I have lived in Fight or Flight Mode for 30 years Now! It is a miracle I am alive. And I have suffered many various and assorted Symtoms..but I am learning! Thank You..Dan..for your good work and your Caring.
Since discovering you early this week I have been binge watching your videos. You’re calm and deliver your message in that cool and calm way-with a smile on your face. I realized when taking my walk I would be tense-so wound up and now I have been loosening up , being in the moment. Now to work on talking to my brain--in that cool and calm way. Thank you Dan. 😊
How people can thumbs down this is beyond me, this man is a genius, and so many are grateful for his work including me, it gets me through the day. Thank you Dan!
Very helpful. Just discovered sarno’s books a week ago. Thank you. The “oh no” vs. “oh well” video really helped me last night. I had myself convinced I had an autoimmune disease for almost 2 years. Realizing it is tms. Bloodwork normal, nothing extraordinary in MRIs. Realizing now I can greatly reduce or even turn off the pain (but it’s temporary and moves somewhere else). First time I’ve felt hopeful in a while.
I’m 24 parents Got divorced at a really young age which cause me to be stuck with this fight or flight mode to support myself which I recently became aware of , I got super sick cause I literally over work myself to the point I couldn’t get out of bed to go work an I bump into this video thanks man really helpful...
Really glad to be of help. If you are looking for a few more strategies - this video linked here have my suggestions: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3vJgBnrhFt8.html If you'd like more information on what causes chronic health problems, check out the video at: PainFreeYou.com
I’m a wife and mother, and my husband has childhood trauma, CPTSD, depression, and likely a personality disorder (a therapist said this, then my husband never went back). I’ve been with him for 9 years. He really has put in work to improve and heal, and he is a wonderful father. But he is not a good husband, he puts in effort with every other person he comes across, but I’m who gets him without any effort. I’m sad to say that it is horrible. We got together when I was 36, and I never had chronic pain before. I’ve had chronic pain since about 18 months into our relationship, all in my pelvis and back. I’m just now, like in the past week, grasping that it is all emotional. When he’s loving and respectful towards me (or even just bland) I’m fine. When he gets stressed or feeling depressed.pm he takes it out on me... and my back starts to spasm, leading to days (sometimes weeks) of immense pain. I won’t leave him, because as I’ve said, he’s a great father. Our children are little and I know how divorce damages children. The good news is that I’ve learned how much my emotions and “perceived danger” are making my life worse with this pain - so I have something to move forward with now.
I appreciate your teachings very much. While I knew I’ve been in fight or flight mode much of my life, I had trouble changing it because I felt I was lying to myself in some way by not facing reality. Your wording has helped… especially the part about saying frightening things to ourselves. I thought “I wouldn’t do that to anyone I love, why am I doing it to myself” that hit home . I also wanted to mention I went on a very very low carb animal based diet 5 1/2 months ago and it greatly lessened my inflammation, and cured my restless leg syndrome, and many other things esp metabolic health. But I still was stuck with my depressive pain Full way of thinking and could not get out of home or entertain hanging with others. So I am working on this now, and it is much easier because I have only a few pains left . This hopefully will help others. Thanks ❤
I eat mostly carnivore myself. When I am strict, I feel amazing. Fortunately I have no pains or symptoms to resolve, but overall health, energy, sinus congestion and body weight is so much better on carnivore.
@@PainFreeYou I am wondering if you have anything that may help me to deal with grief, I just can’t help despair I feel because I feel I can never have a relationship as special as with whom I lost. I just don’t know how to put in perspective without feeling so victimized. It’s been 10 years of depression since the loss. Thanks
@@beingbenign2685 I'm not sure how old you are, but it's never too late to meet someone special in your life. At 58 years old, I am still dating and not in a serious relationship yet. I hold out hope. Begin to envision your ideal partner. Focus on making yourself into the best version of yourself so you can attract that quality of partner into your life. I believe in you. Regarding the grief, I have recorded a few videos on grief: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-2wZTUonNM88.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-UWBXQOoWuhw.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-CcSg3DI6P1U.html
I have been in the fight or flight stress response to some extent for years and it is no wonder that I deal with the various chronic pains and sensations. Your videos make it so much easier to understand the process.
