Mapping your family tree must be fascinating. One thought about families being isolated from each other, isolation is used in abusive relationships to maintain control. Thank you for sharing your experience. I am very happy that you two found each other to create your own family.
You guys are such a beautiful couple. I’m so glad I found this channel. You speak so kindly of the FLDS it’s good that their teachings didn’t traumatize you. Keep the videos coming I love watching you guys.
My husband was one of nine children, he had four brothers. He grew up on farms in Indiana. You and your brothers’ stories remind me of his stories. I tell him I’m surprised you all survived lol. I grew up close to the desert in Arizona, and my friends and I would make forts with the desert brush. Good times!
As an only child I always dreamed of having as many siblings as you had, but I imagine that such a large family comes with its own set of challenges! Thank you for sharing your story, I've been reading and learning about the FLDS group for a few years now and its always interesting to hear another person's perspective. I just found your channel today and I can't wait to watch all of your videos!
Thank you so much for watching! There was definitely some awesome things about having a large family, like always having a ton of brothers to get into mischief with haha. I would say one of the hardest things was not getting to ever really have a close relationship with my Father growing up, because he was so busy managing such a huge household and family.
Hi. Love your videos and they are very informative about the FDLS group. My question to is, how old was your father when he became a dad to his last child? Thanks! Look forward to more videos of you and your wife🤗🤗🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@bellesinglemom34 well I used to want multiple wives. I’ve had plenty of offers. But I also want other things in life. So I want one crazy wife who wants like 20 kids 😊 if we wind up anywhere around half of that I’ll be soooo happy 😊 I also have recently become a Christian, among other reasons it’s because I saw myself as worshipping this goal of multiple wives and planning my entire life around it. And I’m not gonna lie I have big goals and it pissed me off thinking so small minded. I know multiple wives would take my focus away from my dreams. I was battling back and forth in my head about which road to go down. When I get resolute about the multiple wives path I could feel it killing my love for my neighbour. That made me feel brutally sad. I know you are not your thoughts but we all have automatic thoughts. It made my brain say things like “I don’t care if other people are enslaved as long as I get what I want.” That scared me to think that way. I choose Jesus. He is the truth, the way and the life ❤️
I just found yer channel. It's been very awesome to hear your stories. I relate to so many. I'm 1 of 23 biological children and yes we had good times with each other. We also had the occasional disagreements. Love you guys
Do you have good relationships with your siblings who are no longer in the FLDS. I am finding your channel fascinating. You are so well spoken and present a very informative picture of how your life was in the FLDS. You are such a positive person and seem to have found a very nice life. I'm so happy for you.
Thank you so much for your kind comments! Yes, those of us that have left have great relationships and try to stay in close contact. We live all over the country which makes it hard to see each other as often as we would like, but we try and get together as often as possible. 🙂
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy -- You should do a ZOOM live (where we can listen, but can't interact) with all your sibling (that have left) with questions from all of us... It would be very interesting to hear the older siblings as well as your younger siblings.... Just a thought...
Here watching a year later as I binge your channel. I feel sad that neither of you seem to realize how abusive it was to sit a child in time out for 10 hours, esp without food. Edited to change "is" to "was" because I know you wouldn't do that today as parents yourselves
I have been plotting our family tree and looking at 1800s and 1900s UK census records. As I know my grandmother was one of 10 (an 11th died). Each of my grandparents was one of about 10 siblings although due to disease one poor mother had 10 babies of which only 3 survived to age 21 by about 1910. They tended not to marry until 18 or 20 and to have their last child at about 42 and about 2 years apart so consistent with the video figures really (except no polygamy)
I used to live in St.George, UT. went to college out there for a little bit. I was cultured shock as I moved from Hawaii. I did hear and was some what educated on FLDS. I do enjoy learning more in depth about you and the religion. Very interesting! Do y’all have an IG?
That’s hard to believe that there was 15 years between the first wife and the second wife. How old was your mom when she got married to your dad? How old was he when he married your mother? How many lived in the house at one time?
