From our bodies to careers and even marriage and kids, some of us constantly compare ourselves to others and mask it as inspiration. But is there a difference between being envious and inspired? #Jealousy #envy #GirlChat
Adrienne spoke from the bottom of her heart to Jeannie. This entire segment was beautiful and really shows the maturation and wisdom of the ladies. So proud of them.
I feel like, I don’t know, there are SO many modern ways of getting a baby these days. There’s IVF, there’s surrogacy, adoption, etc. (just to name a few). They’re both rich enough, I’m SURE there’s an option out there they haven’t tried yet (Adrienne and Israel). Also, maybe check Israel’s quality of sperm - *IT’S NOT ALWAYS THE WOMAN’S BIOLOGY PEOPLE.* I don’t know, maybe they have, but why aren’t Jeannie and Garcelle working with Adrienne? It sounds like they both went through some of the options I mentioned above - IVF specifically, I believe - and they both successfully conceived. If she really wants a baby that badly, she should work with people she knows who’ve gone through something similar and have found a solution. Just my two cents. 💁🏽♀️
Do you guys remember when Adrienne mentioned she never had a real period experience. This was way before she was married to Israel. I always remembered this because she said she only had spotting and I kind of knew there was going to be an issue with her fertility. I truly hope that with modern day technology she will be able to have that blessing.
@Japhya If you wanna be blind and illiterate and ignore the CLEAR comments and insensitivity that people were saying about Adrienne… then you go right ahead and believe that. Nobody can save you. Jeannie hasn’t been shady towards her.
@Japhya I’ll take that but what we’re not going to do here is pretend like people weren’t under the comments of every video that mentioned Jeannie’s pregnancy or motherhood talking about Adrienne and how she is jealous of Jeannie. Covering your eyes and acting like it wasn’t happening because YOU didn’t see it or wasn’t doing it is even more asshole-ish. Besides, Jeannie never threw shade her way…. Why would she?
@Japhya so riddle me this Joshua, if you didn’t see the comments from other individuals talking about how jealous Adrienne was then how the heck are you going to say “not people”. How do you know if you claim you ever saw it? Ok. Anyway, I saw the same episode you did and you only want to call it shade because obviously you behave in the nice nasty mindset. She didn’t say “IF” you get pregnant, she said WHEN - which ensures that she wants it to happen for Adrienne. How miserable it must be to live your life thinking people’s own friends would be that shady and mean towards them. I would hate to be around you. And also stop using the bummy ass dollar signs to cover up your cuss words… this isn’t 2001. Now THAT is an old head in a juvenile state of mind. Stay blocked and blessed.
@Japhya sure Joshua. Obviously you had the same amount of time to write your own essay and go back and forth with me. If you had taken that same time to read comments and not negate what I was saying as if I was lying we wouldn’t still be conversing now. But you do you and stay off of comments if you don’t know wtf we’re talking about. And no they don’t delete comments when you cuss only when you are causing harm. But I’m sure you knew that. Be easy my fellow stupid $is.
@Japhya happy nappy? The ghetto? Oh I got it, you’re racist too! That makes sense why you’ve been ignorant from the start. Which is so sad considering you’re possibly another POC…. And I refuse to converse with someone who is clearly anti black.
I feel like, I don’t know, there are SO many modern ways of getting a baby these days. There’s IVF, there’s surrogacy, adoption, etc. (just to name a few). They’re both rich enough, I’m SURE there’s an option out there they haven’t tried yet (Adrienne and Israel). Also, maybe check Israel’s quality of sperm - *IT’S NOT ALWAYS THE WOMAN’S BIOLOGY PEOPLE.* I don’t know, maybe they have, but why aren’t Jeannie and Garcelle working with Adrienne? It sounds like they both went through some of the options I mentioned above - IVF specifically, I believe - and they both successfully conceived. If she really wants a baby that badly, she should work with people she knows who’ve gone through something similar and have found a solution. Just my two cents. 💁🏽♀️
@@sammierose1150 i know what you mean. She knows all of this, trust me. She is the type of person that research everything and has the financial stability to afford all options. Also he is 50 years old now and may not have the best quality sperm compared to his younger years. She should check him out, I agree. And maybe GOD FORBID things don't workout with her marriage, it's a sign that she must not end up having kids with him. But we don't hope this.
