As Ben's aunt, I'm just so grateful to this girl for interrupting my brother's latest political rant. I'll buy the ring, if she promises to do this at every family gathering.
There's just something about constantly seeing the words "Girl Who Is Absolutely Not Getting Proposed To By New Years" on the screen that makes this even more excruciating to endure. You can almost imagine being Ben's cousin sitting at the table and enduring this, knowing full well that Ben just texted you last week that the past few weeks have been hell and that he is breaking up with her before Valentine's Day.
Oh noooo, she will be crushed and calling me to bring her some Ben & Jerry’s ice cream, red wine & a dvd of “Bridget Jones’s Diary” and I just can’t handle her right now. Ben, she’s threatening to burn your clothes. 🏃
As Ben's younger brother, I'm so glad nobody is asking if I've been crying because my eyes are so red. I just have to be stoned to get through these things.
Youth these days. I heard Ben's cousin flunked nursing school and his brother in law has a drinking problem. I always knew something wasn't right with this family. Tch. Pity.
the PHYSICAL discomfort this caused me. your ability to communicate awkwardness and a lack of social awareness is genuinely impressive and uncanny. you’re a genius.
That is the exact same thought I had “this lady is a damn genius “the very first time I viewed her😮😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👌🏼👌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
i too feel like one of Ben's sister's bestfriend for 8yrs who has been part of their family's christmas gatherings since then, and rolling my eyes while she tells her speech because I know that Ben can do better than actually proposing to her because they just met the 2nd year of pandemic 😂
@@joeyree22 She is trying to rope him in before he finds out about that her brother is secretly a transwoman, that her mother is an alcoholic, and that she is crazy!.
As Bens alcoholic aunt who’s going through my third divorce, I just wanted to thank you for taking the attention away from me stealing sips of everyone’s wine while they’re not looking. You’re the best, xoxo
Caitlin's biggest talent isn't the characters she plays (although she's scary good at that), but her ability to make you build the context around her characters in your head so completely despite never seeing anyone else in her videos. You can build the entire rest of the scene, including how other characters are reacting, perfectly in your head based on her performance of just one person.
Exactly!! Completely agreed!! That is my favorite part of watching her videos - just imagining the stares and facepalms of everyone else in her company!!
Precisely this. Somehow I am seeing a long table with people looking disgusted and Ben slowly sinking away under the table while the food is getting cold.
@Sam S I think they had a good run (they only seemed to be together for one year) but she is getting needy and desperate. I feel pity for Ben, he has to break up now, preferably before new years eve. It's going to get ugly .
@Sam S There are so many different scenarios you could imagine, but the most remarkable thing to me is that it doesn't occur to this woman that she could just ask Ben to marry her. We live in the friggin' 21st century.
As Ben’s younger sister, I’m glad this rant has kept my grandmother from commenting again on how she thinks it’s strange my old college roommate and I share a one bedroom apartment and are too old to be roommates at our age…and when will I settle down and find a nice young man to marry.
As someone who grew up in the fakest WASP community, she nails it perfectly! The, "trying to act like your life is so perfect while you're crying inside at the holidays because yet again you are not being proposed to by your boyfriend", is so relatable. And most of my friends would agree. The other friends are going though a post-pandemic divorce. Her acting is always comic gold and captures the "types" of people perfectly. She needs to be in major movies.
It would have been less embarrassing if she had got down on one knee and proposed to Ben. Well, at least it would have been over in less time! (Also, women suck at proposals.)
Bens been fucking someone else and is waiting out the holidays to find the courage to say “im so thankful that we met you’re truly a special person who deserves someone uhhhhh Julia from work is pregnant…waiter could you bring me the check….soon anyway Julia is pregnant actually remember that night you left after the knife thintg its a funny story…
"I moved in with her so that I didn't have to commute for sex. She thinks it's because she's auditioning for wife". Meanwhile she's sabotaging her birth control to force the issue. Seen it happen many times. Ladies, if you want to move in with a guy for yourself, do it, but never do it thinking you are auditioning for wife unless you've specifically had a conversation about it where the guy says a heck of a lot more than just "uh yeah, maybe, someday I guess?"
As Ben's younger sister, I am glad this speech interrupted our relatives questioning me about how university's been going and are going to be distracted with my brother's drama for the next few weeks. No one needs to know that there will be no graduation ceremony because I've dropped out months ago. Or that I have been saving up to run away to Europe to escape all my problems and elope with some guy I've been dating for five months. Thank you, Bethany, I'll send you a post card ❤️
Caitlin’s acting is so nuanced- the history of their relationship and family dramas coming through in one speech expressed through every subtle glance, awkward pause or nervous laugh. Crazy talented!
