Just a reminder: This is a reupload. As people were comparing the abuser with my current partner, it was very upsetting to me so I wanted to reupload this after stating this on a community post and here in the comments.
Hi ander , sorry that we got it mixed up , I’m very glad you explained this , and love the content , and I’m happy that you and your actual current relationship is going nice if so , have a nice day , we love you💖
The fact the color of the abused is fading makes me sadder about this whole thing. Multiple parts of them are fading because of the things they were going through, the slow but gradual change until they're basically a shell of what they used to be because of what's happening to them. This is a really good depiction, you should be proud.
I love this vid because it shows that not all abuse starts immediately and can happen over a long period of time, thank you Ander for bring awareness to a real and continuing problem out there :>
Seeing the comments not acknowledging the video kind of hurts, I really liked how this is portrayed, even if it wasn't finished. I've been in a similar situation with a relationship starting out as it if was a healthy relationship, but later on you end up seeing the real person behind that mask. I love this video. Hope you're doing okay and better, Ander. 🧡
I think it's a very important message. We see how she changed over abuse and probably hurtful messages how she is exhausted from it. We see that by the change of colours in her. We see how abuser started with comforting her with cookies and nice words to them making things she is not comfortable with showing his true side. Collar can symbolise that she feels trapped with him or like a pet that can stand up for herself (as we see her face with X on it) I really enjoyed this video it's giving me contention to something Private. Great work
I really love how at first the characters are pink and are happy and nothing seems wrong, but then the backround becomes green, (the opposite of pink on the colorwheel) which means its now the opposite of it being happy, and now more emotional-abusive. The characters also seem dull and sad, that could also mean since green is like disgust. that might be on how the female character (im not sure of the name lol i forgot sorry) feels in this situation. anyways, Great work ander!!💓
I feel this on a personal level... I am not going to dump my story here, but I am so happy you are out of your abusive relationship now. It takes so long to let go and even longer to be yourself again...
As a victim of abuse myself im glad that more people are becoming aware of these types of situations, its really sad and depressing knowing that so many people go through this kind of thing almost everyday. Thank you for bringing more awareness through your video it really makes me happy ❤❤❤
random but i love the use of green in this animation!! Green is the complementary color to red so it makes Red (the character) feel so like-- misplaced? When the background goes from blue/cyan to a bright green. I also notice that the same color theming is happening with the dark blue guy, where his main color is a sort of blue and his accent color is orange; complementary colors to one-another. Also I couldn't help but notice the sweater Red wears while she's with her abuser, it reminds me of the coping mechanism where the victim will wear baggy clothes to feel more hidden. Idk if it actually applies here but still
watching this is honestly kind of a ride for me. I have a close friend who was s/a’d only a few months ago and it hurts a lot to see the place it’s put her in, i know there’s no way I can but I can’t help but wish I could take all the pain away from her forever
This is just really sad... I hope you're okay after going through all this. I've never been abused or know what it's like.. but I just want you to know there's people that TRULY love you, and no matter what there'll always be someone that'll always be there and comfort you..
The animation is so amazing, as someone who was abused (that mf still bothering me 💀), this is somehow relaxing (? Knowing that it wasn't my fault that I got abused by him, knowing that someone is probably on my side, it's kind of relaxing to me To other people who might been through this, you've done a great job dealing it, and it was never your fault, we all here for you
Im so sorry ander, that you had to go through that. Im glad you broke up with that jerk, and also im happy that your current partner is giving you the love and care you deserved, i hoped your current relationship will be a healthy relationship for the rest of your life :D
I hate and love how you make his face, it’s feel so right for the character. . .that cute innocent thing, I hate it so bad, it’s exactly what someone I know looks like. . .that dumb little smirk. . . You did an amazing job
As someone who passed through the exact same thing last year (I was close to be 15. It was my fault too, because be that young with someone is not the right way, but I never listen to the warnings) it is indeed like that. They just keep pushing nd pushing nd pushing. And if you did once, you do twice, then again, and again. I'm glad I finished it all, and I'm still pure in some kind of way. But the memories, the sensations, very bad ones, never leave. Be safe everyone, love is something you show through care and boundaries too, not only that ❤❤
You're not wrong,abusive relationships don't happen in the moment,but then the women or man changes and then that's when the abuse starts,its a sad and cruel world we live in but once the person who is being abused is free,the pain goes away both emotionally and Physically and i'm glad your current partner isn't a abusive person
This animation is AMAZING all around but I wanted to highlight the subtle details I noticed that really made this stick out. -The question mark on the collar, the wonder if your really being abused or if you're just being overdramatic. Am I traped forever or was I never trapped to begin with? -The faster movement and extra color with current partner as well as the upright hearts, showing they are genuinely happy. -Orange representing the abuse and effect it had on them. There was no orange in the beginning, showing they were finally happy with their current partner. If you mix orange with red it can become less saturated, furthering the analogy of the abused losing their color/happiness. -The eyes of the abused and the current partner's mouth shown together is separate scenes, showing they both make each other feel complete. -The way the heads bounce on the black screen getting more rigid and controled as they lose color, the most red being the most fluid and the gray being the most rigid. On the note of the heads I also like how the abused hearts weren't shown, just the abuser's. The mouths also got gradually more closed, giving the "suffering in silence" vibe. The hair also gradually got longer and messier, symbolizing the time they spent in that situation. -The cage at the end being the same colors of the abuser without the orange. -The blush marks fading into eyebags. -The fact that the hair stayed longer after the abuse, showing it will always be with them and affect their life. I may have missed a few things or misinterpreted things, but I just wanted to put this here for people who didn't notice and to just show my appreciation for this piece of art. Thank you for making this.
