You..... are amazing. I’m SURE there’s a ton that goes on behind the scenes, but even putting together a video like this that is completely honest.... is amazing. I am expecting a baby boy at the end of June, and I was just talking with my husband yesterday how I’m so afraid of being sleep deprived because I get SO MEAN AND NASTY when I am exhausted, and I’m afraid of taking it out on him. :( I don’t know how you keep it together, honestly. I feel like I’d be crying from frustration every day. These types of videos are wonderful because I find them very helpful in “prepping” me for what’s to come. I’m glad Jackson has been taking (literal) baby steps toward better sleep patterns!! ❤️
Hi Kayla, when he wakes up at 25 to 30 minutes that is not a nap, that is him switching sleep cycles and he can’t get back to sleep on his own. So I would encourage you that when he awakens after 25 to 35 minutes to try to put him back to sleep and he will eventually learn to transition through sleep cycles on his own. My son and my daughter did the same thing. My son was a bit more difficult but my daughter is a dream and that’s because I started baby wise at 3 weeks. She goes to sleep on her own but both of my babies use pacifiers. I also find it hard to not fall asleep while nursing in the middle of the night. It’s real bad. If I actually sit up and nurse then it increases the chance of me not falling asleep and putting my daughter back in her bassinet. She is 3 months by the way.
I feel your pain. Keep making these videos! Many moms have this problem. And have a look at little ones routines. They have a lot of information to help babies improve sleep. For instance it might work better if you bring bed time earlier around 7or8. And maybe your awake windows need tweaking but they help you with exact timing that changes as the baby grows.
Imo, anything under an hour is not a nap. I used to let my son cry it out. If he cried for an hour, so be it. I knew he wasn’t wet or hungry and he had to be tired. He had to learn to self soothe.
You’ve become my favorite mommy you tuber. You’re so real. I have a 3 month old and Jackson sounds just like him when he sleeps/naps. Thought about getting the snoo, so I’m glad that you’re doing such an awesome review. From mama to mama, I see you, I hear you. We’re doing the best we can to try not loose our sanity. Being a mom is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’ve never had anxiety issues until now. When he’s sleeping, I feel like what you said, ticking time bomb...it messes with my anxiety to no end. You are doing amazing. Whatever you’re doing is what works for you and baby...people can give advice blah blah blah, white noise lol take care, sending aloha to you 🙏🏽
Also, I want to say I appreciate you keeping it real. I’ve cried too about my son’s refusal to sleep and sleep long and sleeping alone and I’ve also compared him to other babies and been envious of other moms. And that anxiety of having your time and sleep interrupted. Oof!! For once I don’t feel so alone seeing you go through these struggles too. THANK YOU!
YES I KNOW THE FEELING!!! my baby girl only gives me 20- 30 mins nap,,, she is a couple of days younger than Jackson. Ya, him hitting those milestone messes with their sleep bad... one night baby girl did not sleep at all.... and then she flipped... their little brains are just soo excited that they found a new skill and just working hard at trying to make sense of it. I'm with you, I have such a short fuse but have to remind myself baby's brain is growing and as frustrating as it is, she is also frustrated but just can't vocalize it. now that being said, of course doesnt take away my frustration when she wakes up EVERY HOUR!!! but it does help on some nights. YOU CAN DO IT! You are doing an amazing job, I love how real your VLOGS are and that sometimes moms loose their cool.... but my baby girl somehow she knows and starts smiling and that just melts my heart and I realize I'm not a horrible mama just very tired! Keep up the good work and thank you for taking your time to make this video, I only have one and barely have time for anything, lots of love!!
I know this is from 3 years ago but I am binging your sleep training videos because I am exactly where you are at here! You are giving me such confidence. I know it's going to be a difficult process but it is comforting to know that not all babies can just go to sleep easily. My baby has started to get pissed at the pacifier lol so we're nursing to sleep at night, hoping to break that habit soon. Thank you so much for sharing all of this!
Hi Kayla, I’m not sure if you will see this but I just want to thank you for all the videos you have posted. You have made me not feel alone in this journey as a first time mom. You discussing what you went through 2 yrs ago is exactly what I am going through with my baby and it makes me feel ok that sometimes you just have to try to do what is best for you and your little one. Believe me from the reflux to the sleep, your videos have kept me sane. You read so many things online that make it seem “so simple” but having a baby is not black and white. Thank you so much for just sharing your experience, just remember someone is watching and you are helping with what you do. God bless you.
Your authenticity is so appreciated. I have a 3 week old and I am experiencing the same struggle of no sleep or partial sleep 😴. And trying to figure out ways to get baby to sleep in bassinet. The struggle is real. My first child was much easier. Thank you for sharing
Carson was a terrible napper and sleeper until the day he turned 6 months old & then he turned into the most incredible little sleeper. But the most frustrating thing leading up to that point was that he would nap like an ANGEL for hours at daycare, but not nap for me longer than like 15-20 minutes unless he was laying on top of me. You will both get there!!! I know how hard it is to go through this!
