Like this couple mention that it is depend on individual person, more like people freedom to choose just living together or marriage. For example let's put in extreme case, 20 year old who are heavy alcoholic, smoking, meat and fast food lover even with drug addiction, the other 50s are health vegan who love exercise. Who’s will give a better baby? People use statistic to judge more like gunpoint to 100 year old people, and said you should be die 20 years before. Respect people choice and pray for them, praise life that God bless to us. Hope everybody take responsible to take care about family and children, have a healthy family relationship are more important, and we can control.
My dad was 50 when I was born, and my mother 34. Cute funny story - the nurses told him he couldn't be in the delivery room (because they thought he was my grandfather) They said "Only the father is allowed" and he looked at the nurse and said "Do you know something I don't know?" LOL Hilarious story of my birth!
Murphy Star My parents loved each other and had a strong marriage for 18 years until my father passed from cancer when I was 9. Don't judge. You don't know anything about my family. So go "ew" yourself.
I personally disagree with this because I am a child of an age gap relationship. my mom was in her early 30s and my dad was 67 when I was born. Shockingly my mom passed away when I was 13 and now my dad is 88 and in the nursing home. the messed up part is is that I'm only 18. my dad will obviously not be able to walk me down the aisle nore see my children like any regular aged parents could. plus like my family on my father's side is like so ahead of me. My cousins and my sister are well into their 50s and are already grandparents. im a great aunt already. like it's really weird. I think bringing children into a situation like that is being selfish. there father would not be there too long, and the family is harder to bond with because of such a big age difference. idk I just think it's messed up. I personally feel left behind in my family but oh well. I just know that I would not put my children through what I went through. I wish my father was younger so I could spend more time with him but oh well. it's too late now
I would like to add to this that I'm also 18, my mother is 50, my dad is 87, my brothers are older than my mom and my sister just turned 30(all 3 form my dad's side). I'm blessed to have my mother in my life and have her be supportive and loving, but my parent's relationship has grown to be quite toxic, down right abusive. He's a war veteran and has many health issue, tough he's still quite strong and independent, his stuck with a very old school mentality that HE'S the man and we do what HE says. He hasn't even taken the time to get to truly know me, shaming my hobbies, interest and career choice, and constantly degrading my mother. Of course that isn't the issue for every age gap couple, but seeing how my parent's relationship has deteriorated over the years really scares me and makes me go against both young girls dating relatively older guys and older people having kids because it'll get in the way of properly connecting with them. I too wish my father was younger because then my family would probably not be so broken. He'd be more willing to change for the sake of all of us being together and happy.
Thank you for posting this video. I myself am also in an age gap relationship. I am 28 and my boyfriend is 58. He looks a lot younger than his age. But I've definitely gotten a lot of problems from people because of our age difference.. it annoys me how nosy people are about other's love life. My boyfriend treats me better than any younger man would and we love each other to death!
my dad adopted me when he was 50, im 20 now and my dad passed away last year and he was 70.. i couldnt give him grandchildren but i lived great with him for 19 years and i loved it, i dont think it matters what age you have your kids.
NayukixKisho thabkyou... I'm really afraid to have children but I want a child.. my boyfriend is 52.. most children of age gap have benefiting me the impression they would rather have not been born into an age gap family
My mom got married when she was 17 and my dad was 33..They got divorced because my dad wanted to and told her to find another man. This marriage sucks and my mom almost ended up on commit suicide. Having a children in age gap is not selfish.Having a children in short term marriage is selfish.
oh darling I bet your dad did not go away because he thought about the future of your mom or because the gap . no sorrry. probably other reasons. If he would deeply love her he wouldnt leave
My mother was 15 at the time of marriage, had me at 16, and only 11 months after my birth she had my brother. My mum would lie about my age. I'm currently 22 and my mum is only 38, but tells people she is 2 years older than she is, as she has been lying about her age since she married so young.
people that say a older guy cant do much when they have children in their 60s or whatever, last time i checked, people get their kids babysat by grandparents and grandparents still manage to chase after toddlers etc.
It's one thing to do it for some hours, and another to have this every day. Our parents love our kids, but were always relieved when they handled them back. And it's not the chasing alone, it's how loud they are, how much attention they need, that they don't have much patience, and so on. Normal child behaviour is not really that welcome anymore or suppressed. Grandparents are great, but I would not confuse them with parents. When my parents want my kids to follow their rules, they stuff them with candy. That way my parents get their will, without putting too much energy into disciplining the kids, tbey don't need to run after them, because kids come alone. Sure it works, but only short time and it's not how parenting should be done.
