Grieving Your Addiction with Coach, Speaker and Podcaster Sober Dave 

I don’t know how many people say this to you Dan but you should be so proud of yourself you’ve not only changed your life but your helping hundreds if not thousands of people realise they’ve got a problem keep doing your thing mate ✌🏻❤️🙏🏻

Can relate to dave story so much, im 60 and drank for over 40 years.ended up alone in the house drinking ltr of vodka a day sometimes more, my last drink was at Xmas. It was good to hear someone of a similar age talk about this stuff, thanks

❤ Dan I’m welling up with you mate. It’s happening to me more and more as I become more connected to my feelings as my sobriety journey develops - 85 days today. It’s like an awakening or a revelation. Let it come, recognise it, and then let it go. It’s powerful 🙏

We’ll done Dan, I’ve been sober from weed and social drinking for 9 months now and at 46 and a single mum of three it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done by a mile. And I’ve had some dark dark times so believe me when I say you’ve done amazing Becoming a grandma was my inspiration..I needed that kick start, I’ve not looked back x

Never followed you before man but this stuff is absolutely quality. The honesty, openness and encouragement shared on these episodes is so refreshing. Appreciate the work you are putting in.

This is one of the best podcasts I’ve ever watched. From same neck of the woods as the pair of you, very relatable and raw, keep doing this!

Dan. So so much respect to you brother. I cannot begin to tell you the impact you are having on so many men in absolute struggle. This is the real stuff mate. You're doing the work of warriors The bloke that comes out the other side will be an absolute spartan. The easy route is to go back along the previous path and be a sheep and slave to your impulses, running from your feelings/numbing out and never doing what you were put here on earth to do. There are so many blokes that you'll reach that others can't. The blokes on the building site, one of the loneliest places if you have addictions and emotional/mental health difficulties. That is so massive When you're brave enough to speak your truth, get honest, cut the BS and be vulnerable...you give other men the courage to do the same...and this saves lives. End of Be kind to yourself man. You are so brave. Max respect 👊🏾♥️🌱

Grief in all forms is so traumatic. I went through a divorce about 3 years ago, leaned in alcohol like I always did now I've chosen sobriety it's loss all over again. It's hard and I feel you Daniel, came across this podcast lastnight. I have to commend you for being so open and public after giving up so soon, that takes a lot of courage. I can't wait to listen to some more of your guests and please let these emotional times pass and believe this is the best thing for you! ❤

Greetings from Western Australia What a great podcast. Real people discussing real problems. I'm 65 and lived on marijuana and beer and cigarettes for 47 years. A stroke stopped me. It's not over yet. I've still got other things to do. God bless you for talking about real issues that I completely understand and have lived. Thank you

Nah honestly mate uploading yourself breaking doing is one of the bravest things I’ve seen ! Respect dapper !!!

Reframing recovery as discovery! I got full body chills when this was said. Such a great episode 🎉

Good decision to decide to share this dan, never be afraid to show emotion, keep doing great things, and make sure you give yourself time to rest and recover

Dan, I was crying with you watching this tonight. The grief is real. I've felt really lonely this weekend but no fomo and watching this tonight has made me feel its the grief I've been feeling. Both of you were fantastic speaking on this episode and really relatable to anyone on any levels of drinking habits I think. I'm only a week into my full sobriety and you have been my inspiration to make my decision. I've also joined the dryy app which I learnt about from watching matt on your podcast. Such a fantastic community when you feel alone in the journey. Can't thank you enough for these podcasts. Highlight of my week tuning into them. Thank you ❤

For me this has been the best podcast bye far it’s been real,relatable,honest and emotional what everyone need to see! Dan yet again well done and respect to Dave iv learned a lot about myself tonight so thank you ❤ Daniel take a little break mate and do you coz we need to at times it can feel like your being selfish but it’ll go back to square one if we don’t big up 👏👏👏👏👏👏❤️

We love you Dapper. You're an inspiration. Thank you for taking us on this journey with you. Keep going! xxx

I could listen to these guys talk all day. Great podcast

Mate, I love you way you put this in such real terms. I know exactly the things you're talking about and this is a massive help to hear it said in public. It's a massive problem in society at the moment.

