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Talk that sis ! I know from personal experience I have cried the while Pacific Ocean and it didn't make him a bit of difference when it's over it's over
Fix yourself. Improve yourself. New hair style, learn how to do your makeup, get your nails done, new style of clothes. How does that song go, I gotta new way of wearing my hair, gotta smile on my face and you didn't put it there (blues song, lol)
I learned that a man will say he wants you, but his actions will say differently. If his words and actions don't line up always listen to his actions. Don't let anyone waste your time.
I had this happen to me last summer. He said he did for a few months, but only took me out on 3 dates and all our communication was texting about menial things. He threw the towel in after he realized he was getting no sex
It's hard for many women to accept that he doesn't want us because we need to be wanted. If we are not wanted, we don't feel desirable or valuable. Not knowing, that our value doesn't come from being wanted by men, but that our value comes from being made in the image of God and being wanted everyday by him.
👋🏾🤙🏾👏🏾Girlfriend You Are So On Point!!!🙄 If Only I could save You Ladies Some Grief! 🤫 Here’s the Best Advice I Ever Got from my Cheating Narcissistic Ex, “Walk Away!” 👋🏾👣Keep It Moving!! & When He realizes What He Lost🤚🏿✌🏾
If he wants you, he will COME and GET YOU. He'll go to all the way Timbuktu to get you. Be the game changer, not the placeholder. Don't prepare a man for another woman.
💯 I’m thankful for a special guy in my life rn at the moment. If a guy doesn’t or isn’t invested in you. U will be extremely confused. 😂 I used to like challenges and wonder why. I realized how important my time is and pull back and kept moving forward. Months afterward , I put myself out there. I met a guy who is transparent through actions and words. We been seeing each other for 4 months and we both taking our time think relationships. Is not forced at all cause we both live in reality instead of fantasy and quick fix.
Give and give until we can't give anymore.Take care of you your mental is worth more if he don't want you it's his loss Sorry your going through this we've all been through this lift your head up wipe your eyes and focus on YOU !!!!
I am going through the same thing. I know he does not truly want me but I just can't completely let go. I am going to watch this video every day if I have to.
I know what you’re feeling but one day things are going to be better. I wasted 10 years doing this and found out I never should have tried to help this lying POS out.
Until we as women start loving ourselves, respecting ourselves, put ourselves first, quit competitng and comparing....it will always be the same narrative. 🙁
@@Mariam-mh5vi Sis that's the truth! You touched my heart with this comment my Dad was not in my life and that rejection from him, caused me to attract Men who is unavailable and noncommittal.
Ladies listen to Mr. Gaskins. I know it hurts, you second guess yourself and wonder if he is just holding back. Sis, it is what it is. If you were given your dream job, in spite of being unqualified, you'd step up to the plate right? Exactly. Choose men who choose you.
It’s really frustrating when men don’t walk the walk. It’s 2021 and it’s disgusting. Everyone should be in prospering marriages. Tired of foolishness. I feel you Tony
Not going to lie. Definitely got to love yourself first. You attract the love you are. Every relationship is a reflection/ mirror to yourself. Work out your own inner issues. You’ll see the love you attract will be different. Repeating the same cycle means your not healing and growing. You can’t blame men. Blame yourself, take responsibility. Women are the prize. Men can’t do what they do if woman don’t have standards and know their self worth and value. When you do, a better man steps up to the plate
I can't blame him. I too was like gosh man he eh want you how many times must Tony say so? They're hearing but not listening. I know our minds work differently, but the writing is on the wall and the sound in the air.
@@jessica.7777 sis..I'm not the one doing it and I've run out of towels to throw in. I always ask God to give him the strength every time I feel he's ready to throw in a towel. I think he did but God caught it and sent it back to him. This is a cross to carry.
Lol that's how my bf is. Every day before he goes to work he needs kisses, hugs, giggles from me. Then when we get home he needs to hold me for awhile. He loves cuddles
My husband and I have been married for 30 wonderful years. He has always wanted and loved me in every way. People who do not know us admire us. I am blessed to be loved by my husband.
