I started saying" NO" noticed ppl got more malicious and nasty it was like a shock to them difficult for them to accept. 3 years later of no contact etc they are desperate for a reaction that I won't give
Is it loud like that tho?? I remember when I had to use the br at work and asked a co worker to cover me..he said very loudly NO. I front of everyone and they were smiling. I was surprised and remember wondering why he got so loud. We had just had a meeting over br breaks and thats the first time I had asked him. Anyway I think sometimes its just a simple request..and like they saw, in setting boundaries for the first time, most people tend to go overboard...
This hit so hard. The part where you talk about pretending to want to do something you really don’t want to do. Grooming me to be a people pleaser and later on in life this made me vulnerable to some pretty sadistic abuse. Thank you for this!
Oh what a relief it is to be able to look at a situation/behaviour whether it is between me and me or between me and other people and say "IT'S WRONG. I DON'T LIKE IT. I WILL NOT TOLERATE IT". Thank you 🙏
After years of therapy that didnt really help, you have given me the tools to go from surviving to thriving. Thank you doesn't convey the depths of my gratitude Richard . You're a legend !
I've recently found myself talking to myself out in public which can be embarrassing. hahahaha Usually I relegate my private chats to when I'm at home where I talk to myself, my pets, the plants, and everything in general. LOL
To quote the late Ravi Zacharias on dualism," I've got news for you friend-- Even in India we look both ways before crossing the street because it's EITHER the bus OR me. Not both!"
Hey Richard, a huge shout out for the 30 day challenge that just wrapped up! Went in a basket case, came out a different person; found my old self! Much respect!!!
Excellent work, Dean! I’m so pleased to read that. I’m on day 5 and by day 2 I felt enormously different, already! It’s funny to think of Richard saying, “You must do this 5 times a day” and me wondering if I’ll find it tough to stick with it and then finding myself doing it about every 30 minutes or more, haha! My habits have changed, I’ve become spectacularly more aware of my thoughts and feelings and how they might be linked. It’s just so, so good. High five! :)
@@lisabeaumont it only gets better, l am walking proof. Stick with it, take care of yourself with rest and nutrition, and believe! Great things await Lisa, thanks for your support!
Seriously who else watched this video and now has a crush on Richard ??? 🤣🤣 lols!! He is so amazing the way he explains things and just the way he talks and is !! I'm now going to find it so much easier to free myself from my narc watching his channel every day! Lmaooo
Maaike Vermoen in Russia, we have a saying “khochetsya - perekhochetsya” (lol try saying this 5 times amirite) which means “what you want is silly and meaningless, you don’t really need it and soon you will forget you wanted it”. Implied meaning: you don’t know what’s good for you but I know. It’s has a patronizing connotation and basically serves to devalue your wants. It was used by my parents quite a lot 😆
I was always told when I wanted something, "just be grateful for what you have." It took me until my mid twenties to learn that gratitude wasn't acting like I didn't want something I wanted... Once I realized it I started saying thank you for everything. 🙏🏻
Richard, I began following your teaching development in early 2017. Much of my personal journey coincides with yours in uncanny ways, though unique in nuance. May you remain courageous in your work and tender in your heart because what you are choosing to do with your life is having a major, positive impact in mine and I'm sure the lives of numerous others. You matter more than you know, Mr. Grannon.....more than you know. Well done with these lessons and your developing Fortress!