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy Why was there 15 years between 1st and 2nd? Was that Father' choice? Did he say he was "ready" for a second wife when your mom was chosen for him?
It’s very interesting.. maybe my third or fourth grandpa had some wives. But they decided to follow to The church of Jesus Christ LDS. BUT I decided left LDS church because I feel that it conflicts from Joesph Smith broke off and different believes mainstream religions. It’s very different believes. Thank you for your sharing! I imagined what you guys went through and very confused.. I love to watch this stories :)
@@queencelestyna BUT I do make a distinction between 3 step brothers especially after my Dad's death and none of them OFFER sympathy and I made a point After finding out their DAD died to walk up to them 1 on 1 and then again when I saw the 3 together and unfortunately I didn't get THAT
Almost half and half. 15 of us out of 35 have left. It is much harder for women to leave. We are releasing a video on that with one of my sisters who has left this Friday, so stay tuned! =)
I saw a video earlier today with your sister. You had contact with her after you left. Do/did you have contact with any others still living in FLDS community? Have you ever had contact with either of your parents since you moved out.
My Father is currently in his mid 80s and my Mother is in her late 50s. My Father and his 1st wife were very close in age and met while in college. I am not sure exactly how old they were when they got married, but they started having children immediately after marriage. They are not allowed to use birth control, so children come quickly after marriage usually. My Mother was the 2nd wife, and married my Father when she was in her early 20s and he was in his mid 40s. My Father has children with his 1st wife that are close in age with my Mother.
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy wow so was your dad brought up in the FLDS religion? Was your dad not directed to marry anyone else until your dad was directed to marry your mom? Very big marriage gap sounds like your dad and wife number 1 was pretty much monogamous for the first 15 years
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy wow. We seem to have a similar set up with out parents ages although my parents were monogamous. My dad would be 100 now (he passed 10 years ago) and mum is 72. I'm the baby at 36 but have half siblings my mums age and neices/nephew older than me. I'm sorry you didn't get to have a close relationship with your father. You seem to be in a very loving and happy relationship yourself and are no doubt both wonderful parents to your own children. Sending love from the UK
I wonder if your mothers and father specially mixed up your names. Did your father ever forget a childs name? I suppose the mothers don't but who knows
Hi! :-) So, your father and his fourth wife didn´t have children together. I guess, that contraception isn´t something being discussed and viewed as important in the FLDS? What makes me question, how diseases are being prevented within these polygamous sexual relationships? I can imagine, that sexuality isn´t something, that is discussed in the church. What confuses me, because the FLDS seems to expect families to birth many new members, and well, sex is the natural way to create new life. Please, feel free to ignore my intimate questions. I understand how some questions might be too personal to be answered on the internet. Still, thank you for your very interesting content! Anna
My Father's 4th wife was a lot older when she became a part of our family and her children were already adults. There is no contraception allowed and women only stopped having children when they got to an age that they no longer could.
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy i wondered because I only had three kids and I got mommyitise quite often when I was mad. I can't imagine how funny it must have been in your family. I think I even threw in the dogs name once. Lol 😆
Yes we did! No dogs were allowed so we mostly had cats. We also had animals like goats and ducks and rabbits at some points. But no animal was EVER allowed in the house.
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy a pet duck sounds like a lot of fun. Thanks for the insight. Do you guys have pets now in your family? What are your thoughts on dogs?
Thank you for sharing your story with us, it's interesting and helps others learn from what you explain. However, It's uncomfortable to watch you guys laugh about what sounds like abuse. I understand it's different for different people but talking about it lightly and laughing feels inappropriate?
Hi Zoe! Thanks for watching! I am sorry that you felt uncomfortable. I re-watched our video to try and understand what abuse you were referring to. I consider abuse anything that hurts a person emotionally, mentally, or physically and the only punishment I talked about was me getting stuck in a corner, which did not hurt me in any way of those ways. =)
