When you drink and drive or live a risky life you are getting "second chances" every time you survive doing so. There was a French 30 year old that just died this past weekend because he was climbing skyscrapers and tall monuments just to make tik tok videos. He risked his own life EVERY TIME he did this until he eventually did not make it.
And sometimes death breaks the rules. What we're seeing here in this scene is called a "rally before death". There's a difference between a rally and a recovery. A recovery is when the person is actually getting better, and can therefore sit up in bed in the hospital and talk to you. A rally us when the person intuitively knows they are about to die. So they gather up all their adrenaline to sit up and say one last goodbye; because they might know it's the end. And then they do indeed die. A rally can often be mistaken for a recovery; which is what they're showing in this scene. This unfortunately does happen in real life.
I remember going out to dinner with my parents as a child. My dad would always drink with dinner. If he had gotten pulled over, I'm certain he would have failed a lot of breathalyzers. Fortunately he drove carefully and never aroused suspicion. I remember him driving a different route one night when he noticed there was a check point on the main road.
She fucking deserved it for driving drunk!!! I have zero sympathy for people out on the motherfucking road drunk because that’s why people END UP IN FUCKING JAIL ASSHOLES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am-no lie-seeing this for the first time since it aired. I'm telling my 22 yr old that it still hits these years later. I'm 51, and was a fan of the show back then. I remember it being promoted, and a couple of years later recognized Matthew Perry from this episode when he was on "Second Chances". Yeah, I'm old.
Pulling off dramatic scenes in a comedy is one thing--Tracey Gold here took it to a new level and schooled everyone on the art of acting. Absolute perfection.
Michael Dust Yeah great job, she was a very talented actress, not only in this episode but all of them, she was one of my first crushes as a kid growing up.
Imo, it was a super solid central cast trapped in an often not so strong script. What a great job tackling such a hard issue. How many lives might have been changed and possibly saved by the second thoughts prompted by such a scene?
I sometimes forget that from time-to-time, these 80s sitcoms would tackle some incredibly touchy subjects and, more oftentimes than not, would do an outstanding job with them.
Anti-leftist you’re a fucking idiot. And you can blame the constitution for that. It states clearly separation of church and state. But people like you hate the constitution
@@darth_kal-el Actually, you will not find the words "separation of church and state" anywhere in the Constitution. The Constitution forbids the establishment of a government sponsored religion (so the government cannot give preferential treatment to one religion over another), but nowhere do the words "separation of church and state" appear. I believe it was Jefferson who referred to "separation of church and state" in some of his writings, but again, not in the Constitution. Truthfully, there is a lot more to it than the school system simply removing God. It started in the home before it made its way into the schools. Morals and values have declined rapidly in the last 50 years. Some say we've become enlightened, but IMO it's hard to look at the state of the world today and call us anything resembling enlightened.
@@wallypalmer4704 Yeah that whole civil rights movement just threw a wrench in the works of the high vales of the times. *Eye roll*. Also morals are evolutionary tendencies in species, values are social priorities; don't conflate the two.
@@cbennett196631 I don’t see what’s wrong with it. Honestly, it brings a sense of normalcy. We frequently tuck our hair behind our ears. Nothing too odd about it.
"I saw him! He looked good! He was laughing and joking!" This is actually incredibly realistic. Many times, a person will be full of energy, in good spirits and seem better than ever just before they die. It's one of the saddest things honestly, it gives everyone some shred of hope that the person will make it, when really it's a warning sign.
I know exactly what you mean. I went through this same thing back in October. My mom had been ill, then one day she was in superb shape and we thought she was on the mend. Then the next day, she was terrible. Two days later she was unresponsive and passed away three weeks later.
i've lived with the consequences of drunk driving for 51 years. I was in the hospital for pneumonia when I was three. My father was on his way to the hospital to see me when he was killed by a drunk driver. I remember when this episode aired and unfortunately my thoughts were "good for him, he got what he deserved." i was young, still full of anger for my father being taken from me and the guy driving was still walking the streets. Got older, a little wiser, and learned you cannot keep that anger and hatred burning in your heart. You have to let it go so you can live your life. I know it's what my father would have wanted.