Your present voice is such a force that is truly equipping humanity for evolution. No-doubt your up coming book is going to be a real gem for authentic empowerment 1💛
🙏🙏 so much good info as.always, especially this last part on choosing passivity. only one thing I disagree on this particular talk, we don't always know what we are getting Into as adults, especially for those of us with childhood trauma, which grow up constantly doubting ourselves 💙
@@Mary-zr2uy My friend , being aware of that is a good enough reason to step back and check-in with self and explore your emotions honestly at a core level. It is there where the truth resides 1💛
Thank you, Richard! Thinking of the thousand of dollars and hours I’ve spent on “therapy” over the past three years, with the result of further trauma, has me indignant. I hear you when you say that licensed therapists won’t and probably shouldn’t venture into the morality of their clients’ situations. (When you see a Christian therapist, you think that’s what you’re getting. But, that’s a hard no. 😂) What I needed, and I suspect lots of others need, is a life coach, a hand, a pen, and some paper. I wish I could take the money I’ve spent and send it to you, or a philanthropy of your choice. ❤️
All this healing, shadow work, inner healing, practicing to do/say what I feel versus reacting from triggers and wounds makes me feel brave, strong and empowered to trust what I feel and speak up when it's not okay.
Your intergrity and spirit and deep inner vision to share your own vulnerability makes you one of the greatest teachers of this time.Much respect to you!
I believe in you and in return started to believe in myself. My wake up moment was when you said - no one is coming to save you. My flashbacks were several times a day and everything triggered me. Two months of effort, attention and application of work, your work - has started to change my life. Thank you for being you and sharing your knowledge.
Hey. Thats my Line! lol I said on a friend of mines youtube channel when I realized that was holding us back, a couple of years ago..Good to see I was right then if he said it. And great minds think alike..😄😄
I can't believe this is 2 years old. This is by far THE BEST description of why we need boundaries AND HOW to set them. I needed this so bad right now. So bad. Thank you Richard and bless you for sharing. 💚🙏
That was amazing. I have had difficulty explaining to friends who haven’t experienced trauma that boundaries are key, this educates both sides of the spectrum.Thank you thank you for articulating the subject area so eloquently . X
After years of so called spiritual bypassing and suffering in my inner prison I find this approach and methodology extremely releasing. For those still hesitant to take action - I can report from my personal experience. I am at the 30th day of healing the superego and will now come back the 30 day challenge. 10000% recommended. Now is the best time ever. I am learning so much. The beginning was harsh. However, each day it is less and less the fight I against I. It is more and more a mindful dance between the many parts of myself that I am getting to know. Let's do the right thing. Let's break through.
Thanks for your comment Sandra. Day 6 here and it's definitely feeling difficult and painful, so it is encouraging to read you saying the beginning was harsh . I've learned a lot so far but have a feeling it's going to be a lot of work to really deal with some of this stuff and really heal and come out the other side.
@@Johannastairwellstudio I did HEALING SUPEREGO course and now the the 30 DAY CHALLENGE. I have been also dealing with emotional flashbacks in parallel (PDF with instructions).
@@succytash you are courageous! I can say I have been having the same perspective up-till today, that the stuff in front of me is like a massive mountain and I wondered if I can ever climb it. I follow the 30Dchallenge course and today's exercise invites to think of the limiting stiff beliefs we are sending to our selves and how we can reformulate them with more openness and humbleness. So the more liberating and positive way would be to say, as for instance, 'I am learning to heal in my own unique way' (so it is not a huge mountain anymore, it is a journey and I am surrendering to its unique, yess at times really painful, but also inspiring, surprising, sacred... trajectory). Can you feel the difference?
Thank you. I was in a yoga cult and they fried my boundaries with telling me to embrace "non-judgement". They were running sex trafficking on the side...
Coraticum tried and true methodology . I too was in a cult here in Australia , they used the divide and conquer method as well to gain power and control. And most of the members were people like me who had intense childhood trauma perpetrated from a N parent and so were easily manipulated emotionally because of the CPTSD. Well done you on getting out
I'm in tears as I listen to this video. My life is so jacked up because my world is jacked up. I need to change the way I think so the way I feel can change. I need to be positive and healthy I need to heal.