In my opinion he’s having too many naps. I have a 20 month old son and 7 month old daughter. My son was a mess with his sleep till he turned 7-8 months. I made the choice to not let my daughter start those same sleep habits. She’s wakes around 7am - Has a morning bottle about 30 minutes after waking 6oz. Plus I give her some breakfast. I keep her up till around 9:30 and then it’s time for her first nap. She’s been playing this whole wake time with her brother. I had to let her cry a bit so she wouldn’t depend on being rocked because it can be so exhausting rocking to sleep just for them to wake again so quickly like you said. She used to nap 30 minutes but now after letting her cry a bit (I go in and give pacifier/shhh her a bit if she gets too worked up) she’s napping 1.5-2 hrs. Once she’s up, again I wait 30 minutes for her next bottle and she has some type of lunch. I keep her up until 1:30-2. She’s tired by then and it’s easier for her to fall asleep. Once up again same with bottle, dinner and play. She gets a bath every other night and she’s down by 7-7:30pm. I keep her up for a good 3.5-4 hours before bed time. She’s been on this schedule since she was 3 months old. Seems to work for her. I rocked my son till he was 10 months and I was heavily pregnant with my daughter. I know exactly how you are feeling because I’ve been there with my son. Sleep trained him at 10 months and he’s been the best sleeper. However I’m not waiting that long with my daughter, that’s why I have the schedule I do for her. Granted there are better days than not and she definitely fights her sleep sometimes. Consistently is key. I’d say drop the last nap and keep him up for longer between his second nap and going down for the night. Just like your daughter, she became a much better sleeper after sleep training her. He will be the same in time. Hang in there mama.
I feel the exact same way when I compare my baby to others... All these instagram babies sleeping 12 hours straight at night at 3 months old and were over here waking up every 2 hours and screaming his head off.. Mamas we need to keep trying and count on all the victories!!
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jina park hello there, I’m a American mom and i am curious to know if you have any suggestions or as a Korean mother do you guys do anything different that would help better a baby’s sleeping patterns?
When my child was a baby, a really good friend suggested to use the “moms on call” book and it was a god-sent advise. It gives you sample schedules according to your child’s age, detailing how long they should be awake, feed and how long to sleep. They also have a “troubleshooting” sleep section. My child was a terrible sleeper prior to this, but I think it was more so “user error”(I honestly had no idea what I was doing).
First off- THANK YOU! It is so comforting to know we are not alone with our difficult sleeper. I truly truly truly appreciate how real you are in all your videos. Quick background about my son- he'll be 4 months next week; he's our first. When he was about 2 weeks old he started making terrifying noises in his sleep, particularly nap times. We found out he has a floppy airway (he should grow out of this!) and pretty bad reflux. He was having trouble breathing (esp when on his back), he was turning blue, it was awful. Well because of all of this, I held him for every single nap he took. Fast forward, to him never being able to sleep on his own even though everything with his health is getting better. I can't say this will work for everyone but it definitely worked for us! (Or is in the process of working). We are focusing on fixing one thing at a time. We found that if he is overtired, everything is hard- its hard to put him down, he doesn't stay down, etc. At one point he woke up just about every hour during the night. So right now we are just working on night time sleep, basically the same way you are. However, I still hold him or put him in the carrier for his naps so he will actually sleep and not be overtired. Our plan is to get his night time sleep under control and then we will start working on naps. His nights have been getting progressively better and he actually he slept for NINE HOURS last night! (I could cry) Just a thought of something that may help! Hope you get sleep soon- its wild having to function on such little sleep and I don't also have a toddler to take care of!
Hi!! Our babies are just weeks apart and man I feel you. One thing we did find to work for us what instead of putting him down for the night at 9:30 we put him to bed at 7:30/8 and he just started sleeping longer stretches! Try it mama never hurts Your doing amazing!! 🤍🤍🤍🤍
I also pass out while breastfeeding at night, so i set a 10 min alarm in my phone, so i am awake enough to put him back to sleep in the bacinet! it's working for me.
Hi Kayla, have you tried to soothe him without picking him up. Maybe reassure him rub his stomach or something like that. He is probably used to being rocked to sleep.
4 months old could be a sleep regression. When my son was 4 months my dr gave us the ok to start gentle sleep training. We did cry it out a little at a time and it really helped. Go outside take a breather, i feel your pain but youre doing great❤️ And definitely try an earlier bedtime, that may help.
Merlin’s magic sleepsuit was a god send for my daughter! We started using it when she was 9 weeks and she started napping better and sleeping through the night. You’re doing great, mama! Love watching your videos :)
I feel like you never really know how precious time is until you become a mom. You really come to learn how fast those 30 min naps go by and you just beg for those 30 min to feel like a couple hours. Then when they are growing one year goes so fast and you wish it could last longer. Being a mama is soooooo hard but also the best thing of life. Hope things get easier for you and your boy so both of you can get some much needed rest ❤️
Hey, Thank you for making these kind of videos and being so honest! My son is 8 months and I have to rock him for going to sleep at night and had the same issue of putting him down and him waking. I have found that if I rock him a good 10 - 15 mins after he has fallen asleep and also I make sure that for the last 5mins I slow down and eventually stop rocking and just hold him before I put him down in his crib then he stays asleep. Keep going Mama you are doing amazing and I can 100% understand the frustration you are going through. Just remember regressions do pass and it is a phase, good sleep will come with your hard work!! X
Hi Kayla! I’ve been watching your videos for months and I love them! You keep it real which is very refreshing lol. This isn’t necessarily advice... since I wouldn’t even take my own advice on this, but the only way my daughter (3.5 months old) naps is on her belly. I have a 20 month old son and he’s my first, and I would have never dared having him sleep on his belly because of SIDS... but it’s truly the ONLY way she’ll nap. She makes it around 2hrs every time she’s on her belly. At night she’s sleeps on her back all night 🤷🏻♀️ idk why I can’t get her to nap on her back lol. That’s the only thing that has worked for her. I keep the monitor on and watch her like a hawk but she SLEEPSSSS!