Mine was on off year ago Then stress increased Pain also Symptoms too Vertigos panic anxiety Mild insomnia My symptoms became severe after i burnt out nd didnt care for my mind body Now.they are mild Im recovering thnx dan Ill see u in 🎉 in the success stories inshallah
If being abused, and/or in an unsafe situation, it is important to be able to stay reasonably calm. Because it's very hard to think clearly and intelligently when in freeze fight or flight. It's as though the brain literally just can't think, and when scared and overwhelmed, that unfortunatly starts to kick in.
I dont experience chronic pain (i used to but had a surgery which resolved the issue), but i do have pretty extreme anxiety symptoms/attacks and your videos are extremely helpful for me. Thank you so much, I finally feel like I understand what's going on and why I start to feel so bad despite nothing actually being wrong
Hello Dan . , I've been watching your videos after suffering with debilitating embedded uti pelvic floor dysfunction, tinnitus and muscle spasms and severe pelvic pain 😢 struggling with this journey .. enjoying watching your videos very much
I have been healthy all my life, but have been plagued with aches snd pains. I have used natural remedies and exercise, yoga, dance. And those things have helped. But these teachings that you bring are the real key to bring balance, ease and pain free for me . Thank you so much .
I wish I saw this video back in 2017 when I was going to college. In the fall of 2017 I broke up with my girlfriend. I thought she gave me a disease and I prolonged going to a doctor for a a year and half. It ate me up night and day. The thought of having a disease set off my fight or flight response. I really am disappointed because I went and got checked two years later and I had nothing. But the damage was done. Believing that fear ruined my life. I can’t even get out of the parasympathetic mode. I have no drive, no appetite, I can eat and not get full, chronic pain, sleep is deeply disturbed, I can’t sleep for more than an hour without waking up. This has been going on since the fall of 2019. Only time it seemed to get better when I smoked weed for 4 months. My best advice for anyone that’s experiencing a constant fight or fight response. Stop it or you’ll wind up similar to me. It really sucks I don’t wish it on anyone. Thank you for the video. Any tips to help reverse this would be awesome :/ I’m so depressed
Yes, the way out is the opposite of what got you where you are today. Learn to turn down the fear with accurate information that your body is actually fine. My suggestions are in this video: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3vJgBnrhFt8.html And watch my videos: ru-vid.comvideos I post a new one every single day - free coaching all on how to settle down a nervous system.
I happen to be in a toxic household that has set me on fight or flight: I can’t just move overnight so I have to tolerate it for now. This state has been affected my romantic relationship and I really want to change it.
I understand. But I got well in the middle of my marriage falling apart. You can still get well. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-twNl7iv4K0Y.html
This video is 2 years old and I’m glad I’ve found this because I’m constantly stuck in fight or flight mode. Constant panic attacks, racing heart, shortness of breath. This is so hard to get out of.
How you respond is key. Trying to fix morning anxiety makes it worse. Allow it to pass. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-DG6XV7C6pRs.html @@MsEdwin9000
Jeez, I've been in fight or flight mode for days now. Like a constant state of anxious, every minute and every second of every day. The symptoms are scaring me. I cannot switch it off. I know there is no reason to be anxious, but I just cannot turn it off in my brain 😭
I understand. Here's a video that may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3vJgBnrhFt8.html Not sure what TMS is? Watch the video at: PainFreeYou.com Not sure if your symptoms are TMS? Take the pain test. DanBuglio.com/paintest Want to end the symptoms: Ending TMS - a summary ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3vJgBnrhFt8.html
Thank you Dan...I came to your channel via The Steady Coach and have PPPD - a lot of what you say overlaps and it makes so much sense. Can't wait to watch more.