great vid. Thank you, I really appreciate it. Brought a tear to my eye. 20 years with a narc, choosing the route of no conflict 95% of the time. I got trampled over. You just explained exactly what I need to do to have any hope of living a normal life. I willingly chose to live in chaos. Well then again I didn't know any other way, so instead of searching out help, it was easier just to claim that i wanted to live like that rather than admit to myself that I didn't have a clue what I was doing. Being noble and strong and good, and saying no when its difficult too, in fear of being humiliated and abandoned is a very hard thing for me to do. But I can say from 46 years of experience living in chaos with zero boundaries, being good and noble would have been been the easier softer way in the end. Ive completely crashed and burned. I'm a 6ft 100kg man that is not afraid of physical conflict, and Ive been reduced to curling up in a ball in bed hiding from the world for many years. completely mentally and emotionally and physically beaten.I'm so glad Ive found you on here. I just signed up on your website and downloaded a book you recommended, Ive started my journey out of this mess. Ive learnt more about myself today than ever before in my entire life. What you are doing is helping me so much. Thank you.
Good for you! I’m currently making my way out of an abusive relationship , was in it for almost 20 years. Can I please have the name of the book? Thanks. 🙏
I'm with a malignant narcissist for almost 20 years. This person was always promising to marry me, but never did. He even had the nerve to suggest we go for fertility treatment to conceive children, but we are still not married. He recently confessed that he prefers a relationship without intimacy and commitment. He is the worst kind of abuser because of the severe abuse that he experienced in his childhood as a result of his pathologically sick pig of a mother. Him and his twin want nothing to do with their mother. I always thought he had multiple personality disorder, but it's actually NPD.
Solid gold Richard. I'm on 48hr fast, will have this on repeat on the headphones doing a big walk tomorrow. Getting my strength and boundaries built up, setting intent and closer to agency a bit more with each new day. Thanks again for everything.
Richard I have to say that I personally growing up and then living most of my adult years in highly abusive environments though covert, was taught early on to be other focused. Now I think, and I am sure I am not alone in this struggle to connect to myself, and my own inner emotions. Looking for some semblance of ground and trying to right ourselves to stand against it all. I lost touch with myself and who I am here and now with this existence. Putting others first because I felt they were more deserving. Many of us have lived our lives as if in apology. Thank you for your videos and your humor that also keeps me going. If you can laugh and find that illusive silver lining that is the saving GRACE. My gratitude.
35:14 😔😢 the crux of it. Demonic and without a shred of mercy to the pleading. Ever. I am full of gratitude now though Richard . Thank you 🙏 I hope you know how appreciated and valued you are 🤗 this gift you are giving that is so helpful and healing to us teaches us not only moral compass consequences but the gift of generosity . Fortress is my new normal . Hand is my new normal . I will never ever be balled up in a corner again. I will never ever get it wrong again. I’m already seeing it and making the appropriate rejections . It’s a fair bit for me as it’s a lifetime of it but I know consistency is key 🔑 it’s happening. Thank you!!!!! 🤗
I started talking to myself when my ADD was so bad I literally stood in one place spinning around unable to make a decision and stick to it long enough to carry it out. I said, things like, now i am walking, now i am sitting, now i am driving to the hardware store, now im sad and stuck, now my back is hurting, etc. Then i added lists , then simple goals...and a daily routine and structure as u suggested for thriving in the lockdown . Thank u Richard.
I'm going to do this too. I have ADD and my life is chaotic. I feel like I am spinning, unable to make a decision and stick with it. All if this info feels overwhelming to me. Thank you for breaking it down into digestible bits.
I didn't know my ex narc was evil at the beginning. I was 19 with no clue that these types existed and how they operated. I'm glad I'm healing from deep within and creating my own philosophy to help my kids develop their own philosophy separate from mine. This is brilliant work, Richard.
I had no idea my ex spouse was capable of the things he has done. A covert Narc/ psychopath. Now, I have no idea how many decades he was having affairs, etc. He locked me out of accounts, took my money. I trusted him. I was traumatised by his physical abuse then finding evidence of affairs. I never joined him in anything immoral, he knew how to hide it. He retired, discarded me and took everything. It is common today. Easy finding new supply online for him. He plays an excellent role for new women.
