Get Married, Even If You Are BROKE 

Good for you. I got married at 21, it's been the best decision I ever made. Haven't regretted it for a second

PROTECT this man. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a man in comments actually PRAISE marriage and his decision to marry. Thank you LORD.

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A good thing. Congrats.

Yes and I blame the previous generations and the marxists. Of course the marxists in particular wanted this. In their meetings they had a quasi liturgy where they basically said they wanted to make cultural revolution by destroying the American family and they wanted to do that by encouraging all forms of immoral sexual activity. Homosexuality, promiscuity, adultery, fornication, I think they may have even mentioned pedophilia but don’t quote me on that one. Evil stuff and may God hold them all to account for it.

Church women

Very impossible

Tell me about it. Finding an honest man, who fears God, and keeps his word, feels impossible. satan has really screwed people up.

@@PridelessChickz all a woman has to do is be the following: Fit, feminine, cooperative, little to no debt, good spending habits, 20’s (fertility), no promiscuous behavior in your past, not a leftist feminist type, no wild tattoos/piercings. Unfortunately, If you do the math, that might make up 1-2% of modern women. These basic criteria were met by the majority of our grandmothers/great grandmothers. When you set up a rigged game like this where virtually no women are providing what men want, those men either date casually or check out completely. Men have changed as a reaction to the profound change in women in the last 70 years.

dang. you better keep that wife*

It's so easy to not commit. It's very hard to commit, but it's such a fulfilling thing. It's hard to put into words how thankful I am to be able to commit to my wife completely, and have her do the same to me. I'm just happy. And btw, polyamory doesn't work for anyone, ever. Those relationships always end very badly. So I'm very glad you've found the fulfillment monogamy brings

Amen, happy for you

Or take the bus downtown, do it at city hall, and have your honeymoon in the park across the street.

@@hiramnoone even better!

Amen! It’s like a big show they put on! Everything so expensive and they go all out. It’s like you’re going to see a play. I am 53 and I got married when I was 26. And I didn’t even want to wedding I wanted to elope. The amount of money they are spending on a wedding nowadays is so out of control. The amount of money they spend on a dress that they are going to wear one day is crazy.

Who cares how big your diamond ring is. Honest to God, I told my husband I didn’t even want an engagement ring and I wanted to just go elope and I even said you can put tinfoil on my finger for a wedding ring lol We were together since high school. He had said he thought his mom might’ve been a little upset if he didn’t have a wedding because she was religious. If I had to go back and do it again, I wouldn’t of just went with that. Not only is it supposed to be what I want For my wedding, but I honestly don’t think his mother would’ve cared. I should’ve asked her but whatever. I can 100% tell you I never ever would dream or picture of what my wedding day was gonna be like and what my dress was going to look like! I used to always dream, and think about being a a stay at home, mother! Even at 10 years old, I would go to bed thinking of what boys are names I liked, and what girls names I liked. And I would pray to God and say, of course, I hope to be blessed with a healthy baby but again, here I am, since I was probably even younger than 10 saying, but I really would like to have a boy first and then have a girl second and for them to be really close in age. Well, guess what? I had a boy first and then 15 months later I had a girl and I wish I would’ve kept going to have four kids but due to a health condition, I didn’t want to risk it Raising my kids was by far the best time of my life!

We are coming up on 15 years of marriage this May; 18+ years together as a couple. Started with nothing and while we are not even middle class let alone wealthy, we have what we need and were even finally able to buy a house (that met basically all of our desires) a couple years ago.

Wow. Thank God you rebelled !

That's awesome

Gayer than monkeypox.

Liberal parents who are married and telling daughter to be promiscuous. Sure dad I bet you love that about mom don't you.

Beautiful testimony!

Thanks for commenting.

I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you find some solace in knowing you found something that many people spend their whole lives searching for.

My condolences, stay strong!

amazing, i am kinda in a similar situation, how did you handle it? please how can i get in touch with the spiritual adviser?

@@DavidVelasquez9 Here, Sylvia Regina White, she is a great spiritual adviser who can bring back your ex. lookher up, youll find her website

@@daviemanuel688 Impressive, thank you, i just looked her up

Fwiw, I got into that sailboat with a man who had no idea how to steer and was constantly looking to exit. Eventually he jumped into another boat, crashing our boat and forcing me overboard with no preserver with two kids. I learned alot about life.

Meanwhile, there are plenty of other folks in their own sailboats, using the wind and the seas to comfortably sail along without breaking much of a sweat. Time passes, and these same folks will sail past your original coupled sailboat which ran straight into a rocky shore, the man & woman are shipwrecked & fighting each other over the last coconut on the beach. At this time those sailing in their single manned boats will be grateful they had the ability to see the rocky shores and decided that riding those choppy waves was too dangerous.