For some reason, this one popped up on your FB page this morning and I really needed to hear this message TODAY. For the last few days I have awakened, not in physical pain, but in the crazy world of anxiety which for me is worse than physical pain. I come to my journal first thing and I try to get rid of it. Realizing that pushing it away with great fear wasn't helping, I tried to accept it and have an open house as you have suggested in the recent past. (I simply love that imagery, btw.) But this anxiety is a hard friend to accept. So... THIS! I realize once again that I am working too hard. Today I will try harder (LOL) to have fun. :)
It's interesting. Anxiety is not a problem to be solved. It's simply another feeling that, while uncomfortable, is not dangerous. If we simply stop resisting it and stop trying to get rid of it and allow ourselves to feel anxious - it will pass. Many people give themselves anxiety attacks trying to get rid of.... anxiety.
Hello, I'm new to the channel. I really enjoyed the video, it's like a one on one talk and I like the simplicity and calming nature. My symptoms of chronic fatigue began after my relationship ended later got worse after I felt betrayed by my best friend. I suffered a lot of grief and had ongoing confusement and thoughts over the losses. Now I'm suffering from chronic fatigue after covid. Not to blame anyone, I think I was just overwhelmed by lifes events. I did not even think of it being connected possibly. I do believe in recovery, thank you for the video.
Thank you so much for helping us ground and giving us the tools to calm and maintain and get back to enjoying life. Also thank you for your outdoor videos! We are of this earth and need to be connected to it. I beat crippling anxiety and have been off of SSRIs for 8 years by walking, gardening, breathing exercise, eating well, and confronting my very traumatic childhood in which I was constantly afraid and performing. Your videos help remind me that I am safe and life is good and it’s just my silly body being stuck, but in actuality I am free and can be happy even right now ❤
Hi, Dan, I'm a fairly new subscriber and I am getting so much value from your guidance. You mentioned breathing in this video...what are your thoughts on nose breathing vs mouth breathing and how each can engage either the para or sympathetic nervous system? I tend to wake up with very dry cotton mouth, and in researching this I found it is due to mouth breathing during sleep. Then I learned that mouth breathing engages the sympathetic nervous system, whereas nose breathing engages the parasympathetic. I tried to consciously nose breathe, and it felt really awkward, which tells me perhaps my constant mouth breathing has been contributing to my living in fight or flight for so long from past trauma. It's just been a few days of practicing nose breathing during the day and using mouth tape during sleep, and I'm feeling calmer already. I will also use the advice in this video to continue the soothing/stress balance I need. Thank you, Dan, for what you do.
I haven't heard much about mouth versus nose breathing as it relates to TMS. We cannot control our mouth breathing during sleep, so I wouldn't worry about it. During the day, you can influence your breathing slightly by noticing if your mouth is open or not. Which type of breathing makes you feel better/safer? Do that. Deciding you are doing it wrong and stressing about it likely adds more fear than just breathing in whatever way you do.
I always freeze when in a bad situation or when im very stressed but today I had trauma rage 😔!!! Never had that before!!!! Scared me that I had that awful embarrassing freak out response to a bad situation!!! I literally felt like I was fighting for my life 🫣!!! Your video has helped me understand why because....yeah I realized I haven't been sleeping, been dissociated, very stressed out, not eating well and putting everyone else first!!! My CPTSD has been really bad lately!!! Will take your advice 🌻 thank you
The other thing too is taking wise efforts to calm down the amygdala - there are many ways to do it and its not a mystery, its in our sphere of control and can apply techniques every time. Whereas for me the deeper emotional processing is tougher, less obvious, a bit of an unknown landscape. Not to say it isnt important to address MBS, but I agree that getting out of the "reactive" mode is the first and most fundamental thing if nothing else than to keep things from getting worse, or triggering even more issues (anxiety, depression) that can happen if we stay in the stress response too much/long.
Yeah - this is what I need - I have been trying for weeks. It seems I am stuck and so my muscles are aching all over. I am trying to get re-frame my thoughts today. Accept the thoughts, let them go.
