I love that you address the fact the saying "You're not their real parent" is gross because it really is. My parents had me and my 3 siblings but they also fostered for a while and it always made me mad when people said "You're not their real parents" or "you're not their real sister". It is nice to know that someone agrees with that so thank you ❤
For story 3, this girl isn’t her brothers guardian like you said…he’s barely out of his teens meaning he’s legally an adult. There’s no way she can “make him listen to her”, they’re essentially just roommates who live together. Plus as OP said, now that her brother has new friends, they don’t party late at night and just do Sunday dinners. OP also said that they don’t block the neighbors driveway and only park there if they have nowhere else to park…id say crab apple, because OP should’ve done more about the original late night partying, but I don’t think the parking was that big of a deal. Also, what you said about it being a law that they couldn’t park there…they may not have KNOWN it was a law, not all laws are clearly stated or strictly enforced.
I believe they would know they couldn't park there after the RESIDENTS ONLY sign went up. If they still parked there, guardian or no, they will be held responsible through the towing of the cars(s)
Yes! Or even just blankets, i like covering my couch with a large blanket bc my dogs shed like crazy, and I'm able to wash it as much as I feel comfortable
@jadecat9897 Yeah. Hopefully, the therapist tells them that it's not normal for people to bring a change of clothes to just go to someone else's house.
@@jadecat9897actually, cleanliness is a form of OCD. I have this specific type of OCD, so please don’t say it’s not OCD when I am diagnosed with this specific problem.
So... for the 4th story... they said "it's been a few hours" and he's already polled all his friends on the situation? When I have a disagreement with my husband, no way do I need or want all my friends to weigh in. How invasive is that? We are living in a strange world 🙄
I completely agree with you there, it's very weird and it feels like crossing a boundry for me. That's also a good way to get your friend to dislike your partner because they are not in the relationship so they only know one side of the story
Story 1: Gary is a BAD APPLE! He is a BAD "parent." A better word is neglectful, lazy, sexist, and dare I say regretful. Gary had poor parenting because he was doing nothing. He could have helped in several ways. Tell his children to get ready, getting the kids cloths ready while the wife wrangles the kid, dressing one child while the wife dresses another. Supporting the wife with the children will help with the relationships of the entire family. Come on, Gary, chose to be better.
I agree. I think if you're going to call yourself a parent, you are EXPECTED (not requested, expected) to be present in your kids lives. That doesn't seem to be what's going on. Gary's a bad apple all the way. However, I do agree he needed to be called out, but in that way that it wouldn't be well received? I don't agree with that... intentions good apple, execution bad apple.
Story #1: I’m a new dad and a teacher. When my wife went back to work after maternity leave, I took over as “stay-at-home parent” over the summer. It was the most wonderful but also utterly exhausting time of my life. Taking care of kids is a full-time+ job. Just because one person is the bread winner in a relationship, doesn’t mean they shouldn’t help. Good apple.
3rd story, the OP said his brother was "barely out of his teens" which means he's at least 20. They share the house left to them by their parents. He's not the "boss" of his brother, his brother is an adult and will do as he likes no matter what his older brother says. I think that's what he means when he says his brother won't listen to him. The younger brother is not a child and his older brother is not his custodian or guardian in any way.
For Story 3: It says that her brother is barely OUT of his teens. This means the brother is an adult around 20-21ish and they are essentially roommates. I didn't take that to mean that she was his guardian, more just an explanation of him being young and so he tends to be into partying. Therefore I'm teetering between good and crab-apple, because although she is not being helpful or even sympathetic, I don't really think she has the responsibility of controlling her adult brother's behavior.
She's also part of the household, the household responsibilities are split between the two of them. If she's not willing to be responsible for the way her house guests behave, then don't be upset when your neighbors take matters on their own hands
@@lexyruse603 @eltpidemalaguero Ahhhh, okay I gotcha, if it's her guest then she's the bad apple, I thought it was a continuation of the brother being loud. I think he was the bad apple for that part.