Babysitting for a few hours or a few days is not the same as raising a child, dumbass. I have a niece that I watch often and she reminds me every day that I'm not ready for a child of my own.
davlor86 grammatically, thats what you said, lol. "If I have kids, it will be until I turn 37" which means "If I have kids, I will be having kids until I turn 37 which is when I will dispose of them whether it involves leaving them or murdering them, etc."
I find it sad that other people are so concerned about other people's lives. Like, instead of telling me and my significant other that we shouldn't have kids (or even be together) because of an age difference, how about these people go worry about their husbands and their kids? I don't recall asking for their opinions.
agreed, some people just have no lives and would rather spend their time critisizing and getting angry about things that are none of their business instead of doing something productive with their lives. Oh well.
***** How is it your business? Lol It's a video, not your life. I find it sad you take something so whatever so damn personal. I can tell you have zero life. LMFAO.
I know this is an old comment, but I just came across it again and I felt the need to point out the obvious: my comment specifically referred to opinions that weren't asked for, and opinions given to me personally. So, a reasonable person would read that and make the logical assumption that I wasn't talking about the comments left on this video.
+Alex scott no but they won't! If he is like 70 and they have a child when the kid is 30 the parent is going to be 100! Who wants there parent to die when they are only 30!
+Maysen Davies you can never tell when someone will die . my mom died when I was 14 & she was 46 , I also have a little sister who passed at 16 . you never know when , or who will pass away First
+Angelique Gaston My dad was 50 YO when i was born... His age was never an issue for me... I'm 27 YO now and it still wasn't an isssue (he passed away 3 years ago because of Parkinson Disease)... But his age was not the most important, the most important thing was that he was my dad and that I loved him!
+Angelique Gaston I can relate! my dad was 54 when i was born and my mom was 41, both my parents are very healthy but ive always been so worried, they are fine but it can be so difficult .
The Fat Girl Channel Age is certainly not the most important thing but for me there are some significant struggles i cant avoid. My parents are both 70 and many (serious and non-serious) problems follow and i wont get into it but it's been like this since i was born. But I love my parents and there are a lot of things for me to worry, also the fact that they will probably die while i'm still young will hurt so much.
This video makes me so sad. They are both so naive to the reality of children. I am the youngest child of an age gap relationship. My parents married when my mom was 25 and my dad was 45. They went through 8 years of infertility before having my oldest sister and then proceeded to pop two more out in 3 years. Basically, my father was 56 when I was born. I am 17 now, and my entire childhood was shaped around my dads age. He is still alive (73) and has no major health conditions but I have to live with the knowledge that he WILL NOT be around much longer. I don't care how long men are living these days. Every morning my father looks in the paper to see if any of his friends or classmates have died (there have been many..). He has told me that he was so excited about a young pretty girl being interested in him that he failed to see the consequences of the future. The fact is, he just cant keep up. My parents have always disagreed on major parenting choices because they were born in different decades. Father-WWII, Mother-right before the hippies. Any age gap over a decade is too much. I really hope they read this..I wish I could debate them in person.
I can't stand seeing all these comments of kids talking about experiences they had with older parents or parents with large age gaps. Not all of age gap relationships or having older parents are like that. My parents are 24 years apart. When I was born my dad was 58 and my mom was 34. Now, at my current age my father is 71 and my mom is 47. Having older parents never gave me any health problems, in fact I do exceptionally well. My father is easily capable of taking care of me and always has been, same with my mother, my father has little to know health problems and can do anything a younger father could do. Even more than that, my parents have a healthy and happy relationship unlike split or divorced parents because they were at an age that they were ready and mature enough to have a family and a marriage. I get even more wisdom from both of them by having them be older than most parents, especially my dad. Not all of age gap/older parents are bad, some can be amazing.
I get that love is blind and you can fall in love with someone who is older or younger than yourself. I get it, and I really don't judge that. But you saying that having children at the age of 60 isn't selfish... well it is. My dad was about 60 when I was born and he died when I was 11. And I know parents die everyday at whatever age they are... but having children at the age of 60 is not a good idea. Losing my father at 11 was horrible and left me depressed for years even now in my adult days. I'm sad because i didn't get to know him as an adult, I'm sad that I have older half siblings that knew him better than I did. It's not just "oh lets have a child!". You have to think about the consequences. What is best for the child even before it was born. Just saying. And if you decide to have children then I wish you all the best and that you get as much time with them as possible.
I just want to say this. I don't think my parents had a may December romance however she was 33 when I was born and he 52. My dad ended being my sole provider and as such watching him age has been and will continue to be a main source of anxiety and a constant struggle. I worry everyday about my dad as he ages. He is now 78 and I am 25. I worried about his death since I was 7.. It is to this day Mt greatest fear.