Thank you Dan, thank you for the hard work, the guests and the time your putting in, I'm just over two weeks sober now and big part of that is your podcast. It's amazing. How to I deal with the loss of friends, like 10 year relationships gone, I feel angry, sad, lonely ...like they weren't friends or not actually nice people, I was in the shit and in a bad place and just disappeared on me. Thanks for this episode mate

What a ledge Dave is 💙 loved this one. Creating your own legacy Dan ❤️ be proud x

I really enjoyed this episode. It just shows how quickly things can esculate and take a turn for the worse. Listening to the gentleman discussing his childhood was not easy. Thats why i always say to people. Dont judge anyone until u have walked a mile in there shoes. Love your channel dan.

Dan and Dave, thank you. You've got to feel it to heal it. I really got so much out of this. I can't thank you both enough. Will be looking up Dave the geezer. I could relate to all of it. 😢❤ big love. 🙏🏻

Dan I watch your podcasts because I can relate to everything you talk about, type of surroundings, type of mates etc And since I’ve started watching them they’ve helped me massively, this podcast was on point, I’m glad you opened up at the point you did because again it helped me personally relate! Please please keep it up for yourself and for your followers/fans. You’re smashing it bruva, Absolute legend mate and thank you. 👍🏻👍🏻

Sincerely hope this episode is the one that propels your podcast to the heights it deserves, just because of how real and raw it was. They’re all good, don’t get me wrong, but the pure rawness of this one was what a lot of people probably needed but don’t often see. Good luck to you mate 👍

Well done Dan, I admire your honesty. I'm sure you are helping alot of people with present problems. Also helping people understand past behaviours. It is hard , but your reminding me that I must not give up . Respect to David Wilson.

Love these podcasts so much mate! Hearing it from ppl similar to me makes it more powerful because I relate so much to everything you lot say, and the fact its not to serious makes it better, this podcast has really helped me over the last few months ❤

The best podcast I’ve ever listen to and watched. Your amazing dan should be so proud of yourself we all are. Your not alone no one is. There is so much power in what your doing. Great podcast. Two amazing men 💪🏾💪🏾

Lost my father 8 years ago to alcoholism who would be the exact same age as your guest David, luckily it scared me from drinking and substances and I have a good relationship with drinking but I know some people it sends them down the other path, what your doing with these podcasts is truly inspiring mate should be very proud of yourself. For me I never got a chance to sit down with my father and ask him how it was being an alcoholic due to the fact I was to young, but your channel is giving me an amazing insight to what led to these guys to that point and what they went through and in a way it’s helping me heal my wounds with my passed away father. Honestly cudos to you dan, keep it up mate!

Amazing as always Dan, thank you and never stop

Dan you are such an inspiration to others...keep going!

im learning so much with these episodes, about myself and my addictions. thank you , big hug..we love you Dan.. stay strong bro

love these Dan. helping so many people always loved you fron the dapper laugh days. you'll go down in history for what you're doing for us especially UK guys mate. Love you brother ❤️

This podcast has given me the wake-up call to sort my life out. Best podcast I've ever listened to. Thank you both.❤

Love you dan even replied to my dm when i was struggling you are a real man, These podcasts are helping so many people… please never stop!

This one’s come just at the right time so many triggers but this one’s hit different - thanks fellas love and peace

This was a very good discussion Dan, great guest, lovely personality and really glad he pulled his life together and is doing well.

My heart goes out to you and anyone that's made the change ....its hard for us to love ourselves and how many times have you to say sorry .Your honesty is to be proud of pat yourself on the back X X

I’ve watched your content for years Dan… since going sober you have changed in ways only some will notice. You’ve become a lot more respectful of yourself and others and you seem to be so much more considered with what you say. No issue with how you were before you’re just way more polished and measured now. Lovely to see. Your career is going to flourish over the next few years believe me.

Just wanted to say thank you for doing this podcast - I'm only 24 and struggle with depression&anxiety, and this podcast helps me with reminding me to keep up with my mental fitness. I've been sober curious for a while and toying with the idea of quitting the drink. You are both so strong 💪

Best one yet Dan, amazing guest and your hosting skills are getting better every show. ‘My drinking was different, but my sobriety is so the same’ really hits home. Big up fella ❤

Amazing pod Dan your really opening up thank you for sharing your journey with us 💙

I suffered from depression while drinking heavily. I was put on the same medication sertraline as mentioned in this. Decided December 2021 to see if I could go 12 months without drinking. Did that, and it's now been 16 months and no longer on antidepressants which I was on for years. Now, it has been 16 months since the last drink, and it does get easier. I've found it as time passes. I could relate to a lot of what's said in this video, reasons to drink etc