Ah perfect time for this video. I'm doing the same with my 5 month old, counting down the days till she is 6 month old to try the lay down while drowsy. I've slowly made it to just holding her and have stopped rocking but she has to be asleep entirely before I put her down. So proud of your patience and perseverance with Jackson's sleep. You are doing amazing! EDIT: is Jackson maybe dropping his last nap a little early, my girl randomly did after/during her sleep regression, she used to go to bed at 930 10ish, and last (4th of the day) nap was at 7, then she just started fighting that 7pm nap so I changed my huckleberry app to 3 naps and it changed her last nap to 6pm she would go down for half an hour and then started having bed time at 9. She only has a 45 minute/ 1 hr nap for her other naps. She has allllwayyyss had 30 minute naps up until now and it's so stressful feeling like they have to nap for longer but I just gave up and accepted she was a cat napper.
My son is a few days older than your son. I had the same struggle before when he was 2 months old. The love to dream swaddle really helped my son sleep on his own in his bassinet, until now he sleeps good but not good in naps. He only takes nap 30 minutes, before his naps were 1-2 hrs maybe it's a part of 4 month regression plus he is teething right now so he is really fussy. His last nap is 5:30 pm and I put him to bed 9:30 after feed and he sleeps all through the night. Hang in there mama everything will be fine!
Hi Kayla also I know you mentioned sometimes you have to leave your hand on his chest after he falls asleep for a few seconds. I would recommend the Nested Bean sleep sack. It has a little almost pillow in the middle of it on the front for that very reason. And it's a sleep sack not a swaddle so he can wear it after he flips over :)
Hey Kayla, I have a baby boy who is 4 1/2 months old (birthday 12/4/19), and he’s also fighting me more to go down for naps. He’s also refusing his pacifier. I’ve started giving him his lovie and he likes sucking on that to help him calm down a little. I think it’s a combination of four month sleep regression and teething. I watch your videos and see Jackson putting everything in his mouth too. It’s sooo hard, when we think we’ve got it down and somethings working, it all goes down the drain and whatever we were doing doesn’t work anymore. Hang in there, mama. You’re amazing and this too shall pass ♥️
Your baby is the exact same as mine, o feel for you so much girl. You are doing such a great job! My daughter is 7 months and still naps only 30-45 min and wakes up during the night every 2 hours.....praying for a miracle
So sorry you’ve been having such a hard time with Jackson’s sleeping. My son was a bad sleeper in the first 4 months. Similar experiences, but I wasn’t even able to get him down in his bassinet for 30 minutes. He would only nap on me (when I was home on maternity leave) or on my mom who took care of him while I was working. It wasn’t until we moved and were able to get him into a crib that he started to get into a better sleep schedule. He’s 6 months now and we had our FIRST FULL NIGHT two nights ago! I woke up in a panic and had to leap out of bed to make sure he was okay. I swear, I could feel my heart in my throat lol Crossing my fingers for you that you and baby Jackson both get some good rest soon. ❤️🤞🏻
Omg my son is just like Jackson!! I feel all your mama pain... The worst is being upset about your son not sleeping so you Google every strategy or watch every video you can to try to improve his sleep & you watch/read he should be sleeping 2 hrs. It’s infuriating and makes you feel like you’re doing something wrong. WELL... we aren’t doing anything wrong. We just have a little bit more difficult babies when it comes to sleep. I tell myself that every day and yet I still get frustrated, so I feel you completely Kayla. Baby will be ready to sleep longer when he’s ready. Keep going mama! I finally got my son sleeping longer stretches at night ... we did the Ferber method at 3.5 months for night time sleep. Honestly, I was at the point where I just physically couldn’t be up anymore (I couldn’t deal with the 45 min wakeups at night after putting him down & him rocking/falling asleep/being put down/rewaking). So we did the Ferber method... it’s honestly been perfect for my baby. He’s more rested during the day, happier, and less crabby. The first couple nights were rough, but he is consistently sleeping 7-8 hrs now at night. Use your own judgement, but if you’re comfortable and do your research, possibly look into starting the Ferber method earlier than 6 months. You know what’s right for Jackson though so use your judgment. Good luck!! You’ve got this mama! ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Kayla, have you tried in the morning get up do breakfast let him play, have a morning nap, then he gets up, has lunch plays then an afternoon nap, then he gets up plays has dinner and do the nighttime routine for bed, maybe he’s getting too old for so many naps, or try pumping for his last feeding too see how much he’s eating, I used to put a little baby cereal in her bottle for the last feeding and she slept longer, your doing a great job, I hope it gets better soon, have a great day 😀❤️
Not sure if this will help you, but maybe try getting a crib and putting it in your room. My 4 month old baby girl is a bad sleeper, very similar to the things you talk about with Jackson. She hates her bassinet and pack n play. I recently put her in her crib in our room and she’s been sleeping so much better. She would always fall asleep with me holding and rocking her but as soon as I would lower her to her bed, she’s wake up or sleep for a couple minutes then wake up. With the crib, I can kind of bounce her mattress and it soothes her to sleep and then after a couple time of doing that she’ll actually stay asleep. It’s been so much easier than having to pick her up and transfer her a bunch of times.