+Ette My parents are also in a May December relationship and it has worried the HECK out of me since around the same age as you. I will be 18 this year and my dad just turned 70. I would say that is my greates fear as well but its great to find someone in the same boat as me....
S U P E R NA T U R A L I hear that a lot from kids with older parents. I'm sorry that you struggle with it too. I hope your dad has a long and prosperous life! :) Take it one day at a time, easier said than done, I know..
Ette Yes I hope the same with your father! It's nice to know there's other people going through the same thing and it's not just me. For years I always thought it was just me
S U P E R NA T U R A L I did too. It's funny, this video came up recommended, mind you I don't look up this type of stuff for it to even be a topic of interest. I'm glad it did though. There are probably a lot more like us.
Come on, you're kidding yourself by denying the statistics! A 60 year old parent will not necessarily but definitely most likely die long before a 30 year old parent, that's just facts and yes, I think that is pretty selfish not to acknowledge.
I'm "only" 15 years older than my wife, but this turned out to be one of the major issues that is driving us apart. When we got married, she had insisted on having only one child as she then wanted to get on with her career. I was 41 when our daughter was born and and probably would have been okay with having another back then. The problem is that my wife only suddenly desperately started wanting a second when she neared her mid-30's. I simply have no desire to have another kid now at 50+, extending the child rearing portion of our lives for another 18 years. I spent all of my 30's and 40's raising children (I have a son from a previous relationship) and was looking forward to doing all the other things we had long talked about. Plus, I don't want to face the prospect of trying to put a new baby though college just as I'm about ready to retire. So the issue isn't so much that I might die when a new child is still young, but rather that we are simply in very different stages or our lives. Though the incident that led to our separation was not directly related to our age-gap, it has been hard to overcome given this underlying problem.
If my parent(s) is old , I will just appreciate my existence because if they could have decided not to have a child , I might not be born love is all about appreciating what you have and what makes you happy.
As you get older, the likelihood of your child being born with down syndrome increases...js. When you're 49, the chances of your child having down syndrome is 1/7, whereas when you're 20, the chances are 1/1,150. Don't know where you got your information from, but make sure you do more research before making a video about it.
My parents are 33 years apart. Since I can remember, people always referred to our dad as our grandfather. Not until recently, my dad has been very active and played a huge role in our lives. Now he’s 81 and is showing beginning signs of Demetria. Normal senile dementia. Our family dynamic is changing a bit but we’re all adjusting. Life is life. Love is love. Oh, I’m 24 but his youngest is 17.
My father was 50 when I was born. I only knew him when he was sick and old. Too old to play with me. He died when my 2nd child was only 2 weeks old and my children have never known their grandfather. I do believe it is selfish as speaking from experience. I have no family and am alone on this earth. When you don't have family, it's very hard.
ejwis1 my mom had her child at 25 and my dad was 26 they both died at 41 kids were not really that grown and he even saw your child come on be grateful,anyone can die anyone can get sick I came back from school to see my mom thin and really sick I her 30's and I watched her die?,she didn't even see me graduate
I feel u all i have left is my mom which im very grateful for but she is 73 and i know the time is only ticking and once shes gone i will have nobody. Which ia scary. I never had grandparents they were dead by the time i was born.
Shelby Perkins Shelby Perkins if you can care for a child then why not if you want to be a mom. I just had my first in December (3 mos ago) and I'm 28. I thought about being too old but we tried for 7 years so I wanted my first at 21. Sometimes God has different plans.
True. We all know that the more we get older, we get weak. That's just how our bodies function, its basic biology to be honest. Well i agree with her that older people have more experience, but based on biology reasons (bc of our bodies) it's really bad to have children when you're around 50+ i guess (i forgot).
I think it's interesting that she's getting all fired up and he, as the older one in the relationship, is very level headed and calm... Definitely showing the age gap in my opinion
Thanks for sharing this, made a lot of sense to me. Many people don't understand you are not promise a tomorrow. If you visit a graveyard you will find people all of ages there. Nobody really know how long you will live, of course if you had heath problems your life could end early. But in general nobody really knows. I never been in a May to December relationship but I have been attracted to younger females more than once in my life so the thought has enter my mind. This is why I been watching your videos trying to gain some type of insight.
I don't approve of that. When I speak of younger people for me they would have to be 20 years old and up which is an adult by the law not a kid which you are referring too.