22 years ago I crashed while drinking and driving. I crashed into a car with a lady that has just dropped off her baby girl. Thankfully no one was really hurt but that day it woke me up as what if her little girl was with her. Till this day I still think about it. Since then I never drank again.
I’ve suffered a dwi and crash years ago. Thankfully nobody other than me was hurt. Could not live with myself if I would’ve hurt someone for being stupid
I don't know if you believe in God, Ill be honest here, primarily i don't. Just a personal opinion after a very personal experience happened to me, sometimes God doesn't solve or help all instances of pain that shouldn't happen to a loved one. Especially a small young one. So in saying that I empathize with you and your grief.
It's interesting how people have loved him so much, that a lot of us have come here because it totally relates. When we first heard, we had to make sure it wasn't true. I think we're kind of relating to Carol, knowing Matthew was keeping clean and opened up about his struggles. Carol's right- What happened to a second chance? Oh my goodness, we miss you, Matthew Perry (Sandy, Chandler, and much more...)
i felt so weird cause i had just watched this clip a month ago, and i remember thinking how sad it would be when this happens in real life, and now that it has, it doesn’t seem real 💔
This was so powerful because we (80’s teenagers) grew up under the first intensive drinking and driving awareness campaigns. When out with your friends it wasn’t something people were yet thinking about. The penalties weren’t as stiff back then and the legal BAL was higher than .08. When you’re a teenager you need things like this constantly drilled into your head, and this was a bold step by the producers to speak directly to us. I remember watching this episode and how quiet it was in our living room. My sister was crying and I was in shock, it was so unexpected. My parents and us kids had a very honest talk about it afterward. Definitely one of the more memorable moments in sitcom history.
I remember watching the first "Red Asphalt" film in high school back in the 1960s. None of it was staged - and it was very graphic, with blood, bodies, and twisted wrecks.
Another countries it is 0% alcohol should be in your body when driving. They shouldn't allow a single drop in your blood when you are driving in America. That's the problem.
@@lunarcorpse That’s interesting- but it won’t solve the problem. People drive drunk because they are drunk. Changing the limit is not going to stop drunk people from driving.
Jeremiah Wilder they did nothing if you think about it! You all taught ur kids NOTHING! Kids are now how they are because you assholes didn’t teach them a damn thing! 😡
@@bentnkoda AMEN LINDA THEY THINK REALITY KARTRASHIANS AND REALITY TV IS REAL NOT FAKE AND MADE THESE PEOPLE RICH BUT WHEN I WAS GROWING UP PARENTS WATCH OR MONITOR WHAT WE WATCHED AND IT WAS NOT LIKE THE TRASH THEY HAVE ON EVERY CHANNEL TODAY. SOME PARENTS DON'T CARE EVEN WITH COMPUTER USE IN KIDS TODAY I THANK GOD I HAVE NIECES AND NEPHEWS THAT DO NOT WATCH REALITY TV TRASH EVEN COMMERCIALS ARE CRAP TODAY I WATCH EVERY THING I GEEW UP WITH NO REALITY TV NO MUSIC NO TV SHOWS FROM TODAY NONE OF IT I AM SO OLD SCHOOL ITS NOT EVEN FUNNY😘
Those shows DO exist. The 2 problems is no one’s looking for them and people think that it’s all “woke” culture and “PC” and all those stupid keywords that people keep throwing in everyone’s face like that they’re all hot shit and everything.
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Growing Pains was one of my favorite shows during the 80s.This is the first role seeing Matthew Perry in as a kid. This episode always stuck with me. It's sad seeing last night Matthew passed. I always liked him as an actor. R.I.P.
You know it's good when it pulls you into the scene and you genuinely feel the emotions coming from her and them as well. Great talent and chemistry here
My little league baseball coach was hit and killed by a drunk driver (many years after I played). That drunk driver, who also died in the crash, was my childhood best friend. Take a nap, call an Uber, do whatever you've got to do instead of climbing behind the wheel when intoxicated. Not just for _your_ safety, but also for the safety of those you share the road with.