I completely feel your pain, but can I just say you’re doing an amazing job! You will get there, it can take a while but he will adjust :) I always remembered ‘patience and perseverance’ and that kept me going. I managed to get my daughter to sleep 10-12 hrs a night by 5 months and she used to wake every hour, but it took a few weeks I won’t lie. Keep going girl you’re so strong 💪🏽💕
Hi Kayla, my son is 3 1/2 months old🙂, fights his sleep at night usually, maybe something to try would be lullaby or piano music instead of the white noise machine or putting a play pen or bassinet in the living room for naps so he is around familiar noises or just so he can learn to play until he is tired and comfy😴
Keep it up! I didn't like putting my baby in the SNOO at first either.. I felt like she didn't like it. Now, she naps so well and even sleeps through the night some nights!! I AM A HUGE SNOO FAN now!!
We had the same issues with the Halo Bassinet. And the pack n play bassinet. We just switched early to the crib...earlier than I wanted to at 2 months, but man right away we got at least the 20-30 min cat naps...finally. we also switched from the Halo to the Love to Dream Swaddle Up. The two life changers, that got us to 1 wake up a night, was starting solids (a few weeks in it started to help, we started at 4 months), and when he rolled to his belly--at that point he went into a Zipadee Zip instead of swaddle and he loves it! Now at 5 months, 1 wakeup a night, 1-2 hour afternoon nap, heaven. But yes, it really took us to 4.5 months to get there. You'll get there! Also he will need to be left to self settle sometimes too. I would sit in glider till my son fell asleep sometimes. I would leave him to cry it out just for a couple minutes too, before I'd go soothe and rock him as long as I knew he wasn't hungry.
Hi Kayla! I also have a 4 month old baby boy, he also used to have difficulties with sleeping, sometimes still has. He also used to take naps within 30-40minutes. Then I started changing things, like when he woke up I used to take him out of the bed right away now I try to give the pacifier and sometimes he would fall back to sleep, when not then I would take him out, also try to put a muslin blanket covered with your breastmilk by his side and against his cheek, that was a life saver, his eyes closed immediately. Now his naps last 1h-3h, but sometimes still 30-40min. Also to help with the pacifier you should try different ones, I tried 5 or 6 different brands and(i dont know if you have this kind on brand in the US) eventually the MAM pacifier was the one he accepted.
Thank You! This video was so validating and although it looks like this video is from a while back for you, I totally relate to the real sleep struggles. My two month old currently will not take day naps in his bassinet and I feel so terrible when I get frustrated after repeated attempts to lay him down. Right now naps in the carrier are getting us through. Luckily, night sleep is going much better. I really appreciate you sharing and normalizing the fact that sleep looks different for every baby and it's okay not to have all the answers and to figure things out as you go not to mention, how difficult all of this is when you're already exhausted. Thanks for making this new mama feel less alone int he struggle.
Hey Kayla! I wish I saw this video when my son was a newborn, it took us months to finally get him to nap in his crib and not on top of me 😅 my son really hated the halo as well, only tolerated it at night. But his night sleep happened in the bassinet at the time, with about 2, 3 wakings, before we sleep trained. We used taking cara babies to sleep train, it's very helpful for 5 months and up!
Oh my gosh I feeeelllll this whole experience SO much. My little boy is 3.5 months old and is walked to sleep currently. He sleeps for usually about 45 minutes per nap, but it has recently started taking 20-30 minutes to get him asleep enough to lay him down, leaving me maybe 20 minutes to breathe if I'm lucky.
I know this video is older but I am going through this same exact thing with my 2 month old. His naps are maybe 30 mins each & then at night he goes no longer than 1.5-2 hour stretches of sleep! I hate that you had to go through this but it is encouraging knowing I’m not alone because I am literally going crazy being sleep deprived.
Hang in there girl! Sleep is so hard with young kids. I have 4. 6,3,1 and 3 months. I totally get your pain. I will be praying you get some sleep. 4 month sleep regression is real. I have heard of those sleep body suits. I think the slow transition might be good for this baby. He seems a little more stubborn. I did gentle stage with all of my babies. I think it worked really well. All my kids sleep all night usually 730am -7:30pm. Sleep is such a hard topic!
