[Full Story] My (30M) Wife (31 F) doesn't appreciate my bees, I'm considering divorce? 

Story 1: Divorce her immediately. She wantonly destroyed something that she knew was important to you because something that had been a dream of yours for years was less important to her than what her work friends thought of her house. And she refuses to apologize, on top of that. No man should ever tolerate that level of disrespect from his wife. And let's talk about what is really going on here: as far as she is concerned, it is her house, and you just live there. What she was really concerned about was her friends thinking that you had any say in what goes on in her house, that is, of them thinking she did not control you completely. She is an emotionally abusive narcissist, and the sooner you divorce her and get away from her, the happier you will be. Story 2: If she's making food for him, she is definitely, at the very least, making a serious play for him. And if he is letting her do so, and badmouthing your cooking to her, then that sounds like, at the very least, an emotional affair. It certainly sounds as though they were headed toward a full-blown affair. Does that mean that a separation would help things? Maybe. Story 3: So it sounds as though you have two options: divorce and keep trying to rebuild your relationship, or divorce and don't keep trying to rebuild your relationship. Do you want to try to rebuild your relationship or not? Not sure I would.