@@tcgtpl It doesn't work that way. Two heads are always better than one.

Sir. You speak the truth. The others are blinded by their desires.

@@weste8464 I agree...And every time i thought about it I remembered the psychological damage it might have on my kids...

Marriage didn't do that to you. Divorce did.

Question for you friend: Are you a devoted Christian? And devoted Christian Husband and Father? Marriage is a Christian institution created by God. God will not bless unbelievers. And any kind of thoughts to your response to the above commenter would lead me to believe you’re not a Believer in Jesus Christ and have dealt treacherously with your wife

@@calewiley8521 yes I am a man of faith...She apparently lied about wanting to start a family and be a woman of faith and stopped attending soon after our first child was born

Except the standards for the men are higher... There's a reason why so many "traditional" men have given up altogether on dating.

@@jasono2139 Yep. Besides there are no virgin women anymore. So why bother.

@user-cz9jj2em2v there are... but they're not exactly pleasant on the eyes! 🫣

FACTS

Exactly!... How does Klavan not understand this?

You got that right

My husband and I were both very broken people. It was something we had in common. The broken edges seemed to fit together. Twenty years together in February. 💞

@@GenXfrom75 anecdotal.....do you have hard statistics that money is not a leading cause of divorce?

@@rorydash2711 I said *broken* as I missed the point of the original comment. But yeah, money is a very real cause for marital problems. Absolutely. I can only speak for my own marriage. My husband and I were broke and homeless while I was pregnant with our last child. We've hit rock bottom together. But thankfully, neither of us gave up 0n our marriage. Married 18 years in Aug and together 20 years in Feb 2023. He used his GI Bill to become a licensed electrician and certified welder so I could raise our children myself. And we're a blessed traditional two parent family.

@@rorydash2711 Are women not poor too? Do you have statistics to prove that females can't be poor or broken too? If you don't then you should think about what you said. There's someone for everybody.

Exactly. Until family law is changed marriage is a financial risk for a man.

Cynical take

@@nicford1486 factual take. Look at the law and the statistics. Laws can be changed and in this case they should be if we want marriage rates to improve.

Sure you can! Just get rich... There's plenty of women out their who'd love to take half of your money! 🤑

@@jasono2139 You think Yesica is a man's name?

@@Yesica1993 bruh... You can identify however you want!

​@@Yesica1993 I'll marry you

Amen brother!

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But you have your daughter. She's not a mistake. So there was a reason.

​@@GenXfrom75 you think the best when it's the worst.

I am the same condition. Bought into feminist nonsense and now the odds in my upper middle aged years.

I tell my friends there are a lot of women out their. Be nice to all and you can find the right one. As for the guys that are getting married I tell them “now that you are getting married do you want to practice with me” they say are you crazy or what. I say it’s easy just give me your paychecks! Now that is what it’s like being married.

FACTS!!!

No, I would advise BECOME the type of person who can be financially sound, and loyal, and compassionate, and generous. You look for a spouse who has the same VALUES you do. You find those people in the same institutions where people of those values tend to congregate... which is not the bars.

Actually it's a bit worse than that... The people who tend to be married and STAY married are also smart enough to realize that getting a divorce will cause them all kinds of financial pains. Thus why some married people stay together even if they really couldn't care less for each other anymore.

​@@Objective-Observer people don't change.

Exactly this.

Yep! Same

Funny, how this 'study' failed to see that. That is exactly what I've seen in co-habitation.

There's no long term commitment. Both parties know they can walk away tomorrow with no penalty. When you know you have legal and financial ties, you're more motivated to make things work. Obviously, people still choose to break their vows. But if you're married, it's much more complicated and difficult. When you're shacking up and fornicating, you can just walk out the door and that's that.

@@Yesica1993 Yes, and if you never commit your finances to the justification of both parties, you never learn to work together for a common goal. Marriage develops discipline: moral, emotional and financial, but the author of the story just can't understand that.

...Unless they have something else they want.

The thing is, you can have tons of fun being married. Unless their definition of "fun" is sleeping around, and that is the case for many people, but as we all know, sleeping around is one of the most depressing and damaging things a human being can do. So yeah, not exactly what I'd call fun. Spending time with my wife is fun. Building a life together is fun. It truly is

@@weste8464 That sucks that you've clearly had a bad experience, but not everyone is like that. Ironic that you say he's "young and dumb" when you have such a narrow and childlike view of life and people, my friend.

