He Almost Wouldn’t Rent To Amputees...??

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We often hear about why its important not to underestimate people with disabilities or assume that they "can't" do something - but WHY is that an issue, and what does it feel like?
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@KWadeSmith 3 года назад

Next time someone keeps staring at your bonus leg, look them square in the eye and say, "You look nervous/doubtful about this transaction. Is it the nose ring?"

@patrickchambers5999 3 года назад

Perhaps add to that "or is it the earrings?"

@skeetsmcgrew3282 3 года назад

No no, I got it, must be my tattoo

@evafernandezresels3069 3 года назад

sorry, the multi colored hair? you wanna know where I got it done?

@cats7414 3 года назад

This reminds me of being in elementary school when the teachers would say "ok...I need some strong BOYS to move these chairs". As a young female it always pissed me off bc I was a girl and I was strong so I will move those damn chairs lol, but some of my female friends learned they were just expected to be weak :// I'm really sorry you have to deal with ignorant people. It's SO damaging.

@nothanks150 3 года назад

Funny they do this considering women start puberty first so at that age the girls will probs be taller / more developed and more emotionally aware for the most part....

@mrs.schrado7421 3 года назад

My sister works at a grocery store. Occasionally customers want/need help loading items into their cars, especially pet food or ice melt. My sister is 5'1" so the customers would ask for a male to come help them. When she said she could do it they almost always don't believe her...... She can handle those bags better than half the men she's worked with.

@sheleavitt06 2 года назад

I relate to this so much. I basically decided when I was little to ignore the “we need some strong men to move the chairs” thing. I kinda act like I didn’t here the gender part and just put away the darn chairs. And you know what happens when I do that, others join me regardless of gender or age because moving chairs is easy and it gets done quickly with many hands helping…so yeah if you can’t tell gendering what kind of help you need really pisses me off. If something is truly to heavy for me I’ll stop and ask for help but don’t assume because of my gender I “can’t” do it first. I set my limitations not society.

@gorillaau 2 года назад

@@sheleavitt06 Yes, just about everyone can put their own chair away. If someone can't, then there are those multiple who can put away an extra or two. What about those that are packing up to be beneath them? Well the stronger members of the group can grab half a dozen and stack them. I'm thinking of those plastic and metal chairs that will stack, and not board room type chairs.

@saramae8704 3 года назад

This works in the opposite way for those of us with invisible disabilities. Asking for extra help, even using the cart in the store...anything extra garners stares and sneers. Whispers and comments about being lazy can cut through to the bone. It's doubly painful because it leads to more shame being unable to do what I think I should be able to do.

@carlcushmanhybels8159 3 года назад

Yes! I've known I'm lucky my disability has visual cues. I have 2 friends w hard to 'see' neurological disabilities. So many people are snap-judgers and assumers! I need to wear velcro wrap splint braces both hands now and a large ice wrap around my left knee. I usually wear shorts except in coldest weather bc I need to attend my knee to change ice packs. I have a back wrap & ice pk they dont see but the ones they do are enuf. 'Plenty' of pain, and i have been persecuted & tormented for that by the Anti-Med Inquisition, but not since 8/2016. I do have to explain, understandably, what i can and can't do. (I can do lots of stuff, but only for a short time.)

@karens8633 Год назад

I’m on the Autism Spectrum and have no “visible” clues. It wasn’t diagnosed until I was forty! So growing up I was “Lazy”, “Always making excuses” and “cried too much”! I was always in pain and teachers (doctors too) didn’t believe me! 😢

@TruthsHandmaid4444 Год назад

I’m sorry. I also have an invisible illness. I have Chronic Lyme Disease. My agony began at age 9. By 10 I was struggling to walk. Drs said I wanted attention or didn’t want to go to school. I made straight As. That evolved to ‘I must be depressed’, in my early 20s and later ‘must be mentally ill’ and ‘delusional’ by my early 30s. I was 43 before any dr would listen. I’d been bedridden on and off for 3 years. Even after receiving my positive test results, it still gets me NOTHING from ANYONE, not family, not even drs. Noone believes Lyme is very bad or can even be chronic. I live in pain, physical and psychological, and now have neurological issues also. Everyone (even the medical community) has labeled me lazy, crazy, clumsy, and a liar. Hard. This has remained consistent for pretty much my entire life. I have had to learn to make do with little to no medical care as well and even developed PTSD about drs and my own family because they have been so cruel. There are no words to express how hard it is to have an illness no one can see NOR believe. BUT at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what they see OR believe. Does it? The truth still remains. I’ve had to grow into that one. This illness has forced me to address some BIG issues with ppl that just went on so LONG and hurt so damn bad! For the most part, I am alone now, except for a rare few. I am learning to accept that. Someone very dear to me once said, there is no scale on which to weigh another’s pain against our own. All pain hurts. I’ve never forgotten it. I am sorry we have all had to endure such painful things. ((((Gentle Hugs))))

@karaokegirl1313 3 года назад

Discrimination often lives in that gray area where you think "oh maybe I just misunderstood"

@kobaltkween 3 года назад

As a black woman, I can't imagine _not_ having that kind of experience most new places I go. I'd have expected it in that situation, and been surprised if I didn't. I can't imagine not having grown up dealing with that attitude daily from teachers, parents, and peers, regardless of what I'd already proved I could do. That othering and tacit devaluing defined my childhood, with an added bonus of knowing that coming across someone really hateful who wanted to hurt me for existing was always possible. It's novel to hear someone talk about how ostracism and othering on their own effectively discourage people, rather than how they shouldn't stop anyone who "really" wants to do something, even if it's explicit, open, and hostile. I'm also struck by the lack of comments saying, "It was probably just your imagination," and "You should have thicker skin." It's refreshing and gratifying.

