i love you all lots as mentioned please always seek help and advice for any medical issues or support for mental health troubles, this is all just my personal experience and story all my love !!!! C xxx
this is the cartia i know and love. i dont expect you to be positive and portray false happiness all the time, i love when you are just open and sitting down sharing how you are currently feeling no matter "good" or "bad". these convos help people feel less alone so thank you! we love you foreverrrr
As someone with ADHD and other mental health diagnoses, your brain needs the assistance! It's not fair to your little mental muscle to rely solely on therapy, meditation techniques, and other vitamins. Sometimes the chemicals in the brain need a boost and that's okay. I know medication is scary and daunting, but it's backed by science that is constantly researched, checked, and re-checked. Know that you're not alone and that you always have a RU-vid family to hold you down. Love from the US xx
Have you ever considered that maybe some mental health issues that have been showing up lately and losing yourself are maybe also related to the fact that you're far away from "home", your mum, the sea and good weather? It might sound crazy but when I moved to the UK after living in mediterranean countries and my hometown before that, I realised that although I had so many friends in the UK to support me and everyday life seemed "cool", noone really felt the loss of closeness to nature and good weather as I did and I only realised that after, when I moved back to italy last year and found myself again. About the medication I agree with everyone elses comments, I fully agree that in certain cases chemicals are not the answer, but there's a reason why they exist and they save people every day.
I refused medication for YEARS, I didn’t want to feel like I needed a pill to rely on, I was so obsessed with getting better without chemicals…at one point, it just became unbearable and I accepted the help. Cartia, I understand that it’s a major decision and that everyone reacts differently to it, but medication saved my life. Period. To me, it’s such a small price to pay for the relief that I’ve experienced.
I just got diagnosed at 24 and i genuinely do not know how I have survived this long not knowing, deffo have reached burnout stage for sure :( starting meds this week, once they come in to the pharmacy and I'm excited and hope they help me get myself and my life back, this comment gives hope
Health professional here, please seriously consider the ADHD medication. ADHD is a dopamine deficiency in your brain and it can take people hours a day to regulate themselves without medication, and for many people it’s just not sufficient and you won’t get stuff done. Please consider it, it changes so many peoples lives very quickly.
I can relate Cartia, that feeling of something being wrong, illogical anxiety etc. has lessened once I removed Gluten, processed sugars and seed oils from my diet. But most importantly, don't be too hard on yourself and act with self-love, which is easier said than done, and can seem foreign when in these states of fight / flight / freeze but it's the anchor that you build through that trust within yourself, having your own back, that place of safety. I started seeing a Functional Neurologist too, something I couldn't recommend more. Thanks for sharing Cartia!
I relate so much you can’t imagine, I too was so unwilling to take any medication but I’m telling you honestly once I did it was the best thing I ever did, my life has done a full 360 since I have so much more patience for myself and others, I don’t lash out as much as I did when emotional, I am able to sustain goals and tasks, and most importantly I get almost silence in my mind when I’m taking my medication, before my medications i spent all day everyday running loops in my own head of endless thoughts mainly negative ones and it was chaos now I am with peace during the day I also don’t want to mislead anyone with adhd and thinking about medication as it’s not like it’s gone I still have a lot of the symptoms it’s just so so so much more manageable before the medication I felt so out of place in my own life and body, such a lack of motivation and so negative i had no clear path and was suffering with depression, 2 years on I’m slaying my life! I feel like I have a strong grip on my life and that I can take control, I now run my own business where it’s just me and as I’m the only one working for my business there’s no one but me to hold myself accountable (people with adhd can understand how hard that is) but I’m doing the damn thing! I truly just hope you are so so so proud of yourself I know it’s hard to acknowledge ourselves in that way but look at all you have done so far it’s amazing you were able to do all these amazing things while having undiagnosed adhd, you obviously don’t need the medication but you should just consider the possibility, it’s not going to be a fix or a miracle cure but it is a very useful tool that toy you can utilise and that in my experience has taken a lot of stress and anxiety off of me I don’t get as exhausted by life as I once was So sorry for the rambling I am so passionate about it and my positive experience, sending you all my love and light and you will break though this uneasy journey regardless of the path you choose to take 💗💗💗💗💗🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀
Cartia - none of us have it all together! No matter what mask people wear that is the truth for us all. I’ve been here since 2014, and watching you grow from the outside has been wonderful. Thank you for sharing this, for always being real. Life is such a rollercoaster of ups and downs - and that’s so ok. Each down you learn something new, you gain perspective, you get something out of the shitty moments. Proud of you always!!!