Getting assaulted and feeling a real fight or flight situation made me realise my anxiety and panic attacks albeit scarey and still releasing all the chemicals were not the same. Silver lining
0 seconds ago Hi there Dan I am totally trapped in fight or flight frozen the Anxiety the worst ever is so bad am sure it's going to kill me'most doctors in UK just want to put me on meds also on nighty zopiclone for sleep these are Not helping me indeed I feel making me worst zopiclone are a horrible ! sleep med Dan I know when the fight & flight is about to hit ! me like a express train your video is spot on in the breakdown about the triggers & mind tools to recovery Dan ps I have just signed on to your Facebook page cheers my friend
Making a playlist to listen to while playing jazz etc... I have chronic migraines, and doing the TMS wiki program years ago helped amazingly. WHY am I so resistant to doing it again? Migraines have gotten much worse. Singing is REALLY helpful. Just a lullaby or an old traditional song is easy to try. Great advice. I wake up with anxiety every day, and the migraine follows immediately. The abortive meds aren't working much anymore. I also notice my tongue (although clean!) is grey/white when I get migraines. It's like I'm suffocating on anxiety. When I am energised and healthy - my tongue is pink and healthy. I am also very fit and active - exercise very much WHEN I have no migraines. Migraines are literally Killing me. Suicidal ideation comes with each one.
I understand how distressing this can all be. But when you KNOW that it's merely a stress response and nothing physically wrong, you can embrace an approach that leads out out of this pain cycle. This video has my suggestions. Embrace and implement these concepts and you can get well. Many have. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3vJgBnrhFt8.html Here is a success story for migraines from a couple weeks back that may give you some hope: facebook.com/PainFreeYouNow/posts/770495697041564
My Thoughts are literally make me sick so i reflect on it and this are just thoughts you recognize them just as thoughts you are in Control because there are not real
The awareness now is ALL talking about the same thing. Eckart, Mooji, Sarno, Gabor Mate etc. Everything is what you feel. Everything is what you believe. Trauma is the issue.
I get often into fight flight because of subconscious fear, I often don't notice the trigger until my symptoms flared so bad I can barely talk. (For years I didn't even know what triggered them, so I really didn't fear it, but my body did!) So I had to learn to calm my nervous system via the body, because thinking "I'm safe" didn't help at all, because I never consciously felt unsafe. I think many people can't recognize the roll of stress because they are not aware of it, because it all happens subconsciously and very fast. (For example getting symptoms from loud noise, heat, high heart rate)
Great point. The first signs of stress are often felt in the body. Becoming body aware and noticing if our breath becomes shallow, or our chest feels tight, if our body is tense can absolutely help.
Great talk yes I suffer with bad anxiety so it increases my pain and all I do is think about my pain from the time my feet hit the floor until bed I really must change my thought process because it consuming my life with causes depression and all I want to do is sleep and cry not a way to live..
What if the fight or flight turns down by itself ? If ur not hyper focused on it and try to do things which are important to your life despite the symptoms. I find that thought helpful. What if there is no problem to be solved anymore. But y probably the hardest thing to do when symptoms are high. To have the trust that you can lean back a bit.
The body self regulates. It's our job to create the feeling of safety and not fuel the perception of danger with our thoughts and behaviors. DansfastStart.com
The adrenal glands are totally responsible for how you feel. I take GABA 750 mg four times a day along with L theanine 200 mg three or four times a day. Helps to relax.
Omg I was, to late my thoughts were horrible and hoppa I went straight to the fight and flight zone grrrr working now hard to stay calm will go for a walk also I am very angry about everything my symptoms people situations I know that it is the tms am sooo fat up with everything... Don't have many friend to go to right now grr try to relax but soo difficult now am breathing deep now will sing in the dunes will practice with your help in this video... Thank you Dan not a good day I quess
As long as my late mother was alive, even in a debilitated condition, I must have felt essentially safe because none of my TMS back pain or sciatica manifested as symptoms until about 3-months after her death in 2001. Until then I was always being a good over-achieving No. 1 son. But shortly after her death I blew off a contract that I didn't like very much and began a fanatical program of trail running. One night of course when I got back to my late mother's house (which I'd just inherited mind you), I was struck down with a major back attack that led to 6-months of physical therapy. Which of course worked for a while. But the next time I suffered a major emotional loss, bango the sciatica and LBP came back with a vengeance, triggered of course by you guessed it, a fall I took out trail running. Looking back you can sure detect the pattern!