@davegoodridge8352 3 года назад

This reminds me of a time way back high school, in the 70’s. I worked around animals my grades were pretty good. But I had a meeting with the school ‘counselor’ and he was wanting to know what my plans were when I graduated in a few months. I dreamed of being a Veterinarian. I even took a trip to Oklahoma State University to tour their Vet school. I had a bad speech impairment but I still pushed on in life. After I told the ‘counselor’ of my desire to go to Veterinary school. He stared at me for a moment then pull out a piece of paper. And told me to watch. He said if I went to work I could make 7-8 thousand dollars a year. He then multiplied that times 4. Then he added up the cost of full time college, multiplied by 4. And then he asked which looks better. Owe this much money after 4 years or have this much money in your pocket? I knew Vet school was a 6 year program so I knew numbers would be much more. I remember my face feeling hot and my eyes really begin to tear up. My dream had just died. All because he judged me based on my difficulty with my speech. He thought I was stupid and fit for nothing but manual labor. He folded up that paper and put it in my shirt pocket. And I left. A 5 minute meeting completely changed the direction of my life. I wish I could go back and tell that young guy to tell him to stick it, go to Vet school! That young low self esteem teenager was desperately in need of encouragement. Things turned out well for me, no Vet school, which I always wonder what could have been. I found work and rather good but hard work being a contractor for the Air Force, doing and seeing things I never thought possible. I still feel sorry for that young guy bullied by a school ‘counselor’ who saw no worth in me because I stuttered. He, was so wrong. Sorry this story got a bit long.

@skeetsmcgrew3282 3 года назад

That is pretty awful. I can't imagine how small-minded a person needs to be to think a speech impediment makes you less capable of working with creatures who literally can't talk. I'm glad things worked out for you

@melissaz6778 3 года назад

I was in a similar situation with my school in the early 2000's. I have a passion for cooking (always have, even though I'm a paraplegic and don't have access, I still watch the cooking shows etc). Anyway, I got told not to take Home Ec and to do Business Studies instead because "being disabled, you'll only be a secretary". No offence to secretaries, but this is what was said to me.

@XSemperIdem5 3 года назад

I would say that people like that shouldn't be allowed to work with minors but really, they shouldn't be allowed to work with people at all. Makes me wish I could go tell that sorry excuse for a counselor he should go find another job because he clearly sucks at that one and therefore shouldn't be allowed to tell other what they can or cannot do in life.

@breezy3392 2 года назад

That person was not fit to be a school counselor

@Mangeen 2 года назад

What the hell is this thing with councelors? I've literally never heard a good thing about them (I'm pretty sure we don't have them where I live). Doesn't it sort of defeat the point in letting people decide where they want to go when you have some person making up decisions on the spot? Something tells me that the idea of a single person making decisions about a career that they haven't worked in, and a person they only know from grades and first impressions, isn't a great idea.

@searchfield 3 года назад

I have EDS and use a wheelchair and crutches. My health and mobility vary a lot but people consistently assume that I either can't do *anything* at all or they think I can do *way* more than I can manage. I was waiting for questions but most people never ask, they just see a disability and then assume they know to what level it affects me that day.

@traceyflater 3 года назад

Actually, I think we should make the couch chats a regular thing.

@crystall9522 3 года назад

I don't have a disability but I sort of experience this sort of underestimation often as a female EMT. My partner is also a woman and we hardly ever go a week without a patient telling us that we aren't going to be able to get them into the ambulance, like this isn't our literal job that we do every day. It happens often regularly but was increased by a lot when I was pregnant. Like people think I don't know what I can and cannot do.

@judyguadalupe 3 года назад

I’m Latina. And hearing you describe the experience i relate. So. Much. It is what’s called a micro aggression. It’s not outward “but you’re disabled you can’t do that!” Because that you would be able to talk back to. You’d say you can’t stop me from tryin...you’d have to confront. Micro aggression happens and it’s the looks. The little things. The neighbor being really friendly to the blond blue eyes neighbor kids but being standoffish to your Latino daughter. Micro. The frustrating part of it is that it’s just enough to like you saidQuestion yourself a bit. Sorry that happened to you. And so glad you kicked ass on that snowboard.

@melissaz6778 3 года назад

I was in hospital recently and when I was getting ready to be discharged, I asked the nurse just to hold my wheelchair steady so I could get into it. She didn't believe that that was all she had to do so just as I was about to transfer she let go to try and grab me (people reading this: if you are asked to hold a wheelchair steady, don't let go please?). When she let go, I lost my balance and had to repeat "please just hold my chair for me". She went back to holding my chair, I got in easily and when I was in she kept going on about how good it was that I could do it while I was sitting there thinking I'm not useless and all I needed was that bit of assistance...

@hume6900 3 года назад

You were definitely discriminated against, he just didn’t take it to the ultimate conclusion for what ever reason. From what I understood from your video, this was your first time snowboarding pre or post surgery and I am very proud of you. I don’t think I could stand up even not moving (I have both meat legs) and the fact you could is great. I haven’t even gone tobogganing since I was about 15 and had a nasty accident where I nearly lost about 1/2 of my lower lip and ended up with about 17 stitches in it.

@h_v_2835 3 года назад

It’s nice every time you start watching that you get complimented love that about your channel and I haven’t seen other channels that do it

@h_v_2835 3 года назад

I have been noticed. ⬆️

@RQuinton79 3 года назад

My problem is I have a non-visible disability, so if I ever do succeed, then people think I’m just faking, to the point I fear personal success and growth. Disability, visible or invisible, is a no win situation.

@kerrimcvinney6081 3 года назад

I'm so sorry that's something you have to deal with. Keep your head high and stay strong. I'll keep you in my prayers if that's okay.

