It is a good idea. John has so many interests, he could talk about various topics. John knows a lot about guitars, watches, records, and clothing since he is a collector. But he also has insight into relationships, politics, international affairs, and others.
When he said "...to suffer and care is one of the most maternal instincts in the world..." is one of the most comforting things I have heard since I lost my dad three months ago. John is the wiser, older, emotionally-tuned friend I need in my life right now.
John has such a gift to do deeply and accurately capture the depth of human emotion, feeling, and experience. It’s the things we all feel yet struggle to put any explanation or words to that he so accurately encapsulates.
A friend of mine recently passed away ( a big John Mayer fan), way too soon at age 33, and this episode really helped me deal with that massive and unexpected loss
We don’t have to agree, but in my opinion he is an overrated guitar player, but top tier song writer, especially his old stuff. Though, he carried the torch for the guitar, same as slash in the 90s, which is something of great significance.
@@Zach-zf7mv There are guitarists that have better technical ability than Mayer. But he is, as you're saying, great at writing songs and playing to FIT the song, not going all out showing your prowess just because it's cool, but serving the song.
@@tobias_dahlberg agree his lead work on recorded songs is great. But his improvisational skills live lacks something to me, I think it is his phrasing that does not do it for me.
@@Zach-zf7mvhis phrasing is great have you seen live in L.A.?? Just cos he's more songwriter doesnt mean he's not really good he's an SRV guy he knows his shit better than most
On January 2015 I lost my Dad unexpectedly. While listening to Spotify on shuffle, the song “Heart of Life” by John Mayer came on. This was a song I had listened to hundreds of times but this time it took on a whole new meaning. This song and many other John Mayer songs brought me so much comfort during the years following my father’s passing.
Kelly, I am so impressed with your understanding of grief. Seven months ago I became a widow. My twenty three year old daughter died fourteen years ago. Both Margo and Harry now live in my heart.
I randomly stumbled upon this podcast, and really enjoyed it. In regards to grief. Losing someone grants you access to an exclusive club that nobody wants to be a part of. For anyone who has lost someone, I hope you find peace through the grieving process.
This conversation is so eloquently worded and really puts into perspective how tumultuous and beautiful being right in the middle of grief can be. It truly brings everyone together for a time and having those people be with you through the worst and most vulnerable time of your life really helps get you through to the other side of healing in grief. You never really get over it, it just gets easier to look back and think about your loved one with fondness instead of a gut punch sadness. Thank you for being vulnerable and open about the worst period of your lives and sharing so many heartwarming stories - I definitely got teary-eyed more than once. Sending my love and warmth to both of you in the time leading up to and after the anniversary❤
UGH!!! JOHN YOU HAVE COME SO FAR - YOU DESERVE LOVE & PEACE. I HAVE BEEN A FAN SINCE 13 YEARS OLD, YOU GOT ME THROUGH SOME VERY VERY HARD TIMES. THANK YOU FOR YOUR MUSIC AND INSTRUMENTAL & LYRICAL TALENTS. YOUR MUSIC SCREAMS NUTURURE & HOPELESS ROMANTIC & SO APPRECIATING OF LIFE. YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THIS GUY SINCE THE BEGINNING
Thank you for this. I lost my husband of 39 years, 2 1/2 years ago. At times, I feel no one understands why the tears still come at the strangest times. Now I know, the two of you do. He was my go to guy for everything. Thank you both, again. Now please excuse me while I go listen to Badge and Gun. It was also one of Donny's favourites.
This is so incredibly beautiful. Wow. The vulnerability and sheer emotion through the words spoken are truly unbelievable. Thank you for sharing about your grief and your great loss. John Mayer is also just a treasure to this world. He is so misunderstood … but I hope he knows he is “seen.” Kelly, thank you for sharing this piece of your heart ❤
Loved the truth and realness in this episode. Bob Saget was a real gem. My deepest sympathies to Kelly, their children, and to everyone who knew him. I remember when John Mayer was on the tribute show for Bob and learned they had a friendship. John is clearly one of the most gifted poets, songwriters, and musicians in our lifetime. I’ve seen him in concert 3 times. Losing our loved ones is profound. At 69, I’ve experienced tremendous loss, starting when my father died at 40, and I was 7. It becomes a “knowing” that you’re now in a place that you’ve heard about, but have never been. Hopefully, you have a deep faith to get you through. Having true friends helping you along the way is the best! So glad you have each other to help navigate through smooth waters and stormy seas. We are like rivers, we keep moving. God Bless you both.❤️
I've been waiting to watch this - great podcast. Listening to John verbalise grief is so on point and typically thought out. So articulate and emotionally aware of himself. So helpful to us who have experienced the loss of a partner and best friend.