@lexyruse603 which wasn't against any rule until the neighbor paid the city to turn the area in front of their house into a resident only parking space which the story says is what happened. Parking is not legally restricted until there is a public notice even IF if was already a rule or law which it didn't sound like it was. Because if there was an HOA they would have been on the faster than a dog on a bone for the loud parties before the Sunday gatherings.
@jasonwethy8360 yeah I agree with you. HOA and cities can be petty AF. And just because the neighbors got a shiny sign saying only they could park there doesn't mean there was a preexisting rule. Also, I'm sorry but I'm just not convinced by any of your reasons for it being wrong for people to park in front of the neighbors house. Seems like The neighbors just don't want people to park their out of a sense of territorialism more than any real reason.
Story #2 sounds like OCD or something similar. They should cover furniture. They do need to get therapy, but I don't think they're the bad apple. I have OCD, and while I think there are better solutions, it sounds like they're undiagnosed and don't fully get it. Plus, while it is inconvenient, it's not mean. The friends wouldn't be wrong for not coming over, but they aren't wrong for having that boundary. Before I was diagnosed and in therapy, there were days where I would scrub and scratch the skin of my hands just to feel clean. I really hope they get help.
Story 1: op- good Apple. A bit harsh, but warranted. Gary is a bad apple. I am the breadwinner so my wife can be a stay at home mom. Even with that in mind, I take my three kids to their activities, play with them, get them ready for events, and do my best to be a good parent. When a parent is present, they should parent.
For the fourth story: If *anyone* in my life *ever* said to me, *"You don't need that bread, its too many carbs."* don't even get me started!! Who are you to dictate what I eat? Or what anyone eats for that matter? I love bread and I don't care what anyone says.
Yeah exactly the whole story was judged wrong I’m pretty sure lol, I think the brother is of an age that he can not be controlled by her anymore, nor is she fulfilling the role of a guardian, they are simply roommates. So the only people who can actually do something are the police, so I think she’s a crab apple not a bad apple
@starchanneljoseph plus the story literally said for $150 the city will make the place infront of your house your parking only so there was no rule until the neighbors paid the money
Story 1: the husband of Ashley made himself look bad. And the sister actively getting her children ready speaks volumes about her parenting compared to hers so good apple
Story #4: I just want to say I also don’t like it when people eat my food. But the way they handled that was terrible. If it bothers you so much that she eats a lot of the nan bread…BUY MORE!!! When I go out with people I hate it when they try to take my food. “Joey doesn’t share food!!” 😂 So I just buy them a portion and me a portion. Yes, it costs more than sharing one but if there’s extra eat it for leftovers. That way no one gets mad and everyone has a happy belly. But stop being a jerk when you’re the person who only ordered the one side of bread to “share”. I also agree it is not your right to dictate how she eats her food that’s just weird and controlling.
It wants HIS food. It was a shared side. He just didn’t like it that she would eat it on its own, rather than dip it. It didn’t even imply that she was eating more of it than she should. His only problem was how she was choosing to eat her portion.
@@MehWhatever99Yeah, really odd to be mad at how someone eats. I think he'd still be mad if she ordered it as her own side and didn't "eat it properly". Eat soup with a fork for all I care. Personally, I eat Kit Kats and Nutter Butters by layer. That probably upsets some people.
Story #1 - I agree completely. :) Story #2 - I hear you on the "No outside clothes IN the bed" thing. I have very sensitive skin and the rashes I get from stuff like that, the itching, sometimes for days, and the sores that last weeks or months... Yeah, no, it's awful. I've had people accuse me of being OCD for taking steps to avoid these skin reactions (which, if I take these steps, I can almost entirely eliminate from my life, but I have to be very strict with myself about following the rules)... yeah, I don't feel like it's OCD to not want to have bleeding sores all over my body and itchy rashes of doom. I can't help it my skin is so sensitive. Early on, people thought it was maybe the soap or detergent, but it turns out it's tied to my neurological (seizure) issues and how the nerves in the skin react. As for therapy, if you can find a competent and friendly therapist who is willing and able to meet with you and try to help, great. I have not met many therapists like that, but they theoretically exist. Story #3 - Blasting music that other people can hear down the street at all hours of the night is rude. YES! Thank you! Please tell MY neighbors' pack of kids/teens that! My neighbors and I *DO* call the police non-emergency line, though, and the police do come out and get them to quiet down... eventually... but it's a regular thing all summer long! So rude! As for the parking, I understand being annoyed by people parking in front of your house. On holidays, my neighbors do park in front of my house, and I don't make a big deal about it. That said, it is annoying because of the constant car door slamming and the reflected evening sun into my windows (causing me to have to pull the curtains and lose my outside view), but they don't do it all the time, and I understand. Sometimes, as neighbors, you put up with minor annoyances in the spirit of peaceful coexistence. If it happened all the time, though, I might get far more annoyed about it. Story #4 - Yep, I agree completely. If you want more bread, BUY MORE BREAD! The red flags be waving here.