@crystald3655 3 года назад

I'm dealing with the same thing.

@jodil1209 3 года назад

I unfortunately understand that too well.

@crayolasun 3 года назад

Yes! Or that I CAN do something I know I just can't and thus don't get any help with it and I'm left in the wind. There really is no win.

@crystald3655 3 года назад

@@crayolasun Same, I'm often told I can somehow magically do things that I know I can not do. I've stopped trying to please everyone else and focused on keeping myself safe and healthy which regularly pisses people off, but I'm past the point of caring as I'm tired of ending up even worse off.

@erikherinek 3 года назад

Can we all take a moment and appreciate Jo's sweater? Like dang it looks so warm and cozy on you I love how you look in it! So adorable ♥

@FootlessJo 3 года назад

Awww shucks!! Thank you!! Also...it is most definitely warm and extra cozy!

@brendamcleod4172 3 года назад

I was thinking the same thing! And apparently there pajamas?

@XSemperIdem5 3 года назад

@@brendamcleod4172 I need those pajamas. I love cozy pajamas.

@AliciaGuitar 2 года назад

My first beach trip after my wheelchair was the opposite experience. I thought i couldnt do anything, but the beach cafe folks encouraged me to use their beach wheelchair and get in the water. What a difference! I had a great vacation. So glad the cafe folks were supportive.

@MichiruEll 3 года назад

At that point, I feel like it would have been better for him to ask how snowboarding works for amputees rather than looking weirdly and assuming.

@skeetsmcgrew3282 3 года назад

Agreed. Its not like you cant see her obviously metal and carbon fiber leg right there. Just be like, cool dude, does that thing make it hard to balance? Something like that.

@sophiebach2834 3 года назад

I thought this was about renting an apartment and assumed he didnt want your prosthetic foot to scratch up the hardwood floors 😅

@Dungeonfreak 3 года назад

Same

@AAnnii000077 3 года назад

I often have the opposite problem, I have autism but I look totally normal and people expect things of me and cannot understand why I'm not able to do those things, people often assume that if they can do something specific, everyone can. But if you tell them you have a disability, they assume you can't do anything. And then you risk having your freedom taken away and people start making decisions for you

@sgkingly8392 3 года назад

I have learning disabilities so they are hidden and for me the exact opposite happens. Teachers often assume that i can do something (they do know about it) when i cant

@anneharrison1849 3 года назад

Knowing what the US is like I suspect a lot of it came down to liability concerns and then not being comfortable being up front about. He definitely treated you badly, but it feels like that's on top something that as a manager he would have genuine concern about and he didn't handle that well.

@ambrosealaric4039 3 года назад

I know how that made you feel (sure maybe not the exact way) but I have felt that way for most of my life growing up with Cerebral Palsy that affects my legs and thus makes me have to walk with crutches and occasionally a wheelchair. All of my teachers at school (more specifically my gym teachers) would always try to tell me what I can and cannot do just because I have a physical disability.

@swimgirl24 3 года назад

No, he was definitely judging you. Luckily he still rented to you but that situation was very awkward. I also would’ve felt bad leaving the store and would never go to that location again. Thank you for sharing your experience!

@gloweye 2 года назад

My mom used to be in a wheelchair for a few years. Even when I was like 16 and pushing her (with an expression an uncharitable person would expect from a 16 year old pushing his mother's wheelchair), and people often still focused on talking to me instead. Though often I hardly noticed, and it was my mother replying anyway. I can't even rationally comprehend why being in a wheelchair would somehow make you less able to talk.

@thebatcatjulia860 3 года назад

This happens to me a lot being a double above-the-knee amputee. I've been an amputee since I was 2 and all throughout my childhood I've had people treat me or tell me that I can't do things. As. Akid it was really confusing because I didn't understand why adults wouldn't let me do stuff other classmates were doing (fortunately my mum always taught against it so most of the time I did get to do stuff like rock climbing in the end, and I was really good!)

@melissacoolen9748 3 года назад

You were 100% judged and discriminated against. I wonder if the "manager" was worried about liability ... I've never worked in the retail management industry but I did work in the food service management industry and in that case for instance alcohol service serving someone visibly drunk can make you liable. I've overheard someone say "I've had a little reaction to selfish before but I'm going to try the lobster" which also made me concerned about liability. This isn't excusing the behavior, just my hypothesis on what happened.

@Phil-cp3qp 3 года назад

This was also my first thought.

@raeandringa7260 Год назад

In my industry you need your own liability insurance, separate from your employer. This story SUCKS, but unfortunately there's a lot of stupid, unfair, factors that aren't up to workers.

@darkiee69 3 года назад

Could it be that he was worried about getting sued if his equipment was part of damaging your prosthesis? Or thinking about how the boot would fit your non meat leg since you don't have a calf on that leg, and he was afraid to ask question in case it made you feel uncomfortable and might sue for discrimination. If you encounter similar situations just go with "- Do you have any questions for me? I've seen that you've been looking."

@FootlessJo 3 года назад

I actually think that would be a fantastic way to handle future situations! I realized after filming that I should have clarified that it was totally possible he was just curious & uncomfortable, or had real concerns and didn't know how to bring them up with me. I like your approach!

@brendamcleod4172 3 года назад

At least that would have clarified whether he had a legitimate question or concern or was just a jerk.

@Melissa-cl2rf 3 года назад

I see that as the persistent issue with being in a marginalized group -- not that EVERYONE treats you differently because of it, but that you always have that question in the back of your head of "IS it because I'm disabled?" That uncertainty, and constant questioning with potentially every interaction, is exhausting.

