@@octaviae22 babysitting means: the care of a child or children while the parents are out. Being a babysitter means that you have someone else's life in your hands and that in itself is a tremendous responsibility. Having to look after one or more children can be tiring, frustrating and sometimes difficult to cope with - even for experienced adults.
I’m one of twelve children-#7 and a twin. I remember feeling enormous guilt that the extremely rare moments of personal attention that I’d receive from a parent meant that my other siblings were going to be acutely and inversely deprived of that tiny personalized dose of parental love. I was washing cloth diapers in a bucket at the age of 4. My eldest siblings weren’t allowed to eat until after they fed all of the youngest ones. The eldest ones never wanted children because they were forced all of their lives to raise younger siblings. You don’t get hugged enough by your parent when there’s so many. Plus the stress of it all causes parents to be crying, screaming or hitting their kids ten times more behind closed doors. I will say that it’s probably easier for children in big families to assimilate out in society and they’re frequently less selfish than a single child might be. One brother owned and ran a theater company. Another brother was a CEO of 500 employees. Another owned his own tile company. It teaches you incredible initiative skills and how to deal with large numbers out in society. But I was incredibly starved for alone time. I cherish being alone to this day. I also have a terror of situations that are not staffed well enough. Parents should never force their children to be the primary caregivers of the younger siblings.
I’m sorry you went through this! I always ask my self, how do they give undevided attention to everyone, I have 3 and can never imagen having more, it’s crazy enough with 3 and spending time with each so they don’t feel unlove!!
I don't have strong opinions to interject but I did want to tell you that I'm sorry you didn't get enough hugs and were forced into parentification. It sounds like you have a great perspective these days, thank you for sharing what you've learned from your personal struggle with others. I'm not sure why the other answers you received were so defensive when you were just trying to share your own experience. Just know that you deserve love and always did and I have no doubt that as an adult you've made young people in your life feel seen and heard. I hear you and I'm huggin you 🤗
Lilly Newsom agreed i know 3big families 2 have lovely well behaved kids and 1 has a gang of brats coz they scream at them abuse them and just dont care they literally had their kids for cash (and spent absolutely bare min on the kids) and the kids were dragged up. I was friends with the second eldest and he was so clinically depressed at 14 he had to move out coz they expected him to ditch school to clean and look after the other kids.
Ppl around my neighborhood have at least 10 kids i think they r nuts they will let the lil girl who is like 8 or 9 watch all the kids under her and she is walkin around with 5 or 6 at a time and a baby that os 3 or 4 months old that is a prevs easiest target what is that lil girl gonna do nothing that's a shame when u are leaving ur 10 year old to babysit u have problems and that kid doenst have a child hood
@@chrisgima9544 yea i feel you on that i got 5 kids and im having twins now but my oldest daughter love to help out i tell her that i got it but she wants to help and i do let her have her childhood like playing with her friends.
Can we just talk about the whole buying new socks every day? How wasteful is that? Eating out and ordering in all the time, boggles my mind, surely that's more expensive than cooking from scratch.
"I think your an attention seeker" why would you say that to your child. she has to put up with multipule siblings and she probally never got any attention payed to her individually. Parenting 101
Her laziness shocks me a cottage pie can be knocked up for 5-6quid for that many people but coz it involves washing up and effort shes not interested. I had 3 under 5 at 1 stage and i loved making big healthy meals and getting a bargin was a highlight of my week lol! And the not washing clothes just buying new omg why?? What an absolute waste! If u dont wanna do washing constantly dont have so mamy kids!
Kathy Forgues right and they get benefits too so where is that food going??? How can they afford to eat out that much with so many children?? I have 3 and we can hardly afford 1 time a week in the US. My mind is blown away.
No way, he would have made it through that spitting, biting and kicking madness. NO WAY. Without some discipline. That talking was bs. I'm sure it's his normal way though. Horrifying to watch that!
They don’t even pick church time. You assume being aggressive will stop aggression. The man is a nurse. I think he can calmly handle when someone is having an issue.
New socks every day, my god lady. I have girls and when they are little i buy plain socks, solid colors, when we take them off i pin them together and wash them we never lose socks, I use a whitening agent and they look new every time I wash them. She just LAZY.
Socks will always dissapear but if u fold together or pin as u said they go walk abouts less often and as they come out the drier i fold together before it goes away. 5th baby on the way and like u keep them plain easy to sort out and keep on top of ur washing u wouldnt have to replace all the time.
I have 10 siblings ,but i am so thankful,that my moms,was do her best and...she decipline us as a good citizen...we grow up,as a responsible and respectful person...Thanks you to my amazing Mothers.
My children have NEVER spit on me! My children dont disrespect me or any other adult. They have so many kids they have no time to teach proper manners.