Agree that many man don’t want a wife (for the right reasons). I divorced in my twenties and afterwards got engaged twice. Both ex fiancés ended up discarding me for their side piece. It’s extremely hurtful and frustrating, but now thankful that the Holy Spirit was protecting me. There’s a lot of wonderful, beautiful women that just haven’t met The One. Just keep loving yourself and the Lord lovely 🙏
He's just not that into you if: 1. Y'all just aren't on the same page and conversations are like pulling teeth. If he does talk, it's never about y'all and only surface level. 2. He was all about you, but now he always checks his phone for texts and social media while you're together. Phone always on silent and face down or pulled away from your view. 3. Flinches when you touch, pulls away, barely touches you. 4. Takes hours to respond to your texts every time, even though you done seen him always checking it when you're together. 5. His head is on a swivel around other attractive females and may even flirt with them in front of you. 6. Says he's not ready for a relationship. 7. Your gut tells you something is up. You can't put your finger on it, but you have spiritual unrest. He already knows you're not his person but keeps you around for his convenience while you're hurt wondering what went wrong. But You need to see this behavior before you get too invested. If someone takes your presence for granted and treats you less than you deserve, it's because you're not that valuable to them. Don't waste precious time to convince them of your worth. Drop them, pick up your self respect, and go find "YOUR" person, not "A" person.
Okay so I've been talking to this dude I met online. At first we were talking for 3 weeks straight, during that period he would text and call pretty much every day. He stopped talking to me for 2 weeks and then came back, and then we were talking on and off since then. I'm not gonna lie, he would be pretty inconsistent (like he would text for 3 days, then stop for 2 and then repeat the same pattern). I got tired of the inconsistency, but I had trouble blocking him because I liked him. So one day, I told him that we couldn't talk anymore in hopes that he would block me. Which is exactly what he did, he blocked me. Then he unblocked me 5 days later and told me he was in my city (he's from the city I live in but lives out of state currently). So we finally met in person that day and he seemed so excited to see me, he kept hugging me and saying how he didn't want me to leave and he was very protective of me. He tells me that he thinks I'm beautiful inside & out, he thinks I'm sweet & cool, he says he likes me etc. I just don't get it, if he has all these positive things to say about me then why won't he cuff me? I'm 22 and he's 22 as well btw. Also, I never had sex with him (I'm still a virgin) and never gave him money or a place to stay, so he can't be using me for convenience. I just don't get if he thinks I'm all of these great things, why doesn't he make me his girl?
@@melaniebrown1443 I don't know, I don't understand men. Maybe he's not sure he wants a steady relationship with you and is waiting to see if someone better comes along. That would frustrate me because he connects at his convenience. We like a guy then end up lingering in the background feeling exposed waiting for them to pick us and give us security. I've decided to pick myself from now on. To love and value myself will help me see when someone is not treating me likewise. I hope you pick yourself too and realize how much you're worth 💞
@@melaniebrown1443 Honestly love, he sounds like he's not emotionally available and unsure of what he wants. You guys are also really young. Maybe he doesn't think a long distance relationship is practical or realistic. I always go by a person's consistency. If they're inconsistent, I drop them. It will make them want you more, but at that point, you've seen what you needed to see and it's no point in going backwards. In my experience, the best approach is to be direct. Just flat out ask him what he wants, his intentions, and if he's looking for a relationship. Be gentle, but direct. You'd be surprised how much someone tells you about themselves when they feel comfortable with you. Then just listen and BELIEVE them. Unless they give you a reason not to believe them. But really take in what they're saying.. don't try to change them or give them the benefit of the doubt because that person knows themselves better than you. And lastly, I don't know if you all have talked about your v card. I doubt it, but if you have, that could also factor into his uncertainty... having to be your first. That's definitely not who you want. You want someone who is sure about you, values you, and isn't afraid to prove it with their actions. I hope everything works out for you!
Sometimes they're not doing that in some cases its crystal clear they don't want u they can ghost u and some women will continue to reach out in hopes for a different outcome
@@letrice2892 or when a man tells you from the beginning he doesn’t want a relationship before anything happens at that point if the woman still goes with him than get mad when he doesn’t want one than she wasted her own time tbh
Life becomes so much easier when you operate with the standard that any man who truly wants you will prove it with his actions and you don't have to go out of your way to convince him, prove your value and qualities to him, to explain the ABCs of care, respect and affection or push for an apology, flowers, gifts, time together, because otherwise it doesn't even cross his mind. Real love will give a man the instict to love, protect, pursue, cherish and bring a smile on your face and you won't have to draw a map for him.