Kelly and John, thank you for sharing the intimate details of grieving for Bob and caring for one another. Your friendship exemplifies kindness, caring, love and respect. What a lovely tribute to Bob! 🩵💜💙
Beautiful conversation...as someone who lost both of my best friend parents before 40 and is a big fan of John, this was very enjoyable and therapeutic for me
Thank you Kelly, what a wonderful space you create. I cannot prove it, yet perhaps it comforts you both to know that I truly believe that Bob sees All of your accomplishments (even more so now that his soul is released of the constraints the body creates). He knows. Thanks for teaching and sharing, friends.💞🎁💐
5 months since my mum passed unexpectedly. Lost my dad 8 years before. I’m 39, 40 in September. I am so grateful for hearing both your insights to loss and John of course always sees you things in a way where he can observe and understand from an analytical 3rd person perspective. Thank you so much for both having such a wonderfully open talk about such a painful loss, I wish I was sat with you both just talking it out over a coffee or whatever but I and so many people I’m sure watching this will have absolutely needed this in their life. Thank you 🙏 ❤
Both Kelly and John are such good listeners. It's a key ingredient in being a good friend. If you're a friend of one of these people, I'm betting you count yourself very lucky.
When you described feeling “here” as opposed to “there”, I felt that in such a deep way when my best friend passed away when I was 18. I’ve never been able to describe it that way, but was almost like an envy that Sam was in Heaven and I was stuck here, wondering how in the world I’m supposed to go about being “here”.
Hi Kelly, you are so courageous for opening up and sharing your experience about the loss of your late husband Bob. I commend you for starting your podcast Comfort Food with Kelly Rizzo. It’s great to have something to focus on that will have a positive impact on people and it’s a beautiful blessing to have the love and support that you do. Thank you for sharing your podcast, I look forward seeing more. I’m sending you love 🙏🏼💕
"Fully felt grief connects us all; grieving together attunes us to what really matters." "Grief de-numbs us, tenderizes and deepens us, rendering us more whole, more alive, more here. Choose, and keep choosing, to trust it; however rough the ride may be, it’s worth taking, for the sake of one and all." -Robert Augustus Masters
After this I submerged in a vortex of thoughts, and eventually left a long message for my friend and my family. The summary of it would be that from now on, every birthday party will be a funeral feast for me, where the loved one, the celebrated person is still there. You can still tell and express them everything, that otherwise would be too late on their funeral feast. And of course it puts every occasion we meet on a different level. Thank you for sharing this conversation.
Losing a significant person in your life is like a pause in a musical note: They have never left, they are just on the other side--we just can't see them. They're watching over us--always. Believe it.♡
lol You're kidding, right? Joe interviewS some of the world most intelligent people from all walks of life : engineers, scientist, technologists, philosophers, artists, doctors etc etc oh no but John Mayer would just be too much LOL!@@vladimirk9584
Bob actually slipped away about a mile from our home. We can see the tower at the Ritz Carlton from our patio and it seems that Bob enters our consciousness every time we look that direction. There's a feeling that we can't explain but it's a warmth. When the sun hits the tower in the early evening, it's a little heavenly. I think a little bit of his spirit is still here, maybe just for me and my wife. Maybe he is healing us and helping us through some pain and loss. Hearing you guys discuss that nurturing part of Bob's soul puts our feeling in perspective. Either way, it's all appreciated. As for the difference between humans and animals, I want to believe that when we pass on, they remember us. I really think they mourn loss and have dreams of their humans. At least I hope so. Otherwise...who are they running and playing with in their sleep?
Something John said just really reach out to me. “You expect people to die in order.” That is so true. When I was 18 my future stepsister was murdered. Our parents were dating, and eventually got married. But not before she was taken from us. When someone dies like that, so shockingly and suddenly, there are no words to describe it. My grandmother died 11 years later, but it was expected. I processed that grief. But my stepsister… She was taken at such a young age… 25 years ago last year… And I realized that I had never really dealt with it. I’m doing that these days. And while the loss never really goes away, I find that being able to talk about it now might help someone else. I’m only 8:27 in to the video, and just had to stop to write this. Thank you for talking so openly and honestly about grief.
That was such a beautiful interview. Having lived through severe moments of grief, my words to someone facing a loss is that I hope they will soon have moments where they are able to smile or even laugh when a memory comes to mind. The comment that John said he didn't quite get, "May his memory be a blessing," I believe, is someone offering this same hope - that you would be able to reach that point on the journey of grief where your emotions are no longer so overwhelming that the joyous memories are still shaded in blue. I am thankful that you both are able to celebrate Bob, and look back with a smile at the great guy that he was.