Of the four big families featured, I love the Radfords the most as the children are well behaved and the father is running a pie business well. They very very seldom eat out unless for very special occasions which is rare. They have managed to go for holidays. The only worry I have for these big families is when some thing happen to the head of the family (the father).
Jennie Wright she was the true parent because she knew that she couldn't give the baby the life they deserved, the child was raised by a family that loved them, you shouldn't judge a mother that's made the hardest decision you could ever imagine, and she's still devastated just like when she was forced to give up her child xx
Im reading lots of comments about how its selfish of moms to expect older kids to help with younger ones, and while I understand the thought process behind this I only have 2 younger siblings and was expected to care for them like a second mom. I don't think this is a concept exclusive to big families only.
Sky Silver agreed. Also, everyone in a family should be helping the family run well. Be that chores or sometimes sitting with a toddler so mom can change a diaper. I do think if older kids are “babysitting” they should be paid like any other babysitter though.
i was pregnant same time as my daughter ..it was a surprise as i wasnt trying but my daughter was thrilled our babies both girls were born 9 weeks apart ,hers first ,and our girls are so close ,its lovely ..our girls are teenagers now and always look out for each other
My BFF was a teen Mom, as was her Mom and her daughter. My BFF and her daughter had babies 3 days apart. My BFF was in her early 30s so there's nothing wrong with it. Yes, she has grandkids older than her 3 youngest but life happens and they're all happy, healthy and loving to one another.
@@K8_PM i don't know, i think thats kind of sad...keeping the cycle of teen mums going. not saying your friend or her daughter are bad parents at all, but the majority of teens can't afford to finish school and provide for a baby on their own (without help from the government or parents if they can afford to).
As a mother of 4 this is annoys me, you don't have children to raise your other children. If you can't do it between yourself and partner then don't have so many!
The dirty dishes, floor, and gross behavior may say you've got enough. New socks daily and so much takeout??? Her husband is working himself silly for nothing. Buy food and clean the damn socks. Trashy.
lovelovelove everyone who has a child in the UK and earns under £48k they receive child benefit it was up till last year for every single child now you only get it for two children, which is as it should be, and they are making everyone reapply so big families are loosing a large income, because it's £20 for the first child and £13 there after per week so it's a lot of money, further into the show and the woman that takes out has way to much junk food, £500 a month is extensive, with that many they could buy bulk and feed them for £500/£700 a month, like how little milk she goes thru as a family of 4 we go thru 8-12pts a day, xx
I work in child care and 90% of the time its the children from families like this that come in seeking attention because they aren't getting it at home. Just because you can afford/want to have a massive number of kids, doesn't mean you should. The children often suffer, especially the older ones who tend to end up with too much responsibility for kids that aren't theirs.
I was an only child and I had zero attention growing up. Sat in my room reading constantly. I wish I had at least some siblings. Believe me, parents can be neglectful of 1 or 2 or 10. It is the PARENTS, not the NUMBER of kids they birth.
Yes absolutely, you can see it in the behaviour. Some of them are just screaming out for attention. My husband and I wanted more kids but we also wanted to give our boys the love and attention they need which is way more important.
Even if your a single child or have 1-3 siblings you can also attention seek I really think it's up to parents weather or not they want kids or more kids it's not our choice to make for them. It's not the number of kids you have it's the parents.
Yes exactly , there is no way these kids all get enough attention . And that is on purpose . The parents don’t want kids they want babies . That’s why they keep having them . Once the kids are older they aren’t so interested in them. I feel so bad for these kids because they didn’t ask for this torture
New socks everyday to avoid washing socks?😳 Go out for dinner or order in almost everyday to avoid cooking?😳 What a lazy woman!! Her children will grow up and be lazy too! I feel sorry for them!
I don't mean this as hate but what bothers me is that number one, the older kids have to be "mommy" too and pick up the work and watch the kids...wrong. If you can not care for your children yourself, then you should not have anymore. The other is that the kids already here are out of control. Horrible behavior. It is sad to me. I was a teacher and I can't imagine these kids in school. The parents would find it much easier if they had some sort of discipline plan in place and the kids behaved better. And for the daughter wanting to have a big family and the boyfriend saying no no no...you have to be on the same page BEFORE you do that and if one is against...it will cause problems Seriously praying for these families.
You should find this video on youtube of a disabled couple who are blind but wont stop having kids, its the most disgusting thing ive ever watched.. the oldest girl is 13 and looking after her younger siblings because the parents cant even see!! The mum smokes a pack a day whilst pregnant... it made me so angry
To all saying in the U.K., parents look after their own kids, no they don't, not always. I know of several families, including my own, who leave children who are still young themselves, alone to take care of babies and younger kids.
@Nenethegreat W Think again.... What does baby fever mean? Baby fever is the name for the longing that some people experience relating to the desire of having a child (or grandchild) of their own.