Story 3: "Barely out of his teens" infers he's an adult; roommates rather than guardian and child. If that's the case, it's not necessarily her responsibility to keep him in control. She could help for the sake of the neighborhood but if they both own the house, she can't force him. As far as the parking is concerned, it wasn't against any laws/rules until the neighbors PAID to make it that way. The city didn't originally enforce it. Crabapple I'd say, just for the lack of effort in trying to defuse the situation (per how it reads). The neighbors are definitely petty apples and were going to complain period. The brother: bad apple, hands down.
My 2nd cousin is so paranoid about Covid, he makes overnight guests shower every time they return to the house. However, over Thanksgiving, he had 25 people come to dinner, but he didn't even make wear masks. The last time I came into the house, he wasn't home, so I chose not to shower, he was never the wiser.
For story one I wonder if Gary thinks that since he’s not the seven years olds bio parent he doesn’t have to parent. That’s what he said to op so I wonder if he feels that way about himself too. Still no excuse for the two year old and newborn but maybe that dynamic made him lazy and distant so when he started having bio kids he thought it could be the same
Story 3 is more like a crab apple to me. OP said his brother is barely OUT OF his teens meaning just about 20? So he isn't taking care of him and I can totally see the brother stating "You're not in charge of me so I can do what I like." So yea, ask the neighbors to call the police because his brother clearly was listening to him. Now crab apple because yea, just because everyone is calmer now doesn't mean they get to take up all the parking all the time. The neighbors asked you to not let someone park there, you told them no, so they bought the space. I'm guessing that is allowed either in some states or over seas because you can't do it in MA. Public space is public space. It's not illegal just inconsiderate.
The last story was wild. She paid for half the meal. The Nan bread was a side they both paid for. It's none of your business how she chooses to eat her food. Thats such a controlling and ridiculous mindset.
He definitely shouldn't be talking about how many carbs she's eating with his friends - that's messed up. I do think he should let her have a little bread if she really wants some, but, at the same time, I so understand him wanting his because it's specifically for his meal. Honestly they should just order extra Naan and that solves the problem imo
I feel so bad for the woman in story #1 because i have 2 cousins that are fostered and I love having them around and it breaks my heart when people accuse other of "Your bot their REAL sibling" and stuff like that its really sad
At my house, you’re able to sit on furniture with any clothes (except beds if ur a non- family guest), you just aren’t able to use the blankets that are for the living room. There’s a basket full of blankets in my living room to use while sitting on the couch, but you can only use them if you’re wearing clothes you haven’t gone outside with. It think that rule is fair, but not being able to sit on furniture in GENERAL is just absurd. Bad apple fr
I agree accept for number 2 i think crab because he did mention it before the friend came over and i don't think he did anything inherently wrong but i also don't think making people change or wear a poncho in your house is good apple either
Story 2: My mother had cancer and took a turn for the worse during covid. She was in the ICU. There were a ton of protocols we had to follow to visit her (proof of vaccination, double masking, gloves, surgical smocks, only one visitor per day, answering a questionnaire about our health). That is literally the only time I've ever heard someone being concerned about the germs on our clothes before this story. Eegads dude. You have an immune system for a reason.
