Hello friends! Let's hang out, I'll show you a few new favorite things, ask for your opinion on bangs/fringe. And chat about workbooks for self-development. Thank you for being here and Happy Holidays! 00:00 Hello 00:20 Backpack amzn.to/3TJ4XzH 03:37 ESMA HOME candles 12:53 Bangs, fringe. Your opinion? 22:15 Life update 25:40 Shadow self journal amzn.to/3RD3fgN 27:31 Self-compassion workbook amzn.to/3tL76QK Thank you for the amazing years together! ♥♥♥
You have a beautiful forehead , but to be honest bangs like you tried aren't flattering. I do however see you with an assumetric Bob and if you do bangs then they should do straight and something very modern. Just my opinion
We miss you! These are my favorite. I just have some tea and enjoy my time with you. So glad you’ve treated yourself ❤️ I slipped ahead to your life update and I’m so excited for you! Therapy changed my life. Just having someone to listen and give you that space to talk is beautiful. Proud of you Maria. We love YOU, and I know we want you to serve yourself. Love love love you.
As a long time therapist,I am so pleased you found someone you can relate to. It's all about the connection. It also takes courage to take ourselves on! Great job Maria
Maria I’m always so impressed by your willingness to be self-reflective and your desire to grow and explore new areas of yourself. Also, as a licensed mental health provider, it makes my heart so happy to hear you describe the power of good homework.
You seem to be so much more light and silly and back to your true self in this video. I’m so happy you found someone to help you, working on ourselves is one of the most difficult yet important things we can do in this life. Seeing you like this lifts my spirit and my heart, your hard-work is paying off.
Hairdresser here 👋 I think you would really suit a more natural darker blonde. Highlights and lowlights would look so good! Also think you would really suit a side parting face frame/bangs! With maybe a little layer throughout. Think Rachel Green season 8/9! I love these videos so much! They are more tingle inducing than actual asmr videos 💕 Thank you and happy new year! Xx
Couldn’t agree more! Natural colour (with maybe some high/lowlights) for a couple of years may also help heal the hair I think? The awesome part is that darker blond in the extensions suits you soooo well!
@@laurentiare curtain bangs is more of a middle parting like a curtain splitting in the middle. I think side parting bangs would suit Maria more personally.
I think giving bangs a go is a great idea! Worst case scenario, you don't like it and grow them back out! No harm, no foul. And you'll never really know if you dont try!
I think going back to religion and spirituality when you’re feeling more fulfilled and less down will help you get more out of both. Thank you for sharing your story because it’s very relatable.
Dear Masha, I have been watching you for the past 10 years and I must say, it has been a pleasure to see you grow. You feel like a big sister to me (as I'm 33 years old) and I appreciate your valuable advice and approach towards life. Thank you for always being honest and open with us, especially in a world full of deceit and fake people. Best regards from Dominican republic
💕 Much love to you Maria on your journey of healing and self discovery. Be gentle with yourself, it’s in your RU-vid name! Glad for you that you’ve found a good therapist 🤗
I can see such light in your eyes, you are radiant dear. I’m so so proud of you, and just so happy for you. Thank you for sharing your journey so vulnerably.