As the oldest of 6, I can telly you now this is NOT fun for the older kids. There's 19 years between me and the youngest, and from being 13 I've had to act as a parent. It's not fair on the oldest kids, when the parents decide to 'get their social lives back' and the oldest are left to look after them. Though I am in a better situation, because my little siblings are actually well behaved! These kids kick and scream and spit, it's awful. My parents managed to teach all of us, plus cousins they looked after, to be well behaved and kind, and knew to stop at 6, so they could properly care for their kids. Just think about the long term effects on you and your kids!
I say there is a time and place for spitting eg brushing your teeth there is a time and place for kicking eg swimming, kick boxing, MMA, soccer etc There is a time and place for hitting eg Tennis, Golf, cricket etc There is a time and pace to do this stuff but doing it to siblings and parents is a big no no in my book.
So that was filmed in 2013 and I go to the church the Hanns go to. It’s 2019 right now and they had 2 more and now there’s 14 kids. It’s so cool to see people you know on tv. Aubrey June also goes to the church and now she’s going blind and lives in a care home and we don’t think she has much longer left to live xx
There is no way I would let my TWO YEAR OLD child wake me up through all hours of the night to breast feed. She is a child not a baby. I understand breast feeding but waking up all hours of the night like she’s a new born. Now that’s ridiculous.
Posey went to sleep without breastfeeding easily. That screaming before dad picked her up was just the whining of a tired toddler. If it's that easy every night she can be weaned without much stress.
I feel bad for the Mormon families oldest kind, i’m the eldest sibling of two brothers that are over 10 years younger than me and they make the same amount of noise as that household, I couldn’t imagine that many people in a house
Lillith Sternin one not all the girls are like that, two the amount of stress they go through I’m not surprised and three why does that even affect you
Rienna Evans We are all voicing our opinions. I'm not affected any more than you are. Mormon dad seems so so loving towards his wife. But the one girl ( or several of them) are not at a healthy weight and the little ones are badly behaved. And you are right probably all because of stress. My opinion shld not affect you.
"I'll be upset if the doctor says I'm going through the menopause and I can't get pregnant now." She should be thankful for the ones she's already got, some of us would be so thankful to have been blessed with one child - spare a thought for infertile couples!
Claire Ricaud If you are speaking from a personal standpoint, I’m sorry that you were not blessed Claire. It doesn’t mean to say that you aren’t an “Earth Mother” and loved by the many people who come into contact with you. So maybe Blessed in an alternative way. ❣️ My husband and I had three children. I wish that we had gone ahead and had the five we originally wanted. But money was tight and social conscience a big concern. They are all grown up now! For religious people to have nine, ten, twelve plus children seems very selfish given that each child will lack a good level of undivided parental attention and, of course there is the real issue of population explosion. Often, children are home schooled and interact solely with family members. Not such a great preparation for life in the real world.
It's OK and nothing wrong with having a big family if you can afford it and if you can handle it and also if you can give each kid a bit of attention each week and a good quality of life. Nobody can judge if all is well.
my parents desperately wants another child. we're only 2 girls and both 20 years old.they are both capable financially and physically,but life doesnt want to grant that :) I really love to have a baby brother in our house.
Why do you have to be so jugemenle when you dont even knwe tony he love all the kids the same and thinks of them ashis owne so its nothing to do with that is it so dont be so rude
I'm an only child and this is just SHOCKING to me.... I mean, do whatever you want... it's just not something I can imagine being a reality. I'm in no way saying everyone should be an only child, or have a small family.... but I think some of these people legitimately have an addiction. It's not fair on so many other members of the family. Some of the kids look so unhappy.
As one of eight, it's pretty shocking to me too :) being in a big family can be a lot of fun tho :) there's always friends and helpers around. I think the bigger problem is that some of these women don't want kids, they just want babies, and the kids are sidelined and expected to be happy about it. I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you do it properly and considerately, big families are great, but when you don't......
You LIKE being an ONLY child?. I'm 48 now and I hated it. Esp vacations and being grounded. I sat in my room my whole life reading books wishing I was someone else and that I had a "real family." No computers then (1984) (Mom worked evenings....stepdad very abusive.) Wow You should thank your parents, they must be great.
I love these large families. I always wanted to have a bunch of children. I lost four and gave up. I would love to have a baby. I keep praying for a miracle.
I love watching about big families, but the little boy in the Mormon family is not a nice boy. Spitting directly on his father and doing again after being told not to, he'd have been taken out and gotten a good punishment if he did that to me, really disrespectful. And I'm not being men but I can't stand the way girls did their hair in the early 00's. The lump in the back and so much hairspray and it looks so stiff. Yuck
The dad was holding him down. When you are being held and can’t use your arms and legs the natural tendency is to your your mouth. They are at church for 3 hours before it’s time to go home. Listening to 90 minutes of adults giving speeches is boring at any age. Sitting still isn’t much action for the camera. There was another 2 hours and 57 minutes we didn’t see.
