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I absolutely agree!!!!!! I’m going through the same with a Taurus.

Reading your comment is as if I'm reading my own words. I went though the same thing. Took him 8 months after our separation to finally talk about what happened. I also held him accountable. I closed a lot of my wounds after we had our conversation & you could tell he felt a lot lighter too.

@@TravelAddict2000 Were you able to take him back?

@@CarpeDiem2805 No, I didn't. We still love each other but we decided to remain friends. He's still has a lot of work to do with his communication skills & emotional growth. He's younger, inexperienced, and always stressed. I would've loved to have seen & been part of his growth but I believe he has to do this on his own. A big part why I also didn't take him back is because we're from 2 different cultures. He's Pakistani & Muslim, I'm not. His family has already dictated that he will have to marry a girl from his village. In their culture they can have multiple wives, I, unfortunately didn't know this until months after we were together. At the time, I didn't know much about their culture, I wasn't aware they're not allowed to date either. When he asked his father the "what if" he found a love match that wasn't from their culture/religion the father told him he could marry whomever he wanted where he was but he STILL had to return to Pakistan & marry one of their cousins from the village (he's currently in a different country). I couldn't accept that or even begin to wrap my head around it. We were both devastated. He went through a depression, as did I. But in the end, he didn't want to cause his father or family any headaches & so he has accepted his fate. He will definitely do his duty. They don't have someone specifically for him yet but they've been trying and he's been delaying for years but eventually that time will come. He is also not mentally strong to defy his parents and bear the problems that will arise from our union. He can even be shunned from his own family & I know that will kill his spirit. He loves them too much. When we had our talk, he said he would still marry me. Whether before or after his cultural marriage or even years from now if I ever decide to return to him and ask him to marry. The thing is, if I marry him before his cultural marriage, our marriage will have to be kept secret until his cultural marriage takes place & he will reveal the truth to them. It's like that saying "better to ask forgiveness than permission". I am no ones secret! There's a lot more to it than that. My heart broke & it's still broken & it will break when I hear the news of his engagement/marriage/first child etc. But in the end, with tears in my eyes, I have to continue my life. He still sends me messages & doesn't want to cut the connection. We've learned a lot from each other. But I've realized this love is not strong enough to withstand the wrath that will come down on him, nor do I want a marriage where I'm not welcomed with open arms as the first wife will be. Nor do I want to be a second wife, or put him in a position where he has to choose between his family and I. That is his decision to make not mine. In my opinion, Starting a marriage like this is a bad omen. Who knows what the future holds but I'm trying to focus on the good parts that I learned from the relationship & trying to move on with my head held high.

@@TravelAddict2000 Oh gosh - how complicated and sad. Following his heart vs going against his culture and family. One would have thought he would have known all this and walked away instead of breaking your heart and his own. We take so much freedom for granted in many countries! Be strong, keep busy and remain positive!!