Oh, he is so darned cute. Not only am I a sucker for a guy in a bow tie (as he was at Easter), but I am a tad enamored of his furrowed brow. I love that he is looking at the world as if to say, "I'll think about that." Remember that he probably was a terrible sleeper, because he was so uncomfortable or in so much pain from gas and poop he couldn't easily pass, it was more that he was colicky than that he wouldn't sleep. His discomforts weren't letting him sleep any more than they were letting you sleep. Too, every time you picked him up or put him in a body wrap you were helping his pain at least somewhat by having him in a vertical position for gravity to help him pass whatever was needed. Also, remember that the fact that his eyes open or he moves around does not mean that he is fully awake or that he should not be self-soothing to put himself back to sleep. We all have periods of lighter and deeper sleep and we manage to get back to deeper sleep again from the lighter sleeps through self-soothing or just plain not expecting that we can go anywhere for more of a good time. Sleep is the option at that time. He is now past the '4th trimester' when their infant sleep is nothing but deep sleep and he got precious little of that due to the intestinal issues. So he will have periods of lighter sleep now that he must learn to sleep through and you must let him figure out and not interrupt it. Since he is not pooping daily or every other day, you still cannot be sure how much discomfort he may be having when it starts to build up in his bowel. He may still be feeling more pressure than with babies who are passing gas and poop more frequently. He may get there once he's no longer on breast milk and/or is taking solid foods. There won't be as much water for the bowel to remove from his nourishment as there is with a milk diet alone. 5:45-9pm is only 3 and a quarter hours and he is getting close to the age where 3 hours awake to eat and play is not at all peculiar. So maybe he will sleep longer at night if you don't force the after supper nap/early evening nap and make sure you keep topping him off with feedings so you know he isn't hungry when you put him down at 9pm. If he slept in the SNOO for a nap the other day that he followed right on its heels with another nap there, it is clear that he was still tired and could have self-soothed, ideally, rather than having you soothe him back to sleep. So he can do this. Does your lactation specialist think that he just got into the habit of feeding briefly because he was so uncomfortable in his belly with the colic and so has just never gotten into the habit of longer feeds? Or is he still too uncomfortable to feed for longer periods? He's growing, thank God, and has the normal chunky monkey look of a healthy baby, so that's a blessing through all of this. Stop eyeballing the monitor every 2 minutes and let the Owlet monitor inform you of trouble or let him cry outright to a degree that let's you know there is no chance he's just complaining a bit and will soothe himself back to sleep. Also, try to find a TV show called "Sleepy Baby" or something other than "Walking Dead," which a bit too closely describes your condition. LOL. I know we get tired and frustrated, but the worst of it is you adore your child and they are helpless without your care and guidance. It they are not sleeping soundly, we have no clue if they are really getting the sleep time they need for their development and health. If they sleep soundly for several full sleep cycles at a time, they awaken ready to go back to sleep after a dream feed or, if from a nap, they still awaken stretchy, yawny and smiley which is cute, but also reassures us that all is well. You have to present him with expectations (baths=nighttime), yet you have to be prepared to meet his needs. It's a constant tightrope walk without a net. And the truth is we have to stay calm and focused and in charge, but if we aren't scared to death of screwing-up our kids then we probably haven't got a clue about life and the world. You are doing a really good job. We are all just telling you what we've tried in case it works. It is so clear that God made each of us unique beings from the get-go. It can be seen in infants. Some babies actually want to be put down in their bassinets from infancy and are thrilled when they are no longer in swaddles and can put their arms and legs where they want them. Then there's the old "let sleeping dogs lie" syndrome. If he falls asleep on the floor and is out of the way of you and Riley and Joe, then let him sleep there, since trying to put him in his SNOO could awaken him. It is good for them to awaken in their proper beds, even from naps, and when he has his own room that will work better in terms of Riley's interruptions. But, let him sleep if you can wherever he may be. We all sleep differently. At 4 months there is a sleep regression and developmental leap. He is clearly in the midst of the leap, which eats a ton of energy inside of him and it changes how things work in his brain. He will be capable of lots of new tricks. The sleep regression will be right around now and will be changing his sleep habits based upon the leap into those more like adults, which means he has light and deep sleep, so can be awakened more readily if he is not permitted to soothe himself back to sleep. In normal, non-colicky, infancy they just have deep sleep. There are not the normal adult-type sleep cycles with REM, etc. This is why dream feeds are important for the rest of his babyhood, rather than interacting with him when he awakens for feeds during the night. Feed him in the dark without talking and change him only if need be. Then back down he goes. I'm laughing right now because he's talking away on the bed while you are presenting to us. In an ideal world, you do not want him moving his after supper nap to 9pm. You want him to go down for the night at 9pm, perhaps awaken at 1-2am for a dream feed, then awaken again maybe at 7am for a feed and then maybe stay in the bed with you for another hour or so if everyone else is still sleeping and you don't have to get up then. I think the movement of the car and the hum of the tires on the road and wind going past the windows make for a happy snoozing environment. There's your clue: his startle reflex is still for a little while yet going to be an issue for him. So, swaddle him until he can roll over and then you'll have to leave his arms out. But, for now, stick with the full swaddle, so he's not discombobulated by his arms being free. I think the reason some may have suggested not swaddling his arms was because we see him occasionally asleep on your bed with his arms akimbo or in very specific sideways positions that may have indicated a sleep position preference. And it may yet, but he's not ready now. Just so you know, some babies and toddlers move around a lot before they go to sleep. I have seen friends' children who almost tear their beds apart trying to get into the exact comfortable position to suit them. They move toys or pacifiers or blankets, once they have them, and their body positions are sometimes interesting, to say the least. So a child learning to put themselves to sleep is not necessarily a peaceful, calm process. If Jackson moves a lot when you put him down does not perforce mean that he cannot or will not go to sleep. So, he did really well Easter and Easter night? Yay!