I agree with your reasoning on story 1. The reason I might go crabapple is because we don’t know what kind of conflict the OP saying something critical like that might create for the sister. Men who think that because they work, they don’t have to participate in parenting also don’t tend to see their wives as equals, and I’m worried that she’s going to end up being punished somehow because the OP spoke up. I think if it were me, I would have talked to her first, and seen if it was ok with her for me to say something.
Whenever I hear something about Family, I get this feeling maybe when someone’s in a situation with family where their whole family is being rude or horrible and they are being nice and stuff. Maybe you could use the phrase sometimes good apples fall from bad trees? Big fan!
The story about the cars on the street, we have a rental house next door. They always have cars parked in front of our house. We got a citation from the HOA due to one of the junk vehicles they left in front of our house for days.
That last story was wild. I don’t love sharing food, even with my partner. And I have opinions about food (mustard is awful and crunchy topping needs to stay off my Mac and cheese), some of which I know my partner doesn’t agree with (I love olives and seemingly all the sauces he can’t stand) Just because his girlfriend doesn’t want to dip her bread doesn’t mean she loses her portion. That’s insane, especially if she’s paying half. You don’t have to agree to allow her to eat
I’d say crab apple for story 3, as others in the comments stated the brother is an adult, OP is not a guardian. So like any bad roommate you can voice to them to keep it down but some just don’t listen. The parking thing once a neighbor expresses I don’t want people parking in front of my house you should make more effort to try and accommodate that request. Obviously unable to if the rest of the street is full but it doesn’t sound like it was.
For story 3 I was somewhat involved in a similar ish situation. My stepdad is a trucker, but we lived off a highway, and usually he can park on the side briefly. Well the neighbors called the law and said he was blocking their view, I wish they would have come to us, so a sheriff shows up where he's in the shower and I was so confused, but we just took the truck to a truck stop and it was okay, so I can see if it was a moment of being there, but every weekend being in the way, and on most people's only day to truly relax, they want to block the neighbors house, that's not okay. Those poor neighbors put up with so much of these people's shenanigans too.
Story 3 - Not her child, not her problem. As for the parking, while they were parked there there was no sign, they had no right to ask the cars to be moved as it was unmarked street parking which is legal. (Unless theres a local law etc but we're out of that information). Once the sign went up to make it resident only, THEN it became disallowed to park there, if they continued (we're unaware if they did) then they've done something wrong. Parking there before it was made resident only isn't an issue, continuing after its disallowed is.
Mu husband constantly worries about my carb intake, but that's because he's diabetic and doesn't want me to get diabetes. He doesn't tell me what I can or can't eat, but he may ask if I'm over my carb intake for the day or show some concern, which I'm ok with. In the beginning he tried and I put him in his place real quick and told him he is not my parent so don't act like one. LOL Since then, he's careful about how he words things so he's not "telling" me what I should or should not do
#2 My mom has very bad OCD and I have experienced this. She got a therapist but those rules never changed. We can’t be I the house with outside clothes. She is working through that so I get it. He needs to seek help.
Story #2 is near and dear to my heart. When I can have a place of my own, I'm keeping a bunch of comfy house slippers & little baggies for those who do not want to take off their shoes so they don't track she on my floor. But my livingroom furniture will be outside clothing friendly. My partner would put outside clothes, shoes, & food in the bed, so it's really just my thing lmao. HOWEVER, if I knew that person, I would be extremely comfortable in their home, because even if a smoker or somebody who showers once a month or someone who just had a rough day in the heat comes over, it's not gonna be shmeared all over the furniture and stinking up the place. That'd be my best fucking friend foreal. Their house would be such a safe space, because in MY own hoke, while it is the safest space, I will not feel comfortable hanging out on my couch when I'm fresh out then shower because it's an oitdoor clothing friendly spot. Of course I can place a blanket there, but at story #2's house, I never have to worry about remembering which side of the blanket is the couch side and which is the clean side.
I'm struggling with apple #2 op. On one hand, I totally agree with you. That obsession is extreme. However, I also don't know how to decide because his house, his rules and where he said he told the friend ahead of time, I'm just not sure. I don't think the friend was wrong to have left, though.
