Going to Confession for the First Time in a Long Time 

Hi. I went to confession hours ago. I also had a list which btw, ur comment encouraged me to rip them also and not keep the list :), but when I got home, I realized that I forgot a sin or 2. Were those sins that I have forgotten forgiven also?

@@yestrech Thanks be to God! That’s wonderful news! Here’s what I know about that- If you forgot your sins, they are still forgiven! If it puts your mind at ease, you can confess them the next time you go to confession. It’s only an issue if you left something out on purpose. But if you forget a sin or two, you are still forgiven, and you can still confess those the next time you go, if it makes you feel better.

@@celieostroski9723 Thank you so much! I feel guilt and have been stressing over it. Even though I feel this way, I guess this wasn't forgiven. Id also like to ask, is keeping a secret from my parent considered a sin even tho I am at legal age?

@@yestrech I wouldn’t assume so. There’s so many factors that can play into something like that. But from what I can tell you, it most likely is not a mortal sin.

Me too ..❤

Welcome back to the Body of Christ, my friend. :)

I’m in the same boat, I haven’t been to confession, my first time since baptism and preparing RCIA for confirmation. I have plenty of time for examination of conscience and so far have 33 line items I wanted to confess and counting. Like most confessors I want it to be perfect but glad to know at least what Fr Schmitz said about forgetting some it’ll be forgiven because of my intentions.

GREAT IDEA

❤️ a few years ago I heard a Mother Angelica talk about confession and she goes every two weeks when she was alive because in her mind she has a hard enough time remembering those past 2 weeks why would she ever want to have to work so hard to remember longer than that 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and she couldn't ever imagine being on her deathbed and having to recall months and years of things she needed to confess at a time that might be super short. EWTN plays all of her recording over the years and it's amazing how relevant they still are today and she just makes me laugh like father Mike Schmidt 👍🤣. Love confession!!!!

@@danielandterrispilde6106 I go once a week :)

@@notajedimaster2489 👏👏👏 Thanks be to God 🙏🙏

Hi. I went to confession hours ago. I had a list, but when I got home, I realized that I forgot a sin or 2. Were those sins that I have forgotten forgiven also?

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I am going for my first confession ever on the 11th. I have 54 years of sins to confess. This video is perfect timing

@@bethwright1747 It will be wonderful! And welcome home!

Last year I went after 50 years of being away from the Church. The priest was wonderful and it's so freeing. Huge relief. And yes I wrote it all down.

How long did that take? Not trying to be funny. I thought the priest only gives you 15 mins maximum for confession.

@@jellybellyfun3288I think different priests do it differently. I made an appointment with him. So it wasn't during regular confession time. I needed a lot of help just even figuring out how to do a confession. He was very patient and very helpful and gave me a lot of good counsel. I can't remember how long it took. That was almost 2 years ago but ... it took a while.

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Hi there! First off, you’re not an awful person. Our theology says that we humans are made good. God loves you so much. He looks at you as if you were the only person to ever exist. In regards to confession, I have a severe anxiety disorder and panic disorder. Confession is very, very hard for me. My priest who has been ordained for 23 years once told me he has ever seen anyone as nervous and scared as I am. I’m still terrified of it, but I try to go every week or two. Here’s my advice: 1. Gain a relationship with a priest who you know him and are comfortable around him. I often hear people say to do anonymous confession if you’re nervous, but I’ve found that even worse. Find a priest (it doesn’t have to be your local parish priest, it can be someone else) who is friendly, kind, caring, and patient. 2. Talk to that priest about your fears before actually going to confession. This will help him gain prescriptive and compassion for your situation. Tell him why you’re scared. Don’t be afraid to tell him the exact reasons. 3. When you begin confession, ask the priest to say a Hail Mary with you. It’s a simple thing, but it has helped me a lot. 4. Ask Mary to come to confession with you. She’s your loving mother and she wants to share that experience with you. She wants to help you, but you have to let her. 5. I learned this from the book Fr. Mike talked about in this video, which I highly recommend getting a copy of. In Luke 22:43, an angel ministered to Jesus while on the cross. An ancient tradition says that during His passion, that angel showed Jesus your action of going to confession, and that strengthened Him. He knew that 2000 years later, one of His children would need the grace from His moment of agony. This strengthened Him. Know that every time you go to confession, in some mysterious way, you are strengthening Jesus and giving Him courage. Don’t be afraid to let Him give you the grace you need. You are not a disappointment to Him. If you need anything, don’t be afraid to let me know. God bless you, my dear sibling. I’d also recommend reflecting on the parable of the Prodigal Son. That is how God looks at us in confession.