you’re so courageous for sharing all this - the way you spoke about your anxiety here was soooo relatable for me. goodluck on your journey, be kind to yourself xx
Thank you so much for posting this! I relate this to sooooo much and resisted taking medication for my anxiety for years . Learning that I've always been anxious has helped me overcome the fear and it really SAVED my life. You are a shining star and we can all see it! Sending all the love Xxxx
Sending you lots of positivity & love angel! ❤️ As someone who has struggled with anxiety and their mental health for a long time I know it sometimes feels so isolating and that you're alone with your problems.I want you to know that you have your special community,who cherish and appreciate you.I always admire your creativity and the person you have become over the years.Keep going you beautiful soul and know that you're surrounded by lots of good energy 😇✨️💫💗
I relate to this so much. The constant noise in your brain combined with wanting to do and achieve so many things is exhausting. And then when you’re not able to achieve everything that you want to you feel like you’re a failure or constantly behind. I’m 24 and I just now am realizing I most likely have adhd (going to try and get diagnosed soon). It’s been such a struggle and I can’t believe I’ve gone this long without realizing. The pressure of adult hood really just has just exposed it more in my experience. I hope we both get the help we need to feel at peace & more like our normal selves. Thank you for sharing your struggles it helps to know there are other people who understand❤️
learning about my adhd really really helped me with similar things to what you described. after i learned about my symptoms it really improved the way i looked at myself and my struggles. ALSO, adhd medication helped me so much in my studies for uni! just please give yourself some credit for doing SO MUCH when your brain is constantly making life more difficult, you got this💗
Proud of you for sharing and being so open about your mental health! I lived near the city last year and for the first six months I was feeling really good about it but then my anxiety got really bad to the point where I couldn't leave the house. Then it turned into depression so I was unable to work and had to move back home to my family's. Realised living in a busy area doesn't suit me and after a really tough year mental health wise after lots of rest and spending time in nature I'm finally feeling much better. I don't know you but I can relate so much with the anxiety and dissociation. Maybe living where you are just isn't for you. Our environment is so so important. Anyways I hope you feel better soon lovely ♡
I definitely have felt and still feel all these emotions. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 22 and I’m 25 now and sometimes it feels like your brain will never be quiet and like everyone else is doing so much better. I’m glad to know that I’m not the only person that has had this struggle, but I also wanted to say that finding out that there is actually a name to the problem and it’s not just something inherently wrong with you is something incredibly helpful. There are a lot of drawbacks or unseen struggles with ADHD but sometimes it’s also a super power. I hope finding out what was going on helps bring you a little peace of mind. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable with us! I completely understand where you are coming from about the medication. I never wanted to take it , until I was giving up and did not know what else to try so I tried it and it has helped so much! You are amazing, and you got this! Take care of yourself, give yourself grace and time :) Do what you need to, to feel better.
My heart hurts when i saw you cry becouse you are so nice a cute person, what i always love about you is that you are so real and honest i can feel you even if i never met you in person but you can explain your true self so well, it shows who you really are. I wish you have the best support and your angels protect you when you feel low. I see the courage in your eyes to go on, you are so strong. I felt like it helps you to talk to us through camera and say it loud, it was like you connected to yourself better after that. Send you huge hug ❤
Cartia, I have loved you and your content through all the ups and downs. It’s so okay to have setbacks. I think so many people can relate to this. I am so glad you are reaching out for support❤️Xoxo
I rarely comment on things but I relate so much to this. I think when we as women get to our mid 20s everything that we pushed through and went through without being medicated starts to become 10x more difficult. Especially through heartbreak (I feel you there). I just got diagnosed too and am waiting for my appointment to get medicated. It was also really hard for me to come to terms with taking them but I know from other people that it is the best thing. Just remember there’s a reason you’re neurodivergent and it makes you see the world in a different way and makes you more empathetic and loving. Wishing you all the best ❤
Love U and support U always. Been following you for so many years when you were driving across Aus to move to Sydney!! U truly are an inspiring person and have motivated me so much ❤
I also have diagnosed ADHD and it can be really hard. So take care of yourself the first few months. It also helps me when u talk about. Because sometimes it feels like you are the only one who feels these things. Don’t be too hard on yourself, u are doing great💓
Something that may help too could be cycle syncing! And learning about which phase you’re in to get a better understanding of yourself and why you’re feeling the way you feel. This is all apart of your journey and do what resonates most with your heart. I like to think that when times are tough there’s something magical unraveling in the background. Lots of love✨✨✨✨
Find a sound healing studio nearby & go weekly for 2 months then see how you feel ❤ Ashwaganda daily helps a lot + B12 + iron + 8hrs sleep No alcohol & limit screen time We love you girl, be kind to yourself. You know what’s best for you deep down xx