Hi Maria I’m so happy for you❤ I could sense a lighter demeanor and freer spirit in you from the beginning of the video. We love you and support you and I wish you a beautiful 2024. PS I loved the bangs and that darker blonde color of the extension against your skin tone. PSS I’m so glad your insurance led you to a more fitting therapist. Sometimes you have to “date around” to find someone you vibe with. Therapy has been instrumental in my healing in many different life stages so I love to hear it’s been beneficial for you. Big hugs💞
im so so so proud and happy for you that you made what could not have been an easy decision to try therapy again. keep doing the work masha ❤ sending love and compassion
I'm so happy to see this video, Maria! First, just want to say that the wispy bangs look great on you. They give you a bright and peppy look. If you aren't sure about actually cutting your hair though, the clip in ones do look good, you just gotta find a better color match. Also, super proud of you for trying therapy again! Finding the right therapist is so important, and I'm so happy you found someone you like. Even if you only go once a month, having someone to talk about your feelings with openly is great. Sometimes they have suggestions that you wouldn't have thought of yourself, even if they seem obvious. I could tell right from the beginning of the video that you seemed happier and more relaxed and open. And also really glad that you listened to everyone who was worried about you, even if it wasn't quite what you wanted to hear at the time. I really believe everyone was truly concerned about you, even if some people were not so nice about it. It says a lot about you as a person that you were willing to hear everyone out even when it was difficult. You're such an intelligent and loving person, so it was difficult to see you cutting things you liked out of your life. I'm so happy you are taking time to consider what is truly best for YOU. Whether that ends up being religion, spirituality, or just mindfulness, your community will support you. It might not be easy, but it's worth it. I'm definitely going to look into the shadow work journal you mentioned, it sounds interesting. Wishing you the best, Maria! 💜
I am so proud of you for taking space and prioritizing your own healing right now. Your energy is wonderful, you seem confident and joyful and open hearted. I’m so glad you have a therapist you are connecting with! Sending you love 🤍
I'm so happy. I was afraid you would be scared of sharing your life. I had a time with organized religion that was scary to my loved ones and it took me about 5 years to get out of. I'm proud of you. I also wanted to say that with watching your videos over the years, I wonder if possibly you were searching for community, which organized religion provides (and possibly abuses). Also with all that's going on in the world, it's natural to grasp for something. I hope you don't beat yourself up. And you said you've never really had self compassion, it's difficult to grow but I hope you do. I think your daughter is very lucky to have a mom like you putting in the hard work, she will benefit from it too. Wish you the best. Also I got bangs like 3 years and it made me immensely happy. I think you'll look great with curtain bangs. Best to you❤
I think the way you worded this was so sweet and I relate to her so much. if you don’t mind, I am curious about the organized religion part as I was raised in a private school and church and have found myself teetering with finding a “home” I never really considered it organized religion until I read this comment. I haven’t put that into perspective!
Oh my god, I'm so happy you found a good connection with a therapist, Maria!! It's painful to visit our shadow side, but once we cross the river, we become so much wiser and more peaceful. I always say the best decision I have made in my life was going to therapy. 10 years after my first appointment has passed now and I never thought I could experience peace within my mind and heart. Keep going, good job!!!!
@@SkankBoy69 I don't see the point of your comment. What are you trying to say? That being unstable should be something bad or shameful? 😅 it's completely ok not being ok. And even more, taking care of oneself if one is needing, actually, speaks very well about a person.
I know we’re all just in a parasocial relationship with you, but I think you should be proud of your journey into therapy! And it sounds like you’re really working on yourself. Truly admirable to face your fears ❤❤❤
Some of the best advice I received in therapy, was this: Life is a work of art, so try not to be afraid to paint with all of the colors. Feel all of the feelings. Happy New Year everyone!
I’m so glad that you’ve found a therapist that you are finding helpful. What a gift. Therapy has certainly been a game changer for me. ❤ Happy New Year, Maria, we love you!
I'm so glad you have been able to find a great therapist and take a step back to just focus on choosing paths that you truly feel will be in your best interests and best for your mental and psychological and spiritual health. ❤ Even if the path ends up being the same you were on, it's so important to be able to fully evaluate and understand WHY it's the right path for you instead of being pulled in a direction by unconscious or emotion-packed forces from yourself or others! It sounds like you have a really great therapist whose style fits you well! I hope you have a fantastic new year and amazing 2024!
Maria!! I am so happy you are on this path for therapy and most of all that you seem very hopeful and comfortable with this new therapist. Happy new year! ❤
Self compassion is what my therapist has taught me as well and it has changed my life. It took some time for me to feel it, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I’m so glad you are experiencing it as well with a therapist you like!!
I’m so happy you sought therapy and found a good fit, you deserve all the best, Maria! Therapy can be really difficult, especially when you have trauma you have to deal with. Best of luck to you on this journey!