In hindsight the powerful unconscious symbolic pattern sure stands out though! But looking ahead is actually the scariest part. Is that one reason the pain persists?
@@peachesmcgee4795 Yes, loss & separation from a parent really makes you feel insecure and unsafe too. Really activates the neural pain pathways in the brain.
Anxiety / Fear / Danger is the issue. Safety is always the solution. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-tnU6KBAv5fg.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-5SsKnAgAvnY.html
I have had pelvic pain for 8 years because of fight or flight. My doctors say my pelvic nerves are stuck causing horrific burning in my vagina. I am seeking nerve blocks or a surgical process called interstim. Your information is very helpful but I may be out of time to help myself. Thank you, Rita
Wonderful. Focus on safety now. That's the way to recover. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-VSmTe8zPXh0.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-5SsKnAgAvnY.html
Thank you. Your videos help me a lot as I navigate symptoms and give me SO much hope, you’re a blessing. Just wondering what other success videos you have on people who were given “cfs” labels? I’d love to see more of this. I watched rebeccas, another woman’s and a man’s video but I’m curious if there’s others
Hi I have pelvic pain too. A beast of a condition! symptoms: Urinary frequency... tight muscles in pelvic floor which cause "bathroom problems" on both ends,.. My main issue is several rectal pain (I can't sit due to this which limits my life tremendously ) . My pelvic floor physical therapist notes that a muscle group in the pelvic floor is "stuck in spasm " thus the pain and dysfunction..She knows this pain better than any doctor, (doctors are clueless about it) . Every time I use the bathroom and have trouble " emptying" I'm over-using/ squeezing these muscles which I think creates / exacerbates the rectal pain . This causes of stress, getting through the day. However I am blessed to have a home by the beach (we bought this year). I can walk to ocean and swim ....the area is more relaxed....etc.
The concept I have introduced called perceived danger pain/symptoms explains a lot. Give it a watch. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-tnU6KBAv5fg.html
Good video. An argument with my girlfriend turned my fight or flight on 3 days ago and I got the fuck out of there but have been stuck in this panic attack mode ever since even though we have made up since. The body is a strange unit. Thanks for the info
Your number one job is convincing your brain that you are SAFE. If you know what TMS is and believe you have it, you are safe in your body. This video explains what I believe is necessary to end symptoms.
I have to for 6 years and its effecting everything in my life except sleep. I sleep like a rock. My only issue is when I'm in it I cough a lot. And it's like living in hell. I'm beyond tired.
I'm borderline and frequently get triggered and fight or flight is my response. I go 0 to 60 in seconds flat and can feel a rush of adrenaline through my body. I'm in a relationship and its fear of him wanting someone else even for a moment and its killing me. I wish I could love myself like he does. Growing up in a domestic violent home with years of cortisol I believe is how it started alongside neglect. It's a hellish way to live and I have no say in this.
I'm so sorry you had such a difficult childhood. The good news is that there IS a way to recover from this. Your trauma is not happening right now. Creating safety in your present moment is what will help you out. Nobody is too far broken to recover. Nobody. Focus on safety in the present. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Ez9Ez49M8Ig.html
I've been in pain now for going on 8 years and find that Anger has now become an additional emotion that I need to deal with, because I just cant release this "THING" that is stuck in my Colon . . . this intense energy sucking discomfort . . . whatever it is...😵💫😖🤦♂
My limbic system is constantly reacting and in alarm. I react to most foods and chemicals and smells and major fatigue. Alot of things trigger me easily. This all started after surgery and antibiotics
My overall recommendations are in this video. While I mention pain a lot, the same exact concepts are able to teach the brain and entire nervous system to settle down. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3vJgBnrhFt8.html
@@mindful__gardener YES, stress illness / TMS can cause all sorts of symptoms. This page shows all the wild stuff it can cause: PPDAssociation.org/symptoms Check it out.