Hey friend! God desires so much to welcome you into His merciful embrace - and even the most embarrassing things the priest has definitely heard before! And they mostly forget it all afterwards anyway. Trust me, it is SO worth it to get those things off your soul and to be in God's grace again. Praying for you 🙏

I understand how you feel.I went to confession last year after a 50 year absense. I was so ashamed of my awful sins so went to the cathedral rather than my parish church. Please remember the priest will help you, and he has probably heard it all before. For many years I felt alone and mixed up. Since my confession I have a sense that Our Lord Jesus is helping me on the journey to being a better person. Kind thoughts and 🙏📿from .🇬🇧

Just before Easter I decided to go to confession for the first time in about 10/12 years. I had been plucking up my courage for months beforehand. Eventually it was my turn to go to the priest He is a lovely man who was so kind to me. I told him I hadn't been for ages and he just said that I must not worry and God already knows what I had to say and has already forgiven my sins. After that it was easy to just talk to the priest. He said that we will just chat and that's what happened. It took maybe 8 or 10 minutes. (I could have stayed and chatted longer!😄). I'm sure your priest will be just as kind to you. God Bless!!

@@kaitlynlightfoot9591 thank you for taking the time to write to me. Please pray for me.

I know where you are coming from. I am 80% deaf. Trying to hear a priest whisper to you through a dark plexiglass window with tiny holes is very scary and intimidating. Prefer just a quiet moment with God.

Musicfan1020 Scripture says in Isaiah 42:25 .....I will not remember your sins.

Jesus said: do not be afraid. Please choose a priest you feel good in his homily. I think those priests will not scold you. Past is the past.

Please don't let the bad experience in past prevent you from God's forgiveness. Come to the priest you feel comfortable.

@@stantheman2194 you can use face to face in the confession room. Please don't make excuses not to go.

Hallo Landsmann!

@@worldonfire6154 aber halb irisch 🇮🇪

Leaving Christ because of Judas is not a good decision

The Lord wants you to go! Ask Him for His help, and for that of His Blessed Mother!

Contact the rectory of the church you go to and sign up for the process for conversion in the church. I loved going through the program!

Please speak to a priest 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

Feel free to contact your local priest and ask for an appointment to talk to them about this, they'd be happy to guide you! :)

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So sorry about your loss. I remember when my husband died it really helped me tremendously to go to confession weekly. I hope you are able to go back. Prayers.🙏🙏 for you. God bless!

Have been a Catholic for my entire life. I miss my close relationship with God and His Church. These suggestions have opened my heart. 🙏💜❤️🙏🏽

Why did you become an atheist?

That’s between you and God not the Catholic Church. God bless you. I will pray for you.

Congratulations. Go talk to your parish priest. I think you might be mixing a few things up. All of your sins were forgiven up to your baptism. Sins committed after that are new sins. Do an examination of conscience every night, repent to God beg for his mercy, then go to confession so you receive the Eucharist again

The ancient Christians always had the practice of going to confession with a priest. If you examine the Church Fathers, you’ll find that the earliest Christians were Catholics, and that the Sacrament of Confession was practiced! I was once where you are, but upon reading Scripture and the writings of the earliest Christians, I found the One True Church established by Jesus Christ, and I’m so happy! Ask me anything if you like, I’ll say a prayer for you!