I'm one of those people who left a constructive comment on those vids but they DEFINITELY came from a place from love. One person's beliefs will be different from the next (like I am pretty spiritual) but the main thing is that it has to come from an organic place within us. I'm glad you considered what the comments said and that you sought out therapy! Also side note, I too am candle obsessed and my bath and body works candle collection continues to grow... lol
I'm very happy to hear you're feeling well and working on self-compassion! I think with time you will be able to return to whatever it is that makes you happy (spirituality or whatever else) and engage with it in a healthy way that leaves you feeling empowered and not anxious. I love that you see the good in people and can recognize that most people want to help, even when they don't phrase their thoughts in the most compassionate way. I wish I could try to be that way a little bit more myself. All the best to you, Maria!
Soo happy you are taking time to focus on yourself. It’s so important but so hard to do. Have so much admiration for you masha!!! ❤ P.S big fan of the bangs. You should look at a mix between wispy full bangs & curtain bangs. They’d look super cute!
Your life update makes me so happy!! I won't repeat what others have said far more eloquently than I could, but I am so so proud of you!! Therapy is the BEST, I hope you continue to enjoy your introspective journey.
I've had bangs for 20 years LOL so I feel like this is my time to shine!!! first of all, your forehead is not large at all, so don't worry about that. I do like the look with bangs. I also like it without. but for your personal consideration, here are some key pros/cons I've noticed about having bangs. for pros, bangs make sophisticated hairstyles very easy. you can throw your hair up but leave your bangs out and boom, your messy bun now looks Brigitte Bardot! also as you age, bangs conceal forehead lines lol. finally, bang hairs are so short that it is more difficult to heat damage them compared to the lengths of your hair. so to an extent, you can style and style away---which is important, because the biggest con is that bangs have to be styled or they just go wonky. depending on where your cowlicks have grown, you could be looking at round brushing with the blowdryer every day. also, bangs get greasy so much faster because they sit on your forehead, so you could have to wash your hair more, use extra dry shampoo, etc. they can also unfortunately make your forehead break out. I would keep in mind also that if your hair grows an average of half an inch a month, you could be looking at a year or more of grow out time just to get from eye level to below the chin :( so if potentially regretting your choice worries you, I'd consider going for more of a longer curtain bang style which is easier to tie back and part off to the sides. finally, my last point to consider is that bangs technically thin your hair by taking the front section of your hair and isolating it from the rest. so unlike trying on a clip-on bang and adding more hair, you would technically be losing a little volume. as a last piece of input, I had highlights for 4 years and unfortunately the process of highlighting really thinned out my hair. it might be effecting you that way too, just considering the way you were addressing your front layers. I think it happens from the repeated foiling process, which typically targets the front more for a money piece or just generally involves re-bleaching the lengths of your hair multiple times. that deeper blonde color that looks like your natural color looked incredible on you, so why not go for it? I think the little bit of contrast really makes your eyes pop. edit: I'd also recommend going to a salon if you were to go that route, because dyeing highlights to a lower level can be tricky (I learned that the hard way....) good luck with your hair journey! you are beautiful; you'll look great no matter what you choose.
honestly the bangs are cute but I think your hairstyle is the most elegant and classic the way it is! maybe a change of colour would be nice too, I think you'd look great with a darker blonde!! also, it's lovely to hear you're working on yourself, and I hope you're able to transition back into spirituality and religion easily and joyfully when you're ready! ❤
So glad to hear you are in a more grounded space. Thanks for sharing with us. Take care of yourself, much love to you and your family. Cheers and happy new year!
Maria, i don't know you at all but you have always seemed to thrive when you listen to your inner voice. I'll never forget when you shared that vision you had about moving to California. To me, that revealed your natural connection to the divine that lives in each of us. You appear pure of heart so it made me sad that you were judging yourself harshly. Good luck on your path. Life is bumpy for all of us! As for your hair, you will look great with bangs but they are a pain to grow out. But its only hair! What the heck! What about becoming a brunette? With your blue eyes it would be striking!