I was just diagnosed with ADHD! As an adult female it’s a crazy thing to go through because you’re grieving for your younger self who never got the diagnosis. The anxiety and ADHD combo is even crazier… just give yourself grace & time to process ❤
Feeling you sis. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and Autism. I will be taking a certain ADHD medication that is one I don't have to take everyday. It's one I can choose to take if I need to do my taxes or plan something big. Just that extra bit of help when I feel totally in over my head. You have so many options
Hey Cartia, I know a lot of the comments already have this covered but I thought I'd also share my experience. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I found similarly to you that I would go through these very anxious periods in my life. I also found my moods would change within the day to the point I'd call them micro-moods because I could go from feeling very happy to feeling very low within an hour. Anxiety is very common with undiagnosed ADHD as we're trying to fit a mold that just does not work for us. It's really good that you're prioritising your mental health and working through your anxiety but sometimes no matter how much you fix your gut, the missing brain chemicals cause anxiety despite everything else falling into place. Sometimes we can get preoccupied in trying to "fix" the problem but really we need to figure out how to manage the symptoms rather than trying to fight them. It's overwhelming living with a brain that is trying it's best to work like a neurotypical. It's also very emotional realising why it felt like you were living life on hard mode all the time while other people seemed to move through it more easily. I've always been the ditzy friend, the one who always changed her plans, her style, her hobbies etc and now I know why it's been harder for me to find my place in the world. Go easy on yourself during this time. The end goal should be how can you bring more balance to your life, lessen your anxiety and be happy in yourself despite ADHD rather than how can you be more productive/be more like people without ADHD. You probably already know all of this but sometimes we need to hear it from a stranger. There's a lot of tools out there and I recommend having a read of the ADHD reddit forum for women if you want to learn more about it. It's r/ADHDwomen. You may also notice your moods get worse right before your period because we already have low dopamine and when our estrogen drops the little dopamine we have drops again. It's good to know all these things so we can be kinder to ourselves around this time. Wish you all the best with your journey and thanks for being so open and honest with your viewers.
Cartia! As a fellow Aussie with depression and adhd I loved how honest you are about showing both sides of you not just the good times. You’re right to be nervous about treating the adhd with meds, they aren’t great for anxiety that’s for sure and I wouldn’t recommend them personally. Best wishes on beating your anxiety sweetheart 💗🍃
I think environment plays a huge part. I remember when I lived in a small country town, it was the best I ever felt mentally. Obviously, I’m not qualified to give advice, but I read a book by Gabor Mate and he said that being in quieter environments/places that are more connected to nature, are really helpful for people with ADHD. Maybe something to reflect on 💕
I have struggled with anxiety my whole life and have always been so resistant to trying medication. It reached a point a couple years ago where I was not coping and out of desperation decided to try meds and it was the best thing I have ever done. It has provided me with freedom, I am no longer not doing things because of the constant anxiety symptoms. You don’t have to stay on meds but there is no harm in trying them
As a diagnosed ADHDer I totally get it. Mental health is such a journey, but, you are not alone. Just wanted to say though.. more importantly.. you are the cutest cryer EVER! ❤
Your vulnerability is your power! Be so proud for sharing not just the ‘good’. With light comes darkness. It’s through the challenge that we get to grow. It also really sounds like your nervous system is dysregulated! Can’t recommend regulating it enough! Somatics, energy healing etc. Defo look into it.
I was recently diagnosed too, the anxiety and adhd can be so difficult so I hope you know how strong you are!! I’m in the process of finding the right medication or deciding if it’s even for me, it’s long and draining but hopefully it all works out !
There’s nothing wrong with being on medication, just because you need it now doesn’t mean you will need it forever. After yearssss of struggles I got diagnosed with bipolar about 6 years ago and was given meds, along with alternative treatment I got better and weened off the medication. It saved me and the people around me from so much torture. Take away the stigma. I was so into natural remedies at the time and even some friends commented “but aren’t you a natural kind of person” and it killed me but also angered me cause no one knows what goes on inside you- long story short, be kind to yourself during this time and just surrender to it 💗 you’ll get better with time
Always worth doing in life- taking longer breaks from alcohol, by longer I mean months, & just watching how you feel over the course of that time♥️ ♥️Much love ♥️
Proud & happy for 22:13 you for taking care of yourself ❤ re: the book - finding safety in your body again is also really helpful for de-escalating and re-wiring. Safety meditations are a great resource. And finding what “part” of you is getting anxious and what that role is in your body. Weighted blankets too - for wear during the day help the body calm. Much love to you.
You got this girl! ❤❤ can see you’re trying all the things and moving in the right direction, everything is linked when it comes to health and it’s so good that you’re approaching it from so many different angles 😊🫶
thank you for sharing about your experience with adhd! i got diagnosed with adhd at 21 and i definitely found medication to be a huge game changer, however i’ve found some natural remedies as i don’t like taking medication every day. i’m currently a student so i take a low dose of adhd meds 2-4 times a week when i need it, but i find drinks or supplements with ginseng also help with focus!