Hey Kayla, my little boy is 3,5 months old and naps 3 to 4 times a day for 30 mins too. I have 2 suggestions: put jackson in the bassinet awake and let him be there just to play and spend time in it. plus: Imagine you Fall asleep in your bed and awake on the kitchen floor. It would be super irritating, right? Now Think of your baby: he falls asleep on you and wakes up alone in his crib. Be sure to take him to bed awake so he feels secure when he awakes under same conditions. As always, I wish you the very best! Kind regards, Alexandra
My 15 week old daughter is a shocking sleeper aswell and most nights we end up co sleeping due to my exhaustion. So I totally get this. You gotta do what works for you and your family. What I found worked is keeping her day sleeping no longer than 3.5hrs - 4 HOURS at most. It sounds as if the issue is very similar to what my girls problem was and that’s linking their cycles... most babies have a sleep cycle of 30-45minutea and then struggle to go back to sleep without intervention. So perhaps try settling him within his bassinet rather than picking him up after he wakes, help him be calm to link the cycle.
In Belgium a lot of baby’s like Jackson sleep like this: 6-7am wake up and feed, play a bit and then take a nap at around 8-9am. They wake up and get fed,play and then around 1-2pm they nap again. After that they stay up till max 7pm , get a feed and go down for the night. Around 11-12pm they get a dream feed and mostly they sleep through the night.
I know 😅 I just found it funny that she sleeps exactly like that. I honestly didn't do anything apart from letting her find her own sleep rhythm. 🤷🏼♀️
@@ninacreateslife I live in Belgium also and my 4 months has another nap around 4pm. I try not to keep him awake more than 1.5 h or 2 h max because then he will have more trouble getting to sleep. But yeah I just stood by him letting him find his way. European methods work better maybe 😂😂😂
Teo Buicliu I’m sorry. You are right. Around 4-4.30pm they have a little nap but not more than an hour. Where I work they do it like that and I have a feeling it’s a good way.
Jackson sounds so much like my son! My son is one month older but we’ve struggled with just about everything you have (eating, reflux, sleep, etc). For naps, I had to let him nap on me. I would feed him, get him tired, and then put a pacifier in or do another feeding and then rock him and shh him for a few minutes then lay on the couch with him on my chest. I could watch TV, do things on my laptop, etc but it does require you to stay put. The great thing was that he would always sleep 1.5-2 hours that way. At night we would put him in his crib after the bedtime routine and he would sleep a couple hours at a time (9 at most). Maybe that’s something you could try (:
Maybe try transitioning to a one-arm swaddle before going straight to both his arms out. We’re currently doing that with our 2mo old, because he’s showing signs of trying to roll soon, & it’s working for us! That way it’s not such a huge shock to have both arms out when his startle reflex kicks in.
My kids are around yours' ages. My daughter was THE WORST sleeper. She still isn't great. She just has a terrible time falling asleep, she fights it. My son is thankfully better so far. but during leaps is definitely harder when they are learning new skills.
I’m a stay at home mom at the moment. He turned 4 months old on 4/18. I used to watch RU-vid so much before i had my baby but now i rarely do. I love watching your videos it’s a great break. If I’m in the shower or if he falls asleep on me, etc lol.. my baby hates the crib and bassinet. He had really bad gas issues. I really think it’s uncomfortable for babies with tummy/reflux issues to sleep flat on their back. Such a challenge. It’s also so natural they just wanna be close to us.
He will nap on his own for only 20-40 mins .. but if he naps sleeps on me he can sleep for soooo long. But I still always try and put him down. He can sleep forever on his tummy too. So he naps in his tummy sometimes .. supervised of course. Can’t wait till he can control and roll more so he can put himself to sleep on his tummy if he wants. We’ve made progress and working on it! I’m glad you’re making progress!
Thank you for sharing and it is hard when you were blessed with a great sleeper, then having a baby that needs more support to sleep. I’m having the same struggle with my second baby girl. Great job on staying consistent! Good luck!
Hugs, Mama. Baby sleep is so so hard! Honestly I have ptsd from how terribly my first slept and with my second (3mos) I cant try to put him to sleep for more than 15 minutes or I will break down-my daughter now 2.5 still takes HOURS to put to sleep. Do whatever you have to do and keep your sanity and get any help from hubby that you can ❤️
With us it helped to take a super early bedtime, like 6 pm and ditch the last nap, and also when my baby wakes up after 30 mins, I help him back to sleep, because he just can't move to another sleep cycle by himself. After the one wake up at 30-35 minutes he usually takes another 30 minutes at least, sometimes even more so it helps. My baby is the same age and has been terrible sleeper from the start. The early bedtime and maximizing his naptimes has helped us A TON, no fussing or crying anymore at night or with naps and he takes 4 h streches during the night. I think Jackson is overtired when you said he is fighting you with naps. Maybe try this, I really recommend! 😊
My daughter will be 4 months in a couple days. Not to brag but she sleeps for an 1.5-3 hours for naps. What we do it she gets up in the morning and she gets her medicine and then she can nurse 30 mins after her medicine. She’s up for 2-2.5 hours then takes a nap and then she will sleep anywhere from 1.5-3 hours and then up again for 2.5-3 hours and then takes her last nap of the day. I don’t let her sleep past 6 since she goes to sleep around 8:30-9:00 every night. So if she doesn’t go to sleep till 5 then she will only get an hour nap. We give her a bath EVERY NIGHT at 8. Maybe try giving him a bath every night and see what he does. I figure out my daughter takes bath time as bed time. She also only wakes up once a night or none at all. I also do the cry it out method. I let her cry 5 mins every time. Even after naps. And sometimes she will go back to sleep. At night I let her cry for 5 mins and if she is still crying then I’ll get her to feed her. Maybe let Jackson cry for a little and see if he will go back to sleep. I’m sorry he isn’t sleeping for you. My 4 month old sleeps better then my 4 year old. She’s up all night.
