Grieving With God. 

I'm a widow. Please pray for my kids and I, that God would restore us and bless us more than he did before. Thank you.

I lost my boyfriend a year and a half ago. I thought that I would be angry with God and that this would’ve pulled me away from my worship. But when I tell you…that Sunday after we buried him, I worshipped so hard. I poured my heart out to God. His presence was so overwhelming and has been faithful to me through it all! Some days are harder than others but I will never forget how he never left my side ❤

I lost my 7 year old son three months ago. This was from God directly for me. I am still finding my way through my grief…💔

"you're not a bad person if you doubt God"

Guys im so proud of us here being intentional in our healing processes

I lost my father at 10 and my mother at 20. Through trials and tribulations I learned about God and learned to trust God.

I lost my mom 8 months ago to a brain tumor. I called her everyday for the last 12 years of her life. She became my best friend and only ally. I miss her but I'm healing and trusting God's promises. God thank you and I love you

On June 28th, I prayed and asked God to help me grieve the death of my father healthily. And the day of his funeral and burial, this was released. Thank you all so much for having this conversation. It is truly an answered prayer, and yet another example of God showing up in the valley!

This was really good. I lost my husband 6 months ago and this is something I definitely needed to hear.

“The best predictor of God’s future faithfulness is His past provision” ~ Davey Blackburn ✨ Wow! So true! A beautiful reminder because it’s easier to focus on the current struggle than looking at our past triumphs

The way jackie and preston are listening is so amazing

This is why the World needs to know about Jesus and his presence he is really real

This guy spoke at an athlete's in action conference where I rededicated my life to Christ and decided I was going to marry my wife. Thank you to the Perry's, thank you to Davy and may God bless your ministries!

These 30 mins were not enough. He needs to come back

Bitterness is going to rot the hands that hold it.

Bless anyone who's lost a loved one ♥️God is faithful,we will get through it

“For with much wisdom comes much sorrow; the more knowledge, the more grief.” ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭1:18‬ ‭ This verse is so true! Since God has filled me with his godly wisdom the sorrow is more. The more understanding we have The more we will weep.

My son was shot and killed a year and a half ago and it’s been difficult because no justice has been served. But this video has helped me tremendously. It has opened my eyes and given me some tips. Thank you for this episode! I will share it. ❤

"Forgiveness is a journey...a daily decision not an emotion. For the believer it's a radical choice of the experience we've had [through Christ]...it's a spiritual thing...redemptive vengeance." This brings to mind what Preston said last episode, "Righteous anger compels us to be different, not to attack, revile, or be vengeful." We opposed God and were His enemies, children of wrath. We despised Him, mocked Him, and rejected Him. But He suffered FOR us. He did not make threats nor deceive. Instead He was silent, willingly submitted to death, bore our sin and punishment though He never knew [what it was to] sin. His response...His righteous anger [toward sin] compelled Him to be different from the world and its prince.

"The best predictor of GOD's future faithfulness, is His past provision" my Lord this is the BEST thing I've heard all day, maybe all week! This is the time I'm glad this is on podcast so I can press pause, SHOUT, and press play to continue! Oooohhh weeeee! Thank you Lord ❤

Today is the 12th anniversary of the accident that led to my son's death 💔 This broke me down but I needed it 🙏🏽

My daughter passed away she was 21. This happen one year ago and still today my heart is so 💔 broken.

The Perry’s either listening intently or stunned. This is such an important conversation especially the piece about redemptive vengeance.

wow please have him on again :)

Thank you so much. And for Psalm 23. "Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for thou art with me."