Maria you truly are a warrior woman & I feel really privileged that you share this with us & am thrilled for you that you are finding the therapy helpful, if hard. I will definitely be looking up that shadow work workbook. I got some very strong negative feedback from someone I deeply love over the holiday and I need to really reflect on it. It is very painful, but also very real & an act of love for yourself & relationships to go there. You help me feel brave enough to do it. The very best 2024 to you & your family.
Maria thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability with us. I'm so glad to hear that you gave therapy another try. It is really about finding someone that you connect with. I appreciate you and your genuineness. You are a beautiful soul. Best of wishes in the new year.
Wow, got to the end of the video and for some reason im crying hearing about your therapy journey. I think thats what i need too.😭 I am LOVING how unapologetically open you are being on this channel!❤
Hi Maria ! For you hair, rather than bangs i think you should first try a curtain bang 🎀 here's my reasoning: curtain bangs would frame that beautiful face of yours, without distracting from your most striking features which in my opinion is your eye area ! I think bangs tends to draw attention away from the eyes, and rather to the mouth area. It's not a bad thing per say - i think you'd look gorgeous no matter what hair style you'd went for - but i just think you'd look very good with curtain bangs ❤
I'm so glad to hear you are working on being kinder to yourself. You said it well - it is a painful process to get to a point of feeling better, no matter what the situation is.
I’m so glad you found a therapist you really click with! That process can be rough. I’m also excited for you in your “focusing on the self” journey!! I know from my own experience it’s an emotional roller coaster, but it’s so so worth it.
💛Sorry, I'm writing this comment so late (hope you see it), but I just wanted to say not to listen to the mean comments...says more about them. Second, I did see that video and feel you're more spiritual than religious...the two are very different & not the same at all. You are a beautiful person w an open heart and quite frankly so much relgion today is used to justify hateful behavior. Self-care and self exploration are so important and so happy that you found someone to help you through your new journey. Im chronically ill & it takes a lot for me to even write, but I wanted to let you know how much i respect you. Your videos help me so much as i tend to get depressed because of my isolation from being so sick. Much love and light sent your way! 💛🕯✨️🕊
I will admit it took me 3 tries to get through this awake. lol I swear your regular voice is even tingleier then your ASMR voice. So happy for you regarding therapy and wellness over all. ❤
I say yes to the bangs! I vote a layered cut, few inches past shoulder length long bob with some wispy curtain bangs 🩷 Maybe even a bronde color, like soft brown hilights Super classic and classy!
I dont think you should get bangs. You defnitely do not have a large forehead. But I do think maybe a shorter hair cut of a certain style might look good. I am thinking a styled bob, curled. I think you look great with curls but it is harder to keep curls with longer hair.
You look STUNNING with the bangs!!!! I would definitely cut them similar to the ones you wore in this video, because straight full bangs only flatter a few faces. It makes you look really serious. Some wispy bangs like these should be perfect ❤
Маша, не стригите ровную челку, посмотрите варианты челки-шторки😊 Вам будет очень к лицу, ее легче укладывать и вам она не будет так мешать как короткая✨
As for your hair, spoil yourself and go to a salon and maybe go SLIGHTLY darker and closer to your natural colour? I’ve always thought a dark blonde would look soooo amazing on you 🥰 I love that you do your hair yourself but you deserve a nice pampering day
I think you look so adorable with bangs!! They suit you so well, I would never even have thought of it ☺️ In your color and all blended, it would be super cute :)
Maria I have always felt faith and spirituality are very personal things. You do not have to study relentlessly or compare your knowledge or state of Grace with anyone else. I think it’s like life - we learn as we go and our life experiences can influence the path of our faith and the sense of self can move the needle at times. You need no barometer for your “progress”. You need no one to assess it. You are exactly where you are supposed to be at this point on your path. ❤
You seem much lighter in spirit in this vlog! Whatever you're doing it's definitely working for you. Glad to see you happier and hope you and your family had a lovely holiday!! And Happy Early New Year 🎉
I think you should go for the bangs!! You can always pin them up if you absolutely hate them but I got bangs after years of contemplating and I’ll never go back! Best decision for me. And I had bangs my entire childhood and hated them. You’ll learn to style them yourself. I feel like they make me more feminine :)
I grew up Catholic, in the chruch often. As an adult I do not practice the religion. I dont practice at all. I believe in a higher power. What that is I dont know and almoat find comfort in not knowing. Religion is tricky. Give yourself some grace. Therapy is key. I think in alot of people in our age group it seems. I dont know. Amyway, we love you so much Maria. You're genuinely a very sweet, intelligent and kind soul.