As Ben’s older brother I just want to thank this lady’s speech because without it, Ben would not have had the courage to come out to us on New Years. We love you Ben!
As Ben's older sister, I'm glad that everyone is going to be talking about her and not about the fact that my husband recently got passed over again for a promotion at our family business because of his supposed "drinking" problem. He does NOT drink all day. I for one have never seen him drink in the morning, he always goes to work, and he doesn't even drink spirits. Jeez.
@@Kattywagon29well, I for one think that it was most of the family’s judgmental attitude towards her boyfriend that stressed her out to the point of failing. Don’t you know after you told her to stay away, she ACTUALLY LEFT HIM, and the depression afterwards meant she just stopped going to her clinicals? YOU should be ashamed :(
@@ykwtfim Don't put that on me! Everyone was talking about it, but I was the only one who cared enough to tell her that he was cheating on her and you know what? She already knew!!!!
Ben's parents are glaring at her through the entire speech, especially the mother. She refers to her only as "that drunken floozie" and together they try to reason with their son, "You've had your fun with her, Benjamin. It's time to grow up and start thinking of this family's image." They later replace her with a serious brunette lawyer who doesn't want children, but will have one for the sake of the family's image. She doesn't mind, the nanny will do all of the icky parts. This is one of the few characters I feel nothing but empathy for. She's not the usual self-centred, obnoxious brat we love to hate. She's an insecure, sweet girl who can't read the room AT ALL, and thus can't tell that no-one wants her to make this speech, and sadly can't tell that the guy she's so desperately in love with is absolutely not interested in her beyond the short term. He doesn't need his parents to tell him she's not fit to be a part of this family. He just needs them to tell him that he's been dragging out this one night stand for too long.
That is almost exactly what I thought. Only instead of the brunette lawyer, Ben had a 20-year-old reiki instructor sidechick that he's been seeing since before Thanksgiving. Let's face it, Ben has always been a disappointment to the family.
@@11cabadger Lol, I can see Ben juggling multiple unsuitable women. It's a hardening mission for his parents to finally get him to that acceptable lawyer, and it's a wonder they even found another family to negotiate with - he was becoming the talk of the country club for his embarrassing antics!
That was the detail that made me think this speech was a last minute, desperate gambit for a proposal - if she had prepared it in advance, she would have LED with "In these unprecedented times," instead of starting with "In times like these- in these unprecedented times" and amending it on the fly.
@@jjjjjjjjkigghh8662 I actually use that phrase, haha. Although not in casual chat in real life but when I'm using it as a performative figure of speech to drive a point home. I'm not saying you're wrong either, at least about the first bit. I have a mouth on me. Unfortunately i dwell in a bog of existential turpitude. The sounding off is probably my best coping mechanism.. along with satire ;) I can't quite imagine using it in a speech at a dinner. I love how inappropriately self important it is Edit: turpitude doesn't even mean what i thought it means, i think i mean torpor. I just like it because it sounds a bit turnipy. Thereby perhaps proving your point about people who use "unprecedented"
POV: You told him at the beginning of the relationship (7 years ago) that you never wanted to be married and now all of your friends are getting married so you start panicking.
@@ajogoz I wonder why do parents make preasure about getting married? I am from Andorra ( Europe) and this doesn't really happen in my culture. Parents don't care if you get married or not, they would just care about it in case you are marrying somebody they think its harmfull. Otherwise most parents would make preasure about studies or jobs but not about other things related to personal life. I imagine that must be horrible because then you must have a hard time knowing if you are chosimg something freely or just because you feel you should. That can potentially destroy your life if you do things you dont truly want or feel or where ready for. How do you deal with it?
@@YFL.111We tend to just careen from one relationship to the next like a moth to flame. All this while we are bombarded with artificial images of the "perfect lives" of the wealthy and celebrities. Definitely not sustainable!