For story 3, she's the bad apple for not making her guest move their cars, but regarding not controlling her brother, her brother is seemingly an adult as she says he's out of his teens. It's possible she really had no power to control him. Even a teenager under her legal guardianship would be hard to control by a young sister guardian. But yes, she should at least have tried talking to him and if he didn't listen, she could let him know that he may have to face the consequences if the neighbors call the police.
@@AnnabethOwl Evenso, the main problem is how she responded to her neighbour's complaints. I would free her of fault if she told them "I'm sorry. I tried getting them to move their cars but they didn't listen. I understand any further action you choose to take against them.". But instead (based on her words), she seem to think her neighbours were wrong to toe the cars of the guests.
Story 1- when I was with my ex husband. I was the one with a full time job and he was a "stay at home dad" but I still had to do everything around the house and get the kids ready for things. I would have loved someone stand up for me! He was a horrible husband. I'm so glad I finally made the decision to leave after an incident occurred!
"How many germs do we track into our houses from the outside???" Me, glancing at our dogs and the insane amount of (hopefully) mud they have been tracking in: "Yeah. You never know."
One important point on story #3, unless there's some piece of information that was edited out or otherwise omitted, there's nothing in the story that was read that suggests the brother was under the OP's guardianship. In fact, it says the brother was "just out of his teen years" meaning he, and likely the majority or entirety of his friends are all grown adults. Meaning the OP has neither the obligation or the right to attempt to control the behavior of the brother and the brother's friends. While yes, no one should be parking where legal signs say not to, all the bits about the OP needing to do a better job of essentially parenting their brother and his friends just doesn't really hold any water.
In my opinion in story #4 I would say crab apple because she could have asked and maybe he would have said yes, but she just grabbed one assuming he would let her. I understand that he shouldn’t tell her what to eat or how it’s just maybe this could have been avoided if she just asked for it?
As for Story #2 im a germaphobe my room n bed absolutely not but more public rooms, i would just get sanitizers to clean the couch after or covers or even what i call "dirty blankets" blankets to use/cover clean things so outside "dirty" stuff can touch them not put the responsibility on my friends/fam they just arent allowed to touchy bed, pjs, or shower towels if they are dirty cause no
The only way 4 would make sense is if it was something that came with your food that you needed, like say the pancakes for moo shu. And the other person refuses to get their own, or even refused to let you buy extra for them, but insists on taking yours.
2: It might seem a little crazy and excessive for most cultures, however it's a pretty reasonable house rule since he does provide something for them to change into or wear over their clothes. Honestly this rule isn't hurting anyone and he is providing a way for people to keep that rule. I think this is what I'd consider a unique house rule of this individual that should be respected. I have some locations I go to that I'm required to change into indoor clothes once I enter and there's nothing wrong with that. As long as he provides a way for the rule to be kept and only enforces it in his own home, it's fine. His home, his rules. They're not hurting anyone. If people can have the take off your clothes at the door rule or a mask rule for their comfort, I see no reason why he can't have this rule. However if he starts turning into an entire germaphobe, he might need a little bit of therapy and even a little therapy now to help keep him from becoming one wouldn't hurt. But honestly there's nothing wrong with this rule if this individual is uncomfortable with outdoor clothing touching the furniture of within the walls of his own house since he tells people prior and provides them something so they can keep the rule if they don't have an alternative option. Respect this man's home culture and let him be.
3 was definitely a crab apple at worst. Not only was the brother not a child, as others have mentioned (so the parent/guardian argument is a bit off), but the neighbors clearly paid the city to put the notice up. Unless an HOA has certain rules, streets in front of houses are public, except when an official sign is posted. The neighbors paid for said sign just because they were unhappy that the cars were legally parked somewhere that ticked them off. Other than that, I absolutely agree with the other verdicts.