Loved watching this update from you, Maria! Wishing you luck and peace on your therapy journey! The thing about healing is that you're always going to be healing, it's a never-ending journey. Be gentle and easy on yourself, we're all just consistent works in progress. Wishing you and your family the best new year!
If you're interested in the thinner bangs, maybe look into korean "see-through bangs"! I don't know if they invented the term but that's where I hear about them all the time. Also I'm glad you've found a therapist you click with! Self-examination is so painful for me too, but there's something reassuring in the feeling that you're finally untangling all the mess hidden within. I'm so glad you're on that journey and hope it eventually leads to good places 💪
I’m so glad you found a good therapist!! You genuinely seem so much lighter and happier! Your twinkle is back! :) I began my therapy journey in 2020 and did shadow work as well! It helped me so much and it completely changed my perspective and outlook towards myself. ❤
i think bangs look great on you maria! i had bangs for several years and i'm really thinking about cutting them again. i think they made my eyes look bigger. bangs can be really versatile because you can play with where they sit and you can clip them back if you want. i think straight bangs would really suit you :)
It's interesting because in a lot of modern witchcraft spaces there's a big emphasis on doing shadow work as part of your path so interesting you found it after taking a break from spirituality. I'm glad you've found a therapist who you're able to connect to and I hope the sessions are what you need them to be.
Maria, thank you for sharing so much of yourself with all of us. I am proud of you for trying therapy again. It sounds weird, but my heart actually feels lighter after watching this! Also, the bangs look adorable on you! I say go for it! ❤️ Also… dumb ass rose! 😂
Рада за вас, Мария. Под прошлым видео мне было больно наблюдать то, о чем вы говорили и я написала сумбурный комментарий.. который не давал покоя мне самой, поэтому он был удалён. Но сейчас вижу, что вы делаете правильные выводы, поэтому я выдохнула и снова успокоилась. Честно, все те дни переживала за вас, спасибо, что делитесь! С наступающим новым годом! Пусть ваша жизнь в новом году с каждым днём каплей за каплей наполняется самопознанием, самопринятием, новыми открытиями и свершениями! Вы достойны всего чего желаете!
I am really really happy to hear that you are focusing your efforts inwards to help heal some of your traumas and find healthy coping skills. I'm have been silently following you for years now and I'm so proud of your progress ❤️
Maria, so glad to see you again! Can you please give us an update on your skin treatments? I can’t remember the name of the machine you showed us a couple of years ago, but you look younger every year. ❤Please update on what you think is working.
Regarding the hair change.. I must say I still think about how amazing that red wig with bangs from your sassy witch roleplay from a few years ago suited you! Maybe something in that direction is worth considering 😁
Masha, I am so happy you are giving you so much love! Therapy literally changed my life, in better… ♥️ Thanks to be such a good human being! Greetings from France
I am SO happy to hear about your journey in self discovery and understanding your own power!! I started seeing a therapist after years of trauma and it's helped immensely
A good word is a beautiful bird. When you release it from your tongue, it will sing in the hearts of others. Let our morals be a bouquet of flowers. Life we give to those around us is its fragrance. Kindness and its color. The purity of our hearts. Its nectar is a smile. May you have good days.