprised the mom didn't apologize only saying I realized that I was taking advantage of you. SMH that's pretty shitty tbh. The daughter put school, life, relationship/marriage and kids on hold for these selfish ass ppl. I'd legit would be fuming. Like NC without a genuine apology.
Even if she genuinely apologized, it won't do much. The egg donor made OP feel like a slave. She only repented after saying disgusting words to OP and finding herself more alone months after she pushed OP away. The moment the egg donor made the mental decision to demand OP to leave was when she revoked her title as OP's mom and freed OP of taking care of her.
She was still in the process of developing her backbone with her family. So Aunt Rachel was ‘supervising’ to make sure her mom couldn’t try to gaslight or hurt her further.
Honestly I wouldn’t have even entertained OP’s mother, but given that she did, a third-party to “supervise” the meetings will stop OP’s mother from being able to lie about her to family and friends. Not a bad idea.
Yep. She should not feel embarrassed. I had a 40 year old man in my music class. He was the only adult there. But he is a d*mn great musician and composer that put on a great performance with his church choir.
As someone who cared for my parents until they passed it's very hard after, you have to find out who you are and what you want and can do you restart from scratch.
that is true i am actually in a point in my life where i cant find myself useful, i am close to failing most of my classes, i almost got suspened, i feel like i am just here. I dont know what to do with my life. I lie alot and have a bad sense of humor. i would love to hear techniques to help myself to become a better person emotionally.
Wait… your dad passed away when Tom was a baby, and you’re 5 years older than him. So how could your dad have taken you out for ice cream when you got good grades, or give you a watch on your 16th birthday? Btw, I know that OP would have been in kindergarten, but in kinder you get smiley faces, not grades (teacher here. I know)
My empathy level for this story is very low. All I'm thinking about is, that it's good that she didn't become a therapist, since they're supposed to be mentally strong even when it comes to their own family
Actually I find a therapist that has gone through family trauma and overcame it a better therapist. They can guide your way through because they understand the heartache. Someone that understands the pain, and oftentimes the people that went through the hard times wanna help people through because that person knows what it's like to go through it alone. Also I find people that grew up I normal families Don understand so push the whole "but family" narrative. As someone who grew up I a similar situation, I'd rather have someone that has been through it themselves or at least something similar so I can understand how to heal
It's better she learned through experience. Like a former co worker (who I worked with) who has never been in a healthy relationship (always lived with parents) and not married, studying to be a marriage counselor. 🙄
@@samalvarez8776 totally get you and agree with you. In this case I'm only talking about op. 9 years really? As an therapist you still need some natural analytic senses. I'm sure the way ops mum and brother talk to her don't just come out of nowhere, even if it wasn't as direct as calling her a loser. Also if nothing would've happened to her mum, all op would've had as knowledge about mental health, would mostly come from books and not real experience, except the grief of her father. She still would've been vulnerable to be a sucker for her mother and brother, at any time. So, not mentally strong to become a therapist at that time. That was my point, hope I made sense
This is actually emotional and psychological abuse OP experienced. Yes, she made the choice to drop out of college and devote herself to her family but that in no way means her mother and brother should feel entitled. I feel so sorry for OP. If she didn’t step up, her mother would hate her and her brother would still resent her. Seems like she was dampened if she helped and damned if she didn’t. I hope OP distances herself from these toxic people and goes no contact for a while while she works on her own life. If she doesn’t, she will spend her whole like in this abusive situation.
I kinda agree with you. Because a parent must make sure they aren't too dependent on their kids. Or that'll ruin the whole definition of a parent. A child is never obligated to look after their parents even if the parents did a perfect job. If one wants their kids to care for them in the future, they must earn it. This mother showed that she never truly earned OP's loyalty. The mom may be disabled, but she can still reward OP for her sacrifice. Which is to show appreciation or offer OP any adult wisdom. All of which she DIDN'T DO for OP!
This is an AI generated story. Making wrong decisions as an adult, comes with its repercussions and consequences. Never in a million years should you make a decision of giving up education, career, or your profession. This is a very wrong decision at so many levels. If you could leave your mother after caring for 9 years, says that she was physically capable of handling her life all this time. Protagonist went from being an ambitious person to become a doormat and a slave. Learning to balance life is very important, and stop being saviors and martyrs.
Why are these auto immune diseases seemingly so common amongst American women in particular? Is it their ridiculously overprocessed foods or something else?
*Even though I know for a fact majority of these stories are fake. The characters are so cartoonishly evil & selfish its hard not to have an irrational hatred for an antagonist that doesn't exist.*
@@Polemistis0416 *Oh I get that there are pretty crappy relatives out there. I have a share of my own. But these stories are BLATANTLY fake, simple fact is they just type names & rough outlines of a story & have AI create something from scratch, but they have done it so many times that the stories overlap & have the EXACT same story beats as one another only thing that changes is the identity of the protagonist & antagonists.*
@@Polemistis0416 *Example! I have legit listened to pretty much the same story a dozen times & the AI is so bad at creating human interaction they have the same plot points EVERY TIME. Parents who neglect their child & when that child grows up & becomes a success they try & steal their fortune & right at the end, protagonist is attacked by a step-sibling, a family friend, a jilted lover or some other long lost relative, the only other thing that changes is the weapons used during the attack.*
@Stuart267 Yeah. I hate to learn when one good story is actually fake. I also tell these channels to at least try to make it appear realistic and to edit their videos better. Because I edited films before. And these channels can't do the bare minimum to make sure their videos aren't in bad quality.
For all their selfish cruelty, brother and mom were right. No one asked OP to be a White Knight Saviour. Yet another sad lesson, never set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
If she didn't, instead gotten a home health aide, continued on with life, the mom still would have said she was selfish and the brother would have said if Op would have came home to help the family, they wouldn't be suffering. Can't win for losing. At least Op knows now she can say no to both of them when they need her help again (they will). That would make a lovely sequel.
@@EBaker-bz8gx She should have taken her academic advisor's advice, gone for a temporary leave. She should have stopped bending over backwards for her brother once he graduated HS, and she definitely shouldn't have thrown away a decade of her life on these wretched people. If you can't win the game, don't play.
@DrownedInExile They should still be thankful for OP! She wasn't trying to be a superhero. There is no reason to be ungrateful towards a loving person who doesn't demand much in return.
You know what's the screwed up part about this whole entire story the fact that as much as some people may not like this but technically Mom and Tom are right because nobody asks op to drop out of college and support her family it would be one thing like if her mom ask her maybe I can understand her frustration her sadness and even being furious for keeping herself stuck in one place this whole entire time which was taking care of her mom and supporting her little brother even though nobody asked her to do that so honestly this is on op and she has nobody to blame but herself and I get it she wanted to do a good thing but that's why he only do good things when it's a dire situation
And if she didn't? Mom would have still told her she was selfish for abandoning her family for her life. Her brother would have blamed her for making him help her mother while she finished college and enjoyed her freedom. Can't win for losing. At least she knows now not to help them when they fall flat on their faces (at least her brother).
They should still be thankful because they would've struggled for a long time. And OP never demanded much in return. If the brother and mother felt this way, then they should've acted like adults and COMMUNICATED their feelings instead of hiding it for 9 years!
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