There’s a reason she said “we’ve had an amazing year” and not “we’ve had X amazing years”. They’ve only been dating for a year, less actually. Ben wasn’t going to invite her to his family’s Christmas, but she strong armed her way into it through passive aggressiveness and trying to make him feel guilty. Which he didn’t, but he wanted to make her shut up
In a way I feel bad for her because you know Ben is just stringing her along because it’s too hard to break up. But you also somehow know her friends and even his family have been trying to point this out for months to her and she just keeps laughing it off. Caitlin, you’re incredible
As Ben's weird cousin, I'm just glad she interrupted before my grandmother and aunts started asking about my own partner because we are absolutely not ready to have that conversation. Thank you girl now we can spend the rest of the night murmuring about how you and ben are absolutely not the best couple we've seen
All those little jokes and bits that this character developed over the years as defense mechanisms are used to EXPOSE her right here... that was heartbreaking to watch.
Gosh the sneaking in line about the “convos I shouldn’t hear i’ll make myself scarce LIKE I HAVE DONE THIS PAST WEEK” just kills me xD You know the mom doesn’t approve!!
Ben was just minding his own business, having a good time with family. Now look at him, he's cringing, painfully smiling and nodding wanting the year to end. Poor Ben 😔
Bens cousin here, I am stoked because you ruined any possibility that anyone else in the family is going to ask me how rehab went. Run Ben!! Run far away as fast as you can!! Longest 2 minutes on the internet, you have amazing talent.
I interpreted the spill as planned. The character here was offering Ben an opportunity to kneel to clean up the spill but then suddenly and out of nowhere propose to her.
@Robert Yang I didn’t interpret it as that but more so that she was just clumsy and generally inept. But the drink spilling was definitely planned by Caitlin
If this were a romantic comedy, she would be dumped as soon as the cute girl who’s opened up her bakery, that she’s never at, but it somehow stays open comes into town or whatever.
The one thing that makes this even more believable for me is the very last couple of frames where it dawns on her that she will not be getting proposed to, and needs to leave immediately. That glimpse of actual, genuine, embarrassment and realization is what sold it for me. Kudos to you
I don't think that's about her being embarrassed. I think she's saying she is giving her boyfriend space that he is expected to use for ring shopping or talking to his parents and her parents about his desire to marry her. Except for perhaps the final second.
Gotta say these bits are really good for practicing social anxiety management b/c watching them evokes the same emotions as being in an uncomfortable/fumbled social situation. It’s incredible how immediate this made me feel like I was in a room full of painfully silent family members watching this poor girl struggle to keep it together.
I think part of it is this isn't an ahole character, just a person who really wants a commitment and is delusional about the prospects of that. It's fun when Karen gets her due, it's hard to watch somebody humiliate themselves.
I think the long, mortified pause after spilling booze all over herself was a perfect touch. Eg this kind of minor accident is something people do all the time after having a certain amount of drinks and gesticulating with a glass in their hand, and not everyone is going to respond in shame. But it's like the character experienced this abject epiphany of not being able to rely on herself at the moment it matters the most, the dislodged expression mid-speech and stretched out intrusion of self disappointment and alienation/disconnect in that moment is HILARIOUS and something i feel like anyone who's ever been drunk should be able to relate to, especially in a situation where they felt uncomfortable (and were drinking to mask it then lost some of their inhibitions). When you're drunk, it's reasonably common than you would feel like you have something profound to say that needs to be expressed immediately, while having lost the wherewithal to recognise that aspects of one's speech or motor skills have been affected. It's a schism between the sober neurosis and the drunken moment, and done beautifully. It's just mortifying. I love it, and am so relieved to feel at a massive distance from the crux of this scenario
God the fact that I lived through this. My cousin's 1st gf did this at a party and it was the most awkward shit ever. Nobody even pity laughed when she "messed up" her words and tried to make it funny, and kept glancing at him and insinuating he had a ring for her. We were completely dead silent because we all knew he was planning on breaking up with her soon. He broke up with her after the party too lmao. She wasn't bad but she had a tendency to make everything about her and just never shut up so it was a relief when she was gone
That last sentence, "She wasn't bad but had a tendency to make everything about her and just never shut up so it was a relief when she was gone." That hit home so hard, and while I could string out a story to support this, let me just say that I told the girlfriend of one of my best buddies this to her face almost word for word exactly this in front of him and her friends during the second or third mass gathering I had been invited to. While it was rude, I was also vindicated. At the time, before Whatsapp or whatever, we used Yahoo Groups in the early 2000's. I was sent private messages after the "confrontation", I was later told by multiple "friends of hers" how thankful they were that somebody said it out loud. I was obviously never invited to gatherings with her again, and I have some inclination that it might have been the last time they all met together like that and I said the quiet part everyone was thinking/feeling out loud.