Whole Spirit ...your story is my story! I lived through the same thing with my sociopathic ex husband. I’m teaching our children what is good and evil. They are seeing evil in their own father and get confused by his words and behavior with are polar opposite. They are growing in faith and creating boundaries with my encouragement. I didn’t know these types of people existed either. I believe I was married to satan. My ex continues with his facade! I pray God exposes him in a big way to save other women!!!
What is your opinion on Jordan Peterson? Just curious. He once stated that being involved with a narcissist/sociopath is akin to being bit by a snake - and you wake up to the nature of people - good/evil polarity. If you were once naieve you no longer are. Maybe if you didint really have a moral philosophy before (or it wasnt defined) and you just ingnorantly thought all people are "good" you know after the narc that there are indeed some who are evil. I think my personal experience with a sociopath actually led me deeper into a spiritual awakening and a sort of spiritual maturity realizing the multitude of forces and archetypes that exist within our world - and knowing that there some that just arent good - which causes a sort of strengthening of the psychic as well as physical immune system. Its like at first the entaglement with the narc makes you physically and psychically ill- its too much poison - to much of the substance, an overdose. But with time and recovery - you begin to acquire immunity, boundaries, sanity, health. Its like you get infected with their virus - or your own virus (that layed dormant) gets re-activated. Its like a teacher of sorts - a messenger - a catalyst to healing. What if this current virus pandemic is having that same awakening effect on us collectively now? Like a messenger alerting us that there are things in us, in our world that need a healing, a transformation, a change. Just some thoughts. BUT anyway I really like your grounded and pragmatic approach here. People bitten by a narc ususally need a good dose of reality to re-estabilsh ground, sanity and healing in their lives. You have to be able to call something out at evil and maintain boundaries and build worth . For me it was a conditioned response developed in childhood to negate human wrong doing by my parents for the sake of survival. Its amazing the defense mechanisms that spontaneously develop to survive as a little one. Thank you so much for all the videos you have put out over the years. Bless us all
I have lived for most of my life under other peoples rules, not being allowed to speak of this, but pretending all is good, now I am compelled to point out the evil.
28 min Richard I'm hearing ya 😊 This is something everyone needs!! Especially with everything that's going on in the world (well what they're trying to stuff down our throats whether we like it or not..) 🎥🔫💊💉 We all need to be able to think for ourselves 💯 All this trauma worldwide, if no ones thinking for themselves we'll all be lambs to the slaughter..
The world is traumatized to a certain extent, I truly believe that, and this is the time that humankind is healing the traumas from all our lifetimes. Thank you for your work!!
Wow, Richard. This is the first video of yours that I have watched, and I never comment on anything on social media, but I feel like this requires a comment. In this video not only did you summarise a huge amount of complex information (including ageless wisdom), you also unpacked a seriously deep and complicated issue in a grounded and digestible way. It is obvious that you speak from experience and self education fuelled by passion. Regardless of the extent of your knowledge, it was your humility and authenticity that kept me watching. It is clear which team you are on. Thank you.
One of the biggest hurdles for me was the fear of the unknown, I didn't know what was going to happen to me when I stopped playing my designated role, turns out not much, except that my entire family has accommodated my desire to distance myself by distancing themselves from me, I still feel lost but it's better than feeling angry.
I hope that I can state this correctly. Family are (just) other people, who you are related to through blood, or physicality. But the illusion is that that fact gives family members a pass to be abusive. Many families choose a scapegoat. My choice was to walk away from my family because there was no benefit to being involved with them. Is that sad? Yes...but I choose that over bowing to a group consciousness which I can't (and don't want to) relate to. Lots of narcissism in my family. Gaslighting, the "winner/loser" mindset, judgments, etc.When what we desire and want from our family members is acceptance,and love. Some people and some families just aren't loving, and of course it can be generational.