I lost my mother when I was 19. The idea of having a loved one in your heart after you lose them physically sounds beautiful and feels comforting. Thanks for sharing
Thanks for so eloquently putting words to this process. Lost my best friend and groomsmen a couple months after my wedding. Most of this resonates so well
Loved this conversation. Thank you both for being so vunerable ❤Hope there's a part 2 Kelly, your voice is like ASMR! John, how many times can comments scream for you to get your own podcast! What are we waiting on??!! Nothing but love for you both😊
What a great conversation❤ Have always admired John Mayer as a great musician but the level of my admiration flew up on a higher level because of the kind of person that he is! Thanks for being vulnerable on this interview❤️
this was awesome to listen to! refreshing. love John's music, been a fan forever. beautiful thoughts. and Bob Saget.. I still remember the day he passed. May he rest in peace 🙏 love all the way from Kazakhstan
Fantastic, heartfelt interview. As real as it gets. Please ignore some of the morons in the comment section. I have dealt with so much grief in my life and can totally relate to all of this. The section in particular where John talks about the casket closing and having some "freebies" is so real. Once you've gone through all that, the real grief begins. However, there are moments of light and levity as time goes on, but it does not make the pain any less difficult to manage. This will be so helpful for many people. Bob was one of the good ones.
I used to think John was very pretentious....the last decade or so, my perception of him has totally changed. He seems like a real nice , kind, and humble guy.
He seemed to change a lot when he started playing with Dead and Co. and when he got sober. Or at least my perception of him did. If Bobby thought he had what it takes then I paid attention to him. Otherwise I am afraid I wouldn’t have gotten to know and like his music as much as I do. Joining them was the best thing he could have done. And what an honor for him
This is a beautiful podcast so much wisdom. Honestly when they are ready I can see Kelly & John date & marry. I think Bob would smile from heaven seeing Kelly marry again especially to John ❤
I hope John brings back Current Mood. Sadly when he planned to bring it back was scheduled to happen a couple days after Bob passed away, so it never returned and I don’t blame John for needing to stay away from it for a while.
I feel for bad for John when he says he wants to get married so he can be the guy who knows what to do. Ever since I’ve been married I am constantly reminded that I am wrong about everything.
I have followed JM since his teens (of course, I don't know him and dont claim accuracy). I have always wished he was bi or gay so that he could fall in love with a man. He seems to put women on pedestals and has had relationships with iconic women, but it always looked to me more like the way gay men love divas. It has always seemed almost cartoonish and cringy, like the Body Wonderland song or even what he just said about being the hero in a marriage. To me, it just doesn't compare with the level of intensity, complexity, and depth he expresses when he talks about men he loves.
Pasan 6 minutos de entrevista y lo escucho decir que quiere estar casado… dios mio, por qué me hiciste nacer en argentina tan lejos de él?!! John, if you ever read this… I want to be your last train home❤
On the day I almost met John Mayer the prior 2 days had been dealing with complete **sholes all day long.It was 95 ish and at the end of a 3 1/2 stretch in the sun at high intensity. The next day the lightbulb went on on who that had been. Instant rectitude
At 6:33. John expresses much of what men want to be in a marriage. They want the roles of provider and protector. However, many modern women are so tainted by feminism and focus on their independence, they fail to realize men need that protector and provider role. Without it being needed by a woman, they say to themselves "what is my role if she already has that?" This is one reason why women are over 30 and still single.
It’s not about what she has it’s about what you offer. She could have her shit together and all the money she wants, but still crave love and a reliable partner.
Wow that's interesting that John said about taking care of because that's how I am and that's what I want out of my partner and I'm so much older than you are but I still have hope for whatever future there is. I ended up falling in with someone who was an NPD he has narcissistic personality disorder and abandoned me within 4 months after the relationship began it never really began more recently he decided to abandon us again more As a caretaker in a friend because that's what it ended up to be. He abandoned me and the companion animals. To feel that I'm not being taken care of and in any way whatsoever particularly financially because he he destroyed me financially to the point where I cannot even sell my home in order to downsize and live the rest of my life happily I used to be very independent but I became dependent on him I want to be here for he can't care for anyone he can't even care for himself it's a disgusting how he treats me how he behaves if I see him 2 minutes out of a day it's only because he wants something. That's fine with me because I don't want him in my life but I am fear him so much I'm afraid but if I had the money I'd sell my home my property retire to the Berkshires get a few goats hopefully be around of a lot of RC people have a place where people can come play music listen to music and practice their art and I can practice my art. I don't know where all I meant to say really was that people need to be taken care of and they need to rely on someone and and that's what relationships are about you need to rely on each other it's a different things and some of the same things all I really wanted to say was I know what you're talking about LOL