Oh my God! I was grieving and this video just popped up on my RU-vid. God has to be so mindful of me to send this my way 🥺🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Jesus🥺

All I can do is nod my head and take in what is being spoken to my heart. My mother passed away 7 months ago and though I have walked through grief before, nothing compares to this experience. I reasoned with the Lord the night before my mother passed. I told God, I know that my will and your will may not match during this time for my mother's life and health. My will is for my mother to come back home and have more time, but Your will may be for her to take her rest. I surrender it all to You, my mother, my will, my heart, my pain...you are Lord of it all. Despite the love I have for my mom, You still have the power and authority to be who You are. You still have the right to be God. So all I ask is that if I must walk through this trial, that I don't have to walk through it alone. Walk with me through the fire Father, I'm not looking to be taken out of it. Whatever You decide, I am at peace with it. Early Thursday morning around 5:15 am, I woke up, just super alert with no groggy feeling at all. I listen to some worship instrumentals on RU-vid that display scriptures while its playing before bed. The first thing that I saw was Isaiah 41:10 on my TV and I took a picture of it because inside my mind I said "Im going to need to remember this today". Little did I know how much tht scripture would carry me through as 17 hours later I was standing over my mother's bedside, saying my goodbyes. Even at this hour as I am writing this in tears, I thank God for His mercy, kindness, compassion, and love for His children. He has been faithful as He said He would. There are many times God has reminded me of how close He really is. This video is one of them. Thank you guys for this video, I appreciate the insight and jewels of wisdom 🙏.

Though I love that he shares how God showed up for him after losing his wife, he must have been SEEKING for God to see what He was doing. Grief is bearable by fixing our eyes on Him and trusting Him!

Thank you for this conversation-- almost 2 yrs grieving my husband's sudden passing after 18 years. 🙏🏽💕

My mom passed away in May. The nightmares were so intense, I didn't want to fall asleep. The only thing that gave me relief was taking the Holy Communion... Then God used different prayer fellowships to further help. Next I started to stop thinking about it and whenever the thoughts of my mom would come I'd give it to God immediately and refuse to think about it.

Go Preston👏👏👏👏👏 My Grandson is 2 years old and absolutely love dinosaurs 🦕 🦖

I had just came across this channel and feel that God has led me through this dark period of my life with unforgiveness towards my dad and abusive situations. I've been holding so much pain to the point where I had no idea how much it turned to bitterness even towards God I repent about all the anger and pain I been holding and the belief I held about God in my anger and pain... 😥😥😥😥😢😢😢😢😢😢.. This video really opened my eyes... And I'm crying as I'm writing he's truly so gracious ... I need to grieve to God... Thank you for posting this....

I love learning from all these podcasts! I'm 30 and I've decided to go back to school to study Biblical Counseling. My heart aches for the broken and I hope to use this degree in some type of ministry. So listening to this gets me excited but also makes me aware of what I'll be walking into.

My condolences Pastor Davy for your loss. Thank you for allowing God to use you to minister to others.

O what a great word wow good thank you ❤

Wow!!!! THIS interview was truly encouraging!!! “ I get to participate in Redemptive Vengeance with God against the real enemy!” 🙌🏾 I mean wow! What a Godly and powerful perspective on walking in forgiveness and healing after experiencing trauma and loss! Wow! Thank y’all sooo much for this interview. My life is forever enriched because of this interview!

Lord I just pray for every heart watching this podcast past , present and future, I pray that all there brokenness and despair they give to you Lord because you are a loving healing God ❤ I pray but everyone going through things, whether it be mental or physical. Lord, I pray that they know you are with them in every moment of despair holding them and guiding them. Lord I pray for Jackie and Preston, I pray Lord that you bless their marriage Lord there family and bless this podcast in Jesus. Beautiful name amen

What the enemy meant for evil God turn it for his good, the enemy wanted him to give up on God and deny him but God used his story to bring more people to him/God

I live in Indianapolis, so I remember that tragedy with his wife. I'm happy to hear how God has brought him through that.

Thank you for creating a space for people to come, feel seen, and lament.

That story about his wife and second child.....😱😢😭

Wow I could’ve listened and learned for another hour… God is faithful always 🙌🏾❤️

I just lost my brother and walked through the grief with the Lord and HE truly has show up for the brokenhearted in a profound way

I lost my oldest brother two years ago, thank you.

Really grateful for this episode. It’s been a little over 3 months since my college best friend’s life was suddenly taken. She was tragically murdered by her boyfriend. Professionally I work as a music therapist and specifically been passionate working in hospice/bereavement. As deep as my faith has been and all my professional experience…I was not ready for this kind of grief. It really still feels like a living nightmare…I’m trying to move through healthily. Way easier said than done.