Mine have/had me programmed that I can't "survive" in this world without them. But same time they empowered me a lot to serve their own egos, so I have a lot of experience and accomplishments to rely on.
My narcissist boyfriend tried to get me to engage in illegal activity and I refused. He didn't mention it again for about a month then tried again and again I said no, and this time my no was said more sternly. For this and many other reasons, he is no longer my boyfriend. But, I am left traumatized and that's why I'm here watching these videos.
''It's me'' - I don't know how long you two were a couple, but I suppose, from what you wrote, that it was not for a very long time (perhaps a few months or a year, at the most) - which is GOOD. Because the longer you stay in a realtionship with the narcissist the worse it gets. And soon you think it just can't get any worse, but it does. So, congratulation on your strong reaction (on both occasions you mention, and probably on many more, of some other, but twisted nature) and I promise you, you''ll get over it, soon. Just don't fall in a trap, when he comes back to you and tries to get you in his trap(s), again. They do NOT change. Ever. Or better: if they do, they change for the worse! Stay strong, keep healing. Richard is among the best, around here, to help you in the process. I've had severe troubles, with a person, whom I finally recognized as a covert narcissist (the worst predator there is, they say and I agree). It took me seven years, before realizing what he was. When I finally did, I cut him off, completelly, and went no contact. After that, it took me two years (yes, 2 years) to even start healing. I felt half crazy, during these two years, almost all the time ... and totally lost. From a person, who had very strong morals and personal believes, before meeting him, I somehow became a person, who was not sure about anything, anymore. Not even about what I think or feel (yes, it was really really bad, total chaos). Well, now it's a bit more than three years, since I went no contact and I finally can say, I do feel better, more myself, again, not so confused, anymore ... much better. I guess, with time, I'll get even better (heal more), but I am perfectly sure, I'll never be the same person, ever again. He changed me. For the better. Which, sadly, does not mean, I FEEL better, now. But i AM a better person. A person, who will never again try to help somebody, who does not appreciate that help, who lies and makes up things, and always sees only him/herself, as a victim. No way. There are enough people, who do not act this way and they are the ONLY ones, who deserve to be helped. All others are just not worth it. And if you keep helping them, you soon FEEL, something is very, VERY wrong. You feel it in your guts and you feel it stronger, and stronger. You can become severly ill, if you don't stop your trying ... So, stay strong! And don't forget: You''ll be good, soon! :)
Thank you Richard for the gift of thought. It's been barely 2 years along now ... that I embrace the practice of thinking and not merely reacting. I am grateful your examples and tenacity to think us into better health. 💫
This goes along with the idea of “right concentration”. I think too often, our attention is split, especially with social media, apps, texts, emails ect. For us to build a wall, boundaries internal or external, we need to concentrate on the act of building the wall. I’ve been watching “Black Sails”, this one episode, Captain Flint starts to attack the walls of Nassau’ fort. He gets council from the former fort general, that it would take 10 months to repair the external walls, and another year for the internal walls. Both are important. Skin needs bones, and bones need skin.
“Chop their eyelids off” 😆 The things you say sometimes... so illustrative. Is that a thing though? Wouldn’t be surprised. PS. This video is so amazingly powerful! Thank you 🙏 🏹
Earplugs for the Soul it was?! I used to watch these movies all the time as a kid. But I don’t remember anyone chopping off their eyelids. Sounds plausible though, very much in line with the plot 😆🙈
Dear Richard, I think I’m understanding where I’ve been going wrong. This presentation is like a crystal clear road map. .. I will be using it .. as of this moment on.. 🛡⚔️
My ex actually used to say ‘ that’s just your perception, I have mine’ oh and then ‘ and that’s ok’- infuriating devaluation from a highly manipulative person.
