Future Husband's Brother Manipulated Him To Ruin Our Wedding The Day Before. 

Agreed

agreed

Frustrating? Are you for real? Even if not stated, it shows where the story ends and also even If you don't look the moment a story end the narrator says NOW ON THE SECOND STORY, STORY TWO. So, your frustration is not a frustration at all, but a complaint. Complaining, cuz you're obviously lazy.

​@grevenistgeil270 guess you never heard of hands free mode? I throw on a video when I take short drive and, yeah, it's frustrating when you put on a 25 minute story for a 20 minute trip just to find out the story you selected the video for ends 7 minutes in. Over here gatekeeping other people's frustrations. Fool

Good point! It's always nice to have clarity on the number of stories upfront.

His brother is trying to sabotage their relationship. She never should've gotten married. Eventually she's gonna tap out. This is too much stress. Plus, the brother is crazy. She should be cautious. He seems to blame her when he doesn't get his way. He may hurt her.

Emotional incest is a fitting way to describe it. That dynamic is unsettling.

"If you need help, call 911"

@Huehue-qf1riThen he should buy it himself lol Even if they’re easy to buy, they’re important to OP health and shouldn’t be stolen.

It's not him that was stealing them. If you go back it seems like she's explaining she doesn't want her emotional support cats to be taken away from her because her family previously took her medication. I don't think he was taking her meds

​@@obtuse186no she said her meds were being taken and given to the fiance's brother as well as her family taking them in the past.

@@holyboiamethin2790 maybe I missed that but I didn't get that considering she made way more of a deal about the cats than the meds.

@@obtuse186cats are harder to replace than melatonin

I've seen a wedding where the FATHER OF THE BRIDE DIED and they didn't postpone it

Honestly though, the fiancé sounds like an over emotional twat, and she’s probably a headache to be around, those incest comments were absolutely uncalled for and unacceptable, and the fact she’s not sure that she should apologize for her outburst just goes to show she’s probably just as bad as the brother in her own way.

@@maxdoom3521 they sound like they have a emotional incestuous relationship going on. Of course she was emotional, it was her wedding day

@@leticiagraziele6428 over emotional, as in not in control of said emotions. And no, it’s not a “HuR dUr EmOtIoNaLlY iNcEsToUs” relationship, that’s literally the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.

@@maxdoom3521then you should research this my dude, it’s legit thing.

For real

I was thinking the same thing

Yeaah it does seem like it and I feel the brother would even take it to physical levels if he could

Interesting take. The brother does come off as overly possessive, for sure.

It sounds as if the brother needs psychological help. Taking away GF’s support animal and medication (even if it’s non-prescription) to give to brother sounds wild to me. It sounds more attention-seeking than incestuous, but I get why we’d think that straight off. What wasn’t clear from the OP, was whether the “manipulative” brother HAD been used to being the centre of attention and is fighting to regain that position in his family members’ lives. Now, his mom and dad broke up and now the brother is “leaving” him to get married.

Well it was a common practice so that you don't need to take blame everyone did it back then I sometimes do It even thoug I wasn't even alive during Soviet union and no one from my family ever visited there

Nigel needs to be locked up in a psyche ward.

​@@ResidentWeevil2077nah he just hasn't been weaned off the brother's teat since the day he actually needed it, then became dependent. He's addicted to his brother's validation and attention, and needs to learn to be independent.

@@darkriku12 essentially an extreme case of co-dependency.

Its like double codependency, both Nigel and OP

Maybe it was just deleted

Exactamente, pobre hombre, terminó con otra persona con problemas mentales. Ojalá algún día se de cuenta no tenga hijos y encuentre una persona equilibrada

They're a politician

Some stories aren't long enough for that sweet, sweet ad revenue.

I would guess that's why they put the warning

ad revenue is only allowed for atleast 10 minute videos and you can't expect them to make the work of editing these videos for free

​@@nyooom7481untrue, it's 8 minutes and not 10, and you can monetize videos under 8 minutes, the difference it's that It won't have ads on middle of the video, only on the start.

