Growing Up Adopted 

hey there :) you're not alone and thank you !

thank you! Yes I agree, there is this duality in being Chinese and British but also sadness with the loss of being Chinese, also that sounds like a really interesting read I will deffo check it out :)

thank you so much for your lovely comment!

+The Here and Nao Oh,you replied so quickly:p

Aww Thanks Brendan xx Gonna Miss you 😁

Yes I saw Ben's video and I forgot to say but this video is sort of inspired by his video about growing up adopted. I understand what you mean, I'm also hoping to move to a more Asian community in the future, maybe see you there xD

Hi there, I don't have any siblings, so I can't say from that perspective however possibly yes? It is difficult to tell with my experience of feeling alone whether it is more of an adopted experience or an only child one with that, however perhaps a bit of both. I think it would've been nice just to see another face that looked like mine as I rarely ever saw it and potentially it gives you another person to talk with what you're going through. hmm I haven't had personal experience with it, however I would say that having two mums will of course have an impact on how your child is perceived by others, and sadly it is not always positive :/ however I think a lot is down to how you as parents go about it, as you said with the approach 'different is good' can promote a positive image whilst acknowledging the difficulties that your child will face, growing up apart from their culture and people's constant questions. The balance is being open to talking to your child about it without pushing them. Similarly where you live has a big impact and what access to culture and seeing diversity and people from their respective ethnicity, as I have mentioned it was quite difficult growing up without those things, however everyone is different. If you'd like to speak more on it, you can always drop me an email or send a message to my facebook page. Good luck with everything ^^

Thank you :)

hey there I'm actually already part of it, but thanks so much for asking! It's a really nice group. Yeah I agree with you I feel like a lot of this has been out of my control, and like I said with adoptees many questions are unknown so this perpetuates our feelings of helplessness. Also I know what you're saying about the feelings of not being fully white or asian. I believe that this duality we have to live with an struggle through, especially in todays society which is very keen for you to be one or the other. Have you seen my video on 'finding my identity' I speak more about this topic? With anxiety I'm wondering if there is anyone you can speak to? often it can be a good thing to talk to people about these issues, adoption is really tough so I can only hope for you to be able to work through both, and thanks for sharing your story with me. :)