Apparently, his perceptions of cheating in marriage were very different from mine. And, according to him’ and that’s ok’ - I’m thankful for my strong moral compass- I’d be flailing all over life without it , I struggle being disciplined enough to try to always implement my values and principles and living them just so I don’t have to deal with the twisting feeling in my stomach that seems that follow when I don’t live from my best intentions. Defining morals, values, and principles should be taught in schools and should be the main topic of all couples pre long term commitment.
This is gold- we need a new cultural super ego. We used to have one that at least taught good and evil and now it has turned to dog eat dog- that’s dangerous for the individual. Individuals need to choose for themselves. When an adult agrees to or believes they have to answer to another human or group of humans, be it a boss, a spouse or even all the way up to the government- we will always be slaves
436 comments most beginning with “thank you Richard” Man oh man hope you know how much you are LOVED!!! Thank you Richard, you have helped me to reveal the evil manipulator I once was, such a heavy burden to a light, now not afraid to say Woah Nellie to myself, giving myself permission to say yes or no. Putting the hammer away, tossing out the nails. A self preservation ugly way to live. I can honestly say I didn’t know, I was trying to breath. Again thank you for releasing my much hidden sick agenda. ☮️ Peace brother.
3 minutes in and I’m crying with realisation. It seems so simple but this has been a massive journey for me, “You’re not allowed to to criticise the other person so you lose your moral system”. I grew up in an abusive house hold in childhood and have just come out of an abusive relationship, this is the first time I’ve realised how my experiences are connected. It’s been a long road to get to this point. Thank you Richard I have just come across your content recently and it is so helpful as it is bringing together my empirical realisations, as well as positive input and from friends and family and learning through Councelling. Thank you so much. 🙏
I used to think all people were innately good and that it was their bad choices and past traumas that made them "bad/evil" . After being involved with a severe NPD, I know for sure that there are "bad/evil" people. Thank you for reassuring me of this reality.🤗
You really understand the spiritual bypassing dangers and manifold misinterpretations of the eastern spiritual sciences. All this “good is bad and bad is the same as good” nonsense! Unity consciousness doesn’t mean unbridled freedom without any adherence to social norms or ethics, which equates to ‘negative’ freedom.
Richard Grannon, Know that you are loved and so appreciated. Thank You for all the videos...much needed. Interesting how little investment is put into healing and wholeness for the people of the earth. Of course, one has to want it and perhaps the seeking serves to prepare us for the healing. Like the crying out for water in the desert.
We'd rather be right than happy... Sometimes the only good thing that comes out of being miserable... Is you find out and finally discover how NOT worth it... It all truly is!!!! 😅😅😅💖💖💖 self love.... Boyyyyyyyy you better put that narc second.... 😵😵😵😛😛😛😇😇😡💖
Oh to hear that holier than thou, twistedly self righteous phrase from my narcissistic abuser and betrayer. “You’d rather be right than happy.” 🤮 All the while he’s lying and manipulating and putting me in physical danger that I don’t even know about (sex workers and affairs.) Right MAKES me happy. How bout that?? Finding someone (like Richard) who validates that fervent desire to uphold one’s belief system is refreshing, and perhaps life saving.
So, so grateful to you Richard and what you do and have shared, especially on this channel. I'm coming back to this video today in Oct 2020 and it's blowing my mind. It's been helping me so much to work through my own struggles and I do feel so much clearer, stronger and more resilient than I did 5 months ago. And I'm realising what is playing out at the moment is a collective trauma... Our boundaries are being repeatedly breached, we are being infantilised and told to do things we don't want to do and to pretend we want to do it, and being gaslit that it's for our safety and benefit when in actual fact it's causing chaos, a mental health crisis and economic collapse for so many people. This wasn't meant to be a political post, it's really to say how far reaching this work is and could/should be. I hope everyone who needs these tools for self healing and understanding what the hell is going on in the system of the codependent/CPTSD survivor can find them and allow them to improve their lives, as it has done mine. Thank you so much.