Yeah... I shocked she even planed to marry him with all things he done prior

Good morning

It's goodnight for me but good morning

Those disorders tend to be comorbid. As in having one makes it easier to develop the others, often because the symptoms and causes overlap. And yet she was handling everything better than either her fiance or her brother in law.

@@RavenSutcliffenot really, she was constantly crying, and generally not in control of her emotions which led to the unnecessary and unacceptable incest comments. It seemed pretty obvious to me she was just as selfish as the brother and wanted her mental problems to always be accounted for, but nobody else’s.

​​@@maxdoom3521I'd be crying too when my brother in law calls 30+ times per day for stupid things, disrupts my sleep or work time and uses every excuse in the book to ruin the most important day of my life. Or maybe the crying would be from frustration because of marrying the stupid ass husband who constantly puts the brother first to the point where he calls his own wedding off. Brother in law is an adult, he can go get his own meds and can change his own tire.

She has “every single mental disorder under the f-ing sun” but unlike her brother-in-law she manages them perfectly. Bruh, she even acts better than some mentally healthy ppl! And the incest comment honestly would be said even if she was healthy. Like tf is brother doing? He act like he is obsessed or something. Being mad and saying stupid things is normal reaction.

@@nukaix anime pfp, opinion disregarded.

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@@LordDiscordthey talking about the RU-vidr now saying when there are two or more stories because before the RU-vidr said nothing and just changed the story without telling us the viewers

@@paro4128 ah

she mentioned right before that line that FIL is very traditional. a lot of people don't consider pets family

@@Seypenni oooh. I replayed the line I mentioned so many times to get my wording correct that I completely forgot about the bit right before it lol

Because not everyone treats animals like children.

I love my dog to death but people who treat pets like they're babies or kids are mentally ill

As a German, the only people who think this are older man doing vacation where prostitutes are cheap. But most Germans see this as creepy and desperate. And I've never heard someone say that cheating on vacation is OK. Where does your insightfull knowledge of the German mind come from?

@@merlon8599 wenn du Mal meinen Kommentar richtig gelesen hättest dann hättest du verstanden das es für viele okay ist das bedeutet aber nicht alle logischerweise. Suche Mal nach Fremdgehen im Urlaub und schau dir die Umfragen an fast jeder zweite und jede dritte tun es. Selbst im Bekanntenkreis wurd eimmer wieder damit geprahlt was total ekelhaft ist.

It feels like a power play. I can make your fiancé give me your pills, what can you do? Lol

And so what? He took something she needed for his lousy brother. Also with the way brother and her fiance acted she doesn't need to try to make them look bad

@@morganablackwater2017 Yes, but the term medication is typically used interchangeably with prescription, at least in the places I have lived. While you can certainly be prescribed advil as a pain medication, usually when someone refers to their prescription as "pain medication" they are referring to a narcotic like vicodin or norco, which are addictive controlled substances. Sleep medication is the same way. It is a sedative, therefor usually a controlled substance. Stealing narcotics and sedatives is entirely different than stealing advil and melatonin. Think of it like the difference between petit theft and grand theft. Stealing "pain medication" also implies someone is a drug addict/drug dealer, so like I said, trying to make him sound worse than he actually is, or garner sympathy points for having to go without her "pain medication."

I don't feel sorry for Robert. Asshat was stealing medication. You're done if you do that

Yeah, while his brother was not in the right, his fiancée was no better than him.

@@maxdoom3521 omg she was ANNOYING

Robert stole his own fiancees medication for his hypochondriac brother. If anything, feel bad for everyone involved. Robert is an abused and abusive doormat, OP is a doormat, and the brother is obviously mentally unwell

Wow ...hope someone will treat you the way she been treated - witt what you showed just now you be a pice of work;

Nigel is in love with his own brother. It's disturbing and Nigel needs to be locked up in a psyche ward, or at least be heavily medicated.

The story payoff was so bad (he never talked to her again) that I don't think there's a need to lie for such a bad ending. Asking GPT, it said those sentences should be covered under the A2 level and it would take about 8hrs/wk to reach that level in 6 months. No idea how realistic that though

Depends on the person. I know a guy who speaks several languages and picked up some in weeks, maybe not fluent but enough to get around. Just like people pick up math quicker than most.