They're the same thing

just different words it means the same.

It depends on the confessional really. Some have chairs and others have kneelers. Some have screens to protect the priest from the sinner; others are more conversational. Historically, women were better protected from the priest behind the screen of a confessional because there was a history of priests desiring to comfort the women distressed by sexual sins. With rampant abuses like homosexuality, I would think that men would feel safer behind the screen as well for fear the priest might be a predator. As for the acts of contrition, they typically have one posted by the penitent’s kneeler so you don’t have to lug a heavy book into the confessional. Writing out your own act of contrition may be an option as well and saying it when you complete the confession if none of the words quite work before absolution. We try to make some grand confession, but the trick is doing it more than trying or going through the motions. Breathe and greet the priest with a thank you for seeing you. I’ve even gone so far as to incorporate “My prayers are with you, Father” or something like that at the end when I leave the confessional. It’s almost a love letter when you think about it.

@ Y B Nearly all the confessionals I've been to have both a chair in a corner as well as a kneeler in front of a screen. You are free to choose whichever when you walk in. Sometimes the priest will start by saying "Welcome" or if he doesn't, as soon as you kneel/sit you say "Bless me, Father, for I have sinned. It is has been __________ (weeks/month/years) since my last confession. These are my sins: ...." Then, When you are done, say "For these and all my sins, I am deeply sorry." Then the priest takes over, gives you a penance, tells you to say the Act of Contrition (you can read it from your cell or paper), then he absolves you. Remember, like Fr. Mike said in the video, you can write down your sins on a piece of paper or on your cell phone if that works better for you.

@@mariaellasm Thank you, very helpful but "write down my sins"? Even if I could remember one tenth of them (which I can't) I could write many book volumes (no really - if I started counting back 30 years all the times I disrespected my parents or all the times I told little white lies or wasn't totally honest or all the times I wished harm on someone there would be encyclopedia volumes of sins to go through). What about speeding or running red lights, are those sins? Where would I start; chronologically, or big sins first or maybe start at the first commandment? Honestly, if I listed ALL my sins, I'm sure either me or the priest would die of old age before I was finished.

If you tell the priest upfront you’re not sure what to do, he’ll usually help guide you during the Confession. My priest tends to want to dive in right away, so normally he’ll ask me how long it’s been since my last Confession and go from there. Other priests I go to usually do a small welcome (as it is a joyous occasion when a sinner confesses) and ask me to lead with an Act of Contrition. From there, admit your sins as best you can. If you get stuck, hopefully the priest will help you gather your thoughts until you feel you’ve confessed everything. Depending how it goes, the priest may ask you to say a small prayer with him, give you something (such as a prayer card or bible text), penance, and then conclude with the absolution. It’s nerve wracking and confessing sins will probably make you shake, sweat, and fumble for words, but the peace at the end is such a relief for the soul.

@@yb5515 You don't have to list every single individual sin, just the type and amount of times you committed it. If you can't remember the exact number then just give a general figure like more than ten times or more than a hundred. Look up "how to make a general confession" and you'll find some articles that will help you.

Hi there Howard! I am so sorry you had a very bad experience with this priest. That was wrong in what he did, and he will be held accountable before GOD. Have you tried another priest? Please give it another go. 😇 And lifting you up to our Sweet JESUS - who is lovingly waiting for you! 🙏

I hope you reported him to his elder -- that is so disrespectful (even for someone like me who does not agree with the concept of confession) While you may have stopped going to the Catholic Church -- please do not give up on God -- He is the only perfect one -- this man who was rude to you is also a sinner - as shown in his example 😞

Welcome 🙏 There is wisdom behind the phrase "Confession is good for the soul"

As a convert I worried about confessing 57 years. When I went to my first confession & heard the words you are absolved it was like a bell went off in my spirit. I felt so free! God bless you & Welcome home.

It's a wonderful experience.