This podcast helps so many including myself, openness which people can’t get elsewhere 💪🏻

Fantastic discussion! So glad to have discovered you two! I'm 3 years and these podcasts help to keep me AF❤

Dan. These podcasts are top class. Ive followed you for years and seen you rise and fall and then rise again you’ve helped and motivated me to get through my own struggles. I met you in the princess of wales pub in Charing Cross and we had a proper good chat and it was pleasure you are a top man

What a fantastic podcast 👏👏👏 how lovely was Dave and you Dan getting emotional brought tears to my eyes because l see how hard you try on Instagram, you said you think it’s because you miss the relationship. and I understand that because you hit the nail on the head, when you said about a woman, missing her husband abusing her that’s me, but you have a far better relationship Now that’s worth more than the relationship you had before with drink and drugs, you have your lovely wife and your two beautiful girls I’ve seen you with them and you’re brilliant with them, you are doing Fab with the podcasts I believe they are really helping you and other people, ⭐️👏👏👏👏

Dan, your helping me brother with these videos. But more importantly your helping my little daughter and old parents by keeping my head off the “packet” and booze 💙 Top work mate !! 👍👍

Huge respect once again brother. This happened to me a lot at the start of my sobriety too. Random breakdowns and overwhelming emotions. It gets easier, let it out, it's healing 💙

Glad you released this daps. Absolute gold what you're doing. Don't stop

Fucking brilliant episode mate! I’m the bloke Dave was on about who was singing into thin air on stage by the way haha Love the podcast, massively helps me stay sober 🙌🏼

Nice to see the journey happening…the banta episodes have been great but watching you realise cold facts that are so relevant…head up Dan, your on the right path 🙌

Brilliant episode, love the honesty and find all the psychological aspects around it fascinating.

Thank you to both of you for sharing ❤❤ sitting in tears here listening but an inspiration ❤

Lovely to see you crying, Dan. It made me cry 😂😂😂 It’s good to get emotions off your chest, and grieve. It helps you accept stuff and grow. Love these podcasts. They’re brilliant ❤❤❤

Wow. Huge respect to you. New to your channel and hit hard! PTSD and ADHD and related so much what was said. Got yourself a new subscriber.

What a nice bloke Dave is ...... another great one thanks again dan. Well done mate

Thank you Dan for holding the torch for others ahh you have made my eyes water your a diamond 💎

Just watched this in full for the second time. Dave your the man! 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼 top bloke thanks Dave

Brilliant podcast. Big respect Dan and keep up the good work mate

Another insightful interview, very interesting and I used to think it was only me who went through trauma in my teens , great subject brilliant channel thanks baz.

Loved this one mate all this stuff actually helped me a lot. Keep these coming Dan 💪

Powerful podcast it’s listening to stuff like this that’s helped me get to over 3 years sober ❤

Thank you guys

Love these videos. Best greetings from a mum in Spain. ❤

Thank you for such an amazing podcast

Cheers Dan. Another great pod 👍👏🙏

Anouther belting podcast definitely going be watching more of David’s work, I hit my 100 days on Saturday, and in the middle of organising national 3 peaks 24 hour challenge looking for a good cause to raise some money for and your Men and their emotions group seems like the perfect cause

Listening to you and Dave was literally like spooling out my life to a certain extent Fair play too you both Dave was another level but I don't think I've chewd on my jumper sleeves or don't think I ever have but your podcast is another level buddy everything relates too my life and I thank you both Your podcast is unique and will help loads of people Thanks lads .keep up what you been doing Didn't know of anything of a sort going on where it's lads who have actually been through dark times Not dissing anyone who's been too uni But they don't have a scooby learning from a book thanks lads 😊😊😊