Very powerful scene. Amazing acting that as soon as you see Mike standing in the kitchen doorway, the face says everything. Apparently in the original broadcast instead of just putting up the "Growing Pains" title card at the end, a statistic was posted saying how many people had died in drinking/driving incidents during the length of the episode. Back then the numbers were staggeringly high.
"... as soon as you see Mike standing in the doorway the face says everything..." Reminds me of M*A*S*H when Radar walks into the operating room to tell everyone that Colonel Blake had been killed
I remember them days when these shows were aired. People were so casual about going to the bar, getting drunk and driving themselves home, they would actually know before they got drunk that they would be driving home drunk.
I was a kid when I saw this scene and it made such a huge impression on me. Same when Boner dies. Characters were not supposed to die in sitcoms. Many years later I would see "Sandy" again in Friends as Chandler. I immediately fell in love with the character because Matthew Perry was so good in that role. Now with Matthew Perry's passing, this scene really hits close to home. RIP Matthew! Thanks for bringing so much joy to the world.
I'm there with you man, I probably saw this in 4th to 6th grade, growing Paynes was my favorite show. Such good acting. Tracy Gold crushed this, everyone was great. Miss Matthew Perry and Alan Thicke
@SR-iy4gg I thought he dies off screen after he enlisted in the military. Maybe I'm conflating two different events. It's been over 30 years since I've seen Growing Pains.
This scene is probably the greatest acting I've ever seen in a sitcom. The parents not knowing how to react, Carol not knowing how to process the information. Even Mike having to deliver the news. All of it was spot on. Honestly this is the scene that hammered home "don't drink and drive" when I was a kid. I was crying watching all of this and it gave me chills. It's been something like 15 years since I first saw this... and I'm still teary eyed listening to the pain in her voice.
Gladly for you (and me) the lesson was learned from television. There's more than a few who learned only after they'd killed someone to not drive drunk. I remember hearing on the news that some girl had been driving drunk and had crashed into another car that contained a young couple who were driving to the hospital to have their first baby. Mom and baby were killed.
Its sadder now that he's gone for real. He spent years battling alcoholism and drug abuse which caused him health problems in the long haul. He wanted to be remembered for being him and helping others with addiction and not as Chandler Bing. He had his second chance, but I wish he could have lived for another 20 to 30 years of that chance. Rest peace Matthew Perry and we love you 😢💔🕯️🌹
RIP Matthew Perry. Just like the character on Growing Pains you are gone too soon. We should live each day with joy, hug those around us because life can change instantly.
there is actually a reason for that. Drunk people have slower reflexes so they are mostly limp when they hit, sober people tense up when a car is about to hit them or hits them and thus causes more injury.
@@magicpumpkin3 Abbott Elementary, Big Bang Theory, Schitt’s Creek, Black-ish, Good Luck Charlie, The Simpsons, The Middle, The Conners, The Upshaws, Bob’s Burgers, My Wife and Kids, Girl Meets World, Mom, Parenthood, Lopez Vs Lopez, The Great North, Last Man Standing, Kim’s Convenience, Raising Hope, The Good Place, Young Sheldon, The Fosters, The Goldbergs, Modern Family, Monsters At Work, The Haunted Hathaways, Just Roll With It, Big City Greens, Lab Rats, Weekend Family, The Baby Sitters Club, The Proud Family, Everybody Hates Chris, Fresh Off The Boat, One Day At A Time, See Dad Run, Fuller House, The Really Loud House, etc, etc. All of these are either currently ongoing or have been made in the last 20ish years. And there are more of them. There is a diverse range of family dynamics and diverse casts of characters to get perspectives from all walks of life, even animated stuff and stuff made specifically for children that the adults can enjoy too. To say that there are no more family friendly sitcoms is frankly ignorant on your part.
Denial is usually the very first stage in the grieving process. Your entire body is in complete shock, Everything feels surreal, and your mind is having trouble gripping the new reality. They represented that in this scene pretty well.