Ander, dude you’ve been my idol since day one. Idk why I just had to say that bc of everything you’ve been through. But I think you’re doing awesome with coping and spreading awareness with this kinda stuff.
This is so dangerously beautiful it’s so gut wrenching and heart breaking and it has so much emotion in it and the feelings are so perfectly displayed in art form and it never ceases to amaze me and I mean this all in the most positive and depressing way possible
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I like how you make subtle changes to the characters, like the abusers sharp teeth hidden in the beginning, later appearing towards the end, and their colors fading into grey with the abuse. The animation is very clean and pleasant to look at, while also sending a clear message. At the perspective of the viewer, everything seems normal, even healthy, until we see the constant text messages from the perpetrator and him constantly forcing himself onto her. Thank you for telling your story❤
I’m glad that you are in a much healthier relationship. Nobody deserves to be abused, it is genuinely one of the most dehumanizing things that can happen to a person
The animation and message is so beautiful. I have experienced the exact same thing that has happened in the video, so maybe that’s why I find it so fascinating ❤️ you and victaton doing projects that are speaking out on S/A is amazing!
I hate how people are so grosed out by songs like this.. i know this one is about abuse but these types of songs talking about how much they love "making love" are just ADORABLE
How sad it is, at first you think that you are happy and have found your soulmate, but then you see his true face and rapes.This is a real problem😢 The animation is so smooth and delicious, keep up the good work Ander!💗✨
i love this sm, especially since I got out of a relationship like this a few months ago and I still suffer after effects from it- our relationship was good at first and went downhill easily due to them manipulating me and guilt tripping me into doing and saying certain things I can't take back. I appreciate all the gacha tubers who make videos like this to spread awareness
I relate a lot to what happened to you ngl. My ex lover (friends with benefits kinda) he was very much like manipulative and controlling asking for things I didn't know was bad in the moment until now. But of course, I dont want to make my issues your problems because you've been thru a lot. Your new partner looks so nice, I hope you are doing okay
I never experienced this sorta relationship but I have seen it happen with my parents…and I can say that not all relationships start abusive. The video turned out amazing btw!! :3
this is such a good interpretion (if im using it right) of gradual abuse. my ex had done the same thing although it was mental more than physical. he was really nice at the start and slowly got more dry and rude no matter how hard I tried :] I like this animation!! (I know im a month later but I've watched this like 7 times already ) but its absolutely showing and interpreating (idk how to spell it) the feeling of being abused and even mentally abused
Correct if I'm wrong but i think the video is showing a reversed timeline (starts with present and ends with past) since the red guy at the start is current partner and the blue guy is one of the past @busers. It's just how i think of it since people keep mistaking and comparing current lover with the @buser.