My 11 wk old use to be a terrible sleeper/napper. At wk8 I started moms on call schedule. And she’s now sleeping from 8pm-ish til 7am with one dream feed at 11:30. She’s still a little iffy w. Naps but it’s a work in progress. Good luck mama you’re doing great- don’t know how you do it with a toddler too!
I know it’s hard and I’m not trying to be mean because I love your channel!! but he’s used to being rocked to sleep and picked back up every time he wakes and his naps are him not being able to switch through his sleep cycles and fall back asleep on his own because he needs rocked. You said you can’t lay him down drowsy and him fall asleep but that’s part of training them how to do that. Might as well start sleep training and training to self soothe at the same time as transitioning to bassinet so the process isn’t drawn out longer . He’s never going to sleep longer than 30 min naps in a crib or bassinet unless he learns to sleep through the different sleep cycles by himself . 💙 just trying any way to help you get some sleep.
I've been watching your videos for a while and know that he had reflux at one point. My son has reflux and is getting better now at 3 months. What has worked INCREDIBLE well is burping him for about 20min before putting him down. He would only have 20min stretches before then. He now sleeps from 7:00pm-6:00am. I know 20min is a long time but it's definitely worth it!
My baby won’t sleep on his back even swaddled he just would stare with his eyes open! I know they say not to let them sleep on his stomach but he will get no sleep otherwise I just make sure there are no blankets just his crib sheet. My pediatrician says it makes them feel secure but I’ve tried to get him to sleep on his back for naps and bedtime but he won’t maybe your little one would sleep better on his stomach. Having the owlet would be a good tool to have if your baby sleeps on his stomach
I think they all sleep better on their stomach. Stomach sleeping is much more natural. Could you sleep all night long on your back? I can’t back sleep at all! My kids were born in the 80’s, before this back sleeping started, so they always slept on their stomachs, and they were fine. I really question the supposed connection between stomach sleeping and SIDS. I never co-slept, either. They slept in their cribs from day 1.
Hi Kayla. Bad sleep begets bad sleep. I've learned from babywhisperer that the awake time for a 4mo old is 1hr and 25 mins to 1hr and 45mins. Longer than that it makes it hard for them to sleep. And tanking up at night could help him lengthen his first stretch at night. Hope that helps
Just because you’re breastfeeding doesn’t mean that’s why he’s not sleeping... my 1st son slept longer stretches at night from 10 weeks and he was formula fed. My 2nd little boy is exclusively breast fed and slept longer through night from 12 weeks. He’s 3 1/2 months now and he has recently done a few 11 hours stretches, so nothing to do with breastfeeding. Try not to stress too much about naps. I have an app that i use to track his feeds (only for piece of mind as I’m breastfeeding, so can’t see how much he’s getting), but I know that an average feed for him lasts 20 minutes which he’ll then be content after. But those apps can make people get obsessed over numbers, which isn’t natural. To be honest I don’t time his naps during the day, where ever he is when he falls asleep is where I’ll leave him (play mat, in my arms, in bouncer). He does nap, I just don’t time them or force him down to go to sleep in a particular place, as during the day I like to make sure to carry on as normal (I.e. don’t make it dark, still watch TV and not tip toe round him), as this helps with the whole day time/night time recognition... when you put him down for a nap does he show signs he’s tired or are you trying to stick to certain times (I.e. he’s been awake for X amount of hours, he must need a nap?) id maybe take a different approach and just be led by your baby, if he’s tired he’ll sleep 😴
Ok - so first- U doing great, stay strong, he will sleep better someday I promise xxx When my baby got that issue with sleeping I think I tried almost everything. 😅 My advice about night time routine its - ask ur husband to put him to sleep on night time ,maybe for first couple of day that will be hard but that will make some difference for Jackson when it's time to go to longer "nap" , that's just another way to explain little one its night time( dont forget to give him ur "night" milk ) another advice try to give little one ur t-shirt or anything what smells like you, sometimes baby wake up being scared because mama it's not there❤
Lots of great ideas. Inspiring content and suggestions. Truly enjoy your videos. Many of us consultants share so many different perspectives and it’s great to collaborate through video content. Great job
Thank you for sharing this video. My son (who coincidentally is also named Jackson 😆) is just going on 5mo and has always had issues with sleep. Haven’t been able to shake the co sleeping with him yet but he’s starting to nap better. His long stretch of sleep at night however doesn’t start until 3 or 4 AM which is so exhausting. Praying that both our babies will grow out of this phase so we can both get some much needed rest. 🙏
This brings back soooo many memories! Been there and it was not a joke. Jackson is exactly like my daughter. Exact same! But he’ll get better and better😁
I have 3 kids and with my last child I did the self sooth method and in the evening 2 hours before bedtime I would keep him awake until he was extremely tired. He slept thru the night no problem. Good luck.