He doesn’t say it in the video, but I would ask a priest about confessing sins from before baptism. I’m pretty sure the Catechism would say that you don’t confess something from before baptism because it was washed away like original sin. Our proclivities after our baptism should be what you examine. It should be easier for people who convert from a faith that has a believer’s baptism over the infant one. My own confession starts at the end of Fifth Grade if there was something that plagues me from back then needing to be rectified and given back to God, I should do it. I’ve been feeling quite scrupulous myself lately so I might need to go over some of the years to see what I remember myself.

Welcome to faith

Please do. Go to mass more than once a week if possible. Make it always special if you really want to pray rosary every day to. If not a personal prayer and talking to God daily is enough. He loves you.

Guess what, if you mess up and don’t, and the go to confession, god will forgive you. You don’t have to be perfect, you just have to admit you’re not perfect and ask for forgiveness, and if you do something about it, you will be forgiven.

Give it to God, God forgiveness is the most important not a regular man. The Catholic faith is ungodly, please research.

Way to go!

​@@ladyt3182you are insane

Bill Engvall shows up, saying, “There’s your sign!”

Don’t be nervous!!! You’ll feel wonderful when you hear “and I absolve you from your sins”

@Anonymous Person Unkind. :(

I’m rolling in laughter! This was great! Thanks for my sparkle today :)*

Me too!!!!!!!

Thank you for sharing 👏👏🙏

Wow, that's great!

3 hours 😳 was it like a appointment or did everyone in line just hated you

Wow 3 hours? I hope that’s not true but ok

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Welcome Home Jeanette! 🙌 Glad to hear you had an 'awesome priest" who as compassionate and loving to you! Isn't GOD Great? 👍

Me too

same! I've been pulling it off, and every time I try to I just get so scared! its been years!

@@edith5656 Don’t be afraid to go, Edith. 😊 The priests are wonderful and I guarantee that you will feel a sense of peace and joy afterwards that’s absolutely amazing!!! Prayers for you, my friend

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It’s been such a long time since I went to confession and what with the pandemic and all just adding to the excuses of not going. Nice to see I’m not the only one who’s in dire need of returning. 🙏

Another Nordic convert? Awesome!

Congratulations! That’s a big step. It feels so awesome after you are done.

@@sasdear I went yesterday, and it felt so good after. A sister who was there told me I was glowing. Taking the step was scary, but it was a relief afterwards

@@elisejanssen4308 👏👏👏 Thanks be to God

Did you go?