Damn. This girl chat was so real and Addriene is truly an amazing person. Truthfully it's so hard not to compare or be jealous especially when someone else has exactly what you want. Wow. So many likes... RU-vid success is that you I see?
I also believe that adrienne is right.. its all about timing bc adriene is going thru alot with being bi coastal and touring and filming with Iz and new breed ... its not in gods time for her to have the baby just yet
It's not hard at all when you well look it at. What someone else has is not necessarily what you need right now. Comparison is the theif of joy. Do you and do it well. One day at a time.
@@sodvine3486 wish I could like your comment multiple times....the devil makes us doubt or unsatisfactory with our blessings. We have to be headstrong and grateful for all the little blessings GOD has bestowed on us.
In the words of J Cole 'there's no such thing as a life thats better than yours' There's always someone better off and someone worse off, comparison is the thief of joy.
Jeannie and Adrienne love the way they talked this out because its been a hot discussion topic in the comments. Jeannie seriously wants this for Adrienne to be a mom but Adrienne is not bitter, she's not jealous that this blessing happened to Jeannie. I believe Adrienne because I saw how happy she was when she learned Jeannie is pregnant, I have seen the stories where she is looking out for Jeannie as she enters her third trimester. Timing is everything.
Shout out to Israel for making Adrienne so happy that she feels complete even without a child. God is going to bless her with the children she wants 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Oh jeez, I don’t know why but this conversation made me cry. Adrienne, we are all praying for you!! You are right, everything is in God’s perfect timing. You are already so blessed and will continue to be blessed because you are a blessing to other people.
I definitely teared up as well. I'm glad Garcelle brought this up because I think Adrienne was on everyone's mind when Jeannie announced her pregnancy.
I was definitely thinking of Adrienne when Jeannie announced her pregnancy. I’m very very happy for Jeannie because she’s so happy and is in love and glowing, but since Adrienne has been wanting this for so long, and I’m this way, it can be hard to see someone else get their blessing first, but watching Adrienne and listening to her this season, she is alright. She really believes in God’s timing, and it is up to Him. I hear her wishes to be a mom, but I hear her contentment as well and that is some serious growth. Adrienne, we are praying for you for God’s timing, and we love you! When it’s your turn, girl, we’re gonna turn up with you! 💜💜
It really made me so happy to see how supportive they are of each other cuz you know Hollywood would twist it and make it seem like they’re bitter with each other 🙄 I love you girls!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This season is great!! It feels like everyone opinions are respected. And there is great panel of ladies who represent all different walks of lives and opinions. Moms, minorities, sisters, wife’s, aunts, I see them all on this show and I love it. The ladies have grown so much and I love them all!!
First of all I'd like to applaud Adrienne for saying "even if it doesn't happen I'm still grateful to God" whew The strength it takes to accept something you prayed for so long might not happen 🤍 it's admirable! Jeannie and Adrienne's moment was heart warming! ❤❤❤ Garcelle is a great addition!
I respect Adrienne so much for showing such grace and class through her journey to pregnancy. I'm sure it isn't easy. But some of the best things in life come from pain and so I believe God will bless her with so much later on.
Absolutely golden WOMAN chat! This was not girl chat!….so so relatable. When God gifts others what we desire, our attitude and response can either be the pulling factor for our own blessing or the denial of it. ❤️
I feel like the producers have taken the topics to a new level since Garcelle has been on the show! Whatever it is, keep doing it! This was a REAL and beautiful conversation.
This is such an honest discussion, especially between Adrienne and Jeannie, which is why I love the ladies of The Real. The love between all of them is so palpable
Adrienne made me cry😪 because I know how it feels everybody around has children, husbands, stable relationships, higher careers...and sometimes I'm like damn what's wrong with me? Nothing at all my path and journey is different and Life is too Short to dwell. Blessings to all
Blessings to you as well Lakesha! 🙏 Loved your perspective about everybody having a different journey. 🌟 You may not have what others have but from your comment, it shows you have a kind and compassionate heart. 💖 That is a grand blessing in itself! 🌷🙏
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you and there is no time limit for anything you want in your life ❤️ don’t rush the process because you can end up ruining the stages of your life by settling if you rush into things.