I honestly never comment on videos but I feel like I have to here - everyone has reiterated the same thing but really do give medication a chance. I was misdiagnosed for most of my life which just left me feeling guilty and confused as I couldn't figure what was wrong with me. I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult after a long battle with ED's (often co morbid) and started researching more into it. My god, it answered everything. I started my medication and my whole life changed. The exhausting continuous crashs stopped happening, my thoughts slowed down and i therefore felt less anxious all of the time. The medication changed every single aspect of my life and set me free from so many other disorders that I thought I had but were actually just a result of untreated adhd. Give it a go, you have nothing to lose!
We will be here for you. Fill your cup first and there rest will follow. Those who love you will understand and be patient during this journey❤Please please look after yourself❤You're still a ray of sunshine to me. Dark days and all😊
My fiancé getting on adhd meds changed his life so massively for the better bean. It was like night and day for his mental health which resulted in him having more motivation and an absolutely spike in self confidence because he could finally get stuff done and do it all so well. Meds for adhd aren’t the same thing as meds for anxiety and depression. I’ve had so many friends take meds for that kind of thing and have to try so many different kinds because they can cause weird feelings of emptiness and what not . I’ve yet to have a friend dislike their adhd medication or say it doesn’t help massively. LOVE YOU CARTI
I got diagnosed with adhd in Feb and since taking meds, my life has changed! I know the thought of having to take medication long-term is daunting, but meditation/therapy will not help adhd overall. You’re not alone cartia and it isn’t the easiest journey, but I’m here for you always x
Cartia! I’m sending you so many positive vibes babes! I’ve always felt like you were the younger, free version of my inner child if I just let her thrive 🫶🏻 I love your content and just wanna say you’re in charge of your health & as a fellow adhd-er who just got diagnosed and is on concerta now, it’s game changing because I felt EXACTLY as you described. Only you know what’s best for your body, but as someone who also didn’t know if I wanted the meds, I’m glad I just tried and can stop without withdrawal if some side effect was to happen. I hope you at least feel empowered you have your diagnosis now & know that none of these feelings are your fault, it’s literally your brain being wired different 💕 you’re doing amazing xx
Hey Cartia , been following you for a while - a lot of the symptoms you've had and now especially the dizziness on standing and the ADHD, may be related to something called POTS - it's more common than doctors think and very under diagnosed but there are many solutions that can help.
Hey girl! A comment about the dizzy spells, accelerated heart rate. Have you asked a doctor about POTS? I think I remember you saying you had post concussion syndrome in the past, which can bring on other underlying mental and physical health conditions. POTS is a common side-affect from this and could be interesting to ask a doctor about. I experienced this exact situation and was cured with a method called tilt-table therapy. Good luck with everything!
Can you talk about the process more? Like did you only have 1 call with someone and then was diagnosed? Or were there other things you had to go through too?
I have it too. it affects every single person differently no matter what in common one has to the next. I support you pills or no pill I myself don't. yet at least. but I do use cannabis as my dopamine boost. some would say it doesnt help them some would say it does. dr. Russel Barkley has the most incredible insight. I would without a doubt reccomend listening to his speach about adhd. so much love girl. no you're not lazy
You probably also suffer from PoTS which is common for those with adhd. This would explain the dizziness and other symptoms. I had the same thing and they tested me for iron levels and thyroid issues first
Getting diagnosed was a godsend for me and hopefully it'll be the same for you! Finally knowing whats wrong rather than just guessing means you can start the process of being treated for the right things❤
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Girl let’s be real you don’t have ADHD, stop thinking you’re sooooo special because you can’t concentrate because your attention span has been eroded by your phone but you’re too dull to comprehend that
I think you are just lost in a world which you actually subconsciously are rejecting..this world of superficial things, looks..money…views..brands.. since you moved you changed your identity so much all i see is trying to fit in to a mold that doesn’t fit you. I think you crave a more simple life more DEEPER surroundings (non superficial content). All the symptoms you describe is a subconscious way of your mind telling you these things. It’s not adhd. Similar yes but not everything is adhd these days. There is a massive surge in prescribing adhd to young people today. Tik tok made everyone think they have it because we are a generation who is generally unhappy and riddle in anxiety because we do not know who we are, we are just trying to fit in . Don’t fall in to this trap immediately. I wish you the best, i hope you find ypur way back to yourself.
hey pal, i just want to let you know that medication for my anxiety literally saved my life 🩷 the same way going on the pill helped regain my life due to endo, medication is something that can rebalance everything you need in order to take care of yourself the way you want to. i don't want you to feel any shame around helping yourself. meditation, journaling and mindfulness are so important, but "modern medicine" has its place too, and accepting help in that sense is another form of self care 🫶
love you forever carty, you helped me literally grow up into the person I am today. be patient and gentle with yourself. i don’t know about anyone else, but ive been here for almost 10 years now and myself and everyone else are not going anywhere anytime soon 🩷