@hpekristiansen 3 года назад

I may say: "Is this really for you!!?" but I would be thinking "Holy crap, she is really tough being able to do this"

@natalieread789 3 года назад

It doesn’t excuse his behavior, but maybe he’d never seen an amputee coming in to snowboard so he was a bit confused..Hopefully next time he sees that he will be more understanding because of you!

@nothanks150 3 года назад

He was definitely judging her, sadly tho I imagine if Jo was a man who’d lost their foot, the guy would of presumed war hero or something equally dramatic and would of treated her differently. No doubt.

@greg777 3 года назад

Jo, next time just tell the guy that it is just a flesh wound, no big deal and laugh. At least that's what I'm doing.

@madeleinewalker838 3 года назад

Wow. I watch monte python for the first time a couple weeks ago and I’m like 🤦‍♀️🤣

@missmoxie9188 2 года назад

Tis but a scratch

@gorillaau 2 года назад

@@madeleinewalker838 Will it grow back? I love watching Monty Python.

@timothycarper8029 3 года назад

As someone who has two disables; I have dealt with this most of my life. I enjoy target shooting, I had a opportunity to shoot a black powder rifle, and was asked by two people who have known me for a while if I could do it. My nephew was standing there almost laughing out loud

@mariabonokollie9769 Год назад

I love what you said in this video! As a person with several disabilities, I often feel like people underestimate me or don't believe me. Feeling less a person is a terrible feeling and often I want to scream I have bachelor's degree and capable but struggle. Blantly being ignored and being things that aren't just eats away at you

@rjackson2569 3 года назад

Jo you are my hero. I have a family member that just had a amputation and your videos give me the ability to approach her with a positive attitude and strength.

@lgrantnelson2863 2 года назад

Reminds me of when I went to visit my brother in Denver. I had just got there and wanted to go roller skating at the rink down the street. My sister in-law told me not to go. I would would get altitude sickness and die. As you said, you know your capabilities. I told her I knew mine. I came back alive.

@jetleg60 11 месяцев назад

Jo, you have totally expressed how a friend of mine has started to make me feel, less than. I have taken a step back from that friendship. Instead, hanging out with good friends is just fun.

@russellstare6610 3 года назад

When you returned the gear you should have left your leg in the snowsuit and handed it to him... "dang, that's a tough sport."

@evencuriouser1577 3 года назад

Wait, we’re twinning! Nice PJs :) I got a similar reaction buying dance shoes, but I’m sure weight and disability were causing their reaction. Well, 5 years later, dance is a big part of slowing my loss of motor control and I have fabulous custom tap shoes.

@RSW6666 3 года назад

I have long hair and a big beard, also 6'3" and wear a 3-4XL shirt. I have may hobbies. One is sewing my own Medieval style clothes for a historical recreation society (SCA). One time I went to a fabric store searching for a trim for a tunic I was making. I went straight to the counter and politely asked about the trim. The owner freaked out and ordered me to leave. He probably thought I was some biker who was going to rob the place and beat him up, I guess. Granted I was twice his mass, but I had been respectful and even called him "Sir" so I still to this day do not under stand his reaction. This was pre-Yelp, but I told every one I knew about this. A few years later I was driving by and the shop was closed. Karma!

@firegirlh2o 3 года назад

Love SCA!! Too bad for that store!

@laurad3107 3 года назад

Hi Jo Thanks for your video. I'm so sorry that manager treated you like that. He was definitely rude and should've realized how he was coming across to you. As I've said in previous comments, I worked as an Occupational Therapy Assistant in which part of my job was to teach disabled individuals how to become as independent as possible despite their particular challenge. Many times over the years I had been so impressed by what my patients CAN do if just given the opportunity to try! I'm so glad you went snowboarding! You ROCK! Hugs!

@BologneyT 2 года назад

The main thing I can think of in the "manager"'s defense is, maybe he was honestly fearing for your safety. Before the pandemic I watched a video featuring a blind man who said people would stop him from crossing busy streets thinking they were saving him from being hit by a car. They thought he was crossing the street alone because he was alone in the world and needed to get across the street, not crossing the street because he knew how safely to cross one. That man didn't want to discourage people from trying to save people that appeared to be in danger, so he didn't want to say those people were bad. Just that people needed to learn. If you had rented that equipment and then something really bad had happened to you and it ended up on the news, then there might be crowds of people on the internet and wherever calling him corrupt for renting equipment to someone who they all assumed "obviously" should not have been rented to and yelling demanding punishment and changing laws to prevent stores from renting equipment to people who "clearly don't look like they can handle it" as a knee jerk reaction, without thinking about things such as your experience and how bad such a change could be. Even though laws probably would not change in such an event, people would still want him charged with a crime if something bad happened to you. He might have worried that if you died on the mountain or something awful like that that that would be on his conscience, and his criminal record. Fearing liability, he may have been trying to figure out how to avoid a lawsuit for discrimination for not renting to you while also avoiding a potential one later for renting to a person he didn't think he should be renting to.

@toastandbutterrr 3 года назад

I love your videos because I can just listen. It’s night for me (might be for you too) so I’m a bit tired after “school” and I can’t be bothered to actually watch something, so it’s nice I can just sit and listen to you and chill ❤️✨

@francescaturrinelli7708 3 года назад

I know this isn’t the same thing, but this reminds me of my experience as a young woman who skis. I’m (not to toot my own horn) an expert skier and have often been given dangerous equipment for my weight, height, and ski level because they underestimated my ability. One time I went into a rental shop, and when we got to the part where they were adjusting my din setting, they didn’t believe what info I put in, and decided to lower my weight and ability level in their system in order to give me a din setting of 5 instead of 8, which is super dangerous. I could pop out of my skis practically by stepping in them. So I went back to the shop and asked them to adjust it, and the person there yelled at me for apparently not knowing all my info, when another employee actually altered it. Again, I understand that this is totally not the same as your experience but I wanted to share it in case any young female skiers could relate to it :)

@juanfootjohn2125 2 года назад

I just love your iron will. Again you rock sister! I joined the ranks today I became B.K.A today I`m just laying here starting to heal. I have been watching all your vids. for days now they have been so helpful Thank you so much Juan foot John

@KaylaNatalie 3 года назад

That was definitely discrimination. That is not okay to assume that someone with a disability of any kind CANT do something because they’re disabled.. I’m sorry you had to endure that.