Emotional support animals are basically just someone saying "I cAN bRiNG mY DoG iNTo WaLmARt!" Without actually having a real service animal. F*ck those people, just a waist of oxygen.

Yeah exactly. Also the boyfriend seems to like super anxious people in general.

Lol... I kind of agree with that sentiment, they have enough on their plate as it is. But in fairness... Panick Attacks - Nobody is immune to these. If you have a central nervous system (as all vertebrates do) you are capable of having a panic attack. Thankfully, I've never had one, but I've seen them hit people out of the blue. Normal, well-adjusted people. It's not a mental illness. PTSD... If that was an actual psychiatric diagnosis, no problem. The self-diagnosed people can fuck right off though, lol. I've seen a lot of people who claim to have PSTD and have never even seen a psychiatrist. It's a big deal if you really have it, but many people who claim to, do not, and instead use it as an excuse. I don't know where OP stands on that, so I have to give them the benefit of the doubt. Melatonin, everyone's body produces this. Taking more as a supplement can help some people sleep. It does work, and is better than diphenhydramine (Benedryl) which is the other common over-the-counter sleep aid. And people have gone absolutely nuts on things like Ambien to the point of harming themselves and/or others. So if they're going to take something to help with insomnia, it's not a bad place to start. Emotional support cats... Yeah, that's going a bit far. Cats. Plural. More than one. Having pets can be calming for many people, I get that. But in that sense, what do multiple cats accomplish which one does not? I don't care if people have multiple pets, but they don't all need to be rationalized as therapeutic (unless she's working around some pet restrictions in her apartment, lol). If OP finds them helpful, I don't care, more power to her. But I am envisioning an absurd "crazy cat-lady" situation where she has a cat for every emotion. "Honey, have seen my economic-anxiety cat? He's the white one with the black patches. No, no, no... that one's black one with white patches, he's my fear of enclosed spaces cat, he always sleeps atop the dryer, next to my fear of rejection cat... Oh no, where is he? Honey, quick! Bring me my fear of losing one of my cats cat." That's probably not how it actually works, but that notion amuses me, so I'm choosing to believe that anyway, lol. OP has some issues. I hope they resolve to see an actual psychiatrist, not merely a general therapist, and they find a solution to their underlying issue instead of using contemporary facebook folk-remedies to play whack-a-mole with their symptoms. But they do seem like a good person who due to various circumstances, just hasn't found their footing yet. It happens, but a lot of people figure it out in the end and find what works for them, so I'm optimistic she'll get it sorted. If that stuff helps her, who am I to criticize? I have more respect for someone who takes the initiative and accountability to better themselves than someone who does not.

@SSFighter1701 ikr. This entire situation could be avoided if medicine and therapy were cheaper.

@@prussianeagle1941In most of the world Psychiatrists are available for very cheap or free, including in the US. As part of their accreditation, they have to do pro-bono hours annually to keep up their association credentials. As it turns out, the mentally ill usually don't hold down lucrative jobs with good insurance, lol. The best psychiatrists in the world offer many of their services for free. They have other means of making money, like expert witnesses in court, court-appointed evaluations (paid by the state) paid speaking engagements, education, retainer fees to work for a specific healthcare system or hospital, consulting on books, film, TV, and gouging the idiots who don't need their services have been told they don't need their services, but insist on going anyway because it's fashionable... those people can pay $500/hr, lol. But that is not the norm. There are downsides to "free". You don't know who you're going to get as a doctor. You may be on a waiting list for a while, etc. Also, pharmacies must provide you necessary prescribed medications, if they can, regardless of your ability to pay. But they do not have to fill the whole prescription, and can go off-brand. So if you have a necessary medication and can't pay, you might have to go to a pharmacy on the other side of town (or more commonly one inside a hospital), and get a single day's worth at a time. They make it a pain in the ass, but they won't turn you away. It will just be extremely inconvenient, lol. So someone can get those services and medications for free in most of the world, but I agree, access is not always easy, especially for someone who has issues and would have difficulty navigating the various hoops they need to jump through to gain that access.

Are . . . Are you joking? Robert stole her medication and tried to guilt trip her into giving his brother her emotional support animals, which were hers and hers alone.