Colossians 1 About Jesus: For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him: 17 And he is before all things, and by him all things consist. 18 And he is the head of the body, the church: who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead; that in all things he might have the preeminence. 19 For it pleased the Father that in him should all fulness dwell; 20 And, having made peace through the blood of his cross, by him to reconcile all things unto himself; by him, I say, whether they be things in earth, or things in heaven. 1 John 5:3 For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not burdensome. Rev 22:14 Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city. THE TEN COMMANDMENTS…. 1- THOU SHALT HAVE NO OTHER GODS BEFORE ME 2- THOU SHALT NOT MAKE UNTO THEE ANY GRAVEN IMAGE 3- THOU SHALT NOT TAKE THE NAME OF THY GOD IN VAIN 4- REMEMBER THE SABBATH DAY TO KEEP IT HOLY 5- HONOUR THY FATHER AND THY MOTHER 6- THOU SHALT NOT KILL 7- THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY 8- THOU SHALT NOT STEAL 9- THOU SHALT NOT BEAR FALSE WITNESS AGAINST THY NEIGHBOURS 10- THOU SHALT NOT COVET Matthew 5:17 Think not that I am come to destroy the law, or the prophets: I am not come to destroy, but to fulfil. 18 For verily I say unto you, Till heaven and earth pass, one jot or one tittle shall in no wise pass from the law, till all be fulfilled. Hebrews10:26-31- For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. He that despised Moses' law died without mercy under two or three witnesses: Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace? For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people. It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God!!.. These few verses unmask deception and reveal idolatry: Jeremiah 7:18 The children gather wood, the fathers kindle the fire, and the women knead dough, to make cakes for the queen of heaven; and they pour out drink offerings to other gods, that they may provoke Me to anger. The idols of the nations are silver and gold, the works of human hands. They have mouths, but do not speak; they have eyes, but do not see; they have ears, but do not hear, nor is there any breath in their mouths. Those who make them become like them. SO DO ALL WHO TRUST IN THEM. Psalm 135:15-18 Deuteronomy 4:16 that you do not act corruptly and make an idol for yourselves of any form or shape, whether in the likeness of a male or female, Jeremiah 7:18-19 KJV The children gather wood, and the fathers kindle the fire, and the women knead their dough, to make cakes to the ¨queen of heaven¨, and to pour out drink offerings unto other gods, that they may provoke me to anger. Do they provoke me to anger? saith the LORD: do they not provoke themselves to the confusion of their own faces? Mary and saint worship, Mary the mediatrix and queen of heaven? God cleary told us Jesus is the ONLY mediator between God and mankind. Whoever else you use as mediator or pray to is IDOLATRY. 1 Timothy 2:5 For there is one God and one mediator between God and mankind, the man Christ Jesus. Saints dont intermediate and dont listen to prayers, they are dead people like you and me, made of flesh and they died, Mary also is one of them, she was a normal woman who gave birth to Jesus and she and other people may not be worshipped. God declared the dead as the following: Ecclesiastes 9:5-6 For the living know they will die; but the dead do not know anything, nor have they any longer a reward, for their memory is forgotten. 6Indeed their love, their hate and their zeal have already perished, and they will no longer have a share in all that is done under the sun. If the dead are alive somewhere... then who are the ones Christ will resurrect at his arrival? *Second commandment (Ex 20:4): Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, ...* this includes rosary necklaces, Mary and saint statues, Jesus, Mary and saint images, crosses, 'holy relics' and many more items used in worship by most denominations. People bow down before these things, kiss them, pray with them and that is wrong. Christ is the mediator we pray towards, close the door and pray to him honestly without any items or images, he is the living God and does not share his glory with manmade things. It is time to return to the old Hebraic faith of Jesus (Yeshua) and do what he did (obey the Fathers commandments and laws). There was no Catholic church or hundreds of denominations each with their own views and opinions back in the days of Jesus and the prophets. Believers had the old testament back then, which is the foundation of all scripture and the key to understand the new testament. Most Cathechism practices like rosary prayers etc are just invented in the 16th century.. first pope existed in 538ad and not in the apostles their days. those things got nothing to do with Jesus, its the traditions and vanities of religious men who went far astray from the Fathers commands.

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AMEN! 😇

Did you have a friend or a group to hang out with from church other than your mom? It’s hard to make friends especially if we are a little older and/or stuck in our ways. We can’t forget that even though we love camaraderie and friendship, the only thing that could truly fill the emptiness in our hearts is Jesus. Now that I think about it, you might enjoy reading up on the Sacred Heart and First Friday devotion. You could invite someone to join you there.

@@MissPopuri Thank you for the advice, I still do talk to church friends, and they're very understanding of my situation. It's just the thought of of going back to a church.

I lost my father two years ago, when I was 19. I kept going to church even if it was very painful at first, at some points I actually started to cry silently during the Mass, so I think I understand how you might feel. But let me tell you this, Sunday after Sunday, I realized that my father was still there with me. The Church teaches us that during the Mass all of us who are gathered there are actually praying together with the Heavenly Church, made up by the Saints, the Virgin Mary and our loved ones who have passed away. I started to feel the truth of this, and I found great consolation for my loss during the Mass and in prayer. I share this hoping it will help you

@@tess4823You brought tears to my eyes, Thank you for understanding, and encouragement. ❣🙏

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In the moment the Lord guides you on your wording and even the priest guides u throughout it i strugglr with anxiety but just as scripture states , cast your anxiety on the Lord

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