First of all your daughter is very beautiful and how does she maintain her beautiful hair? Second your daughter seems very open about discussing these topics. You have done a good job mama
Thank you both so much for this video. As a mom to a mixed-race child in Denmark, it's really useful to get your first-hand experience. Man you two are super gorgeous, look at those beautiful skin shades. Great content Milly, I just found your channel with your house video and I really enojy your videos.
Thank you so much 😊 and you are welcome here. If you love my house decor or garden, I have just made a separate channel for this. This is my passion and I can’t wait for it to get moving. Its called my Scandinavian crib. It’s so new you may not find it. But you are very welcome 🙏 here.
Wow! i love how you instilled a sence of respect in your daughter and the fact that your no means no. I am Kenyan living in Sweden raising interracial family.
Whenever they touch your hair, start touching theirs. That'll help them understand how odd it is. "... it is my hair, it grows from my scalp. It is not here to please you." Wow. So true. Its interesting how we don't question or criticize the uniqueness of other living things/beings, like flowers, etc. but question and criticize the uniqueness of our own species/other human beings. You are BEAUTY. Blessings
@@Milly_in_denmark wow, I totally agree with you, that is shocking and extremely rude to touch your hair or anyone elses hair or anything else for that matter without permission. Sorry you've had to go through that!
Ugandan culture is on point, and I say that as an American. I don't agree with ANY child being disrespectful to adults or putting children on the same level as adults. That's an absolute disgrace and leads to so much chaos and dysfunction in the future.
Wow! Very happy to have found your channel. My two oldest kids are part Black American and part Scottish and Welsh. They’ve never talked about being treated differently because wherever we’ve lived has been mixed neighborhoods. Plus, there are many Black Americans with different skin tones, some from the same Mother and Father. I don’t know if anyone has ever asked them about their lineage. In my family we are pretty much what we call “Heinz 57” or mixed heritage. We just live our normal lives. I’ve lived in Spain, Iceland, Japan and I’ve visited Morocco a few times, Italy, the Azores, Gibraltar(where we were married), England, and a couple more.
You are so correct i am from Jamaica married to Danish husband & yes when the children mom is black we sure put the standard we grew up children should know boundaries especially talk back ect.
Hey you beautiful people,am a Ugandan also living here in Denmark,but Ugandan,I have 3son 16years,13years,11years,but all is truth about Denmark,am also brown African Ugandan but am leaving back to Uganda because of language,its tristed language,I came here for my children,its really bowing country.so am planing to go back to Uganda.I feel Ugandan.thanks I love you people.and your son in-law is so good.I live in herning kommune
Hej Elizabeth. Sorry to hear that you are moving back. But home is always best and Denmark can be difficult to get used to it. But if you get used to it, it’s a wonderful country and best country for girls and women. Good luck with your home return.
Hi Milly! Your daughter is beautiful,and she has come into her own very Nicely. We as Blacks should Never be afraid to tell people their comments or gestures are offensive or even racist. No one can tell someone else how they should feel. We have to be open to Learn about and Accept the Culture of others. 😊
Very interesting. I’m watching this from the USVI … a territory in the Caribbean once OWNED by Denmark filled with former enslaved AFRICANS. Well did Danes expect to be asked how they as White people got here. No, it’s about entitlement & expectation of superiority. By feeling superior blacks are supposed to feel less than. Thank you for standing up & being seen & heard.
Thank for sharing & your daughter is beautiful like her mother and I’m sure her father as well ( even though I have not seen his picture) she’s a product of her parents. I enjoy your videos 🙏🏽🤎
@@brindafarr-boyd3347 Thank you 🙏. You know every time I said she should thank me for her beauty as a joke, she reminded me that she has to thank her father😂
thanks for sharing. my baby is also mixed race (Danish and Taiwanese), we are still living in Asia, but in the few years we are going to move back to Denmark for my kid's education and learning Danish language. your sharing is helpful. thank you!