I’m in tears in watching this in 2019 and I’m positive I watched it when it originally aired. Was Tracey Gold nominated for an Emmy for this episode alone? If not, she should have been!!
I’m not old enough to have remembered nor known this show, but damn, this scene hits. The young girls acting is incredible here. It almost seems real, especially when her family gathers around her. That doesn’t sound like acted crying - it sounds real. Compared to tv shows of today, this is heavy.
It's easy to get emotional when a fellow actor actually dies, but this... wow. Sandy was played by Matthew Perry, who went on to star in Friends, and obviously is still alive.
@@Jeff98177knowing what Perry actually went through during Friends and after. Put it in even more perspective. Dude really almost died multiple times that he even says he doesn’t know how he’s still alive today.
@vincesmith2499 True. The only sad scenes/episode of Married....with children, would be the episode where Buck (the dog) died and Kelly was heartbroken. I know they put a comical spin on it, but I still felt so bad for Kelly. 💔😢
Back when TV shows tackled topics like drinking & driving, drugs, etc. Today TV shows put this stuff in as jokes to get laughs. My, how times have changed.
It didn't so much as "tackle" topics as bash you over the head with preachy messages. There were exceptions of course, but most of it was laughably awful (which is why it became a punchline).
Congresswoman Maxine Waters 1) Not even true 2) Dont be one of those idiots who daily pretend that dickhead in office is sooooo deserving of an outpour of love from the people everyday
RIP Matthew Perry - I still thought of him as Sandy all these years, cause that's how I first saw him on tv. Also saw him on an Empty Nest episode, he was getting a checkup before heading off to UT-Austin
I wish shows today had this kind of honesty. Even though it was the 80s and this was a message episode, nowadays, everything is glossed over and minimized for fear of being too "preachy."
It's because right wingers get triggered too much when serious topics are introduced in shows. They don't like their antiquated world views being questioned. So they automatically whine and say to leave politics out of it, or some BS like that.
Actually it's because most sitcoms in the 80's and 90's that tackled this stuff did it heavy handid or too simplistically and people got tired of being preached too and not getting a realistic portrayal of issues (yeah ones like this one were done better but most "very special episodes" did not do it as well or as realistically, which is why ones like this are remembered and not the 30 other episodes of shows that didn't do a good job with it), it also didn't help that viewers started being turned off by watching something that was billed as being funny then spending a whole episode feeling bad. So ratings suffered and TV at the end of the day is a business. So when it started hurting ratings they moved away from them. It isn't because Right Wingers stopped it, and anyone who watches TV today would know that the vast majority of shows are clearly not trying to appeal to Right Wing views.
Scenes like this were precisely why I didn’t do drugs or drink and drive as a teenager. These days, shows seem to glorify terrible and toxic behavior. Back then, they tried to teach kids important lessons. For some of us who paid attention, it worked. I wonder how many lives shows like this ended up saving. Even if it was just one, it was worth it.
I started crying as soon as mike came in the room cuz he did not look very happy so you knew he was gonna deliver bad news here. Its like a doctor coming in the waiting room like that and telling the family bad news. Such a sad episode.
Am I the only one who watch this short clip in the last 2 days?????? My mind is blown because I remember this episode from way back. It showed up on you tube 2 days ago and I cried my eyes out. The news came out today that Matthew Perry actually died.
+Epic-Evan I've seen a LOT of moving scenes from sitcoms over the years. You just have to watch and give em a chance. There are more such scenes than you'd think.
This was very courageous by abc and growing pains and the cast, especially Tracy, gave us a timeless piece of TV. For a comedy to dig this deep is an enormous credit to the actors who delivered on the sensibilities of the time but also transcends generations into present day. Thank you to this channel for sharing it.
Sometimes you don't get a second chance. It's a very painful thing losing someone you love. I lost my dad when I was 15 in 2003 and I lost my mom 3 years ago, neither by drunk driving but it still hurts just the same. Breaks my heart watching this