This is wierd, I started this my self in January, this process is greatly helping me. Question. People I've have never meet, are watching me and are starting to with out me saying nothing are starting to feel better and talking to neighbors they had for years just from watching me. They are telling me that I'm helping them, but I barely speak. I'm still going to do what's good but now I feel responsible for bringing them together but my entire family still keep doing things that hurt me. So why are strangers see me as a very good person but the family still want to "help" me?
This was excellent. I think our collective 'weakness of goodness' is what has contributed to social apathy that has allowed the more aggressive narcissistic types in governments around the world to get away with allowing people to live beneath the poverty line. When is it okay to let a woman who has worked hard all her life and raised successful (tax paying) children, live in financial hardship and threatened homelessness just because she is ageing and her skill set no longer valued? When has it ever been okay to lock people up because they are stateless (refugees)? When has it been okay to see children raised in poverty and domestic violence because it's easier to pretend it's someone else's problem. Our collective 'goodness muscles' have become weak and flaccid and we as a result we are weak and prone to bullying by agenda led governments. Lots of food for thought here, Richard. Thanks as always.
Broken boundaries - I want to make you do something you don’t want to do and I want you to pretend you want to do this. Wow learning about this this is huge. I really appreciate you being able to put into words what is going on. Up until your channel I could only explain it in words like “they messed with my head”.
This is truly inspiring work, RG. Also, thank you for recommending Pete Walker's book: "Homesteading in the Calm Eye of the Storm" - I find it heartwarming, meaningful and helpful in the quest to heal from CPTSD.
I got a teacup poodle to assert my boundaries. Dude that gets in the lift with us gets a serious growl. 🤣 Think we should be more like this as humans. Trust is Earned.
@@richardgrannonfortressment9247 Great breakdown of Puppies and SUN... Source of Life the Light and affirmation, selfsteem, comfort etc..!! Powerful! Thank you! 🙏🌞👏🔥
I just found this channel and have been binge watching it. I have troubles and he has troubles so "we" have troubles. I am learning so much about myself and my ex and what I can do. I have benefited so much from this so far. God bless you.
Particularly this topic is the part I'am currently chipping away at. I repeat this behavior over and over. The cycle continues in relationships (even when the person changes) because I'm attracted to the unavailable/unstable type then the flashbacks reconfirm, childhood story.. The person changes but the story stays the same. Keeps me in a anxious disappointed state. Thank you for sharing my psychic therapist life coach encourager friend.
Damn, that even helps the Narcissists like myself heal more. I do need healthier boundaries and that makes sense! What I like about your personal unique brand of Narcissism, is that you use it while helping people. Love it man. You're awesome. That's not meant to be a put down at all... I'm impressed. Watched it all. What I like about you is like myself you accept your Narcissistic sides. You have helped me see a balance over the years. In business though, I am playing a game. I have been staying away from Narcissism in relationships as I have watched you grow and have seen for myself that it does wound others. As far as a tycoon, since they don't care about my tough luck I don't care about theirs either. I get ahead. Cheers Richard!
Evil is the inverted concept of Live. Therefore does exist LIVE reversed is EVIL if we work with that prospective we sometimes are able to grasp our own inner moral compass and understanding of the spectrums in duality /dichotomy thinking and behaviour patterns. By willfully allowing yourself to explore what that personally means to you also how that's being projected by yourself and other's⏳
Excellent, as always. In my pursuit of learning to go from just Surviving to fully Thriving, I thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Richie, you truly are my lifeline to Sanity and Healing. It's so empowering to hear your wisdom. You are a powerful light in this present darkness. 🙏❤️
It's wonderful how you really humanize your tutorials. You are really helping me. I think it's hilarious when you accidentally swear because I know you can curse like a drunken sailor who's just stood on Lego. Thank you so much Richard 😂😂❤xx
OMG!!! how mind blowing. During arguments with my hubby I would say "oh, when you do this it brings back memories and ...." my inner critic has always been horrible and mean. I'm mean to myself and always felt undeserving of love, happiness, and success but still desperately wanted those things. Its insanity. I'm just happy to have found this - I've had a feeling something inside me was broken but didn't know what.