@@mindful__gardener My methods are all about teaching your brain that you are safe NOW and calming down the brain. Once the brain calms down, the nervous system and limbic system settle down too. My approach is in the video here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3vJgBnrhFt8.html I don't believe confronting stress and past trauma does much to convince our brain and nervous system that it is safe now.
Hi Dan. Thank you for all your videos. Can you talk about coming off some of the psychiatric medication that causes withdrawal symptoms? Such as benzoclonopines?
If you search within my channel for "medication", the first three videos talk about my general thoughts on it. This is not medical advice, just my thoughts. ru-vid.comsearch?query=medication
If I've been in fight of flight a couple of years, could that taken all my energy so I can't go for walks, or I got so week in 2-3 days after just activating myself a little..? Thank you , I will now start with all your tips🙏✨✨✨
Vicki, fatigue is definitely stress related. Watch this video for my thoughts in this area. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-k-zLCQsxLAU.html
Im a 31yo man, my mind feels like a 7 year old sometimes. Im immature and emotional. I put my wife and kids through hell and she wants a divorce. I had reached bliss once before and now im stuck in my thoughts. I really need to let go of stuff and move on, build self confidence ect. But its so hard right now. Im trying to let go of pain of marriage, molested at 5 and 7 years old, neglected childhood, and now discovered my son and i are autistic. I dont want to hurt others anymore. I dont want to dump my pain on my wife anymore. Someone help me please.
I might suggest you rename your profile. Calling yourself pathetic is likely not helpful. I'm very sorry you had such a tough childhood. Awful stuff. A few videos that may help. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-A6Z6KO7b0lE.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-GBecoK2k93k.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-5SsKnAgAvnY.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-iRIsuAXYsq4.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-buP0NSOkQAE.html Your story says you are broken. Changing that story and not believing those thoughts is the beginning. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-yJRytY-Fcpw.html
@@PainFreeYou thanks this helps. hope i didnt drag you down too much. remember you arent responsible for everyones pain, your videos alone are enough. thanks for your kind response. im in a better mental state now. i remember making this comment and since then thinking about it sometimes and hoping i wasnt infecting someone with it. namaste.
This works really well. Even just an icepack or cold flannels on your forehead, temples, and cheeks will reduce your heart rate too. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-00RKh6NRMqc.html
Is it possible to have weakness in legs arms , im been in fight flight all time .. My daughter trigger my trauma ( Cptsd ) how to heal ???? Have so much pain, anixety, depersonalisation, inflammation in my face
Anxiety is just another symptom imperative. Many people juggle between, anxiety and physical symptoms , one is up and the other is down alternately . Did you personally go through the anxiety side of tms or did you only have back and leg pain ?
Hey Dan this is my main concern right now is fight or flight. My challenge right now is how to turn it off. It's on 24 hours a day 7 days a week and I'm trying so desperately to turn off fight or flight. I could sure use some help on that. It's my challenge of the day, the week, the month. Please direct me to where I can get additional assistance for this. I need to turn off the fight or flight response in my head and just saying to my brain stop it doesn't seem to get it. I'm scheduled to talk to psychiatrist about this in the next week. I don't want to go on drugs I want to do this naturally. I'm being a fool? Please sir let me know your thoughts. I'm new to your web page and I'm trying so hard to get over this TMS. Thanks Rodger
Rodger. Trying "desperately" to get out of the stress response is keeping you in it. Fight or flight is simply a state that you are in right now. The solution is calm. Being in fight or flight is not the problem, it's the result of the problem. Perceived Danger. The best way I can assist is to have you start from the beginning. My getting started page is a great place to learn more and assess your situation. Once you do that, there are a couple paths you can follow. All on this page: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
I still keep feeling the fight and flight. It started up 8 weeks ago and just won’t settle down. I am exhausted. I don’t know what kicked it on. Whenever I do the breathing I hyperventilate or over breathe. I meditate and I take breaks. Just not sure what to do to get this to settle down. Thanks for your great video though. You have some good suggestions. I just have not succeeded at settling down
Pain will subside when someone has successfully neutralized the fear and the brains perceived danger. It's different for everyone. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-VSmTe8zPXh0.html ru-vid.com/group/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
Every morning i get out of bed with real pain, can't stand straight on bend over, so i started thinking of the moment I do these 35 min exersice after morning coffee, the thought and exersice helps to a certain extent, any other ideas to cope?