@@rawman44 women want to be married to billionaires so marriage isn't feasible for the ordinary man

@@rawman44 The thing is, I don't want to marry a woman who has a high body count, and I want my freedom. So I will never be married

​@@rawman44 until she gives you the papers and takes the house you must be 40+ to talk like this.

Agreed. Big time. 💯

Well, hope you are not living in the West...

@mathisnotforthefaintofheart what goes for America goes for almost tje whole world. I live in South Africa, talked with a girl and she said body count is important to her. That sounded very familiar to me *cough* Western women *cough*

@@TheOne-oo6fq ah yes south Aftica the former English colony. Hey wait wasn't America, Canada, asutralia, and New Zealand also English colonies. Aren't they all considered western. Woah that's crazy. Also, she cares about body count? As in she doesn't want someone to high or to low?

​most good women don't like men who sleep around. Those type of men are less likely to stay faithful.

It is the greatest advice young people can receive

Oh God totally agree!

He should just take a look at the "median" single woman today... That alone would explain why we're heading in the direction we are. 🤦

Its not that married people are getting rich its that rich people are getting married

Bruv. It wasn’t the conservative who liberalized the divorce laws. 🫠

@@HapyyTheCat but conservatives also don’t wanna acknowledge the problem exists either

@@the_smoking_patriot3993 It is the boomer conservatives who haven't had to enter the dating market in the last 5 years or longer. They totally cannot imagine women are different today than 40 years ago. They are clueless to how online dating, tik tok, and facebook have infected the women of today.

@@rickiecomeaux8287 oh I agree completely, that’s why I roll my eyes when people like him or those on the “right” on Fox News just say GET MARRIED without a clue to how it is out there

Yup... I get really tired of these near-sighted, idiotic takes from conservative commentators who over-look all the correlated factors behind marriage and wealth. It's about as dumb as pointing out that "fathers earn more! 🤪"... Having a child DOES NOT earn you a raise! 🤦

Show me on the prenup where she touched you....

@Fenwick Chick I'm literally married dip💩... 🤦

My man, I think you need some counseling. You are getting done dirty

@@nicford1486 lol... We did counseling!! 🤣 We did that until the counselor, more or less, told her she had unrealistic expectations... Then came the waterworks... and after that I knew it wasn't really counseling that she wanted, but validation (to beat me over the head with). She just wanted to hear "yes, you're totally correct! Your husband should be doing everything you want!".

Lucky you...stay single!

@@mathisnotforthefaintofheart But it sucks being alone and not having anyone to come home to.

@@Mach9330 You need to increase your social circle, my friend!

@@mathisnotforthefaintofheart I know. It doesn't help when you work long hours and don't have a lot of time for much else.

@@Mach9330 If you don't have much time for anything else, then you are not husband material either. Think about it from HER perspective too.

Because it is clearly Biblical and most men and women are not true Born again Believers. That is why the sky rocketing divorce rates. Do you think Andrew is lying? He is giving it to you from the horses mouth. He is a professing Believer in Jesus Christ

@@calewiley8521 I’m a believer in Christ too, didn’t stop my ex wife from neglecting me and emotional abuse and leaving me. And if we wanna be real here, how does the church help? Every church I have been to basically told women your queens and all the responsibility falls on the man, no accountability to the woman what so ever.

@@the_smoking_patriot3993 most churches fly rainbow flags too. That's why it's important to find one that vocally opposes these things

@@col.cottonhill6655 I agree 100%, seems to be getting harder these days.

​@@the_smoking_patriot3993 bleah, I'll get this correct eventually. So, where did you meet your wife? In church, or a bar or at work? Tell me, did you have have carnal relations with her, before marriage?There isn't a church in my part of Fundamentalist Central, west Texas, that doesn't put the onus on the women to be chaste, and demure, and CELIBATE until they are married. They aren't lambasting the guys to be celibate, just the women. That is a woman's main responibility before she is married. Why didn't you choose one of those women? They are out there, and are whining as loud as y'all, that good men don't want them, because they aren't physically perfect like a Hollywood starlet. Only horrible men want them, because the women are eager to please, and then easy to abuse.

Young women lost a precious skill older generations used to have, how to recognize a man's potential and "invest" in him

Please don't group us all together, if you are. Some young women still have brains and discernment. God bless you in Jesus' name

Now that would be a good interview

Try catholicmatch

Same here

@@reaperhound1699 I just finished the final book. You won't be disappointed

@@scottbrooklyn2995 Onto the next book then !

Damn, talk about insanity

You’re only supposed to marry 1 time. As long as you both shall live

@@calewiley8521 Funny how people forget that part of it.