I know what you mean sis...but ove learned that there is value in my season of singleness and i pray that God continues to reveal Himself to me in this season and pour out His love ❤
I love that Adrienne spoke on how she felt, she's such a real friend and she's definitely right that God will bless her when it's her timing. I also loved Loni's input by saying we need to show gratitude towards the blessings we have NOW and focus on the present moment. Very very true. The past is in the past and the future is not here therefore we should always be living in the present moment. Enjoy the now because months ago or even years ago you and/or I were once praying to be in the position we are in now. All we have to do now is show the Most High and the Universe gratitude for this moment to keep the blessings coming. Anyway, I love the topics this season. Garcelle fits in great too. Good job ladies!
This is a test for Adrianne and I feel like she must have cried so hard after finding out about Jeanie but she has to put up a face and be happy for her, and she’s genuine about it.
Yes and that's what going to make Adrienne get pregnant too because she is always happy for other people and that's what going to make Adrienne have a baby, because she have no envy in her heart.
I love how genuine and honest Garcelle is. Adrienne is truly a beautiful person. These ladies really work well together, love them all. I’m loving this season!
omg! what Loni said, I just wrote that in my journal this morning - "remember t0 enjoy the journey as much as reaching the destination." so many of worry about getting to a certain place when we dreamt of being where we are at now
I think there are moments where being envious can be a sense of feeling inspired and having admiration for a person and their accomplishments and looking at the way they’ve come so far and being like “ I can be like them too”… whereas jealousy involves spite , hatred and even greed… some people will do anything to one up or crap on someone else and it’s childish and stupid ! One persons success doesn’t negate or stop you from being successful yourself… the saying goes if you feel you don’t have a seat at the table, bring a folding chair… if you think there’s no room… MAKE ROOM ! We all can inspire each other and lift each other up in the midst of our own personal struggles , battles and storms !
Envy is an expression of hatred. An envious person not only resents people for their possessions but desires to take it from them. Jealousy is the desire to be as well off as another. These are some poisonous traits and you shouldn't want any parts of them lol.. I don't know where this new age definition came from but interesting chat nonetheless.
@@ivorenesmith9003 yeah it’s like the “new” definition puts a positive connotation on envy but truthfully neither jealousy or envy is a good quality. Admiring and being inspired by someone’s success is what I think the ladies mean but somewhere along the line people say “I envy you” so matter of factly that it doesn’t sound bad anymore 🤷🏾♀️
Absolutely looooooved this segment! It’s so true that God has placed us all on a different path and timing. Instead of wondering why you feel like you’re not where you should be, give God thanks for where you are now. We’re always praying to reach new heights and fulfill x, y, z, but when we get to that point, we forget the journey that led us there. God bless y’all ladies!
This reminds me of the saying, "El sol sale para todos" translated to "The sun shines for everyone." 🌞🧡 In other words, we can all Shine in our own light and in our own way. 🌟 They are all so blessed in their own way and glad they acknowledged it. 🙏 God's timing is divine and we should have Faith everything will align accordingly. 💖
I'm not gonna lie when Adrienne said that she's blessed and ok if she's never a mom I cried. I send you love and light. I hope your dream of being a mom becomes true in whatever way.
This made me so emotional! I adore Adrienne and I pray that she be blessed with a baby of her own. She's right, it's God's will, and I truly believe that she will also get her blessing. There should be no hate for Jeannie - she is also very blessed. It's so important that women support one another and spread LOVE and grace. I love these ladies!
Jealousy and envy are natural traits that all humans have felt or is currently feeling.. and is up to us to deal, process, heal, and learn from them. Like what Garcelle did.. Jealousy can also be disliking or having a grudge against someone that has what you want but don't have. That's the dark side of human emotions. No shame in acknowledging it..just know that you can work on it and turn it around.
THIS SEGMENT WAS SO GOOD! This is what will keep y’all on air; Be honest, transparent and relatable. Adrienne, I adore you and your honesty. Jeannie, thanks for acknowledging this and fleshing out the conversation in an honest way. Your call prior to the show was beautiful. Garcelle is a wonderful addition because she’s got a way of being so direct, honest, yet graceful. Loni, keep being REAL! This was a WORD.