This is my entire roadmap to ending pain. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3vJgBnrhFt8.html Right now you have a conditioned response and expect to hurt upon waking. Begin to teach your brain that there is NO reason to hurt in the AM. The exercise is keeping you focused on the body when the pain is coming from the mind. The framework taught in the video above is what I recommend.
I too am in my late 60’s suffering with high anxiety ---then the back starts to hurt. Is talking to my brain helpful with Generalized anxiety disorder? I ‘ll find out from taking your advice about talking to my brain. Massively uncomfortable is how I feel.
I feel disconnected from my kids and always on edge and fatigued I feel like im gonna run crazy and I feel weird like there's something wrong with my nerves. Always feeling Luke I'm in a dream
@@nmash6835 I used to do one-on-one coaching, but now I am focused on doing my coaching via a video course and group sessions that meet weekly. There are 4 sessions and you can show up to any one of them or multiple sessions if you want more help. All the details are here: www.PainFreeYou.com/join
Feb 2022 I broke my sternum on a locked seat belt.. The ribs got pushed bad and have have never stopped hurting... 14 months now.. I am locked in and freaking out in flight or flight... This morning i felt ok'ish so I did 2 laps of breststroke at the pool and and few physio stretched... 4pm in the after now and my chest is killing me.. It's been killing me more that is been feeling ok for the last 14 months.. So my a guts hurt , my chest hurt.... Seeing a pain managment team soon..
Perceived danger explains it all. Tomorrows video on Fear + Attention = Chronic Pain. Your ribs healed long ago. The brain perceiving danger is why the pain continues. Watch this to understand. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-tnU6KBAv5fg.html
@@PainFreeYou two weeks ago I met with the lead doctor at the Pain Clinic.. My chest gets worse as the day goes on.. The doctor there suspects I have Osteo Arthritis. Maybe I do maybe I don't. But he planted the PDP in my head.. Add to that 3 weeks ago my colon got blocked and bloated... Clear now but has given me pain I don't need. Last week I said to a phyio buddy of mine, IF i do have Osteo Arthritis in my chest, what exercises would you suggest. He said "Slow swimming, walking, Dead Bug and Child Walk.. (Last 2 are physio moves.. I immediately donned my swimmers and went to the pool.. Nice and slow 3 Rounds 2 laps swimming 10 Dead Bugs 10 Child walks Later that day my chest exploded in pain.. It took 2 days of it to calm down. While swimming I did not perceive danger.. I believed it was going to help. Yesterday morning I figured I had just done too much.. So I swam again, did just a fraction of the workout.. Again, my chest exploded.. When it did my guts hurt more..
@@parttimedrummer2064 I do not believe osteoarthritis is causing your pain. Perceived danger does not need to be conscious. If you had a problem with your chest, why did it not hurt DURING exercise? Why did it wait till the next day to "explode in pain". Perceived danger does that. The brain does that. And it's run by the subconscious. Even though you believed the exercise would help, you believe you have a physical problem, thus the physio and the exercises. You have zero evidence other than the "opinion" of a doctor that you have osteo or that this theorized osto is causing the pain. Getting clear that your body is actually already okay is job #1. Perceived danger explains it all to me. Watch this and see if this makes sense to you. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-tnU6KBAv5fg.html
I mean @PainFreeYou typical anxiety place for pain is middle of the top colon.. But mine was stretched just a couple of weeks ago and it has not let me forget it. And it hurts all the way right to left, and right to down on the accending colon. This is my chest pain.. I try to smile. I listen to music. I meditate.. I work on my drum pad project I am building but at the end of the (my) day, I'll be in bed around 5pm.. I'll not sleep, but I hurt so so much. Not pain meds touch the colon and my gastro doctor told me to not take any pain meds..