my son is 7-month-old now, and he has white skin, asian single-edged eyelid eyes, and his father's brown curly hair, very interesting, and we also look forward to move back as well (we really love danish summer) ^_^ @@Milly_in_denmark
Thank you so much for explaining this, especially what feels racist. Because I think there is a lot of confusion in this area. I grew up on Falster and there where no people from other countries in the area where I lived. Every one was white. So I remember when a black girl came to our school, she was adopted and walked with crutches because something had happened to here legs. Also when I was a child the danish n word, was not negative loaded at all, it was just a word and it was the part of the name of different kind of candy and also common in children’s books. I wasn’t exposed in the story of other cultures other than what I described and I remember a black woman who came to visit my neighbors who where in the church, and that is just the memory of sitting in their kitchen and she put on some coconut oil on here hands, which I had never seen or smelled before. So even though I feel very open minded l have had a limited experience with different cultures when I grew up, so I am still trying to learn and expand my understanding. My son is 10 years old and for him it is quite different because now there are many more humans from all kind of cultural backgrounds in his school, so he doesn’t experience the difference as much as I did when I met other cultures. Now you can’t use the danish n word and children books from my time has been edited or have been banned. I also teach my son to be respectful of all people and he is, but he sometimes will be like I don’t know how I can refer to that person (who has another skin color) because I am not racist I just don’t which word I am allowed to use. And there is a lot of new rules and I think that it is important that we use words where all people feel like they are seen and is respected. I feel like it is a learning process and an open dialogue is really the way, like you are doing here🙂 So thank you so much for sharing🙏 And I hope that you can feel that my sharing comes from a good place🥰
Thank you and thanks for at least being open to learning and teaching your son. I would advise you ask people how they want to be referred to as. I normally tell people call me a blank woman or African woman. It depends on how people want to referred to.
Interesting video and your inputs. What you are facing with danish people asking you strange questions about your hair, language, etc. is very common here in Europe. Their culture is completely different from our (African). Just ignore them and carry on living your lives. You must also know that between us Africans there is a lot of xenophobia, jealousy, etc.
@@ntombicumalo I do love Denmark and I think from my experience, allot of foreigners in Denmark have it better than other in some other countries. Denmark is a peaceful country
All the natural resources Africa has is what built the west (Europe and America) China and really the world. It’s crazy they don’t think Africa has Electricity or houses……. Beautiful mom and daughter ❤️❤️
I was born and raised in America but while living in Africa, Africans never think that I am from America. They always name other African countries like Southern Africa.
I listen to your entire entire we call a pod cast. What you through in Denmark very much happens in the US; it is much deeper in some instances. Sad to say this is taught and indoctrinated. I do not like being called the N word or the B word. We all come from different ethical backgrounds, and the respect of the ethnicity is poor. Education I work as an early childhood educator, and when you spoke on respect and how you raised your daughter and the difference between you and her father, I can see it the differences generational in the US. Children, when I was growing up and the generation after m, we taught to respect their elders. No, there is no respect at al. No manners, no morals. You still see much racism everywhere, and it is sad. Touching our hair here is a big no. You are both beautiful and keep doing what you are doing. we learn lessons from across the world just by sharing.
The issues you are talking about is everywhere in europe. some people are ignorant and ask questions. And childrens are copy their parents, so i do not blame childrens. And the N word is everywhere. I am explaining to them about the N word, especially to the people near me, when they use the word. Because sometimes they do not know why we do not like it. I am a black woman also, living for 50 years in Holland..Ofcourse their is also racism, but not every question is racism , sometimes it is curiosity and ignorance. And the documtary on TV. about live of different Country s. Not the good live, that is journalism the shocking things of live. and in the mind of a child or people who are ignorant, they think that is usual. So keep explaining, because slavery and the bad things, the consequences is not a subject in eduction at school in Europe, maybe now a llittle amount. Ms Xandra/Holland
@@xandramacfall5552 Thank you 🙏 so much for the explanation and we can only educate the ones that wish to be educated. We removed our selves from one of a family member who said he could never stop using the word. We said ok and you can’t be in our lives. And true not every question is racist and I try not to focus on it too much but I know people who are too focused on it they even innocent things are taken out of context.
I also believe part of the issue is saying black I don’t use black yellow and white I use African European and Asian to describe because it says a lot more about one’s identity… one’s culture etc whereas black white and yellow is colonialistic
What suprises me the most, is in this day n age , globolisation, social media when the world is now a village, people r still racists n treat black or interracial people different.😊
These are typical immigration issues. It is easier to immigrate to other countries. I am in New Zealand and it is not such a big deal about the hair stuff etc to us.
Because your daughter originates from Africa and they know that Africans are not originally from Western countries. They all lknow that we originate from Africa whether we were born in the West or not!
Dear sister Denmark good country with bad and good like every countries in the way you described the life there and impact with danish is nice , but I used live in Norway and Sweden and Denmark and I know for people dark skin live in Denmark hard racism grow very much , for the blacks there s not safe country in world unfortunately. Your daughter she beautiful like her mother , but for the racists one this not change them view about us . Keep doing you guys are cool
it is a pity what i am hearing about some Danish people about black or coloured people i can conclude that some of them are not enlightened and are not exposed....sorry if i say this kind of reasoning has myopic horizon.
@@oviawejudith-osaretin5572 We blacks in Denmark still have it waaaaay so much better than blacks or foreigners in many other countries. But racism is everywhere unfortunately.
@@Milly_in_denmark i for one believe racism is for persons with small minds because they fail to see that we all irrespective of our skin colour have the same blood colour and the same physique