@antoniafeichtinger6064 3 года назад

Thank you for this video! Being Born disabled, I find myself trying to overcompensate showing people that I actually can do things. Because i have been doubted my whole life, i kind of want to prove to people that My disability doesn‘t limit me. But the things is: It does. And accepting that you cant do something and you need help kind of feels like a loss. So Thank you for your words, they made me feel less alone with this. Hugs and kisses

@carebear5343 2 года назад

I was asked that too. Not just by one person but repeatedly by a few people. I ended up crying and was told that they had to ban some people from renting due to repeatedly damaging equipment. They men spend the day begging people to rent for them. I don't know if that was true or not but it got me to stop crying.

@marradka2584 5 месяцев назад

I’m transgender, and something I experience when people start acting strange towards me, is this fear of being excluded. It never really happened, but sometimes the stress of worrying about it can get so bad that I avoid doing certain things just to prevent the humiliation and awkwardness of being rejected in this way. Once I went to this women’s retreat with several of my friends. And after I got there. When I was by myself, this woman confronted me and aggressively said “why are you here?” (But she said it with bad words). I immediately was able to pick up on that she was doing this because I’m transgender. I said many times “I came with so and so and so and so” (some of my friends were well known in this community). I really think that if my friends weren’t with me that I would have been asked to leave. And this was after buying a ticket and travelling several states. I’ve never actually been kicked out anywhere, but I have heard stories about it, and so I am nervous about it a lot. And, for something like this, I probably wouldn’t have gone without my friends

@journaledbyjessica7300 3 года назад

Unfortunately we are better at reading people than we think. Trust you instincts. Thank you for spotlighting this topic. Very well said!

@leightons5770 3 года назад

I totally understand this discrimination I have a disability and mine isn’t visible and so people question why I can’t do something why I can’t do what everyone else is doing when there is nothing visibly wrong with me to the public.

@allyahinblack 2 года назад

as a woman working in all male teams for 10+ years, I can totally relate. As a woman amator triathlete who is overwieght, I can also relate. People always seem to assume that I cannot: operate certain tools, lift certain things, handle a certain amount of effort and it does make me question my own abilities sometimes. It also makes me very afraid to fail because I don't want to prove them right. The good part is that most of the time I don't fail, I prove them wrong. I imagine it is the same in your case.

@kimmacdonald7527 Год назад

Thanks for sharing this Jo, gives us ablebodied people a perspective from your side.

@nijapyrosphere4145 2 года назад

One of the reasons why I chose to study a language at uni (it was part of this scheme that my uni does called "language for all" - basically meaning I get to learn a language for a year alongside my studies for free) was because multiple people made a comment that I probably shouldn't do it because I am deaf. So I immediately signed up to do it just as a power move. I did rather well with it as well

@pernillemakholm645 Год назад

You know, I’m such a huge believer in conversation and communication. And open honest curiosity. I imagine a whole other scene, where the store guy shows genuine interest and says: “ You know, I’ve never seen an artificial limb up close before. That’s so cool, I’m totally fascinated. And it’s probably just poor imagination on my part, but can you actually snowboard on one of those? I mean how?!” And Jo would have had the chance to reply: “I don’t know yet, but I’m gonna find out - that’s why I’m here needing your help. I know how my leg works for walking, running, [listing anywhere between 5 and 20 other activities], but snowboarding is a first for me.” And none of the present people would have to suspect or wonder about the other one’s intentions. ❤️ Or even if the guy did not have the courage to ask - you could still tell him in the same way: “You are wondering how this is going to work and if I can do this. I know I can do 20 other sports, and I’ll tell you about this one when I come back. “ 😉 I understand your feelings though. Totally. I would have felt like sort of suspect too. And it takes a lot to put oneself above that and take the first step towards communicating. Particularly if you get this treatment all the time. It is exhausting to have to explain yourself all the time. 🙄 Love on you, Girl and Thanks for sharing and educating all of your viewers. You are making a difference in how we see and treat each other.

@amandataylor3504 3 года назад

I teach kids who are blind and/or visually impaired. We run into this so much, people doubting what our kids can do. Or alternatively, being amazed when they do the simplest things. It drives me insane, either way. I'm sorry that this happened. But I get your frustration from having watched it with my students for the last 9 years.

@nairbvel 3 года назад

The first time I ever saw the nation's capital (and I've been living in the MD 'burbs since 1970) was back in 1965, shortly after being diagnosed with Legg Calvé Perthes Syndrome -- the interstitial fluid in my left hip essentially "went away" leaving the bone to grind through the cartilage in my hip joint and then into the bone itself. The result was that the first time I ever played tourist anywhere, I was wearing a massive leather & steel brace designed to immobilize the affected hip & leg. It fastened around my waist, had thick metal strips running down either side of the leg with leather-covered metal rings holding them together, and a big attached boot at the bottom... plus what I refer to as a "Frankenstein shoe" on my right foot to keep me on an even keep while standing. I remember a lot of good things about that trip... but I also remember the expressions on people's faces when they thought I wasn't looking, and the occasional blatant stare (usually followed by a turning away). There were comments that I overheard, most pitying me and almost all wondering about how I could possibly walk, how I could possibly interact with other kids, how I could pretty much anything in a "normal" manner, and more than a few musings about my mental capacity since I was "abnormal" in appearance. Being different -- especially when the difference is obvious from a distance -- and being in the role of The Other, is damned hard (I'm trying to be polite). People make assumptions not only of physical capabilities, but also cognitive and emotional capabilities, and it's my hope that influencers like you can truly exert influence on society at large to educate "regular" people that there really is no such thing as a standard-issue human being and that differences in appearance are not automatically a sign of deficiency, or lack of capability... or a reason to stare, tease, or be frightened. (Postscript... Over the years my body began to compensate, and aside from sucking at most sports I'm pretty much a "normal" guy these days.)