@@PainFreeYou I recently made the connection that rock climbing (among other things including life's daily responsibilities) has been putting my body in a TMS based stress response causing chronic pain. I can't stomach the thought of giving it up, but there are literally instances where i'm putting myself in positions that would end very poorly if i were to mess up. i try to reduce that risk as much as possible, but my subconscious is apparently very much aware of what's going on.
@@williamsanders5554 TMS doesn't start because you are doing something you love that has an element of danger to it. It starts to protect us from an emotional world our brain perceives we can't handle or doesn't fit with our self image. Follow the steps in this video to learn the essential elements to ending TMS pain: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3vJgBnrhFt8.html
Steve, one of the ways you can get help is through some coaching. Two choices. 1 on 1 or through my course and group membership. I'm booked out for a month for my 1 on 1, but the group which includes the video course can be joined at any point and we have weekly group sessions on Wednesdays. 1pm and 7pm Eastern time zone. Details here: PainFreeYou.com/join
Talking about survivor instincts why am I more easily triggered (disturbed) when I’m thinking/planning as opposed to acting naturally/spontaneously ???
Pain Free You I mean when I’m being myself in conversation I don’t get triggered as easily but when I’m being more analytical in conversation I get triggered and become inhibited. I assume it’s because when your thinking it’s a process so others people’s mannerisms can be distracting to that process and you can become confused. But being yourself no process is going on. So I wanted to know when you premeditate is the brain more susceptible to being triggered??? (Fight or flight response)
@@Peacemakerblue Of course, trying to think your way through a conversation means you aren't even paying attention to the conversation because you are so concerned with how you are being perceived. If you are in the present and just talking, there is no self judgment. If you analyze every word and the other persons reaction, you will obviously trigger stress. Make a decision to simply be who you are. Be in the moment. Deciding up front that you don't care about the outcome and that you will just be in the moment will be very freeing.
@@Peacemakerblue You are asking me to explain human psychology. I would suggest you not over-think it. Just be and not worry about being triggered by everything. Don't worry about evaluating peoples hand patters. Don't hyper-analyze everything. Just be.
Dan Buglio ok thanks I was trying to understand the fight or flight response. One last question why does fight or flight response make you feel self-conscious?
It's all perceived danger creating the thoughts. But here's the cool thing, we don't have to believe our own thinking. You are not going crazy. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-A6Z6KO7b0lE.html
Hi Dan. Thanks for this very informative video. How long do you think one can realistically expect for the relaxation and the turning off of the stress response to start having a noticeable impact on our pain?
It really depends on the individual. It took me years to figure this stuff out. However, some people can get better in days. It all depends on how quickly you can embrace the concepts that your body is actually okay and that there is NO nerve problems whatsoever that are damaged or impinged that are causing the pain. If it's TMS, it's TMS and you should approach it with a TMS ONLY approach. Believing you have a neurologic problem and trying to use a TMS approach will confuse the brain. Take the pain test I linked to in your other question. This video offers my suggestions on getting well. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3vJgBnrhFt8.html But determining and ACCEPTING that your pain is TMS and nothing more is a huge first step.
I have been married for 25 years and my husband was diagnosed with mental illness 5 years ago. He refuses to stay on his meds and becomes verbally and emotionally abusive as a result. I am in the process of getting out of the marriage but can't leave until I find an affordable place to go. I have pushed down my anger, pain, rage, hurt, sadness, depression etc., for years. It is simply unsafe for me to express any negative emotions. I know I am constantly in fight or flight but I don't know how to make myself feel safe. I am also having trouble feeling my emotions because I just feel kind of numb. I know I am sad and angry about things but I don't actually "feel" those emotions anymore or know how to release them. Any suggestions you might have would mean so much.