My dad is 30 years older than my step mom. Your guys' videos made me think a lot about it. I was against it ever since they got married, but you've made me think it through. The age gap is fine. I'm glad he's finally happy.
I'll just hop in an out for a moment to say hey, don't forget about the possibility of adoption! Too many kids are suffering without parents, being bounced from foster home to foster home. All people, regardless of relationship situation, should consider adoption.
One of my close friend had a father that was 60 (her mother was 41) when she was born. He died of natural causes at 72 when she was 12. He had mobility and joint issues and was easily injured, and wasn't able to engage with her the same as a 30 year old dad. I would never call it selfish persay, but it's definitely not optimal.
For everyone bitching about an age gap couple having a child, I think there are far worse scenarios for the child than to be born to age gap parents. Take these examples: a pregnant teenager with no support from the childs father, a woman who has a baby from an abusive/alcoholic husband or vice versa, a couple who are in third world poverty and give birth, a couple who passes down mental or physical disabilities to the child knowingly, a couple who dont have a solid relationship and have only known each other for a year, a couple who are into drugs and are on the streets, a woman who thinks having a child will keep her husband from leaving her and she wants to trap him...I wouldnt mind being born to an age gap couple granted all these other alternatives.
My mother was 27 when she had me and my dad was 60. 5 years later my parents got divorced and my mom did not want to take care of me or my sister- so the court gave us to out dad. My dad was much older, diabetic and walked with a cane- he could not do any activities with us. But he did work as a university professor- so he was qquite busy with that. When I was 19- my dad had so many health issues- he had to go into a nursing home and all the money my dad had made had to go towards that and that left no money for me or my sister for groceries even. I was also supposed to have money in savings for school and my mother stole all that from me and my sister and spent it. Well, that is my lovely story.
My mom was 28 and my dad was 53 when I was born. But my mom hurt her back and got surgery, so she could t do much without any pain. But my dad couldn't do stuff either with me, because he was "growing old" as he told me. It was hard for me, especially when other kids would play with their parents. They decided not to have another child because they didn't want to put another being into a situation like mine. So now I have nobody really to hang out with because none of the kids at my school want to be friends with me... All I do is lay around being fat and lazy, and I hate myself because of it. I'm currently 16, and it's pretty hard for me haha. :(
I am a daughter of a 29 year gap relationship. My dad was 60 when my sisters were born and 62 when I was born. I had 5 fortunate years with my father until he got diagnosed with Alzheimers. He died when I was 11. To be honest, to my opinion for my mother and father to have children while my dad was so much older was selfish of them. Of course, if they hadn't had children anymore I wouldn't even be alive and obviously I'm glad they did have me, but I don't encourage having children when either one of or both the parents are above average old, merely for the reason that it is so so hard for a child to loose their parent, especially when they are still young.
My dad is married to a woman 30+ years older than him. I thought it was weird at first but now I just see how much he really loves her. If you love him & he loves you go for it! Who cares what others think as long as you're happy.
If my dad was 60 when I was born, he would have been too old to have created many of the memories we have together. The average of death for a man is ~78. This would mean that it's unlikely for a child born when his father is 60 to have that father in his life for more than 20 years. That just isn't cool. I say up until 50 having a child is okay, but you guys probably shouldn't.
beckie2795 Whoa Beckie. I thought that we were both here having a good time, speaking our opinions, enjoying each other's company. Then you come at me calling me ugly and dumb. Like, what the hell? You were supposed to be the love of my life. I know you don't get as many likes on Instagram as you would like to, Beckie. But I was always there for you. Gazing into those chocolate eyes, framed by perfectly sculpted brows, feeling like you can see right into my soul and love me for the old, wrinkled, liverspotted, sex machine that I am. I remember thinking about how much it warmed my heart to see how much you love Katy and Dante. It make me feel like one day you would make a great mother to our many children. But now you're telling me that you don't feel that way anymore, and that's fine, Beckie. I get it. I'm not old enough for you. So how about you just march your whore ass to old folks home and find a man who can please you, because you, Beckie Rouleau, have officially lost the best man you will ever meet.
beckie2795 Beckie? Where are you, my sweet, but slightly wilted, flower? I take back everything I said. I know you're young, but we can make this work. You don't mean what you said, you're just a young woman, still blossoming. Please message me, my pungent rose.