I feel you!!!! My son just turned 4 months old last week. He has been having sleeping issues since we brought him home too and even got worse during his 2nd month. I've been having him nap in baby carrier too, and he can't take naps in his crib. He can nap on his play mat but not crib. We recently moved him to sleep in his crib at night and he took it pretty good that really surprised us, however, still no naps in the crib.
My kid did this. I stopped bringing her into the bed. Sucked for like 2 weeks then she got better with naps and the naps helped the night sleeping. Good luck!!
My newborn only took 30-45 minute naps... she slept 3-4 times a day and didn’t go to bed until 11ish, for every nap I was trying to cook or clean as quick as possible not knowing when she would be up....EVERY BABY IS DIFFERENT .. baby girl is now on 2 naps a day each 2 hours long.. this didn’t start until 6 months.. don’t stress they sleep longer as they grow.. he is still little
If you have a pram and a backyard, you should try the scandinavian way of doing naps. We let our babies sleep outdoors in their prams, with appropriate clothes of course. The fresh air just does something to them. My 4 month old (Dec.7) sleeps for a minimum of 1.5 hour each nap.
We're all just trying to survive as Moms mkay! It's a lot of trial and error. It seems like co-sleeping is a cultural thing and so is tummy sleeping. Here in the west it's a no-no but in a lot of other places co-sleeping is a "yes-yes." We're dealing with colic right now, my husband's working late nights and I have a very exhuberant 5yr old at home. The other night I just sat holding a screaming baby crying on the couch. It was a low point. I feel you about ticking time bomb. Nights have become dreaded getting only a few hours. We then had a good stretch of a cpl of says and now we're back to crying and not wanting to sleep. It takes such patience and we need to give ourselves grace.
Yess agree! My 3.5 month old would fight naps for a whole until I realized I had him up too long in between naps! Now I also don't let him go past 1.5hrs and he goes to sleep so much better now!!
I feel you so much! Trying to get a baby to sleep and then they wake up right when you set them down... so frustrating! You want your baby to sleep (and some me time for Mama). Tell me it gets better!
I so appreciate this!!! My newborn was a pretty good (no great) sleeper until about 2 weeks then she started sleeping less and less at naps and at night she will wake herself up grunting and appears uncomfortable, I’ve tried gas drops, gripe water, swaddle of course. I used to have to wake her up for feedings, now I’m having to hold her off. I’m just so frustrated and having many tearful days and nights. She of course sleeps great in my arms with no grunting or waking herself up. I’m just at a loss of what to do. This is my third baby too.
@@hannahschwalm2464 I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My little one is now 2 years old. When you’re in the thick of it, time seems to stand still.
I bath my baby girl at 6:40 every day! She’ll have her bottle after her bath and then go sleep around 8 and then wake up at 12 and that’ll be her last bottle until about 7:30/8 in the morning. She doesn’t nap much during the day either when they get to the 4 month mark they normally start cutting out naps and not take long naps through out the day. He’ll be going through sleep regression too so try and keep a consistent routine. You should also try a dummy with him too he might need something for comfort like a blanket or dummy x
Even I got tears while you are saying your pain. This was my situation with my boy 6years ago. Just remembered those hard times. He slept well after he is 3years 😫😵 I haven't thought of considering another baby until recently considering all these struggles with my first boy. I tried all suggestions given by friends n relatives, nothing worked for me because every baby is different. They gave suggestions what worked for their babies 😳. Even my kid is colic baby, almost was in same situation
I swear it's like we have the same child!! I feel this past so much especially the crying in frustration! My baby will ONLY take decent naps when I'm holding him the whole time.. he is my first so I have kinda spoiled him a little.. but I am going back to work next week so I have to figure it out this video helped thank you!! I have noticed he doesn't fight naps if I don't let his awake time go past 1.5hrs but night is the same bed at 9 and only wants to sleep for 30 the first time 🤷🏻♀️
Wow...Neither of my kids slept in our bed, ever. I was adamant about that. My bed is for me! When they woke up at night, I changed and fed them, and back to bed. If they cried, they cried! I figured they had to learn to self soothe, and they did. All this on the video sounds sooo crazy complicated!
@@lessehead different things work for different people. I can't listen to him cry, it's not for me, I believe babies cry for a reason and it's a huge adjustment for them to be separated from their parents. Sleep training just never fit with my parenting mindset. I work nightshift, when I'm home and sleeping normal it kept me sane to put him next to me, plus I missed him on the nights I had to work. Plus I think it fully helped with us having a successful breastfeeding journey. Everyone Does what works for them. No shame either way. I trusted my gut and didnt overthink it at all and I have zero regrets.
@@lindsayferber7511 Definitely. For me, when I knew they weren’t hungry, wet, had been cuddled, loved, and played with for hrs, and it was my bedtime, it was time for sleep! If they cried for a little bit, it wasn’t because they needed anything. I never had issues with them coming into our bed at night, so I was happy that we were able to avoid all that. They loved their rooms! Everyone needs to do what works for them. I just see a lot of people wondering why they can’t get their kids to stay in their own beds. It can be hard to break that habit once you allow it.
Can you make a video addressing how you safely cosleep? My daughter also lives sleeping in the bed with me and would love to see some of your cosleeping tips.
My daughter did this as well when she was ready to drop her last nap. Just move up his bedtime. Also every 4 months or so there’s a sleep regression that’s usually to blame for the lack of sleep. It’s terrible but it’ll get a bit better with consistency and time.
