My Husband Quit His Job As A Firefighter To Be A Stay-At-Home Dad & His Family Turned Against Us. I Revealed A Dark Family Secret At BIL's Engagement & Everything Came Crashing Down. #redditis #redditstorytime
OP has no obligation to keep her husband's family secret, especially if she and her husband are not being treated as family. Secondly, she should be happy that she saved someone from a marriage built on lies.
OP is not the A-hole. Tom deserved everything he got. The family should have shut Tom down. If I were OP nothing could make me apologize. Brittany definitely deserved to know all of this before marrying Tom. Tom can sit and spin.