Only because you asked, I'm telling you this. As a child born of older parents, I think it is a very very selfish decision of yours to start having kids +40. The world where you say nothing matters is idealistic, it doesn't exist. You may make it work because you're older and plain lucky, but your child will care and your child will always be affected.However I'm not going to try to convince you, because I can clearly see it'll be of no use. All the best guys and prayers
Anyone can walk outside and get hit by a bus and die no matter what age they are. No one knows when anyone is gonna die therefore no one should judge or say it's selfish to have children at an older age
The point is a lot of times older parents can't care for their children or be there the way younger parents can. Example: If you have a child at 45, by the time the child is 16 and learning to drive or dating or attending prom, you're gonna be 61. You're always gonna be "behind the times", and if you're even older when you have a child, that is frankly very selfish. People naturally have declining health as they get older and if you can't care for your kids because you fell, how are you gonna feel?
Also if there is a large age gap, it's a very bad idea to have children together. The older parent will eventually not be able to parent like the younger person can, and the younger person will resent it. if there's an almost 40 year difference in age like this relationship, there will be issues. maybe not at first but there will be.
Didn't you ever take sex ed? It has been scientifically proven that the older the father, the more the babies' health is at risk. That's just the way the human body works. So, in your case, it COULD be considered selfish, and in my opinion, IS selfish.
My parents are an age gap couple. My dad is almost 60 and my mom is in her early 40s. About 15 years. I am now 15years old. Both parents are still fine, and we live in a happy home.
he is very calm and patient and really listens to you talk and you talk with such a great attitude. great working couple! you guys really balance eachother regardless of the huge age gap, the chemistry is there.
I think as a child of a age gap marriage I have a pretty good say so on the issue, my father is 72 and I just turned 18 I don't think it was fair for my parents to have me since I just started to live my life and now I have to worry about the health/death of my father. Yeah it does depend on the health of the father, but most old men are not fit or body builders. It was selfish of my parents.
+Savage seven they're not an incest relationship. Are you stupid? Incest is when you're with a family member. This is simply an age gap relationship. They aren't related in anyway.
I think all the concerns they're trying to dispute in this video are entirely valid, maybe not in all circumstances, but they are valid. The assumption that the parent might not be around as long is the one I have heard before, and she tried to say accidents can happen, but that is a small percentage of people. It is far more likely that both parents will be around for the child for much longer. Also, accidents are far more likely to occur when you're a senior. My grandfather died because of a fall and that is not an uncommon story. Plus, to say that at least you had the parent for thirty years, well my parents lived with their parents alive for around 50 years. That is a significant difference, and my mother was the youngest of six while both her parents lived an average life span. It's still a devastating loss even with thirty years. The average age of marriage is now older than thirty so it's highly possible that the one parent may not be around to see the other married and with kids. Then towards the middle of the video she said I think the child would rather choose to have a life than no life at all, and just simply in that context the child doesn't choose to have a life, it's born into it whether it "wishes" to be or not. Most people like to stay alive once they are like did she even think about what she was saying? As for health, there are a lot of people over 60 with health issues. The child may grow up trying to keep their parent alive, or deal with something like alzheimer's. The parent might still be able to play with them, but not to the full ability they would have thirty, forty years ago. Pain is a thing as you age. Then, yes kids make fun of everything, but this is something that they can easily point out. It makes the child a very easy target where as with other things as much. Then, I understand that maybe the chances of some genetic issues is still low but when she says 1 in a 100 to 2 in a hundred does she realize that's increasing the chances by 50%. 2 in a hundred is 1 in 50. Overall, I recognize that these are not concerns with every age gap relationship, but I think this video tried to discredit them in all circumstances.
What about children who get raided by their grandparents? And absolutely, you can die any time! My grandfather died of pancreas cancer at 45 years old, when my dad was only 17! Whereas his mom is currently 92 and has doubled her husband's lifespan!
Speaking from personal experience (my dad was 60 when I was born and my mom 35), I would never marry someone who was more than 10 years older than me, or even more than 5 years. It's tough to see your older parent deteriorate. My dad consistently apologizes to me about this. He feels guilty. I feel guilty. It's tough on my mom as well of course. Just some food for thought.
My husband's father was an older father ... Unfortunately he died early on in his life. He wasn't able to do the things that a younger dad could do. My husband was a very active kid playing 3 different sports and his dad just couldn't keep up, neither could his mom. Just saying that this situation does happen. It happened to him. (Avg life expectancy for men in The US is 78)
Ps I lost my father at 16... Losing a father at that age changes a person. It caused extreme heartache. Not something you'd really want your kids to go through. Yes anyone can die at any minute, but the older you are the more likely it is. I'm not trying to hate on you... It's just my own personal experiences have caused me to feel a certain way. Losing my dad made me an entirely different person, and I'm still trying to figure out if that's a positive thing or not. It's almost been 10 years.