@MissCandyTattoo 3 года назад

Nobody gets to tell you how you feel about their behaviour towards you. You have the right to feel however you want.

@tedthurgate 2 года назад

Late to the party here, but this just popped up on my youtube. That guy must be new to the industry. I work at a ski hill. Adaptive skiing and boarding is a huge thing. Our ski school has specialized instructors who work with adaptive athletes. They are trained in how to teach people who have to adapt techniques to work with that person's body difference. Our rental has specialized equipment and those working there know how to fit and set up equipment for people with differences and when someone needs specialized equipment vs standard equipment maybe set up slightly differently. We have blind skiers, we have amputee boarders, we have paralyzed skiers, etc. It is so common and apart of the industry that it has the language I have been using: adaptive skier, adaptive boarder, adaptive athlete (though I don't like that last term because it implies the person is an athlete and not just a regular Jo going out as a beginner)

@6Fiona6_P_6 3 года назад

And this doesn’t only apply to say people with a Disability. This also happens with Elderly People say of 55 years and above when it comes to finding a job. And, also dare I say it this, people with different ethic backgrounds...... All this Discrimination has to Stop. It doesn’t serve any of us well or at all. And it deprives all of us. In fact it makes all of us less.... And when it comes to what happened to You Jo -: I don’t know if the following phrase is used in America but it’s sometimes said here in Australia. In fact there was a campaign about it here in my state of New South Wales. It’s “DON’T Dis My Ability”.......... ⚛️☮️ 🦿 🌏

@evafernandezresels3069 3 года назад

Don't underestimate yourself Jo! Dude was definitely judging...and honestly?? What kind of rock has he been living under?? Not only are the paralmpics actually a big thing, we're in 2021, people of all walks of life do all kinds of things.. and as someone who worked in retail, I can safely say, that manager guy needs a lot of training in socializing and working with people. It's not his place to judge what you can or can not do (you or anyone else), his only job is to give you the right gear for the sport/activity you describe/are going to do. It is actual discrimination, and...please, don't go ever back to that store if you can avoid it.. they don't deserve your business there. You deserve to be treated well, no matter where you are or how many meat limbs you have. You totally rocked the snowboarding!!

@JustineMc92 3 года назад

This happened so much when I was walking with my cane and I told people I was going to do a 5k. When I would tell people they would just tell me that it was a big ambition or a nice dream to have and then on race weekend everyone just thought I was there supporting my parents who were running the 1/2 marathon and then when they found out I was doing a race or saw me at the start line, the looks I got were almost ones of 'what are you doing here?'

@lesliesteele3926 3 года назад

I can't recall her name, but there is an Olympic gold medalist for snowboarding, with both legs amputated below the knee. She was on Dancing with the Stars a few years ago. Clearly, this guy has no idea how awesome she is ...to even think of looking at you that way.

@51623allissa 3 года назад

Oh my goodness! You cracked me up when you said you ran out of the will to get ready after doing your face!!!🤣 I know that feeling well!!! #YouHaveMadeMyDay!!!! 🤣

@shawndie1275 2 года назад

I think it is important, that people don't expect things from you, that they believe you can do. The more they should give you the space and best of all the support you need in order to do the things you can and want to do. :)

@isabellecasier5702 2 года назад

That storry is actally horible. Who is he to assume you can not do it ! My dad used to say "there are no limitztions except the ones you set on yourself" I never used the excuse for being a girl when I climbed the tree or ducked my bully, thanks dad for not saying I can not do it because I am a girl. It counts for all of us, boys, girl, disabled or whatever.

@maya-mercury 3 года назад

❤️💪 Your so strong and beautiful....you really help me get through life knowing their are other people out there who struggle ❤️

@lauraharmon2721 Год назад

Words from.a.life.long disabled person...he definitely was thinking what you think he was and he definitely was worried that if you got hurt he would get sued.. it's pretty amazing he didn't actually say.. but everything you felt. I get it.

@HParadoxa 3 года назад

Thanks for this video ! For me there's also the issue is that spontaneousness is being taken away from us. The other day si had to go the post office to do a thing. And I know abled would have been like "Hey I need to go to the post office today" and do it, and it's done, nothing to think about. But I can't do that. I have disbaility stuff to handle (will my mobility be good enough to go), but also every other person freaking up about me being disabled : Will the bus driver let me in ? Will people endenger me by trying to help me get in or out of the bus even if I don't need to ? Will the people working at the post office let me do my thing ? Wording about this constantly is exhausting and takes time. And it's not being overly self-conscious. In that example, I did get asked 5 times if I needed help, wihc I obviously didn't and I said so. It was genuine and well meaning attention, but it's still unwanted and unessary atention. And it's specially difficult as an autistic mobility aid user because people are constantly interacting with me because they think I need help, but it is distressing because I'm autistic and I need to be alone and in a calm space to do thing, even if I do them slowly. People underestimating me and my ability makes it so I can never go out of my house spontaneously and just do the things I want, I will almost always be interrupted by people treating me like an urgent unconofortable event, even well-meaningly, and it's exhausting.