Honestly the ego takes a hit, but a real strong woman will dust her shoulders off, keep it pushing, drive on with the mission, and level up for herself. No hard feelings and no grudges, all love 💗🌞✨.
It is not a big deal to be "unwanted" by a man. Especially when you realize there are millions of them that just might be a better fit for you. A person telling you and acting like they don't want you, is a great thing! They are giving you permission to make room for the guy for you.
@@j-tenn226 I'm sure you are waiting, I mean it's not like you have a date to go out on, or a husband to take care of, so I'm sure you have nothing but time.🤣🤣🤣🤣
Not true. Men ask women all the time, what are we doing? It’s not about not wanting a person. You could be happy not being committed to a relationship because you’re focused on another goal at the moment. We gotta stop equating our own selfish interest with how someone else should feel about us or force them to make time for us. He could want you but not be in a position to be the man you need at the moment.
Exactly what I needed!! Dude been ghosting me for 2 weeks after he pursued me so hard. I got the I been working tryin to get back on top and seein my kids excuse when I confronted him. I got tired of the inconsistency so he can stay wherever he’s at. 🥴
I thought ghosting was when someone just disappears and you never hear from them ever again? I must be old lol but yeah if he was perusing you very aggressively then I take it he was calling you all the time so much that you didn’t have to call him, he could have backed away because he wanted to see if you liked him back and the fact that he has kids with an s could very well well been keeping him busy for 2 weeks after giving you a lot of his time weeks before that. Now he made plans to go out one or both weekends and y’all did not and he didn’t call you or anything then yeah he’s a flake.
@@ashleycbla that’s the thing I don’t hear from him unless I’m the one to reach out. That’s the last we talked and haven’t physically seen him in a month. No excuse when we live in the same small town. I told him he could be upfront with me and keep it real but he couldn’t even do that.
@@nursebritbrat08 yes, he got to know you and realizes he doesn’t like you enough to turn that interest into an intentional pursuit (continue dating, relationship, etc.). He obviously doesn’t feel he can tell you that.
My son, who is wise beyond his 15 years, caught me crying about my "situation". He said the same exact thing (without saying he doesn't want me) to me. I was so ashamed but he told me not to be, to let it out and continue being the good person that I was because the man that's for me is out here searching for me too! God was talking through my son to me, telling me to be still and know my worth which was more than I've been giving myself because I've been accepting the breadcrumbs. No more, that stops today! Hate that my son seen me like this but glad he sees what type of man to not be.
God must be talking to me through YOU - I just wrote about no more "crumbs" on my FB page a couple of hours ago!! 💗I'm so done NOT taking anymore crumbs from ANYONE in my life!!!! My Dad tells me all of the time, "Sweetie. .. don't take any wooden nickels from anyone."💗 My grandpa would always say, "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is." 💗😉, . . . .and they are BOTH correct.😊
I watch this at least once a month . Having this in my subconscious and conscience will eliminate time wasters. They will look at me and see that I’m not about it.
I live in a very small town. Thankfully I wasn't born here so I know better. But a lot of the women here? They have been taught from birth that it is a disgrace to be single, even if the man is physically, emotionally, financially abusive, cracking their skull open, denying them food, taking that car away from them, making it so that they can't communicate with anybody. In my black ass will just be a disgrace then because I am living my best life and protecting my peace as a single woman!
Men don’t want you and don’t want anyone else to have you but you’re not what he wants. Confused? Most men today are. Men get away with these things because they can and because too many women let them.’Be alone ladies. You are better off. Settling is not better than being alone and waiting on God.
truth. on the scale of best to worst: 1) happy in a relationship, 2) happy single, 3) lonely single, 4) lonely in a relationship. while pursing #1, we forget #4 is a real possibility with the wrong person or even with the right person but without dealing with our baggage. better #3 than #4, and if we're at #3, we should be focused on getting to #2 first and foremost. if we're at #2, we're less likely to put up with breadcrumbing men.