Can you all please turn this into a three part series! please do two more episodes with this same dynamic personality please 😩

I lost my baby boy on 30th May. I was 5 months pregnant. It really is difficult but at the same time I am being drawn closer to God through videos like this one popping up to bless me so thank you 🙏🏾

Powerful. I remember when this tragedy happened. I live in SC . God is good and faithful. Thank y’all so much.

I’ve been praying all last week for God to show me how to truly forgive, I’ve been through so much and I’m only 27. Frankly, I was given no foundational knowledge growing up besides God. I’m currently in a HUGE transition that was designed to kill me, but I knew/know forgiveness is the ONLY way out and to save my life. Today GOD spoke through this video LOL!! Imagine! We use RU-vid to teach us all kinds of things. I thought I was going to find this understanding in my reading time yet, the Lord meets us where we are and He gave me manna via RU-vid.

This was SO good! Grief is a part of every disappointment, every loss regardless of the form. Loss is pain, and grief is often intertwined with that negative emotion. I wish this episode was longer. Researching Davey Blackburn immediately...

Thank you God for his story. He bears witness that Jesus is a healer

This was soothing as I am 10 yrs without our infant son. It’s a reminder of how I can grieve with God… I see the waves of sorrow coming and I get in my ugly cry. Then like clockwork the Holy Ghost comes and begins to rub my heart back together.🙌🏾🙌🏾 I wrote a book and talk with angel mommies as the Lord told me to. I’m glad my pain ain’t wasted 🙌🏾😭

“A belief that we’ve held about God becomes real” Whew! Thank you Davy for sharing your story it is truly helping me heal w/ the loss of my father due to cancer and this episode is helping me to accept the peace God has been providing me and not feel bad for being able to have peace and a spiritually clarity about my dad’s passing. I truly believe that my dad’s work here on earth was done and that God called him home. My dad had conversations about death prior to him every being diagnosed and he always said he wanted us to be happy for him and not to be sad about death because “we have a solid relationship and we know where we are going”. Recalling these conversation after his passing and choosing to accept that felt like a betrayal to my family and even my dad because I felt like I should have cried longer and be distraught. But hearing your testimony is letting me know that people do get to that point of clarity and dealing w/ tragedy in a healthy way and is helping me not feeling bad for accepting that now that I’m at that point.

A feeling buried never dies"

Preston and his dinosaurs 🤭 This was a very powerful, encouraging and much needed discussion!!My condolences to Brother Davey for his loss. I'm happy to hear God turned his pain into passion/purpose. I love the part about redemptive revenge. Wish I heard this when my brother was killed, because I just wanted revenge period! But God has healed me and I chose to forgive & pray for those who took his life. Thank y'all for helping normalize the discussion around grief. God continue to bless y'all ministries 🙏🏾💙

Yes he gave him self for us all John 3 :16 blessyou ❤️♥️🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾📣

Bless you God got you yes 👏🏾📣📣📣🙏🏾🩸🔥👏🏾🧎🏾‍♀️🧎🏾‍♀️🧎🏾‍♀️🧎🏾‍♀️🎶🎶🎶🎶🎶

In the last 5 months I lost my oldest sister and my friend... Whom both were in our wedding. So just thinking of the heaviness of it all. My process that I am processing... I'm glad to hear this, as well as add to what I've been learning. 📝 🥰👉🏾📺#LifeWithAlliDaily 💜

Thank you al for sharing your testimonies as it is lifting me up as a d1 track athlete. I started college last year coming from a different country and was ready to get the ball ready and then I tore my shoulder and had to sit out one year. Now I am back and healthy and ready to get the ball moving again. I have been training had, going to see the sports psychologist and praying. This is the third meet that I have failed to meet my potential. I am getting tired, and I know God allowed me to leave my country to be here as an athlete and now it feels quiet, and painful for something I love to cause me so much pain and uncertainty. I am running out of ways to run away, I can barely look at myself in the mirror.