@lowercherty 3 года назад

He did ultimately rent to you. Maybe since the equipment came back without some disaster happening he will be more comfortable doing it in the future. A learning experience. I love all the pictures at Hanger's offices showing amputees doing extrordinary things. I'm too old and decrepit to do any of those things but it's still inspiring to see them. It gives me a feeling that it's going to be OK.

@bypasstoaleanerlynn8920 3 года назад

Wait until you become a senior citizen and say I walked 5 miles, etc and people think that is so remarkable.

@soulmechanics7946 3 года назад

"Experience is made of implications." -Me It is important for people to be aware of and deliberate with what their expressions imply. The brain does not speak human. It registers associative and implicative values in play.

@soulmechanics7946 3 года назад

You are seeing this. You are one of ours Madam. 😎

@patklemmensen1694 3 года назад

thinking about it, I can only think of a few activities that you might have trouble with: ice (or in-line) skating, operating a motorcycle (most of them get the rider's right foot involved in braking), and driving something with a manual transmission (yes, you still have your 'clutch foot', but most passenger-vehicle engines lack the low-RPM torque to get a vehicle moving)... note that I didn't say you COULDN'T do these things, but they might give you trouble...

@anthonyberube946 3 года назад

I hope that what you saw wasn't what you think and instead was his amazement in your courage and determination to try something new despite your physical limitation

@MusikCassette 2 года назад

their is some change that there were safty concerns. In skiing the renters have to adjust the geer to the customer. I would understand if he felt out of his debt.

@mike140298 3 года назад

If I had to keep track of what people with certain disabilities cab/cannot/might not be able to do, I'd have no memory left for anything else... At best I'd probably ask you if you needed special equipment.

@The_Simstress 3 года назад

Love how you share what you are learning about yourself and your strength. 💕 Thank you!

@donnasmith9756 Год назад

A landlord once told me he would not have rented to me if he had known I was “that disabled “.😕

@CloudslnMyCoffee 2 года назад

Even if he was worried about liablity, it is still incredibly vile

@ninademci1500 Год назад

Footless Jo, since you didn’t your disability didn’t “‘grow up’ with you”, you didn’t have the tools to handle this manager. I’ve had my disability since I was born. So, I’ve learned how to handle people. I took a badminton class in college. When I walked, err rolled, into the gym, the teacher said, “In the 25 years I’ve taught this class, I never taught anyone in a wheelchair”. I replied, “I guess I broke your record then”.

@st1ng-r4y 3 года назад

I'm not sure what the laws are like in America, but in Australia if you sell someone something and have knowledge that they're going to misuse it in a way that could lead to injury or worse, you can be in big trouble legally. For example, in order to legally sell alcohol you have to go through heaps of training, because selling someone alcohol who's already clearly intoxicated incurs a huge fine. It's to prevent alcohol poisoning and other accidents from occuring. With extreme sports places, even just renting equipment I imagine there's a lot of legal liability risks. So rather than being worried about you breaking equipment/misusing it, it's possible he was worried more about your safety, and if he would be legally liable if you were injured or something after he knowingly rented you equipment which wasn't designed to account for use with prosthetic limbs. Obviously even if this was the case, it wasn't cool the way he handled it. Openly staring but not being upfront about any concerns is extremely rude. But he may also have been worried about offending you by directly mentioning it, idk. Sorry you had to experience this! This is the kind of reason I don't normally tell people about my disabilities if I can avoid it. When I tell people I have ADHD they take me way less seriously, and if I told my job I had scoliosis and a connective tissue disorder which could make injury more likely, I may just not be allowed to work anymore due to safety concerns, so I don't. Ironically if they were aware of it I'd probably be much safer, being able to take preventative measures like braces etc. But it's too much of a risk imo, it'd be better if it was left more up to the disabled person but I guess there is also that element of 'abled saviour' trying to protect you from possible 'destructive' behaviour rather than trusting you to know your own limits.

@CharGC123 3 года назад

People are assholes and will think what they want... but it does not alter your worth, unless you let it. It ain't easy, I know.

@dwightemery5694 3 года назад

Happens where I am all the time, and I ignore them and do my things and "people " are just flat out ignorant. Such is life, never changes.... ignorance.

@catherinel7665 3 года назад

tbh i would be excited for a amputee/disabled person to be snowboarding despite the asumputions that they cant and I would find it inspiring. Even if I was sceptical about whether or not they could it isn't anyones place to judge if someone is capable or not definitly not me someone who isnt disabled I just find it quite awful that people make snap judements like that and wouldn't want that to happen to me or anyone for that matter

@rodeorose6299 3 года назад

Ooo couch talk

@The_Vanished 3 года назад

I know you're very capable, I would never question that

@christinadoherty3212 3 года назад

It feels like we can never win. Luckily I had a thick skin before I ever started vlogging 😂 If you are “too sick” you are “Over the Top” or “faking for attention.” On a good day? “She must be faking.” Same with mobility devices. Wheelchair or walker? “Getting worse” or “faking it” no aide? “See, shes fine” or “Oh, you are getting better!” 🤦🏻‍♀️

@mrsslibby6857 3 года назад

My family did this to me not because of any disability but because my mother was the black sheep of the family. My whole life I could tell they were waiting to see if I would turn out like her or not. Because of this, every time I did mess up even in really small ways it felt like I was proving them right. It also felt like I could never really prove them wrong because I could still screw up eventually. Eventually I did just learn to stop trying because what's the point if no one believes in you and nothing you do is good enough anyway. I know this is totally different from the type of discrimination that physically disabled people experience but a lot of what you said resonated with me.