I think society definitely makes people feel bad for feeling envious. It’s an ugly emotion for sure, but just like anger, or fear, it’s an emotion that many have to work through and I don’t think we should shame others for their feelings, but we should talk about it. 🙏🏾 Adrienne is so right. No ones path is the same. I know for me, I found the more I watched others and didn’t actually sit and ask God what He wants for me, I compared often. The moment I took my eyes off people and just focused on myself and what God wants me to do, it got better. I feel like envy is also a lack of trust in God and comes from scarcity mindset. Like if this person gets it, there’s not enough for me. But He’s a God of abundance. So someone else being blessed doesn’t mean we lose. If you are struggling, seek God first, take social media breaks often, and remember that every person’s path is different. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I relate to this topic on so Many levels!!! I come from a huge family . I have 5 siblings and 25 biological nieces and nephews. I am the only one of my parents 6 children that had a fertility issue and didn’t have children. We tried for 7-8 years with surgeries, miscarriage, IVF,IUI. You name it we tried it. I finally decided when I turned 40 enough was enough and had a partial hysterectomy. I spent many nights in the ER, I had severe endometriosis, fibroids and blocked Fallopian tubes. I would see baby announcements, pregnancies and it would send me into a very dark space. It still hurts that our dream didn’t come true in that sense but I’m finally getting my life back and seeing the blessing in everything. There is light and joy everywhere, sometimes it finds us, and sometimes we have to find it but it’s always there.
Whenever Loni cries, Jeannie always looks so scared looool. Such a touching segment, I had tears in my eyes! Congrats again Jeannie and wishing you all the luck Adrienne ❤️
Yeah, I’m on a similar train of thought as Loni, I think get rid of jealousy _and_ envy altogether, and just feel *inspired and in admiration* of others. 🙌🏾👏🏾✨
I love these hard but honest convos because it's not easy to admit that you envy or might be jealous of someone. Literally going through this right now but videos like this help. I would like to catch myself when I feel like this and change my mindset immediately when I begin to feel envious of another person.
I can relate. I would say that I don’t want you shame yourself for feeling envy. You aren’t a bad person. With my own experiences I’ve learned that just like any other emotion, envy can be experienced. It’s one of these secret things that many are ashamed to talk about. But you can recognize it, learn about what you are feeling, and be kind to yourself in the process. Just being aware of it helps a lot. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 blessings
I would also ask yourself: what is it that I want? What is it that is emotion is directing me to? Usually envy has a lot to do with frustration for what we feel we are lacking in life our lives and ourselves. Ask God for what you want. I promise you He will listen.
I love the fact that Jeannie called Adrienne the night before just to have that one one one with her. This is truly a sisterhood. This is so touching and grown
See Adrienne's *GOOD* heart. ❤ She deserves all our prayers right now. May The Most High deliver unto her His _beautiful blessings,_ *double portion,* and abundant health. Amen. 🙏🏾
I am literally sobbing as I watch this. Yes! Y’all, this is so relatable to my heart and soul. Thank you Adrienne for your beauty and light and for inspiring me to change my mindset 💗
Absolutely loved this segment. I can't believe I even teared up a little. The best way I know to combat envy is gratitude. Gratitude helps you put everything in perspective. Well done ladies for such an awesome segment!
Im so happy that she broke down the difference between envy & jealousy Even though the truth words aren't really interchangeable, the way I see it is jealousy is more about how you feel towards the other person anf envy is more about how you feel towards yourself. When you're jealous of someone you spite them for what they have, when you're envious of someone you spite yourself for not having what someone else has
This is always a touchy subject for women yet so needed. I have struggled with not being able to have a child after getting married. It really took a toll on me mentally. By the grace of God, I was able to get to a better place with much needed therapy and medication. This month, we will be celebrating our 11 year Anniversary and I am grateful that God blessed me with a loving Husband and support family and friends. I am still hopeful 🥰
I teared up when Jeannie and Ade started talking. This conversation was so earnest and real. Adrienne is one of the celebrities I look up to that has really inspired me to have an attitude of gratitude and to just trust my life. And gratitude has changed my life. I tip my hat to all of them for being vulnerable, it takes a lot of confidence and strength to admit being jealous or envious of others, let alone on national TV, but your personal journeys speak to so many of us. Thank you sisters. ❤
I really needed to see this. I feel like the girls were truly speaking to my soul. Especially when Loni talked about the circle of envy and how you don’t realize how blessed you are because you’re so busy looking at someone else’s blessings. And I’m also glad that they brought up the Adrienne pregnancy situation because I was concerned with how she may be feeling. I’m glad to know that A has such a good perspective. GOOD TOPIC LADIES!
