What a lot of people miss is that a shepherd also uses a rod with his sheep. He does not beat the sheep, but he gently guides them or uses the crook to pull them back from danger. Discipline is vital for children. Corporal punishment is not. And the people who use the Bible to condone beating their own children don’t deserve to be parents.
What a time we live in when we're having to bring in a kindergarten teacher as the voice of maturity to educate older adults that can't stop acting like spoiled toddlers 😅
@@KateLate____ kids are developing behavioral disorders from lack of structure and healthy, true discipline in their lives. They think they are in charge at 3 and 4 years old because if they do something naughty they just get a little speech. And if they don't want to play nice and you try to intercede, they scream, run, throw things, etc. "You're not my mom! You can't yell me what to do" And the like. A lot of the kids that come from the "gentle" parenting types don't really respect boundaries even after a little talk. They expect to be catered to... they demand respect from adults (which means "let me do whatever I want" to them), but give no respect back... The intent may be to treat kids respectfully, but it usually ends up with kids willfully disrespecting adults and then flipping out when they are corrected. "Let's stop and talk about our feelings" doesn't really work when a kid is laughing about hitting his friends or running away laughing.
@@ohifonlyx33 I appreciate hearing this from an educator. While it seems like the right thing to do, to give someone the attention the crave, we're doing them a disservice. They can go and live on the forest alone, and they won't get any attention. If they want attention, they need to live in society, and society only works because it has rules. Even simpler animals than us have to teach their young about the way the world works.
@@KateLate____ i will say a more sensitive approach can be more helpful with timid kids who get embarrassed when you make mistakes or get overwhelmed easily. Sometimes you can talk a kid through a problem, and sometimes you just need to stop a situation and correct a bad behavior and talking doesn't cut it. Especially if the kid is in a hyper-stressed state.
These videos really validate my own strategy of conflict diffusing that has sort of grown organically from who I am as a person, and so it's nice to know that people may actually indeed diffuse conflict this way.
She signed all done. I think I've seen her sign one or two other things. Many preschool and kindergarten teachers learn a few signs and teach them the kiddos in our class
Should out to my older cousin who told me 13 years ago that she could tell off any child she saw fit because "it takes a village". I don't think thats what that means.
The only time I would step in to parent someone's child is when the parent is not doing it because they are too busy chatting/not paying attention, for example. Ie, child doing something dangerous, or disrespectful to another child. And I don't "go off"...I use the tone appropriate for the situation. Children deserve respect, but need to be safe and kind to others.
To the village thing. I respond by saying hmmmm i dont remember moving to a village. I thought i was in the city, with MY child. I didnt realize i moved to a village and that this was a community baby. Lol
Are you planning to talk like this to your kids when they grow up? I respect the comedy but id love to see a more serious video where you show us how youd gentle parent a 16 or 17 yo making bad choices ❤
god i need you to teach me this i’m having a VERY hard time getting through to my 5 yo and i realise it’s probably bc of how im talking and the words im choosing but I don’t know how to fix that ?
Use with extreme caution with other women your age or younger! I noticed over the years women go insane when “gentle parented” by another woman. It’s like throwing water on a witch. My GF was told to put her “listening ears on” at a restaurant by a younger woman at another table. She is normally super chill but if she had a meat cleaver in hand there would have been a murder. Men just think it’s funny especially if the woman is young and cute.
Is it disrespectful or do you just not like it? Sometimes when we watch situations we need to catch a bubble and listen to how, what, and why the conversation is happening, got it got it?
Im just not sure this is gentle parenting because the parent is talking too much, over explaining themselves. I feel like it would cause a lot of frustration, even for a kid, because they dont feel heard or respected
Your tone is entirely condescending and rude like your speaking to a 1 year old. That said, you’re 100% right! Maybe use an adult voice when speaking to other adults though and not come off so incredibly holier than though. Sincerely, you’re totally correct but your delivery covers the otherwise wonderful message.
Hate this. Everytime ive seen parents refuse to take advice its because they get criticism for emotional abuse If someone gives bad or unneeded advice, just refuse it, dont spread this narrative that parents shouldn't listen to anyone
I appreciate the fact you are setting boundaries but being talked to like a child would only make most people mad 😂 but i get why you may think its the only way to get through to some people
As someone who has a degree from one od the best schools in the world for child development. You sound ridiculous. You take these concepts way out of context. Kids also need to feel stress to prepare for it. You cant shield them forever. Youre preventing them from developing healthy coping habits.
Friend, you're going to need to exercise your brain a bit more and acknowledge the difference between "satire" and "reality". She isn't suggesting talking to adults like this, she's making the joke "What if...?" And even if she was suggesting talking to adults like this, you know what an adult can do? Get up and walk away, that's right. And what would we expect an adult to do, get up and walk away or start using hyperbole like 'abuse' when someone is trying to communicate honestly and openly with them? That's RIGHT, get up and walk away! Because only big lying babies like men who tan their face orange and say racist, sexist, stupid things on TV would be selfish enough to think their feelings are more important than a baby's safety and wellbeing. Time to grow up, friend. If children can handle being spoken to like this without throwing a tantrum, like you are, then you know what your homework is, don't you? Stop behaving worse than a child.
@@DembaiVT ... And? Satirically abusive behavior is still abusive behavior. I wonder how she talks to her peers? And her romantic partners? This kind of behavior isn't a red flag. It's a black flag with a red X.
@@xbassackwardx She's a kindergarten teacher. This is how she talks to tiny children, not adults. I suggest you familiarise yourself with jokes and how to take one.