@NorseButterfly 3 года назад

Ugh, ableds🤦‍♀️... I can't tell you how many times I get "the look" when I park in a disabled parking spot and get out of my truck. True, I don't "look" disabled with the layers of clothes and a mask on, or if I'm driving myself. But after 5 minutes of being upright, my POTS kicks into overdrive, sending my heartrate up to the triple digits, which makes me shake, light headed, and unsteady. Another 5 minutes, my neck can't handle any more as the degeneration is pinching my spinal cord, thus giving me a horrendous headache. Ten more minutes upright, my degenerating spine sends signals of pain shooting to every nerve in my body, and then I remember that I need to call to get my atheistic l wheelchair fitting started. By the time I get back to my truck, it's obvious there's a problem. Yes, I have 2 separate heart diseases that are being affected by POTS, yes, I have osteoarthritis that is being affected by Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, and yes, that headache is emphasized by Chiari Malformation. None are visible... not even the newly diagnosed Colitis that I've suffered with since I was a baby. But here's the thing, I don't care what abled people think any more. I haven't got a long time! If I did, my anxiety would take over and I would never leave the house. I've stood up for disabled people long before I became disabled myself..I learned that if you don't stand up for yourself, you'll literally get walked over. Have I ever had an anxiety attack while standing up for myself? Only after, and not in the presence of anyone who would care...I hold it in until I know I'm some place safe and with someone safe. You learn to breathe.. focus... walk away.

@bethanykennedy812 3 года назад

Sounds like he was judging you. But I understand your hesitation. We've all been accused of staring at someone we weren't staring at. Or we were, but because we were trying to read their shirt or figure out why they look familiar.

@cudlalinka 3 года назад

This reminded me of a situation, I once found myself in. I suffer from panic disorder and depression and and at this point I am usually comfortable with sharing this fact. I studied at a grammar school and after that I went to study at a university. But around the time I was graduating from my grammar school, one person looked me dead in the eye and told me that university is not the best idea for me. When I asked why, this person replied that I wouldn´t be able to manage the stress and academic pressure. I was angry, worried and very confused. Someone expected me not to manage something because of my diagnosis. Well, the first semestr at university wasn´t easy and I had some struggles but I never thought of giving up.

@ninosegers 2 года назад

I would say that the desire to keep the gear ok aligns with your safety. Skiing and snowboarding is a dangerous sport there should be oversight who does it. When I took my first lesson (teenager) I was in a group with elderly at the end of the only me and my brother were Left of a group of 15. Nice for me got private lessons. But for the others they didn't understand how dangerous it could be. Yes the shopkeeper should be more considerate and maybe more direct to get a feel for your skills but you could also have done more to reassure that you understand what to do and aren't going to YOLO it.

@jcfreak2007 3 года назад

I know that if she reads the comments she is probably going to start recognizing my comments because I keep relating my hysterectomy at age 30 due to endometriosis to her amputation because the endometriosis was an invisible disability based on the symptoms I was experiencing prior to the hysterectomy but I totally get this because my doctor was very very skeptical about the idea that I was even affected in any way by the endometriosis. After I sent him a 4 page list of my symptoms he finally gave in. 🙄

@karens8633 Год назад

Ah yes, It’s all in our heads! 🙄 We can’t possibly be feeling like that! I felt like Hell for three weeks out of every month! 🤦‍♀️ I had to call in sick to school and work, because I was too weak to stand up at times! Somehow I survived it, not sure how?!

@jcfreak2007 Год назад

@@karens8633 Oof... I feel ya... I don't know how I did it every month before my hysterectomy! I had toddlers and I would frequently change their diapers on the floor instead of the changing table because it just hurt so bad to lift them up there. There were times where I was shopping with my husband and I would just have to stop and hold my breath while gripping the basket for dear life and wait for a cramp to pass before I could keep walking. There was even one night about 8 months before my hysterectomy where I was literally counting the minutes between the peaks of the cramps to make sure that I wasn't in labor because despite the fact that I had taken all of the medicine for pain that I possibly could safely, I was still in so much pain that I was making sure that I wasn't in labor because it was that bad. At the peaks of pain, my vision was blurring and I was nearly in tears.

@carolynhaywood7701 2 года назад

The store manager has obviously never seen the fantastic Para Olympics, he should everyone with equal respect.

@meganmeier2983 3 года назад

Not only were you discriminated against, but you felt bad and lesser because he was infantilizing you - talking down to you like you were a child who couldn't make an informed decision. A lot of people assume that if you have a physical or mobility based disability that you also have a mental and/or intellectual disability as well. I've been talked to like a child and had people be absolutely dumbfounded that I have a master's degree - it's like they think we're babies who can't do anything for ourselves.

@firegirlh2o 3 года назад

First there’s no need to do your hair for us!! You always look amazing!! Second I love this video!! It got me thinking about what my reaction would have been in this situation. If I was the the renting you the gear.

@Archer1182 3 года назад

Your videos are always a high point of my day. I can't even stand on a snowboard let alone be on a hill on one I'm kind of jealous. LoL!

@penultimateh766 3 года назад

I would totally rent you any kind of adventure gear, jet ski, explosives, etc. But I'd draw the line at a carpet shampooer. That would be just too dangerous ;-)

@jeffblack3971 Год назад

I've run into the same situation

@annetteslife 3 года назад

I face that very discrimination daily

@hannahk1306 3 года назад

Maybe he was wondering how the kit would fit on your prosthetic? I've never been snowboarding, but have been skiing and those boots are quite restrictive plus you have to put in quite a bit of force to get the boots to click into the skis (I'd guess there's something similar on snowboards). But he definitely should have addressed that with you if those were his concerns.