You’re delusional if you think it’s unreasonable for her to ask that her SO prioritize and respect their relationship and to set boundaries for his overly dependent brother

You're fucking joking 😂😂😂 Robert demanded OPs animals and MEDICATION, and you think OP is the problem? Exactly what did she do besides be a doormat until Robert's weak ass tried to cancel the wedding??? 💀

You must be Nigel, or at least think like Nigel. You're a terrible person and should feel ashamed you made this comment.

Yall always bring up genders when its fucking irrelevant lol

Cause of people in the comments

Ppl were complaining about thinking the whole vid will be one story. So they asked if there could be a disclaimer or something, so others know that there are more than one story in one video.

cus its annoying asl to expect a long story just for it to be short and there is another story

Why she should respect him when he have NONE regard for her?

No... Get therapy doll cause if you think she was in any wrong you need help more than the brother do

She said she's in therapy, though. Or did you mean the fiancé/husband?

It's not always that easy, especially with BPD. After a 5 year battle, I'm in BPD remission, and I just now understand boundaries. BPD is an absolute monster, because your head is full all the time and NOTHING is solid or certain. Imagine a time when you were feeling an emotion so intensely, it was a very physical feeling. Now, imagine that intensity, with every emotion, and it switches with little to no provocation, and it does not stop. All the while, your head is so loud. It's like every sound, loud or quiet, is in your head on a constant loop. On top of all of that, when you're keeping on top of your therapy, you're doing all you can to self soothe, while trying to also convince yourself that the slight tone change, the smallest shift of body language, isn't a problem, it's okay. Doesn't always work. Then boundaries. All of the above is happening and more, and you set a boundary. It makes someone you care about mad, which is extremely troubling, because you don't want anyone upset with you, so you change it. Now someone else you love is mad. Rinse, repeat. Not to mention, when it comes about because of a not so fun childhood (BPD can be traumaborne or genetic), boundaries are a nebulous concept. It's a mess, and it's not fun at all, or easy. Therapy is what's gotten me into remission (and I'll eat all my shoes before I ever give it a chance to come back), but it's not a fix all. Sometimes it doesn't work, sometimes you need meds, and so on. Telling someone to go to therapy to learn and fix things is good, but I'm 6 years in intensive trauma therapy, and it can be like the saying, "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink", except the problem isn't the horse not drinking the water, because oh God, it's trying, but it has no idea what water is, or HOW to drink it. Boundaries aren't magically produced by therapy with those who've never been allowed to have any, nor do they understand the core concept (or any concept) of what they are. It took me over 37 years to finally understand and establish boundaries, and understand that if my boundaries piss people off, that's their problem, not mine.

@@MaliaMydnight Thank you for your insight. Mental health is a very important topic to me, and I love to hear the experiences of other people so I can better myself in helping them when I come across someone with needs. I am 35 with ADHD, so while there are vast differences, I can understand where you're coming from. We, too, can be stuck in intense emotional states, and with the many facets of the fısorder (like masking, hyper fixation, time blindness, etc) all working at once, it can be a mess to navigate and it took me 35 years to start grasping the concepts. But for me, my two biggest allies in such a challenge have been knowledge and therapy. Granted, I don't see therapy as a fix, but more like a tutor helping you to understand the concepts and encourage you in the process. I find people in general to be rather black and white; they see you as needing to be normal or needing to be extremely dısabled. So having someone there who can see all the shades of grey and who won't be (as you mentioned) pushed away as you try to grasp your emotions is very encouraging and has kept me sane a couple of times. Hearing the words "you are right to feel that way," while keeping up with my flippant tangents, has actually de-escalated me. But, like you also said, it's still up to the individual to put in the work and get things done. The reason I recommended therapy and boundaries in this case, however, was because the fiancé has gone his whole life not knowing how to find the strength to say no. And, having found a lot of horrible advice out there, I find that a therapist's assertiveness training tends to be the better and most guided method in learning to do so. Having gone through the same thing, it took me I believe 7 weeks of intensive therapy to reach a point where I could understand that no was an option, but it still took that push to get there.