@chindee This part. I’ve been single since I divorced my ex husband who wanted every woman but me in 2004. I have lost over 100lbs and have learned to love ME again. Guess who wants to small talk with a sistah now??? Uh excuse me but um H!!!! No. Beat it. Now I’m funny acting and boujee 🤷🏽♀️ our kids are FULL grown and gone. I’m single and will stay that way until the good Lord finish working on me and my future husband and he places me where I can be found! HE who finds a wife finds a Good thing!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾
Some women find your message today “He doesn’t want you” hard to accept but I don’t. It’s the hard truths that help us to wake up & see things so much more clearly & logically. Great video!! 💯
Right! I love to be hit with the hard truth. It helps me to wake up, feel better and keep it moving! If we have to ask..then it's obvious, he doesn't want us. If he did..there would be no question or doubt. Quit asking ladies..love and want ourselves and we will never be disappointed or hurt by a man that doesn't want us.❤️
Right! It is so simple. It’s hard to understand when you’re younger and when everyone tells you there are games to play. But as you get older, you truly understand this lesson. It’s obvious most women are not taught this! Game changer.
Any man that does ANYTHING that causes confusion in your mind, it means 1) He doesn't care how you feel about it. 2) He doesn't respect you. 3) He just wants to waste your time if you'll let him. 4) He doesn't love you, never did, or stopped somewhere along the way. Why men pursue what they don't want, I don't know. But when they choose to waste their time doing that, then stop taking them seriously. Ain't no time for grown boys who can't figure out what to be about.
But the question is when did he say this? I had maybe 2 guys tell me up front before anything that they didn’t want a relationship and I respected them for that and told the one that i do and we should just stop talking and the other guy I went with it because I didn’t want a relationship with him but I was fine with that. Now when this other guy came into my life he lied about wanting a relationship I remembered after 3 months he said he doesn’t know he said he wants one but at the same time he doesn’t so I left him alone than he came back I thinking he changed his mind but nope after 2 months I checked in with him cause I’m like it doesn’t take 5 months to ask a woman to become your girlfriend I mean I was only 18 he was 20/21 I’m like if my friend can sleep with a guy on the first date and he still made her his girlfriend than there’s no excuse so anyways when I asked him he said he doesn’t want one and gave me BS EXCUSES so I cut him off cause I felt like he was lying to me the whole time I felt used and worthless ever since.
@@shutit4024 but both of them told you UPFRONT that they don’t want a relationship though, anything they say afterwards doesn’t matter. Unless their actions later proven otherwise, before a man makes a promise his actions show more and sis I forgot about a man after 1 month so idk how you wait for a man for that much months. A man makes a decision within 2 weeks MAX if you are the one, if he contemplating after months he doesn’t want you. Move on. There’s better man out there.
@@cuixinshi that’s what i just put 🙄 i was happy those 2 guys were upfront and i already knew what was up, I’m talking about another guy who came later on into my life who lied in the beginning then towards the end he was “up front” and after he told me what’s what I blocked him and moved on and he did tried coming back but I wasn’t having it😩 and this guy was somebody I knew 3 years before dating so it wasn’t no stranger well now he’s a stranger 😂
Not true. Some people have never experienced the type of love he is giving and they believe something is wrong with it so they question it. It’s not always black and white.
You are so right ! I remembered this guy I was “dating” for a few months I asked him are you sure you like me? I was asking this cause I felt like he really doesn’t but he answered yes he does and I asked from 1-10( I was expecting a 10 or more lol) and he says 7/10 and it just didn’t sit right with me and even then I knew he was lying ( btw I was 18 he was 20/21) let’s say after maybe 2 more months I cut him off because of other reasons too he was using me the whole time and giving me hope knowing I wanted a relationship and was upfront about it
Truth hurts, but you’ve helped me to become more aware of how men operate in dating. I cannot thank you enough Tony! I dealt with my ex on and off for 3 years, him leaving me every time I asked for a ring, and coming back whenever he wanted to “give it another shot”, promising me that this time we would buy the house and have a family. We’d break up again and again. I fooled myself by thinking he was going to realize one day that I am his wife, but the only person I was hurting was me. It’s been very painful and tough to move on, but I realized and accepted that he doesn’t want me as a wife, even though I wanted him to be my husband. I have so much trauma to heal from, which has kept me waiting on him to decide to choose me. It’s not easy to accept that it’s not love but trauma bonding. I ask God to help me each day to continue healing and focusing on the things that are important and people that love me. Ladies, we have to let go and move on, or we’ll be waiting for something that will never happen. Accept that they are not for you and value yourself by moving on.