I like hearing yall talk.

thankyou, I hope to really turn my grief into something feasible rather than bottle it up in the spirit and let it manifest into something bad.

Thank God for the Holy Spirit because he is our comforter and who helps us he is the Spirit of Truth thank you Jesus this is powerful

Currently grieving the loss of an uncle and this is on time.

Whew! God…the challenge to grow in this idea of redemptive revenge, like I can grasp how we fight against the evil in the supernatural but it’s difficult to see past the human who was used as a catalyst for my pain, in that form of suffering? I cannot imagine, God forbid but his testimony and how God turned what Satan meant for evil into a ministry that is saving peoples lives is…mind blowing. I love it! Even the part about running into the pain, the grief, leaning in vs running away. I relate to not wanting to listen to certain songs because of the waves of grief it brings, maybe one day I’ll get to that place. Not there yet 🥲 but one day. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 keep letting God lead and guide you in these podcast, forcing us to really dive into what it means to carry your cross…this is one of those podcast I need to sit with and chew on, per se.

After losing my Dad 3 weeks now, this is really powerful and helpful. Very timely message.God is indeed so faithful.

One of my favorite episodes🫶🏼What a story and how God shows up🙌🏾

“God takes ugly things to make them beautiful” grieve is painful, but God makes it bearable /almost painless

When I saw y'all upload this, I didn't imagine this could help me. On August 7th someone close to my family passed away and I truly appreciate the vulnerability of Mr. Blackburn, thank you God for being ever present and ever loving.

Yesterday My Uncle Rickey was laid to rest. He was killed by gun violence. I keep saying that I have to forgive the ppl that killed him. This man’s story has helped me. I am still very much angry. But I want GOD to get the Glory out of this situation.

Forgiveness is spiritual! Wow👏🏽 Also how his story came around full fold 🙌🏽 AMEN

This is a rich discussion. I wish there was a part 2

Davey I, as most will never know the level of grief you felt after losing your wife in such an unfathomably violent way. Though you are out of the acute grieving/mourning period, I know the love you had for your wife will always be a part of you, and ‘missing’ her will be a part of that love. If I could I would give you a big hug. Know that my heart feels and hears you. ❤️ Hearing you recommend ‘the body keeps the score’ was like a huge hug around my heart and soul. As I was lead to this brilliant book, after a horrifically violent family homicide within the last year…resulting in a family member being incarcerated. Being a nurse and one has worked around life and death for years helped, and someone who has experienced trauma, I had a bit of ‘practice’ at loss/grieving. But the violence of this homicide was more than I could ‘manage’. Most church ‘folk’ honestly were unable to ‘go there’, though it hurt, God said they can’t, it’s not possible. So God instead brought a lady-stranger-into my path as I was walking my dog, shortly after the tragedy. In less than 5 minutes she was telling me about a documentary called the ‘Wisdom of Trauma’. Subsequently after watching the film I was blessed to join an international zoom conference on trauma with Gabor Mate’, Bessel Van der Kolk, along with many ‘trauma practitioners’. Many of these folks do not share a common faith in Jesus-yet their compassion for and knowledge of how trauma affects the body/mind has been a huge blessing. God also lead me to a documentary called ‘The Work’ about inmates at a max security facility who got together after a ‘riot’ to figure out how to do life inside differently. The film is VERY RAW AND REAL, but beautiful. Out of that movie I briefly attended ‘inside circle’ (including participants from the film) to connect with others who knew and understood my pain. I say briefly because though the group is ‘beautiful’ I was starting to feel convicted, because it was not a faith based ‘circle’, -it needed to be inclusive for all-I needed to step back and immerse myself in the word and prayer so I did not drift. I have hooked up with other families with incarcerated family members, another chance to be heard from others who could ‘go there’. Fritzi Horstman was an attendee at the international trauma conference-in her work she talks, listens and hears the ‘forgotten’, as expected she learned many incarcerated folks come from trauma and abuse, that has never been expressed, heard or healed. 😢 I lean towards, If we don’t allow ourselves to mourn, feel the pain, talk to Jesus about the pain, stay in the valley long enough, comfort AND healing-spiritual, body/brain (pathophysiologically) cannot happen. Sorry to go on and on, I pray my sharing will bless others, just as your sharing your story has blessed me Davey. Thank you Jackie and Preston you are ‘beautiful’! ‘When grief comes out it makes room for life to come in’-absolutely beautiful Preston. Mt 5:4 Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted. Prayers for all who suffer…🙏👆🏼❤️