@@kristinesharp6286 Rubbish! He was not "Holding him down" and the sermon is not that long. And I can assure you as a child from a large family who attended church, it can certainly be done. This family is just shocking. No routines, no discipline, no consequences, no respect!
@@kittykatwolf8294 they used to have three hour church services. Collectively he heard an adult speak for 90 minutes. I’m not saying he has autism but the family Facebook has suggested they support the cause. I honestly don’t believe this show producer’s. They make many families featured seem outrageous. The dad was indeed restraining him. I’m not entirely sure they are all still members.
Surely it's not tight to have a woman if her age crawling on the floor cleaning when they have all those kids to help with the housework. If they worked together at the weekend and school holidays with just 3 or 4 of the oldest kids then they'd get the entire house done in half a day. But then this doesn't seem like a particularly close family.
They really have too much money if they eat out four times a week, order food once a week, and buy socks every day ... Imagine what one could do with that kind of money with a normal amount of or no kids :D
It’s not enough just to keep your kids fed and clean, you need to able to nurture your child, to develop and grow and that requires being able to spend time with them. This becomes physically impossible when you have so many kids, there aren’t enough hours in the day. Having said that though, if you pay for your own, do what you want. 🤷🏻♀️
Your kids are spoilt, the two sons!! They gonna be a problem when they become older.. Kids know when you can't control them, they take the advantage... So in short. YOU SCREWED!
This one mother here is like the one in other episodes, the one with the 12 daughters and 1 son: Partying with her daughters, thinking they are her best friend ... and the way she behaved with the young boys at the club, that's disgusting. Those women must have some serious issues, apart from being addicted to babys. The teenage daughters are more reasonable though. I liked it when they openly told their mother that she is delusional if she seriously thinks their friends are always coming over to admire a new baby. Or the disgusted look and comment of the one girl, when the mother said how cool it would be if she and her daughter were pregnant together. At least some one has some sense in this house.
you know the one is very smart. Posie knows, she gets mommy all to herself if she keeps breastfeeding. smart kid. she's got it worked out, let the kids have mommy, but i get her all to myself feeding all night
but 5 year olds are almost always brats seriously, I'm Mormon like them, and my five year old cousin is 5 and he is edging on being a brat because he's the only child as of now and gets spoiled by his father who doesn't even live with him, sorry i just rambled anyway what i was saying most 5 year olds are brats. sorry for rambling 😳.
Death's Daughter I have worked with kindergartners (5-6 years of age.) You never see this kind of behavior! He can control himself. If he was in school and acted like this, he would be in trouble.
all for having a big family but maybe control the children you have before having another one just to of load it to your oldest daughter. and "when you gonna stop breastfeeding, your not a baby" your the mum, its your flippin decision
tell me how you can afford to eat out THAT many times a week?!? me, hubby and 5yr old daughter can't afford to eat out like that, i wonder how they manage that. and new socks EVERY DAY, WHAT A WASTE.
They cant afford it. They just do it. Priorities my dear, priorities. When ur priorities aren't right u can afford anything. I can't afford a Tesla, but if I put that 1st and didn't put my other bills as priority-I could buy a Tesla
I'm beginning to learn all these large family episodes ate the same. The moms want more, there's a teen daughter, the go on holiday, and they are on benefits
You're not able to spend as much quality time with each kid, loads of laundry, food disappears within a day, school costs, sports costs, homework time, having 1 or 2 showers for such a big family is ridiculous + 1 or 2 toilets, and then you've got so MUCH more that you have to spend loads on! You can't even go on vacation! and then you have MENTAL HEALTH! So many things can go wrong! oh, and DISCIPLINE....
It's not your choice to make for them and also there is a time a place for spitting eg teeth brushing and time and place for kicking eg MMA, Swimming, soccer etc not the parents/siblings.
I have 2, that’s enough, time to meet the individual needs of every one! You can’t possibly offer that to 16 children that’s just chaos and selfish of the parents to continue reproducing in an already overcrowded planet.
I’ll be happy to see benefits stopped. Stop child benefit, housing benefit, the lot....they get more than child benefit. Thank goodness for the benefit cap. They live in squalor...disgusting. She doesn’t look after her 11 kids...she dumps them.
I was amazed she didn't take her oldest with her to stay at the B&B. Plus we didnt get to see a mother daughter conversation with them where they're asking each ithervwhst they think us going on at home without mum being there like you would normally in these documentaries which suggests they aren't normally that close.
Posy is just a baby and baby require more attention then older kids yes they should have equal amounts of attention but babies do require more of the parents attention.