In a similar circumstance right now. It’s so painful to let go & realize that the person u loved, never loved u back. Working on healing so that I never accept this type of treatment again. Love & light to u & everyone going thru this type of pain.
Honestly, such a powerful message. Not just that when a man truly wants you, there's zero confusion. But also when Tony said that his wife shouldn't be the only woman who is happily married especially after 14 years of marriage. Tony shouldn't be the only man happily married to his wife. He should be able to meet thousands of happily married couples out there. I also think that women should put their own happiness and building themselves up in every way (mind, body, spirit, finances, forgiveness and being healthy/whole) first. Women need to build up their self-worth, self-respect, self-esteem, self-confidence and self-love for themselves ideally BEFORE entertaining any man. If anything, a man should be seen as the "cherry on top" to a life you already built and are happy with. Having a man and being in a relationship is not your happiness, as society likes to dictate. It also shouldn't be a factor in determining your self-worth. I think that could also be a factor as to why women tend to settle for trash men and therefore a trash relationship. Many women think that having "any" relationship (no matter how bad it is) is better than nothing. Once women have that mindset shift, they will be less likely to entertain any man who doesn't want them. Much love Tony! 🙏🏽😃
Beautifully said Thirteen Hales! Adding to your thoughts, if we shift and don't settle for the trash then I believe they will shift and rise to the standard.
And this is why they call me player, cold hearted or gold digger!! I definitely move on fast. I don't care what a man wants, I care about what I want. I put myself priority I've been putting this for years my dad taught me to Love myself first put myself first my health happiness peace and wealth. Everything these days is temporary and this is why I don't get attach to no man.
Sooo many women get caught up in forcing “mr wrong” to become “mr right” instead of accepting it for what it is. We tend to drag these situationships and toxic relationships out much farther than it should ever go. That’s when you have to ask yourself why. Why are you settling? Why are you blocking your blessings for what God has in store for you? Why is it so hard to let go of something that causes you so much pain and drama? Once you figure that out and decide to turn a new leaf and never look back and raise your standards….you’re unstoppable sis. If he don’t want you, be ok with it knowing God has something greater in store for you. Someone who does want you and shows you every single day 💕
The Goddess so true the way women mainly settle for men just to be in a relationship with a male that will not give100 percent and you settle and become his doormat because the woman has not tapped into knowing her TRUE WORTH let GOD be your guide knowwww your YRUE WORTH invest in yourself and FLOURISH GREATLY JUST SHARING
Yes very true it's time to stop trying change what's broken, the guy that I was seeing referred to me as a cleaner meaning I'm only here to clean men in every way an he only said it when he was done using me for exactly that and I'm bothered it makes me angry that I allowed the disrespect to myself it really isn't or was about him not wanting me I didn't want me I'm heartbroken because I've invested 20+ years into 2 broken men tryna accept that he didn't want me for me it's hard to accept the truth. I ask myself is it even worth trying again? it makes sense he didn't want me wow! Consequences not listening to the warning signs now I'm numb extremely cautious
@@sazziebrown1234 “is it worth trying again?” ABSOLUTELY!! Especially if your heart desires true love. At least this time, you know exactly what you deserve and won’t settle for. I guarantee that you will automatically get better results as long as you don’t ignore red flags. You can’t always help what you attract but you definitely have control over who you entertain!
Absolutely but it's not the end of the world. Take time for yourself, love yourself. Men marry for many reasons. Trust God he will put your person in your life. God bless.
And if he doesn't you will still be okay. Do not be that Apple laying on the ground, desperate and begging to be picked up. Instead, be the Apple high up in the tree where it takes effort to get to. Also protect your peace and know your self-worth and value!
It’s just best for most women that are single to just stay that way and devote their life to serving the most high, it’s emotionally, physically, and spiritually safer. Congratulations Tony’s wife she’s far more blessed than most of us.
Umm yea I go being celibate for years no sex no kissing no cuddling. All awhile being an attractive young woman. Just can’t settle so instead just be lonely.
One thing I have learned from Tony, if a man wants you, it's no doubt about it because he makes it clear. And if he doesn't want you there will be doubts. I was trying to determine if this guy that I had been knowing was interested in me. During that time I heard Tony say if a man wants you, you will know. If I had to wonder about it, that was my answer.
It’s weird to women but normal to men. We have to really listen/learn how men think & then operate from a knowledge position vs how we feel it should be.