I love using color to express vents and I love when others do to because it brings out raw emotions. I do hate that people compared ur current bf to ur abusers tho thats messed up esp since this is a vent. Im glad he's in ur life now and I hope everyone in the comments get to experience true love
after i ended my relationship because of his behaviors (he was being way too toxic and abusive), i could realise this video describes in details my experience too... it started off all amazingly, he used to come home, gift me, give me love and affection... but after a while he started to overdo it.. and then he started with some abusive behaviours like "you're only mine and can't talk to anyone but me", or "if i could i would cover ur body in a blanket for you to go outside, so no one would look at you but me.".. also he started using me, using my body... something i havent realised before (i was graped by my own ex partner without being able to say no, or fight back.. because if i did he would say im "loosing interest" in him)... honestly i was so blind for him that i couldn't realise all his behaviours, him always finding ways to fight with me even i have never done anything bad, making me distance from my friends, using my body for his own pleasures even i was in a hard time (struggling because i had to go through a suggery, and even after that he wanted to keep with his S* live active... i was... resting from the surgery and he forced me to do stuff) honestly i feel bad for letting someone use me like this, i feel dirty... i feel wrong and disgused... its so difficult to handle all that... (theres much more but I can't explain here, also sorry for my bad grammar)
basically, he tried to make me think that everything was okay, that he could do anything he wanted with my body because he was my "lover"... so if i said anything to fight back he would call me a feminist or just say i should do stuff on his favour because i was his "girlfriend"... he used to buy me food to make me feel comfortable around him, he used to manipulate me into being submissive to him
all i ever wanted was a healthy and happy relationship... but i dont think that will ever happen, like.. i wanted to have fun and be silly with the love of my life.. i wanted to spend time togheter, go for an ice cream, play games, talk, laugh, watch movies... but... all i ever got was.. abuse
@brenxarte Nothing he did was okay. You're not disgusting or dirty he's the one who forced you and pressured you into thinking it was okay, feeling obligated to have sx in a relationship to remain together is never a good sign in a partner esp him. Don't ever feel disgusted for not doing something you never wanted to do or believe people that think it's easy to walk away when a person has already mentally drained you. Though i truly hope for best for you in life. Experiencing something like this is deep❤
I'm really glad people like Vic and others has spread awareness of S/A in the Gacha community(and possibility other too). I really don't know why we started this, but I'm glad we are doing this. Thank you everyone for doing the best you can for others to know about the dangers and possibilitys when it comes to S/A in relationship or family. All that stuff. Again, thank you everyone :)
i had an abusive mother…at 4…she became abusive and even tried r-wording me at 5 and she just starved me on purpose…the only thing that made me happy was my dad and cartoons…definitely not subtle at all :D
at first it was all good. like all innocent and even looked like some childish teenage love. but at the end somehow they changed completely that to this day I still wonder If they always pretended to love me or they genuinely did but they changed at the end. This vid somehow felt so relatable to me: You see them as the one and only just for the next they unknown them completely and using you just for their gross desires,,,,
From an animation perspective, the use of the squash graph in order to convey violence is so artistic. Instead of a smooth transition, the graphs used convey brash behavior by the abuser Edit: In comparison with other aspects of the animation, being more smooth and bouncy, this is very harsh. In a good way
It’s really sad that this happens to people no one deserves to get treated like as someone who has been it’s really sad that ALL genders go threw this not just females males too:(
Edit: Removed the first part bc I didn’t see the community tab at first and mistook the people, whoops- Sometimes being around them (the abuser) just makes you feel stuck. Like you’re in a cage and can’t speak up, so you have to accommodate to their wants and wishes when it just makes you feel worse. Eventually, you have to break it off and their reaction is not usually pleasant. I really like your portrayals in this video, with the coloring and symbolisms! Surprisingly, genuinely made me sad likely due to being surrounded by shitty people my whole life and due to that, I can sympathize greatly. Thank you for talking about a topic like this and I hope you’ve recovered/are recovering❤
paragraph explaining person here the video basically covers the aftermath of leaving abuse and the scars that were left in said abuse alongside the abuser willing to return to the victim by reaching out to them. in the beginning of the video. we see red’s current partner (i’ll call them crimson) coming back from going out (not sure where but the bag they bought with them had cookies referencing the lyrics of the songs). id also like to note that red and crimson’s color synchronization is also a nice detail which can mean both are safe with eachother/content. then around 00:58 the colors switch to a green background and red being desaturated with their phone buzzing with orange notifications. which implies that the abuser (will call them navy) is trying to reach red which leaves red overwhelmed. red them remembers the behavior navy displayed trying to control red back then, then holding a gear while blabbering “melted hearts” resembling what could be red’s heart as a “machine” and “easily usable”(?) afterall it was mentioned in the start that abuse can be overlooked and gradually happen. and the melted hearts may resemble either navy’s intentions. then navy has a savage smile while holding their phone implying that they may have recorded red and may use it for their own advantage (in a sense that abusers may usually threaten their victims by trying to blackmail them to their families and friends in this case.) also while putting on the collar (which resembles control over victims symbolically’ red is seen with a runny shirt going past their shoulders which was different from the clothes that hid that area. the end sequence then has red going through a montage while their situation ends up worsening through time until navy ends up having full control on them which plays with the music a few times.
also i’d like to say that the video really touched me (as a survivor myself) and was well made. i do hope you can feel better as i am aware that this video was personal. virtual hugs there 🫂🫂
OMGGGG ITS MY FAV SONG AND IM NOT EVEN JOKINHK I OPENED THE VIDEO AND A SMILE APEREARED IN MY FACE I CANF WVEN WRITE PROPERLYY HELLPPPOOO AWEDOMEEE VIDEOOOO