Put them through what? A loving family with parents who adore and nurture them? An older parent does not matter. My mom died when I was 22. My parents were in a "normal" age gap relationship. She still died. She wasn't old. Life is going to happen regardless of the age difference of your parents. As long as they are happy, their children are happy and they create a great environment (which a lot of children don't get) then I congratulate them. They are better than a lot of broken families out there.
My parent are only 10 years apart. My dad is 63 my mom is 52. I'm 18 and my youngest brother is 13. What are they putting us through? Having a wonder supporting family? Having a life full of love and happiness?
I hope they read this. I don't see how this could work, he is great looking for his age, but they look terrible together. I'me not trying to be insensitive, but I am 50 and just broke up with my 35 year old gf because even though I truly love her, we are at different places in our lives and I don't have time to invest in a marriage only to have it fail when I'm 65 and have to start over. She is younger than my daughter. He should have more sense than to be in a serious relationship with her. When he starts breaking down, and that will be soon; she will become a caregiver and he a burden. I wish them all the luck in the world, but PLEASE don't have kids.
so you were around 15 as you daughter was born? And you think you can arrogate to decide when it´s the best time period for people to have children?????
Ok dark force, Im gonna go slow as I wonder how well you comprehend. I am 50, not 35. My ex girlfriend is 35. The point I was making is that even at 50 I'm a good bit younger than him, and even my daughter is older than his partner. I just don't see how they will maintain interest in one another. You just like to stir up crap don't you dark force, I was simply making an observation, I don't wish them anything but success.
Thanks for going that slow.....and your salty sarcasm. But the problem is not me comprehending wrong- it´s the context of your text. I have understand well that you are the one who is 50 years old, so please read my text better (or learn to count!?) You are switching between your own story and the producer of this video without even using determining nouns. So save your sarcasm- write better or haven´t you been to school!? To the topic: if you make decisions for your life don´t expect them to be valid and the right choice for every other person on this planet. I see so many scenarios where your example is obsolete. Life goes so rare the straight way....... If you plan a relationship to fail anyway, you seem to have deeper problems- but that´s your own and isn´t (hopefully) the same for as many other. Maybe you should try to be less bitter......just my 2 cents.
Actually, I disagree. I was made fun of for my parents' 31 years age gap difference. Plus, Due to the generational gap my father was super old school and put horrible restrictions on my sister and I such as cutting our hair or wearing jeans :'O
My fiance is 45 and I am 26! Nice channel, I love my guy so much, it's all about embracing your age difference. Nothing is different about our relationship except age and its just a number!
Wonderful advice. Especially about rushing to have children...it was definitely a concern of mine and my guy. There's a 24 year age difference and I'm 18. I was worried about having the convo about kids because I'm just not ready yet but I'm glad I came across this channel. I'm glad I'm not the only one seeing as almost everyone I know looks down on age gap relationships...you both are wonderful, keep doing what you're doing ❤
I think that it's dumb people think an age defines a parent in a way you two made some very good points and people try for so long to have children in certain cases and can't get pregnant until they are older you two make a great couple
As a kid who was born a bit later in her parents lives...(my dad was 50, my mom 35)...yes, sometimes one parent can have health problems that prevent them from being as active as they'd like in their kids' lives. BUT, as is said repeatedly in the video, that can happen to people of any age. And I'm pretty glad my parents had me and my younger sibling rather than deciding that it was too late for kids. 10:58 I have to say, I burst into giggles since that's exactly the kind of thing I might do to my significant other. :)
+Raine Sarita Rucker My mom had me at 40. It was a pleasant surprise but then again some women just take longer to reach menopause. My employer was 60 until her period fully stop. During that time, if you aren't careful you can get pregnant. People mistaken my mother as my grandmother yet they think my dad is my husband. It is really messed up actually because I look very much like him.
I wanted to add my input. Just a little background information, I am 22 and am the child of an "age gap couple". My dad was about 25 years old than my mom. Before I start, I just want to add that I love my parents more than everything and they are two amazing people. But I disagree with you, having children is selfish. It's not just the possibility of losing a parent (father in this case) at an earlier age than normal. When a person gets to a certain age, they want to retire. They want to spend time alone with their spouse and do all the things they love before their time together is over. As soon as I graduated high school my parents "retired" from everything. My dad had already been retired from work for quite a few years, but that was the time they "retired" from child rearing. They were tired with the "city life" and moved 3 hours away into the country. The bought a winter home in the sunshine state, 20 hours away. I was freshly out of high school and living in a hotel the summer before university so I could give my new relationship a shot (we are now engaged, very worth it). Then while I was at school I felt very different. My friends would be leaving to go visit home 1-2 per month and on every holiday. Most of the time I was left thinking, well my parents aren't even in the country so where do I go? I had some serious health issues while in university and at one point lost my drivers license. I had all of these appointments and tests to do, but no one to help get me there. Age gap couples create many issues. In my situation I lost my grandparents at a very young age, I will lose my dad at a relatively young age, I went from having two stay at home parents to absolutely no support at the age of 17, and thus was forced to grow up very quickly. As I said, I love my parents. They are amazing parents. But I would be lying if I said I agreed with their choice. I want a bedroom back home. I want to see my parents. I want my parents involved in my future children's lives. I wouldn't change my parents, and I know many kids have had it a ton harder than me, but the thought has crossed my mind many times that perhaps they just should've spent their time together and not having kids.