I honestly don’t know how she bears up under the weight of being this perceptive. Seeing how weird people can be at this level would drive most people insane.
this feels SO MUCH LONGER than 2:28 and honestly i can't help but applaud you for that (your 'girl who is absolutely getting dumped' series is my favorite)
This is absolutely flawless! It's one of those moments where you start off with a slight smile and then slowly feel it dissolve into an ill suppressed grimace.
As Ben, I had to give the "be polite, let her talk; I'll explain things later" look to the family. I want her to do well, but realized she wasn't going to be the one to help me become the best version of myself. I got the heck out of that relationship, but I felt bad about ending it. In the end, it was the best thing though... I didn't want to waste anyone's time and I hope the best for everyone involved.
As a Slavic girl, I am just so relieved we don't really have these type of toasts in our family's or friend circle. They are so American TV to me. However you can't escape some kinda heated political debate (probably parents fighting over whether the Soviet Union was great or terrible)
Agree with some of the comments. It's one thing to deliver your lines but a whole difference when no one is standing opposite to receive. And yet she made me truly believe there's an entire room of people around her at a party. I didn't just see her expressions but of the people around her as well. Master performer.
She is so good that she actually makes me feel sympathy for this person she’s portraying- either having zero self-awareness of her overconfidence or being riddled with such a lack of self-worth to try SO HARD. The final 2:24 is sad to me either way. So… GOOD JOB!
By “weathered the storms” she actually is just talking about the 50+ fights that were caused by her insecurities after drinking too much. No shade, I’m speaking from experience. 😂
As Ben's single aunt, I'd like to say "Thank you for distracting everyone from asking me about when I'm having children because I'm already 29 and my ovaries are at risk of turning my child into Quasimodo. And for distracting Ben's sister from defending her husband, while only looking at me, even though I wasn't the one who suggested he had a drinking problem to begin with.
Holy shit. So good. You really know how to study people and translate their characters to us. I laugh and cringe so much. I wonder if people you have encountered like this ever recognize themselves in your skits!!!!
As a girl who is nothing like this, all I felt as this went on is immense sympathy for this girl. Like, yes, she is overdue for therapy and some anti anxiety meds perhaps but she just really wants to be loved 😢
She’s so awkward and desperate. I’ve watched this several times now and I’ve really warmed to her. Being married to her would be a nightmare. But she definitely needs a friend.
Is it passive aggressive? I thought she was just very socially awkward tbh. I didn’t interpret her as being aggressive, but more so using the speech to subtly (because she doesn’t know the definition of subtlety) hint to Ben and give him the go ahead in case he’s scared she’ll say no. I read the character as being ditzy physically and emotionally, but not malevolent.
@Mary Webb Yes, insular! This is the kind of person who implodes when you criticize them. Instead of changing their behavior, they are so self-focused they will either refuse to believe the criticism, or if you do get through to them they will just turn internalize it and get low self-esteem. But they will turn everything inward and never make the connection. Always self-focused
She is so good that even me, who is perfectly capable of understanding that she is a normal human being and is probably a very nice person still goes “ugh, not her again” whenever a video of hers comes up. She is great, very good at her job.
Right?! It's like you think an annoying family member has resurfaced, and then you remember that no, it's that total stranger who just does an uncanny impression of them.
She's participated in a few collegehumor game shoe episodes and it was so strange to ACTUALLY see that she's actually eloquent and intelligent, cause we've only come to know her through her shitty personas :D Like, we can all assume that she's probably more functional than her characters but seeing her real personality felt so strange because we don't know much about how real Caitlin acts
Her interpretation is so good that i can see the faces of the boyfriend's family looking at each other knowing how awakward this is but the most important part is that i can see the boyfriend's face looking at her with such an embarassment, really impressing
You can't help but feel sorry for Caitlin's character in this skit, even if she's making a fool out of herself. Her word flubs and awkwardness just make her oddly endearing.
Thanks Caitlin you did a GREAT JOB a creating awkwardness, clumsiness and DROPPING HINTS. He’s gotta be super stupid if he didn’t pick up on the hints. 😂😂😂
You know, everything about her videos is so calculated in this seemingly effortless way. From what she will wear, her makeup, little things she says or expressions and even just the way she holds a glass lol It's so perfect haha
Im Ben's sister who is super relieved that this speech happened just in time to keep Uncle Jebediah from doing his yearly "I hate everyone and everything that I don't understand" shpeel
The conflation of marriage and self-actualization in her mind is captured perfectly with the "open me" slip! Also she has definitely not made herself scarce this week!