It was initially hard accepting this fact because a part of you feels defeated when you tried to make something work. However, if I know a man doesn’t want me I’m not going to convince him to see my value when there’s another man out there who wouldn’t dare play with it 🤷🏾♀️
sad but true. I understand this because most believe if the man calls everyday and shows attention he wants you which is not the case. He's just keeping you confused and not making it official.
@@Stormy867 one time is not a fully developed relationship. He's an emotionally unavailable man. You have your answer. He's keeping you. You can be a mistress to a bachelor. I have been. But I was very aware of my mistress status and agreed to it. Eventually these arrangements always come to an end because one or both parties decide to pursue different goals. The women real relationships and children and the men a new conquest or moving for their job or just boredom. Wives do wonder but they tend to keep it quiet until they are at the point of ending the marriage. Theses men use the "busy at work" for wives and mistresses and they just accept it. I've been a wife before and we put up with a lot of shit from our husbands before we decide to leave.
I always wanted someone to feel this way about me. I’m 29 years old and have yet to experience this type of love. 😔 29 years old and no one has ever wanted me. God is protecting me from the wrong people and I’m so thankful.
If there is one lesson I learn from you mentor it is this: When a man wants you he will go to the moon in 1 minute and grab you the best things and come back and when a man does not want you go about your business, as a woman you need to keep going when you feel a man does not want you. Do not force things, do not try to be super woman because that man will never want you and you will suffer if you force yourself. Woman be patient, that man who doesn’t want you is not for you. Stop being desperate, stop begging, stop being sorry , stop competing Look for Jesus , seek Jesus that is where your live and peace will come
Exactly...I think women need to just sense it and figure it out....if he is showing you by his actions that he's not interested or no longer interested in the relationship if you've been with him long term...stop trying to change him, ask him questions, change yourself etc..etc...just end the relationship and stop wasting your time! As soon as you get that gut feeling that "somethings not right here"....just be done with him....🤷🏽♀️
I just ended a six month relationship because he was always busy and put so many other things in front of me. Two days after I did it I had regrets, but I have remained strong. I know what being a priority feels like, and this is not it. In the beginning he did pursue me saying that he wanted a relationship, but over time, his actions have not matched up with his words. I was really needing to feel like I had done the right thing, and your video really helped. Thank you and God bless you!
Same exact situation. He heavily pursued me but 2-3 months in he showed me he didn’t want me so I told him I’d free him. It’s no point of holding on to something that’s not mine lol.
I think most woman have had a man who liked them so much he was almost if not annoying so she friend zoned him or didn’t want him back for whatever reason and wanted the other man who was flaky or hot and cold because she couldn’t understand why he was that way towards her so she wanted him more than he wanted her because he intrigued her for whatever reason. Then that same woman gets older and now wants a good man who wants her too but now those type of men don’t seem to be around and now she wonders where are all the good men.
Yes my late husband and my ex- husband who is deceased they chase me down did not stop until they got me and was very in to me period! I now know what it feels like to be chased and loved with no doubt . Since they are gone I have not experienced this type of love. Did not have to compete he came home to me . I ‘m single by choice I have not met no one close to what I want or had. I will not settle. God is fixing him. 🙏♥️
Most of what Derrick Jackson said was true about men. Derrick is not a good person and was not practicing what he was preaching and making money off it and he’s looks.
I was having a talk with my Dad about that a week ago and I laughed when you said "When a man want you, you going to feel like running." My dad said something similar "When a man what you you're going to have to tell him to relax." (not literally, maybe). It's an analogy and it's true as well when a man wants you he'll go after you and nothing can get in his way.
"You get what you settle for." Yes! I wish I could travel back 20 years and tell younger me this. 20 yrs, and a very broken heart later, and now I know. You get what you settle for.
We have to start loving ourselves so much that the love of a man isn’t even needed. It’s a bonus! The problem is that a lot of us are codependent. So, when a man leaves or when we need to let a man go, we hold on because we are dependent upon him loving us, instead of us loving ourselves. We shouldn’t even be worried about half the men wanting us, we shouldn’t even want them. 🥴
Perfectly stated! You are so right! I’m 63, as I look back that was exactly why I’ve been married twice. I’ve been single now for 20 years and finally love ME! Happy day!