I fail to see how that has anything to do with an age gap. Their choice to retire far away from you may be selfish, but it has nothing to do with their age. Many people are ready for a drastic change when their children leave the nest. Not everyone chooses to retire to someplace far away, or wouldn't let their child stay with them at holidays.
+Coco s As another person has posted and stated.. People who are nearing their 60's, 70's, maybe 80's - Those individuals are just in different stages in their lives. In which, I can understand that perspective.
Different perspective sure, but ignoring their child because they are now 18(not sure if that's the right way to put it) has nothing to do with an age difference. I would never ignore my college age kid, and I don't know many that would. We probably wouldn't move, but even if we did he would be more than welcome to join us while he's on vacation. I'd even pay for his plane ticket. My mom is older, but she was always helping and wanting me to come visit when I was in college.
as a child of age gap parents (17 years), I do not feel like I have anything in common with my dad, and thus don't really have a good relationship with him. I'm now turning 18 and he's turning 70. I'm not saying all children will feel the way I do, just a thing to keep in mind. anyway, you do you boo!
My parents had me when my mother was 27 and my father was 67. I have to say, as much as I love my parents, I would never recommend having kids when there's an age gap like my parents'. My father was always the picture of health: worked out five days a week and ate nothing but fruits, veggies, and lean meat (kind of a health nut). Never had a health problem in his life. Two years ago he had a stroke; at his age, something had to give. Now, at nineteen, I'm having to leave university to be there for my senile father in his final year or two. Sure, shit happens no matter what, but I would never recommend having a child knowing without a doubt that you won't be there to see them into adulthood. It's also putting them under constant fear that they'll find their parent dead (I was trained on how to behave under those circumstances when I was about 2). Lastly, yes, kids will get bullied and on top of that, parents won't let their kids play with your kids because they think your family is freakish. Sorry, but based on my personal experience, I think choosing to have kids in an "age gap relationship" is selfish.
My dad was in his mid 40s when my sister and I were born (mom's only 8 years younger). I've been lucky because he is exceptionally fit and always has been. He's nearly 70 now and still going on weeks-long backcountry hiking trips alone and shit. Also, he retired at 52, when I was 10, so I got to have him home all the time as a kid in a way most kids didn't. But it's definitely hard to watch him get older and realize I may not have that many more years with him. But knock on wood, he's healthier than 90% of folks his age. Just hope his years of firefighting and his firefighter lungs don't get him in the end.
45 is not to old to have a kid for a man .men are not in there prime in there 20ts a mans prime is hes 30ts and 40ts he will be fine for a good wail yet x
***** scientific facts are myths sweetie. the bible is a myth. same with santa and zeus. go have deformed kids with a 70 year old man if you want to though
I think it is the couple's own decision & it shouldn't affect those around them. As long as the two people are in a loving & healthy relationship then it DOES NOT matter if they decide to have children or not! & this is slightly unrelated but I like you two as a couple! And I think you two would make great babies together! So Joe, I think it's time to put a ring on her finger! 😉❤
I am in an age gap relationship myself, and the child of two people who were very healthy individuals when I was born. Both the same age. When I was about three years old, my mother left and began to travel the world, and although my father was already out of our lives, both his kidneys began to fail. As a result, my two siblings and I were raised by our grandmother. She was a single grandmother raising three kids and she was about 55 years old. She is still in my life today. I call her all the time and I still go home for Thanksgiving and Christmas. This has taught me that age really doesn't matter. It is how well you take care of yourself and how well you take care of those around you. Although my parents were the same age, they disappeared out of my life faster than the woman who was thirty years older than them. Cherish the time you have with whatever family you have, and know you could have lost them even if they were younger.