Do you ever check to see if there’s updates on any of these stories? Cause I think it would be totally cool if you did like an updates episode, if there are any
Story 1-Good Apple same reason as Rebecca. Story 2-Crab Apple because I think he has OCD and is a big Germaphobe. Story 3-Crab Apple I think he should gotten control over his brother but he wasnt in the wrong because his brother was a adult. Story 4-Crab Apple because he never mentioned carbs only his friend did but he should let his Girlfriend eat the bread the way she wants to eat the bread
Re the parking You have it backwards. Rule is: you can park as long as not blocking driveway or in no parking zone. Neighbor paid extra to make their home a no parking zone. The answer to this is like talking like adults with neighbors Re bread: one, break up; second, get more bread you greedy jerk
My score: Story 1: good apple 🍎 I got good apple because even though I am not a parent I would love if someone stood up for me if my partner wasn’t helping with 3 kids!!!! But I agree that calling someone a bad parent when they don’t do something is crossing a line but otherwise good apple. Story 2: bad apple 🍎 I chose bad apple because even though it is good to be a tidy person doesn’t mean it has to get excessive, there is a big difference between clean freak and being an over all tidy person, I went bad apple because it sounds like OP has an obsession. Story 3: bad apple 🍎 I have a neighbor who parks in front of my other neighbor’s driveway and it is soooo annoying so I get it and recently he parked in ours but we let it go the only problem is he has been informed of this issue many times and he does it on purpose he also rides his LOUD truck normally at 2-3 AM and on school nights just to bother so yea police has been called but it sounds like in the story the senior citizens are bothered by this issue so yes bad apple. Story 4: bad apple 🍎 I am sorry but I believe people should eat whatever makes them happy, you shouldn’t dictate what someone eats or how they eat it specially a partner, you should encourage them to be happy healthy and enjoy every second because making someone else feel bad will not make you feel any better about yourself so yes I will go with bad apple. I also have a question!: How do you choose which stories you are going to do in the next episodes? Just curious because you always pick great ones!
I was debating about coming forward but I’m going to. I’m OP for apple #3. Just to explain some things my brother is 23 and all of his friends are adults. I tried asking them to keep the noise down and if a neighbor complained about the noise I would let my brother know. When he and his friends wouldn’t listen I finally told my neighbors that the noise makers weren’t listening to me and to please call the police in hopes that maybe the police could make an impact on them. I did ask the Sunday gang to not park in front of my neighbor’s house if there was any open space anywhere else. They listened for the most part but occasionally one would park in front of the neighbor’s house. In our town you can go to the city and pay $150 to get a resident only parking sign that allows you to dictate who can park in front of your house. As long as the $150 is paid the city will put up the sign. I appreciate all of the feedback. If the sign comes down I will definitely make sure my guests don’t start parking there again. I know how frustrating the crowd is because even though I’m not a senior (in my forties) I am an introvert. I hate all the people and noise too. I honestly have no clue what to do about my brother and his friends.
On the first situation, if people are saying “well, he has to work all day…” you missed a very important point. The mom is also working all day too, but she doesn’t only work all day and get to come home and relax. She doesn’t stop her job, it’s a 24/7 job for at least 18 years. I think men like that should switch jobs with the mom for a week. But he has to do EVERYTHING the mom does in her day to day life. Of course he has stress from his job, but try having a 24/7 job with zero time off for 18 years.
As to story #2 as someone who has a compromised immune system... whenever I am going through a "rough patch" we do a protocol of similar things to what he's describing... my family comes home & goes straight to the laundry room dumps their clothes and goes straight to the shower and then they wear new clothes to make sure they haven't brought anything back to me in our house... but I don't expect friends to do this... they are just asked to wear a mask 😷... even prior to COVID.... not that I have MANY friend. 💞ALOHA FROM HAWAI'I 💞🌹 LYSSA 🌹
I have an unpopular opinion: regardless of mental health issues (OCD) the rules that someone sets in their own house (ie their safe space) need to be respected. It’s important to encourage someone to seek therapy or help when these things come up, of course it doesn’t make these things normal. But as a guest it’s your responsibility to make sure that you have the ability to respect the homeowners wishes. That being said, it is the homeowners responsibility to communicate effectively and understand that their own expectations are unreasonable for most. For instance, I could see this person saying “I have this rule for my house, it might be a good idea for us to gather at someone else’s house if this is unreasonable for others.” Basically, you’re not a therapist so it’s not your job to establish when this person’s anxieties are challenged.