Just so we're clear, jealousy and envy are similar but they're different. Jealousy is when you're afraid of someone taking away what you have while envy is wanting what someone else has. But back to the topic, from a lot of the mental health professionals I've met, they have told me that envy and jealousy aren't actually bad emotions. We as human beings put labels on emotions to a point where we feel bad when we feel a 'negative' emotion like anger, even though we have a right to feel that emotion. What we should do is accept that we are jealous and envious or angry because when we do that, we actually allow ourselves to process our feelings and instead of suppressing them and just lashing out at others, we tend to find our own solutions. Like what Adrienne said, take that envy or jealousy and be like "Hey girl, what work out are you doing?" so it helps you better yourself. Remember you guys, your emotions are signs that you need something. This is what humans use for survival. No emotion is bad or good, it only becomes toxic when you don't admit it, don't process it and allow yourself to go through it!
Thank you for saying this! Envy is an ugly emotion, but I don’t think people ( for the most part) are bad because they’ve felt it. But it definitely needs to be addressed if you are going through it.
Omg Loni, you're preaching truths here! I'm counting my blessings daily. And Adrienne, I truly feel your heart as someone who is also on a similar journey. Love, love, love you ladies, such a great example to women😍
I loved how Adrienne held Jeanies belly when she announced her pregnancy. She held it with such love and genuine happiness. When people around you are blessed you have to be happy for them. Especially if they are blessed with something that you too want. I believe that it is a sign that your manifestation is coming. I will not be surprised when she pops up pregnant soon. I'm happy for Jeannie and I'm excited that Adrienne blessing is coming and she can celebrate other. Very admiral Adrienne
Adrianne has such a beautiful heart you can tell that she is truly happy for Jeanie and I luv how honest and sincere the ladies were truly a beautiful segment ❤️❤️
Wow this was deep, I went trough infertility, had endometriosis and hashimoto, cried a lot trying to get pregnant, begged Allah swt for a healthy child, it was a long and difficult journey honestly but Alhamdulilah I have 3 healthy boys now 🤲. May Allah swt grant you Adrienne healthy babies 🤍
Congratulations. Allah is good ❤️ I am also worried about my fertility but I think deep down every woman’s fear is that one day they won’t be able to have children. I was just wondering, do you ever feel sad that you got 3 boys and not a girl? My partner says we won’t stop until we get a girl and I agree .. but I just worry about having only boys because I always wanted a little girl 🥺
@@allylove21 Salaam sister, how can I be sad because I have only boys, I’m truly thankful that I have children and healthy children at that, no sister I’m not sad, if it’s Allah’s plan to give me a girl I would be very happy but I’m truly thankful as it is. May Allah swt gift you with a beautiful baby girl ❤️
I don’t think there’s a single soul that has never had jealousy or envy in their lives. And it gets worse with social media. Have you ever looked at your life and just wondered what you ever did to deserve so much pain? It’s like one day you’re taking a step in the right direction. And literally the next day your life seems to be crumbling down? And it’s not like you’re not being optimistic, trying or fighting. One thing after another. Personally I feel like sometimes it’s too much and I’m only human. Then sometimes you get on social media and see people living and doing the things you want to do. Not to mean that their lives are perfect, after all social media can be a facade. But again, no one’s life is perfect regardless. And a lot of people mask their pain on Social media. I feel like it’s okay sometimes to feel some type of way but don’t dwell on it because comparison is a thief of joy.
This was a great segment! Look at the blessings in your own life before looking at others! You don’t know what other sow to get what they are reaping! Times and season happened to us all!!!
This spoke volumes to me I try not to compare myself to others but sometimes I do see couples that seem to be so in sync and happy and joyful and I wonder will I ever have that but Lonnie said it best enjoy the right now the present time not looking back not looking to far ahead but the now and being thankful for every blessing!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾. Allow envy to make you better not bitter!!!!!