I'm sorry, I have to disagree. 1) I am 22, and if I knew that I only had my dad for 10 (give or take) more years, I would be devastated. 2) At this point when the child is 10, he would be in his 70's. That means no memories formed of a young, active father. 3) Not only that, but you are essentially robbing your future grandchildren of a grandpa. 4) Your children will be teased. I'm not saying that they should be teased, but they will be. So now, you have a child with a dad who can't run around with him/her who also won't have a grandparent for their children and will face the death of their parent way earlier than most while also being teased...great. Why not foster?
its not selfish to have a child at an older age. A parent can pass away at anytime, my mom had me at 19 and she passed away at 35. point is it doesnt matter how young/old you are you never know what can happen in life
I would say that most men will not be in very good health after age 75. However having said that, most couples will not still be together for longer than 10 years in any case. So whatever Dad's age is, there is very good chance that he will be pretty much out of the picture while his children are still small. Therefore I don't think that a woman should worry all that much about the father's age. If you want to child with him do it, if not, not.
I totally agree with this. I think you guys are amazing and so brave for facing society and talking about things that are supposed to be kept quiet and are “taboo” in age gap relationships. He looks great for his age! And I’m 21. Definitely one of the better looking older men I’ve seen! Lol. I truly believe that you can love whoever you want. Age is literally a number. When you’re an adult anyway. I understand if you’re 13 talking to a 50 year old. That’s not cool. But when you’re an adult your able to make those decisions and are capable of loving someone. You’re amazing and I support you 100%. Xoxoxo 💜💜💜
Are you kidding? How does one not see that it's selfish to have a baby so late in life. On average people die about 80. Of course there is a chance if anyone dying at any time but if you have a baby at 62 for example it's likely you won't see your babies 10th,12th,15th birthday etc. My partners mam passes away when he was 19, she was only 51 and it's so hard on everyone adults and teens alike, let alone dying when the baby is an actual child. My grandma was 46 when she had her last kid and people thought Grandad was her Grandad and she said ut really hurt her. It's horrible to do that to a child.
Don't listen to anyone who is trying to push negativity. You two are beautiful people and this is your choices, your lives, and although you may have some small struggles, there is beauty in the struggle! Good for you guys! Be happy!
Sofia that's not really true my parents had me in their late 30's and were the same age .. So when I was 20 they were almost 60 and people would always ask if my father was my grand parent you just laugh it off.
My Dad died when I was 17 and it has left me absolutely broken. I think there are so many aspects to age gap couples having children but it scares me personally to know that a child is far more likely to lose a parent at a young age :( obviously you can never say what's round the corner... People die at 40 and people die at 99! It's just obviously more likely the older you are. X
Awesome! my husband is almost 63 and I'm almost 29. It was very difficult at the beggining with my family and we were living in a small town so of course everybody tagged me as a gold digger etc... Talking about this subject, in my personal life I decided not to have children, there are so many things I can still do and children would take lots of my time and second I have no patience whatsoever. I'm happy for you, this takes lots of balls but if you have been on it very far you'll notice you're grown so much as a couple as equal as the love for each other. xoxo
Good luck even getting pregnant The figures about men, age and fertility The average time to pregnancy if a man is under 25 is just over 4.5 months but nearly two years if a man is over 40 (if the woman is under 25). There is a five-fold increase in time to pregnancy if the male partner is aged over 45 years. For couples having IVF, the risk of not having a baby is more than five times higher if the male partner is aged 41 or older. The volume of a man’s semen and sperm motility (the ability of sperm to move towards an egg) decrease continually between the ages of 20 and 80. The risk of miscarriage is twice as high for women whose male partner is aged over 45 than for those whose partners are under 25. Children with fathers aged 40 or older are more than five times as likely to have an autism spectrum disorder than children fathered by men aged under 30.
You guys are complaining and say this is disgusting! I don't think you guys realize how well spoken and mature she is when she speaks. Just by the way she speaks I can tell she is educated! No wonder she finds older men attractive because many men her age category may not be so mature or their life together.
My husband is 19 years older than me. Had our daughter when I was 29 he was 48. Our age difference is no factor. He is great with her. He spends a lot of quality time with her; he knows that he may not be around to see her walk down the aisle or have his grandbabies so he cherishes all the little moments and takes TONS of pics of her. She has 2 sisters in their 30s and 1 that is 8yrs older so if anything happens to the both of us we know she will be well taken care of. I think a lot of younger couples are so much more fast pace and cherish their jobs and money more than actually spending time together. He's been there done that so he can school me on a lot and he knows how to let me teach him new things. We have a lot in common he has a young soul while i have an old soul; he spoils us and we love each other very much; my child has TONS of love and support and is not missing out on anything by her father being 50yrs older than her.