Amen, plant God's word-promises into your heart and others daily. Keep watering the seed by meditating on His word so it will take root. Glory to King Jesus. Proverbs 3:5-6 👑

POWERFUL!! I’m so glad I listened. Your podcasts add so much value. God continue to use and bless you 🙏🏾.

I saw this a while ago but couldn’t listen until now. I am trying to heal from loss and grief in a healthy way with God. I realize that I haven’t always done so. Not bitterness, but feeling like I suppressed it a bit. Thanks for the podcast and the topic. Praying for all.

Bless you God got you ❤️🙏🏾👏🏾💃🏽📣📣📣📣📣🥰

Prayers for him and his family

Amazing, thanks for having this man on and your engagement with him!

My six-year-old fatherless grandson knows every imaginable dinosaur there is. He knows if they are omnivores, herbivores, or carnivores. He will tell me if they are real or if they are hybrids. Everything for my little Paleontologist is viewed through the lens of dinosaurs and it is beautiful to witness. However, I can’t help but wonder how to continue to fuel the fire I see in his eyes on a daily basis and not allow it to be extinguished without solid male influences in his life.

I have a friend going through grief. He lost a friend and it hurts me so much seeing him hurt you know he doesnt really know God which makes me fear more for him that he will just fall into this path of darkness yk and that really hurts me because i really dont want to see him go down that path again i want the best for him. May you guys please pray for him and the family of his friend.

One of the greatest conversations I have ever heard. Thank you so very much. So many good nuggets I need to rewatch at least 3 more times.

thank God for this podcast! God is intentional. Goodness and Mercy Will follow me! I hear you Lord!! May God continue to Be God in your/our lives.

God is intentional. My devotion this past week has been on Psalm 23. This was timely. Thank you!

Heartbreaking, redemptive, forgiveness & grace theirs so many emotions I processed during this podcast. 😔

one of the best talks I’ve heard about grief. thank you for this.

Alright Preston, you keep that word in you let it carry you. :)Be blessed.

This video was so needed for the body of Christ God bless you both ❤️🙏

My 4yr old little girl can name all the 🦕 too 🤣 I have 2 buy a dino toy everytime we go 2 the store!

Ooh. I have never heard forgiveness explained in such a profound way! Yes forgiveness is a decision - the whole Gospel story told, and is one of the only ways we truly look like Jesus.

Stay encouraged Davey Blackburn! I lost my husband and Mother within year apart. Grief is hard. But I know for myself The Lord Jesus Christ always show up and show out. Thank you Jesus for saving me!♥️🙏

Heard this on the podcast earlier phenomenal story. Really has me counting my blessings and putting things into perspective. 🙏🏾

Thank you

Deep. Profound. Thanks for sharing and thanks for allowing God to use you all in such a powerful and impactful way. Blessings. 🙏🏾

@WiththePerry’s: this was beautifully shared- thank you all. I’d also love and appreciate a segment on what might joining God in His redemptive vengeance look like when you are utterly betrayed in marriage by 2 believers?!

Wow. To God be the Glory 🙏

I have read and been through one of the best books for grief and healing - Dark Clouds Deep Mercy by Mark Vroegop

Such a great testimony. Thank you for sharing.

My daughter passed away in March This was good

This was sooo wonderful...I love this so deep and moving and never broken down in such a beautiful and encouraging way of how our GOD shows up and shows out at all time and in all times.🙌🏿 PRAISE OUR GOD FOR THE MINISTRY OF CHRIST OUR LORD.🙌🏿

This was something! Thank you for doing these! 😭🤍🙌🏾