Story 2- I would say Crab apple or even good apple. As someone who has an autoimmune condition and OCD I understand completely where they are coming from. Yes, they could have just put a sheet of plastic on the furniture, but clearly that solution didn’t cross their mind even though it’s probably less awkward than rain coats. But even then, they made their boundaries very clear AND it’s their house so their rules in the end. The friend acknowledged the rule meaning that they remembered but decided to disrespect their friend and basically say that their boundary was a joke which is extremely rude. I agree in saying that the op needs some professional talk, but the friend is definitely in the wrong.
Apple #2 reminded me of my firend. One day I went over to her house and she said "oh by the way I have to new rules for my bedroom." I said "okay." She said "okay, 1 you make a mess you clean it up." I said "okay, well I do that anyway." She said "yeah and 2 is no outside clothes on my bed." That one kind of bothered me because when I'm home I don't usually go outside when I'm off work. Because we have snow and I hate the cold. So I don't go outside. But she gave me clothes to change into anyway. I understand her wanting to keep her bed clean because she has white blankets. But I'm not going to bring a fresh change of clothes over to her house to change into just to sit on her bed. Especially since I have five dogs and my clothes are always covered in dog hair. I can't controll that. I'm I the bad apple for not wanting to change my clothes because of my dogs?
#3: seen people mention the guardian thing so I’m going to hop right to the parking. Lots of cities will tow if the neighbors pay for “resident only” sections. It has nothing to do with previously established bylaws, and I do think it’s unreasonable to do that when THE NEIGHBORS HAVE A DRIVEWAY that’s not being blocked. It’s one thing if it’s a rager every Sunday and the neighborhood is filled with cars. 5 cars on the street once a week? Where do non-residents park in the neighborhood if not on the street. Unless it’s for a disability or residents have trouble finding parking near their home regularly I think the neighbors’ action is extreme.
As an Indian I rarely eat naan with curry, I have had dinners where I just eat like 10 slices of naan with nothing else. If they have an issue sharing sides they shouldn’t share side each person can get there own naan bread.
Story 2 - Maybe crab apple. It is his house. If these are the rules he set for his place, so be it. My rule is that people walk around outside in their shoes so those need to come off or use shoe covers when in my home. If that rule isn't followed or someone doesn't like it, leave. This is MY safe space and I want it the way I want it. Seems like OP has OCD and yes therapy is a good option but also, it's still his house and he pays the bills not his friends.
For story 2, I understand where they're coming from. It's hard to know that something internal is not the standard thought process. I think they would likely benefit from therapy, but I don't think they're in the wrong. As someone who struggled to manage their OCD in the past, I think those actions can't be classed as good or bad. It's kind of just neutral, but I hope they are able to work through it as the distress level is likely very high if they have come up with these complex solutions to avoid the triggers. For story 4, just look for Naan at your local grocery store. I know mine has it. Just plan ahead for the nights you get Indian food. Get a pack and heat some in the oven. It should be pretty cheap and you can have as much Naan as you want. Gatekeeping your partners carb intake is messed up though
Story #1 Even if Gary is the breadwinner with a full time job, he still has to help with his kids. My husband works 11 hour shifts, so definitely the breadwinner. The home is my domain: chores, cooking, our child when he’s at work, all of that. We’re happy with our arrangement. But kids are common ground. When he’s home we both pitch in equally for our child, no questions asked. I rarely, if ever, find a person being a breadwinner an excuse for not paying attention to your kid.
Story #3: Sounds their brother isn’t a child. He’s “out of his teens” so seems that he and his friends are actually adults and this is more of a roommate situation and not a guardian/child situation. If their cars get towed, not OP’s problem 🤷🏼♀️
When i was younger I lived with my mother and we lived across the street from a church and they would park on the street before their parking lot cuz it was closesr. I know my mom called the city and they said there was NOTHING we could do. We ended up moving cuz every Sunday we could hardly get in and out of our driveway. There was even a few times they parked over part of the opening of the drive way. It was a narrow one car driveway and we had to call for a tow truck to tow a car because we legit could NOT get out of the driveway.