In my humble opinion, it's your intuition and your gut that will lead you to what's right and what's wrong. If you can start to tune into its voice, become familiar with what it sounds like, help it to grow louder and more confident, your intuition will almost never lead you astray. It will tell you clearly what's ok and what's not ok for you.
Thank you. These are so well put together. I wrote what my moral philosophy was a while back when you suggested it. One of the immoral things was confusing people and creating false hope on a lonely whim. I've done this many times. Anxiety and disregulation are the reasons I can't keep up relationships. I never have the intention to hurt anyone. I need support, so I'm trying to do small steps with exposure therapy. I'm still working on emotional literacy and flashbacks, and I've made a big discovery with my emotional literacy that I think I can fix with time. It has to do with patterns and not creating false associations. I do have a couple of dear friends who have the same issues with the push pull and we never need explanations. I'm extremely grateful for these people because they know I don't have any malice and they understand how tired I am and how hard I'm working. I used to think about not being here every single day. Now I think about how I want to be here every day and I want to give people love and support steadily. That is a big step for me. Thank you again. You are largely responsible for that change with your experience, strength, common sense and excellent intuitive teaching. It probably wasn't your intention but you have created a bond with so many people. I read the comments and hear over and over how they not only want to do good for themselves, but they see how hard you work and they want your teaching to have meaning. They don't want to disappoint you. That isn't the healthiest thing I'm sure but you are very boundaried so there is an innocence there. Sorry if that was over the top or fawning. Just a lot of appreciation.
Thank you. This was so clear and easy to understand and now I feel like I can over come this traumatized state. With nurturing my super egos guidance and also being brave to state boundaries, kindly and clear- thank you, you're a great teacher
Yes I did lol not full on conversations more like self motivation. My C-PTSD symptoms mimic ADHD. I get lost in tasks sometimes and get overwhelmed so I sometimes mutter to myself Ok and then next. Also sometimes it’s self deprecating remarks like “I’m an idiot”.
@@amberleeannalee1999 🖐 Hi! You deciphered a msg there--even with ENTIRE WORDS MISSING from it!--and then kindly replied. That's pretty IMPRESSIVE, and in a non-idioty way! P.S. Sorry about the missing words. (I've added them in now.) Filling-in a nice meaning was charitable of you. Thank you!
Atomic Sonic I’ve somehow deciphered autocomplete language lol it’s a gift. I always try to think (especially on Richard’s channel) people are more apt to be kind even when they aren’t. Stay well. Blessed be
You just helped me understand my mood disorder and PTSD from being with a suicidal mom and family of self destructive behaviors and impulse control its all through our family makes total sense. I know this will make me feel better. Thank you I get butt hurt if I feel rudeness
Thank you thank you thank you for calling caca on non-dualism, moral relativism, and the shallow squishy Western interpretation of Buddhism's self and no-self concepts. I lost a close friend to all that a few years ago (who informed me, after our friendship was over with, that she had D.I.D. After a few years of Zen practice she just slowly... evaporated and disengaged right before my eyes. D.I.D. and misapplied zen very bad combo.) It didn't do me much good, either, but I did recognize that and get out.
Thanks Richard. I enjoyed that. My first Masters is in Health Care Ethics and Law and, ethics being a branch of philosophy, it is necessary to be able to differentiate between a good and an evil act in medicine, and to be able to argue the justification of one action over another, in court if necessary. Personal moral philosophy might be a bit more involved, possibly because of perspectives taught in childhood. That Freud gets everywhere. Thanks again.