Mate honestly your content is inspirational for me and so good

Wow 😢 fair play to you both, unreal strength 💪

Well done Dan, let those tears flow mate, there's a natural reason why we feel such strong emotion and it results in crying so never hold it back brother. Yours and Davids stories are very similar to mine, I stopped drinking nearly five years ago and packed up the other stuff too (mainly ecstasy and weed but a lot of coke and speed too) and I had to go through the stage you're at now. Fortunately I grew up a very emotional bloke, not your big hard alpha male at all so crying was easy for me to let out and it helped me hugely as it will you. I grew up full of fear...fear of everything and fear of literally nothing, just full of fear since as far as I can remember and booze became my way of being able to simply function and survive from day to day but eventually it was killing me, two separate bouts of liver damage and so much shame and self hatred that I just couldn't cope with it any more. My biggest challenge has been learning to live with those fears again but thank fuck I have because now I'm stronger than ever and I'm the real me, back to the nice, caring, stupid person I was as a child and it's fucking unreal mate. You're a top bloke mate, it shows loud and proud but don't feel too much that you need to be on a mission for others, deal with yourself first and allow the full awesomeness of who you've always really been to slowly come back, then you can doing anything bro, fucking anything! Much love and respect to you Dan, from another Dan...well my name isn't Ziggy fucking Marlon is it mate? Haha x

Loving what you're doing Dan! great guest keep it up brother x

I feel a lot of people (myself included) struggle with sobriety so much because the majority of people around you drink/use. So it’s hard to feel like you can be sober but still involved with your circle of friends. That’s my biggest hurdle that I don’t know how I would ever overcome. It’s so socially acceptable to be drunk or off your nuts, that’s a whole problem in itself

I know I say the same time an time but Dan WOW, what an excellent interview. So many things i can relate to 😢 I was a daily drinker. Evenings only. Functioning alcoholic. I still busted a gut for my work. Love my job. You're doing brilliant, Dan. Your human, and this shows it. Love the show, thanks. My ADHD assessment is tomorrow 🙌 I've always wondered wtf is going on in my peanut 🥜 😅 I'm 47 and literally had enough of "why" I'm overthinking it already, like an interview 😭😅🤪😭

Respect for all the work your doing your Facebook group has helped me loads

Best episode for me so far.

Watching in dublin dan staying clean off the sniff snd drink meself the vids help alot keep em coming top lad💪👍

Im suffering with addiction to these podcasts, so real and raw honesty, there brilliant -real talks! whens the next one gonna be? ** hands shake**😅

Got me emotional this one. Had a few tears with you here mate ❤ Keep going, you're helping too many people to not make this work. Fair play to you Dan 👏

Come on Dan your the main man never forget that for what you’re doing….it’s helping me no end.

How as this only got 137 likes I mean Dan mate you be killing it bud I had my own problems so I know how that got to you emotionally It got me too bud and thanks Dan for all this you really are helping a lot of people that you don't even know 🙏 💙 👍 #ITSNOTRECOVERYITSDISCOVERY

This podcast is brilliant hits home 🙏🏻❤️

This one teared me up

Love you guys ❤️

🎉 very common to get back in touch with your feelings after being soba for a while, it’s natural and good!

Big up Carshalton! Love Sober Dave

What you’re doing here is great dapper 💪

Loved this episode mate. Dave is a good bloke man. It’s hard at times staying sober but what’s the alternative, chatting absolute bollocks in someone’s kitchen, drinking for a few days straight, being deceitful, generally being aggy, it’s really not worth it. My adhd gets so much worse when I’m not drinking. I’ve been on my sober curious journey for 5 years having big and small spells of sobriety, nothing changes when I drink, I pick up where I left off. It’s shit 😂

Good episode, thanks!

Subscribed. Thanks for the video.

Keep em coming 💪

Damn, very touching

You set me off Dan. I’m finding myself getting emotional at different times I’ve cried more in the last few months than in my whole lifetime. It is like grief and it’s part of the process. Good discussion mate I’ve subbed 👍

Thank you

Thanks for the latest upload Dan! Watching this on RU-vid... The 🔊volume isn't great. Just thought I'd let you know Buddy 🙌

Completely agree 20 yrs with sniffing n filling my day with new things is the toughest ❤

You have a new Subscribing in me. Dan your smashing it and inspiring me to stay sober

anyone who wants to pull dapper down or get him on drink and drugs is not his friends. He has wised up, he is trying to build something here, that is not all about him but helping others too

From the age of 14 I lost my dad it started then. I lost over 7 over family aswell as dying from a attack I woke up see the light things never was the same I still have few lines every Friday but I was bad onit ! It has been real tough these past 20 years and drink and yayo helped me but now I realise it needs to stop!!! Just so hard 😢

You're a fucking legend man. Wishing you all the strength. Love these podcasts. The honesty and rawness. 💪💪👊👊💙💙

I definitely have the chocolate pull at night time since giving up the gear. Glad I’m not the only one!